
We must take the time to define our own path. Too quickly we can find the world defining it for us – unknown
What if instead of grocery lists, errands to run, and budgets with bills to pay; you instead created a different list? This list would encompass what your ideal life would look like. I’m not talking about the fancy car, or mansion. It isn’t the number of pairs of shoes in your closet. It isn’t things at all.
If you created this list, you would start with where you would be living:
Then you would look at what your day would consist of:
If you could list everything that was truly important to you – would you have the courage to start building your life around that dream?

What do you tell everyone that you want to do? Now what actions are you taking in your life to make that happen?
Because the disconnection between what you say you want and what you do about it, speaks to the fact of how much you “really” want it. It is an idea you are comfortable with. But if it isn’t happening, then it isn’t an idea that you have confidence in bringing into reality. There is something missing in the connection.
It could be an old dream that you have grown out of, but you don’t want to give it up because you don’t really know what you want instead. The passion which would lead to action is just not there.
It could be that it wasn’t really ever your dream. but someone else’s. Maybe your parents unfilled dream; maybe something you just sort of accepted as being yours because your best friend or partner thought it was something you could do together. While it became the dream you talked about, it was never the dream that was as necessary to your life as taking the next breath.
“You will recognize your own path when you come upon it, because you will suddenly have all the energy and imagination you will ever need” – Jerry Giles
How do you know when you have a real dream that is really a soul desire? A heart commitment?
It feeds your soul. You can’t take a breath without thinking about it in some way. Even when you are on overwhelm you can’t go to bed until you have done something to take another step on that path of making the dream a reality. You are constantly asking yourself what in your life needs to change to help you be the person who can accomplish that dream.

Adventures are when you go someplace new. When you try something for the first time. They can happen in your own backyard, or a 1,000 miles away. It is in the doing of something new that we make discoveries about ourselves.
“I don’t believe I luck. Luck = leaving things to chance and the outside world. I believe in being harbingers of our fate, determining our own path, taking action and creating our own destiny in life. This is your life and it is your to create. Don’t ever let others do it for you.” – Celestine Chua
Figuring out something for the first time usually has some trial and error involved. Some frustration, when you swear you are following directions and it isn’t looking like the instruction sheet says it should. It is when you discover that the manufacturer drilled the holes in the wrong spot, or didn’t provide enough screws or you are missing vital parts.


“If you are resisting something, you are feeding it. Any energy you fight, you are feeding. If you are pushing something away, you are inviting it to stay” – Michael Singer
Every day in life, you will experience fear in some way. Some days it feels like the wolf is at the door. As he claws at the door you can see it starting to splinter apart. He is fiercely growling, as he is threatening your life. Your heart is pounding so loudly it almost drowns out the wolf’s noises.
Other times, you can hear the wolf in the distance, howling and teasing you that he is coming. You can hear his claws as he paces around and around the house. But he doesn’t try to come in. He is content to pace outside and torment you that he might try to come in.
Some of these fears are false events, that you think might be coming true in your life. You worry at them, like the dog at a bone. You think about them constantly circling round them over and over. You feel the non-ending stress with headaches and stomach aches. You can’t sleep without nightmares.

Other fears are things that have happened to you, that you are afraid will happen again. Traumatic events that replay in your mind. Some of these events will take professional counseling to get over, others are something that you need to work through and release.
I have a process that I use when the event has too much pain contained within it. I review the trauma and deal with releasing as much as I can. Then I mentally pack the rest of it into a box and put it on a shelf. I label the box with a date to reopen it.
“We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same” – Carlos Castaneda
On that date, I again work with the trauma and release another portion of it. Then I repack it into a smaller box, labeled with a new date. I continue the process until the last of the trauma has been released.
I know that I have reached that stage for two reasons. (1) I can touch the trauma, and there is no longer a triggered reaction to it. Like touching a tooth ache, I touch it and it no longer causes pain. (2) There is nothing left to put into a smaller box. I can then give thanks that I had the strength, will, and courage to come through this trauma with the grace of God.

Part of releasing the pain, is finding one small thing that was a positive life lesson. I look at it through a strangers eye. I look for something that I would say as a stranger, to someone who had experienced that trauma.
I stop being the victim. I stop being in the trauma. I step outside the drama.
I look for how it strengthened the person’s character. How they would be able to show more compassion and empathy for others now that they understand this experience. I keep looking for some nugget of gold.
When I find it, I can release that much pain from the box. Eventually the box is empty of pain, and instead of pain, I now have a room filled with priceless experiences.
“Opportunities to find deep powers within ourselves come when life seems most challenging” – Joseph Campbell
Some of your fears are not worrying about something bad happening to you. Some of your fears are about how you are judging yourself.
“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine” – Bruce Lee
So what do you do with your world of fears?

