There Is A Dance That Only You Know How To Do

_There are nights when the wolves are silent and only the moon howls_GeorgeCarlin

In many shamanic societies, if you came to a shaman or medicine person complaining of being depressed or dispirited, they would ask the following four questions:

When did you stop dancing?
When did you stop singing?
When did you stop being enchanted by stories?
When did you stop finding comfort in the sweet territory of silence?

When I read George Carlin’s quote I thought of the above words – because the wolves not howling at the moon and the moon howling back, spoke to me of the wolf being dispirited and the moon howling back these questions.  This quote by George Carlin with the wolves being silent also reminded me of a time of reflection. Being silent and going within to review the actions of the year. A time to release the baggage of the past.

And you were just like the moon, so lonely, so full of imperfections, but just like the moon, you shined in times of darkness.

  – Unknown

Every January we think of the new years goals or resolutions, new dreams to grow into our lives. The things we want to accomplish or bring into out lives. In order to be ready for that contemplation, we need to create a clean slate. A good way to do that is to examine what we set out to do in the past year, what happened along the way, and what we need to acknowledge and release. 

The wind howls at my door.  She has come to tell me the truth of all things.  “The stars are your scripture,” she says, “an embrace from afar.  The rain will wash you with courage.  The ground will heal your scars.”  So I say my prayers to the sea, and thank the sky.  I blow kisses to the moon for the peace she brings.

  – Mia Hollow

Part of what can be released is all of those dreams that didn’t happen. We can mourn and release those dreams that no longer are a part of our lives, because we have out-grown them. We all have shadows within us.  Dark places where we hide the things we don’t want to face.  Where we hide the things we are ashamed of.  These things need to be brought into the light.  We need to release them, so that they can become what they were meant to be.  They are the broken bits of us, the dreams we abandoned because of someone or something that hurt us.  We can also release any toxic relationships that have ended or need to now end.  Release the darkness.

And like the moon, she had a side of her so dark, that even the stars couldn’t shine on it; she had a side of her so cold, that even the sun couldn’t burn on it.

  –  Abigail J

I have always thought the saying is so true, “We make plans, God laughs”. For me this is because we tend to make plans that we feel safe about, things we know that we can do. Those kinds of plans don’t grow us, or accomplish all that we are capable of doing. So God laughs because he will take those plans, tear them apart and rebuild them into better ones.  Those are the unanswered prayers, the dreams that won’t grow us towards our destiny.

Everyone wants to be the sun that lights up your life, but I will be your moon that shines during your darkest hours.

  – Unknown

Throughout the year we can look for those examples, where our small safe plan, was revised with divine humor into a much bigger plan. Or it might be that because we didn’t do a release from last year, that this years plans have not even got off the ground.  Look not for the desires you have, for they are simply things that you want in your life.  Look for what your soul longs for.  What each heartbeat is sending to you, telling you that THIS IS WHY YOU ARE HERE!  When the wolf howls at the moon, you can hear the yearning in his voice.  Give your own yearning a voice in your life.

Don’t tell me the sky’s the limit when there are footprints on the moon.

  – Paul Brandt

So with the next full moon, we can again review, release, and restore life. This moon for most of the country will be ushering in a new season, a perfect time to release the old, failed, or aborted dreams, and plan anew. 

We dance for laughter,

we dance for tears,

we dance for madness,

we dance for fears,

we dance for hopes,

we dance for dreams,

we are the dancers, we create dreams.

Albert Einstein

One of my all-time favorite songs is “Moondance” by Van Morrison.  I love the summer and autumn nights of a full moon.  With a warm breeze blowing and sitting on a sandy beach, watching the moon rise over the water – there isn’t a better feeling.  You can feel the magic of the night strumming your heart strings.  So dance in the light of the moon, dance for your dreams coming true.  Dance, sing, tell stories and take a moment of silence, then howl at the moon and listen for it to howl back 

Sheryl Silbaugh

I am married with 4 grown children who are all married and currently have 14 grandchildren and two great granddaughters. I work fulltime as a Director at Bank of America and I am the founder of, which is a website and Facebook page dedicated to personal transformation and growth. We all have life's lemons show up in our life, this website helps us to make them into lemonade.

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