Remove The Boundaries And Make Your Dreams A Reality
In 2013, in Oregon, teenage sisters Hanna (age 16) & Haylee (age 14) lifted a tractor to save their father pinned underneath.
In 2015, in St. John’s, Newfoundland, Nick Williams lifted a four-wheel-drive vehicle to save a young boy pinned beneath its tire.
In 2015, in Vienna, Virginia, Charlotte Heffelmire was able to momentarily use incredible strength to free her dad from a GMC pick-up truck.
“The only thing limiting us in life is our belief that there are limits” – unknown
What do these three things have in common?
They are what you call miracles, extreme feats of strength. Adrenaline on overload. What they demonstrate is that the rules, boundaries and limitations don’t exist.
Why? Because you can blast through them, when you don’t stop to think about it. These examples show people who did something their logical minds would have told them was impossible. But because someone they loved was in danger, they did the impossible.
There was a commercial at Super Bowl XLIX for Always #LikeAGirl. In the video an adult female shows them what it’s like to run like a girl, then a young female teen, and preteen female and last a little girl. The older girls ran in an unreal way that was weak and ineffective. The younger girls ran as fast as they could. The commercial highlighted the fact that most women when they hit puberty, take in limitations to what they can do and be.
“Our beliefs are just thoughts with emotions tied to them that we’ve taught ourselves to believe are true” – JV Crum III
As teenagers, in order to fit in, you started holding back on what you were capable of. 75-80% of your negative thinking patterns come from negative beliefs that you have made up about yourself.
When I started school, I was four years old, turning five in November. I entered first grade, because my school didn’t have a kindergarten. So, I was very small and always 1-2 years younger than everyone else in my grade.
I was chosen last for any sport activity. I formed the belief that I wasn’t good at sports. Because of this belief, I never tried. To this day, I am not active in any sports. This is just a belief, and only my reality as long as I let it be.
Ernestine Shepard, is a body builder. She believes that age is nothing but a number. Because of that belief she is doing some amazing things. When she was 56 years old she decided to become a body builder. In 2010 she entered the Guinness Book of World Records as the oldest female body builder. At 83 years old she is still going strong. “I am out running/walking at 3:30 a.m. in the morning with a group of people, seven days a week,” Ernestine told the Miami Times. “I eat very healthy and eat five meals a day every day. My gym schedule consists of going five days a week and doing a variation of 100 sit-ups per day.”
She has been on Oprah and recognized throughout the world for what she is doing. She teaches an Energy Fitness Class at a gym. She has a video created by Prevention Magazine. She is an excellent example of how it is never to late to take a negative belief about yourself, and break through any self imposed limitation with a new positive belief.
“Don’t limit yourself. Many people limit themselves to what they think they can do. You can go as far as your mind lets you. What you believe, remember, you can achieve” – Mary Kay Ash
All of us continue to allow limitations to rule our lives as adults. Some limiting beliefs are conscious and some unconscious. You need to realize that it is all just an illusion, a false belief of your imagination.
At one time there was a saying that if God meant for man to fly, he would have been given wings. The Wright Brothers refused to allow that limiting belief keep them from their dreams.
Your beliefs challenge you to get creative. You can choose to rise up and create what is needed to be successful. Failures come when instead of rising up, your mind creates road blocks. Your mind comes up with all of the perfectly good reasons why it can’t possibly work. Why you are “not enough” of something to make it happen. This path of limited thinking leads to failure.
People with boundary problems have distorted attitudes about who is responsible for failures in their life.
- Your parents made mistakes in how you were raised.
- Your have relationships right now don’t allow you the freedom you need to be successful.
- You don’t have a college degree.
- You are poor.
- Someone is out to get you at work.
The excuses list could go on and on. The truth is that you have built boundaries all around your excuses and painted yourself into the proverbial corner. The corner is limiting, but it feels safe. You lack the courage to step over the line and actually risk pursuing something you want. You are just plain afraid of any change in your life. It happens to everyone all the time.
