Watering Concrete Will Never Grow A Garden
“You should not have to rip yourself into pieces to make others feel whole” – Unknown
It is so true, because even if you sacrifice yourself to keep the peace, make them feel secure, whatever it is that you think you are accomplishing, the fault lies with them. No matter how small you make yourself, it will never be enough. No one can fill that gaping hole inside of them, but them.
It is not selfish to put yourself first. It does not diminish anyone else when you live your life with your inner light brightly shining. Those who try to say that you are overshadowing them or being selfish, are just looking for a place to put the blame that they themselves are not consciously living their own life purpose.
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind didn’t matter, and those who matter won’t mind” – Dr. Seuss
When you judge yourself as worthless (worth less than someone else), you are not the only one who loses. All of the rest of mankind loses. This is because of what you were going to accomplish with that power, passion and the freedom of being who you came to this earth to be, doesn’t happen.
Don’t be afraid to lose someone, who can’t see your real worth. I have always loved this quote too, especially since it is in a children’s book.
The reason why this is true is because those who don’t mind are not threatened by how magnificent you are. They are grounded in who they are, which allows you to be grounded in you who are.
When you have this state of consciousness, you don’t need to ask what the meaning of life is any longer. Instead, you define it by how you live your life.
“The whole secret of a successful life is to find out what is one’s destiny to do, and then do it” – Henry Ford
In fact, it goes even further. If you have ever been privileged to be in a room with strong characters who are master minding an idea, you know what I am talking about. The energy flows in and out of each person, picking up steam. The ideas flow and they are built upon each other.
Something magnificent is achieved and all were part of the process. There are no arguments, or fighting over who contributed what. It becomes one seamless masterpiece.
“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful committed people can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has” – Margaret Mead
These are the people you want to surround yourself with. They are not crowd followers. They walk alone in that they are secure within themselves. But they also walk side by side, because they are committed to be the best they can be.
They partner with others of a similar nature, people who are immersed in their personal genius, who are determined to make the world around them a better place. They are individual sparks, that together create a powerful flame, that can set the world on fire.
“Think big and don’t listen to people who tell you it can’t be done. Life’s too short to think small” – Tim Ferris
These are the people who stimulate creativity and make you think on a deeper level. These are the same people who see you broke down on the freeway, trying to push your car. They don’t drive by thinking that someone else will help you, or it isn’t their affair. They stop and help you, because they recognize someone who isn’t afraid to do the work necessary to keep growing and changing.
These are what I call “My Tribe”. We can be from all different races, ethnicities, religions and politics. These are the people who have been on similar journeys, same story just different circumstances. Because of this we recognize each other. It is like a magnetic attraction; we just recognize a “soul sister or brother” when we meet.
“The medicine for my suffering I had within me from the very beginning, but I did not take it. My ailment came from within myself, but I did not observe it. Until this moment. Now I see that I will never find the Light unless, like the candle, I am my own fuel” – Bruce Lee
What would you be if the people around you refused to let you fail?
Burn brightly and never, ever, ever, let anyone convince you to be less than the brightly shining star that you are.