Reflections Of The Heart Liberate The Soul
Mirror, Mirror on the wall, show me who I really am. Many fairy tales tell of magic mirrors. Mirrors that can tell the future. Mirrors that show you your loved ones. Mirrors that twist everything to mean something different than it really means. And mirrors that reflect back the truth to you. How do you know that the reflection back to you is the truth?
“The more reflective that you are at a soul level, the more of the real you comes into reality” – Sheryl Silbaugh
A fun house mirror with some twisting of reality, changes how you really look. One mirror shows you a reflection of being short and fat. Another mirror reflects back to you the image of a really tall, skinny girl. Because of the shape of the mirror, the reflections are changed and altered from the truth of what you look like in reality.
Mirrors reverse everything. Look at how her hand is touching the mirror. The mirror image touching back to her. It looks like the left hand is touching the left hand. But in reality, it is her left hand touching the reflections right hand. So even mirrors that are true, still change what you see reflected back to you. The reflection back to you is in fact, backwards to reality. It isn’t the real you.
“In a mirror is where we find a reflection of our appearances, but in a heart is where we find a reflection of our soul” – Unknown
Mirrors are obstacles to light. Fun house mirrors distort what you see, creating illusions. What if there were all different kinds of mirrors, each reflecting a different “you” based on what path we took? Shards of reality based on different life decisions. How would you pick which reality you wanted?
Based on a multitude of small decisions, how would you be changed? Wouldn’t it be wonderful if in real life you could be like Alice? Just step through the looking glass to see what would happen if you chose this job or that job? Should you leave your bad situation now, or wait another year?
“Life is only a reflection of what we allow ourselves to see” – Unknown
The movie “Sliding Doors” is all about the thought of what if you made the train or missed it – how does something so small and simple change or not change your life. I love the concept of how a reflection actually bends back from the surface and allows one to think seriously or ponder what is being shown.
It takes some consciousness and understanding to start seeing who and what you really are. To see beyond the surface reflection, deep into the soul within the body. To understand why you make the choices you do? How much of what happens to you is really within your choices, and not fate or destiny driving you towards some unseen future.
“Time spent in self-reflection is never wasted – it is an intimate date with yourself” – Paul TP Wong
The reflection you see in a mirror, is bent back from the surface. It allows you to examine what you see from different angles. You can bend the metaphorical light of your experiences, to see what is underneath. It serves as a bridge between learning and experience. You can remove the barrier of your feelings, thoughts, emotions from the experience. You then see more of the truth, and less of the story that you tell yourself.
This internal dialogue stripped of the emotional charge, is what enables you to move from victim, past survivor, to a totally new space of thriving. The depth to which you take these reflections, determines the kind of attitude and actions you take moving forward in life.
“To make the right choices in life, you have to get in touch with your soul. to do this, you need to experience solitudes, which most people are afraid of, because in the silence you hear the truth and know the solutions” – Deepak Chopra
Reflection provides an opportunity for you to open your heart and mind to your experiences. To see your wisdom and your foolishness. To see your strengths and weaknesses. It also allows you to delve in the possibilities of looking at those experiences through the viewpoints of others involved.
“Facing you, loving you and accepting you as you are can be painfully challenging, but it’s so necessary” – Dau Voire
Recently my granddaughter got into a bit of drama with one of her friends. They had been out somewhere and my granddaughter borrowed some money from her friend. They didn’t discuss when it would be paid back. My granddaughter didn’t have a way to pay it back, since she didn’t have a job. She did some babysitting, but nothing on a regular basis. So this debt created some friction. Her friend asked her to pay it back, which upset my granddaughter because she didn’t have it. But they didn’t discuss their feelings, they both just pushed it inside.
“Everything in your life is a reflection of a choice you have made. If you want a different result, make a different choice” – blog.zerodean
When my granddaughter had a new babysitting job, she paid back the debt. But instead of apologizing for taking so long, she said, “here’s your money, now you can stop bugging me about it.” Of course, her friend was really hurt by those words. So, it escalated into a huge fight. Both girls had a party to the misunderstanding. Neither girl was able to see how their own lack of communication created a mountain out a molehill. Neither so far has made it to the point of realizing they were both in the wrong and owning their own part in the debacle.
“It’s unfair to yourself to justify why you’re holding on to toxicity. There are lessons in letting go and moving on” – Alex Elle
It is times like this that I wish we could hit a replay button, and see how the story that you internalize is not the true story. Both girls think that they we totally right, and the other is wrong. You too hide behind this gate of reality. You see a distorted image of what happened, of yourself. You don’t want to be the victim. You don’t want to be the perpetrator. In most situations in life you are one or the other, and sometimes even both at the same time. So, you create a story and you create drama where there shouldn’t be any.
“Self reflection is a humbling process. It’s essential to find out why you think, say, and do certain things . . . then better yourself” – Sonya Teclai
No one else can unlock that gate for you. It can only be unlocked by you. You can’t open anyone else’s gate either by argument or emotional appeal. I’ve had talked to my granddaughter and so far, she hasn’t been able to open that gate. My granddaughter has a saying when we talk, that I am judging her. And she is both right and wrong at the same time. Anytime you want to fix someone or something, you are in fact judging it or them. You are saying that something is broken or disconnected. So in that sense I am judging her, because I can see what is broken. But I am not judging her as being bad, or unworthy or less than she is.
“If you are still searching for that one person who will change your life, look in the mirror” – Unknown
You do that to yourself all the time. You judge the actions or inactions that you take. You beat yourself up. You should have done a better job. You shouldn’t have forgotten that important thing. What you need to learn is to take the take for reflection. See what is broken or disconnected. Ask what you can do to alter the outcome. What can be altered and connection restored? What is beyond your ability to reconnect? Release the judgement. Accept them as they are, or let them go.
“Be a reflection of what you’d like to receive. If you want love, give love. If you want truth, be truthful. What you give out will always return” – Unknown
Look into the mirror. Dig beneath the surface. Love and accept what you find. Reconnect with your soul, with your life purpose. Get back onto the right path for you. Transform what can be changed and release what can’t.