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Make A Date With Destiny With 20/20 Focus and Vision

Without a vision, where is the focus? 

– Lailah Gifty Akita

Vision tells us our destination.  It doesn’t tell us how to get there, it just tells us how we will know when we arrive.  Focus is what helps up to do the work to arrive at the destination that vision has uncovered in our heart.  Focus is the road to the destination.  If we don’t have a vision we can’t have a destination and we will just be wandering, lost in the forest.  We will end up going in circles back to where we started.  Lost, dazed and confused.

When you are clear on your vision, it will pull you forward and out of bed in the morning.

– Sean McCabe

We have all heard the story of the person who worked at a job for 30 years, retires and gets the gold watch.  Then after a short while of sitting at home with nothing to do, they die.  They never uncovered their life purpose, their reason for living.  They dragged themselves out of bed each day and went to a job that didn’t fulfill them.  They never discovered the reason they were born.  Instead they punched a time clock day after day, month after month, until the years fled.  They never found their way out of the forest.

Your vision is not limited by what your eye can see, but by what your mind can imagine.

– Ellison Onizuka

The only way to find that vision, our life purpose is to look for it.  It is deep inside our heart.  It is connected to the things that we love to do.  It’s not about something that happens in some distant future.  It is about the quality of choices you are making in your life this moment.  It’s about what you choose to see, to perceive, to feel and what you choose to do in this moment of time.  The choices that push you to engage in life at its deepest meaning for you.  It changes who you are NOW.

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart.  Who looks outside, dreams.  Who looks inside, awakens.

  – Carl Jung

It’s a funny thing when one day you wake up to your vision.  We might have been wandering in circles for years, looking for that one special person or that title at work that said “I have arrived!”.  We might have worked our fingers to the bone for years to find elusive fame and fortune.  Whatever we thought was the answer to that longing deep in our heart, once we had it, we discovered it wasn’t it.  It was just another circle in the forest.  Then one day it happens.  We finally realize it isn’t outside of us.  It’s not a person, a career, money in the bank, a dream house or car.  It is something inside of us that is calling us home.

Vision is a destination – a fixed point to which we focus all effort. Strategy is a route – an adaptable path to get us where we want to go.

– Simon Sinek

Usually what wakes us up is being disillusioned, disappointed, that feeling of having hit rock bottom of bad decisions and failed plans.  When we stop fighting the uphill battle, give up and give in – when we are in that spot of finally understanding what it means to “let go and let God” it finally happens.  Your heart feels calm, whole and centered.  Your soul comes alive and feels truly safe for the first time because finally we are listening to the inner voice.

Your vision becomes clear as you climb a high tree and see the way out of the forest of lost causes.  You understand the connections to what has happened in your life and how each trial and tribulation, each circle around the forest was teaching you something vital that you needed to learn.  Peace with your past, present and future permeates your bones.  You see far off the destination your soul is leading you to.  You realize the importance of the journey.

The journey has places where you became confused as to what the right choice was – at the same time that confusion is where you learned something new that stretched your comfort zone.  The journey was where you were betrayed and broken by someone you thought loved you and would never hurt you – at the same time it was how you learned to heal your heart.  The journey lead to lots of frustration and you tried and failed over and over to learn something critical to your dreams – at the same time those frustrations lead to more authentic decisions based on your own judgment and not someone else’s.

Even the parts of the journey where the sadness was a deep pit of despair, we learned to listen the heart, hear the words of wisdom of the soul and recover our happiness and joy.

2020 is the year of focus, and vision.  Take a look at every goal in the past five years that you have set.  Some of them failed dramatically.  Some of them didn’t even get lift off before they came crashing down.  Some were planned to turn out one way and actually came about 180 degrees in another direction.  Look for the self sabotage.  Look for the places where you missed the road signs to turn left or right.  Where you missed the detours.  Where you got lost.  Now program your GPS system with your updated vision.  Get clear about what it is you want to feel and be open to the feeling and not how or what is going to get you there.  Look for signs, clues, and ask for directions.  Don’t give up on your dreams.  Listen to the voice in your heart and soul.  Get back on track to where you are supposed to be.

Be fearless. 

Have a vision. 

Get inspired

Believe in yourself.

Always hustle. 

Stay determined. 

Stay focused. 

Stay motivated.

Keep pushing.

Be happy.

Get our there, own the day.

If you are reading this, I want to invite you to a virtual get together.  I want to share some ideas and concepts of how you can make 2020 the year of focus and vision for you.  Working together you will learn how to create your own personalized dream map, claim your own unique goals of change and transformation; refine them into goal crushing gremlins; and finally, to truly understand what your motivation around those goals is all about.

Hansel and Gretel left bread crumbs when their parents led them into the woods.  While they had a great idea of creating a trail for find their way home, the bread crumbs were eaten by the birds and so it didn’t work out.  Your destiny has been calling you out of the woods, but your fears create patterns of self sabotage.  Those patterns of self sabotage have been eating up your destiny’s breadcrumbs.  At our virtual get together I am going to share the tools I use to help me listen to the voice of my heart and soul.  The tools which have helped me over and over again catch my self sabotaging gremlins.  With clarity and focus I have been able to find destiny’s trail, and get back to fulfilling my destiny.

Just click below to go to a google form to collect your contact information so I can send you how to get on our Zoom call.  I know that if someone gives me something I may or may not make the time to actually do the work.  But if someone takes the time to work with me through the material I get some action and forward momentum started.  So take this small first step for 2020 and lets create something personally designed just for you!

Click below and turn your breadcrumbs into a clear path to your date with destiny.

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Launch Yourself on Every Wave

Life, like surfing, is all about wave selection and balance. Never let the best waves in life pass you by. Ride it now before it’s too late.

– Kiteboardstuff.com

I believe that our dreams, our true dreams, are given to us at birth.  That we are designed to grow and stretch beyond what we think we are capable of.  That we are given heroes journeys to push us to accomplish the dreams.  That those dreams are what make us passionate, and give us a life of purpose.

Sometimes in the waves of change, we find our true direction.

– Unknown

I think of people who are adventurers and broke open new journeys we didn’t even know we could go on.  People like the Wright Brothers, who pioneered the ability to fly.  Pilots like Charles Lindbergh and Amelia Earhart who created and broke records in pioneering flight.  She’s quoted as saying, “What do dreams know of boundaries.”  she had true unfaltering determination and pushed her limits.  She said, “when you fail, your failure must be but a challenge to others”.  I love the concept of my failures actually serving as something positive –  to challenge others to succeed in their own dreams.

You don’t get into something to test the waters.  You get into things to make waves.

  – Rituals

Every year there are new tech companies that are creating a new cutting edge business or disrupting an industry.  Right now, someone is launching themselves in trying to fulfill a dream they never thought they could accomplish.  The really critical thing is to not give up on your dream as being too far beyond your capability to accomplish.

Waves are my inspiration.  Not because they rise and fall, but because each time they fail, they rise, again and again.

  – Dr. Abdul J Kalam

When someone decided one day that they want to be a mountain climber, they don’t just walk out the door and climb a mountain.  You get training in how to use the equipment.  You train both the body and the mind.  You start with small mountains and work your way up to the bigger ones.  You join others who like that sport, becoming a member of a team.  You fall down, you get back up and fall down again and again, until you start reaching mastery.  It is done step by step, day by day, year by year.

The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.

  – Alan Watts

You grow and expand that comfort zone again and again.  You trust that you deserve to fulfill the dream, because you have worked hard to get the skills that are necessary to make it happen.  You learn to trust yourself and your team.  Change is part of the dance of life.  You learn to trust the dream as it shifts, changes and transforms too.  Sometimes as we are moving towards the dream it is like driving through fog.  All we can see are the next 100 feet in front of us.  We travel towards what we see and as we travel, we see farther and farther.  We see what we thought was a mailbox on the side of road shift into something else as we get clearer eyesight.

Just like waves in the ocean come and go, no challenge is permanent. Problems will come and go too. We must enjoy the Challenges just like we enjoy the waves.

– RVM

This is because our brains will take what little we can see or decipher and basically guess at what we are seeing based on past knowledge. But as we get more clarity by pursuing the dream it seems to shift its shape into something totally different. It’s not so much that the dream is changing as it is that we are getting a better understanding about what the dream really is.  Each problem that we encounter and solve changes us.  Each change brings the dream into more clarity.  We begin to realize that there are 50 ways we can achieve the dream.  That our expectations around the dream are what is really changing, not the dream itself.  We begin to truly imagine the possibilities of the dream.