“Boundaries are for those who are too afraid to take the leap” – quoted from @Business Beware
If you accept a limiting belief, it will become your truth. What walls have you built over the door of opportunity that you are ready to blast into bits? What limiting belief are you ready to let go of?
Share with us your limiting belief that you are letting go of. Your share will help all of us to do the same.
When Life Challenges You, Hold Your Head Up High And Ride That Wave To The Shore
Our feelings and emotions can at times be overwhelming. I remember when my mom passed away, that in the evenings I would get deluged with emotions of missing her, being mad at her for dying, hurting so much that I just crawled into a ball and cried until I couldn’t breathe. There are times in your life, when your whole body is crying in such deep pain, that it takes everything you have just to take another breath. It feels as though your soul is on fire. It is hard to remember that feelings are just visitors, and we can let them visit, and then let them go back out the door they came in.
An entire sea of water can’t sink a ship, unless it gets inside the ship. Similarly, the negativity of the world can’t put you down, unless you allow it to get inside of you.
– Goi Nasu
Like a person surfing the waves, we can learn to ride these overwhelming emotions. We may crash and fall off our board, but we can choose to get right back on and ride the next wave. To me riding the wave is allowing the emotion to flow right through us, just as the wave reaches the shore and dissipates into nothing.
Life is like riding a wave. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.
– Eric Carlson
Sometimes your heart needs more time to accept what your mind already knows. I think the reason that grief or anger can get us stuck in these emotions, is because we don’t allow the emotions to flow through. They can get caught in a rip tide inside of us. We fight releasing them until we are exhausted. Sometime we struggle and we battle ourselves, denying how we are really feeling. Other time we wallow in these emotions, holding them to our hearts and refusing to let them flow. Either way they will keep pushing us to the shore and then dragging us back out to sea, until we are so exhausted, that the rough surf literally beats us into the sand.
Allowing the emotions to pass through helps us to heal from the hurt. We recover much faster, and we can begin choosing good memories to dwell on. We can progress into appreciation for the time that we had with what we have lost. The truth is that we haven’t really lost anything. People and things come into our lives, serve their purpose or reason for being there, and then move on to the next thing. The important thing is that we had them in our lives for the time they were with us.
When we have a bad memory come up, we can just ride the wave to the shore, and then consciously allow it to fade into foam and dissipate. It doesn’t have to drag us back out again. We can release the hold we have on it, and let the feeling fade away. As the last bubble of the foam pops, then it is time to let it go. Then we can consciously decide that we want to raise our vibrations up into higher levels. We can raise the vibration out from the sadness, grief, or anger. We can start attracting good feelings into our space. We always have a choice, even when we think that we don’t.
When stress and bad days hit, we are designed to reach out for the help we need. But our natural tendency is to withdraw instead. We shut down, hole up, limit ourselves to our own little worlds.
– Holley Gerth.
It is important when the bad days hit, to reach out to someone we love and let them help us.
Allow yourself to really feel, your feelings. It’s okay to bare your soul, breakdown or cry because through that breakdown comes your breakthrough.
– Rashida Rowe.
Letting those who love us help us, is practicing self care. It is reflecting back to those who love us, how much we love and trust them to be with us in our hour of need. And sometimes when those that we love say they are okay, we need to hold them tight and look them in the eyes and tell them that we know that they are not okay. And that in itself is okay, because we are going to keep holding them tight until they can breathe on their own again.
Taking a few deep belly breaths, placing our hands on our heart, and consciously reaching for something that will help us raise our awareness into something positive. I always think of the laughing baby when the dad tears the paper video or cute kittens and puppies, or a favorite song like Pharrell Williams “Happy” song. Music has the wonderful ability to speak to us, to express what is in our hearts, that we can’t express in words. As the “Happy” songs says, “happiness is the truth”.
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Can Life Be A Daring Adventure?
