Consciousness Means Being Present To The Unfolding Of Your Life

_Your life will be a great continuous unfolding_Cheryl Strayed

Dear Beautiful you,

You must not be afraid to start a new chapter . . . , Yes, new beginnings can be scary, endings can be difficult, but your life is meant to be lived and your story is still unfolding . . . ,  So go ahead and turn the page . . . , Your next chapter is waiting.

  – Heather Stillufsen

Our stories are in a continuous unfolding. In fact, our lives are unfolding exactly as they should be.

Fear, to a great extent is born of a story we tell ourselves, and so I chose to tell myself a different story.

  –  Cheryl Strayed

There is always a new stretch of road ahead of us.  It is up to us to continue the journey.  Sometimes we pull off into rest stops.  We need a break, to rest and take care of our bodies. We need to give ourselves times to breathe, to love, to reflect, to be present to what is.  It is important not to get so bound up in what we are seeking, that we forget to give ourselves and those around us, a love of life itself.

Loving your life is about trusting your instinct, taking chances, and learning through experiences.  It’s a long time journey through the confusion.  Live consciously in the moment and enjoy your life as it unfolds.

  – The Coach (

We might pull off an exit that promises us a good meal and needed fuel for our vehicle.  We might even take the scenic root.  I think of the scenic route as being the opportunity to see where life is taking us.  To see awakening opportunities around every new corner.  Nothing is worse that passing the door of opportunity, only to realize that it really was “a once in a lifetime” experience. 

I live north of Los Angeles and most of my siblings live up the coast in Monterey/Santa Cruz area.  The fastest way to drive up and see them is to take the I-5 up to Pacheco Pass and cross over to the coast there.  The drive once over the LA mountains is not very pretty.  It is miles of flat land, with some areas that are farmed, but mostly just dry dirt. There is also a town where the cows are waiting to be slaughtered and you can smell it for miles and miles – it makes you want to swear off ever eating meat again.  So unless I am under real time constraints I go up the 101, which runs along the coast through wine country.  It is a beautiful drive.  It takes a little longer, but the drive is so much nicer.

So if you were driving up the 101 through wine country, you might want to pull off and visit some wineries, watch the waves roll in from the Pacific Ocean, or take in a tourist attraction.  The unfolding of your life is what you make of what happens for you.  I firmly believe that life happens for me, not to me.  It isn’t solid, cast in concrete.  It is rather like sand, that can be molded into whatever strikes my fancy.  It changes.  If I don’t like the way it is looking, I can make a minor change or clear off the table and start over. 

We never know where we will be at the end of our journey.  We do, however, know where we are today; and from here we can mine our hope and love to set the course forward.  Our attitude shifts our sails and ultimately determines not only our final destination, but more importantly, the voyage and experiences along the way.

  – Unknown

But at some point no matter where or why you pulled off the road, you will want to get back onto the road again, because you have a destination you want to reach.  No one lives at an “I-5 Rest Stop”, as the destination of their life journey.  We don’t stop for fuel, and stay at the Shell Station for the rest of our lives.  And while it might seem like a good idea, we don’t live at the winery, unless we are the owners or workers of the winery.

Life is not a destination; it’s a journey.  It’s not a series of goals; it’s a series of steps, of events unfolding as you make your way.  Life is not all about accomplishment; it’s all about doing, participating, progressing, growing, learning.

  – Mike Hernacki

You trust in your higher power for guidance.  You trust that wherever you are in your journey, it is where you are supposed to be.  Every one of life’s lemons that you have received, had a learning contained within.  It might be something that becomes evident to you, while you are within the experience.  Conversely, It might take years to reveal itself. 

You are here to enable the divine purpose of the universe to unfold.  That is how important you are!

  – Eckhart Tolle

A green walnut is really hard to crack – it takes intense force to open it, and if you are successful, the insides are not good to eat.  But if you wait until it has matured, (turned brown) you can open it with a simple tap, and eat the tasty nut meat that is inside.  Our experiences are sometimes like that walnut, you need to wait until it is ready to be opened in order to receive its gift.

If you find yourself driving down a dirt road of dusty flat land feeling totally disenchanted, you are the only person who can turn in a new direction.  Allow grace to lead you back into being in love with life.  Don’t resist.  Surrender to what is, not what you are pushing to make it be.  Trust in the divine to lead you back to your true destination.  Trust the journey.  Trust yourself to live your true life, not the shadow of one. It always, always, always come back to self love and self trust.

So trust the process of your life unfolding, and know with certainty, through the peaks and valleys of your journey, that your soul rests safe and secure in the arms of God.

  – Dan Millman

Sheryl Silbaugh

I am married with 4 grown children who are all married and currently have 14 grandchildren and two great granddaughters. I work fulltime as a Director at Bank of America and I am the founder of, which is a website and Facebook page dedicated to personal transformation and growth. We all have life's lemons show up in our life, this website helps us to make them into lemonade.

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