The big waves in life might come from outside of you, but the ability to ride them comes from inside of you – from your character strengths.

– Fatima Doman

Over and over again we see the concept of “as above, so below”.  The teaching of the tree of our life reaching high into the heavens and deep below the surface with the roots.  Life is not lived in one direction only.  If you are reaching only for the sky and neglect your roots, the imbalance in your life may create temporary success, but will inevitably fall over.  And if you only feed the roots and neglect reaching for the heavens, then you won’t produce anything positive in your life.  It is the combination of inner and outer growth that leads to true lasting success.

Individually, we are one drop.  Together, we are an ocean.

  – Ryunosuke Satoro

I am inviting everyone to a virtual get together.  I love the concept of “together we are an ocean”.  Working together you will learn how to create your own personalized dream map, claim your own unique goals of change and transformation; refine them into goal crushing gremlins; and finally, to truly understand what your motivation around those goals is all about.

It’s not just about writing some words on a piece of paper that says in 30 days I will . . . ,   It’s not just about creating a vision board with pretty pictures of our dream house, vacations, our dream body or $1M in our bank account, and then waiting for the “magic” to draw in what we want in our lives.  You are going to brainstorm your way to make your dreams a reality.  You will map out your detours around your own unique self sabotaging obstacles, and finally be able to fully implement your plan.

Just click below to go to a google form to collect your contact information so I can send you how to get on our Zoom call.  I know that if someone gives me something I may or may not make the time to actually do the work.  But if someone takes the time to work with me through the material I get some action and forward momentum started.  So take this small first step for 2020 and lets create something personally designed just for you!

What I know for sure is that we all hit walls of failure, fatigue.  We all get that feeling that “Life happens to us”, when it really is happening for us.  I know what it feels like when we are getting hit with a sledge hammer.  It helps to have a few tricks up your sleeves to handle them so that they just create slowdowns.  For those times when the rain or snow is coming down so hard and fast we can’t see the road.  We might have to take a few detours around things like washed out roads or bridges.  Just don’t give up and stop completely.

As a kid did you ever play the game Red Light/Green Light?  You had someone who called out Red Light for Stop and Green Light for Go.  The goal was to reach the finish line first.  Let’s change that game just a little.  In the movie “Star Man” with Jeff Bridges – there is this line about yellow lights.  “Starman: I watched you very carefully. Red light, stop; green light, go; yellow light, go very fast.”  Instead of getting Red Lights for our goals or trying to get green lights – Let’s go for Yellow Lights – throw the caution meaning out the window, and let’s “go very fast!”

Click below and let’s all learn to “go very fast”.

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On The Journey Of Self Transformation, You Need A Map

Imagining what we want next year is a far more powerful way to face the future than imaging what we fear.

– Marianne Williamson

Part of the process of planning out your dreams, goals, and visions of a better life is looking back to see what you have done so far. Where is your comfort zone today and what growth to it happened in 2019?

What you are capable of achieving is determined by your talent and ability. What you attempt to do is determined by your motivation. How well you do something is determined by your attitude.

– Lou Holtz

Part of my own growth was creating a pilot program with an opportunity for a scholarship to attend it. I combed through my old journals, things I had studied and notes from other peoples programs I have attended, to come up with some questions to get people to talk a little about their own hopes and dreams. I believe that we already know what needs to be done – that the questions we ask, already have answers deep inside of us.  That those answers have been waiting for us to be able to accept them as truths, and that timing is everything.  If you are reading this then I believe that the time for you is now.

I believe that sometimes we need someone else to ask the questions that send us searching for our own personal truths. The door is waiting for us to open it, and sometimes we just need to hear the invitation one more time.  That time is now.

Part of the process of self transformation is learning more about who we are.

  • All of us have some false assumptions around how long something is going to take us.
  • All of us have self limiting beliefs – which reminds me of Henry Ford’s quote – “Whether you think can, or you can’t, your right.”  We will always find a way to prove what we believe by subconsciously looking for ways to prove it.  Self limiting beliefs are a part of the self sabotage process, because subconsciously we don’t want to prove ourselves wrong.  We are afraid both of being wrong about our beliefs, or that there is truth out there that will change us.
  • We all live within a comfort zone that is maintained by all of the above beliefs.  We feel safe inside of it because it is what we know.  It is how we were raised, and how we have lived our life.  We will fight to protect it even as we maintain that we want to change.  When we venture to step over the line, we will create an emergency that pulls us back inside.
  • And if the stick doesn’t work in maintaining the comfort zone, the carrot will.  We will be offered something we have always wanted (that promotion and more responsibility at work), which will at the same time pull us away from what the universe is trying to reveal to us (because now we have to work late in order to learn everything about our new position and we don’t have the time to do anything else).
  • The last of the beliefs that we have is that in our need to find a way to change or transform – is that baby steps is the only way we can make a change.  We believe for example, that if we want to lose weight it must come off through a lot of self denial, hard work through exercise, and only 1 pound at a time.  That anything that happens fast or isn’t drastic can’t possibly work or will only work for a limited time.  Leaps of faith are unrealistic and just lead to dramatic falls.

In order to think or live differently, we need to understand our own life patterns.  There were some answers to the questions in the scholarship application that revealed some common patterns. Almost everyone had thought in the past twelve months about big life changes – such as moving some place new to them; finding a different job. This indicated that they were unhappy enough in their life to contemplate changing everything.

A vast majority wanted a better life in order to give back something good to the world.  I loved this, because even though they have some pretty big issues they were dealing with in their lives, they wanted something better not only for themselves, but to help others too.

They wanted to be better spouses, parents, better people.  These are all roles that we play in our lives.  It is normal to want to be the best, but sometimes we are so busy putting out the fires in our lives that we are too exhausted to put in the work it requires to be the best we can be.  To master the important things in our life.  The experts say it takes 10,000 hours to become a master of something – a master chef, a master wood carver, a master of anything.  Who has 10,000 hours to put into one thing?

Some of the applicants had just completed or were going through a divorce.  When you have a major transition take place in your life, like a death, divorce, or job loss, it becomes a time to take stock of who you are and where you are going.  Many times these transitions take away the thing we thought we were.  When the kids leave for college, how do you transition to an empty nester?  When you retire from your job, who are you now?

Around 50% of those who responded had problems in the past or were working towards sobriety and ending addictions.  There is not only living with the label of addict, there is a load of personal issues to work through because most of us who have some sort of addiction used it as a coping mechanism for our lives.  The problems we were running away from didn’t disappear just because we tried to.  How do we reconnect with who we are, accept it, work with it and transform it, all while dealing with all of our other problems?

The answers to the questions told me that most of us are looking to make big changes in our lives, we just need a little help to get started, and a little motivation to keep going and not let fears stop us.

Life presents you with so many decisions. A lot of times, they’re right in front of you.  Come join us and see how I created my own 20/20 vision for myself and for what I want to accomplish with LemonadeMakers for 2020.  Learn how to create your own personalized map, claim your own unique goals; refine them; learn how to understand what your motivation around those goals is all about.

It’s not just about writing some words on a piece of paper.  It’s not just about creating a vision board and then waiting for the “magic” to draw in what we want in our lives.  We are going to brainstorm our way, map out the detours around the obstacles, and fully implement your plan.

Just click below to go to a google form to collect your contact information so I can send you how to get on our Zoom call.  I know that if someone gives me something I may or may not make the time to actually do the work.  But if someone takes the time to work with me through the material I get some action and forward momentum started.  So take this small first step for 2020 and lets create something personally designed just for you!

What I know for sure is that we all hit walls of failure, fatigue.  Life happens not to us, but for us.  I know that sometimes it feels like we are getting hit with a sledge hammer.  It helps us to have a few tricks up our sleeves to handle them so that they just create slowdowns when the rain or snow is coming down so hard and fast we can’t see.  And  maybe a few detours around washed out roads or bridges.  Just don’t give up and stop completely.   In the movie Star Man with Jeff Bridges there is a line about yellow lights when they are driving down the road.  “Starman: I watched you very carefully. Red light, stop; green light, go; yellow light, go very fast.”

