Vision tells us our destination. It doesn’t tell us how to get there, it just tells us how we will know when we arrive. Focus is what helps up to do the work to arrive at the destination that vision has uncovered in our heart. Focus is the road to the destination. If we don’t have a vision we can’t have a destination. Without focus, we will find ourselves asleep wandering lost in the forest. We will just keep going in circles back to where we started. Lost, dazed and confused.
If you look back at the last two year’s – did you follow your vision or did you go in circles?
Without focus you travel down the road forgetting where you came from. The journey becomes the destination in a twisted sort of way. You will find yourself trying to fill a bottomless hole by acquiring more of everything. To possess things which promise to make you whole, but which instead create an insatiable appetite for more and more. Without focus life becomes a merry go round that never stops.
“When you are clear on your vision, it will pull you forward and out of bed in the morning” – Sean McCabe
We have all heard the story of the person who worked at a job for 30 years, retires and gets the gold watch. Then after a short while of sitting at home with nothing to do, they die. They never uncovered their life purpose, their reason for living. They dragged themselves out of bed each day and went to a job that didn’t fulfill them. They never discovered the reason they were born. Instead they punched a time clock day after day, month after month, until the years fled. They never found their way out of the forest.
Awaken the sleeper
The only way to find that vision, your life purpose is to look for it. It is deep inside your heart. It is connected to the things that you love to do. It’s not about something that happens in some distant future. It is about the quality of choices you are making in your life this moment. It’s about what you choose to see, to perceive, to feel and what you choose to do in this moment of time. The choices that push you to engage in life at its deepest meaning for you. It changes who you are NOW.
“Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens” – Carl Jung
It’s a funny thing when one day you wake up to your vision. You might have been wandering in circles for years, looking for that one special person or that title at work that said “I have arrived!”. You might have worked your fingers to the bone for years to find elusive fame and fortune. Whatever you thought was the answer to that longing deep in your heart, once you had it, you discovered it wasn’t it. It was just another circle in the forest. Then one day it happens. You finally realize it isn’t outside of you. It’s not a person, a career, money in the bank, a dream house or car. It is something inside of you that is calling you home.
Usually what wakes you up is being disillusioned, disappointed, that feeling you have hit rock bottom. Too many bad decisions and failed plans. When you stop fighting the uphill battle, give up and give in – when you are in that spot of finally understanding what it means to “let go and let God” it finally happens. Your heart feels calm, whole and centered. Your soul comes alive and feels truly safe for the first time because finally we are listening to the inner voice.
Listening with your heart and soul
Your vision becomes clear as you climb a high tree and see the way out of the forest of lost causes. You understand the connections to what has happened in your life and how each trial and tribulation, each circle around the forest was teaching you something vital that you needed to learn. Peace with your past, present and future permeates your bones. You see far off the destination your soul is leading you to. You realize the importance of the journey.
The journey has places where you became confused as to what the right choice was – at the same time that confusion is where you learned something new that stretched your comfort zone. The journey was where you were betrayed and broken by someone you thought loved you and would never hurt you – at the same time it was how you learned to heal your heart. The journey lead to lots of frustration as you tried and failed, over and over to learn something critical to your dreams – at the same time those frustrations lead to more authentic decisions based on your own judgment and not someone else’s.
Make the right choice
Even the parts of the journey where the sadness was a deep pit of despair, you learned to listen the heart, hear the words of wisdom of the soul and recover your happiness and joy.
2022 can be your year of focus, and vision. With the global pandemic, most people have lost focus. Their vision has dimmed. It seems like every time we think that we are moving past the masks and restrictions, this virus mutates into something else.
Instead of waiting for whatever “normal” is going to be and then settling into a new vision, it is time to just do it anyway. Some of your plans will fail dramatically, and you will learn something. Some of them be will duds that don’t even get lift off before they came crashing down – and that’s ok. Plans to go in one direction, will actually come about 180 degrees to go in another direction – which seems wrong but will be exactly right.
Now program your GPS system with your updated vision. Get clear about what it is you want to feel and be open to the feeling and not how or what is going to get you there. Look for signs, clues, and ask for directions. Don’t give up on your dreams. Listen to the voice in your heart and soul. Get back on track to where you are supposed to be.
Have a vision
Believe in yourself
Get out there, own the day
Create your own personalized dream map, claim your own unique goals of change and transformation; refine them into goal crushing gremlins; and finally, to truly understand what your motivation around those goals is all about.
“Bravery is not the absence of fear. Bravery is feeling the fear, the doubt, the insecurity, and deciding that something else is more important” – Mark Manson
Every year we commit ourselves to making changes in our lives. We may or may not call them goals, or new years resolutions. The thing is that we all change, whether it is on purpose or it just happens. Those changes can happen in uncontrolled chaos, or from being committed to something vitally important. Whether change happens to us or for us, it is up to us to make those decisions, day by day & moment by moment.
“I wish for the same thing I’ve hoped for since the beginning. I wish for a life so brave, so unpredictable, so full of unexpected joys and unforgettable love that no box could possible contain all my memories. Such a life won’t be perfect. It’ll be something better. It’ll be my own paradise” – Patti Smith
I think that the one thing all of humanity can agree on, is wanting a happy life. It may look different depending on our age, our sexual preference, our religion, our culture, our politics – but it is still desiring joy and happiness in our lives, and our families lives. Each decision that we make in this regard comes from us following those things mentioned above. The funny thing is, the personal definition of what constitutes all of those things — may not be authentic to who we are at a soul level. A lot of them come from following someone else’s value system. Our parents, our teachers, our mentors or the society that we associate with. As they say in Texas, “that dog don’t hunt”.
“Finding the passion and purpose in your life is a trial-by-fire process. You don’t simply wake up one day and become happy doing one thing forever and ever. It’s a constant work-in-progress” – Mark Manson
It’s kind of funny how we have this notion in our head that if we are able to make this one change or answer this one soul searching question about our life, that it will be a one and done thing. That somehow one thing changing would make us happy forever. There is no one-size-fits-all for anything in life. This is because growth is a constantly changing who we are. What makes us happy today in this moment is fleeting. This is because in life, you literally cannot pass this way again. Everything is changing and so this moment in time doesn’t last, it doesn’t repeat itself. Progress is change.
