Expectations Change The Way You Deal With Reality
I think that the cats expression says it all.
Expectations always hurt. Life is short . . . So love your life . . . Be Happy . . . And keep smiling . . . That’s Life.
We work really hard for something and when we get it, it doesn’t meet our expectations and we are disappointed. We plan a wonderful vacation and because we are not sharing the plans in detail with everyone in the family, one of us is planning long days doing nothing but reading or napping; while the other one has nonstop activities planned – one or both of us is going to be disappointed, resentful, and probably ruin the vacation. There is this fine line between people disappointing us, and us expecting too much from them.
Accept the fact that some people didn’t intend to let you down. Their best is just less than you expected.
– Thema Davis
I remember when I finally got the big promotion. I had worked so hard for so long to get to this Senior Vice President position. I didn’t go to college, and so I didn’t have a degree like everyone else. Every job description says they require one. So to finally get this promotion was a big thing for me. My goal was achieved and all the hard work was worth it. Then my boss says, “you know titles aren’t really important”. I could hear the balloon of my enthusiasm pop and blow across the room. I think I was more deflated than the balloon as I left his office.
When you release expectations, you are free to enjoy things for what they are instead of what you think they should be.
– Mandy Hale
The thing about expectations is that they generally build up to something that isn’t possible to maintain or isn’t realistic in the first place. When we release the expectations, we are free to enjoy what we already have. I always think of body weight/size being one of those things that we sometimes put unrealistic expectations around.
Learn to love without condition. Talk without bad intention. Give without any reason. And most of all, care for people without expectation.
Have you ever looked at photos of when you were younger? You see yourself with a fantastic body and remember how you were always going on a diet to try and get skinnier – how you were never happy with how you looked. What do you see when you look at that photo now? Do you realize you were already a healthy weight, that nothing was wrong with you – your butt wasn’t too fat, your chest wasn’t too flat, your thighs were not really thunder thighs? Learning to love ourselves and others just as we are at this moment is a huge lesson. Learning to not gossip or talk hurtful about ourselves and others is another powerful thing to practice.
God, help me find the middle ground between unrealistic expectations and no expectations at all.
– Melody Beattie
Expectations make us want something other than what we have, when what we have is already a great thing. We fail to enjoy the here and now, always looking for something better, something that is missing. When we let that balloon go and watch the air release and send it buzzing and flapping across the room, we realize how good life already is. It then leaves room to be pleasantly surprised when the great things do happen in your life. When we are attached to outcomes by means of expectations, it is sort of like the bandaid stuck to a hairy place on the skin. At some point it is going to have to be ripped off, and it is going to take some hair and skin with it. It is going to hurt. If we can learn to let go of expectations and simply accept what is, we will be much happier. Hope, but never expect.
Never expect. Never assume. Never ask. Never demand. Just let it be. Because if it is meant to be, it will happen, the way you want things to be.
This doesn’t mean to me that we don’t do our best to accomplish our dreams and goals. I believe in doing my best. I also believe that I shouldn’t beat myself up when my best isn’t getting it done. I believe that when that happens, I just need to regroup and figure out an outside the box idea.
Never forget that you are one of a kind. Never forget that if there weren’t any need for you in all your uniqueness to be on this earth, you wouldn’t be here in the first place. And never forget, no matter how overwhelming life’s challenges and problems seem to be, that one person can make a difference in the world. In fact, it is always because of one person that all changes that matter in the world come about. So be that one person.
– Buckminster Fuller
I also believe that my expectations should be about me, not other people. I believe in what others are capable of being, I see the greatness in them. I also know that not everyone is interested in being everything they are capable of being, or they are refusing to see their greatness. I let that be. When they are ready, I will hold up the mirror of my belief in them, until then I will wait.
GIVE. But don’t allow yourself to be used. LOVE. But don’t allow your heart to be abused. TRUST. But don’t be naïve. LISTEN. But don’t lose your own voice.
So have gratitude and appreciation for where you are. Have dreams and goals to meet that raise you up. Give the best you have. Be happy with where you are. Go out and do something remarkable!
I love when people that have been through hell walk out of the flames carrying buckets of water for those still consumed by the fire.
– Stephanie Sparkles