Believe In Yourself And Be UnStoppable
The moment you give up all thought of retreat or surrender, you become an unstoppable force.
– Tommy Newberry
42 years ago I gave birth to my oldest son. At that time natural childbirth was just getting started. I had decided that I wanted to have Joseph without any drugs. My mom, a very headstrong woman, was of the opinion that I would never be able to do it. I would be begging for drugs as soon as the labor started getting difficult. While this goal started as a personal decision based on the belief that it would be better for the baby, it became a goal so strong that nothing would be allowed to stand in my way. I was determined to show my mother that I could do this. Her belief that I was too weak and wouldn’t be able to handle the pain, became my conviction to show her she was wrong.
Success in life comes when simply refuse to give up, with goals so strong that obstacles, failures, and loss only act as motivation.
The hospitals at that time didn’t approve of natural childbirth. The nurses thought it shouldn’t be done that way. I wanted to have my son and then go home. They were adamant that I should stay 3 days. Nursing your baby wasn’t encouraged. They liked the babies to stay in the hospital nursery and I wanted him by my side. It was a fight on all sides, but fortunately my doctor was an amazing man and supported me all the way. He had been my childhood doctor and had seen me through scarlet fever when I was in Junior HIgh School and removed a benign tumor when I was a teenager. He figured if I fought my way through that, I could handle childbirth without drugs.
I have wondered whether my intuition had come into play with my decision, because as it turned out, not only did I have Joseph without any pain medication, it in fact saved his life. As he was coming down the birth canal he hit his head and basically passed out. He stopped moving down the canal. He was too far down to do a C-Section and so the doctor used several different types of forceps to bring him out the rest of the way. When he finally emerged he was blue and wasn’t breathing. The doctor gave him mouth to mouth and CPR and got his breathing going. It all happened so fast that by the time my husband and I realized he was in trouble, he was breathing on his own.
Efforts and courage are not enough without purpose and direction.
– John F. Kennedy
Afterwards when they had run all of these tests and the doctor was telling us that he was fine, he told us that it was his opinion that the only reason he was able to revive him was because I had taken any drugs. My intention to have a drug free childbirth, spurred on by my passion to show my mom I could handle it, saved my sons life. I refused to give in to the pain, and breathed my way through every single contraction. If my mom hadn’t hurt me by saying I wasn’t capable of handling the pain, I might have given in to it and had the drugs. She gave me additional purpose and direction that took me over the finish line.
She understood that the hardest times in life to go through were when you were transitioning from one version of yourself to another.
– Sarah Addison Allen
In daily life we are constantly changing, transforming and transitioning. Some of them are so small that they occur without anyone noticing. I always think of children and their growth patterns for a change that happens without noticing. Because the growth happens so slowly, when you are with them all day, every day, you don’t see it. But you do notice it with your friends or relatives children. You may not see them for a month or two and you see them again, and they have grown a couple of inches. You only notice your own children’s growth by the fact that they need new clothes because everything they own no longer fits them.
She was fierce, she was strong, she wasn’t simple. She was crazy and sometimes she barely slept. She always had something to say. She had flaws and that was ok. And when she was down, she got right back up. She was a beast in her own way, but one idea described her best. She was unstoppable and she too anything she wanted with a smile.
– R.M. Drake
Some changes, transformations and transitions happen with a moment. A single moment changes your life forever. When you are pregnant with your first child you think that you know what it means to be a parent. You think you know how it will change your life. When you hold that precious baby in your arms for the first time, it dawns on you that your life will never be the same and you had no idea what this would be like. You look into that tiny face and for the first time you really truly understand unconditional love.
You might have doubts about how you are going to be a good parent. You realize you have no idea what to do, and that you are going to fail over and over again. But you also know that nothing is going to stop you. You will figure out how to survive on two hours of sleep. How to give a wiggly baby a bath. How to clip fingernails and toenails without pinching their soft skin too. How to balance a child, a bag of groceries, and open and close doors all at the same time. How to kiss boo boo’s and potty train them. How to rock them when they have colds and can’t breath. You will wish that you could every hurt and pain they go through into your own body instead. Because you are strong and fierce and flawed, you will go to war for and with your child, You will be unstoppable.
I used to have a bumper sticker that said, “I can handle anything, I have teenagers”. Teenagers are messy souls. They are chaos in motion. They will rip your heart into pieces one minute, and the next minute cuddle you and say how much they love you, and you are the best mom ever. Parents of teenagers know what defeat is. Slamming doors, screaming I hate you. Having to talk for hours until you break through the defenses to find out what is really wrong. Failure is not defeat. When one door won’t open, you learn to try another. Failure is just a detour. I learned so much from my children, they were my greatest teachers in showing me how I could be better, and do better.
I learned so much about communication with my children. How to reach down into their hearts and draw them out. I knew when they were misbehaving that something was going wrong in their lives. I knew if I could just say the right words, in the best way, they would tell me what was wrong. So I learned how to use analogies, and find ways to tell stories that would help them put into words the things that were happening in their lives that they didn’t know how to talk about. I learned how to go deep within the well of their hearts and bring up what was asking to be seen and acknowledged. Sometimes I failed. Sometimes I didn’t pay close enough attention. Sometimes I wondered how I ever thought I could be a mom. But I didn’t give up.
Learn to control the conversation you have with yourself and you will be unstoppable in your pursuits.
– Rob R Morris
I loved this photo because she is running in the rain. She didn’t listen to that voice that said, don’t run today, it is raining. It is cold. You should just stay in your nice warm bed. In every area of our life, we can be unstoppable. Every new day dawns with a ray of hope. Hope of it being a good day. Of being a fresh start in creating positive change, transformation and transitions into our life. The hope of resiliency. The hope of being a positive example for someone else. To inspire them to accomplish their dreams. To lead by example. To be perfectly imperfect and be ok with that. It’s all about being better than I was yesterday. To live a courageous life. Being willing to say, I can do better, let me try this again.
Whatever your difficulty, whatever your hardship, dance and make the song you sing your prayer. Sing it courageously, and with each step strengthen yourself with the knowledge and wisdom of your elders. So that whatever next happens, you can survive and not lose your rhythm.
– Red Haircrow
Throughout life there are things that need to be let go of, and there are things we need to pick up. We need to let go of the self judgment. We need to pick up self confidence. We need to let go of the thought that just because we have had failures, we must be failures. We need to pick up our self esteem and realize that we are more than enough for anything that life throws at us. We need to let go of heart break. We need to pick up the ability to be in love with vulnerability. To realize that being vulnerable allows us to experience love at a whole new level. We can love without being needy. We can be grateful for every experience because it made us powerful beyond measure.
Keep looking for new ways to express your creativity. To keep looking for passion and purpose in your life. To keep growing into a master of life. Don’t settle. Be the unique person that you are, a goddess. Nobody else has your voice, your mind, your story, your vision. Be unstoppable.
A Courageous Conversation?Are you brave enough to speak out loud the conversations that you have inside of yourself late at night when you are all alone?
- How do we have a courageous conversation about the tragedy’s we have faced in our lives? Some things just seem too devastating to turn from a negative to a positive experience.
- How can we be honest with ourselves and others, around such things as overcoming addictions or similar problems?
- What if we are trying to make positive changes in our lives, and we have “no one” in our lives to support us in making a life changing transformation?