“Passion will move men beyond themselves, beyond their shortcomings, beyond their failures” – Joseph Campbell
What I love about figuring out how to accomplish my desires is the concept of failure as an ending. When you are on your way to someplace that you’ve never been before, even with a navigation system you sometimes end up on a dead end. Just this past week I had a doctors visit and they had moved their office. So I am following the directions on the navigation system in my car and I end up at a dead end. Thankfully there were some security guards talking next to this gate to the high school who knew where I needed to go.
“Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle” – Christian D Larson
Reaching a dead end, my journey to the doctors office had failed. I didn’t just turn around and go back home. I sought new directions. It’s the same thing with whatever our current life goals are. If you reach a road block, a dead end, the bridge is out – you shouldn’t just quit trying to get to where your passion is leading you. You should try something else. You should go in a new direction to the same destination.
“If you desire to make a difference in the world, you must be different from the world” – Elaine Dalton
A big part of being able to make the changes in your life that you desire, is a healthy self esteem. It is how you bring your life into soul alignment. It is living a life in integrity to your soul’s purpose. What your true values are deep inside of you. Without going through a process of determining what belongs to your soul – and what was adopted from outside of you from an deep seated need to belong – you can’t make true lasting changes in your life. You can make temporary changes from will power, but it will not result in the personal transformation that you desire.
“Don’t give in to your fears. If you do you won’t be able to talk to your heart” – Paulo Coelho
If you don’t want to continue falling back into old patterns and habits you need to learn a new way to facilitate your life changes. To learn a process that helps you to spot the patterns as they begin again to interfere in your passions and desires for change. As you increase your awareness, you will find those old patterns hold less power and control over your life. They began from a desire to keep us safe. But as you grow and change in life, those patterns become out-grown, outdated. They need to be released. That can only happen by your developing awareness of why you created them and how your subconscious is trying to avoid the risk of standing out and being different.
This year you have some dreams that you are working on. You have some goals that you are struggling with. It might be that you are ready to break out of your comfort zone. To go to that next level in your life. To realize your full potential in your job/career; your personal relationships; your health; financial or spiritual goals. Don’t let them go.
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What I love about life is the ability to always make a change. To do something different. To be someone different. It’s all about choice.
There are many people who look at their lives and decide they have no choices. That life is somehow against them. That they can’t be any different. It is the excuse of people who feel hopeless and helpless. But the reality is that you do get to decide how you are going to live your life.
Is this the life
you want to live?
There comes a point where it all becomes too much. When we get too tired to fight anymore. So, we give up. That’s when the real work begins. To find hope where there seems to be absolutely none at all – Christina Yang
When you are in the middle of life’s storms it may seem like all of the trees have been blown over. The roots were just not strong enough to keep the tree anchored in the soil. The homes around you may have suffered extreme damage and become uninhabitable. They weren’t maintained or strong enough to survive the hurricane force winds. When every structure you have created in your life has been ripped apart – what then?
That is the moment to notice that you are still here. You may not be standing; you may have been knocked down. But you are not out. It is in this moment of realizing that you have survived that you can take stock of your life. Because it is in this moment you learn that you were strong enough to survive. That you get to decide what happens next.
Is this the person you want to be?
Are these the relationships you want in your life?
Is this the job/career you desire?
Is this the BEST YOU CAN BE?
Can you be stronger?
I’m sure that you have heard the saying “let go and let God”. It is one of my constant reminders to myself. It feels like letting go is easy. It’s sort of like handing over the trouble to someone else to handle. It relieves you of the responsibility of fighting for how you want things to turn out.
At the same time, it is human to keep the comfort zone the same. So, while you are busy telling yourself that you have let go, you are in fact fighting to keep things the same.
How do you know if you’re fighting to keep it? By noticing that you haven’t really moved on. You have the same furniture in your comfort zone, you just moved it around. In order to have a real change in your life, no matter how painful it is, you have to let it all go and move on. You need to have a moving sale, “all must go”. You have to donate that old furniture and get new furniture. It’s the only way we can continue to grow.
Letting go is a release. If you have the balloons all stacked up and tied together, they aren’t going anywhere. It’s when you untie all of the balloons and let them go one by one. It’s when you let the wind take up each balloon and blow it across the sky until you can’t see it anymore – that’s when you have really let it go. What you are letting go of is not the dream itself, but the version of the dream you were trying to fulfill.
I think it is human to have some really deep-seated desires, beliefs, wishes that you know aren’t ever really going to happen. You were raised to believe in fairy tales, in the tooth fairy, or Santa Claus, in the white knight in shining armor that was going to sweep in and rescue you. You told yourself they weren’t real. You thought you had released them. Then something in life happens, and you realize you are still holding out for that forgotten dream.
It’s that kind of faith, in realities not yet beheld, that keeps us going. And once in a while something comes into your life that gives you hope. The hope that just maybe that thing you are still hoping for, fighting for, might just come true. That you are going to turn the corner and have your breath taken away by the surprise of how it shows up.
The best thing in life is to go ahead with all your plans and your dreams, to embrace life and to live life everyday with passion, to lose and still keep the faith and to win while being grateful. All of this because the world belongs to those who dare to go after what they want. And because life is really too short to be insignificant – Charlie Chaplin
I think that sometimes we don’t see it, because we are demanding that it to show up in a certain way. When in reality it has been in front of us all along. It’s like the love story when the boy or girl is looking at someone as being their soul mate, when in reality the best friend they’ve had their entire life is the one. They didn’t see what they already had.
I think that is what new endings are all about. To realize that the fairy tale is just slightly different than what you have been looking for. That the dream is here right in front of you, just waiting for you to see it in its disguise. Waiting for you to realize you’ve had your own keys all along.
This year you have some dreams that you are working on. You have some goals that you are struggling with. It might be that you are ready to break out of your comfort zone. To go to that next level in your life. To realize your full potential in your job/career; your personal relationships; your health; financial or spiritual goals.
Life changes when you realize you have the keys to your happiness in your own hands. Don’t let them go.
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We are just about 1 1/2 months until the new year. It is the perfect time to do a year end review of 2021. Did you make some new years resolutions, goals, plans for 2021? How did you grow and make progress, and what have you overcome in this year?
Some people will make goals that are giving something up for a limited time or forever. Lent is a religious practice that does this.
