arguing
Instead of arguing with the worry, transform the vibration from negative to neutral. A neutral, natural curiosity vibration of “I wonder why” I am worried about he/she taking longer at the store than they thought.
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Strong Person
The fire and heat from the struggle purifies you and you realize just how strong you are – as they say in the song what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
I have met some amazing people who have been on a long Hero’s Journey and they can make an inspired glass of Lemonade from the lemons in their lives.
I celebrate their example and strength
Ego
So when you feel the ego edging in and edging god out, take a breath and recommit. Use the wholeness words with the visualization and see just how delicious your life can be in any given moment.
Story
What is your carefully crafted story of why you can’t do or have your dream? For me it is, What if I am not the genius I think I am?” Ego is goal oriented and works to get approval, control, getting even, etc…, when you leave the ego behind your a free agent ready to respond to the infinite possibilities of the present moment.
Transforming Criticism
Whether you are criticising others or yourself you are really doing the same thing. You are being in an unconscious state of being. I know that when I am in an unconscious state of being, I am not being conscious of how I am feeling. It is like when you are driving the car down a familiar road, like driving to work. All of a sudden 5 minutes have past and I don’t remember even driving to where I am at. A unconscious state of being reflects that I am in a state of lower vibration, a sign that I am out of integrity with myself. In this state I criticize myself or others in order to maintain that lower vibration without even realizing it – just like driving 5 minutes down the road and not remembering doing so.
If I try to bring up my vibration or someone lovingly tries to bring up my vibration by paying me a compliment, I could from this low state of vibration automatically go into deflection. Deflection keeps positive energy from landing, being received and being acknowledged. If keeps us from challenging ourselves, preventing us from expanding our capacity for experiencing positive energy.
When I am not staying conscious and start feeling out of sorts it is a sign that I am out of integrity. The questions to ask are – what feeling am I trying to avoid, or what am I doing that I don’t want to do?
To get back into the state of higher vibrations and be in a conscious state of being, we need to create space within us to feel and appreciate natural good feelings. There are a number of wholeness words that I really love because for me they express a visual that is uplifting in my mind. For example, laugher – picture a laughing baby, you can’t help smile and feel your vibration lift higher. Luxuriate is another visual for me, as a cat lover, the visual for me is the cat rolling in the sunshine. You can just see the kitty enjoying each sinuous turn of its body as it soaks up the warmth, and if you add the senses to the visualization it is most certainly purring. Can you think of some words that provide an uplifting visualization for you to keep in your toolkit, so that when you notice you are out of integrity, you can take a quick moment to center, ground and kick start your vibrations back into a higher vibration?
Open up and welcome the new high water mark of possibility that’s trying to establish itself in you. Look at your faults with cheerful wonder and know that they will dissolve and transform much more rapidly with your awareness of what is happening and how you can consciously facilitate your journey back into a higher vibration. Wholeness comes from expanding your capacity for abundance, love, and success.
What is your carefully crafted story of why you can’t do or have your dream? For me it is, What if I am not the genius I think I am?” Ego is goal oriented and works to get approval, control, getting even, etc…, when you leave the ego behind your a free agent ready to respond to the infinite possibilities of the present moment.
So when you feel the ego edging in and edging god out, take a breath and recommit. Use the wholeness words with the visualization and see just how delicious your life can be in any given moment.
Worries
Mark Twain once said, “I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.”
So how do we learn to worry less? It is really about surrendering to the experience of worry in order to transform the worry into a higher vibration of positive energy.
When we worry, we have these internal arguments that seem to be about “something bad” is going to happen. Someone who has an illness is going to die; I am going to lose my job; my spouse doesn’t love me anymore; the list is endless.
Some are major worries and some are minor.They do however all have something in common. No amount of worry will change the situation. Worry stresses the body and accompishes nothing positive.
So what can we do about “worries”? For example, if a loved one is going to the store and will be about 20 minutes, at 21 minutes I might have them dying in a car accident. I might think that I am worrying about their safety
What I really need to do is to go beneath that unconscious trigger and determine what my worry is really about. How would I go about doing that? The first thing to do is to notice that you are worried. Let go of the worry and enter into a state of wonder in your mind.
Wonder is asking questions that you are curious about. I would ask myself, “I wonder what new positive thing is trying to come into being?” Instead of arguing with the worry, transform the vibration from negative to neutral. A neutral, natural curiosity vibration of “I wonder why” I am worried about he/she taking longer at the store than they thought.
