For many people, authentic life starts at the time of death – not our own, but someone else’s.
– Rachel Naomi Remen, M.D.
This is so true for me. It was the murder of my nephew that changed my whole life. Up until that time my lived was lived by following what others had either taught me or expected of me. The lesson I learned from my mother that drove me, was to have a career that earned a great income so that I would not be like her and end up homeless with her children. In her mind her only option was to return to a marriage that she had left behind because it would provide support for her children.
At first after my nephew died, it was all about helping my sister survive the storm of grief that ripped her world into tiny pieces that we couldn’t put back together again. Then once we all knew that she while she wasn’t fully recovered she was surviving and learning what her new life would be, it was time to deal with my own grief.
I change the world by changing myself. I am changing the world by loving myself, by enjoying life, by making my personal world a dream of heaven. I change myself, and just like magic, other people start to change.
– Miguel Ruiz
I knew that I wanted to bring something positive out of his death and so I started writing my way through my own changing and evolving world. I had wanted to be a writer since I was a small child. But I didn’t have any confidence to begin the journey. Each time my heart and soul drew me into that space I had a ready excuse as to why I couldn’t do it. I have four children to raise, a fulltime career and husband to take care of. So I would lie to myself about the reason why I didn’t have the time to write.
People will kill you over time, and how they’ll kill you is with tiny harmless phrases like “Be Realistic”
– Dylan Moran
First it was when the kids were all in school, then I would have time to write. Then it was when they all graduated high school, then I would have time to write. Then it was taking care of my dad who had retired early with disabilities, so now I had a new obligation to put off this dream of writing my own stories. Always there was something more important to be done. Besides I told myself, be realistic, “no one will want to read what you write”. As I wrote my way through changing myself and posted it on my personal page, I kept being told by others to do more.
The secret of making dreams come true can be summarized in four C’s. They are curiosity, confidence, courage, and constancy; and the greatest of these is confidence.
– Walt Disney
Self confidence is something that Walt Disney had to have had. He had businesses that failed and ended bankruptcy. He lost most of his employees and a big contract to a film producer that had been working with him. What he discovered and what I discovered was that when one door closes another opens. For him that lead to the creation of Mickey Mouse, who actually has his own star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame. For me, it was discovering that this dream that I had buried as not being worthy of was in fact possible. The writing on my personal page, created the self confidence to create the LemonadeMakers page here on Facebook and a website that we are slowly expanding to create even more material for our followers.
In the words of Chinese Philosopher Lao Tzu:
As I walk this journey of following my dreams, I get ideas of where it might be taking me, but I don’t really know what I am becoming. I still feel constantly as though I am in the chrysalis and becoming something new. I am still being stretched into unknown realms. I am constantly learning, adapting and regrouping. I fall down on my face, but I keep getting back up. I brush off the dirt and dust and look in the mirror. It is the act of constantly letting go of the life I thought I should have, that I am able to embrace the life that is waiting for me. It is the constant asking of these three questions that keeps opening new doors of discovery for me.
When you ask those questions, sit with them in silence a few moments and see what bubbles up to the top for you. When you boil some sort of vegetable, a lot of times there is this film of stuff that spreads across the water. A sort of scum that I always ladle out of the boiling water. This is what happens when we sit in silence with a question. Our minds floats up a denial. It floats up a distraction. If floats up fears. Just look at them without judgement and scoop them out and let them settle into the earth.
Now return to the silence and contemplation and see what bubbles up next. Write it down and see what else floats up to the top. Keep writing until you have a list of things that you would do next.
Dreamer: (n) A person who visions their ambitions to plant the seeds of their future
/ Dreams are realities in waiting/
Now take that list and put the items into two columns, column A and column B. So that if you had 10 items, you would now have 5 lines with an answer under column A and B for each line. Now ask yourself which draws me more – item A or item B and circle that answer for each of the five lines. Now you should have 5 circled items left. Do the same process, only now taking the first circle item to the next circled item, and keep picking between the choices until you have only one circled item. You now have the winning thing you would do next.
Know what you are doing. Love what you are doing. And believe in what you are doing.
– Will Rogers
So lets say just for sake of example it was learn to fly a plane. Now google local flying instructions and make appointments to interview them. Pick one and take your first lesson. It’s really that simple to let go of who you are, a dreamer with no action taken to accomplish his/her dreams, and a dreamer who makes a phone call and gets into a plane and takes their first lesson. If it turns out that you discover flying isn’t something that “rings your souls bell” then go back to your list and go through the items again to see what else might be the next dream to accomplish.
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Everyone has the perfect gift to give the world – and if each us is freed up to give the gift that is uniquely ours ro give, the world will be in total harmony
– Buckminster Fuller
The journey we are all on, individually, has interesting intersections. Places where we have almost identical experiences. Places where we are on the same page at the same time. Wherever we are traveling on the map, someone has been there before us, and someone is just behind us. We are driven by a hunger to express who we really are, and at the same time, we are like, “wait, wait, I’m not ready”. Our choices reflect our greatest dreams and our deepest fears and insecurities.
Do you know what you are? You are a manuscript of a divine letter. You are a mirror reflecting a noble face. This universe is not outside of you. Look inside yourself, everything that you want, you already have.
