“We are all here for some special reason. Stop being a prisoner of your past. Become the architect of your future.” Robin Sharma – Author of The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari

I love the thought of being the architect of your future. As an architect you have free reign of your imagination. You can both design and place a bathroom anywhere in the home you want to. You can create flow throughout the house. You can place the kitchen so that it faces the sunrise in the morning and the family room to enjoy of the sunsets of the evening. 

You can create beautiful works of art throughout the design of the house. I have seen embossed leather wallpaper in a study with dark wood bookshelves and a large fireplace that made me want to live in that room. I have seen such grand staircases that you wanted to dress up like Scarlet O’Hara and come down the staircase to make a grand entrance.

As an architect you can use your imagination and create a life that has never been lived in the past, and will never be lived in the future. You can make a difference, not just in the small circle of people that you live with and around, but you can make a difference to the whole world.

Look at some of the medical advances, that were dreamed up because someone wanted to cure their mom or dad or sibling or spouse. Vaccinations that have saved millions of lives. We are all here for some reason. You may think that your gift is a small thing. But your gift has a reason for being in the world at this moment. You are here as part of the picture, and without you the picture will be incomplete.

I have heard several of the contestants on The Voice (listening for when my neice finally!! is on the show) say that singing is the only thing that saved them. There was an example of a girl with something wrong with her brain that couldn’t talk and singing somehow fixed the damage; the boy who was obese and bullied who found solace in singing; and how singing was the only thing that pulled another boy through depression when both of his parents had illnesses that took their lives. Now they are sharing the gift that saved them with the world. And somewhere in the world, someone is going to be saved through their own unique gift because they now know it is possible.

So be the architect of your future.  Don’t let what has happened to you in your past stop you from living the life of your dreams. Somewhere in the world is someone who needs to hear your story and know what is possible for their own lives. Your people are waiting for you to step up, don’t keep them waiting forever.

Sheryl Silbaugh

I am married with 4 grown children who are all married and currently have 14 grandchildren and two great granddaughters. I work fulltime as a Director at Bank of America and I am the founder of, which is a website and Facebook page dedicated to personal transformation and growth. We all have life's lemons show up in our life, this website helps us to make them into lemonade.