Transforming Criticism

Whether you are criticising others or yourself you are really doing the same thing. You are being in an unconscious state of being. I know that when I am in an unconscious state of being, I am not being conscious of how I am feeling. It is like when you are driving the car down a familiar road, like driving to work. All of a sudden 5 minutes have past and I don’t remember even driving to where I am at. A unconscious state of being reflects that I am in a state of lower vibration, a sign that I am out of integrity with myself. In this state I criticize myself or others in order to maintain that lower vibration without even realizing it – just like driving 5 minutes down the road and not remembering doing so.

If I try to bring up my vibration or someone lovingly tries to bring up my vibration by paying me a compliment, I could from this low state of vibration automatically go into deflection. Deflection keeps positive energy from landing, being received and being acknowledged. If keeps us from challenging ourselves, preventing us from expanding our capacity for experiencing positive energy.

When I am not staying conscious and start feeling out of sorts it is a sign that I am out of integrity. The questions to ask are – what feeling am I trying to avoid, or what am I doing that I don’t want to do?

To get back into the state of higher vibrations and be in a conscious state of being, we need to create space within us to feel and appreciate natural good feelings. There are a number of wholeness words that I really love because for me they express a visual that is uplifting in my mind. For example, laugher – picture a laughing baby, you can’t help smile and feel your vibration lift higher. Luxuriate is another visual for me, as a cat lover, the visual for me is the cat rolling in the sunshine. You can just see the kitty enjoying each sinuous turn of its body as it soaks up the warmth, and if you add the senses to the visualization it is most certainly purring. Can you think of some words that provide an uplifting visualization for you to keep in your toolkit, so that when you notice you are out of integrity, you can take a quick moment to center, ground and kick start your vibrations back into a higher vibration?

Open up and welcome the new high water mark of possibility that’s trying to establish itself in you. Look at your faults with cheerful wonder and know that they will dissolve and transform much more rapidly with your awareness of what is happening and how you can consciously facilitate your journey back into a higher vibration. Wholeness comes from expanding your capacity for abundance, love, and success.

What is your carefully crafted story of why you can’t do or have your dream? For me it is, What if I am not the genius I think I am?” Ego is goal oriented and works to get approval, control, getting even, etc…, when you leave the ego behind your a free agent ready to respond to the infinite possibilities of the present moment.

So when you feel the ego edging in and edging god out, take a breath and recommit. Use the wholeness words with the visualization and see just how delicious your life can be in any given moment.

Sheryl Silbaugh

I am married with 4 grown children who are all married and currently have 14 grandchildren and two great granddaughters. I work fulltime as a Director at Bank of America and I am the founder of, which is a website and Facebook page dedicated to personal transformation and growth. We all have life's lemons show up in our life, this website helps us to make them into lemonade.