Take The Time To Listen To The Souls Dreams
Sometimes you need to take a break from everyone and spend time alone, to experience, appreciate, and love yourself.
– Robert Tew
I have a confession to make. Years ago, when all four of my children were little, I used to hide in the bathroom. Sometimes the mommy, mommy, was just too much. I didn’t want to referee who had what toy, who pushed who, or be the mean mom making them clean up their room. I was tired out from working all day, coming home and fixing dinner, making sure their homework was done, that they all had their baths, and had clean clothes for the next day at school. I just needed five minutes alone.
Moms are so worried about everything – and everyone – else, they often forget about time and how their needs are just as important.
– Shawn Fink
If your kids are like mine were, you didn’t get the five minutes alone until they were in bed, and after the 15th excuse to get out of bed had finally fallen asleep. By then of course, you are too tired to even think and you are falling asleep on the couch. Just a few minutes of peace. My husband was a wonderful man who in the summer would take the kids on an overnight camping trip. For one whole weekend, I would stay at home alone. I slept in. I read a book. I would wallow in alone time and recharge. It was a mini mommy vacation. When they came home Sunday night all excited about fishing, I was a whole new mom, ready to listen to every story and adventure.
If you really love someone, there’s no such thing as not having enough time for them.
For some reason now that the kids are all grown and out on their own, I have filled my life up with so many things to do, that I am noticing that I have let the habit of alone time disappear. I am following my own advice and putting this time down on the calendar. It is really important to carve out the space to be able to soul search. To recover energetically. To be able to do some deep thinking, following the rabbit down the rabbit hole. To just be without any agenda or schedule or purpose. It is a part of having a healthy relationship with yourself. It is a part of loving yourself, and making time for just you.
I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.
– Olivia Wilde
So when you carve out some alone time, what do you do with it? How much time each month do you carve out to play? Try something new that you have never done before? If you were to go exploring in your neighborhood or your town, what would you do? When was the last time that you sat down and created something just for fun? Painting, drawing, sculpting, gardening, singing, dancing, playing an instrument, writing a story or a poem, sewing – whatever direction your creative juices take you.
Alone time is when I distance myself from the voices of the world so I can hear my own.
I love to garden, to crochet, and I have always wanted to play the piano. I want to go on a hot air balloon ride. I want to travel to Scotland and see where my dads family came from. I want to explore medieval castles all over Europe. I have been neglecting this part of my life because of not balancing myself between my day job, taking care of my dad and his health issues, helping my granddaughter achieve her dreams of being an actor and the amount of time it takes to promote and build LemonadeMakers. But what I know from life experience and lots of years of education, is that it is just as important to take the time to recharge my batteries. So like the sailor in the ship, I need to make a course adjustment, to make sure that I don’t keep losing myself in life’s often conflicting priorities.
She loves the smell of coffees, bloomed roses and new beginnings
– Sonia Azalia
So remember to take those moments, or those weekends to smell the roses. You will come back reenergized and ready to take on whatever life is getting ready to throw in your direction.