Do you remember when you went to a playground or maybe it was at school recess – the first time that you climbed up the ladder of the slide and looked way down to the bottom? It seemed so far below us and really scary. Maybe you went right back down that ladder too scared to go down the slide. Or maybe you went down the slide, but remained in total control by gripping the sides of the slide so that you just eased yourself down to the bottom very, very slowly. Or maybe you threw caution to the winds and went down the slide screaming at the top of your lungs, and ran as fast as you could to climb back up the ladder and this time to try it backwards.
We as human beings have this amazing capacity to be reborn at breakfast every day and say, “This is a new day. Who will I be?”
– Jack Kornfield
How many things in your life have been like that slide experience? How has this pattern showed up in your life? Do you blunt your own truth? Do you not fully commit to anything in life? Do you like to stay in the lines, and play safe with life by staying within your comfort zone? Do you avoid pushing boundaries at home, at work, when exercising, in every area of your life? Are you setting goals or New Years Resolutions that are not really growing you or breaking out or through anything that you did last year, or the year before that . . . , all the way back 5, 10, or 20 years ago? Is RISK a dirty four letter word to your brain?
Whenever you hear or read anything of a spiritual nature that moves you or touches your soul you are not learning something . . , you are remembering what you have always known. It is a gentle awakening.
When you move forward, is it from consulting your own inner guidance, or from following the advice of others? You awaken and become conscious of your purpose in life when you stop looking outside for the answers that can only be found inside of us. Sit in silence and listen to the soft voice of your heart. To the guidance of your soul. This divine guidance comes to us through the voice of intuition. When we start to live our life from this authentic place, our soul becomes visible.
The more you trust intuition, the more empowered you become, the stronger you become, and the happier you become.
– Gisele Bundchen
Do you move forward without design with “a leap of faith”, like racing down that slide in childhood. Or do you continue to walk down well worn and well known paths based on your need to control everything in your life? Like gripping the sides of that slide to control your slide to the bottom. Do you get vulnerable and put yourself out there, or do you draw back into your quiet safe corner where you can’t be seen or heard? We mistakenly think that when we keep safe, that we are avoiding being hurt. The truth is when we are not taking that leap of faith, we are suffering a far greater pain. We suffer in life, from not living our purpose. We suffer the regrets of not living a fully lived life. That leap of faith is the road to the happiness. The road to living a life well lived. Of stepping up into transforming not only ourselves, but the world we live in.
Vulnerability is not about fear and grief and disappointment – it is the birthplace of everything we’re hungry for.
– Brene Brown
Think of people who became “obsessed” with something – Jane Goodell, Mother Teresa. Gandhi, Martin Luther King, all come to my mind. All people that when you hear their name, you think of the “thing” or purpose that gave meaning to their life. Their message comes through loud and clear. You associate their name with the message. It isn’t only their life that was changed by their following their passion. Their life purpose actually changed the world. They have literally become a living archetype, a soul on fire.
In a world where everyone wears a mask, it’s a privilege to see a soul.
Watching a candle flame is watching the transformation of fire. It dies down and flames up over and over again. It is constantly changing – it changes directions, it changes height, it changes width – in any one second it is not the same as it was the previous second. It reacts to the slightest breeze in the room.
There is a force within which gives you life, seek that. In your body lies a priceless gem, seek that. O wandering soul if you want to find the greatest treasure, don’t look outside, look inside, and seek that.
When we awaken, there is a fire that starts burning within our soul. We awaken to our true nature, as everything that doesn’t belong gets burned away. We start to get glimpses of what our truth is. We see the masks of conditioned behaviors and patterns that need to be removed, as they don’t serve us. Like a mirror we see reflected back to us what is holding us back. We see that the walls that our patterns built to protect us, are in fact keeping us from living to our full potential. When we see life from our souls perspective, we see that there are no obstacles, only guidance.
Don’t let life’s challenges harden your heart, let them empower your mind, renew your spirit and strengthen your soul.
As children we believe that our parents are invincible and indestructible and that they will never let us down. Then the unthinkable happens and they do. Then when we are older and we think wiser, we fall in love for the first time. As we view this person through rose colored glasses, seeing no faults, but only the perfection of our love as we place them upon a pedestal thinking that they will never hurt us. Then the unimaginable happens and they break our heart. It isn’t our parents or our best friend, or our first love that let us down. It is our own expectations, which were unreal. We are broken hearted by our own projections of who they are, something that no one could live up to.
The strongest source of empowerment is that which we find within ourselves.
– Brett Blumenthal
What we discover is that it is unfair to put someone else in charge of our life. It is unfair, because each of us is responsible for ourselves. Handing it off to someone else will only hurt both them and us. When you build your house upon the foundation of your soul, then we can add those we love to our souls home. We add our spiritual beliefs, our family, our friends, our career – everything we want in life, but the empowerment that comes from that foundation is what makes everything run.
I came to believe that my identity goes beyond the outer roles I play. It transcends the ego. I came to understand that there is an Authentic “I” within – an “I AM”, or divine spark within the soul.
– Sue Monk Kid
The roles we play, being a wife or husband; being a mother or father; being a son or daughter, being a grandmother or a grandchild – those roles can make us happy, but they are not the source of the happiness. The source of the happiness comes from within. Otherwise we are burdening our happiness on the expectations of those roles, burdening our loved ones unfairly with the responsibility of making us happy. That is dooming ourselves to be the perpetrator of a broken family filled with trauma and drama.
We simply can’t control what comes out of people’s mouths. However, we can control how we feel about what they say.
