I Am What I Choose To Become
Today I am discovering who I am. Today I am becoming my person, worthy of developing all of me. Today I am beginning to know that I am okay the way I am.
– Ruth Fishel
Discovering who we are requires that we go on a journey. We can’t become who we are trying to become by remaining where we are, or what we are. This journey begins with curiosity. Asking the hard questions of ourselves. Where am I going? What am I learning from what I read, what I listen to, what I am watching on TV? What do those I associate with have me thinking about? Are the answers to these questions what I want my life to be about? It isn’t chance that helps me to become what I am seeking. It is making transformational life changes that does that.
If we are always arriving and departing, it is also true that we are eternally anchored. One’s destination is never a place, but rather a new way of looking at things.
– Henry Miller
When we start out on this journey of self discovery, we think that if we can just learn enough, take in enough knowledge that we will develop the wisdom to become the person we want to be. It is the natural first step, and many of us get lost in this first step. We do a lot of work, and it just doesn’t seem like we are making any progress. We keep departing, but it doesn’t feel like we are ever arriving. There is this gap. We keep stuffing it with creative ideas, and plans, and dreams – but it doesn’t seem like we are creating anything that truly bridges that gap. I love the word GAP – because it is Gods Area of Preparation. That is why it doesn’t seem like the bridge is ever getting completed. Don’t give up. Keeping fighting to reach the other side of the gap.
I love the person I’ve become, because I fought to become her.
– Kaci Diane
I remember the true story of an Olympic Athlete. She went to a sports camp as a child and demonstrated some talent with volleyball. The coach told her that if she worked hard, it would give her a scholarship to college. So she worked hard and when it came time, she wrote to the colleges with a good volleyball program and asked them to come see her play. She got her teachers to write letters about her and was successful in getting a full ride to college. Her senior year in college she was watching the Olympic Games and decided to chase the dream of being in the Olympics. So again, she wrote letters to come see her play and got her professors to write letters and was successful in getting into the tryouts. She spent a week in tryouts and worked hard, and even though she felt the other players were better she made it to the team. The team lived and worked in Southern California for 4 years to the next Olympic Games. During that time she realized that if she was going to be on the team that played in the games, she needed to tear her game down and rebuild it. Now think about this – she was good enough to get a full ride into college. In college she was All American. She tried out and was accepted on the Olympic Team. Obviously she was talented and skilled. But she knew that she could be more, so she fought to be more.
I always did something I was a little not ready to do. I think that’s how you grow. When there’s that moment of “wow, I’m not really sure I can do this” and you push through those moments, that’s when you have a breakthrough.
– Marissa Meyer
So when we are having a bad day, week, month or year – that is something to remember. Sometimes we need to tear ourselves back down to the foundations of who we are, and rebuild. Take all of the lessons that we have learned in this life, all of the crazy experiences, hurts, blessings in disguise and know that none of it was a mistake. Find positive ways to be in the world. Make a difference, no matter how small it feels. We can be the change we want to see in our world. Be open to the challenge of change. Face our fears of not being enough, not knowing enough, and do the things we know need to be done, even if it terrifies us. Love who and what you are, and who you are becoming. Trust that you have within you everything that you need to do so. Believe in yourself. Wish upon the stars and then put faith in that wish coming true.
Do not confuse the word “belief” with the word “wish”. The two are not the same . . . the element of faith is the only sure power by which a wish may be translated into a belief, and a belief into a reality.
– Napoleon Hill
It can be really scary, to keep going when we are in the stage of moving mountains. We see the pain, the heartache, the mistakes that we are making along the way. We judge ourselves, we cower in fear and wish it would all just go away and leave us here in the middle of the floor, just a shapeless puddle of confusion and fears. But what makes us powerful, is when we get up, shake off the confusion, face the fear and walk in in the power of who we really are. When we remember that it isn’t what happens to us. It isn’t the mistakes we made along the way that define us. What defines us is who we chose to become in spite of all of it. We are at the end of the journey, the only one who is responsible for who we become. We are always a work in progress. Each day is a new day. A new pattern of thoughts. A new wave of emotions, A new belief that we can truly become what we wish to become.
You’ll learn as you get older, that rules are made to be broken. Be bold enough to live life on your own terms, and never ever apologize for it. Go against the grain, refuse to conform, take the road less traveled instead of the well-beaten path. Laugh in the face of adversity, and leap before you look. Dance as though everybody is watching. March to the beat of your own drummer. And stubbornly refuse to fit it.
– Mandy Hale