By transplanting this fear out in the warm sunshine, you have faced the worst that the fear has to offer. You came out of the battle victorious.
Not because you killed the fear, but because you transformed it into something even more powerful. You transformed it into the treasures of dreams fulfilled. Of achievements accomplished. Of courage maintained. Of emotions generated such as gratitude and happiness. Of having the best adventures, the best stories to share with others. The best gift of all, is to truly know yourself.
“Everything you want is on the other side of fear” – Jack Canfield

There is nothing in a caterpillar that tells you it’s going to be a butterfly.
– R. Buckminster Fuller
I think that most of us have heard the concept of the butterfly effect. That the flapping of a butterfly’s wings in one part of the world, can cause a typhoon in another part of the world. The concept of how making a single change in your life, effects the future of people all over the world. Every time we make a change in our lives, it shifts who we are. We in effect destroy the old personality, in creating a new personality. The caterpillar creates a change by forming the chrysalis around its body. Then the old body is completely destroyed. A completely new body is created. This kind of change is not temporary. There is no going back to who you were. Even small changes create revolutionary impacts in a persons life. Science recognizes this as “The Law of Sensitive Dependence Upon Initial Conditions”, I like “The Butterfly Effect” much better. LOL.
Perhaps the butterfly is proof that you can go through a great deal of darkness yet become something beautiful.
– unknown
I had this experience of seeing how a very simple comment, completely changed my own life. I was at a seminar and the speaker had asked a question of the audience. I had raised my hand. He looked at me. His face had that expression you get when you think you know someone, but you aren’t sure who they are. He asked me if I had attended any of his other events, and I said yes. This was actually my third weekend course with his group.
One day, whether you are 14, 28 or 65, you will stumble upon someone who will start a fire in you that cannot die.
– Beau Taplin
The next words out of his mouth shifted my whole life into a new space of awareness. He dramatically raised his arm and made the motion of removing a cape. He said “You are one of those people. I am removing your cloak of invisibility.” With those couple of sentences, I was forever changed. I could feel a heavy weight had been lifted off of me. It was like a darkness was removed. I felt like I was standing in the spot light. I felt every person in the room see me for the first time.
Each small act of kindness, reverberates across great distances and spans of time – affecting lives unknown to the one whose generous spirit was the source of this good echo.
– Dean Koontz
I had been one of those people who could disappear into a crowd. Now I can’t do it. It is no longer natural. It now feels uncomfortable. I thank Jesse Koran for listening to that intuitive voice inside of himself, and saying what I needed to hear. It was definitely time for me to transform. My purpose in this world was calling to me. This was just the first of many transformations my life purpose would require of me.
A mountain is composed of tiny grains of earth. The ocean is made up of tiny drops of water. Even so, life is but an endless series of little details, actions, speeches, and thoughts. And the consequences whether good or bad of even the least of them is far reaching.
– Swani Sivananda
What Jesse said was like a tiny grain of sand, a drop of water in the ocean, but that single action led to the creating of LemonadeMakers. It lead to creating this blog. It lead to my first book being written, and this summer it will be published. It has led to a personal freedom in my life, because I finally said yes to me. I finally acknowledged that maybe I did have a gift with writing. Now I wondered if maybe you would want to hear what I have learned through all of the lessons in my life. That maybe, just maybe, you would be encouraged to make a shift and change in your own life. I woke up, and I discovered that part of my own purpose in life, would be to help others wake up.
My writing had been calling out to me since I was a child. But I was afraid to listen. Now slowly that wall I had built between my life purpose and the life I was living, began to crumble. With each new curious thought, I was able to remove some of that wall. Curiosity is a huge wall demolisher. Because it circumvents fears from stopping you. It leads you to joyously take a risk and see what happens. It is a prime movement of the transformation process.
By your hand millions – BILLIONS – of lives will be altered, caught up in a chain of events begun by you this day.
– Andy Andrews
The reason why the butterfly effect is so interesting, is that I shift and transform a tiny grain of sand. You in turn see something as small as a single sentence in this post, that causes you to shift and change one tiny grain of sand. Your transformation, in turn inspires another to shift and change one tiny grain of sand. Soon we have a whole mountain towering 5,000 feet in the air. And it was built, one tiny grain of sand at a time. One personal transformation of a small thing in your life, in the next persons life, and so on. Until 5,000,000,000 grains of sand build a mountain.
Each of us is like that butterfly, The Butterfly Effect. And each tiny move toward a more positive mindset can send ripples of positivity through out organizations, our families, and our communities.
– Shawn Achor
At some point in our life, we start looking for our life purpose. In looking at all of the butterfly’s around her in this photo, she finds the one that is perfect for her. She finds her purpose in life. While her yellow butterfly looks like many others, it is unique in its coloring. It fits her perfectly. She recognizes it as being hers and hers alone. The question then becomes, what does she do with it? Because taking up this butterfly will forever change her world. She will grow and transform into something different and new. She has the ability to change the world with her decision. And the interesting thing is, that she will in fact change the world either by taking that butterfly, that purpose up or leaving it behind.
