Do You Have The Courage To Break Those Chains And Redefine Your Life?
When we are at the airport and getting ready to check our luggage, they always ask, “Has anyone asked you to carry something for them in your luggage? Has anyone else packed your bags?” Have you ever wondered how much of what weighs you down is not yours to carry? What beliefs do you carry around in your baggage that don’t really belong to you? When we unpack the stories in our luggage, what we find is that we are carrying around stories that belong to our parents, our grandparents, our family, culture, tribe. Most of those stories are not ours. They are not who we are. They belong to others and need to be unpacked, they need to be left with those that they really belong to. That is the luggage that needs to be checked. Release it.
“I can’t”. . . , “it’s not possible”. . . , “I’m not good enough”. . . , These are the lies the demons of your past use to scare away the possibilities of the present.
– Dr. Steve Maraboli
There is a movie that Lucille Ball made with her husband about a trip they were making in a car that was towing a big trailer. Along the trip the character Lucille was playing kept putting in these large stones or rocks of everyplace they stopped. Finally the weight was so much, they couldn’t tow the trailer up over the mountains. This is the same for us.
How many of us walk around being weighed down by the baggage of our journey? You can’t possibly embrace that new relationship, that new companion, that new career, that new friendship, or that new life you want while you’re still holding on to the baggage of the last one. Let go . . . , and allow yourself to embrace what is waiting for you right at your feet.
– Dr. Steve Maraboli
Our mind has these filters. They sort through everything that we see and do, looking for proof of our beliefs. We carry with us all of these heavy stones, which are stories of our past. At some point the weight of the stories will pull us down, if they are weighted with negativity. We need to unpack all of the “I should of’s” and “I shouldn’t have’s” and leave those stones at the side of the road you are traveling on. We need to lighten the load, by releasing everything negative.
I am like a book, with pages that have stuck together for want of use. My mind needs unpacking and the truths stored within must be turned over from time to time, to be ready when occasion demands.
The problem with our stories, is that they are usually one sided. This is because our “truth” is never the entire truth. It takes courage to break those chains and redefine your own life. What we need to do is examine all of those stories. We need to unpack the stories and ask, why they are important? What about our true values do they reflect? What about them brings us joy and happiness? What do they tell us from a space of self love and trust? When we focus our light on the things that build us up, the things that were dragging us down will disappear on their own. They can’t exist in our authentic light of love and truth.
Sometimes you don’t realize the weight of something you’ve been carrying until you feel the weight of its release
Our minds do not know the difference between actual events and our imagination. Most of us carry these unconscious beliefs formed as a small child before we really understood what was really happening. For example, when I was around four years old, I walked in on my mom having an affair. Shortly thereafter my mom and dad divorced. As a four year old, I assumed the responsibility of breaking up the marriage. I felt that I wasn’t to be trusted, and that it wasn’t safe to be seen.
That program ran my life all of my childhood and most of my adult life. When I figured out what was creating the pattern of “my foot on the brake and gas at the same time”, I released that story. I had nothing to do with the breakup of my parents marriage. Now this pattern no longer shows up in my life. Most of us have patterns created by a small child, that were made up by our imagination to explain something that we didn’t understand..
The things you want are always possible; it is just that the way to get them is not always apparent. The only real obstacle in your path to a fulfilling life is you, and that can be a considerable obstacle because you carry the baggage of insecurities and past experience.
– Les Brown
So take a few moments and ask yourselves the questions we talked about. Loosen up the load; put down the bags; unlock the chains and let them fall to the ground; unpack those bags. Set yourself free. Reminds me of the lyrics from 50 Ways to Leave Your Lover – Just slip out the back Jack and set yourself free.
Sometimes the most difficult part of any journey is believing that you’re worthy of the destination. The one where you see that goal, that dream or what it is that you have always longed for. You are brave enough to face the challenges and strong enough to see it through the end. Never be afraid to take that first step. With each new step, bringing you closer to it. Believe it! You can do it.
– Brigitte Nicole