Fly Through Illusions To Reach The Magic of Knowing Yourself

_Know the world in yourself. Never look for yourself in the world, for this would be to project your%The hardest thing is to really know yourself. 

Knowing others is wisdom.  Knowing yourself is enlightenment. 

  – Lao Tzu

So what does this really mean? Taking this even a step further, is accepting what you discover about yourself.

When you know yourself, you are empowered.  When you accept yourself, you are invincible.

  – Tina Lifford

For me, it is how as children we are taught what being successful is.  We are taught to get good grades.  We are taught to go for higher education for a particular type of job.  Medical fields, teaching fields, computer science fields and so on.  We are taught to excel in school and then go to work and excel in our chosen profession.  In school I was lucky enough to have an amazing teacher who taught me to take concepts apart to truly understand what they meant.  To use the How, What, Why kinds of questions to explore what it really means.

Know who you are.  Know what you want.  Know what you deserve.  And don’t settle for less.

  – Tony Gaskins

What we should do first is really understand ourselves.  Know what our passions are in life.  What lights us up and makes us happy?  Have a healthy self esteem that really knows what values we have and what are talents are.  Most importantly, what our personal genius is.  Once we know who we are, what makes us happy, and how we can best serve others – then it is up to us to go out and find the profession that meets all of the criteria.  But instead we are so busy being educated, that we miss the importance of self knowledge in the equation.  Most of us instead, navigate or simply stumble into a profession that is not a calling.  It’s a paycheck.

How did we choose that profession?  Maybe on the advice of a favorite teacher.  Maybe we were steered by our parents.  Maybe it was for the glamour of the profession, such as dreams of being a Emmy awarded singer or winning an Oscar as Best Actor or Actress.  It is rarely because we have had some type of experience in it, and it is truly our “dream job”.  The thing we would do even if they didn’t pay us to do it.

What did we really know about this profession?  What illusions did we create about what our profession would give back to us?  How did our passion and purpose play into this profession?  What about our personal genius?  That thing you do that is so easy for you that you don’t understand why everyone can’t do it.  Is this fulfilling our divine destiny?  Clarity is powerful.  Pay attention to day dreams, where your mind wanders is an important clue to what you are really seeking in life.

Are we living  our dream?  Or are we living somebody else’s dream?

  – Arianne Huffington

Truly knowing who you are requires a toughness of the soul.  Knowing yourself in all of the ways that matter, means that you:

Know your own mind; what your thoughts are, what thoughts need changing = attitude

Knowing your own heart; and following where it leads, the souls direction = faith

Knowing your own strengths; and playing from that space of strength = grace

Knowing your own limitations; and accepting them for what they are = peace

Knowing your own values; and never crossing them = nature

Know your fears; they tell you what is really important = mastery


You have to love yourself, because no amount of love from others is sufficient to full the yearning that your soul requires from you.

 –  Dobinsky

The world needs you to know yourself, be yourself, love yourself and trust yourself.  It is the only way to get from who you are, to who you want to be.  It is the only way to figure our what you need to shift, change, release and transform to get to where you want to be.  Knowing yourself isn’t easy.  It is usually messy, not pretty.  It is about accepting the parts of yourself that even you are hiding from.  It is stripping away the stories that you tell, that whitewash your less than stellar qualities.  It is about taking down the illusions, removing the cloaks of invisibility and loving what remains.  Own the place of your soul.  Stand tall and take inventory.  Then shift and change and transform into the best version of you.  It isn’t easy, but it is priceless.

Here’s the truth:  people who get what they want tend to be the ones to make the effort to know what they want. 

  – Martha Beck


Sheryl Silbaugh

I am married with 4 grown children who are all married and currently have 14 grandchildren and two great granddaughters. I work fulltime as a Director at Bank of America and I am the founder of, which is a website and Facebook page dedicated to personal transformation and growth. We all have life's lemons show up in our life, this website helps us to make them into lemonade.

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