Feeling deeply into my body, I would,focus on the feeling of worry and where the worry is coming from. From the lower root chakra of safety and survival? From the heart chakra of how much I love this person? See if the body can express what it feels into words. Don’t try to force it or make something up. Simply notice and stay with the feeling, as it continues to run like a computer search program in the background. Either now or later it will express itself into words. I find that at night when I am dreaming, I will get the answer in my dreams. I believe this is because my conscious mind isn’t blocking or aruging with the answer.
Once this feeling has a context to it beyond just worry, take that feeling back in time to when you felt just like this feeling. Keep tracing the feeling back to a time where it wasn’t labled and identified as a particular emotion, just a feeling that you didn’t really understand. That is where that feeling was born, before you really understood the concept and labled it. Maybe it was a feeling of abandonment.
Once you identify this feeling, work with DYBO and recognize, release and restore yourself to let go of the low vibrational feeling from your body. DYBO is a BraveHeart Women program that helps us to move stuck emotions. In this case the stuck emotion that is triggering your worry. You learn to dance your buts off – not the butt you sit on, but the buts you live with. Worry is one of those buts that we live with. I am amazed at the amount of transformation it has made in my life. Let me know if you want more information about it!
Goals
Have you ever looked at a goal or project and said this is impossible? I know I have. I felt so overwhelmed that it just seemed too big to accomplish, it seemed impossible.
Clinging to the notion that something’s not possible is arguing in favor of your limitations, and if you argue in favor of limitations guess what? You get to keep them.
There’s only one way to get through the fog of fear and that’s to transform it into the clarity of exhilaration.
Did you know that fear is excitement without breath? Isn’t that a definition that turns the feelings under the word from pure negativity into a whole new feeling?
So when I notice the emotion of fear showing up I can stop a moment and say, is this a fear that is a warning of danger or is this a fear of excitement? If this is excitement I just need to breathe correctly to transform it even fuller. I can then move it even higher up on the vibrational scale to become exhilaration.
While breaking through the blocks of fear are important and thrilling, it’s the subsequent integration of the breakthrough of that fear into your daily life that really allows the change to be permanent.
Lets take being a public speaker as an example. Studies reflect that fear of public speaking is one of the most common fears that we collectively have. So since we know that this isn’t a fear to protect us from danger, we now know it is actually excitement. It is excitement to share your life changing message. With some nice deep breaths and grounding you can even become exhilarated to share your message.
Can you see how integrating this belief would make you a more relaxed speaker that is able to fully engage your audience and inspire them with your message?
The hidden barriers or blocks we have all seem real and true, but they are based on beliefs about ourselves that aren’t true. The fact that we unconsciously hold them to be true is what holds us back. Once we shine awareness on it we can release it, integrate it and change our life.
What is one fear based belief that you can recognize today? How can you shift the vibration from fear to excitement and then further shift to exhilaration?
And so it is, and so it is with ease.
Chasing
I am a facilitator with the Female Quantum Journey and this came up in our call today – not chasing after things , but rather being in a space of allowing things to unfold in our lives. Many of us spend time chasing after things thinking that the thing we are chasing will make us happy, only to find out that it doesn’t fill the hole we are trying to fill in.
What matters most in our life is what we nurture and grow and blossom into. When we accept and love who we really are, that we are already whole and complete that is when we blossom into wholeness.
Inspire
What a wonderful concept – that you could be so inspired by the work you do that you don’t need a vacation to escape from it – this is certainly my goal. How about you? Do you think that this is possible?
Objectives
Few people take objectives really seriously. They put average effort into too many things, rather than superior thought and effort into a few important things. People who achieve the most are selective as well as determined. – Richard Koch – Author
I am at a point in my life where I have more going on in the external world than ever before. The kids are all grown up and raising their own families and I have become even busier than when they were at home. I have my fulltime job; my women’s group BraveHeart Women which I am extremely active in; and my nonprofit LemonadeMakers has started out with social media and the website will be going live sometime next month.
When I read this quote today, it reminded me of what I saw growing up and continue to see from friends, family and acquaintances. I think that lots of us got into the habit when we were in school and the class was boring. The subject or teacher didn’t interest us in the slightest, so we just put in enough effort to get a passing grade. We may work at a job that isn’t fulfilling and so we put in just enough effort to not get laid off or fired. We have a marriage more of convenience than passion (passion dying out because of our average effort), and so again we put in just enough effort to get by.
We live a life of average – no passion, no fire, no dreams. We are just punching the time clock through our entire life.
