How We Look At Life

“Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens.” – John Homer Miller

How do you look at what happens in your life? Do you think that fate steps in and makes certain things happen? Are you just along for the ride? Or are you the master of your destiny? Is life a school where you learn a lesson and then move on to the next one? Or are you┬ástuck in “Groundhog Day” repeating the lesson over and over again, because you just can’t get it right?

I firmly believe that it is all about how we look at things that happen in our life. Does life happen to you (it is beyond my control) or do you happen to life ( I am in control)? I believe (at least at this moment) that it is a combination of both.

When drama has entered “through stage door left”, sometimes it knocks me on my butt. I sit there experiencing the emotions that the drama triggered. Heartbreak, fear, anger, angst…, etc. At some point that emotion washes through and I start back up the emotional ladder into more positive vibrations. I don’t sit there wallowing in it. I pick myself back up and look for what I can use to get back on track. I review what happened. Was it something that I caused, or was I just in the way of someone else’s causation? What can I do to bring the whole experience out of the refuse and into something that can be used?

That is the way that my mind works. Is this a good story? Is there a hero here or is this just a comedy of errors? What is so fantastic is the tapestry that life weaves in our background when we aren’t paying attention. Look at a medieval tapestry and there is so much happening. All of these different scenes/dramas are in the background each telling a different story to each one who views it. What story is life telling you? Look again and I know that you can find whatever kind of story you are looking for. That is the beauty of “how we look at life” – it is all in the interpretation.

Sheryl Silbaugh

I am married with 4 grown children who are all married and currently have 14 grandchildren and two great granddaughters. I work fulltime as a Director at Bank of America and I am the founder of, which is a website and Facebook page dedicated to personal transformation and growth. We all have life's lemons show up in our life, this website helps us to make them into lemonade.