I have had on my desk for several years a large rock on which is inscribed, “It is not the destination, It is the journey”. We think that accomplishing our big dreams or goals in life is the point. But really that isn’t true. There will always be a new destination, dream or goal. It is who you become on the way to the destination. Every daring adventure is really all about the transformation.
Our brains will try to convince us not to go on the daring adventures. It will insist that we have limitations. It will try to close us off from transforming our life. It tries to convince us that transformation will affect our very survival, that we can’t exceed the boundaries that it deems by logic to be safe and secure for us.
Getting our brain and heart to effectively communicate is a difficult process for most of us. Take the analogy of the shoreline here in the photo. The sand is the logic of the brain. The waves the emotions of the heart. There is a point when the waves come up against the sand and they blend together. That is the space that we are looking for, in having this internal conversation between the logical brain and the emotional heart.. That moment of overlap in which the different perspectives can be viewed. A unity of understanding can be achieved in that moment of overlap, when the two meet energetically – the influence of chaos from the emotions with the logical rigid mind, which is demanding that we stick to the known rules and do not go exploring.
This is one of the things that we will be exploring in our upcoming seminar on “Living A Transformational Life”. There is a wide difference of meaning between change and transformation. When we change our lives, the majority of times it just doesn’t last. We go on a diet, lose the 20 lbs and then less than a year later, the 20 lbs has crept back on. Change is primarily achieved with willpower. The problem with will power is that it is short lived. At some point the rubber band that we have stretched out snaps back or breaks. Then we are back to square one in the changes we had made.
Transformation on the other hand, alters us to the point that we no longer have the option to return back to what we were before. Once the butterfly emerges from the chrysalis it can’t return to the caterpillar’s body, no matter how much it might want to. The transformation process has altered the DNA and physical form. There is no way to return to that old body.
Some of the concepts that we will be exploring with the webinar are the acronym of FACES, being: Flexible, Adaptable, Coherent (resilient), Energized and Stable. It is about creating opportunities in the sea of potential, and seeing the potentialities on the plains of possibility. About movement, about flow, and the charge of being truly alive. It is about collaboration through creating harmonies out of differences. Like the waves upon the sand, we will come together honoring the differences in our lives. We will be linking the brain and heart together to create something new and different for each of us.
Is your life a daring adventure? Come to our webinar and learn how to disolve the boundaries that have imprisioned you off from your heart and souls desires. Listen to the words of William Ward:
“The adventure of life is to learn.
The goal of life is to grow.
The nature of life is to change.
The challenge of life is to overcome.
The essence of life is to care.
The secret of life is to dare.
The beauty of life is to give.
The joy of life is to love.”
Ask yourself some great questions: Where are you now? How do you feel about it? Where do you want to go? How would you like to get there? In what manner are you now traveling there? What steps can I take?
Happiness is the Truth
Our feelings and emotions can at times be overwhelming. I remember when my mom passed away, that in the evenings I would get deluged with emotions of missing her, being mad at her for dying, hurting so much that I just crawled into a ball and cried until I couldn’t breathe. Like a person surfing the waves, we can learn to ride these overwhelming emotions. We may crash and fall off our board, but we can choose to get right back on and ride the next wave. To me riding the wave is allowing the emotion to flow right through us, just as the wave reaches the shore and dissipates into nothing. I think the reason that grief or anger can get us stuck in these emotions, is because we don’t allow the emotions to flow through. It then gets caught in a rip tide that we fight until we are exhausted. When we battle or wallow in the emotions, they will keep circling around us, until we are so exhausted that it beats us into the sand. Allowing the emotions to pass through helps us to heal from the hurt. We recover much faster, and we can begin choosing good memories to dwell on. We can progress into appreciation for the time that we had with what we have lost. The truth is that we haven’t really lost anything. People and things come into our lives, serve their purpose or reason for being there, and then move on to the next thing. The important thing is that we had them in our lives for the time they were with us. When we have a bad memory come up, we can just ride the wave to the shore and then consciously allow it to fade into foam. As the last bubble of the foam pops, then it is time to let it go. Then we can consciously decide that we want to raise our vibrations up into higher levels out from the sadness, grief, or anger. We can start attracting good feelings into our space. We always have a choice, even when we think that we don’t. Taking a few deep belly breaths, placing our hands on our heart, and consciously reaching for something that will help us raise our awareness into something positive. I always think of the laughing baby when the dad tears the paper video or cute kittens and puppies, or a favorite song like Pharrell Williams “Happy” song. It’s a great idea to have some images, songs, poems, movies, etc…, in your tool box so that when you need to raise your vibration, you know how to do it quick and easy. As the “Happy” songs says, “happiness is the truth”.