– Scarlett Jones
The same thing is true for our friends and those we work with. We can’t base our happiness on what those around us say, or do. Or don’t say or do. Have you ever worked really hard on a project at work, and no one noticed your brilliance? Were we trying to be brilliant to have others laud us, or because we loved exceeding the expectations of others? I love it when someone notices I did a good job, beat the deadline, came in under budget, etc. . , but it needs to be for our own empowerment that we feel good about it. Then if someone else does notice, that is whipping cream on the dessert, good when it is there, but not necessary to be enjoyed as a great dessert.
The creation of authentic power is the creation of a life of joy.
– Gary Zukov
Have you ever planned a trip with the girlfriends and then were disappointed when others didn’t contribute and left all of the work for you to do? What really caused the unhappiness? Miscommunication, unrealistic expectations of others? What about if we come from the viewpoint of creating an experience of joy? Being authentic enough to ask for help when we need it, without expectation of how the help shows up as. Creating from that place is a gift to yourself and to those others who will be there. It takes all of the drama out of the experience, leaving a space of “WOW” for what is created. It makes us vulnerable to the beauty of what happens next.
What makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful. There’s a word for it. . . . Authentic.
– Tim Brown
Going back to the analogy of the butterfly. The caterpillar is vulnerable in creating the chrysalis, not knowing how it will all turn out. Knowing that the transformation is necessary, doesn’t make it any easier to do it. The butterfly is vulnerable as it fights to get released from the chrysalis, and dry its wings so that it can take flight. It is a beautiful creation that can’t see the brilliance of the colors and designs of its own wings. Putting our own human thoughts into the analogy, this transformation into something new would be terrifying.
Your authentic self is the source of your brilliance. It’s the universal you – the person you always thought you could be before your fears and beliefs about what is really possible reined in this brilliant reality. Getting in touch with the source of your brilliance and staying connected will make you shine every day. Tapping into your intuition is how you will discover your authentic self and your true brilliance.
– Angela Artemis
There is no manual provided when we tap into intuition and transform our lives from the ego driven life, to the life of being self empowered and fueled from within. It is a journey of self discovery. It is scary and terrifying because we will almost certainly fall down and have to get back up many times. But we also have the joy and satisfaction of knowing that it is our own magnificent journey. There is a tunnel that you drive through when you travel to Yosemite National Park. On one side of the tunnel you have beautiful mountains and trees and you think this is what the park is about. Then as you emerge through the tunnel it is like arriving on another planet. While what you saw before the tunnel was beautiful scenery it pales in comparison to the vista that opens before you as you exit the tunnel.
If you push through that feeling of being scared, that feeling of taking risk, really amazing things can happen.
– Marissa Mayer
Discovering our true authentic self and living from that place is like coming out of that tunnel. You thought you were happy before, but it pales in comparison to the true source of happiness when we live from within. Every day we connect, lose connection and reconnect to that brilliance of our souls intuition. We learn to believe in our future self. It is like the beauty of that butterfly taking flight. Miracles take place every day. Tap your true potential. Spread those wings and fly.
What I love about this quote with the photo I found, is the dichotomy of how part of her seems to be like the ancient stone and part of her is golden and light filled, looking like she is still alive fighting her battles. When we are fighting a desperate battle, sometimes it feels like we can’t take one more step. Like we have turned to stone. Like the internal battle between what we know we have to do (taking the next step) and how we feel (we can’t move another step) is literally dividing us and tearing us in two.
Remember how far you have come, all the battles you have won, the fears that you conquered, and tell that person who is trying to bring you down to go to hell.
We all have several groups or individuals who tear us down. Those well meaning friends and loved ones who don’t want to see us get hurt, so they tells us that we can’t or shouldn’t try to be successful in our chosen endeavor. That we are risking too much. That we are doomed to fail. That it is impossible, so why take the chance of evitable failure?
Be the person who stays strong even when you have every reason to break down.
Then there is that group that just can’t bear for someone to be successful and so they tear down others to make themselves feel better. They are too afraid to take any kind of risk that would have the potential of making them look bad. Bullies fall into this category. They can’t stand seeing someone better at something than they are, so they tear you down whenever you show any desire to have a better life or be a better person.
Our greatest battles are those with our own minds.
– Jameson Frank
And lastly the worst group of all, our own minds. That voice inside of our head that tells us all of the reasons why we shouldn’t try. That reminds us of every failure we have had starting at birth and going forward through time to this very moment. That tells us the horror story of everyone who has tried and failed in the history of mankind. That voice that will not shut up and that we can’t escape from.
You may have to fight a battle more than once to win it.
– Margaret Thatcher
It doesn’t matter how many battles we fight and lose. It doesn’t matter how many battles we have to fight over and over again. What matters is that we fought. That we learned something from it. That we not only survive the battle, but that we thrive after we have either won or lost it. I heard this analogy and I loved it. Everything comes out in the wash!
Fear makes the wolf bigger than he is.
– German Proverb
Every problem that we see as something that will take us out of the battle, that seems insurmountable, think of the problem like a washing machine. The problem may twist us in a knot, it may spin us around until we lose our balance and fall down. It may knock us down the hillside, and as we roll through the mud, as the rocks cut at us, and the nettles sting us, in the end, we will come out cleaner, brighter and better than before we entered the wash. This is because “everything comes out in the wash”. Meaning that coming out the other side, meaning that whether we win or lose, we were not defeated. We are only defeated when we quit.
In a society that profits from your self doubt, liking yourself is a rebellious act.
