All Things Are Possible
Never settle. Fight for the life, the career, the dreams, the love that you deserve.
– Mandy Hale
Women cry not just when they are sad. They cry when the are angry, frustrated, and misunderstood. They also cry when they are in joyous exultation, happy beyond bearing. When a divine truth enters a woman’s life, it strips her bare. These are tears that need to be honored. It is time to say goodbye to something that no longer bears the resonance of truth for us. It is time to say hello to a new truth. Playing with the fire of truth, we burn away the parts that no longer belong and refine what remains.
I will not trade my authenticity for your approval.
– Wild Woman Sisterhood
I went to see the Wonder Woman movie this past weekend. I enjoyed it, as I watched her face her idealisms being shattered. I watched her as she refined herself, her purpose in her life. The decision she made to leave the island. The decision she made to liberate the village. The life changing decision that she made in facing up to Ares and his taunts. Ares demonstrated in front of her that mankind wasn’t worth her sacrifices. I loved the principle that was celebrated, that it really didn’t matter if the people were judged as being worthy of her sacrifice. She wasn’t their judge about such things. She was doing what she did for her own beliefs that she held sacred.
Transformation is the journey you are on. You are exploring the wisdom of your soul. You are shedding old ways and beliefs that no longer fit who you are becoming. Be brave, dear one. You are becoming your authentic self.
It reminded me of when you are walking down the street and you see homeless people panhandling. Many would say, “they are not worthy of our hard earned money”. That, “they will just use it for drugs or alcohol”. That somehow, “they deserve the situation that they have landed themselves in”. My hope is that this movie gets us to rethink about the automatic judgments we make. The condemnations that we believe we are justified in holding. That we open our hearts instead to look for a different way. A better way to help those who have lost their way. We can’t change their lives for them, they have to do that. But we can give them a helping hand, a hand up, not just a hand out. That we can help to empower them to see, that they are worth something still. That they have a powerful story that can help save others.
If you are not free to be who you are, you are not free . . .
– Clarissa Pinkola Estes
There are days when the frustrations of running up against road blocks make you want to blow up the road, and disappear into the wilderness. You can’t let those days make you run away. There are too many people out there that are looking to you to show them the way to follow their dreams. Hold on to sisters who are fellow dreamers and action takers. When your flame is being blown out, they will shelter you from the wind. They will help you to regroup. They will be your saving grace to keep you from going dark. Each time we get into a level of frustration that has us wanting to “tap out” of life, we need to reassess what we are doing. If the actions we are taking are not getting us where we desire to go, then we need to reassess and regroup. What else is possible? How can we redefine what we are doing?
It takes 4 weeks for you to notice a change. It takes 8 weeks for your friends to notice. It takes 12 weeks for the rest of the world to notice a change. It takes 1 day to decide that you are enough.
I wonder how many times our change actually took place, and we stopped working on it on week 3 because we couldn’t see it happening? Maybe you have achieved something new, and then you threw away because you were still looking at yourself through the old filter. You couldn’t see what you had actually accomplished, so you just went back to the same old you?
Don’t wait until you’ve reached your goal to be proud of yourself. Be proud of every step you take toward reaching your goal.
Imagine you have a potters wheel in front of you. You are sculpting a bowl. You look at it and it isn’t what you were trying to make. Do you take the clay and throw it against the wall? Do you blame the clay or the wheel for not producing your work of art the way you wanted it to be? Or do you simply squish it back down and start over? If our bowl is to be molded to what we want, maybe we just look for ways to do it differently. What can we add, or take away? Go faster or slower spinning the wheel? More or less water? Create definitions higher or lower? We have millions of choices to get where we are trying to go. We also have millions of chances and changes to make in getting us there.
Transformation is often more about unlearning, then relearning.
– Richard Rohr
I always think about babies for this. They learn to roll over to change what they can see or touch. Then they learn how to get their legs underneath them so that they can move them and learn to crawl. Then they start using leverage against furniture to get them to stand up on their legs. Then they start walking and from there they start running, climbing and jumping. Each step fed into the next step. They don’t crawl once they have learned to walk. They let go or unlearn the crawling piece as they transform how they get around the room by walking, running, climbing and jumping.
The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.
In this same way, each new thing we learn essentially replaces a previous truth. At one time I was a roller, then a crawler, then I let those old truths be replaced with the next level of learning. All of those old levels of learning were necessary to get me where I am today. But they are not what is going to get me where I am going tomorrow. When the new door of opportunity for learning and growth opens up, go through the door. Don’t stay a roller or a crawler, stuck in a cramped space that no longer allows any room for new growth. Don’t settle. Shoot for the stars. Any time we find ourselves stuck in a cramped space and not growing, we need to accept responsibility for being there. In some way we are inhibiting our growth and transformation. Then step through the door to growth and transformation. Adjust your sails to catch the wind and fly across the waves.
Everything you want is out there waiting for you to ask. Everything you want also wants you. But you have to take action to get it.
– Jack Canfield