Expectations Change The Way You Deal With Reality
I think that the cat’s expression says it all.
Expectations always hurt. Life is short . . . So love your life . . . Be Happy . . . And keep smiling . . . That’s Life – Unknown
You work really hard for something and when you get it, it doesn’t meet your expectations and you are disappointed.
You plan a wonderful vacation and because you are not sharing the plans in detail with everyone in the family, someone is planning long days doing nothing but reading or napping; while the other one has nonstop activities planned – one or both of you is going to be disappointed, resentful, and probably ruin the vacation.
There is this fine line between people disappointing you, and you expecting too much from them.
I remember when I finally got the big promotion. I had worked so hard for so long to get to this Senior Vice President position. I didn’t go to college, and so I didn’t have a degree like everyone else. Every job description says they require one. So to finally get this promotion was a big thing for me. My goal was achieved and all the hard work was worth it. Then my boss says, “you know titles aren’t really important”. I could hear the balloon of my enthusiasm pop and blow across the room. I think I was more deflated than the balloon as I left his office.
When you release expectations, you are free to enjoy things for what they are instead of what you think they should be – Mandy Hale
The thing about expectations is that they generally build up to something that isn’t possible to maintain or isn’t realistic in the first place. When you release the expectations, you are free to enjoy what you already have.
I always think of body weight/size being one of those things that you sometimes put unrealistic expectations around.
Have you ever looked at photos of when you were younger? You see yourself with a fantastic body and remember how you were always going on a diet to try and get skinnier – how you were never happy with how you looked.
What do you see when you look at that photo now? Do you realize you were already a healthy weight, that nothing was wrong with you – your butt wasn’t too fat, your chest wasn’t too flat, your thighs were not really thunder thighs?
Learning to love yourself and others just as you are at this moment is a huge lesson. Learning to not gossip or talk hurtful about yourself and others is another powerful thing to practice.
God, help me find the middle ground between unrealistic expectations and no expectations at all – Melody Beattie
Expectations make you want something other than what you have. What you have is already a great thing. You fail to enjoy the here and now, when you are always looking for something better, feeling like something that is missing.
When you let that balloon of expectation go and watch the air release as it buzzes and flaps across the room, you realize how good life already is. It leaves you room to be pleasantly surprised when the great things do happen in your life.
When you are attached to outcomes by means of expectations, it is sort of like the band aid stuck to a hairy place on the skin. At some point it is going to have to be ripped off, and it is going to take some hair and skin with it. It is going to hurt.
If we can learn to let go of expectations and simply accept what is, we will be much happier.
Hope, but never expect.
This doesn’t mean to me that you don’t do your best to accomplish your dreams and goals.
I believe in doing my best. I also believe that I shouldn’t beat myself up when my best isn’t getting it done. I believe that when that happens, I just need to regroup and figure out an outside the box idea.
Never forget that you are one of a kind. Never forget that if there weren’t any need for you in all your uniqueness to be on this earth, you wouldn’t be here in the first place. And never forget, no matter how overwhelming life’s challenges and problems seem to be, that one person can make a difference in the world. In fact, it is always because of one person that all changes that matter in the world come about. So be that one person – Buckminster Fuller
I also believe that my expectations should be about me, not other people. I believe in what others are capable of being, I see the greatness in them. I also know that not everyone is interested in being everything they are capable of being, or they are refusing to see their greatness.
I let that be. When they are ready, I will hold up the mirror of my belief in them, until then I will wait.
So have gratitude and appreciation for where you are. Have dreams and goals to meet that raise you up. Give the best you have. Be happy with where you are. Go out and do something remarkable!
I love when people that have been through hell walk out of the flames carrying buckets of water for those still consumed by the fire – Stephanie Sparkles