Some people will make goals to bring something new into their life.
What you discover every single year is that change is hard. And if that change is motivated by will power alone, it will not last.
“In order to save myself, I must destroy first the me I was told to be” – The Dreamer
So how are you doing on those goals, plans and intentions to change?
What is your definition of progress?
Having 20/20 vision means that you have done the work to see the connections to what you have decided to change and where you are going with your dreams in this new year. You have spent the time to map out the new year so that you can make some actual progress towards those dreams, instead of letting fears and excuses stall your journey.
“Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything. Maybe it’s about unbecoming everything that isn’t really you, so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place” – Unknown
Instead of hiding who you are, be bold and step out into the world proclaiming “I am here”. Stop hiding your dreams, thinking that way no one can destroy them any further. Learn to trust your heart and listen to it. Give up on settling for what is possible, and demand your part in the dance of life.
“Ten years from now, make sure you can say that you chose your life, you didn’t settle for it” – Unknown
There is only one way to truly know who you are deep down inside. You have to get in touch with your own soul. You need to be by yourself, and sit with yourself, and just listen. Looking back at your life, find the places where you were really happy. Find the things that are so easy for you to do, that others find hard or impossible. Trace back all of the threads that have your name engraved upon them. Start picking out and removing all of the threads that are not you. Look for the gold and silver pieces and toss out the dross. Now look for the patterns that are left.
It is never too late to be who you were meant to be
The threads of genius that are all you, can now be taken up and made into whatever pattern you want. It is never too late to be who you were meant to be. When you make this journey deep into your soul, you will discover that your life can only change by completely shaking it up. You need to remove what doesn’t belong and then figure out how to rearrange what does. It is an individual journey that defines who you are. You can only discover your truth by looking for it down deep within and then integrating it into your life. 20/20 vision is a lifetime adventure. This journey is for you alone. Embrace it and live it fully.
“To make the right choices in life, you have to get in touch with your soul. To do this, you need to experience solitude, which most people are afraid of, because in the silence you hear the truth and know the solutions.” – Deepak Chopra
So, how do you make this the year that you transform your life? You do it by finding the pattern that you fit into. If you were to read everything about changing your life with new years resolutions, goals and plans that has been published just this month you might find it overwhelming. Everyone has different ideas about what works. What they really mean is what worked for them.
It’s an individual journey, one size does not fit all
What I have found is that it is really all about making the connections to what I am taking away or adding to my life purpose. I pick what sounds right deep inside of me and leave the rest behind. When I do this, it becomes an infinity loop of expanding energy to keep doing the work. I want to share this process with you, so that you too can be like Goldilocks and find the pieces that fit just right.
“The spiritual journey is individual, highly personal. It can’t be organized or regulated. It isn’t true that everyone should follow one path. Listen to your own truth” – Ram Dass
It’s an individual journey and one size does not fit all. Making your dream a reality isn’t easy. It is sort of like having a puzzle that has the same picture that others have, but your puzzle pieces are cut slightly different. You are missing some pieces and so you discover that they are not inter-changeable. Some pieces might fit, but others won’t. So you have to go to a lot of different puzzles to find the missing pieces that will fit. It’s a risk because each piece that doesn’t really fit, becomes a failure on your part.
“. . . it’s a life’s journey of finding ourselves, finding our power, and living for yourself, not for everyone else . . . ” – Mariska Hargitay
If you don’t take the risks, make the changes and transform your life, then your destiny will not be fulfilled. In order to make this a little easier I would love to share with you what I have found. It’s a method of taking bits and pieces from all different methods of change and transformation and creating a pattern that allows me to plug in things that work for me.
You decide what methods of change work for you
This isn’t just about a vision board or an accountability partner. It isn’t just about will power or a positive attitude. Make 2022 be the year that you don’t get overwhelmed and quit. That this time frustration doesn’t get you stuck in the mud of “it’s just isn’t working” and you give up. It’s about getting past the negative mind talk and making real progress towards your dreams. It is about getting on the road of good intentions and actually getting somewhere.
What I know for sure is that we all hit walls of failure, fatigue, and flat tires. It helps to have a few tricks up your sleeves to handle them. Then they just create slowdowns and maybe a few detours, but don’t stop you completely.
Make this your year of shift, change and transformation. Get 2022 vision, insight and find your missing puzzle pieces. Complete your own puzzle and see the full picture of who you are becoming.
“Sometimes, thing don’t go as planned. Life doesn’t always go the way you hope it will. You can’t plan everything. Life takes you where it wants to – you’re pretty much just along for the ride! Just breathe – Re-Evaluate – Step out of the box – Forgive – Be grateful.” – Namala Lakesh
I believe in plans. But I also believe in being flexible. I believe in taking stock and making constant adjustments. It’s like a sailboat. You are subject to winds and currents, but with the rudder and sails, you have the ability to maneuver into the direction you want to go. Which is why I love the way I plan out my month and year. I make plans and then as life happens I see where I need to make adjustments. To re-evaluate what is really most important in the current time and space to accomplish. That’s why I am sharing this system with all of you. It works!
“She stood in the storm and when the wind did not blow her away, she adjusted her sails.” – Elizabeth Edwards
Sometimes things happen in the reverse order of your expectations. The patience comes in because you automatically put expectations on the plans. You visualize them out step by step, and then life happens. You lose you job, the promised promotion and/or raise doesn’t materialize. Someone close to you is faced with a critical medical diagnosis. The money you had planned for vacation now has to go to put in new plumbing. In short, life happens. You need to adjust your sails.
“Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.” – Michael Jordan
Sometimes obstacles are like the monsters under the bed. You hear a noise. Your imagination runs wild. Your heartbeat goes out of control. Suddenly you are screaming. And it was all in your head. Other times they are legitimate. I remember one of the contestants in America’s Got Talent had been a singer, then tragedy struck. She went deaf from a medical condition. She stopped singing and gave up her career.
“Our life doesn’t always turn out the way we planned, but sometimes that’s because what we planned wasn’t suppose to be our life.” – Gdonell
Mandy said in an interview, “I made the mistake of associating my entire identity with one single dream, and when that dream died, I very much felt like I died. I became a husk of a person for awhile.”
