Are You Pushing Your Limits?
“Bravery is not the absence of fear. Bravery is feeling the fear, the doubt, the insecurity, and deciding that something else is more important” – Mark Manson
Every year we commit ourselves to making changes in our lives. We may or may not call them goals, or new years resolutions. The thing is that we all change, whether it is on purpose or it just happens. Those changes can happen in uncontrolled chaos, or from being committed to something vitally important. Whether change happens to us or for us, it is up to us to make those decisions, day by day & moment by moment.
“I wish for the same thing I’ve hoped for since the beginning. I wish for a life so brave, so unpredictable, so full of unexpected joys and unforgettable love that no box could possible contain all my memories. Such a life won’t be perfect. It’ll be something better. It’ll be my own paradise” – Patti Smith
I think that the one thing all of humanity can agree on, is wanting a happy life. It may look different depending on our age, our sexual preference, our religion, our culture, our politics – but it is still desiring joy and happiness in our lives, and our families lives. Each decision that we make in this regard comes from us following those things mentioned above. The funny thing is, the personal definition of what constitutes all of those things — may not be authentic to who we are at a soul level. A lot of them come from following someone else’s value system. Our parents, our teachers, our mentors or the society that we associate with. As they say in Texas, “that dog don’t hunt”.
It’s not perfect, It’s a work in progress
“Finding the passion and purpose in your life is a trial-by-fire process. You don’t simply wake up one day and become happy doing one thing forever and ever. It’s a constant work-in-progress” – Mark Manson
It’s kind of funny how we have this notion in our head that if we are able to make this one change or answer this one soul searching question about our life, that it will be a one and done thing. That somehow one thing changing would make us happy forever. There is no one-size-fits-all for anything in life. This is because growth is a constantly changing who we are. What makes us happy today in this moment is fleeting. This is because in life, you literally cannot pass this way again. Everything is changing and so this moment in time doesn’t last, it doesn’t repeat itself. Progress is change.
“Passion will move men beyond themselves, beyond their shortcomings, beyond their failures” – Joseph Campbell
What I love about figuring out how to accomplish my desires is the concept of failure as an ending. When you are on your way to someplace that you’ve never been before, even with a navigation system you sometimes end up on a dead end. Just this past week I had a doctors visit and they had moved their office. So I am following the directions on the navigation system in my car and I end up at a dead end. Thankfully there were some security guards talking next to this gate to the high school who knew where I needed to go.
“Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle” – Christian D Larson
Reaching a dead end, my journey to the doctors office had failed. I didn’t just turn around and go back home. I sought new directions. It’s the same thing with whatever our current life goals are. If you reach a road block, a dead end, the bridge is out – you shouldn’t just quit trying to get to where your passion is leading you. You should try something else. You should go in a new direction to the same destination.
New Directions required –
BE different to MAKE a DIFFERENCE
“If you desire to make a difference in the world, you must be different from the world” – Elaine Dalton
A big part of being able to make the changes in your life that you desire, is a healthy self esteem. It is how you bring your life into soul alignment. It is living a life in integrity to your soul’s purpose. What your true values are deep inside of you. Without going through a process of determining what belongs to your soul – and what was adopted from outside of you from an deep seated need to belong – you can’t make true lasting changes in your life. You can make temporary changes from will power, but it will not result in the personal transformation that you desire.
“Don’t give in to your fears. If you do you won’t be able to talk to your heart” – Paulo Coelho
If you don’t want to continue falling back into old patterns and habits you need to learn a new way to facilitate your life changes. To learn a process that helps you to spot the patterns as they begin again to interfere in your passions and desires for change. As you increase your awareness, you will find those old patterns hold less power and control over your life. They began from a desire to keep us safe. But as you grow and change in life, those patterns become out-grown, outdated. They need to be released. That can only happen by your developing awareness of why you created them and how your subconscious is trying to avoid the risk of standing out and being different.
This year you have some dreams that you are working on. You have some goals that you are struggling with. It might be that you are ready to break out of your comfort zone. To go to that next level in your life. To realize your full potential in your job/career; your personal relationships; your health; financial or spiritual goals. Don’t let them go.
Do something different, join us on March 7th and find a new direction to fulfilling your dreams, goals and commitments.