Click below and let’s all learn to “go very fast”.

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeejKI_wrjne5xWtEVcaa5oZPwRlsBZyhFkAw6ugsuOP0HDiA/viewform?usp=pp_url

 

Part Two – It’s Not Just About Chasing A Dream, It’s About Catching It Too

Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it.  The time will pass anyway.

  – Earl Nightingale

On our birthdays and the beginning of each new year we take a look at both the time that has passed, and what time might yet be available to us.  We think of the dreams we have that haven’t come true yet.  We wonder if we have what it takes to get them done.  We might even judge ourselves of not being worthy of them coming true.  I firmly believe that if God has planted something in my heart to do, then I must have the ability to do it.  At the same time I wonder if he’s really, really sure I can do it, because it feels like it is just out of reach.  I wonder who am I to go after something that big.  Fears creep in all sorts of shapes and sizes to prevent the dreams from being fulfilled.

My son has been visiting with his wife and little dog.  They took in a rescue dog about a year ago.  He’s named after the pirate in the movie The Goonies – One-Eyed Willie because before they got him he lost an eye.  Willie loves cheese.  My son will hold up a piece of cheese and Willie will jump up to get it.  He will hold it up just out of Willie’s jumping ability and it is amazing how high that little dog will jump for his cheese.  At first you think he can’t do it, but he is determined and somehow he gets just a little bit higher and grabs his cheese.  We all cheer for him.

When we are pursuing a dream, it has to be something just out of reach.  Otherwise it isn’t something that stretches us.  Something that we aren’t sure how to do or what to do to make it happen.  Like Willie, if we want it bad enough we will find that little bit of extra strength, and leap up just high enough to grab our cheese (dream ) and pull it down into reality.

Take a moment and write this out for yourself (taken from the program DO IT SCARED with my own additions) fill in the blanks at the end of each sentence.

This is the year that I will MAKE  ____________________________________________________ (your dream)

a reality. 

This is the year that I will do MORE ____________________________________________ (something positive that moves the needle) 

and LESS _____________________________________________________________________ (telling myself if can’t be done or quitting at the least sign of resistance or failure)

This is the year I will CHOOSE _______________________________________________________ (the hard choice to stretch myself)

OVER ________________________________________________________________________ (the easy choice that maintains the same boundaries I now have)

to do BIG things this year, I MUST DO __________________________________________________ (one action, one step at a time) to get started TODAY.

Every year millions of people make New Year’s Resolutions or Goals.  If you have ever joined a gym, you see it happen year after year.  The goal of weight loss or physical fitness of some sort is made and the gym’s are all packed in January.  In February they begin losing a few people,  In March a few more and by April the gym is back to what is normal attendance.  Why do we make goals each year that after a few months fall by the wayside?  And what can you do to make this year different?

So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then when we summon the will they soon become inevitable.

  – Christopher Reeves

I don’t think it is just a matter of being something you truly desire.  And it isn’t just a matter of will power.  Or attitude.  Or a million other words that mean essentially the same thing as motivation.  It is more complicated than that.  Some of it is planning.  Some of it is accountability.  Some of it is getting past the feeling of overwhelm, because we have so much on our list of what needs to be done or may  not even know how to do.  Some of it is getting past feeling frustrated when we seem to be stuck in the mud and can’t make any progress.  So many other little negative reasons, stop signs, or caution lights that add up to another year, in which we didn’t make any or very little progress towards our dreams.

Don’t wait . . , start your business, write your book, enroll in school, start your blog, choose happiness.  You won’t regret starting now.

  – upandforwardonpurpose.com

As we discussed in the previous post the year 2020 is all about focus 20/20 eyesight that allows for perfect clarity, both near and far.  Vision that is crisp and clear.  To build on our foundation of living a better life, whatever that means to you personally.  A year where we can make progress each month and celebrate what we are accomplishing.

A dream written down with a date becomes a goal.  A goal broken down into steps becomes a plan.  A plan backed by action makes your dreams come true.

  – unexpectedlydomestic.com

In pursuit of that take the paragraph that you wrote out above and from those words create three big hairy audacious goals for the year 2020.  One of mine is to launch The Transformational Life Compass program starting with the first of three programs in February.  We did a pilot class in October/November 2019 for six weeks and it was very inspirational.  The first course will be for three months.  I am really excited about it because I know how much I have transformed my own life using these same tools. I was really excited in watching everyone who participated in our pilot course.  They made connections between the archetypes they have been living under, their past experiences, and how self sabotage was showing up in their lives from those archetypes and experiences.

The road to success is not straight.  There is a curve called failure.  A loop called confusion.  Speed bumps called friends.  Red lights called enemies.  Caution lights called family.  You will have flat tires called jobs.  But if you have determination, an engine called perseverance, and a driver called God you will make it to a place called success!

  – drostdesigns.com

Rather than just talking about how to fill in a bunch of answers and creating a goal plan with steps, I would love to invite everyone to a virtual get together and walk you through step by step how I created my own 20/20 vision for myself and for what I would like to accomplish with LemonadeMakers for 2020.  Learn how to claim your goals; how to refine them; and how to understand what your motivation around those goals is all about.  It’s not just about writing some words on a piece of paper.  We are going to brainstorm our way, map out the detours around the obstacles, and fully implement your plan.

Just click below to go to a google form to collect your contact information so I can send you how to get on our Zoom call.  I know that if someone gives me something I may or may not make the time to actually do the work.  But if someone takes the time to work with me through the material I get some action and forward momentum started.  So take this small first step for 2020 and lets make some noise!

What I know for sure is that we all hit walls of failure, fatigue, and flat tires.  It helps us to have a few tricks up our sleeves to handle them so that they just create slowdowns and  maybe a few detours, but don’t stop us completely.   In the movie Star Man with Jeff Bridges there is a line about yellow lights when they are driving down the road.  “Starman: I watched you very carefully. Red light, stop; green light, go; yellow light, go very fast.”

Click below and let’s all learn to “go very fast”.

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeejKI_wrjne5xWtEVcaa5oZPwRlsBZyhFkAw6ugsuOP0HDiA/viewform?usp=pp_url

It’s Not Just About Chasing A Dream, It’s About Catching It Too – Part One

 

Success is not built on success. It’s built on failure. It’s built on frustration. Sometimes it’s built on catastrophe.

– Sumner Redstone

If you have been following our posts for some time, you probably know the story of why I started writing my blog.  My nephew Carl was murdered in a random act of gang violence, literally walking through the park at the wrong time.  As you can imagine, this took a toll on our family.  In addition to grieving over his death, I was concerned about my sister making it through this tragedy.  I started writing through my own grief for both of them on my personal Facebook page and it took on a life of its own.

Persistence can change failure into extraordinary achievement.

– Matt Biondi

After a couple of years I created LemonadeMakers – because when life gives you lemons, you need to make lemonade.  At least I did.   Every part of life is full of choices.  You can choose to hide in the negative or dig for the positive.  Sometimes it seems like we don’t have a choice, but we always do.  It feels like we are so sunk down into the mud, that mud is all we can see.  We then miss the dry ground, the doors that we could open.  The chance for a different choice or response, to what is happening.

All I knew was that I had to bring something good and positive and life affirming to the table for myself and my family.  Then as I cleaned the mud off of me, I saw the need to bring this to others, because we are all going through something.  Maybe not as tragic or violent as my nephews murder, or maybe something even more so.  So a dream was born that just maybe I could help others, inspire them to make their own brand of lemonade.

Love challenges, be intrigued by mistakes, enjoy effort and keep on learning.

– Carol Dweck

As LemonadeMakers has grown, so have I.  It has challenged me to work on my writing skills.  Believe me, I have heard from many readers when the grammar is incorrect, or the misspelling made it through spellcheck.  I think I have proof read something 10 times, and then I am reading an old post and see something that I missed.  It has helped me grow a thicker skin, and let go of the need for perfection and so many other lessons.

Challenges are what make life interesting. Overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.

– Joshua J. Marine

2019 has come to an end and I wanted to talk about how you keep going, growing, and expanding your comfort zone from day to day.  In 2019 my birth father died and I had to let go of the dream I have had for over 55 years – that some day he would call me and tell me how much he loved me and wanted to be a part of my life.