“Life doesn’t always go according to plan. Sometimes heading in a new direction can be scary until you realize you’re headed toward a new and exciting destination.” – Susan Cole
Then she got an electric tuner and spent 10 hours learning to sing each note perfectly. “I couldn’t believe it”, she says, “My perfect pitch and muscle memory all came together.” Mandy Harvey.
“If people are doubting how far you can go, go so far that you can’t hear them anymore.” – Michele Ruiz
Then one day she decided to stop fighting against her dreams and start fighting for them. She began writing her own songs and singing again. She discovered that this real obstacle could be overcome. She discovered that a big chunk of the real obstacle was in her own mind. Singing a song she composed she got sent straight through to the finals on America’s Got Talent. She finished fourth.
“You don’t always need a plan. Sometimes you just need to breathe, trust, and let go and see what happens.” – Mandy Hale
If you take a good honest look at your life so far, you will see times where what you had planned fell apart – and that it was a good thing. You underestimated what you were are capable of. You made plans that were far too limiting in regards to your potential. When you let go of the expectation of the plan, and how it should go – and instead learned to feel your way with intuition, amazing things happened.
“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.” – Joseph Campbell
You discover hidden talents. You uncover better ways to expand your comfort zones. So when the path you are walking on changes direction, don’t be afraid to keep going. When the sign says “dead end” don’t be afraid to go off the path and create your own. When the wind blows you backwards, grab a tree and hold on. When life challenges you to sit it out, get up and fight to keep moving forward.
“If we can just let go and trust that things will work out the way they’re supposed to, without trying to control the outcomes, then we can begin to enjoy the moment more fully. The joy of the freedom it brings becomes more pleasurable than the experience itself.” – Goldie Hawn
LemonadeMakers is hosting a monthly free class on goals, resolutions, plans – whatever you want to call your means of change and transformation in your life. We discuss on a live Zoom call what is happening that is working and not working. Ideas to try to get us motivated to change and transform our lives. Where we might re-evaluate our plans. How to adjust our sails.
We invite you to join with us the first Saturday of every month. The next class registration is opening today. Come join us! Click on the box to register now.
This year of 2020, in the month April it will mark the 10 year anniversary of Carl’s murder. His 29th birthday was last month. It’s hard to process everything that has happened as a consequence of that happening in our family. My sister has more good days than bad, but she is still and will probably always be stuck in her loss. My life has shifted so much I don’t think I am even in the time zone. The ripples of his death will keep moving as long as someone reads this blog about our loss.
“No one is actually dead until the ripples they cause in the world die away . . , ” – Terry Pratchett
Out of every great tragedy there comes the hidden blessings. One of the blessings I received after my nephews murder was someone who was able to take the grief and loss that I felt, and turn it into something beautiful and full of hope. I wrote a poem purging myself of the intense waves of grief. Writing is how I make sense of the senseless, it is how I can remain sane, when the crazy is calling my name. So when my nephew was murdered, I wrote a poem about what I was going through.
“Writing is like breathing, it’s possible to learn to do it well, but the point is to do it no matter what” – Julia Cameron
I encourage anyone going through difficult times to write it out. I think that it releases the poison, that would corrupt our souls. In pain, we hold our breath. Writing helps us to start breathing again. To realize that we can still have a chance for a better and happier life.
“When we focus our energy towards constructing a passionate meaningful life, we are tossing a pebble into the world, creating a beautiful ripple effect of inspiration. When one person follows a dream, tries something new or takes a daring leap, everyone nearby feels that energy and before too long they are making their own daring leaps and inspiring yet another circle” – Christine Mason Miller
I will print my poem at the end of this. While I was able to process my way through the grief, it still felt a little dark. The gift that this stranger was able to give me, was taking this poem and my story, and creating this beautiful song from it. It took away the darkness in my poem, and transmuted it into light.
I reached for this poem when someone else I love is having their own dark night of the soul. We all need to remember that even though there are dark nights, they can be transmuted into something beautiful.
“Only in the darkness, can you see the stars” – Martin Luther King Jr.
I think that we all have those days, when the sky turns black, with no sunlight or starlight to shine upon us. We think that God has turned his back on us. We feel the intense emotions that threaten to drown us. As I say in my poem, sometimes the sorrow burns us alive.
“Some days our grief appears as small manageable ripples. Other days it completely crashes over us without any warning. These are the days you need to be able to sit, reflect and remember; and not feel guilty in doing so” – Just Over The Rainbow Bridge
Sometimes it’s okay if the only thing that we can accomplish in a day, is to simply breathe. Breathing in the love, turns the storm into a calmer sea. The sun rises again. As the poem ends, we can breathe again. We can breathe in the love, grace, forgiveness, joy and hope and manifest it back into the world.
I hope you enjoy the song. We had it created especially for LemonadeMakers.
“We all die. The goal isn’t to live forever, the goal is to create something that will” – Chuck Palahniuk
Yesterday you were so alive riding the oceans waves, yes, life was so simple and innocent
But now your soul has left behind your flesh, and your bones lie there just an empty cage
Help me, I can’t breathe as this news fractures my life, I am so unsafe, I just can’t balance
And grief engulfs me, and anger rages, and I just can’t breathe.
I can’t breathe from hearing the news on T.V or reading the printed pages of your murder
I feel the thunderous storm of emotions pass through me as lightening strikes my heart
The senselessness of your passing, the gunshots of a stranger who tore our lives asunder
And so I grieve, and the sorrow burns as it drowns me, and I can’t breathe.
The hours pass into days as I stumble down this long road breathing with heavy sighs
The days spent in crying, and the primal screams of the dark nights merge into numbing weeks
Yet storm clouds break up as I begin to see the healing of the rainbows blessings
And so I grieve and I begin to breathe, I breathe love.
Life carries on with unending support of love that is surrounding me and protecting me
Forgiveness is the answer, so I move past the limitations of grief, rage, and sorrow
To live in limitless love, light and joy, and my heart-lines align to the universal love
And so I breathe love, and I add grace, I breathe, I breathe grace.
Love from Carl’s heart washes through me, cleansing and healing every part of my body
A warm wave it ignites an inner fire of transformation that love is the ultimate expression of grace
It illuminates the greater vision for my life to emerge from within me, a graceful unfolding,
And so I breathe love and grace, and I add forgiveness, I breathe, I breathe forgiveness.