This isn’t the kind of life that I want for myself. When I find myself at the “average” effort, I really examine what it is that I want from this job, this marriage, this life? Then I look at where I am at and try to determine if this is something that I want to put the superior thought and effort into changing, or have I outgrown this job or relationship and it is time to move on. Whatever the answer is, it begins with “what do I really want here?” If I can get that here by changing me, then that is what I put my effort into. If I can’t get what I want by changing me, then it is time to let go.
We all have only so many hours in a day. We spend them on something, and we can’t get that time back. When you are lucky enough to find something in your life that you are “on fire” about, that you are passionate about, that is truly life fulfilling, then you need to look at the other areas of your life from a time commitment perspective. You need to let go of things that you may really like to do. I have cut back on the everything in my life that isn’t about my husband, kids; or about my job; or BraveHeart Women and LemonadeMakers.
Life for me isn’t about just getting a passing grade. It is about making a difference. All of my effort to do so comes from leaving behind everything that was of “average effort” in order to dedicate myself to the “superior effort” of creating community for both BraveHeart Women and LemonadeMakers.
If you find yourself wondering at the end of the day, punching the time clock and then sitting on the couch – then now is the time to look back in your life and find the things that you used to dream about doing or being someday. Fine the last thing that you were on fire about, that you were passionate about. Get involved in making those old dreams come true. Dreams can and do come true and they make a life worth living.
Change
So many times we see that things around us and just not working and that we are failing to help those in our lives. This man, didn’t just shrug his shoulders and blame the system; he didn’t just shrug his shoulders and say if the experts don’t know how to fix this, then what can I do.
Instead he made a change, and the change, the change changed everything.
http://www.upworthy.com/his-students-were-struggling-so-he-changed-1-big-thing-then-everything-changed?g=2&c=upw1&fb_ref=Default
Push
“I always did something I was a little not ready to do. I think that’s how you grow. When there’s that moment of ‘Wow, I’m not really sure I can do this,’ and you push through those moments, that’s when you have a breakthrough.” – Marissa Mayer – President and CEO of Yahoo!
For me breakthroughs happen two ways. I follow Marissa’s path and realize that the resistance is what happens when I am about to grow. Like a seedling in the ground, you need to push through that layer of soil in order to grow and I push and breakthrough the block.
If I am growing and expanding in some way that is in accordance to the Divine plan or contract, if I don’t push through what will happen is a breakdown. It is sort of the “we can do this the easy way or the hard way”.
If you have ever had a breakdown you will know what I am talking about. It isn’t pretty. I will be procrastinating – saying this isn’t the right time for something to change or happen. So the Divine starts poking at me and makes the situation I am avoiding change into something intolerable. It starts small and escalates little by little until I can’t stand it any longer. If I am still not moving, then the breakdown happens and things go crazy.
It may be that it was time to leave an employer and now I get fired. It could be that a friendship had been outgrown, becomes toxic and ends badly. It could be that my diet had to change, and now I have a serious illness because I didn’t do it. I am sure that most of you can think of things that you knew you had to let go of, in order for you to grow to the next level. And if you didn’t do it the easy way, by letting go of the resistance and poking your head through the soil, then the Divine ends up pushing you through in a painful way (hitting you on the head with the two-by-four).
I don’t know why we choose to resist. In most instances when we chose to push through, it wasn’t near as scary as our minds made it out to be. I have so many stories where I had this huge story I made up as to how hard something was going to be. When I finally made my mind up and pushed through it, and then I was scratching my head trying to figure out how I created that story in the first place.
I think that sometimes it is just the momentum of getting started. The visualization that I have in my head is around gardening, as it is something I like to do, but somehow always put off. Anyway, when you are digging and you have this large rock that needs to get moved, the inertia of getting it moving is hard, but you start it rocking back and forth, and then it begins to roll, which makes it really easy to keep it moving.
So today, I have a project that has been like that large rock that needs to move. I know that it is time, but because I am making up this huge story of how hard it is to get started, I have been putting it off. I have the best excuses of it’s not the right time; my cat getting attacked by the coyote; my dad getting all of the tests done on his heart and dealing with his condition; having new roommates moving in. All really good reasons (say excuses!). But I know better.
So today, I vow (big hairy promise) to get this rock moving in the right direction. No more reasons or excuses. I know that once I get started I will laugh at my resistance and everything will come together quickly, easily and in the best way possible. I have my intentions for what the completion will look like and I know that the Divine will bring me something that is perfect.
What rock can you release resistance to today? Everything is easier with help, so type a quick line to say what you will start pushing through, so I can be uplifted with your commitment and we can push through together!