Stand In The Light to Be Seen As You Are
You are probably like me, and you want to be liked and accepted. This internal need that you have to be loved, sometimes causes you to put on a mask of who you think that someone wants you to be. The perfect little girl. The shy teenager. The princess, the joker or the nerd. The smile pasted on your face, that life is wonderful, when inside you are screaming in frustration.
You can see this for example when you go back home for the holidays. You fall into the childhood role or character you have for your family, even if it no longer fits.
“Your need for acceptance can make you invisible in this world. Don’t let anything stand in the way of the light that shines through this form. Risk being seen in all of your glory” – Jim Carey
It is hard to show up without any masks, but it is vitally important for you to be true to who you are. These masks are the cause of so much unhappiness. You meet someone you like, but if you are both wearing masks, then neither of you is communicating who you really are. So you fall in love with the mask, and not the person. You communicate to the mask, and what the person deep inside is trying to say never gets heard. You create so much drama and trauma to yourself and others that way.
If you just say what you really mean, life gets so much easier. The truth is that you may not be who you want to be yet. But you have come a long way from where you used to be.
It takes great courage to be vulnerable enough to remove the mask. It takes great courage to stick to your values and not allow others to sway you into actions you don’t want to take. It takes great courage to trust others with who you are at a soul level. It takes great courage to be persistent enough to keep removing the masks. So continue remove mask after mask. Burn them up, so that who you show up as the real you.
Embrace your imperfections. Be authentic.
“Loving ourselves through the process of owning our story is the bravest thing we’ll ever do” – Brene’ Brown
What I loved about the main photo for this blog, is that they people in it are being crazy. They are playing at being stupid, silly and weird. But when you look at each face you see that they are also having fun. How many times do you catch your face in the mirror or a reflection on a window and see that kind of happy expression on your face? On others faces that you love?
You need to be who you are and find those happy faces more often. When you let the world’s conflicts and tragedy’s be the things you focus on, you lose that happiness. The news focuses on hyping the negative, and giving you very little of the positive things that happen every day.
- Every day a new mom and dad have this miracle of a new baby come into their lives and change them forever.
- Every day a child does something wonderful, like riding a bike for the first time, or winning a race, or making a home run. And they celebrate with their loved ones what they achieved.
- Every day a police man or a fire man or the driver of an ambulance saves a loved ones life, and they celebrate they have another day with their loved ones.
- Every day someone is doing something wonderful, brave, heroic, and we lose sight the of the miracles of life.
You need to celebrate all of the wonderful things that happen in your life and the lives of those you love. Don’t let those who are still sleep walking through their lives stand in the way of your awakening.
Closing with this quote, because “I see you” needs to be something that happens to you and you need to see others.
You need to stop being invisible. You need to let those who are trying to become a better person, know that you see them as a human being deserving of love and respect.
You don’t have to agree with everything that they have done in their life, to still give them love and respect. How many people in nursing homes, living in the street, eating their lunch alone in the café – how many people do you pass by that are not being seen? How many just need a hug, and someone to say, I See You? I SEE YOU!