I love this! All you have to do is watch commercials to see how profitable self doubt is. We are taught to have a “lack mentality”. The saying that you can’t be rich enough or skinny enough, or beautiful enough. That we need to spend more money on things, to have the latest cars, the latest gadget, to sculpt our bodies with surgery, to move to a bigger and more expensive home, to ask our doctor for the latest designer drugs that have more side effects than the issues they are supposed to cure. All ways to make us happy, when none of those things will make us happy. The place to start is to love ourselves and then build from that space the life that spreads that happiness out into the world.
When life demands more of people than they demand of life – as is ordinarily the case – what results is a resentment of life almost as deep-seated as the fear of death.
– Tom Robbins
I was asked today what LemonadeMakers is all about. This quote really states it pretty well. When my nephew was murdered, and when anyone in life has such a life shattering moment occur, you really have two choices. You can demand more of yourself, and surmount the problem. If you don’t, then the second choice is defaulted to. You fall into resentment, victimhood, depression, etc. . , you stop living life and you start existing until death takes you out of life. I didn’t want our family to fall into that deep crevasse and be buried alive until they died. I wanted us to transform what had happened to us, into something that happened for us. I wanted to bring something positive out of that debilitating experience and share it with you.
Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it.
– Charles Swindell
Successes in life come from struggles. The butterfly has to fight to release itself from the chrysalis. If you open it up, the wings become deformed and it can’t fly. We are the same. The fight to transform life’s lemons into lemonade is what strengthens us and makes the transformation more than a temporary change. When we have struggled to fight the inner demons; when we have fought the uphill battle of addiction; when we have taken step after step through the mud and swamps of personal failures – we know that we will never, ever, go back there. That we will never again, ever, allow anyone to make us feel like we aren’t worthy of a seat at the table.
“Too many times we stand aside
And let waters slip away
’til what we put off ’til tomorrow
Has now become today
So don’t you sit upon the shoreline
And say you’re satisfied
Choose to chance the rapids
And date to dance the tide . . “
We cannot become what we want to be by remaining what we are.
– Max Depree
I love to read great books. I have love affairs with the characters, watching them undergo their transformational hero’s journeys through the pages to the end of the story. I get great ideas from the authors words, that send me speeding down the side roads of my own life. Every year I look back at what in my life I shed like an old skin, and what ways I have changed as I try to improve my own life.
The most important question to ask is, “What am I becoming?”
– Jim Rohn
I have a rule, that I can’t bring a new thing into my house, unless I let go of something that is already there. I love to send boxes to the goodwill or some other second hand store. I think about the clothes I give away as going to a new person who will enjoy them just as much as I did. I think about the books I have read, laughing and crying my way through them and how they will stir the emotions of another reader.
I love the person I’ve become, because I fought to become her.
– Kaci Dianne
In this same way, I look at my beliefs, my habits, my lifestyle. When I want to get healthier, work on improving my finances, grow in my own self knowledge, I realize that in order to make these transformational changes in my life, I have to let go of something that is no longer serving me. I have to step outside the comfort zone and pay the tolls to walk down a new path, to undertake a new journey.
I know not who I am, simply that I am forever becoming exactly what I am meant to be.
– Becca Lee
There is so much more to us than we are aware of. I like the word developing. Like the developing of film. When we look outside and take in a scene, there are certain things that attract our attention. We miss most of the scene we are looking at because we simply see what our filters let us see. But if you snap a photo and enlarge it and go over it and over it, there is so much more there than we were aware of. If you were to grid out the photo and examine each block of the grid, you would probably see insects, birds, small animals and lots of plants. You would look deeply into the shadows to see what is hidden in the semi darkness.
Dear Self, This is going to be your year. So dust off your sh*tkickers and let’s get started. All my love, Me
Taking that same view into our own personal lives can be a real eye opener. We are all worthy of being fully developed into the magnificent beings that we are capable of being. I remember that when I was growing up I had two of my sisters and my brother develop into artists through classes in school. I can’t draw a stick figure and I was always jealous. My mom always wished she could draw and paint like they could. Sometime in her early 50’s she was talked into taking an art class with her best friend. I have hanging on my wall in the living room a painting that she did. It is amazing that what she discovered and developed from one art class, is that she could in fact draw and paint.
Always go with your passions. Never ask yourself if it’s realistic or not.
– Deepak Chopra
Inside of all of us are these amazing talents we don’t know we have. We just haven’t taken the time and energy to do that thing we always wished we could do. We just don’t have the confidence and courage to step out and take the chance that we might be really good at something that we think we are terrible about. We just haven’t decided what is behind fears door #1, #2 or #3.
Think of three things what you have always wanted to learn how to do – play a musical instrument, learn how to dance, learn a craft of some sort, paint, pottery, woodcraft – whatever it is. Now take photos of those things and paste them on a piece of paper and then cut out some doors from a magazine and tape the doors over the three things you have always wanted to learn how to do. Now just sit there and free write all of the “reasons” why you can’t learn about what is behind door #1, then do the same thing for door #2 and #3.
I began to realize how important it was to be an enthusiast in life. If you are interested in something, no matter what it is, go at it fullspeed. Embrace it with both arms, hug it, love it and above all become passionate about it. Lukewarm is no good.
