Daring To Be Great
“Nothing can dim the light that shines within” – Maya Angelou
It takes considerable strength to dare to dream. To dare to be the one chosen to bring something special and wonderful to the world. It means that you’ve taken the step of defining who you are at a soul level. You are daring yourself to live up to that soul destiny. When you dare to step out on the ledge, you realize that you are making yourself vulnerable. Those who dare greatly, can fail greatly. In fact, failures are a given. You can’t step outside your comfort zone and not have some failures in your life.
“Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly” – Robert Kennedy
When you reach up to touch the sky, you will almost always find that there are those who want to knock you down. You can’t listen to the bullies of the world. You can’t let fear run your life. Your assignment, your commitment, your intentions are all too valuable to be derailed by the lies and hatred of those who can’t stand in your light.
“Advice is like snow. The softer it falls, the longer it dwells upon and the deeper it sinks into the mind” – Samuel Taylor Coleridge
Some poems have so much learning in them, that it blows your mind. Some truths are so universal and so grounded in absolute truth, that they define all cultures and times. I think that the poem “If” by Rudyard Kipling is one of those poems. It was brought to my attention again when I read a blog that I subscribe to. There is such a depth to it that I am only talking about a small part of it. The part that relates to the courage you need to rise above all the drama that tries to attach itself, when you are daring greatly. I will print the entire poem at the end.
“Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, cause hate in your heart will consume you too” – Will Smith
I am only talking about the first stanza because we have seen so many people lately get caught up in violence, both with terrorism and workplace violence. They fight against those that have different beliefs than themselves, as though having a difference of opinion makes theirs less valid. They don’t understand that you can hold opposing viewpoints and not have to label one as right and one as wrong.
“You don’t have to disrespect and insult others simply to hold your own ground. If you do, that shows how shaky your own position is” – Red Haircrow
True warriors know that they don’t need to resort to fighting to be strong, to dare greatly and face the wind. They can face the wind because they know what it takes to be different, and still be grounded in a fullness and ease of spirit and grace. When you face the wind, you lift yourself up above the opinions of others. You step into a space of knowing that what you are creating, manufacturing and generating is your own successful life. You are fulfilling your destiny by daring to touch the sky.
“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain. It takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving” – Dale Carnegie
One of the hardest things to learn as you mature, is that while people can say or do nasty things to you, you don’t have to get down in the mud with them. Politicians in general (there are some who don’t feel it is necessary to degenerate their opponents to make a valid point) seem to get into name calling wars. As an adult you will be disappointed by those who in order to build up their own egos begin tearing down someone else. Sadly, you will see this kind of behavior not only in politics, but also in your jobs, in your families, and among your friends.
“If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too” – If by Rudyard Kipling
Bullies and cyberbullies are becoming way too common. I think that the leaders of all of the countries around the world need to understand, that when they act badly, it sets the tone for others to do so. I can remember trying so hard to teach my children that people who bully others have a very low opinion of themselves. They usually are being bullied themselves, or were bullied when they were younger. They attack without reason, because in their minds they believe that if they hit first and hit hard enough, they are in fact protecting themselves. They are hurting so badly that they need to hurt others. I wanted them to be able to understand why someone would be mean, spiteful and say things that they knew were not true.
“Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating” – If by Rudyard Kipling
How does a person listen to the lies that someone else tells or feel the pain of being hated, and not go down the same road in displaying that behavior back to the person who is hurting them? Remember the childhood rhyme, “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me? Or the “I’m rubber your glue, bounces off me and sticks to you?” You may have tried to pretend as a child that whatever mean hurtful thing was being said, it didn’t effect you. But it did. You may have tried walking away, but usually they just followed you. So you became small, withdrawn and tried to take up as little space as possible. You wrapped yourself up in silence and disappeared.
“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life, but define yourself” – Tim Fields
How do you go from that child who tried to disappear, to the adult who steps out on the ledge and says, “Look at me – I am daring to stand up and touch the sky, to make a difference in the world.” You could kill them with kindness. Or deflect it saying that their energy or vibration was way below yours. Or you could pretend that all their negative remarks did not even phase you, hoping eventually it would be true.
It isn’t just about surviving something. Because if you are only surviving then you are still being a victim of the bullying, even if it happened years ago. It is about forgiving and letting it go. It is about having being free of the drama and leaving it behind you. It is about living a thriving lifestyle.
If it is still happening in your life now, then think about this – what in your case is “the ball”, and how can you take it and “go home”?
“The way to work with a bully is to take the ball and go home. First time, every time. When there’s no ball, there’s no game. Bullies hate that. So they’ll either behave so they can play with you, or they’ll go bully someone else” – Seth Godin
Put another way, don’t add fuel to the fire. Without your fuel, the fire will go out. How do you get into this frame of mind? How do you not feel that you have defend yourself, defend your reputation, defend that your rights? You stay in your own lane. You keep dancing to your own rhythm. Yes, it might be that some people who don’t know you well enough will listen to what the bully is saying and repeat it. What is done in the dark will come to light. Time has a way of showing people’s true colors. Eventually if you stay in your lane, and keep your own internal rhythm strong, people will recognize who is living the good life, and who is the one trying to tear others lives apart.
“Dance and make the song you sing your prayer. Sing it courageously, and with each step strengthen yourself with the knowledge and wisdom of your elders. So whatever next happens you can survive and not lose your rhythm” – Red Haircrow
If by Rudyard Kipling
If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on!”
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!