I have been caring for my bonus father (I don’t like the step part of any label, as though it is less than the real thing) and his health has been steadily deteriorating this year and he has been in and out of the hospital.  He is starting to lose brain function and it breaks my heart.

This August we found out that my husband of 46 years has prostrate cancer.  It is outside of the prostrate and so surgery isn’t an option and he is starting radiation therapy.  He was a long haul truck driver, so he had to retire a little sooner than we were planning on.

The entire year I have been working month to month, each month waiting to hear if this is the month I get laid off work.  I have worked for the bank for 15 years and they keep extending the lay off, and they also keep telling me it is coming.

Failure is not the opposite of success; it’s part of success.

– Arianna Huffington

When you add this year up, it has pretty much sucked.  I am sharing this with all of you for a couple of reasons.  I know that I am not the only one that had things go sideways in her life this year.  I think it helps when you know you are not alone in walking and sometimes crawling through life’s storms.  I also wanted to share with all of you some of the great things that happened this year, the times when the storm clouds parted and the sun shined for a brief moment reminding me that storms don’t last forever.

Failure is so important. We speak about success all the time. But it is the ability to resist or use failure that often leads to greater success.

– J.K. Rowling

I stepped out and made a video about “Catching the Perfect Wave”.  I tried to do a couple of webinars, which failed dramatically with no one or only a couple of people attending.  I discovered my own way of doing things, rather than just following in someone else’s steps of how things should be done.  I learned a lot and really expanded my comfort zone around talking and teaching with groups of people.

Success is not final, failure is not fatal; It is the courage to continue that counts.

– Winston Churchill

I created a pilot program about transforming your life.  It centered on the first ring of the Transformational Life Compass, which is all about the labels we live our lives around, the archetypes in our personalities and how to see how we are sometimes our own worst enemy in self sabotaging our life.  We granted scholarships to 22 people and while everyone didn’t show up and some didn’t finish – I think it was a great success.  The full program will start in February and I am really excited about the life transformations it is going to create to those brave enough to come and join us.

Important achievements require a clear focus, all-out effort, and a bottomless trunk full of strategies. Plus allies in learning.

– Carol Dweck

I think  that 2020 is going to be a turning point year for a lot of us.  I love the thought of 20/20 vision, focus that is crisp and clear.  The ability to see both near and far without fog distorting the images.  So how do we take all of the lessons of 2019, the good, bad and ugly experiences and build on that foundation something even better?

The only limit to the height of your achievements is the reach of your dreams and your willingness to work for them.

– Michelle Obama

For the start of the year, to give us all 20/20 insight and vision of what we can accomplish in this brand new year, I am designing a workshop.  It will give all of us working together the tools of how to plan out the new year.  What to do when the lemons start falling off the tree and hitting us in the head.

There is a military proverb that says something like “in war the battle plans only survive until the battle begins”.  Every year we make goals or resolutions to make changes in our life.  It might be for health, or education, a better job, working on our marriage, raising children, buying our first home and so on.  Those goals or dreams seem to survive the first month or two of the year and then they morph into something unachievable and unrecognizable.

There are no limits to what you can accomplish, except the limits you place on your own thinking.

– Brian Tracy

With everything going on with my job, my husband, and my dad, I could put my dreams for the next step for LemonadeMakers on hold.  I could put my entire 20/20 focus on these very important personal things in my life.  I could just let LemonadeMakers struggle along until my personal life got easier.  I put my writing on hold for too many years.  I refused to do that in 2019, and I won’t do that in 2020.  I am in a marathon and there comes a point in running where if you keep going, you break through into a new level.  I want to share with you how I did this in 2019 and how I plan on it in 2020.

The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.

  – Eleanor Roosevelt

So stay tuned tomorrow for Part Two, to read about some of the tools I use and that you can use too – I can’t wait to share everything with you!

Pursuing Life’s Dreams, Second Star to the Right and Straight On With No Distractions

And every day, the world will drag you by the hand, yelling, “This is important! And this is important! And this is important! You need to worry about this! And this! And this! And each day, it’s up to you to yank your hand back, put it on your heart and say, “No. This is what’s important.”

– Ian Thomas

What we all need to realize, is that the lights of the passing ships are mere distractions preventing you from living your life to the fullest.  They are the battles that you fight each day, but which do not lead us anywhere.  When we honestly realize how asleep we are in our lives, those are the moments when you can begin to challenge the ongoing distractions and bring focus back to the stars – the lights of our true destination.

In a world deluged by irrelevant information, clarity is power.

  – Yuval Noah Harari

It’s like someone has set up a circus tent in front of us.  You hear the chaos of the music and the shouting barkers telling you about what’s happening in their tents.  You hear the shouts and screams of people as they spin and circle and go up and down on the rides.  You smell the funnel cakes and cotton candy and popcorn.  Bright lights spin on the games as they encourage you to step up and try your luck.  So many distractions that you can’t hear yourself think.  All of the bright shiny objects promising you the moon, if you just come nearer and pay attention to them.  It is a constant battle for your attention.  Who wins?  The one you pay attention to.

It is those who concentrate on but one thing at a time who advance in this world.

– Og Mandino

I love to ride the roller coaster.  To watch the performers with the animals.  To see the daring artist high up on the trapeze dancing across the wire.  There are lots of fun and exciting things that we can do in our life.  What we have to decide is are they part of our goals and dreams, or are they just fun distractions that keep us occupied, distracted.  Are they keeping us occupied so that we are not making the changes and transformations that we need to make in order to achieve the life of our dreams?  Are they fun things that we should be saying “no” to?

The successful warrior is the average man, with laser-like focus.

– Bruce Lee

Are we living our life with laser-like focus?  I always think of Bruce Lee when he is in his stance about to engage with someone in battle.  He doesn’t hear the sounds around him.  He doesn’t see the bright shiny objects trying to distract him.  He see’s only one thing – the man in front of him that he’s about to engage in battle with.

The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.

– Marcel Proust

Remember the movie City Slickers?  Remember Curly, Jack Palance’s character?  I love his famous line –

“Curly : Do you know what the secret of life is?
[holds up one finger]
Curly : This.
Mitch : Your finger?
Curly : One thing. Just one thing. You stick to that and the rest don’t mean shit.
Mitch : But, what is the “one thing?”
Curly : [smiles] That’s what *you* have to find out.”

When you are pursuit of the “that one thing”, then the rest of the world fades away.  We don’t see the lights of the passing ships – we are laser focused on that star – that bright shining light in the night sky.  We no longer wander through the circus seeking distractions.  Now we are traveling for fulfillment.  We are seeing the world with new eyes.  New eyes that are open for the first time to the many doors of potential and opportunity that we missed when we were being distracted by the circus.

But I’ll tell you what hermits realize.  If you go off into a far, far forest and get very quiet, you’ll come to understand that you’re connected with everything 

  – Alan Watts

That is kind of what the movie City Slickers was about – those men had gone asleep to what was important in their lives.  They were living by distraction, not laser-like focus.  The meaning of life can be found in many things if we are awake and looking for it.  It tends to show up when we are out of our normal element.  Going off on a day trip to the mountains, the beach, the desert.  Away from the day to day of our life.  Away from the distractions that follow us around.

Be addicted to your passions, not your distractions.  

  – Unknown

It is when we can get quiet that a connection is possible.  We finally see the truths we have been avoiding with the distractions.  We discover that the thread of destiny in our life, is where the laser-like focus really begins to take shape.  That “thing” that we not so much latch on to, as it latches on to us.  We are pushed, pulled, and prodded until finally we realize that we have no choice – we have to live the life that brings our destiny into fulfillment.

Tomorrow becomes never.  No matter how small the task, take the first step now!

  – Tim Ferriss

If like the character in City Slickers you don’t know what that “one thing” is, go find it.  Go somewhere quiet without any of the normal distractions in your life.  Sit and think about your life.  Dig up all of your old dreams that you abandoned as not being possible when you failed the first time.  Reconnect with your passion, the thing that liberates your energy and your spirit.  The thing that inspires hope in you again.  When you find it, do everything in your power to stay connected.

In life, people tend to wait for the good things to come to them.  And by waiting, they miss out.

