Reflections Of The Heart Liberate The Soul

Mirrors will tell you the truths that you want to see - reflections will show you the truths you need to see. - G. Bastan

Mirror, Mirror on the wall, show me who I really am. Many fairy tales tell of magic mirrors. Mirrors that can tell the future. Mirrors that show you your loved ones.  Mirrors that twist everything to mean something different than it really means. And mirrors that reflect back the truth to us. How do we know that the reflection back to us is the truth?

The more reflective that you are, the more of the real you comes into reality.

  – Sheryl Silbaugh

In a fun house the mirrors reflects us with some twist and change to how we really look. One mirror shows us a reflection of being short and fat. Another mirror reflects back to us the image of a really tall, skinny girl. Because of the shape of the mirror the reflections are changed and altered from the truth of what we look like.

Mirrors reverse everything.  Look at how her hand is touching the mirror. The mirror image touching back to her. It looks like the left hand is touching the left hand.  But in reality, it is her left hand touching the reflections right hand. So even mirrors that are true, still change what we see reflected back to us. The reflection back to us is in fact, backwards to reality. It isn’t the real you.

In a mirror is where we find a reflection of our appearances, but in a heart is where we find a reflection of our soul.

  – Unknown

Mirrors are obstacles to light.  Fun house mirrors distort what we see, creating illusions.  What if there were all different kinds of mirrors, each reflecting a different “us” based on what path we took?  Based on a multitude of small decisions, how would we be changed? Wouldn’t it be wonderful if in real life we could be like Alice and step through the looking glass and see what would happen if we chose this job or that job? If we left our bad situation now, or wait another year?

Life is only a reflection of what we allow ourselves to see.

  – Unknown

The movie “Sliding Doors” is all about the thought of what if you made the train or missed it – how does something so small and simple change or not change your life. I love the concept of how a reflection actually bends back from the surface and allows one to think seriously or ponder what is being shown.  It takes some consciousness and understanding to start seeing who and what we really are. To see beyond the surface reflection to the soul within the body. To get the concept of why we make the choices we do. To see how much of what happens to us is within our choices, and not fate or destiny driving us towards some unseen future.

Time spent in self-reflection is never wasted – it is an intimate date with yourself.

  – Paul TP Wong

Since the reflection that we see in a mirror is bent back from the surface, it allows us to examine what we are seeing from different angles.  We can bend the metaphorical light of our experiences and see what is underneath.  It can serve as a bridge between learning and experiences.  If we can remove the barrier between one’s feelings, thoughts and emotions from the experience, we can see more of the truth and less of the story that we tell ourselves happened. This internal dialogue stripped of the emotional charge, is what enables us to move from victim, past survivor, to a totally new space of thriving.  The depth to which we take these reflections, determines the kind of attitude and actions that we take in our life.

To make the right choices in life, you have to get in touch with your soul.  to do this, you need to experience solitudes, which most people are afraid of, because in the silence you hear the truth and know the solutions.

  – Deepak Chopra

Reflection provides an opportunity for us to open their hearts and minds to our experiences. To see our wisdom and our foolishness. To see our strengths and weaknesses. It also allows us to delve in the possibilities of looking at those experiences through the viewpoints of others involved.

Facing you, loving you and accepting you as you are can be painfully challenging, but it’s so necessary.

  – Dau Voire

Recently my granddaughter got into a bit of drama with one of her friends. They had been out somewhere and my granddaughter borrowed some money from her friend. They didn’t discuss when it would be paid back. My granddaughter didn’t know how she was going to pay it back, since she doesn’t have a job. She does some babysitting, but nothing on a regular basis. So this debt created some friction. Her friend asked her to pay it back, which upset my granddaughter because she didn’t have it. But they didn’t discuss their feelings, they both just pushed it inside.

Everything is your life is a reflection of a choice you have made.  If you want a different result, make a different choice.

  – blog.zerodean

When my granddaughter had a new babysitting job, she paid back the debt. But instead of apologizing for taking so long, she said, “here’s your money, now you can stop bugging me about it.” Of course, her friend was really hurt by those words. So, it escalated into a huge fight. Both girls had a party to the misunderstanding, and neither girl has been able to see how their lack of communication created a mountain out a molehill.  Neither so far has made it to the point of realizing they were in the wrong and owning their own part in the debacle.

It’s unfair to yourself to justify why you’re holding on to toxicity.  There are lessons in letting go and moving on.

  – Alex Elle

It is times like this that I wish we could hit a replay button, and see how the story that we internalize is not the true story. Both girls think that they we totally right, and the other is wrong. Each of us hides behind this gate of reality. We see a distorted image of what happened, of ourselves.  We don’t want to be the victim and we don’t want to be the perpetrator but in most situations in life we are one or the other, and sometimes even both at the same time. So, we create a story and we create drama where there shouldn’t be any.

Self reflection is a humbling process.  It’s essential to find out why you think, say, and do certain things . . . then better yourself.

  – Sonya Teclai

No one else can unlock that gate for us. It can only be unlocked by us. We can’t open anyone else’s gate either by argument or emotional appeal. I’ve had talked to my granddaughter and so far, she hasn’t been able to open that gate. My granddaughter has a saying when we talk, that I am judging her. And she is both right and wrong at the same time. Anytime we want to fix someone or something, we are in fact judging it or them. We are saying that something is broken or disconnected. So in that sense I am judging her, because I can see what is broken. But I am not judging her as being bad, or unworthy or less than she is.

If you are still searching for that one person who will change your life, look in the mirror.

  – Unknown

We do that to ourselves all the time. We judge the actions or inactions that we take. We beat ourselves up that we should have done a better job. That we shouldn’t have forgotten that important thing. What we need to learn to do is to take the take for reflection. See what is broken or disconnected, and what we can do to alter the outcome. Some things can be altered and connection restored. Some things are beyond our ability to reconnect. Release the judgement. Accept them as they are or let them go.

Be a reflection of what you’d like to receive.  If you want love, give love.  If you want truth, be truthful.  What you give out will always return.

  – Unknown

Look into the mirror.  Dig beneath the surface.  Love and accept what you find.  Reconnect with your soul, with your life purpose.  Get back onto the right path for you.  Transform what can be changed and release what can’t. 


Sheryl Silbaugh

I am married with 4 grown children who are all married and currently have 14 grandchildren and two great granddaughters. I work fulltime as a Director at Bank of America and I am the founder of, which is a website and Facebook page dedicated to personal transformation and growth. We all have life's lemons show up in our life, this website helps us to make them into lemonade.

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