The Best Is Yet To Come, In New Beginnings

_If you're looking for a happy ending and can't seem to find one, maybe it's time for a new beginn

“Always believe something wonderful is about to happen . . . ” – Unknown
Jack Canfield tells a wonderful story of an elderly woman who is meeting with her minister to plan out her future funeral. She tells him all the things that she wants around her – her bible, what she wants to wear, and then she says that she wants a fork. Puzzled the minister asks her why a fork? So she says, “when they have the potlucks at the church you know you are going to have a special desert, when they say to save your fork. The fork is to remind everyone that the best is yet to come.”

When a friendship or relationship ends, or a loved one dies, it can seem like your broken heart is all you have left. There can be no happy ending.

That is when you need to remember the story of the fork.

You need the reminder that the best is yet to come. You may not even see a glimmer of what it could be. You could look at the broken pieces of your heart and think that there is no way it can be mended.

“When the world says give up, hope whispers try one more time”  – Unknown

But what you are going to do is not really mending your heart.

It is giving your heart a new beginning.

Think of a clear calm lake. No waves, just a perfectly flat surface.  You can see like a mirror the reflections of all that is around it.  Now pick up a stone and throw it as far as you can into the lake. As it hits the surface, it creates a ripple on the surface of the lake. All of the reflections you saw before shift and change.  The ripple starts small and expands out to the entire lake. Waves lap back and forth on the rocky and sandy shorelines.

Eventually the ripples expand to the point that the surface of the lake is completely calm again.  The reflections on the water are clearly seen again.

 

However, the lake has been forever changed. It now contains that stone on the bottom of the lake. This lake is your heart.  Your heart will never be the same, as it contains both the love and heartbreak that occurred.

It can come back into it’s new shape, and look the same, but it has been forever changed. There is always a new beginning.  The stone does not define you.  Let it go (no I am not singing the frozen song – lol).

“A woman’s strength isn’t just about how much she can handle before she breaks.  It’s also about how much she must handle after she’s broken”  – Unknown

Don’t confuse the current storm raging on your path with your final destination.  This storm will play itself out.  The sun will come out again.

Be strong enough to let that hurt go.  Transform that hurt into something positive.  Find the gold in the experience.  The divine presence is transforming your heart that wants to turn to stone, into a new healthy heart that will open to love again.

Think of all of the firsts that have happened in your life. 
  • Your first step, was because you wanted to get something or somewhere. 
  • Your first word was because you wanted to communicate. 
  • Your first day of school opened up a whole new world for you. 
  • Going from grade school to junior high school to high school to college, each step opened a new door.  It also closed a door behind you. 
  • Your first relationship, your saying “I do” and I will love you forever. 
  • Seeing your newborn child for the first time, that beautiful baby that had been making its presence known for months being in your arms for the first time. 

Each first time, held a new promise, a hope of a dream coming true.  Each first was what you chose to make of it, to trust in the magic of a new beginning.

“A wise girl knows her limits.  A smart girl knows she has none”  – @getlanded
So when someone or something breaks your heart, know that eventually the ripples of sorrow, loss and pain will expand out and fade away.   When you lose a loved one, a job, a lifestyle, or best friend – know that it is in the journey itself, that you become strong.

Your heart may have been forever changed by the loss but remember the fork – the best is yet to come. The things that you can’t change, change you instead.  See a new beginning, a new way of seeing things, a new chance to dance.

Lyrics quoted from  from “I Hope You Dance”, by Lee An Womack
I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance,
Never settle for the path of least resistance
Livin’ might mean takin’ chances but they’re worth takin’,”
Lovin’ might be a mistake but it’s worth makin’,
Don’t let some hell bent heart leave you bitter,
When you come close to sellin’ out reconsider,
Give the heavens above more than just a passing glance,
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance.

Sheryl Silbaugh

I am married with 4 grown children who are all married and currently have 14 grandchildren and two great granddaughters. I work fulltime as a Director at Bank of America and I am the founder of LemonadeMakers.org, which is a website and Facebook page dedicated to personal transformation and growth. We all have life's lemons show up in our life, this website helps us to make them into lemonade.