“No one in the world was ever you before, with your particular gifts and abilities and possibilities” – Joseph Campbell
At conception you were granted a “stone”, a sacred life purpose, that you are to “cast across the waters”. That stone’s purpose is to create many ripples. Those ripples begin to change you from the moment of casting that stone. The ripples created also impact many others. As you cast that stone you set out on the journey of discovering and living your life purpose.
As you walk that path, it shifts and changes both you and the world in some way. This is because you are impacted by everyone else’s ripples. Each ripple touches and changes the other ripples.
For each stone that is cast or not cast, there is a change in the water. It doesn’t matter if you are someone who is hoarding their stone afraid to cast them, or you are one who grabs the courage and risks casting your own “stone” or life purpose. There is always an impact.
“The world is changed by your example, not by your opinion’– Paulo Coelho
You were born with a reluctance to change. You resist it. You fear it. You create stories around every impulse to create change in your life. Why? Because you’re human.
You build walls, not to keep other people out, as much as to keep yourself safe within.
As a human you also have this calling to improve your life. You demonstrate this every January when you create New Year’s Resolutions around the changes you want to make in your life. Dreams you want to materialize. Goals that you want to achieve. You work hard to bring them into reality.
The funny thing is that you keep these competing challenges active in your life. You don’t want to change, yet you want your dreams to come into reality. You make it hard work by fighting yourself internally around the changes you earnestly desire to make. You don’t know what is worse, that you try and fail, or that you try and succeed.
How do the doubts show up? You are afraid that you will lose your soul along the journey to success. That you will become too proud; that money will change you into someone you won’t like; that the cost will outweigh the benefits.
You are also just as terrified that you will fail to live your soul’s unique version of success. You compare your journey with all of those that you know. You compete, you judge; You are envious, or you pity their fall from grace. You are full of the dark emotions such as anger, regret, worry, blame, guilt and fear. You have people in your life that threaten your peace of mind and your self-worth. Worst of all you have your own judgmental inner self.
“We realize the importance of our voice when we are silenced” – Malala Yousafazi
You may have been given a powerful life purpose, such as Mother Teresa and Malala. You may have been given a small vision and life purpose. No matter how small or powerful your life purpose is, you will come up against obstacles in fulfilling it.
You have made up stories about what has happened in your life since childhood. Those stories will either weaken or strengthen you, depending on how you have cast yourself.
The choice is always within to cast your stone and live up your full potential or hide from your true potential and play small. When you play small you will cast blame your parents, your “ex”, your employer, or your best friend who provided the knife that stabbed you in the back. That way you can create the victimhood that keeps you safely hoarding your “stone” and refusing to allow change to transform you into something powerful beyond measure. To transform you into who you are meant to be to fulfill your divine purpose.
“Just as one drop of water creates countless ripples, so does one gesture of kindness or love change countless lives” – Randi G Fine
Water is an ultimate teacher for you. It changes shape to adapt to its situation.
Steam, fog, a cool refreshing liquid against your skin, a single snowflake, a sheet of ice or a mountain glacier, a hot volcanic pool of water that would be death to enter.
Oceans waters waves kiss the shoreline gently, in a storm it pounds against the rocks wearing them down into small particles that get dragged deep onto the ocean floor. It carves into the earth deep canyons and flows down those same canyons as a beautiful waterfall.
It both gives and takes life. It is neither good or evil, light or dark. It reflects back to you how if you take action with your stone or conversely you have inaction with your stone, still an impact is made on this earth.
In a different way, you can have what they are now terming “Raindrop” moments. This is the disruption of a certain type of business, by new developments that take over in technology.
Think of things such as physical books in print, newspapers, music in CD/Albums, which have become digital. Think of live streaming and all of the options you now have in watching movies and T.V. and the loss of business with cable companies and how it is changing the nature of both entertainment and business.
We can see the future disruptions in the movie and TV industries, changing from having human actors to artificial actors.
We see businesses such as Taxi’s being impacted by new businesses such as Uber.
These are all the results of someone who cast their stone across the water and created a ripple that was felt around the world. They made an impact.
Change happens whether you want it to or not. What water has to teach us is the ability to adapt, to improvise, and to overcome. It teaches you to shift your shape and transform. You have your “stone”, the divine purpose that you are here to achieve. The method of how you are doing so, is within you.
The ability to change, shift your shape, to transform, is what brings you to success. You must be that change that you wish to see in the world. If you think that world hunger is wrong, what are you doing to feed someone? Whatever you have strong beliefs around, what are you individually doing to make that change in your own space in this world?
“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks”– Christopher Hitchens
Be like water and adapt, improvise, overcome, shift your shape (consciousness), transform.
At some point in your journey you will come to a crossroads. You will have to pick a path (without any ability to know), if it will or will not lead you to your destination. You have to ask yourself that unanswerable question, Do I go forwards, backwards, left, right, diagonal?
Steve Jobs asked this question to John Sculley when he was vice president at PepsiCo, before Apple was a household name. “Do you want to spend the rest of your life selling sugared water or do you want a chance to change the world?”
Do not allow anyone’s definition of who you are, including your own, to define who you are. Like water, you can transform into what is needed to travel your own unique path in life.
The important thing is to stay curious, keep looking for open doors, keep asking unanswerable questions. To quiet the mind, and to listen to the soul, which is the source of the unanswerable questions. To go deep within, to visit and learn from the place our of real existence. Promise yourself, to not permit fear of failure or fear of greatness keep you frozen in place.
“Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle” – Christian D. Larson
I used to work for a company that owned hospitals and healthcare centers, doing accounting. The majority partner in the business would have the same order for lunch, every single day. A turkey sandwich with potato chips. Every single day, he ate the same lunch. They ordered lunch from TGIF, so it wasn’t like he didn’t have any other options.
I think many of us live in a rut. Stuck in a groove we can’t get out of, whether it’s our job, family drama or the little frustrations of everyday life. – Brian Pinkerton
I always wondered if he ate the same breakfast every morning, and the same dinner every evening. He was definitely a man stuck in a rut. Rush Limbaugh says that when you are in this experience, you “are out of contact with your own genius”. You have had this happen in your life at some point and time. The rut is a place of safety. You may have had a fear of the unknown, so the rut was a place of safety, because it is always the same. When you turn the page, who knows what might happen?
So what Zella is telling us, is that being in a rut, can actually be part of the journey – the point is once you recognize that you are stuck, then you can start going backwards, or forging ahead out of the rut. That you can blaze your own trail off the beaten path to your destination. That you can escape the rut. That you can get back in contact with your personal genius. This is because living your life on purpose through your personal genius, is when you know that you are home.
Changing a behavior is like driving down an old, rutted, dirt road. In order to get out of the rut and onto a new path, you need to jerk the wheel really hard. If you don’t jerk the wheel hard enough, you’ll just bounce right back on the same, old, rutted path. So for change to happen, hold on tight, jerk that wheel as hard as you can and get ready for a happy ride. Change is just beyond, on the other side. – Perfectharmonysolutions.com
When you listen to your personal genius, your souls voice, it leads you to amazing places. You find yourself living and doing things that previously you would only read about. Things that you could never imagine yourself doing. It is a conscious choice to listen to this voice that emanates from deep within.
We’ve all been there. The stress of moving your household. First packing then unpacking. It is exhausting, bad breaking labor. Or not? Maybe it’s a chance to play outside the box of go, go, go and instead find the joy in the moment. That is a totally inside job.
The choices that come from the outside are harder to deal with. The tragedy knocks you down and makes you a victim. Even the blessing, is a harder choice, because the blessing usually starts out like the tragedy. It becomes the blessing because you realize that you were stuck and needed your world turned upside down to shake you loose. The result of the blessing is that you took life’s lemons and made them into lemonade.
Being stuck in the past is like walking forward with your back facing front. You’ll always miss out on what’s in front of you. – thedailyquotes.com
How do you recognize that you are in a rut? One sign is reliving the past. It happens because you were comfortable there. You may complain about it, but you make no movement to actually change it. Another is repeating the past mistakes over and over again. Why do you repeat patterns of mistakes? Because you have convinced yourself that this time will be different. My mom was married five times, and every single man she married, she met in the bar that she was working in. One of the things that every single man had in common? They were all alcoholics. I remember telling her as a teenager, that maybe if she met men some place besides work, it might work out better?
You must learn a new way to think, before you can master a new way to be. – Marianne Williamson
This is how you get out of the rut. You don’t try to solve problems in your life with the same thinking that created them. You step up and out of the rut. And you begin blazing a new trail. So instead of stepping backward into the rut, step forward into growth. See where life is taking you. Listen to the voice of your soul, and wake up. Live your life with the intention to grow, live your life from your true reason and purpose for being here, and love your life with a passion that is on fire!
Life is too short to not follow your passion and purpose in your life. Passion and purpose are like the infinity loop, in that each one both feeds on and fuels the other. When they are working in tandem, there isn’t anything that you can’t accomplish. This is the space of the “high” where you feel invincible. Where everything just falls magically and magnetically into place. There is purpose in your searching, which is fueled by your passion. You search for the answers in response to the hunger that both drives and fuels your soul. It begins when you get the smallest glimpse of your true potential.
The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away. – William Shakespeare
That time when you were a little child, and you saw someone doing something that just grabbed you, and you thought I want to be that or do that when I grow up. At that moment you saw your true potential. At some point fear of failure, or being told that you weren’t talented enough to be that or do that – something happens that puts a cork in your desire. You bottle it up. You bury it deep inside yourself, because you are embarrassed that you ever had that thought. Who did you think you were?