  – Neil Strauss

Let the circus roll on by.  Don’t stop for the Carmel Corn or the Hot Dog.  Don’t go on the rides, or play the games, or watch the circus clowns climb in and out of the clown car.  Keep your eyes on the stars, and not the passing ships lights.  Clarity, focus, making things happen.  That’s how you keep your  eyes on your stars.  Ignore the circus as it shouts to you about what it thinks is so important.  Once you understand your own destiny, your secret of life, don’t let that connection go.  Remember that the best view comes after the hardest climb.

Ripples – The Small Changes That Can Have An Enormous Impact

So remember to look up at the stars and not down at your feet.  Try to make sense of what you see, and wonder about what makes a universe exist.  Be curious.  And however difficult life may seem, there is always something you can do and succeed at.  It matters that you don’t just give up.

  – Stephen Hawking

If every morning we wrote out this simple sentence starter “I have no limitations, so I am going to . . . ,” just imagine what you might accomplish in a year.  Everything you do is connected to something.  Every choice you make impacts others.  You just have to decide what kind of difference you want to make.

When you make a difference in someone’s life you make ripples. You’re not only impacting their life, but the lives of everyone they touch. Remember – even the smallest drop of water effects the entire pond. One small act of kindness, makes a world of difference.

– KLove

I was reading a book where the writer was talking about having to make 30 sales calls in a day when he was going door to door selling encyclopedia’s.  He in turn used that same concept when he was in business promoting an entertainer.  How he would contact different venues to hire his client.  He said that if you really did 30 calls you would get mostly “no’s”, but you would also by laws of average get some yes’s.  I thought about this concept in regards to failures.  What if we said that for every new thing we tried to learn how to do, we expected to have to try 30 times to be successful?  What if every failure was celebrated to being that much closer to success?

The universe responds to our inner yearnings by mysteriously bringing people into our life to answer our questions and help quell our conflicts.  Every time you follow your intuition, your personal vibration intensifies.  This can be likened to turning up the volume on a stereo.  The more your personal vibration is intensified, the more you will pull people into your life who carry messages for you.  It is a universal law.

  – Denise Linn

What kind of difference would it make in your life, if you viewed failure as the path to success? Not just lip service, repeating a mindless mantra – but truly walking down that path. Can you feel the stones under your feet as you are walking? Can you smell the clean scent of the air after it has rained? Can you feel the warmth of the morning sun as it heats up the day? Are your hands touching the flowers as their fragrance is released by the afternoon breeze? When you are in this space of manifestation, that is when the doors of opportunity start showing up in your life. People come into your life and mysteriously provide you with the exact thing that you need as you are walking down this path. You see a book that answers your questions. You dream about something and then the next day you are walking down the street and there it is.

Always be like water.  Float in the times of pain or dance like waves along the wind which touches its surface.

  – Suntosh Kalwar

Faith is trusting without knowing. When you trust without knowing you make the world alive with possibilities. Creativity comes from curiosity. It is living in the moment. It is not getting overwhelmed by the millions of steps between where you are and where you are going. It is not letting the enormity of your vision scare you into not even starting the journey. Your vision might take you over Niagara Falls in a barrel. It might have you traipsing through the jungle looking for Dr Livingstone. Or climbing Mt. Kilimanjaro. Going into the ocean depths, deeper than anyone has even gone before.

The mind is like water.  When it’s turbulent, it’s difficult to see.  When it’s calm, everything becomes clear.

  – Samreen Zaidi

Our actions have far reaching effects.  The shifts we make in our own personal lives, the transformations and changes we implement successfully ripple out into the world.  We show what is possible.  Our example gives someone else permission to do their own shifts in transformations.  They begin to see how they in turn impact the world.  A few years ago Oprah had a few shows that talked about kindness.  It started with paying for someone’s coffee behind them in line.  There were reports of “random acts of kindness” that ran on for hours because each person in turn would do the same for the person behind them.

Every tidal wave begins with a ripple…, make sure the ripples you create in your life are what you want coming back to you; because eventually…, they will return.

  – Unknown

I love movies that demonstrate this and I think that is why they end up on everyone’s favorite list.  Princess Bride, demonstrates to all of the characters that your actions come back to you. That if you persevere through the hardships it all comes right in the end.  The classic heroes journey of the Star Wars Saga; The Butterfly Effect, how every action creates another and another as we chase after what we want in our life.  How unforeseen reactions alter our journey time and time again.  Groundhog Day, where reliving life over and over finally gets the main character to recognize that he needs to make changes in his own life.

When we focus our energy towards constructing a passionate meaningful life, we are tossing a pebble into the world, creating a beautiful ripple effect of inspiration.  when one person follows a dream, tries something new or takes a daring leap, everyone nearby feels that energy and before too long they are making their own daring leaps and inspiring yet another circle.

– Christine Mason Miller

Each of us in born to express our own inner truth.  When we live a life congruent with that truth, we are part of the larger plan, the grand design.  The more that we seek to expand, to grow into that design, the more we are living out the life God designed for us.  Each of us has an inner compass, and when we are living a life that matches our inner values, then that compass is pointing to true north.  A life of purpose being fulfilled.

I have accepted fear as a part of life – specifically the fear of change . . .  I have gone ahead despite the pounding in the heart that says turn back

  – Erica Jong

Take a pen in hand.  Write out this sentence and complete it – If it weren’t so risky I would try ___________________________.  Write this out with five different answers.  Now contemplate this list.  As they said in the old Mission Impossible series on the tape recorder – Your mission should you choose to accept it is . . .  take the first step in making one of those five things happen in your life.  Be a ripple that shifts the world.

Resistance – Here There Be Dragons

As fellow travelers on the road of transformation, we here at LemonadeMakers have been checking our course against our mission, vision and purpose.  As part of that “checking in” we discovered it was time to take our purpose to the next level.

We are proud to announce a scholarship for our pilot training course,

“Embracing the Chaos of Transformation”

Complete your scholarship application before September 20th to be considered for the program.

When you take compass headings, check your map and determine the next part of your course, you realize that you have gone off course.  You have sunk into the comfort zone.

In order to create the kind of life you want to live, you have to focus on what’s important to you. To maintain harmony in your life and stay on course, means that you need to examine where you are in your own personal hero’s journey.

Self-transformation is a lifetime journey.  It’s the never ending story of who you are, and more importantly, who you are becoming.

As you travel down this road you will reach what I call “way points”. These way points are the places where you check in, and get supplies for the next leg of your journey. Where you pull out your map to see that course corrections need to be instituted.

Unless you have not moved at all, you will need to make some adjustments to get back on course.  That’s because the “dragons of resistance” are always at work.  Fears, distractions, addictions, just the contrary winds of life in general – it is all designed to take you off course.

Complete your scholarship application before September 20th to be considered for the program.

Part of checking your course is to see where your own map is ending – the edges of your own comfort zones.  While you may have expanded this zone in the past, you are now needing to expand it again. It is time to reengage the battle, to face off with your dragons of resistance.

You have a sense that deep inside of you is a second self.  An unlived you.  Your authentic self.

The dragon of resistance doesn’t want that authentic self released.  LemonadeMakers has created a program to help you learn to recognize your own personal dragons of resistance.  LemonadeMakers is offering you the opportunity to join us in our pilot course to assist you in finding that authentic self.

We receive requests for training from people (like you!) who want to navigate their lives with love, inspiration, and peace. In order to help with your staying on course, we at LemonadeMakers are starting a training program using the Transformational Life Compass as a guide.

It’s been a process, and we are now ready to offer a very limited number of people (20 only) free access to the pilot program of the first section of the course, which is designed for a 6-week course. This is a great chance for you to experience a world class life transformation opportunity for free (The full course when released, will be for one year and enrollment fees will be $3,000.00.)

Complete your scholarship application before September 20th to be considered for the program.

If you looked at the ancient mariner maps, you would see at the corners of the map, a warning. “Here there be dragons”. As the hero of your own journey you are going to face those dragons.

What was your first reaction to reading the $3,000 fee for the year long program?  Did your dragon of resistance raise his head and roar at you?

On the field of transforming yourself, stands a hero and a dragon. You are the hero and resistance is the dragon. The dragon confronts you every single time you want to start on a new journey of self-transformation.  Every time you expand your comfort zone.  Every time you make a new goal, a new dream.  Resistance will make itself known.