The heart knows a thousand ways to speak
When I look at this quote and picture there is such a bond between the dog and child. You can just feel the energetic connection. Our pets sense our needs so well that it seems as though our hearts are speaking to each other.
I remember as a child I would hold my dog Snoopy and sometimes just cry out my frustrations. I felt like he was the only one who I could talk to about my problems. I knew that my dog was never disappointed in me. He was always happy to see me. I think that he is the reason I remained sane in an sometimes insane childhood.
Our hearts don’t just pump blood throughout our body. They also have their own nervous system that can process information just like our brain. It also is a hormonal gland, producing among others the hormone Oxytocin, also known as the love or bonding hormone.
The heart actually plays a major part in determining the quality of our emotional experience from moment to moment. The heart appears to play a key role in intuition. Although there is much yet to be understood, it appears that the age-old associations of the heart with thought, feeling, and insight may indeed have a basis in science.
So the poet Rumi’s words of the heart knowing a thousand ways to speak is actually true as our heart functions speak to every sense that we have in our body, speaking to our body even more than our brain does. As a source of wisdom, spiritual insight, thought, and emotion it proves that Rumi’s words may well be more than simply metaphorical.
Power to Change
“Since what other people do to you is not in your power to change, you need only concern yourself with what you do to yourself, for that is in your power.” – Guy Finley
As women when we get an emotional hit, the vibration of the emotion is fast moving through our body. As it moves, it slows down to a speed that allows us for form a thought of what this emotion is trying to tell us. So a thought for women is actually a slowed down emotion. Once an emotion has been slowed down it becomes a distorted emotion (because it is no longer vibrating at the correct speed), and this slowed down distorted emotion, creates a negative thought.
Most of us tend to get overtaken by our feelings and reactions to the negative thoughts. We believe that someone or something else is causing us to be unhappy, Instead of giving away our power to be happy to another person or possession or belief, we have the power within ourselves to change the negative thoughts.
Instead of resisting the negative thought, what we need to do is welcome the thought with a vibration of nonattachment. Just open the door and say hello to the thought, completely neutral. When we do this we are retraining our hypothalamus that just because I have a negative thought doesn’t mean I have to go down into negative energy. I can remain in ease and nonattachment, and just allow the thought to go on its way. No harm, no foul.
I think that this is what Guy Finley is talking about, from a woman’s point of view. I can’t change what others do or say. The only thing in my power is my reaction. I can just welcome the thought in and let it go on its way, with no drama, no story, that is what is in my power and in your power. Because my reaction in any other way just puts negativity into my life. I am essentially punishing myself for something that I had no control over – what someone else did or thought or didn’t do or think. How useless is that?
It is in my power live a life of ease and grace, and if you really think about it, if someone is trying to hurt me, isn’t that the best revenge? No reaction, just me being happy
Emotion
“The appearance of things change according to the emotions and thus we see magic and beauty in them, while the magic and beauty really are in ourselves” – Kahlil Gibran
This explains why we can read a book today, and again next week, and again the next week, and see something different in that book than we’ve seen before. It is not just that we changed in some way and so now a different part of the book is speaking to us. It is also the emotions that we are bringing to the table when we read it.
