The Best Things In Life Are The Moments When We See The Little Things Clearly
Such a profound question – what is life?
I wanted a perfect ending. Now I’ve learned, that hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next. Delicious Ambiguity.
– Gilda Radner
When you look around at your friends and family, how many people do you know that “just exist”? They are here. They wake up each day. They take in the breath of life, they eat, they go to work or school, they come home and watch a movie, TV, play video games. They are here, but what else is there in life, besides just being here?
The voyage of discovery is not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.
– Marcel Proust
There is something about asking questions that opens life up. About being curious. Asking yourself the questions that you are afraid to ask, afraid of how the answers might change your life. Questions like, “Why am I not happy with who I am”?
Be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living, and your belief will help create the fact.
– William James
I think that there is more to life, than just existing. I think of some of the stories that I love best. They are made up of characters that progress down a timeline, the hero’s journey. They are walking along a path and something happens. Things go wrong, they change to meet the challenges and come out the other end a different person than the one we met in the beginning of the story.
Time is like a river, you cannot touch the same water twice, because the flow that has passed will never pass again. Enjoy every moment of life . . . ,
They discover things about themselves during the journey. They discover the “fire in the belly”, passion. They learn to speak up and speak out. They learn that they have courage to fight for truth, justice, life and liberty. We root for them to beat the odds and win. Take the first “Rocky” movie. He is employed in a sketchy business as a collector for a loan shark.. He boxes and is made fun of, nothing but a loser and a bum. He dreams of a better life and thinks that fighting in the ring, could be his ticket to be somebody. He gets a one in a million shot at it, wins against the heavyweight champion, falls in love.
Difficult roads often lead to beautiful destinations.
Boxing was his passion. He learned to have self confidence in his talent. He learned that we can all be somebody if we are willing to pay the price of hard work to make it happen. If we are willing to not give up when it looks hopeless. As the rest of the series of movies show, transformation is an ongoing process. We will learn valuable and painful lessons when we don’t remain conscious of who we are and where we are going in life.
Most of us have been through some sort of personal hero’s journey in our life.
Someday everything will make perfect sense. So, for now, laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears and keep reminding yourself that EVERYTHING happens for a reason.
What did we discover about ourselves? Brendon Buchard tells a story about his own personal journey when he was in college. He had a bad breakup with his girlfriend. She was the one he was going to spend the rest of his life with. So to try and get out of his depression he went on a trip with a college friend to South America. They were driving in a rural mountainous area on a narrow road. The road turned out to be a hairpin curve. His friend lost control of the car, and they went tumbling off the mountain. When he came to he was bleeding. They had fallen down a ravine. He thought that he was dying. In despair he asked himself three questions – Did I live? Did I love? Did I matter?
Thankfully they didn’t die. They both got medical attention, and when he returned to the United States he was a different person. He is an international bestseller with multiple books; he is the founder of Experts Academy and High Performance Academy and is a sought after motivational speaker. How was his life impacted from getting a broken heart? From an auto accident that could have ended his life? We never know how the painful experiences of our life, will be positively used for the rest of our lives.
Life has many ways of testing a person’s will, either by having nothing happen at all or by having everything happen at once.
– Paulo Coelho
I think that we all want to live a life that results in great friends and family that love us. That results in us being happy and passionate about what we do with our days and nights. That results in knowing that we had a positive impact in the world. But sometimes we fall asleep to those dreams. Sometimes we get so beaten down by our hero’s journey, that we give the dream up as being impossible. What I have discovered in life is that we tend to do one of two things. We act without thinking our decision all of the way through and so we end up paying the bill of “unintended consequences”. Or we think about it, and think about it, and do nothing about it. Why? Because we can’t face our fears about “what if?”.
Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they life.
– Lao Tzo
So each morning, what if the first question we ask ourselves is:
If my life is a story, what can I do today to make it a New York Times Bestseller?
What could I do today, that a movie producer would want to make my life into an inspirational movie?
What can I do today that uses up all the best parts of me (my talents), to inspire the world around me to be a better place?
What can I do today that makes people laugh, smile and be more joyful?
Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside of us while we live.
– Norman Cousins
They have a saying, that the best stories are in the graveyard. There are books that never got written; apologies and forgiveness that were said in their heart, but never left their lips. Millions of secret recipes that never got passed on. Don’t wait for the end to ask, “Did I live, love and matter”, but instead ask it each night. Ask if you showed love, and gave love to others each night. Ask if you were able to do one small thing today that mattered to someone. If you can say yes, to these questions each night, you have a wonderful life. You inspire me to try harder, to be better, to live fully in the present. To lose myself in the sunset.
Never, ever underestimate the importance of having fun.
– Randy Pausch