What Holds You Back From Success?
What makes a person go after what they want? How do you figure out what “that” is?
What does courage have to do with it? What does it mean to live safely?
It’s not what you are that holds you back, it’s what you think you’re not.
– Denis Waitley
This is such a profound quote – “WE” are what holds ourselves back. We hold ourselves back, because we doubt ourselves in some manner. When LemonadeMakers was born, it was in response to the murder of my nephew. His death altered the course of my life. My life until that moment, was being lived completely in the safety zone. I have a nice corporate job, which I had worked years to obtain. I was successful in my career and was earning six figures. Then everything changed. Carl’s death started me questioning what I was really doing with my life. Was I making a real difference to anyone? The answer was while I had a comfortable lifestyle, and had accomplished all of the goals I set for myself, the truth was that I had not made a real difference in the world. I realized that I had played my life safe. I realized that if I died tomorrow, while my friends and family might miss me, the world wouldn’t realize I was gone.
The grand vision of LemonadeMakers is a reality T.V. show, in which we follow the transformations of “normal” people in each of our hometowns, who are out in the world to make a difference. I had no idea how to bring this dream into being. I had a 34 year career in the financial industry and was successful in that field. I had no connections with anyone in the entertainment industry. I didn’t know of anyone in my own community who I could use as my first show. I had no followers. I didn’t have the anything in my life, to make something like that happen. Like Denis said, what was holding me back, was what I didn’t think I was – a person who could make a sizzle reel and sell a T.V producer into making LemonadeMaers a reality T.V. show.
What I knew is that I needed to become the person who could. A person who could attract and build a community of followers, who would want to watch this show. A person who could locate the local community heroes to film their stories. A person who could get introductions to the people in Hollywood that would say yes to this show.
Real motivation is the drive from within; you know where you are going because you have a compelling image inside, not a travel poster on the wall.
– Denis Waitley
For years I have dreamed of going to Petra in Jordan. I have books and magazines that talk about the site. For whatever reason, this site speaks to me more than any other place that I could visit in the world. Why haven’t I went there? Because it is still a poster on the wall. Because it is a someday dream. Because that dream is not yet coming from within me. LemonadeMakers comes from within me. It is like the air I breathe. It is something that I work at every single day. It is vital to my being alive. It is my divine purpose. It is my souls calling.
This vision taught me to let go of who I thought I was. I thought that climbing the corporate ladder and earning six figures would make me happy. It was what I was taught from an earlier age, to have a successful career.
Remember, happiness doesn’t depend upon who you are or what you have. It depends solely upon what you think.
– Dale Carnegie
For years I was the introvert that was invisible. I hated being in crowds. I never knew how to introduce myself to strangers and have a conversation. I was comfortable being the fly on the wall that listened to what others had to say. All of that has changed. I let go of this need to not be seen. Now I can step out on a stage of 600 – 700 people and talk for an hour about LemonadeMakers and see my vision take root in their hearts.
This vision made me realize that the corporate job I had put so much value in, was not what I really wanted my life to be about. I have discovered hidden treasures that were buried deep within me. I discovered that I can write about what is important to me, and that my writing strikes a chord in many people. I have made some mistakes in investing with a partnership that didn’t work out. What I discovered about myself through that mistake was worth the price of admission, because I saw how I was still trying to play it safe by riding along on the coattails of the other business. I discovered that the notion of being invisible was still playing a part in my life through this partnership.
I have transformed again, and once again the wind is lifting my wings to a new experience of growth and change. I am going on a new adventure of publishing my first book. We will soon be presenting several free teleseminar about the book and about The Transformational Compass. Transformation has been an ongoing learning experience for me for the past several years. I have discovered how important curiosity, anticipation, and expectation are to having fun with change and transformation. How we all have “yellow brick roads” to walk down; rabbit holes to dive into; dark forests with witches and dragons to deal with; and sea monsters that must be subdued. How transformation is an magical umbrella under which resides (1) Transformation itself (2) Passion and Purpose (3) The Heroes Journey (4) Discovering your Personal Genius (5) How taking action includes being like water, able to improvise, adapt and overcome what is holding you back.
Look for our upcoming book launch and sharing all about the Transformational Compass and how it can help us on our journey to find and fulfill our dreams and our life purpose.