This explains how two people can witness a beautiful sunset, with one not noticing and the other moved to tears. The emotional state of each person serves as a filter through which they view the world. If you are not seeing the magic and beauty of the world around you, then you aren’t seeing it in yourself either.
If you find yourself in this state, then you can take notice of where you are on the emotional scale and then work on increasing your energetic state up the ladder one rung at a time. We all have an emotional or vibrational set point that we return to. It is a middle point that we return to. For example if you are continually feeling emotions between rage and contentment your emotional set point is somewhere around worry, doubt or disappointment. I am sure that most of us can think of someone who is always worried about something. No matter what great thing is happening in their life, they return to the fear of losing it or messing it up somehow.
Our set point is how we attract like people into our lives. This is another way we can determine where our set point is, as they will be a rung above, below or at our own set point. By using a method like the emotional freedom technique (EFT or Tapping), we can change our set point to a higher vibration. By changing it incrementally we can make this change a permanent one.
So if you are feeling the emotions of being overwhelmed, you wouldn’t go from that vibration straight up the ladder to enthusiasm. Rather you would go up the ladder to frustration, irritation and disappointment. Don’t stay there but continue going up the next rung to pessimism, then to boredom which is neutral. The next rung brings you into the positive emotional vibrational scale of contentment. Which is the top scale of the person who is a worrier. So if that fits your set point, you might want to continue up to hopefulness, which is the next rung. Or the rung above that one which is optimism.
Isn’t it wonderful that we can change the way we view our world simply by changing our emotional state? Emotions are just information about where we, and this built in guidance system is how we determine when we are out of alignment with our ‘higher self’. If you aren’t seeing the magic and beauty in the world, there isn’t something wrong with us. We just need a ‘tune up’ to realign to ourselves. To embrace that we are worthy, deserving, loveable, loved, loving and a brilliant eternal being.
Patience
“Patience – the gift of being able to see past the emotion” – Rodney Williams
Strong emotions take away clear thinking. They make us panic and think that we must do something now! When you learn to scuba dive they talk to you about breathing. Because when you panic you hold your breath. If you are diving and you hold your breath, you can create an embollism that will kill you. Remembering to breathe will save your life.
When you are in a situation with strong emotions you forget to breathe. While you may not create a life and death situation from not breathing literally; your panic can. When my sister was in the hospital years ago from a car accident there was another guy there. He had skidded out of control and stopped at the edge of the cliff, teetering on the edge, but not over. He panicked and opened the door on the wrong side, and without looking stepped out into air and fell to the bottom of the ravine. The vehicle never did go over. He was paralyzed with a broken back.
We need to be in control of our emotions and the easiest way is to breathe. We may think that we don’t have the time and must make a decision now! But just breathe, take back control and see past the emotion that is threatening to over power you. Don’t step off the cliff, just breathe until the emotion is under control and then decide. Patience is control of the emotions.
Strong emotions take away clear thinking. They make us panic and think that we must do something now! When you learn to scuba dive they talk to you about breathing. Because when you panic you hold your breath. If you are diving and you hold your breath, you can create an embollism that will kill you. Remembering to breathe will save your life.
When you are in a situation with strong emotions you forget to breathe. While you may not create a life and death situation from not breathing literally; your panic can. When my sister was in the hospital years ago from a car accident there was another guy there. He had skidded out of control and stopped at the edge of the cliff, teetering on the edge, but not over. He panicked and opened the door on the wrong side, and without looking stepped out into air and fell to the bottom of the ravine. The vehicle never did go over. He was paralyzed with a broken back.
We need to be in control of our emotions and the easiest way is to breathe. We may think that we don’t have the time and must make a decision now! But just breathe, take back control and see past the emotion that is threatening to over power you. Don’t step off the cliff, just breathe until the emotion is under control and then decide. Patience is control of the emotions.