You will hear many roars from your dragon – fears labeled no time, no money.  It feels safe when you are invisible, average, because then your dragons fire can’t burn you.  Every fear that your dragon bellows at you has some part of reality in it.  Some vestige of truth that has been stretched into an illusion by the dragon of resistance.

You can use these dragons of resistance as the needle of a compass to what your God-given destiny is pulling you towards.  You know that this God-given destiny is not average. You deserve better than average.

You can use the dragon of resistance to guide you to that calling or purpose.  A good rule of thumb is how the more important the call is to your soul’s evolution, the more the dragon of resistance is going to show up.

The dragon is out to destroy the reason you are being called: the living out loud of your divine destiny, your personal genius, the soul’s gift you have that no one else on this earth has but you.

You will know if this course is right for you, by the level of resistance you are currently feeling to discovering more about your authentic self.

You are on a lifetime journey of discovery.  There is always something new to learn, discover, uncover and reveal about who you are and why you are here now.

This course is designed to help you fill in the gaps.

Your work is to learn more about your personal vision, your dreams of who you want to be. To ask what’s missing?

Ready to check out your personal destiny map?  To widen your comfort zone?  To confront and tame or destroy a few dragons?

Complete your scholarship application before September 20th to be considered for the program.

Complete your scholarship application before September 20th to be considered for the program.

Life’s Storms Compose the Music of Our Souls

 

Keep Going

No Matter how bad things are right now

No Matter how stuck you feel

No Matter how many days you’ve spent crying

No Matter how many days you’ve spent wishing things were different

No Matter how hopeless and depressed you feel

I promise you won’t feel this way forever

Keep Going

I don’t know about you but I am a huge Lord of the Rings fan.  I read the books when I was a kid.  I was excited when the cartoon versions came out in the 70’s and over the moon when the movies were made.  The composer of the music did a fantastic job.  It really moves the emotions inside of you.  I can listen to the music and see in my minds eye the scene as it unfolds.  I know when something bad is happening, when they are triumphant in battle, when someone has died or when hope is being born again – it’s all there.

There’s a ripple effect of new thoughts. A tidal wave of new feelings. the demons are being tied up and gagged. I’m just not sure how to handle the new. I thought the old was here forever. I don’t recognize that woman in the mirror, she smiles more than I, laughs more than me.

– Swedreams12xx

Music frees you in a way that nothing else does.  It encompasses all parts of life.  So it is no surprise that there is music for the storms that hit you in life.  Music for going to war; for peace accords being signed.  Music for giving birth and for saying goodbye to a loved one.  Music to study by and music to get your groove on.  Music reminds us that there is a time for everything.  A time for it to feel like your soul is being ripped from you body, to be torn apart so that we can come back together in an even more spectacular way.  A time to heal the broken bits into a new whole that is bigger and better than we were before.

Even now, as broken as you feel, you are still so strong. There’s something to be said for how you hold yourself together and keep moving, even though you feel like shattering. Don’t stop. This is your healing. It doesn’t have to be pretty, or graceful. You just have to keep going.

– Maxwell Diawuoh

In the middle of a storm you can’t control what’s happening, but you can challenge yourself to control the way you respond to what’s happening.  That’s where your power is.  That’s the true meaning of courage.  The quality of your life, your legacy is how long the ripples continue that you made while you lived.  What kind of music are you composing?  Are you pushing outside the comfort zone and daring yourself to try something just a little bit scary everyday?

Daring greatly means the courage to be vulnerable.  It means to show up and be seen.  To ask for what you need.  To talk about how you’re feeling.  to have the hard conversations.

  – Brene Brown

When the storm is battering us to bits, it’s important to just breathe.  Don’t lash back out at the storm, it’s ineffectual and doesn’t stop the storm from swamping your boat.  Just breathe.  Breathe deeply in, holding it for a moment.  Then breathe out, holding it for a moment.  Just keep breathing.  Listen for the music of your own wind chimes.  They will remind you that no matter how much it feels like life is beating you, you are creating beautiful music.

Doing good holds the power to transform us on the inside, and then ripple out in every-expanding circles that positively impact the world at large.

– Shari Arison

Don’t be afraid to ask for help.  It doesn’t mean that you can’t do it alone.  It means that you realize that you aren’t meant to.  When we are in pain and allow others in, it creates connections.  Connections are vital to creating the beautiful music.  Music is filled with bridges that connect the story and flow of the piece.  The harmony of the music is created by bridging together different instruments, different voices.  Sing out your song courageously and don’t allow the fear to overwhelm your song.

There are two basic motivating forces, fear and love.  When we are afraid, we pull back from life.  When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance.  We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections.  If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create.  Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.

  – John Lennon

Our sense of self acceptance is demonstrated by our levels of connections.  The more connections we have, the more self love and self trust we have.  So keep taking deep breaths to settle your emotional responses.  Allow your heart and soul to reconnect to your brain.  Allow yourself to release the fear and take in the love – love of yourself first and foremost, which makes room to love others.

When you truly love life and people – you start a ripple effect that changes the life of another . . , who in turn changes the life of another . . , until one person and ripple at a time the world is changed.

– Chris Atkinson

The depth of love we have for ourselves and others can be measured by the depth of authenticity that we show up with in our lives.  I believe that every day we have miracles show up in our lives that we don’t see or don’t acknowledge.  By showing up with gratitude for what life is revealing to us and about us, we turn the storms into rain showers.

Every time a man stands up for an ideal, or acts to improve the lot of others, or strikes out against injustice, he sends forth a tiny ripple of hope, and . . , those ripples build a current that can sweep down the mightiest walls of oppression and resistance.

– Robert F Kennedy

We all have stories worth telling, but when we hold back from telling our story we degenerate the experience, both for ourselves and how it could help others weather their own storms.  When we present the perfect face to the world; the perfect family, “no problems here” kind of picture, we are not allowing for the rain.  We have created a false dome of protection from the rain so that it doesn’t fall on us.  We are in effect saying to others that we don’t get wet.  We are not storm blown here.  We are just perfect.  We are in denial, we are contracting.  We are not allowing for new growth to happen.

Be the drop that freely falls and becomes one with the water . . , you might not be able to perceive the ripples you have created right away but the water will allow you to feel how their love comes back to you again and again.

– Steemit

We need to not only allow for the rain, we need to be in gratitude for how it clears the air.  How it waters the plants.  How it fills the streams, lakes and oceans as part of the natural cycle of life.  In order to create the ripples that change both ourselves and others, we need to show up and be seen.  We need to show up fully in our lives, always allowing for the growth that comes from being watered.  The expansion of creation in our lives.  That is the contribution that we can all make.  To be able to contribute from a place of love, the birthplace of creativity and change.

Just as ripple spread out when a single pebble is dropped into the water, the actions of individuals can have far reaching effects.

– Dalai Lama

Create a Ripple of Inspiration and Meaning In Your Life

No matter how happy someone may seem, they have moments when they question if they can go on.  No matter how confident someone may look, there are times when they feel insecure and unsure.  And no matter how strong someone may appear, they have days when they feel like they’re falling apart.  Never think for a moment you’re alone with your struggles.  You’re not a mess.  You’re human.

  – Lori Deschene

Most of my friends and relatives consider me a very positive person.  Someone who can handle whatever life throws my way.  A person who will look and look until she finds the silver in the silver lining of the cloud.  But there are days when I think that I am not capable of helping myself, let alone others.  There are days when I feel like I am not having a positive impact on anyone.  There are days when I look at everything I am trying to accomplish with my life and wonder why I am bothering – when it feels like I am working so hard and getting nowhere fast.

To attract loving and connected relationships, we must first embody the love and connection we seek.

= Dr. Debra Reble

Those days happen to every one of us, no matter how strong we think or others think we are.  When they do happen, I have a story that I pull out to remind myself that I am creating ripples even when I don’t know who those ripples are helping.

A couple of years after my mother had passed away, a friend that used to babysit my kids when they were little and she was a teenager, lost her daughter (a senior in high school) in a bus accident.  She was having a really hard time and we were talking about her loss.  I really don’t remember what I told her, but I know that it had to do with something I had brought out of the loss of my mom on how to deal with grief and heartbreak.

Years later she was at my mother in-laws funeral and she came up to me to thank me for those words.  She remembered them all.  They helped her through the dark tunnel of her grief.  I had no idea that anything I said could be that impactful.  I know that with her own experience she also was able to give those words to others when they were dealing with overwhelming grief.  What I don’t know is how many ripples those words have made in the lives that they are still continuing to impact.