– Ronald Dahl
Now I am giving you a magic wand that is called enthusiasm. I want you to waive it over the three doors and grant yourself one wish. Open up the door that most calls to your heart and soul and write down how you will feel when you are doing this thing. I want you to write it in the present tense, that you have taken the classes or lessons and now you can play the piano, or dance the waltz or you just built a cabinet or rebuilt a car engine. How happy and joyful do you feel? Now go back to all of those “reasons” why you can’t do what is behind that door. Cross through each one as you name the fear behind it. Fear of success, fear of failure, fear of not being good enough and so on. Now go out and learn what you need to know to bring that dream out from under the bed, dust it off, shine a light on it, and figure out how to do what you need to do to “get it done”.
If you want to be successful, it’s just this simple.
Know what you are doing.
Love what you are doing.
And believe in what you are doing.
– Will Rogers
You are capable of far more than you know. Don’t be afraid to unleash your greatness.
Transformation gives you the chance to rewrite the story of who you are and who you are capable of being. There are many things in our life that we give negative meanings to. But what if you gave pain the definition that it shows you that which is not right for you? This would be a positive thing to know – what doesn’t belong to me or my life. It is hard to leave something or someone behind you, to let them or it go. It is hard until you decide to do it. Then it becomes easy. It isn’t the leaving that is hard, it is the decision.
Envy is another word that has a bad rap. What if envy simply shows you things which you may wish to empower in your own life? That would be a great thing to know – things I want in my life and can empower myself to obtain. In our lives we have the habit of settling. We settle with that 10 lbs of weight that we can’t seem to lose. We settle with our job, thinking what we have is better than nothing. We settle, settle, settle, because the reality is that we don’t know what we really, really want.
I am always stuck. I am always stuck between giving people everything because I am dying to create meaningful relationships, and giving them nothing at all because then if they leave, at least I’ll be left whole.
– (via yoymenoyhoy)
Your life is yours to live, no matter how you choose to live it. When you do not think about how you intend to live it, it lives you. When you occupy it, step into it consciously, you live it.
– Gary Zukav
Take a moment to think about this past week in your life. How many things are habitual that you do? How much of your life is lived on autopilot? You get up in the morning, shower, brush your teeth, . . . daily habits that we don’t think about if we should do or not do. Now think about how much of your life you actually thought about living? Did you do anything new? Did you plan out a trip to somewhere you’ve never been? Did you drive down a different street going to or from work that you’ve never been down before? Did you do anything different than the previous week, month or ever year? How much of your life is lived consciously? Can you say like Alice in Wonderland, “I knew who I was this morning, but I’ve changed quite a few times since then?”
There is a saying that we have two ears and one mouth, because we are supposed to listen twice as much as we speak. I think that this ability to listen also applies to listening to our inner voice. I know that this is something that I constantly practice.
Trust your instincts. Intuition doesn’t lie.
Do you ever have that nagging feeling as you are walking out the door to go to work or run errands? That feeling that you are forgetting something, but can’t think of what it might be? Do you run down your mental checklist and don’t see anything that you have forgotten? Then later, something happens and you realize what it was you forgot? Happens to me all the time. That is the inner voice talking, but not being listened to.
The more you trust your intuition, the more empowered you become, the stronger you become, and the happier you become.
– Gisele Bundchen
It is the same voice that tells you stay away from that person – you know the one that makes your skin crawl? It is like a radar warning you away from danger or from a bad relationship. Have you ever pushed that voice down saying, “there is nothing wrong with this person” to yourself, only to regret later not listening to it?
The intuitive minds is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.
– Albert Einstein
When I worked for a major bank in San Diego years ago I had that feeling about a new hire. I was a mortgage loan supervisor at the time, and every new loan would come across my desk and I would assign the set up clerk and loan processor for the file. This new hire literally made my skin crawl. I told the branch manager that there was something majorly wrong with this guy, but he passed the background check, so that was all he cared about. So I went through each new loan submission this guy turned in and rejected almost all of them as having something wrong with the documentation (translate loan fraud).
Our office was on the 15th floor facing the freeway. There was a side road that ran along the freeway and one afternoon everyone was at the windows watching something going on down below. When I went to see what was going on, this loan officers Porsche was alongside the chain link fence next to the freeway and it was on fire. The fire department was there and as they were shooting water at the car, I could see these funny sparks shooting out around the vehicle. Pretty soon I saw the police arrive and they handcuffed the loan officer and put him in the back of the police car.
Turns out he had several hand guns and rifles in the trunk of the car along with ammunition. It was live ammunition going off that was creating the sparks. It was a few days before he came back to work, and he was fired. I never let my branch manager forget that I had told him that there was something wrong with that guy. Sometimes we just know intuitively when something isn’t right.
Problems are the gifts that make us dig out and figure out who we are, what we’re made for, and what we’re responsible to give back to life.
– Tony Robbins
This inner voice is the key to having a life of transformation that doesn’t throw us into “dark night of the soul” transformations. When we listen to this voice, reflect on what it is trying to tell us we can save ourselves a lot of trouble. I love Tony Robbins quote because it puts a slightly different spin on knowing ourselves. We need to understand our place in this world, in order to figure out what we are responsible to do with our life. The biggest changes we have made in our life usually come out of the biggest challenges. It shows us who we really are when we pull back the curtains and stop pretending to be the “All Powerful Wizard”. It shows us how to pay it forward and do good with our life.
Knowing yourself means being able to separate the true from the false in yourself – love from emotion, joy from sentiment, will from desire.
