When You Have One of Those Days
It’s turning out to be a bad day, a day when the sun feels like teeth. – Jennifer Egan
There are days where every mistake you made in the past year shows up at your doorstep, all at once. It is overwhelming as they are all vying for your attention. All you hear is the screaming inside your head competing with the screaming happening in the chaos around you. It’s deafening. Your self-esteem takes a nose dive, as it scrambles away, trying not to get trampled by the growing crowds of people asking if you know what what the #$&% you are doing?
Never underestimate the power of a good outfit on a bad day. – Unknown
If you try to shovel your way out, the snow just keeps falling and in a few minutes you can’t even tell where where you were shoveling. You shovel out your driveway and a snowplow comes by and fills it up again. It becomes overwhelming. Nothing you do is getting you out from under the chaos. You naturally believe the story your head is telling you is 100% true. You are not smart enough, pretty enough, just plain “NOT enough” – just a big loser with a big capital L on your forehead.
You let the less than 1% of negative overwhelm the more than 99% positive and you start shoveling and digging yourself in deeper and deeper.
And now, after everything, I know this. There is a reason I am here, and the reason is bigger than me. So I will carry on with great faith beyond what I can see, in pursuit of bold courage for the adventure in the journey. – Morgan Harper Nichols
When you have those days, you can’t dig yourself out. So rather than beating yourself up, calling yourself names like loser, screw up, worthless and so on, choose a different path. Make snow angels. Give yourself a forgiveness pass. Give yourself compassion. Acknowledge your only human. Sing the Christina Perri “Human” song. Sometimes “I crash and I break down”.
That is the best time to make snow angels.
I loved the Mark Twain quote where he says that 99% of his worries never happened. So maybe today, what happened was just that it was “the less than 1%” negative day. Statistically they happen. When they do, thinking of what good things the future holds for you is also important. Some of the best days of your life haven’t happened yet. What milestones are you looking forward to and what can you do today to bring them closer to reality?
When you think things are bad, when you feel sour and blue, when you start to get mad . . , you should do what I do . . , Just tell yourself, Duckie, you’re really quite lucky! Some people are much more . . , oh, ever so much more . . , oh, muchly much-much more unlucky than you! – Dr Suess
Humor is critically important. Not thinking so much of yourself is vital. Don’t blow up whatever has cascaded in your life into Niagara Falls. In truth it’s a tiny waterfall in a pond.
I testify that bad days come to an end, that faith always triumphs, and that heavenly promises are always kept. – Jeffrey R. Holland
Keep a memory book of your good days. When my kids were little we called them zipity do dah days. The days when you could be in a Disney cartoon movie dancing across the stage with a catchy happy song. These are the days to pull out for emergency purposes. They are like the oxygen masks that drop out of the holder on a plane. You put them on and you can breathe again. You can slow down the panic. You are not dying. It’s just a bad day and it’s not the end. Hold on to those good days and the warm feelings they generate, like a toasty fire they will fill you with warmth and peace. Remember, you are who you choose to be.
When you fall asleep tonight, I want you to think of at least one good thing that has been good today. It might be difficult and you might think that there’s nothing but, however bad a day has been, there’s always one thing, even if it’s a tiny thing, that has been good, and sometimes it can be helpful to remind yourself of that as you fall asleep. – LiveLifeHappy.com
We all tend to let the negative overwhelm the positive in our lives. When we have a bad day, it is important to instead find the positive in the day and let it balance out the negative. It is the proverbial silver lining in the day of thunder and rain storms. Even if it is as simple as someone smiled at us, it is there waiting to be picked up so it can shine its light upon us.
It is amazing how a long walk through nature can help us clear our heads. Keep walking until the negative mind talked has talked itself out. Then you have the space to step outside of the rushing river of pity and see what is really there. Accept where you stepped wrong. Just let the river carry away the things that don’t belong to you. The broken branches, tree roots, and miscellaneous garbage that the storm waters pulled into the water. If it isn’t you today, then let it all go. Now ask yourself, what positive step can I take to fix what can be fixed, apologize for where I was wrong, and let the past stay where it belongs, in the past.
When you own your breath, nobody can steal your peace. – Unknown
This is such a simple statement, but the power and wisdom in it is amazing. If you are letting others shovel snow on you, that is where the first change needs to happen. You need to own your own breath. Once you have accepted responsibility for what part of something is yours, then the rest of it doesn’t belong to you. If you don’t let it go, it steals your peace. It steals your breath, your life. So if any area of your life is not peaceful and conducive to making snow angels, you can decide today to stop. To take back your breath. To hug tightly to your snow angels and embrace peace.
My To-Do List For Today
– count my blessings
– practice kindness
– let go of what I can’t control
– listen to my heart
– be productive yet calm
– just breathe
Demand your inner voice start listening to what is acceptable in terms of the inner you. To actually completely engage in a life of self-exploration, you need to get curious. To ask questions that dig deep into the soul level. To unravel one thread after another.