Make a conscious effort to surround yourself with positive, nourishing and uplifting people – people who believe in you, encourage you to go after your dreams, and applaud your victories.

  – Jack Canfield

To be truly happy, you must have connection in your life.  First the connection must be to you.  To your life purpose.  To personal growth.  To being the best possible you, that you can be.  Self love, self trust, being honest with yourself.  Then connection to friends, family, to a mission, vision or cause is vital to live a life that brings us satisfaction, fulfillment and happiness.

It’s also about the way we think about things that are happening – are they happening “to us” or “for us”?  Do you look for the silver lining?  Do you assign the best possible meanings to what you see and hear around you?  Or does that negative mind talk take over and make us feel unwanted?  Like we are a mistake, that all we do is make mistakes, that everyone is judging us?

Don’t focus on what’s wrong. Things may not be perfect but be grateful for the opportunity to experience each day. Live each day like it could be your last.

– Joel Osteen

What so many of us do, is see ourselves only through the lens of our past mistakes, our regrets and failures.  You are so much more.  There is a beautiful person hiding inside each of us that is vulnerable and afraid.  Fears of not being worthy, not enough.  Fears of being hurt because someone hurt us in the past.  Whenever this beauty seeks to emerge we push it back out of a multitude of fears.

Think of the caterpillar all wrapped up in the chrysalis.  He has transformed into a beautiful butterfly.  It is time to break open the lining, spread out the wings to unfold and dry, and take flight.  But in fear he keeps grabbing the sides of the lining to try and stay hidden.  It’s a scary world out there.  What if he is the one butterfly that can’t fly?  What if he falls out of the chrysalis and goes smashing down on the ground?  What if a passing bird eats him?  All these fears overwhelm him and he tries to hide himself to keep him safe.  Yet the real danger is in staying hidden.

Daring greatly means the courage to be vulnerable.  It means to show up and be seen.  To ask for what you need. To talk about how you’re feeling.  To have the hard conversations.

  – Brene Brown, PHD, LMSW

Just like this butterfly, we think that we are providing safety hiding behind a mountain of buried pain.  It is time to tear down the mountain.  To remove every single brick of the walls that we have built up.  To put down the suitcase of our past and walk burden free into our future.  It is time to spread your wings.  It is time to fly into the future you are meant to have.  Yes there will be failures as you learn to soar, but you have the potential and gifts to live a life full of possibilities that become your reality.  But nothing will happen, until you try.

Resolutions for the Soul – No more what if’s…, no more wondering what if I tried that, started that, said that, told that person how I really feel, went on that adventure.  No more wondering what if.  Starting now, we do it, try it, step out, start, take the risk, make the leap.  We make a vow to stop living wondering, what if…,?

  – Rob Bell

Quit collecting every painful word that is spoken to you or about you.  Quit putting meaning to thoughtless words and actions of both yourselves and others.   Since every experience is seen through your minds eye, change your mind and start collecting hope. Start putting the best meaning possible into what you hear. Start viewing your world through the lens of compassion, both for yourself and for others.

Happiness is the consequence of personal effort.  You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it.  You have to participate relentlessly in the  manifestations of your own blessings.

  – Elizabeth Gilbert

When you focus on leading a creative, positive, inspirational life fear is going to raise it’s head.  Fear is always triggered when you pursue change.  Change is growth and growth is something to be happy about.  Do you remember as a child standing against the wall and measuring how tall you were?  How you would measure yourself against your friends and family members who were taller than you to see if you had grown to the same height or gotten taller?  You couldn’t wait to grow.  Instill that same feeling into your own personal growth.  Fear hates it when it doesn’t know for absolutely positively how something is going to turn out.  Uncertainty is something that fear can’t stand.  But you can change your relationship with both fear and uncertainty.

Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self acceptance.

  – Brene Brown,  PHD, LMSW

We call it “Catching the Perfect Wave”.  When you surf you learn to read the water.  To know how the wave is going to go as it moves towards the shore.  You learn what waves have the potential to be the perfect wave.  Watch our video on Catching the Perfect Wave.  Join our Facebook Group and enroll in our webinars and online classes.

 

Catch The Perfect Wave

Come join us for our next "Conscious Conversation" program!

What is a Conscious Conversation?
  • It’s a conversation where we connect our soul’s voice to other soul’s voices.
  • Where we turn down the volume of our minds inner voice with all of its fears, doubts, and worries.
  • Where we turn up the volume of the heart and soul’s voice, so that our inner compass can point us in the direction that we should be going.
  • We will talk about where we feel “lost” and overwhelmed in our life. We will talk about how we can use our Transformational Life Compass, to map out our dreams and bring them into reality.
When we do this, there is a synergy that happens. Like one voice singing, then adding another and another, a harmony is created that is greater than any one voice. When we create this kind of conversation, we can tackle any issues in our life. We can see possibilities that we were blind to, when we were considering the issues by ourselves. We create that spark that flows from the hand of one divine soul to the hand of the next – and that is where the magic happens.  

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Believing in Your Imagination Makes Anything Possible

 

So how do you believe anything is possible?  How do you see opportunity instead of risk?  How do you take flying leaps into the unknown without having overwhelm knock you back down?  We reframe the fear that is activating the belief that something is impossible.  We reframe the fear that tells us what we want is too hard to do; that what we are thinking of doing is too risky.  We reframe the fears that are creating the feeling of being overwhelmed.

You know what the issue is with this world?  Everyone wants a magical solution to their problem, and everyone refuses to believe in magic.

  – Alice in Wonderland

Reframing is one of those things that is both simple and hard at the same time.  Every hero story needs a villain.  Something to overcome.  We think that we would all love the easy answers.  A perfect life with a GPS system that told us where to go and what to do.  But in reality that would be very boring and we would feel like we were living a caged life, because we were not given the freedom to make our own decisions.

Stop worrying how it’s going to happen and start believing that it will.

  – Unknown

It begins with our having faith that what we are looking for is possible.  That what we have been searching for in a dark cave with a book of matches for a light is just ahead and everything will be OK, even though we only have one match left.  It is plain and simple a leap of faith into the unknown.  That belief that we will land on something that will hold our weight so that we can continue our journey.

The strongest factor for success is self-esteem:  Believing you can do it, believing you deserve it and believing you’ll get it.

  – Unknown

Have you ever been going somewhere with the GPS system in your car telling you where to go?  If you are gong on a long trip and you get off the freeway to eat, take a bio-break or get fuel for your vehicle it goes crazy trying to get you back on the scheduled directions.  Reframing is taking our GPS system which is telling us to go from point A to point B and reprogramming it for some additional stops.  Places on the map that are invisible but there just the same.

Just because the past didn’t turn out like you wanted it to, doesn’t mean your future can’t be better than you ever imagined.

  – Unknown

Have you ever completed a big remodel project?  You start out with a plan and design of how everything will be done.  You start tearing down the bathroom walls and floor and you discover that your $10K remodel just changed to a $20K remodel because all of the plumbing is cast iron and has to be replaced because in the past 50 years it has a decayed.

It’s okay to be a glow stick.  Sometimes we have to break before we can shine.

  – Unknown

That’s what life changes are like.  You start out thinking that you want to make a small change in your life.  You get started taking down all of things that no longer benefit you in your life and you discover a pattern you didn’t know existed, (which has behind the scenes) is what has been keeping you from making those important life changes.

Never underestimate the power of dreams and the influence of the human spirit.  We are all the same in this notion:  The potential for greatness lives within each of us.

  – Wilma Rudolph

Your small change just became a major remodel, because you need to reframe this life pattern so that it doesn’t continue to let fear of change, of overwhelm, of not being good enough, to continue to define who you are.  The good news is that this reframing of your life means growth, and growth signifies change is finally happening.  You discover your hidden potential for greatness is an area that you never knew existed.

Forget all the reasons why it won’t work and believe the one reason it will.

  – Unknown

What’s important during a period of reframing is to “see” or create a vision of what exactly you want your life to look like.  What sort of bathroom floor do you want?  What kind of tile for the shower floor and the walls of shower?  What kind of lights and fixtures?  What kind of vanity?  What does your ideal dream bathroom look like?  Don’t focus on the plumbing issues.  Don’t let the cost overruns overwhelm you.  Reset your focus to see the ideal outcome, the end of the project, the finished bathroom.

