Struggle in life is what happens when we resist the life lesson. When we fear or hate the changes occurring in our life, we become so powerless that all we can do is struggle. We think that we can force life to go in the direction that we want to go, we believe in the illusion that we are in fact in control. We have this tendency to get anxious when life “isn’t going our way”, and we start creating all of these fearful possibilities of what will happen, if we don’t get control of the situation. But all that anxiety does is serve fear – it doesn’t really solve or fix anything, it has no real answers to give us.

As an illustration, when you get caught in a rip tide, it pulls you out towards the sea. The common reaction is to resist the rip tide and swim against the powerful current and get back to shore. All that happens is that you wear yourself out, and if you don’t quit fighting the current, it can cost you your life. Conversely, if you do not struggle and let the tide take you, you will find that it will run its course and release you, and then you can safely swim back to the shore. You may be a lot further down the coast than where you started, but you are still alive to tell the story.

Sometimes a wrong decision, or lack of decision creates a rip tide in our life. Rather than defend our decision, (swim against the current) we need to recognize our part in creating the situation. Did we ignore or not pay attention to the warning signs on the beach for the rip tide current? Did we think that we are a strong enough swimmer that we can safely navigate the rip tide? Did we think that we could swim along the border of the rip tide and not get caught up in it?

Remember the truth sets you free. Look truthfully for the signs that you didn’t recognize or ignored. See where you should have turned aside and went down a different path. Acknowledge your own part in creating the situation you now find yourself in. Let go of false control and exchange the current condition of stress and strife and as the saying says “go with the flow”.

Surrender the sense of powerlessness and realize that in each moment we have the power to make a different choice. You may not like or love the selections, but if you take a few moments and start from a creative frame of mind, you may just find the perfect choice that heads you back to shore. Once you are back on the beach, you can begin to make new choices to either get you back to where you went off track or just create a new path from where you are now. The choices are always there. Just remember to surrender to truth and freedom.

Sheryl Silbaugh

I am married with 4 grown children who are all married and currently have 14 grandchildren and two great granddaughters. I work fulltime as a Director at Bank of America and I am the founder of, which is a website and Facebook page dedicated to personal transformation and growth. We all have life's lemons show up in our life, this website helps us to make them into lemonade.