I release the need to blame you Carl, myself, or anyone else for your ending,
I release fears grip on my soul, and I choose to walk this path with love
I have experienced a grace inspired event that challenged me and I have awakened
And so I breathe love, grace, forgiveness, and I add joy, I breathe, I breathe joy.
Grace has opened a door whose light illuminates my next step as I step out of the darkness
I share this, your gift to the world, that love is the ultimate expression of grace
As I practice this belief, practice will yield to insight, which yields to reimbodiment, which yields to manifestation.
And so I breathe love, grace, forgiveness, joy, and I add hope, I breathe, I breathe hope.
As I breathe love, grace, forgiveness, joy and hope, life becomes a celebration again
And as I let my light shine, I unconsciously give others the permission to do the same
I will live like there is no tomorrow, I will live like there was no yesterday
I will breathe, I will breathe love, grace, forgiveness, joy and hope and manifest it out into the world.
“A pivot is a change in strategy without a change in vision” – Eric Ries
All around the world people make plans. They set goals. They build on their dreams. Every year brings you some of the same goals and maybe this year you have a few new ones. For the majority of us that is as good as it gets. Why?
Because sometime in January or February or maybe even March your willpower begins to fade out. You slow down. You procrastinate and put it off for next month (this is me – lol). You tell yourself what’s the hurry? I have all year to get this done.
What if this year you do something unique? What if you pivot instead?
“You can only succeed. You cannot fail. Failure is impossible …, an illusion…, Nothing. Everything moves the human story…, forward. Everything advances you on your journey” – Neal Donald Walsh
Thinking back to secondary education (Jr. High, High School or College) did you get your assignments done when they were assigned or when they were due? How many late nights cram sessions did you have to do to finish a paper that you had weeks to complete but waited until the last minute?
The majority of us were late night crammers. And that is one of the things that leads us to fail in our dreams. resolutions, goals, and plans. Not fail as in we can’t do it but fail as in, we decide to quit trying to do it.
When you make your goals with the intention of accomplishing them within 12 months, you will delude yourself that you have plenty of time until there isn’t any time, and then you will quit. Why?
You are out of integrity with your life
Because unlike school when you would have failed a class and then been grounded by a parent, you are only lying to yourself.
The problem with lying to yourself though, is that you are then out of integrity with yourself, and it plays out in your life over and over again. Every time you say you are going to do something, that negative voice will say – “yeah right – you know that you are not really going to accomplish this, so why waste any time or effort in pretending.”
“We’re here to put a dent in the universe. Otherwise, why else even be here” – Steve Jobs
This year what if instead of a 1-year plan, why don’t you do something different? Do a weekly plan. You choose how many weeks you want to plan for. 12 weeks is sufficient to work in a new positive habit. For most goals it gives you enough time to plan out how to accomplish it. If the goal needs more than 12 weeks such as education, plan out major steps that can be accomplished within 12 weeks.
Get out your pencil and three pieces of paper for this exercise. I want you to limit yourself to three goals. Write one goal on each sheet of paper.
“How does the WHY relation to the vision” – Simon Sinek
Now write down some steps that would need to happen in order for you to accomplish your goal. As an example, you might want to go back to school to get a degree for a change in your career or to help you advance further in your degree. Since this is probably more than 1 year, plan out 3 steps that can be accomplished within the chosen number of weeks.
If it isn’t pulling you to complete it, it’s not really your goal. Keep digging until you reach that place where the dream hooks you. Then do the following step.
Only list three steps that can be accomplished within the chosen timeframe. Your goals should always be driven to your life purpose. To move forward into who you are meant to be, who you are becoming. Otherwise, it is just wasting your time, effort and money.
Always check in with our inner guidance system and follow where that is leading us. There will always be some positive emotions, some connection – it will lead us if we get quiet and listen and feel for it.
“The only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle” – Steve Jobs
For a budget goal, you could plan out goals for each pay period. Weekly, biweekly, monthly – according to the time frame your paychecks arrive.
Continue in a similar manner for your third goal. What is so cool about this pivot is that you can play with it to see what number of weeks works for you. The budget goal for example will continue all year long. You will have accomplishments for each time period that you are working through. Celebrate each milestone – it is what fuels you to the next milestone and gets you over the disappointments when life happens and creates havoc in accomplishing our dreams.
“If the challenge we face doesn’t scare us, then it’s probably not that important” – Simon Sinek
I know that if someone gives me something I may or may not make the time to actually do the work. So, take a second and think about what I wrote up above. Did you take out paper and pencil or did you just read through it thinking that you would come back later and do it?
What I also know about myself is that if someone takes the time to work with me through the material, I get some action and forward momentum started. I will answer the questions and get my brain thinking and planning. So, take this small first step for 2020 and let’s create something personally designed just for you!
Commit to your dreams. Travel down a clear path to your date with destiny.
“If your dreams don’t scare you, they aren’t big enough” – Unknown
It takes determination when you are knocked down to get back up, but it is only when we have been knocked down that courage enters. It takes courage to face the failure. It takes courage to try it one more time. It takes courage to find failure once more in your face daring you to try again.
Is it failure or part of the divine plan?
In life many things don’t happen the way we plan them. In a lot of cases what seems like failure is actually part of the divine plan. Years ago I walked away from a pretty secure job because I was promised the opportunity for advancement at another company. I took on the responsibility of completing a manual of guidelines for the new company because the person they had hired for it wasn’t getting it done. I had never written anything before other than papers for school. I figured that I could simply expand that knowledge into something new and I did.
Then shortly afterwards the market turned and I was laid off. Because the market had slowed down in Southern California, there weren’t any jobs available and we ended up having to relocate back to the Seattle area for me to find employment. I had berated myself for leaving the previous company; for believing the owner of that new company; for the market turndown. I had beat myself up pretty badly.
An interesting thing happened in Seattle. The Savings and Loan I was hired to work for hired me in the advanced position I wanted. The S&L needed a servicing manual and I had the experience to write it. I was also hired to teach a course for loan processing and underwriting at South Seattle Community College and Renton Voc-Tech. All things I wouldn’t have had the courage or opportunity to reach for if I hadn’t made that job change back in California.
