It all begins and ends in your mind. What you give power to, has power over you, if you allow it.
So how do you work with your mind to change your story? You acknowledge that you are where you are in your story because of how you did, or did not use your power. You realize that while you can’t control every challenge that happens in your life, you can control your response to it. That is where your power to control your story originates – how you respond.
Allowing people inside your life is a beautiful thing. Letting go of people who drain your spirit is another beautiful thing you can do for your life. The key to being happy is knowing you have the power to choose what to accept and what to let go.
First step is to silence the mind. The subconscious mind is so busy trying to distract us from our real story. It wants us to get lost in the stories of who our parents said we were. Of who our friends and relatives expect us to be. But our true story is waiting in our hearts to be re-discovered. To be released from the cage that we put it in when we were small children.
Meditation is a great way to learn to silence the mind. Visualization is another great way to give the mind something structured to do, so that it will let our heart and soul communicate with us. For me, my heart and soul communicates best in my dreams. Many of my poems and best blog posts come from ideas in my dreams.
The soul usually knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind.
Second step is to let go of trying to control things that you have no control over. To let go of what you can’t change. Which usually means that we are trying to control the behavior of someone else. Or control things over which we have no power in the first place.
In our life story we sometimes have to climb a high mountain pass. We are supposed to travel up over the pass and back down the other side. As we follow our road over the mountain, we may find the road has been washed out. We might find the road has had a rock or mud slide. Maybe a bridge is out, or there is a raging forest fire. We might have to detour around whatever the roadblock is. That doesn’t mean that we drag all of those rocks, mud, broken bridges or burning bushes with us, as we go down the other side of the mountain. We leave that roadblock on the road. It is not our business to fix the road. It is not our burden to control the journey and demand that the road be repaired before we continue across the mountain. Our business is to simply travel to our destination by any means possible. It is in the traveling that we learn, change, adapt and transform.
One of the happiest moments in life is when you find the courage to let go of what you can’t change.
Third step is to really, truly, believe from the bottom of your soul, that you are unique, no one in the entire universe is like you, and that is how it is supposed to be. Stop trying to fit in a mold. Stop trying to be Martha Stewart in the home, and Oprah at work, and Marilyn Monroe in the bedroom, all rolled up into one amazing super woman. Don’t try to make yourself live out someone else’s story. Live your own.
You weren’t made to replicate, obey or stand in the shadow of another person. You were made to stand in your own power and find the truth in your soul..
Fourth Step is to realize that while we all need a helping hand once in a while, nothing will destroy our power to live our own story faster than having the habit of depending on others. Just like a tree that grows in the forest, we must grow deep roots to support our upward growth. If we start leaning on the trees that we are planted by, when the storm comes into our life our roots will not support us and we will crash to the ground. The unfortunate thing about our crash is how we damage those next to us as we fall. We must learn to stand up alone and be an original.
Nothing else so destroys the power to stand alone as the habit of leaning upon others. If you lean, you will never be strong or original. Stand alone or bury your ambition to be somebody in the world.
– Orison Swett Marden
Fifth Step has to do with your relationship with yourself. Really understanding what real self love and self trust is all about. Not having these vital areas in balance in your life is what leads to most of our broken, damaged relationships – with friends, with family, with our spouse, with our co-workers at our job, It enters into how people treat us, how we communicate our needs, wants and desires, and how we are perceived in the world.
The relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.
– Jane Travis
Sixth Step is your relationship to others and the world. You can’t make everyone happy and it isn’t your job to do so. There are always going to be people who say that you are “not enough” – not good enough, not pretty enough, not rich enough . . . and so on. Those judgments are on them. They want to feel better by having their own problems being pushed off on to you. It is not your job to judge them back. To think that you have to show others what kind of “bad” people they are. Their true colors will come out without your help or assistance. Don’t blame others for your life, and don’t accept the blame for how they are living their own life.
Give. But don’t allow yourself to be used.
Love. But don’t allow your heart to be abused.
Trust. but don’t be naïve.
Listen. But don’t lose your own voice.
– thisislovelifequotes. net
There are more steps, breadcrumbs that you find along your journey. It all begins with a simple decision. Is this DAY ONE, or is this ONE DAY? You decide. What’s your story?