– Barry Long
I am sure that most of us have heard of the saying, take 10 deep breaths, then talk. It is critical that we pause before reacting. What is so important about taking the deep breaths, is that it helps us step out of the whirlpool of emotions that we are drowning in. We can step back and see from a less emotional viewpoint what really needs to be said, or done at that moment. It allows us to reconnect the heart and mind, so that we can make good decisions instead of emotional ones.
Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.
When I was growing up, there was a lot of yelling and fighting between my parents. It was one of the things that I used to say, “I won’t be this kind of parent when I grow up.” When my kids would do something that made me mad, the house rule was they had to go to their room. When I was done being mad, and able to have a conscious conversation about their behavior then I would go to their room and we would have a talk about what had happened.
When you know yourself you are empowered. When you accept yourself you are invincible.
– Tina Lifford
I think that the hardest part of this quote is not the knowing oneself, it is the accepting part of it. It is also the most critical part. I don’t know about you, but if you are like me at all, it is hard to acknowledge the parts of me that I don’t want others to know about. Like if I hide it from myself, no one else can see it either – reminds me of the fairy tale of “The Emperor’s New Clothes”. LOL
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Have you ever felt like you have a recurring theme in your life? Something that keeps showing up over and over again?
All of us have gold hidden within, but we have to dig to get it out.
– Joyce Meyer
When I was 4 years old I went through a trauma that said it wasn’t safe to be seen or heard. I then spent most of my adult life trying to figure out why I always seemed to have one foot on the gas, and one foot on the brake. Most of us experienced something in our early childhood, from conception through the 8th year or so, that became an unconscious program running in the background of our decision making process.
Scars are just a treasure map for pain you’ve buried too deep to remember.
– Jodi Picoult
I went for professional help because I had buried the memory, and could remember nothing of my childhood until my first day of school. Once I uncovered the memory, I could see how this one experience had impacted my entire life. I had become stuck in my own life, and it was like the car stuck in the mud. The wheels were spinning, but all that was happening was that I was throwing dirt all over the place. Now that I could see how the car was stuck in the mud, I could use tools to get back onto the dry road, and get moving on my own journey of personal transformation.
The moment that you feel that, just possibly, you’re walking down the street naked, exposing too much of your heart and your mind and what exists on the inside, showing too much of yourself. That’s the moment you may be starting to get it right.
– Neil Gaiman
We all have these buried treasures that we were gifted with to share with the world. At some point in our life, someone or something happened that convinced us they were worthless pieces of trash. So feeling guilty, embarrassed, ashamed, and afraid, we buried them deep inside of ourselves. Piece by piece, they must be dug up, polished up, and shared. It is these treasures which will shift the world to a better place for all of us. I write to share my treasures with everyone. I am working very hard to help the nonprofits be able to share their treasures with the world. Elizabeth Gilbert in her book “Big Magic” called this “strange jewels” which are buried within us, waiting to be uncovered.
You have extraordinary treasures hidden within you. Bringing forth those treasures takes work and faith and focus and courage and hours of devotion.
– Elizabeth Gilbert
Most of us spend our lives looking outside of ourselves for fulfillment. If we are the perfect child, the perfect student, the perfect spouse or parent, or the perfect employee, then we will be fulfilled. Nothing outside of ourselves can really provide long lasting validation, security or love. We can get temporary fixes which fail, and then we are on our way to the next partner, or job. Or we condemn ourselves as failures and stop seeking any kind of love, security or fulfillment.
Sometimes we spend our whole lives running away from ourselves and the pain that lives within us. We bury it down deep and convince ourselves that it too much to bear. But in that pain is great treasure. There is beauty in the depths of our souls, where we have hidden our gifts. The great religious leaders recognize the truth of this.
We are all jars of clay, fragile and poor, yet we carry within us an immense treasure.
– Pope Francis
Every moment of our life is wrapped up in change. Every truth of today, will not necessarily be the truth tomorrow. New discoveries in science, uncover and shifts the foundations of what we know. Technology is constantly changing all aspects of our life. In the same way, as we dig and uncover what lies deep within ourselves, we reach new truths about ourselves. We become more conscious, more awake. The Founder of Agape International Spiritual Center, Michael Beckwith took it a step further in reflecting that these divine gifts and priceless treasures were given to us to help shift not just our own consciousness, but the consciousness of the world.
We are on the planet to …, wrap our consciousness around the divine treasure within us.
– Michael Beckwith
We all have these treasure maps inside of us, which lead us to the divine treasure of love. Love of Self, Love of God and Family, Love of the World. We are all diamonds in the rough, and the journey through this divine love reveals the beauty of the diamond within us.
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In order to save myself, I must destroy first the me I was told to be.
– The Dreamer
We are all born dreamers. All you have to do is watch any small child. You can see their dreams, their imaginations running wild. They create whole worlds with blankets and pillows, some Legos and Hot Wheels, Dinosaurs and some plastic green Army Men. Whatever they can get their hands on. If you give them a few tools they will cut and saw out some boards and hammer together a space ship, then put on their capes to go out to save the world from alien invaders. But the horrible thing that happens to some of us, is that we let go of our dreams. We become realists and make our possibilities into a small safe comfort zones.
There are only two kinds of people in this world. The realists and the dreamers. The realists know where they are going and the dreamers have already been there.