I believe it was all part of divine planning. Can you think of such examples in your own life? Times when what you planned shifted and changed into what you thought was failure, but was actually part of the plan all along?
Of Caterpillars and leaps of faith
“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams” – Eleanor Roosevelt
It is in seeing the beauty of your dreams that you are able to get back up after you have failed. Finding your life purpose and then bringing it out into the world isn’t an easy journey. While your soul will not give up, your mind is constantly entreating you to give up. Seek the peace of sleep. Take it easy.
“You get in life what you have the courage to ask for” – Oprah
It’s a constant tug of war between mind and spirit. When your soul is inspired it sets you on fire. You find yourself doing things you never would have dreamed it was possible to do. Every negative thought your mind produces is shot down. Like the caterpillar you have the push to transform beyond any understanding.
“Don’t spend time beating on a wall hoping to transform it into a door” – Coco Chanel
Like the caterpillar you learn new skills, building a space in which to transform. That is what goals and dreams are all about – change and transformation.
You have this yearning to be something different from what you are currently being. You have these feelings that you can’t really put words to. You just know that you have to do it. Can you imagine the caterpillar building a chrysalis and then standing back and judging it as not being good enough? That the caterpillar would just turn away and forget the whole transformation thing?
The caterpillar doesn’t care that he has never built anything before. He doesn’t care if it isn’t the perfect shape, or on the wrong branch. He doesn’t care if the wind is blowing it sideways and maybe today isn’t the best day to complete it. He is so involved, that he has gone so far out of his comfort zone, it isn’t even in the same town or state.
He is so involved with using these skills – skills that he didn’t even know he was capable of learning, that he is taking a huge leap of faith. A leap of faith that what he has built, is what it is supposed to look like and feel like. He trusts his divine inner guidance and forges ahead. He trusts that what he is becoming will allow him to transform his outer being in such a way that he will fly.
Where does such trust come from?
You know down deep in your heart and soul that you will never regret giving everything you have to accomplish your dreams. You know that giving your best effort and then digging down to bring up that tiny bit of extra you didn’t know you were capable of will be worth the cost. How do you know this?
“The women whom I love and admire for their strength and grace did not get that way because shit worked out. They got that way because shit went wrong, and they handled it. They handled it in a thousand different ways on a thousand different days, but they handled it. Those women are my superheroes” – Elizabeth Gilbert
Because you see everywhere examples of where other people have done just that. They worked stuff out, no matter the cost. It’s not a one size fits all world. It’s through trial and error that we work stuff out. You have a secret weapon. You figured out that in every single change, rather than judging it as good or bad, you see the possibilities rather than the problem.
That’s what the loss of a job in Southern California and the wonderful opportunities that opened up in Seattle taught me. In every single change, there is a long hallway. A hallway with all of these doors of possibility open and inviting you to step through. That is where is courage comes into play – stepping through the door and into the possibilities.
“Have goals, Chase dreams, but do not let your Happiness depend on their achievement” – Manoj Arora
There is a promise today that we can achieve happiness from living a better life. It might be taking certain herbs, oils or medications. The promise of living a vegan, vegetarian, paleo lifestyle, that somehow having a special diet will make us feel happier. Detoxing from all electronics. Living a simple lifestyle, purging our homes of all the material things others think make them happier. They all promise to somehow give us more energy and therefore more happiness.
You might still buy into that vision of being super woman – the woman that can balance raising children, maintain a pristine “Better Homes & Garden” home, successfully climb the corporate ladder, and still wear the sexy lingerie every night. Who can be the soccer mom, volunteer at school. and bake homemade cookies for the classroom. That mom who schedules and drives to every doctor appointment, after school activity, and social event.
“Sweetheart, marry your goals. Remain committed to success and be loyal to your dreams. It’s okay to choose yourself” – r.h. Sin
Focus on what matters
You are so busy chasing perfection, that happiness when it briefly touches you, it is lost as a momentary endorphin high. With each hit, we immediately start seeking the next one.
“Don’t chase your dreams . . , Instead . . , Hunt your goals” – Preeya
Instead of moving immediately to the next thing on your list, sit on the feelings of happiness. Notice those moments of being grateful, relaxed, and appreciated that come from being happy. Feel it completely. Focus on the joy.
Like taking that first bite of your favorite food, savor the feeling from the top of your body down to your toes. Taking the time to fully experience happiness converts it from a temporary endorphin high to making it a lasting change in your mind and mood.
“She loves – the smell of coffee; blooming roses; and new beginnings” – Unknown
There is this balance of being happy from when you get a raise, and the happiness of completing a complex long term goal. The first one lifts your mood (an endorphin high) – like a favorite song that makes you want to sing and dance. The second one is deeply fulfilling because it was difficult to achieve. The amount of happiness in your life is dependent on the quality of your thoughts.
The question to ask yourself is “what is your definition” of a life well lived? All you will get from chasing perfection is exhaustion. Get curious about what makes you happy? Your current circumstances have nothing to do with your current state of happiness or lack thereof. Ask yourself where your passion comes from? What gives you joy?
“Do not chase another human being. Instead, chase your curiosity. Chase your development and your goals. Chase your passion. Strive to work for something bigger than yourself, and instead of trying to convince someone that you fit within their world – build your own” – Bianca Sparacino
It’s the little things that create a lasting happiness.
“In the midst of movement and chaos, keep stillness inside of you” – Deepak Chopra
Make your own list of little things that make you happy and include those things with every goal you create. You will find it easier to start each new goal and to build and keep momentum in accomplishing each goal. It’s vitally important to remember that the goals you set are not a final destination.
“There is no substitute for the creative inspiration, knowledge, and stability that comes from knowing how to contact your core of inner silence” – Deepak Chopra
Goals, dreams and visions are a part of the journey, not your final destination. The combination of the quality of goals you set for yourself and how they expand your comfort zone creates who you are becoming. It is the self knowledge that each experience reveals to you that tells you where you are on your journey of self knowledge. It is walking in the direction of your life’s purpose that brings in lasting happiness.
I invite you to join us on February 1st for a live workshop on how to make 2020 the year of achievement.
Get clear on what you want and how to obtain it. If your 2020 goals are already stalling, get recharged and refocused. Learn how to pivot to success.
Just click below to get started.
Instead of just thinking “I could do this” come and find out just how much you can do, confront your deepest fears. Stop playing small. Shine out in all of your brilliance. Give yourself permission to be all that you can be in 2020.
“If you can tune into your purpose and really align with it, setting goals so that your vision is an expression of that purpose, then life flows much more easily.” – Jack Canfield
There is a dream that you had as a child. It was a persistent dream. It was a longing that would not be denied. Maybe you went for it and failed. Or maybe you were too scared to even try. Or maybe you had the “one hit wonder” and then faded away, too afraid that you could never repeat or even surmount the dream. That dream contained your purpose. How it was fulfilled was your vision of what it could be.
“Focus on your own happiness, focus on your own life, focus on your own vision.”– GreatestQuotes.net
My dream was to write.
I did well in school. I loved learning. I would read 6-7 books a week. I would check out the maximum number of books every week and read them all. My family was always moving somewhere new. Until my Freshman year in high school I didn’t attend any complete grade in one school. So books were my best friends and my escape. And every single book I read, I would say to myself, “I could write this book. Maybe even write it better than the author did.”
“Life will only change when you become more committed to your dreams than you are to your comfort zone.” – Peerhustle.com
The problem was while I told myself that, the doing of the actual writing was outside of my comfort zone and I was terrified that I wasn’t as smart as I thought I was. The fact that I got straight A’s and was in honors didn’t overcome the fears. In fact it magnified them. In my mind I was sitting on the pedestal and if I actually tried to write a book, I would topple off the pedestal and be subject to ridicule.
“Don’t try to overhaul your life overnight. Instead, focus on making one small change at a time. Over time, those small changes will add up to big transformation. Don’t give up!” – emilysquotes.com
So I dreamed of writing year after year and fed my purpose a starvation diet of book after book that someone else who was smarter and braver wrote while I just dreamed about it. I believe that God plants your purpose inside of you. It never goes away. I believe that door after door of opportunity comes you way to express it to its full potential. I believe that the ups and downs of life itself are generated in such a way to try to coax you or force you to take up your dream and live it.
“A vision of a desired future allows you to engage and identify immediately in your focus with an improved condition. It changes what you perceive and how you perform – NOW. It’s not about achieving something in time. It’s rather about the quality of choices you are making in this moment – what you choose to perceive, feel, and do. It’s about getting the most out of your experience.”– David Allen
I believe that at least one of the New Year’s Resolutions or goals that you set – are a part of your life purpose.
When my nephew was murdered I was forced through the door of writing. I didn’t really understand what was happening at first. By the time I realized that I had committed myself to writing LemonadeMakers I had literally changed my world. All my goals before that were about changing myself to make other people happy. Lose weight and be healthy for my family. Climb the corporate ladder so that my family would be secure financially, and so on.
“Focus on where you want to go instead of the obstacles in your path. Drive and persistence will take you to your desired destination.”– slideshare.net
Now all of a sudden, the question that I was asking was,
“Who do I need to be to make LemonadeMakers be what it is supposed to be? What do I need to learn? What habits do I need to bring into my life? Who can help me?”
It is such a unique space of focus away from fear of not being loved if I wasn’t giving all of me to my family or job – to the space of how can I help others find this place seeing “what else is possible”? It is kind of funny when I finally understood that giving all of me to my family or job was from fear and not love. And now I am finally living most of my time from love and not fear. Fear still shows up, disguised as self sabotage. Then fear is shown to the door, when once again I recognize it for what it is.
Somewhere in your goals that you are setting for 2020 is a part of your life purpose.
It is the thing that you dream about when your mind wanders. What is it that you do, that is similar to my inside my head comment when I was reading a good book. What is your version of a “I could do this”? Think about the thing that pops into your head, that is immediately discounted by your negative self talk. There is something there to explore and understand more fully.
That “thing” will keep showing up month after month, year after year, decade after decade. That idea or concept will not leave you – it can’t. It will keep haunting you, until you are expressing it to its fullest potential or you have died with the dream still unfulfilled within you. So take a leap of faith. Be brave.
We are going to explore some ideas outside of the box on how to start living our dreams. We are going to dig into our goals and expose the root systems to see how they connect to our life purpose. It is more than a dream board. It is more than writing the dream out on paper. It is more than a calendar full of appointments and meetings and blocking out time to implement what needs to be done and when you will do it. It is more than a single leap of faith or five baby sets of doing something.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light. . , that most frightens us. . , ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ . . , who are you not to be?. . , Your playing small does not serve the world . . , We are all meant to shine. . , as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ― Marianne Williamson
I invite you to join us on February 1st for a live workshop on how to make 2020 the year of achievement. Get clear on what you want and how to obtain it. If your 2020 goals are already stalling, get recharged and refocused. Learn how to pivot to success.
Just click below to get started.
During the call you will have the opportunity to create, find a pivot or two, reimagine and refuel your life dreams.
I know that if someone gives me something I may or may not make the time to actually do the work. But if someone takes the time to work with me through the material I get some action and forward momentum started. So take this small first step for 2020 and lets create something personally designed just for you!
Instead of just thinking “I could do this” come and find out just how much you can do, confront your deepest fears. Stop playing small. Shine out in all of your brilliance. Give yourself permission to be all that you can be in 2020.
They say that we all have at least one book inside of us. It could be a biography; a cookbook; gardening; crafts; fiction or nonfiction. You could write science fiction, mystery, comedy, drama and so on. You might have overcome tragedy and write about how you did it. All kinds of ideas can come creeping inside of your head on what you would want to pass on to the next generation. Lessons learns that can help others live a happier more fulfilled life.
Your entire life journey ultimately consists of the steps you are taking at this very moment – S. Williams
You might look at the goal of writing a book and shrink back. It’s going to take a lot of time and sacrifice to write. It might not be, no – it definitely won’t be any good. The publishers will reject it and then I will have wasted all of that time and effort. You might come up with a million reasons and excuses on why not – but what if you did it for the one right reason? What reason?
You have a story to tell
What if this year is different and you choose to tell it? How could you make it happen? How do you make any kind of big hairy audacious goal happen? The same way the joke says that you eat an elephant – one bite at a time.
A pivot to me is an about movement. A turning point. A radical way of viewing something that expands your universe as well as your personal space. It is the realization that we are all the same, yet at the same time you have the ability to be your own unique person. It is the understanding that one size does not fit all, and you have the gift of being able to alter any situation into one that does fit the one of a kind “YOU”.
Your vision helps you focus on your dreams – Chris D Costello
So, what is your big dream?
The typical answers are time and money. You might have one but not the other. But that isn’t really what is holding you back. Fear is what does it.
Chase one rabbit at a time
There is a proverb that says that if you chase two rabbits, you won’t catch either one. Maybe one of the issues with New Year’s Resolutions is that we are all chasing more than one rabbit?
That’s what I love about the idea of changing the time frame from a yearly resolution to a smaller time frame. You can chase one rabbit at a time.
So, this year try something new. Take your goal, your big hairy audacious goal, and put it into bite size chunks.
It could be one week at a time, four weeks at a time; twelve weeks at a time – you decide what works for you. Say for example you want to write a book. Start with a story line – Who is your hero? Your protagonist? What are their stories? Their dreams of life and their failures. Sketch them out – families, school, work, friends.
Focus means: F-ollow; O-ne; C-ourse; U-ntil; S-uccess – Unknown
Start with a three-hour block of time per week. You can have one three-hour block of time, or three one-hour blocks. Do what you know you can commit to.
Keep a notebook with you to write down thoughts and ideas as they occur to you. Write down your dreams the minute you wake up, because your subconscious is going to start working in your favor. It’s going to give you whole scenes to write down.
Your story is based on who you become in your lifetime. It is based on small decisions and large ones. It is based on what life throws your way and what you throw back. It is based on what you create out of what you have been given.
When I was first married my husband went to an auction with one of his friends. He came home with a box. It was a random box of stuff that they auctioned unopened. Inside was stuff you probably would have thrown away and not even given to the goodwill.
What can I make out of this?
I was mad at first that he wasted his money. Then I became determined to do something positive and useful with this box of stuff. I took apart all of the material from the clothes inside the box and created a baby quilt out of it for our first child. I still think of that today whenever life has given me a box of stuff, I think I can’t use. I take it apart and say, now what can I make out of this?
When I dare to be powerful – to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid – Audre Lorde
What distractions and obstacles are showing up in your life at this moment?
From a solution perspective, how do you live your life on purpose? A key ingredient is knowing when to pivot, to rethink your plan, while still accomplishing your goals. It’s a new year – you have made some plans, goals, or resolutions for this year, is it time to pivot? To rethink your plan?
Don’t waste any more time
Don’t waste any more time avoiding your dreams or thinking that they are impossible. Pick them up and make them a priority.
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“A vision is not just a picture of what could be; it is an appeal to our better selves, a call to become something more” – Rosabeth Moss Kanter
When you are living a life on purpose, what does that really mean? You see yourself on a journey to accomplish something that is important to you. Say for example that you want to run a marathon. You set a goal of getting up every morning at 4 AM to run before you go to work.
Now you and I know that there are going to be mornings when you don’t want to get out of bed. When you promise yourself that you will just sleep in this one time and that you will run when you get home instead. But of course, when you get home, you have so many things to do that evening that you are too tired to run.
When your will power runs dry, what then?
Your actions will always, be 100% congruent with your thinking. So, if you set a goal to run a marathon, and you set up a plan of how much running you must do in order to complete the marathon – yet you find yourself not getting up at 4 AM as planned, then your thinking is not congruent with your goals.
“You have to have a lot of passion for what you are doing because it is so hard …, if you don’t, any rational person would give up” – Steve Jobs
You need a change of thinking. You need a breakthrough. A breakthrough is a natural result of a shift in your thinking. You suddenly connect past, present, future into a thought that sheds light on something you never saw before. When you have a breakthrough, it feels as though the DNA in your body has changed every single cell. Like one moment you knew who you were. Then the next moment you are someone totally new. You realize that you can never go back to what you were before.
Shifting your mindset can create opportunities that you never imagined were possible. Many times, it happens when you run out of ideas. When you hit the wall. When you finally let go and let God. It clarifies and simplifies everything. It’s like the spotlight appears out of the darkness and shows you the way home. You become more of who you are supposed to be.
Become more of who you are supposed to be
“Awareness is not a giver of solace – it is just the opposite. It is a disturber and an awakener” – Robert K Greenleaf
It is kind of funny what happens when you wake up and become aware of how simple life can really be. You are full of plans to run the marathon. You are taking action. Then something happens, and everything changes.
Your “WHY” is what creates a compelling vision for your life of purpose
How does your “WHY” relate to the vision you have created? Your “WHY” is what creates a compelling vision for your life of purpose. It will clearly capture and establish an emotional connection to keep you on purpose to your vision.
It gets you up at 4 AM excited to go running, even in the rain or when you are just too tired to even press the snooze button. Your “WHY” is the means to get you to the end result – running in that marathon.
Around 20 years ago, in the month of January, my middle son got engaged. They set the date to get married in August. I was so happy for them. I wanted to pay for their dream honeymoon. I contacted the travel agent they were working with and got all of the details. I sat down and planned it out exactly how I could pay for it.
“Hold the vision. Trust the process” – Unknown
A couple of weeks later they decided to move the date to May. I was devastated. I could see no way to pay for it in time. I decided to try something new I had learned about at a real estate seminar. I sat down and wrote out a letter expressing how happy I was that I could pay for their honeymoon. How they had the best time at their dream destination.
About two weeks later I got a phone call out of the blue about 10 acres that we owned in rural Upstate New York. The neighbors across the street wanted to purchase the property for cash and they were ready to close it immediately. We settled on the price and two weeks later I had the exact amount needed to pay for the honeymoon.
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How did this happen? I created a compelling vision of what I wanted to do. Not how it would get done. I captured all of the emotions involved in being able to do this for my son and his new wife. It created an emotional connection to my vision. It opened doors I didn’t even know existed. Want to learn how to do the same thing?
“If you are working on something exciting that you really care about, you don’t have to be pushed. The vision pulls you” – Steven Jobs
I know that if someone gives me something I may or may not make the time to actually do the work. But if someone takes the time to work with me through the material, I get some action and forward momentum started. So, take this small first step for 2022. Create something personally designed just for you!
If you want some ideas and brainstorming, contact me via LemonadeMakers.