Don’t Ever Let Anyone Dull Your Sparkle
She who leaves a trail of glitter is never forgotten. Do you believe this about yourself and your life? Or do you think it only about someone else. Someone who is more beautiful, more intelligent, richer than you? Too many of us don’t even feel worthy to have the glitter, yet alone leave a trail of it for others to follow.
I just wish I hadn’t spent so much time worrying about not being someone else’s definition of enough. – Sophia Bush
So many of us come out of childhood thinking that we are not enough. Not enough to have our parents love us the way they should have. Not smart enough. Not talented enough (insert – don’t sing, don’t dance, don’t draw). Not pretty enough. The list is endless about how we are not enough, to be loved, accepted, to have our dreams become a reality.
Always know you are more than enough. You are precious, unique, and worth being adored, cherished and treasured! – Kandee Johnson
Try to say nothing negative about yourself for one hour, for one day, for one week, for one month. The longer you can maintain this test, the more amazing your life will become. It has been said that the biggest disease affecting humanity is “I am not enough”.
It is the driver of every act of self sabotage. When your mind thinks “I am not enough”, you will subconsciously self sabotage yourself out of anything that doesn’t affirm that lie.
Marissa Peer is a bestseller author, celebrity hypnotist and speaker. A lot of her focus is on helping people overcome this limiting belief to help them stop sabotaging their lives.
One of the things that she recommends is putting on your phone a timed text message stating “I am enough” and having it text you each morning and evening.
Write on the mirrors in your home, especially in your bathroom and carry around a piece of paper to remind you
“YOU ARE ENOUGH
– you are so enough
it is UNBELIEVABLE how enough you are.”
So think about your language and how often do you say things like –
- I am so stupid
- I always forget important things
- I am ___________ – whatever derogatory label you say about yourself (fat, lazy, ugly, etc…)
What is that something about yourself? That quality you think is missing? That place where you don’t think you are enough?
- Aim for balance.
- Make up your own rules.
- Create reasons on how instead you love that particular aspect of yourself.
- Follow your own path. The rules of beauty and intelligence are all made up anyway.
- Start your own fashion and don’t let anyone tell you “who” you are.
- Love and appreciate yourself first, and then spread that glitter upon everyone you meet.
When you get praise, how often do you reject praise, and you add in a piece of criticism? “That is a beautiful outfit you have on today”, and you say – “this old thing, it makes me look fat”. Even scarier, do your sons and daughters say these things about themselves? When they are 1, 2 or 3 years old we celebrated that they took their first step, their first word, the first time they went potty in the potty chair. But there comes a time when they start school and they start being compared to others. Now they are experiencing the “not enough” and they start believing it.
The fear of not getting the reward becomes the fear of rejection. The fear of not being good enough. . . is what makes us try to change, what makes us create an image. – Miguel Angel Ruiz
The book, “The Four Agreements” by Miguel Angel Ruiz is a wonderful book that teaches you about the masks that you began wearing when you were children. You will wear these masks all of your life, if you don’t learn how to remove them. You need to be who you truly are, without the fear of rejection and not being enough. Turn it around for yourself, for your children. Learn to accept praise without feeling unworthy. Hear the words you say about yourself, and change them when they are downgrading or demeaning. I always wanted my mother to say I did a good job – I made it a point to say to my children that they did a good job.
Lie to your brain, cheat your fear, and steal back your life of “I am more than enough” feeling that you had as a very young child.
- I am enough;
- You are enough;
- We’ve always been enough.
- Now grab the glitter and start leaving a trail, spreading it with every step you take.