Celebrate Life’s Changes And Dance In The Rain
Almost always when I am visiting family in Seattle it is raining. So I had to post something with rain and rain-boots! Do you like the feeling of the rain on your skin? Does it make you feel alive? Can you feel the energy of it, as it washes the dust off your soul? Can you smell down into your bones, how clean the earth feels after a rainstorm has passed? Or do you whine, complain and just feel depressed that you got wet as you ran from your car into the building? Beautiful things can happen when you distance yourself from the negative and live in the space of gratitude.
“In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you” – Buddha
We lived in Seattle years ago, when our children were little. My oldest son Joe had these black rain-boots with the red stripe at the top when he was 3 yrs old. He loved those rain-boots. I don’t know if you ever had a child or were a child that was completely attached to an article of clothing, but this boy was attached to those rain-boots. Of course, the day came when his feet outgrew the boots. I put the boots away to save for Joe’s younger brother.
“The hardest part about growing up is letting go of what you were used to, and moving on with something you’re not” – Unknown
No matter where I hid those boots, Joe would find them and squeeze his feet into them. I couldn’t convince him not to wear them. I tried to find a bigger pair, but it was the wrong season and I couldn’t find any new rain boots (where was Amazon 40 years ago – LOL). I finally had to give them away to prevent him from hurting his poor toes.
“If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If you don’t grow, we aren’t really living” – Gail Sheehy
I always think of those boots when looking at the personal growth in our lives. When you were a kid you outgrew things. I am sure that sometimes you were so attached to things, that like Joe, you would refuse to let them go. Even when keeping them in your life was inhibiting your continued growth in some way.
You had to learn that letting go doesn’t mean you are giving in or giving up. It’s not about being defeated or losing something you hold dear. You can still cherish the memories of all of the “mud puddles” you splashed in with your rain-boots. Letting go is really about learning new things, experiencing more of life and growing up. Letting go is realizing that you have so much more to gain in doing so. And most of all it is about having the courage and strength to keep growing, to keep changing and to keep moving.
“One of the hardest lessons in life is letting go. Whether it’s guilt, anger, love, loss, or betrayal. Change is never easy. We fight to hold on and we fight to let go” – Mareez Reyes
It is interesting how you can spend so much time, effort, and money to make a change. Yet at the same time you fight it. Change always expands you and fear tries very had to contract you back into the comfort zone.
“Let go of the past so that God can open the door to your future” – Unknown
What you need to remember is, WHY it is difficult to change and grow, when the opposite is to contract and die. Look at any root bound plant and you can see what happens when you bind yourself up in your comfort zone. In order to remain healthy the plant requires a bigger pot. If it doesn’t get a bigger pot, the growth stops, and eventually the plant will die.
“One of the most courageous decisions you’ll ever make is to finally let go of what is hurting your heart and soul” – Brigitte Nicole
So don’t be like Joe. When the boots start pinching your feet, and you can’t fit your heel in unless you squish your toes, let the boots go. Don’t hurt yourself by continuing to squish yourself into a job, a relationship, a belief system, a lifestyle, etc . . . that no longer fits or supports you.
“There is no growth without change. You’ve got to let go of some old stuff. And that can hurt. Often when I’m in the most pain, I realize it’s coming from my trying to control everything. Or resisting the changes that come with the progress. But you see that light . . . that beautiful next level . . . and that’s what you have to focus on” – Ali Brown
Move into the creation of new larger boots. New boots that have room to grow into a new, better, and more expanded self. Boots that will sustain you. Boots that let you splash in puddles and dance in the rain. It is important to dance in the rain, because the rain can help us release the pain. Boots with wild colors that you can plunge into life with. Boots that grant you the courage to continue growing and changing into who you came here to be.
This is one of my favorite poets, Sarah Kay and her Ted Talk “If I Had A Daughter” – if you listen there are some great lines around rainboots and chocolate. LOL.
“Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today” – Mary Morrissey