Dreaming With Your Eyes Wide Open Is Self Empowerment

As children you believe that your parents are invincible, indestructible, and that they will never let you down.  Then the unthinkable happens and they do.

Then when you are older and you think wiser, you fall in love for the first time.  As you view this person through rose colored glasses, seeing no faults, but only the perfection of your love, you place them upon a pedestal thinking that they will never hurt you.  Then the unimaginable happens, and they break your heart.

It isn’t your parents or your best friend, or your first love that let you down.  It is your own expectations, which were unreal.  You are broken hearted by your own projections of who who you wanted them to be, which was something that no one could live up to.

“The strongest source of empowerment is that which we find within ourselves” – Brett Blumenthal

What you discover is that it is unfair to put someone else in charge of your life.  It is unfair, because each person is responsible for themselves.  Handing it off to someone else will only hurt both them and you.  When you build your house upon the foundation of your soul, and take it’s direction, then you can add those you love to connect to your souls home.  You add your spiritual beliefs, your family, your friends, your career – everything you want in life, but the empowerment that comes from that foundation is what makes everything run.

“I came to believe that my identity goes beyond the outer roles I play.  It transcends the ego.  I came to understand that there is an Authentic “I” within – an “I AM”, or divine spark within the soul” – Sue Monk Kid

The roles you play, being a wife or husband; being a mother or father; being a son or daughter, being a grandmother or a grandchild – those roles can make you happy, but they are not the source of the happiness.  The source of the happiness comes from within.  Otherwise you are burdening your happiness on the expectations of those roles, burdening your loved ones unfairly with the responsibility of making you happy.  That is dooming yourself to be the perpetrator of a broken family filled with trauma and drama.

“We simply can’t control what comes out of people’s mouths.  However, we can control how we feel about what they say”  – Scarlett Jones

The same thing is true for your friends and those you work with.  You can’t base your happiness on what those around you say or do.  Or don’t say or do.  Have you ever worked really hard on a project at work, and no one noticed your brilliance?  Were you trying to be brilliant to have others laud you, or because you loved exceeding the expectations of others?

I love it when someone notices I did a good job, beat the deadline, came in under budget, etc.., but it needs to be for your own empowerment that you feel good about it.  Then if someone else does notice, that is whipping cream on the dessert, good when it is there, but not necessary to be enjoyed as a great dessert.

Have you ever planned a trip with the girlfriends and then were disappointed when others didn’t contribute and left all of the work for you to do?  What really caused the unhappiness?

Miscommunication, unrealistic expectations of others?  What about if you come from the viewpoint of creating an experience of joy?  Being authentic enough to ask for help when you need it, without expectation of how the help shows up.  Creating from that place is a gift to yourself and to those others who will be there.  It takes all of the drama out of the experience, leaving a space of “WOW” for what is created.  It makes you vulnerable to the beauty of what happens next.

Using the analogy of the butterfly.  The caterpillar is vulnerable in creating the chrysalis, not knowing how it will all turn out.  Knowing that the transformation is necessary, doesn’t make it any easier to do it.  The butterfly is vulnerable as it fights to get released from the chrysalis, dry its wings so that it can take flight.  It is a beautiful creation that can’t see the brilliance of the colors and designs of its own wings.  Putting your own human thoughts into the analogy, this transformation into something new would be terrifying.

“Your authentic self is the source of your brilliance.  It’s the universal you – the person you always thought you could be before your fears and beliefs about what is really possible reined in this brilliant reality.  Getting in touch with the source of your brilliance and staying connected will make you shine every day.  Tapping into your intuition is how you will discover your authentic self and your true brilliance” – Angela Artemis

There is no manual provided when you tap into intuition and transform your life from the ego driven life, to the life of being self-empowered and fueled from within.  It is a journey of self-discovery.  It is scary and terrifying because you will almost certainly fall and have to get back up many times.

You also have the joy and satisfaction of knowing that it is your own magnificent journey.  There is a tunnel that you drive through when you travel to Yosemite National Park.  On one side of the tunnel you have beautiful mountains and trees and you think this is what the park is about.  Then as you emerge through the tunnel it is like arriving on another planet.  While what you saw before the tunnel was beautiful scenery, it pales in comparison to the vista that opens before you as you exit the tunnel.

Discovering your true authentic self and living from that place is like coming out of that tunnel.  You thought you were happy before, but it pales in comparison to the true source of happiness when you live from within.   Your soul becomes visible to yourself and others.  It opens the door to soul to soul connections.

Have you ever met someone and it is like you’ve known them your whole life in 5 minutes?  That is a soul to soul connection.

Every day you connect, lose connection and reconnect to that brilliance of your soul’s intuition.  You learn to believe in your future self.  It is like the beauty of that butterfly taking flight.  Miracles take place every day.  Tap your true potential.  Spread those wings and fly.

As always, LemonadeMakers is here to help if you ever need someone to coach you to your magnificence.

Sheryl Silbaugh

I am married with 4 grown children who are all married and currently have 14 grandchildren and two great granddaughters. I work fulltime as a Director at Bank of America and I am the founder of LemonadeMakers.org, which is a website and Facebook page dedicated to personal transformation and growth. We all have life's lemons show up in our life, this website helps us to make them into lemonade.