I think where grief or anger can get us, is when we don’t allow the emotion to flow through, but rather it gets caught in a rip tide that we fight against until it exhausts us. When we battle or wallow in the emotion, it keeps it circling around and around us, until we are so exhausted that it beats us into the sand.

Allowing the emotions to pass through helps us to heal from the hurt. We recover much faster, and we can begin choosing good memories to dwell on. We can progress into appreciation for that time that we had with what we have lost. The truth is that we haven’t lost anything. People and things come into our lives, serve their purpose or reason for being there, and then move on to the next thing. The important thing is that we had them in our lives for the time we had.

When we have a bad memory come up, we can just ride the wave to shore and then consciously allow it to fade into foam. As the last bubble of the foam pops, then it is time to let it go. Then we can consciously decide that we want to raise our vibrations up into higher levels out of sadness, grief or anger and start attract good feelings into our space. We always have a choice, even when we think that we don’t.

Taking a few deep belly breathes, placing our hands on our heart, and consciously reach for something that will help us raise our awareness into something positive. I always think of a laughing baby, or cute kittens or puppies, or a favorite song like Pharrell Williams Happy song.

It’s a great idea to have some images, songs, poems, movies, etc…. in your tool box, so that when you need to raise your vibration you know how to do it quick and easy. As the song says, “happiness is the truth”.

We all came with different goals to accomplish in our lives. When we are hurting, it is because we are not walking the path we came here for. We need to reach inside ourselves and get back on our own path.

To me it is like a pair of shoes. Several of us may have size seven feet, but that doesn’t mean that once I have broken in a pair of shoes that you can walk comfortably in my shoes. My feet will not have the same exact shape, even though we may be the same size. I have a different pattern of walking, and I will mold the shoe to fit my foot. It will then not really “fit” anyone else comfortably who wears a size seven shoe.

In the same way, we each have a different divine gift that we came here to express. If you just follow any path, it will lead to your being hurt. The universe will direct you again and again to the correct path, but if you don’t stay on it, it will hurt. Not that you may necessarily lead a life full of trouble. You would most certainly however, lead an unfulfilled life. And that would hurt, in that you would always be looking for something that you can’t find.

So the best way for us to be fulfilled is to walk our own unique path, and encourage others to walk theirs. There has been a lot of talk lately about what a hero is. To me, we are all hero’s when we step out onto our own path. It takes great courage to walk away from the masses and basically strike out on our own. But that is the inspiring life – both for ourselves and others

Sometimes if feels like balance just eludes us – and it is usually because we are not living in the moment. Instead we are buried under the weight of our past, or we are busy digging a new grave out of what might be happening in our future.

Instead, wouldn’t it just be so nice to live in this very moment – with this breath – letting go of the past (which you can’t change anyway) and not projecting fears into our future. I love the Mark Twain quote “I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.”

I think that living in the moment, is the moment we have balance. It isn’t that fable that we all believed of work and home life balance, or being wonder woman with being the perfect employee, the perfect wife, and the perfect mother. Most of us who tried that remember what the fall of burnout looks like – it is not a pretty picture.

Balance, is remembering to just take in the breath and check in with ourselves. From moment to moment we can bring it in and just enjoy it. Hahhhhh, I was reading an article today that said it takes 10 breaths to ground and that is exactly how we achieve balance. Allowing in those deep belly breaths and grounding. Hahhhh, then we are connected to our bodies and receive in the earth mothers energy to recharge us.