– Robert Orben
We need to destroy our comfort zones and remember that we are dreamers and we have unlimited potential. Your dreams were designed to custom fit your personality. If we let them, they will continue grow and expand as we do. They will follow us all of our days, growing greater and grander as we do. When Walt Disney was laying in the hospital dying, he had his newest dreams taped up on the ceiling so that he could look up at them and continue to plan their realities. As long as you continue to learn, to grow and expand, so will your dreams. Dreams are our future realities, waiting in the wings to come out on the stage of life.
The dreamers of the day are dangerous people. For they dream their dreams with wide open eyes, and make them come true.
– D.H. Lawrence
I am always amazed when I read an old science fiction book or look at some of the drawings of someone like Leonardo Da Vinci. He created on paper the bicycle, the helicopter, and an airplane. What powerful dreamers they were. At the time, they were writing about a future they could only see in their minds eye. They made up inventions that had us deep within the oceans, that had us exploring the galaxy, that had us beaming a person from the land mass of a planet, up through space and into the interior of a space ship.
Great dreams of great dreamers are always transcended.
– A.P.J. Abdul Kalam
Over time, inventors have been catching those concepts or thoughts, and they have been bringing them into reality. They invented deep sea diving suits, and submarines and special mini subs that could go even deeper. We have the ability to see the ocean floor from satellites deep in space. They took us to the moon and back. Now we go back and forth on a regular basis to a space station. I saw a news piece about how someone is building personal small helicopters that will fly themselves and be used in the near future to take us to work. While this isn’t the flying car that turns into a brief case we saw on the George Jetson cartoons, it is getting closer to a reality.
All successful people, men and women, are big dreamers. They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision.
– Brian Tracy
When you are a dreamer that puts action steps into your dreams, you discover a number of things. You discover what hard work really looks and feels like. You discover the real cost of sacrificing everything to make the dream into reality, and you discover that the price isn’t as large as fear told you it would be. You discover that every time you fall down, every time it doesn’t work out like you thought it would, that every single failure, is just a way to show you a new viewpoint into what you are bringing into the worlds reality. You discover that failures are just stepping stones to greatness.
Do not let the fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark in the hopeless swamps of the not-quite, the not-yet, and the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish in lonely frustration for the life you deserved and have never been able to reach. The world you desire can be won. It exists . . it is real . . . it is possible . . . it’s yours.
– Ayn Rand
Every night you tossed and turned trying to figure out the right way, and all of the struggles you have or will go through, are in the end are the price tag of the ever expanding new you. Each and every price tag that you pay for .. . every single failure, is what is leading you to the mastery of the idea, and the fulfillment of the concept. The steps of the completion of the dream, becomes a part of the never ending journey to which we all sign up for. You gain a true understanding of the words, “it is not the destination that matters, but who we are becoming along the way”.
Yes, I am a dreamer. For a dreamer is one who can find his way by moonlight, and his punishment is that he sees the dawn before the rest of the world.
– Oscar Wilde
Sometimes you just need an adventure to cleanse the bitter taste of life from your soul
One of the processes many of us go through at the end of the year is to go through the year that is passing. We look at our highlights, both good and bad. The successes we celebrate and the failures we sift through for the good pieces hidden in the ashes. I think that one of the things to plan for the new year is an adventure. It could be as simple as a hike up into the mountains where we can just sit in the silence and commune with our soul. Or it could be that we take a trip to somewhere we have never been.
It could be within driving distance of where we live or we could travel to a foreign country. What it needs to be is an experience that is something totally out of our comfort zone. Doing this gives us a new perspective in our life. It shifts our viewpoints and sometimes it changes our life in unforeseen ways.
The secret of making dreams come true can be summarized in four C’s. They are curiosity, confidence, courage, and constancy; and the greatest of these is confidence
– Walt Disney
When we take the time at the end of the year or the beginning of the new year to look at our life, we need to be gentle with ourselves. Going deep within using Disney’s four C’s will unlock things in our heart, soul and mind that we didn’t know where there. In talking to my life/business coaches a thought floated to the surface around money. Years ago, when I would be in a discussion around money with my husband, I would say I wanted to have something physical to show in my hands for the money that I spendt. I haven’t said this for years, but it brought to the surface a belief about money that was hidden within me that needs to be released. When you approach these hidden beliefs without judgement, but instead curiosity it becomes so easy to let them go.
To breathe your own truth is your heart’s most burning desire. To live your purpose is your soul’s lifelong dream.
Don’t be at war with yourself when you look at the blocks that you have. We all have some beliefs, which block the path to our soul’s dream. Instead gets curious. Give your basic life tools the chance to work, by working with them. Meditation, journaling, routines to take care of your health, living in gratitude for what each day has brought to you. Instead of challenges, you believe that you have opportunities for growth.
Live your truth. Express your love. Share your enthusiasm. Take action towards your dreams. Walk your talk. Dance and sing to your music. Embrace your blessings. Make today worth remembering.
– Dr. Steve Maraboli
Taking down the walls you have been building your whole life to expose yourself as you really are. True freedom doesn’t have limits to who you can be. Taking up the practice of something new to grow your soul is completely dependent on your realizing it doesn’t matter that you do it well or badly. Just that you do in fact do it. You are the one who decides that an experience or change in your life is personal growth, or that it creates personal fears. Get curious and give yourself the love that you give so freely to others. Be a soothing balm to your soul.
Don’t be beautiful. They keep saying that beautiful is something a girl needs to be. But honestly? Forget that. Don’t be beautiful. Be angry, be intelligent, be witty, be klutzy, be interesting, be funny, be adventurous, be crazy, be talented – there are an eternity of things to be other than beautiful. And what is beauty anyway but a set of letters strung together to make a word? Be your own definition of amazing, always. That is so much more important than anything beautiful, ever.
