Don’t Let Insecurities Run Your Life. Fight For Your Dreams.
How dare you settle for less when the world has made it so easy for you to be remarkable
– Seth Godin – Author and Speaker
Our dreams are calling us. Are we answering them or putting them to voice mail, because we don’t want to have that inner conversation with ourselves. What causes us to put things on hold? How many of your dreams do you have in voice mail waiting for a return call?
There is no greater gift you can give or receive than to honor your calling. It’s why you were born, and how you become most truly alive.
We all do this in some way. I know that if someone compliments me the first thought in my mind is discounting what they said. When I was growing up my sister closest in age to me was always the pretty one, the beautiful one. She is 18 months younger and her body matured faster than mine. She is several inches taller than my 5’3″. I was the smart one. This comparison ran through our childhood. She to this day carries that role of not being smart, even though it isn’t true, and I carry the role of not being pretty. Isn’t it sad how many of us prove that these family comparisons are true, simply out of habit? We are told all of our life that this “story” created when we were tiny children is who we are and we go around making it a self fulfilling prophecy.
What I know for sure is this: You are built not to shrink down to less, but to blossom into more. To be more splendid. To be more extraordinary.
There are days when I get a lot of Facebook friend requests on my personal FB page. I am part of several large groups and whenever they have an influx of new people on their fan page, I think that people will friend request everyone in the group. I also think that some people figure out I am the founder of LemonadaMakers and request my personal Facebook friend page too. However it is happening, there has also been some of those requests that even though I try to screen them turn out to be men looking at my picture and requesting a friendship. When they say they like my smile – which is the usual first comment they make, I immediately think something negative like that’s because you don’t see the rest of me.
No matter where you’re from, your dreams are valid.
– Lupita Nyong’o
Why do we do that? What is it that causes us to turn away from a compliment about our looks, the quality of our work – anything that seems personal? People could compliment me about my children or grandchildren and I don’t turn away from that. Only if it is personal about me.
Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start.
– Nido Qubein
There was a commercial video I saw a few months back talking about the phrase “sorry” when we mean “excuse me”. We are apologizing when we didn’t do anything wrong It was by Pantene the shampoo company and it really reflected how many times we use it when we really mean something else. A turn around of this commercial would have been great. Showing scene after scene of women who did not require validation from anyone else in the room. Women who walked in and owned the room, like the leaders that they in truth are. We don’t have to be the main character in “The Devil Wears Prada” to be successful, but we can take charge without apology.
If people aren’t laughing at you, your dreams aren’t big enough.
We open a office door to talk to someone and say “sorry”. We brush by someone and say “sorry”. The list goes on. Look for it in the office for the next few weeks. See how many times you or another women says “sorry” when what should be said is “excuse me”. The suggestion is that we feel undeserving, and so say “I’m Sorry” for taking up your time, for taking up space, for thinking that I might have something to contribute.
Take charge, and don’t apologize for it
– Elite Daily
Sheryl Sandberg was really talking about this when she said “we’ve got to get women to sit at the table.” She talked about how she went to a conference room for a meeting and the women were not sitting at the conference table, they were sitting around the table in the extra chairs against the wall. They were doing this even though there were empty seats at the conference table. We need to stop letting other people who lack courage or determination to follow through on their dreams, stop us from doing so with ours. We need to live our truth, and trust that we are more than worthy to sit at the table. We need to live our truth and honor what we have to contribute.
If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I, an artist, will answer you: I am here to live out loud.
– Emile Zola
She felt that a big piece of why we don’t take a seat at the table is because we don’t want the label of “bossy” and the other “B” word when we take the lead. We shouldn’t be afraid to be as ambitious as men. We should ask for what we want – the raise, the promotion, to take the lead. We shouldn’t be afraid to be told we have a beautiful smile.
The cost of not following your heart, is spending the rest of your life wishing you had.
So I am ending this with my most favorite quote by Marianne Williamson because – How dare any of us settle for less when the world is waiting for us to be remarkable!
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
― Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles”