Never Living

“We are always getting ready to live, but never living.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

This is a quote to really sink your teeth into. So few words, yet such a vast amount of meaning can be attached to it. The meaning that comes flying out to me, is “always preparing” – taking this seminar and the next, yet always being stopped by worries and concerns.

This past 18 months or so, I have been attending seminar after seminar – probably 5 – 6 a yr. Most of them have had a speaker that was presented at one that sells on attending their seminar next. So I have seen some of the same people attending several of the ones that I have attended. There are some people that already have a good business that are looking for ideas on how to expand their market or do a better job selling to the clients they already have. There are some that are shining stars that do really well implementing what they learn, and others that seem to be at the same place every single new seminar that I see them at.

I have learned a great deal about myself; where my passion really lies; and made some great connections that are helping me fill in the blanks. This is the Monday after Mark Hoover’s “Ignite Your Business” seminar, and the day that the rubber has to meet the road. 18 people or so, will either still be getting ready to live (or implement what they learned to live a better life – fulfill the dreams they put on the vision board) or they won’t.

The sad thing is that most of us pay someone for advice (attend a seminar or take a class at a college, work with a coach or therapist, etc…) and then we don’t follow it. It makes us feel like we are trying, but unless action is followed behind learning, wisdom never happens.

“Living” to me means that we just do something, and it works or it doesn’t. But if we don’t try, we never make any progress. If we don’t try we aren’t living, we are existing – and there is a big difference between the two. If we aren’t living, then we are existing in a place that is full of regrets and sad memories. The place where all the clutter of half started and never finished projects exist. This is the place where I should have; if only I had; why didn’t I ever; and all of the places where we bailed on life and people – it all lives here. This is the unfinished life that is regretted at death.

So don’t just make a promise to yourself that on Monday I will – make and execute a plan that puts at least one thing into motion to actually live life and experience your vision – live the life you were born to live.

Sheryl Silbaugh

I am married with 4 grown children who are all married and currently have 14 grandchildren and two great granddaughters. I work fulltime as a Director at Bank of America and I am the founder of, which is a website and Facebook page dedicated to personal transformation and growth. We all have life's lemons show up in our life, this website helps us to make them into lemonade.