There comes a time when the need of releasing that cork from that bottle, cascades out of you like a river rushing to the sea. This need is a palpable thing. Your heart knows it needs to be released. Your instincts keep calling to you to release it. It keeps showing up no matter how we try to ignore it. It just continues to transform itself over and over again. It might show up at work one time, at your home life another. With a loss of a loved one. With the reconnection to an old friend. It might show up in your spiritual life. It keeps winding itself through your life, until you finally pay attention.
Do what you feel in your heart to be right – for you’ll be criticized anyway. – Eleanor Roosevelt
Within every life, the things that require transformation, are the pieces of misinformation that you have adopted in your life as being true. You probably don’t even know that they exist in your subconscious. For example; If your parents were divorced when you were a child, you may subconsciously feel that if you had been a better child, they would still be married. This might show up in your life with an intense desire to make everyone happy, to put yourself as last, to literally have the welcome mat on your face as people use you, and then leave you. You surrender and abandon your dreams.
You have convinced yourself that the problem is that you just aren’t giving enough of yourself away. If you just try harder you tell yourself, then you can make everyone else happy, and only then you will finally be happy. You keep that dream bottled up. You tell yourself that your vision of your true potential is unattainable. That you must settle. That whole story is a lie, a falsehood. That story needs to be transformed.
There will be places where your self sabotage shows up. Places where the shadow swings into action to stop you. Going around the bend of the river, you may get damned up by debris. Some busy beaver has blocked the flow and dammed up the river. This debris is all of the obligations that you have loaded upon yourself. The excuses, “I am too busy or don’t have the time” and “I have no money”, falls into this bucket.
The question comes up, what is behind the “but” excuse for you to follow your dream? You need to get curious. You need to start removing the debris, and figure out where it is coming from. Each of those sticks is tied to some false belief or assumption that you have to identify and then transform.
Recently there were newspaper headlines “Thames River now home to sharks, seals and sea horses, no longer biologically dead”. After years of cleaning up centuries of pollution, the river has come back to life. Just like cleaning up the Thames brought the river back to life, you need to “clean up your river” so that you can get back into flow with your passion and purpose, back into flow with your God given destiny.
The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new. – Socrates
At places it may seem as though you are motionless, frozen in place. You have allowed the temporary artic blast from the nature of your fears, to freeze your river. It may seem like a solid block of ice, but deep beneath the surface, it is still flowing to the sea. It may have become a small dribble, but with the fires of your passion, you can melt the ice returning the river back into its full force.
Passion requires focused direction, and that direction must come from three other areas: your purpose, your talents, and your needs. – #sayquotable
Friends and family may try to sidetrack you, by diverting your river to their own benefit, but your need will find a way to get back on course.
At times we appear to be in flood stage, where the passion is so strong that you surrender to it. It is at these times that you learn to trust in divine providence to take you where you need to go. With the force of the floods, overflowing the course of the river, it will speed you past boulders that were blocking your path. Remember that all limitations, road blocks, and diversions are self imposed out of fear. Choose to leap forward over every obstacle as a challenge, that you have in fact already conquered.
Sometimes the best thing you can do is not think, not wonder, not imagine, not obsess. Just breathe, and have faith that everything will work out for the best. It is in that space between the breathing in and out, that brief space of holding, that you hear the voice of the divine. In this space you have the power to choose your response. Are you going to run from the challenge of having a mighty goal in your life? Are you going to deny your highest dreams and say that this is not your calling? Are you going to create a disaster by not having lofty ideals to strive for? Or are you going to reach for the stars, and really truly own that this starlight belongs to you and only you?
You are here not to shrink down less, but to blossom into more of who you really are. — Oprah
Gratitude is so important to happiness. Be thankful for what you are now, and keep fighting for what you want to be tomorrow – always shifting and transforming towards the magnificence that is buried deep inside. Everything changes, seasons come and go. You turn around and suddenly you find half the year is over.. Everything on this earth is in a continuous state of evolving, refining, improving, adapting, enhancing…, changing. You were not put on this earth to remain stagnant. You came here to reach certain goals. To fulfill certain dreams. To capture the highest ideal of who you are capable of being. You came here to not only reach the stars, but to reach beyond them.
She who leaves a trail of glitter is never forgotten. Do you believe this about yourself and your life? Or do you think it only about someone else. Someone who is more beautiful, more intelligent, richer than you? Too many of us don’t even feel worthy to have the glitter, yet alone leave a trail of it for others to follow.
I just wish I hadn’t spent so much time worrying about not being someone else’s definition of enough. – Sophia Bush
So many of us come out of childhood thinking that we are not enough. Not enough to have our parents love us the way they should have. Not smart enough. Not talented enough (insert – don’t sing, don’t dance, don’t draw). Not pretty enough. The list is endless about how we are not enough, to be loved, accepted, to have our dreams become a reality.
