What We Are

“It’s really easy to fall into the trap of believing what we do is more important than what we are. Of course, it’s the opposite that’s true: what we are ultimately determines what we do!” – Fred Rogers

This goes along with the thought of who you become as you chase after your dreams. You can’t make a difference in the world if you didn’t first make a difference in your own life. For example, if you want to create a business that cares about people, you first have to care about people yourself.

It also goes along with how money, fame, or any other thing that we all think we want and need, doesn’t totally change us. It usually just accentuates who we already are. So if you look at someone that you knew in school that is now the rich guy on Wall Street, or the famous actress in Hollywood, and think that they were changed by the fame and fortune, they may have been to some extent. However, it is more likely true that they were always that way, it was just a smaller piece of themselves that they expanded as they achieved their dreams. And if the change that fame and fortune revealed was negative, then it is likely they achieved their greatness too fast.

We have this unbelievable power to fix what’s broken, heal what hurts; and to lift the veil of self imposed blindness for ourselves. It is amazing as you are looking for ways to make your dream for life come true, what the universe reveals to you if you only keep an open mind. It is critical that we continue to look at ourselves honestly, and admit when we are not behaving ourselves (hint – remove the blinders). We need to look at what we need to change or improve to be capable of bringing our dreams into reality.

We all have this ability for greatness, but if it was given to us immediately it would overpower us, because most of us are not yet ready for all of it. Think of those in Hollywood or the music industry who were literally an overnight success, that ended up dead from a drug overdose, car accident or suicide.

So instead allow the universe to bring into our lives the things that we will need to grow and expand into the greatness that we are. Like a snake we need to keep shedding the old skins (old ways of living) for the new larger skins. Then when we have expanded just enough, the universe will flood in the final new expansion as our dream comes into reality. Because really, we are already the person we have dreamed of becoming, we just don’t see it yet.

Sheryl Silbaugh

I am married with 4 grown children who are all married and currently have 14 grandchildren and two great granddaughters. I work fulltime as a Director at Bank of America and I am the founder of LemonadeMakers.org, which is a website and Facebook page dedicated to personal transformation and growth. We all have life's lemons show up in our life, this website helps us to make them into lemonade.