We Can Go Further Than We Think
Years ago, when I was young, I had opinions on what would I do, if “such and such” happened in my life. I think that when most of us hear of an experience that someone has, we think “well if that happened to me, this is what I would do”. We sometimes don’t agree with the decision that another has made, when that same thing happened to them. The lemons that life gives us are not supposed to paralyze us. They are not supposed to make us bitter. They are not supposed to make us give up on life. They are to help us dig down deep and discover what we are capable of.
Who I am and what I am capable of doing has always managed to surprise me.
– Jodi Picoult
When life does hand us lemons, and we are the one trying to make lemonade out of it, many times we come to a totally different decision. There are many reasons for this. Each of life’s lemons come to us wrapped up in a different series of circumstances. You could look at multiple experiences of someone losing a loved one to violence, and you would find that each instance was handled in a different way. This is because although the label may be the same “man killed by random shooting”, the circumstances in each case tell their own unique story.
You can’t judge my choices without understanding my reasons.
In 1995 Tariq a pizza delivery man was shot and killed by a 14 year old gang member. Initially Azim, Tariq’s father could barely function. But he came to understand that the 14 yr old boy named Tony who killed his son, was also a victim. He felt called to forgive Tony, and became friends with Tony’s grandfather and guardian. He started a foundation to help kids stop killing other kids. He began talking with kids in schools about the realities of that lifestyle and the importance of making right choices.
He made lemonade out of his lemons. This foundation (http://tkf.org/) has grown into an organization of 13 full time staff members and 30 volunteers that mentor over 20,000 students each year. In the article I read, in 13 years they had touched eight million kids (the foundation is now over 20 years old). But I would bet that if you had asked him if this is the road he would take if someone killed his son, this is not the answer he would have given. His unknown road that he journeyed on revealed what kind of man he truly was. This is forgiveness in action.
If we all did the things we are capable of, we would astound ourselves.
– Thomas A. Edison
We are all on a road, a journey to discover who we really are. What we are capable of becoming.
No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.
Azim saved himself by walking the path of true forgiveness. He wanted to not only prevent other innocents from being killed, he wanted to save those other victims – “kids” becoming killers themselves. His difficult road has lead to a beautiful destination – saving others.
What I have learned in life, is to hope that I can emulate the grace I see in others lives, as they grapple with life’s lemons. That until I find myself in that same hard place, I don’t really know what my decision will be. I do know that there is no turning back. So each decision needs to be made in prayer and meditation, with that understanding. The challenge is not just discovering who I am, but loving what I find.
Find out who you are and be that person. That’s what your soul was put on this earth to be. Find that truth, live that truth and everything else will come.
– Ellen DeGeneres
What I have learned from the lemons in my own life, is that I no longer allow someone to make me swallow up my soul, and dam up the words in my heart. That I don’t have to apologize for my imperfections, and allow the darkness of others to cover up my light. I have learned to trust my intuition and live a more courageous life. This is who I am, a woman of deep strength who keeps walking the path, knowing that new wonders are going to be revealed right around the next bend.
I have always grown from my problems and challenges, from the things that don’t work out, that’s when I’ve really learned.
– Carol Burnett
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Come join us for our next "Conscious Conversation" program!What is a Conscious Conversation?
- It’s a conversation where we connect our soul’s voice to other soul’s voices.
- Where we turn down the volume of our minds inner voice with all of its fears, doubts, and worries.
- Where we turn up the volume of the heart and soul’s voice, so that our inner compass can point us in the direction that we should be going.
- We will talk about where we feel “lost” and overwhelmed in our life. We will talk about how we can use our Transformational Life Compass, to map out our dreams and bring them into reality.