Destiny
Destiny. Everyone has one, but some let their destiny happen to them and some pursue what they want their destiny to be! What about you? Your destiny is the dream that lies within you and the things that we choose each day are what lead us to that destiny: Our actions or lack thereof, our words, our attitudes, and our relationships. They all add up and shape what we reach as our destiny.
Inaction
“Action is a great restorer and builder of confidence. Inaction is not only the result, but the cause, of fear. Perhaps the action you take will be successful; perhaps different action or adjustments will have to follow. But any action is better than no action at all.” – Norman Vincent Peale
Interesting that inaction is both the cause of and result of fear – I would guess that would be because we fear what we don’t know or understand. So inaction (or my favorite word procrastination) on a new course or way of doing something would cause us to be fearful of the results should we take action, so we procrastinate hoping that someone will come along (where is that fairy godmother when you need her?) so that we don’t have to take the action that we fear. Conversely how many times have you been afraid, taken the action anyway, and then wondered why you were ever afraid in the first place? Which brings us to ask, do we really need a fairy godmother when we can get off our butts and do it ourselves?
Ripples
You know how you feel inside when you have a day that is going great, the kind where every stop light is green and says go? Give that feeling to everyone you meet today. It feels good for you, it will spread out into the world & just maybe even impact the life of another. It could be the stone thrown into the lake that, long after the ripples are over, has changed the world.
Acceptance
“Acceptance heals hurt. It heals the resistance that causes or exacerbates the pain. When you accept, it allows you to move forward in the flow, because what you accept, you naturally let go of.” – Chuck Spezzano
When you accept something it becomes part of the picture – you don’t notice it or judge it, it’s not good or bad, it just is.
Passion
Know your passions. Then find a way to regularly incorporate your passion into your daily life. Discovering your passion dramatically increases happiness. I have a friend with an opera training class. Listen to her talk about her work and the training that they just completed.
“It is the mission to train the whole person. Not only do we teach the usual techniques (voice, acting, dance, languages), we discuss how to make a living with one’s art. We are the only opera training program to my knowledge with a full course combining NLP and business skills with a mission to lead a balanced life. And it is the dedication to creating a nurturing space where participants give themselves the permission to discover their genius. The best part though, was that every single participant told me that TOP had taught them more than they had ever dreamed – if not changed their lives. And they all said that they would come back in a heartbeat. I am so proud.”
You can hear that she is passionate in making a difference in their lives and so it makes a difference in hers. What do you talk about that literally floats you up into the air that you are so happy? What are your passions?
Integrity
Restore your integrity wherever you have stepped out of it. It is the little things that when ignored, turn into large issues. We get angry and we we make it the other persons fault. We are irritated by someone at work and we lose patience with our spouse or child at home and overreact to the situation. We promise to do something that we don’t really want to do and then back out at the last second. All items that take us out of integrity. Make amends, correct the situation, shift the balance.
Impulsive
Impulsive decisions are the ones that lead us into trouble. We need to stop before each deicion, even if it is only for a moment, to clarify our goals. Is the information clear or clouded by emotions? What are all of the alternatives? Do we need to use our willpower to overcome temptation? Looking forward in time, will this decision move us forward or lead us into regret?
Define & Refine
Define or refine your values. Know what is important to you, and seek to live in accordance with that. Many of us are living our life to be accepted or to please others. Spend some time this week just thinking about what is truly important to you and make one small change to bring your life into accordance with that.
Action
“As you move toward a dream, the dream moves toward you.” – Julia Cameron
When we take “action” to bring a dream into reality we show the universe that we really want this to be our reality. The universe then kicks into gear with synchronicity to move people, places, and things into our lives with just what we need to make it happen.
Risk Anything
“Risk anything! Care no more for the opinions of others, for those voices. Do the hardest thing on earth for you. Act for yourself. Face the truth.” – Katherine Mansfield.
“Those voices” are our internal brakes. Procrastination is just fear. Look at what you have been putting off in order to “clean the toilet”. Look behind the excuse to the fear. Face the fear and move forward. Then celebrate the victory!
Kindness
“When you are kind to others, it not only changes you, it changes the world.” – Harold Kushner
It is kind of funny that so many of us want to change another person, when the only thing we can change is ourselves. Yet when we change ourselves, we change the world around us. Personal and work relationships completely change when we simply change our own attitude about what is bothering us.
Barriers
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi
We are surrounded by love that we don’t fully accept or acknowledge. We say “you’re my mom, spouse, relative etc…, and you’re supposed to love me, accept me, say that I am talented”. We discount what we have and seek what already exists. Look around and see how blessed you already are.