– Nikita Gill
Audrey Hepburn to me is what this quote is talking about. She grew up in Belgium and was involved in fighting against the Nazi’s. She was a professional dancer and began acting just to help support her mom. At the time she wasn’t considered a beauty. Her body wasn’t the right shape, her eyebrows too bushy. But she lived her life as she wanted and because she wasn’t afraid to be who she was, she became an icon.. She won a Tony, an Oscar and Grammy and is one of only 12 people to win all three. She insisted that Hubert de Givenchy design all of her clothes for the movies she was in. She later stepped away from Hollywood and concentrated on he work as a goodwill ambassador for UNICEF. I love her quote, “I’m Possible” for impossible as well as several others. She was an eternity of things, including beautiful and to me a wonderful example of living her life on her own terms.
There is a saying, if you want to change your life, change your thoughts. Thoughts are like a series of stepping stones across a river. Some of the stones are slippery from the moss as the water runs over them. Some of them are unstable and rock as you step on them. Some of the stones are tilted with edges that cut like a knife and hard to walk across. Some of the stones are firmly planted like a foundation stone. We can’t cross the river without stepping on the stones. We choose the stones to step on. Each stone we walk across, becomes part of our life’s path. Some trip us up and we fall into the water. Some support us, some don’t. Life demands change, but it always comes back to us choosing.
We cannot become what we want to be by remaining what we are.
– Max Depree
I am listening to the Lord of The Rings soundtrack as I write this. The Lord of the Rings is one of my favorite books and it really exemplifies change, with the journey of the characters. Some like Frodo and Samwise were challenged to greatness. They had failures when it seemed like the evil of the ring would destroy them. They wanted to give up, because what was asked of them was so hard. They kept walking towards their destination and that journey forged them, like a hammer hitting them again and again as they walked through the fiery tests. Each challenge brought them closer to the great characters they had the potential to be.
Inspiration and growth only come from adversity and from challenge – from stepping away from what’s comfortable and familiar and stepping out in the unknown
– Ben Saunders
Boromir failed in his duty. Gollum swung from bad to good to bad again. Saurman fell from being a protector of the world to its destroyer. So many were tested and found wanting, not because it was their destiny to fail, or that they were inherently evil. It was because they stopped trying to be good and wise. It was easier to let the bad take over. Sometimes we think that we have lost of the best part of us, like when Gandalf went down into the fires with the Balrog, and we don’t know how we can continue. It seems like all is lost. But like Gandalf coming back as a new being, we can always be reborn. As long as we keep walking, the way will open before us. When we push the edges of the known universe, we discover new lands to explore.
I always find beauty in things that are odd and imperfect – they are much more interesting.
– Marc Jacobs
Have you ever monitored the thoughts that cross your mind? The things you think, but filter and so don’t say? An interesting exercise is to sit on a bench at a mall, park or beach – somewhere where there are lots of people. Turn on the recording button on your phone and just record your thoughts as you watch the people walk by. When you replay it, notice if the majority of your thoughts were positive or negative. Where you funny? Quirky? Profound? Think about your favorite TV shows or movies. The characters in the book, movie, TV shows that you remember and fall in love with, are the ones that are quirky – Spock or Data from Star Trek, or maybe the science nerd from NCIS Abby or Dr. Mallard. Punky Brewster with the funny socks. The characters on The Big Bang Show. The list goes on and on. Find the beauty in you being you.
Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.
– George Bernard Shaw
Asking yourself questions about your thoughts can provide useful insight into thoughts that you can work on changing. Whenever anything went wrong for my mom, she had a habit of saying, “I could just kill myself”. She didn’t even realize she was saying it until one day my son said to her after something happened, “I know grandma you could just kill yourself”. She was horrified that she had said this so often that her young grandson said it back to her, and she stopped saying it.
Close some doors. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because they no longer lead somewhere.
As you get curious and not judgmental about the thoughts, dig beneath them to see what patterns are in your life that you didn’t realize were there. We all have them. How many times have you been driving to or from work and realized that you are missing moments in your drive – that suddenly you are home or at work and you don’t remember part of the drive? Shifting the patterns is what makes real transformation of your thoughts. I have hated spiders since I was a kid and got bit when I was sleeping on my hand. When I was talking a college creative writing course years ago, they had us read a book by Sue Hubbell. Her husband and her were both professors at a University and he decided one day to walk away from tenure and go live in the Ozarks. A few months later, he left Sue also and she wrote about that year in her life where everything fell apart and she was left with no money and no job and a house in the middle of nowhere.
Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.
– Wayne W. Dyer
Each chapter was written around something in nature. One chapter was about spiders. When I finished that chapter, my relationship with spiders changed. While I still don’t “like” them, I am no longer terrified of them. This chapter for me highlighted the fact that when we learn more about something, it changes our relationship with it. It takes the fears away, because we removed the unknown from the equation. When you go beyond what you think is real, you step into the unknown. While the unknown is filled with fears, each day our relationship with it changes, because more becomes known. Like walking down a path through the fog – we may not be able to see far into the distance, but each step reveals what was hidden before. Just keep stepping on the next stone, taking the next step in your life. Make this quote your mantra, and you will have an amazing life.
Today I create a WONDERFUL NEW DAY and a WONDERFUL NEW FUTURE.
– Louise Hay