Always know you are more than enough. You are precious, unique, and worth being adored, cherished and treasured! – Kandee Johnson
Try to say nothing negative about yourself for one hour, for one day, for one week, for one month. The longer you can maintain this test, the more amazing your life will become. It has been said that the biggest disease affecting humanity is “I am not enough”.
It is the driver of every act of self sabotage. When your mind thinks “I am not enough”, you will subconsciously self sabotage yourself out of anything that doesn’t affirm that lie.
Marissa Peer is a bestseller author, celebrity hypnotist and speaker. A lot of her focus is on helping people overcome this limiting belief to help them stop sabotaging their lives.
One of the things that she recommends is putting on your phone a timed text message stating “I am enough” and having it text you each morning and evening.
Write on the mirrors in your home, especially in your bathroom and carry around a piece of paper to remind you
So think about your language and how often do you say things like –
What is that something about yourself? That quality you think is missing? That place where you don’t think you are enough?
When you get praise, how often do you reject praise, and you add in a piece of criticism? “That is a beautiful outfit you have on today”, and you say – “this old thing, it makes me look fat”. Even scarier, do your sons and daughters say these things about themselves? When they are 1, 2 or 3 years old we celebrated that they took their first step, their first word, the first time they went potty in the potty chair. But there comes a time when they start school and they start being compared to others. Now they are experiencing the “not enough” and they start believing it.
The fear of not getting the reward becomes the fear of rejection. The fear of not being good enough. . . is what makes us try to change, what makes us create an image. – Miguel Angel Ruiz
The book, “The Four Agreements” by Miguel Angel Ruiz is a wonderful book that teaches you about the masks that you began wearing when you were children. You will wear these masks all of your life, if you don’t learn how to remove them. You need to be who you truly are, without the fear of rejection and not being enough. Turn it around for yourself, for your children. Learn to accept praise without feeling unworthy. Hear the words you say about yourself, and change them when they are downgrading or demeaning. I always wanted my mother to say I did a good job – I made it a point to say to my children that they did a good job.
Lie to your brain, cheat your fear, and steal back your life of “I am more than enough” feeling that you had as a very young child.
Napoleon Hill wrote, “No person has a chance to enjoy permanent success until he begins to look in a mirror for the real cause of all his mistakes.”
I was at a conference the past few days where they were teaching about obtaining funding for charities and businesses. Part of the program was set up with around 10 investors and around 20 individuals were given the opportunity to pitch to the investors. It wasn’t designed around you really getting the money (although that could happen), but to give you feedback about what was missing in the presentation, and how they could improve.
Out of the 20 probably 2 or 3 did a good job. Most of them didn’t have it practiced enough, didn’t cover what all needed to be covered and repeated almost verbatim the same mistakes. It was interesting how because they were so nervous and focused on what they were going to say when they went on the stage, that they didn’t take the opportunity presented as they watched, to edit what they were doing to avoid the same mistakes.
How many times in our lives have we watched someone walk down the wrong path, and because we were so invested in what we were doing have we repeated the same mistake in ours?
What I also thought was interesting, was how many people pitch to investors looking for money and come away thinking that there isn’t any money available? When the real reason they didn’t get funded, is that they didn’t hook or engage the investor because they weren’t prepared with the right information.
How many people today go into a job interview and blow it, and walk away saying that there aren’t any jobs?
Real success is admitting when you blow it, and not trying to hide behind blaming someone or something else. I would rather work with someone who admits their mistake, learns from it where they went wrong and doesn’t repeat it.
That is a person of integrity, because none of us are perfect. We all make mistakes, the key is admitting and learning from them. That baggage is actually honed life skills. A different perspective is all that is needed to turn lemons into lemonade.
I like that thought – I don’t have baggage, I have honed life skills. Instead of baggage, I have a tool belt that has my honed life skills, ready to be used for any future life storm. My life skills are an asset instead of a liability, because I learned valuable lessons that enable me to make better choices, not bitter ones.
Isn’t life interesting?
“Those are a success who have lived well, laughed often, and loved much; who have gained the respect of intelligent people and the love of children, who have filled their niche and accomplished their task, who leave the world better than they found it, whether by a perfect poem or a rescued soul; who never lacked appreciation of the earth’s beauty or failed to express it; who looked for the best in others and gave the best they had.” Emerson
I refuse to be a sheep playing follow the leader. I am destined for more. I have genius inside me and I know that success will not come to me by following the rules. Success is not found in 3 easy steps. I must mold the steps into something that matches my creativity, intelligence, skills, and talents. When the steps match to my own distinct walk, success will be waiting for me wondering what took me so long.
I just heard that the definition of success is “do the next thing” – isn’t that great?Just do the next thing and you are a success!