A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him.

  – David Brinkley

Reframing looks at what everyone else might see as a series of mistakes and failures.  Instead by reframing it we see a series of lessons.  Each one building on the other.  Taking each of these “bricks” being thrown at us – both by others as well as our negative fear infested minds – we instead begin building a secure foundation to hold the structure we are making outside our comfort zone by accomplishing our goals.

The only limits you have are the limits you believe.

  – Wayne Dyer

As a professional procrastinator I will take something that might take anyone else a few hours to do and blow it up into a month if not years project.  First by doing research and more research, and then a little bit more because you can never have too much knowledge.  Then by creating a perfect plan, and then revising it a million times because it just needs one more tweak because you can’t have too much attention to the smallest detail.  I build up the fear of failure until it creates to bridge to the moon.  Then because I can’t hold back time any longer I am pushed to finally do something.

Do not let the waves of doubt wash away your authentic self.

  – Dodinksy

What if I reframe the possible mistake or failure?  What if I reframe everything that has gone wrong already and that will go wrong in the future?  What if, instead of letting doubt control my life, I look at everything as just an experiment?  What if, instead of being afraid, I am curious?  What if every project is like taking a beacon of water and adding a drop of this chemical or that one to see what happens and writing down the results in a notebook?  What if this is just a series of lessons rather than errors?  What if I give myself the freedom to learn each lesson and just keep creating the next experiment?

Life is like the ocean.  We can’t control the tide, so we might as well learn to surf.

  – Unknown

If I am going to learn to surf through my life, how can I learn to catch the perfect wave?  What is the perfect wave?  Come and take a peak at our next conscious conversation all around “Catching The Perfect Wave”.

Turn the tide on mediocrity. 

Break free of the riptide of your past. 

Start living from a “bucket list” instead of existing with a “to do” list.

 

Catch The Perfect Wave

Come join us for our next "Conscious Conversation" program!

What is a Conscious Conversation?
  • It’s a conversation where we connect our soul’s voice to other soul’s voices.
  • Where we turn down the volume of our minds inner voice with all of its fears, doubts, and worries.
  • Where we turn up the volume of the heart and soul’s voice, so that our inner compass can point us in the direction that we should be going.
  • We will talk about where we feel “lost” and overwhelmed in our life. We will talk about how we can use our Transformational Life Compass, to map out our dreams and bring them into reality.
When we do this, there is a synergy that happens. Like one voice singing, then adding another and another, a harmony is created that is greater than any one voice. When we create this kind of conversation, we can tackle any issues in our life. We can see possibilities that we were blind to, when we were considering the issues by ourselves. We create that spark that flows from the hand of one divine soul to the hand of the next – and that is where the magic happens.  

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Transform Around, Through, Underneath or Over the Top

12931299_1357499800931782_3260117555792573314_nTransformation literally means going without form. I have always thought that the Grand Canyon is such an excellent example of transformation. The water through glacial ice crushing into solid rock and breaking the obstacle apart.  The power of floods, vast rushing volumes of water, carving out passages through solid rock. In some areas like this photo, it carved around when it couldn’t go through. Wind also scrapes out tiny pieces at a time, until the solid rock breaks apart and falls down into the ravines. The Red Rock Canyons in Utah are amazing. It looks like the rock was liquid and someone swirled it around with their fingers as it hardened into fantastical shapes.

The walls we build around us to keep sadness out also keeps out the joy.

  – Jim Rohn

In life we build up these walls – like the rocks in the canyons and then we say that they are insurmountable. Too high, too steep, too dense, too solid to change. We sought protection from our fears, we wanted to be safe and secure. We didn’t realize what we were sacrificing to get it. Our dreams, our freedom, our joy and happiness. All laid on the altar of peace and security.  We didn’t realize the obstacles we were creating to hold us in place.

If it weren’t for the rocks in its bed, the stream would have no song.

  – Carl Perkins

At some point, we realized that the life we have, isn’t exactly what we thought it would be.  Instead of seeing life’s obstacles as opportunities to learn something, we saw them as reasons to stop trying to change.  Now, we want to make changes in our lives. We want to transform ourselves, to fill the hole in our hearts and souls.  We can feel we are missing something vitally important. The voice of our heart has been speaking, screaming really, to get our attention.  We think that maybe we hear something far off in the distance that fades away every time we pay attention to it. We are sure that if we can just get closer we will be able to hear what it is saying.

Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls.

  – Joseph Campbell

What we discover along the way of overcoming obstacles is that is the place where most of the joy in our life journey comes from.  The overcoming the struggles and life challenges can get us excited, they can energize us!  They are what makes us know that we are truly living life, and not just existing.

We dream of the perfect wave, the perfect job, the perfect house.  and when we get there . . ,  We dream of something else.

  – Rob Machado

It starts with a dream, a wish to change something.  Many times it starts with something material that we think will make us happy.  But it doesn’t and so we move on to the next thing and the next thing.  Until the day that we discover we want to make a difference in the world. To help those in need. To leave a legacy that says I lived, I loved, and I mattered. The greatest gift we can give the world is a transformation of our own selves. Our video, “Catching the Perfect Wave” is all about this kind of transformation.  It’s a conversation about listening to the voice of our soul.

When you stop avoiding the conflict and difficulty, brick-by-brick you are tearing down the wall of fear.

  – Brendon Burchard

What we find is that what ever we do to save the world (whatever the causes are that tug at our hearts), starts with saving us. What we find is that like water, when we show up in action every day, transformation happens. Sometimes we may be like rushing white water, pushing bricks out of our way. Sometimes we may be like the slow drip, drop by drop burrowing through the stone.  Whether it is ice, rain, sleet, snow, steam, fog – whatever form it takes, it is a creative process that leads us to growth.

The world will provide you with stones every day; what you build out of it is your outlook – a bridge or a wall, it’s up to you.

  – Unknown

The action of our movements flow over the top, slide around the sides, and burrow underneath as we travel to our destination. Water flows to the sea. We flow towards our purpose, our destiny. It is possible to demolish the walls that we built. We can create a lasting true transformation in our lives.

You cannot be wimpy out there on the dream-seeking trail.  Dare to break through barriers, to find your own path.

  – Les Brown

Each new day awaits our choices of who we are going to be. We can choose to be weak, behind our wall of safety. We can choose to be empowered and take down the wall. We can choose to break the mold that is holding us back and to redefine who we are.

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.

  – Rumi

I love this quote below by Neil. Filling our lives with magic and good madness. I think that we have to be slightly mad to go against the norm and be someone who reaches for the sky to fulfill their dreams. A little magic is quite helpful when you are doing that. Above all surprise yourself!

May your coming year be filled with magic and dreams and good madness. I hope you read some fine books and kiss someone who thinks you’re wonderful, and don’t forget to make some art — write or draw or build or sing or live as only you can. And I hope, somewhere in the next year, you surprise yourself.

  – Neil Gaiman

There are a million waves to surf.  How do you find the way that is the most fun for you?  To be able to say, “I know this is what I want to do for the rest of my life”, to know of the freedom of living your life totally on purpose.  To know the joy of living to your full potential.  To know that the best wave is still out there waiting for you to discover it.  Come over and test the waters with our next conscious conversation about “Catching the Perfect Wave”.

 

Catch The Perfect Wave

Come join us for our next "Conscious Conversation" program!

What is a Conscious Conversation?
  • It’s a conversation where we connect our soul’s voice to other soul’s voices.
  • Where we turn down the volume of our minds inner voice with all of its fears, doubts, and worries.
  • Where we turn up the volume of the heart and soul’s voice, so that our inner compass can point us in the direction that we should be going.
  • We will talk about where we feel “lost” and overwhelmed in our life. We will talk about how we can use our Transformational Life Compass, to map out our dreams and bring them into reality.
When we do this, there is a synergy that happens. Like one voice singing, then adding another and another, a harmony is created that is greater than any one voice. When we create this kind of conversation, we can tackle any issues in our life. We can see possibilities that we were blind to, when we were considering the issues by ourselves. We create that spark that flows from the hand of one divine soul to the hand of the next – and that is where the magic happens.  

Click below to get updates!

Or click here to learn more about the event>>

 

 

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