Don’t quit before the miracle happens.
– unknown
Every action and every non-action matters. Every choice you make or don’t make matters. Will you fully live your life, or just continue to exist? Your time as a caterpillar has ended. Will you take up your life purpose, your wings? If you have said yes in the past, is it time to trade in the smaller wings for a large pair? To expand your comfort zone? To acknowledge and accept your bigger purpose in this world?
Before you become too entranced with gorgeous gadgets and mesmerizing video displays, let me remind you that information is not knowledge, knowledge is not wisdom, and wisdom is not foresight. Each grows out of the other, and we need them all.
– Arthur C. Clarke
You might find something within this post that strikes you in a new way. Nothing has been said here, that hasn’t been said elsewhere. But as we grow into our life purpose, we see things differently because we are different. So sometimes a sentence brings a new insight that we didn’t get before. This information may or may not provide some new knowledge or understanding. Knowledge applied becomes wisdom, so maybe something in this post served as a reminder to make a transformation. It becomes wisdom when it transforms us in some small way. That wisdom then provides foresight to the path that we are now walking down. It provides a small grain of sand, to put onto our mountain top of transformation that we are building. It tells us whether to take the right hand or the left hand of the path up ahead.
The very beating of your heart matters. Every choice you make or choose not to make matters. Your actions impact the world. Choose them wisely. Expand your comfort zone. Seek out every opportunity to say yes to your life purpose. Your actions will shape how your future unfolds. Your story has been so far only one of many possibilities. New choices, new actions, expansion, transformation – all sit in front of you at this moment. Say yes to happiness, when your life purpose lands on your hand say yes to whatever will lead to expansion and growth.
Happiness is a gift and the trick is not to expect it, but to delight in it when it comes.
– Charles Dickens
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There is a candle in your heart, ready to be kindled. There is a void in your soul, ready to be filled. You feel it, don’t you?
– Rumi
Mind, body, heart, soul, the physical body, the spiritual body – bringing them into harmony is like being the orchestra conductor for a symphony. You have all these different instruments that you bring together to create this fine blend of harmonious sound, and not just a cacophony of sounds. To weave the notes together to make a beautiful piece of music. The rising out as a soloist and then the weaving back down into the harmony. There is a space in this vast room for improvisation like in jazz, where they create bridges that lead in new directions as well as bring the music back to the beginning.
Everyone’s life is an evolution of emotions, spirit and beliefs. The storyline changes, plots thicken, main characters mature and new spiritual journeys begin. This is true of inspirational authors. Their books represent only stages of their life. New triumphs of the soul have yet to be written.
– Shannon L. Alder
Instrument’s in effect disturb the air around them evolving into sounds, music. The notes played arise out of the no-thing-ness of creation to blend into other vibrations thereby creating sounds that can fill you with peace, ecstatic joy, with a feeling of living outside of your own world. You can reach any emotion with music, making people smile, laugh or bringing them down into intense sorrow. Have you ever listened to a soundtrack from a movie and you can tell from the soundtrack this is the battle scene, the kissing scene, the near death and triumphant rescue scene? You don’t even have to know the movie and you can tell based on the emotions within you, what must be happening in the movie at that particular point. It is like going on a musical journey of someone’s personal soul journey, their heroes journey of personal transformation.
The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential . . . these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.
Each instrument is an individual point of consciousness for just those few minutes of playing a masters creation. You can shift different instruments in and out of the piece and the piece totally changes. Some changes are small, such as having three violins instead of four, or major such as all of the violins being silent. In the same way small shifts in our mind, body and soul can be used to help us reach out and achieve our dreams, to reach our highest potential.
Always choose the path the feeds the soul
– Confucius
Music provides a detailed road map to where you are going with the piece being played. There is a tangible vision of how it should be performed. But there is also a space for the individual playing the piece to do their own version. They can speed it up, slow it down. Have you ever listened to various musicians cover a song where they take the song to a whole new place? It is so interesting to me because when I have a favorite song and someone switches it up, sometimes I am “Wow that sounds wonderful”, and sometimes I am “Wow that really doesn’t work”. It all depends on how tied I am to the original song. The more connected I am to it, the more I want it to remain the way I heard it the first time. No one way is the right way for everyone. Always choose the one that feeds your soul. That feels like the perfect fit – not too small or too big, but just right.
Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.
– Rumi
In jazz there is a free flow of creativity among the players. The leadership of the piece of music being created is passed like a baton. Each person has a unique contribution to the piece and at the same time, there is a collaboration to the piece. A shared rhythm, melody and harmony is created because you build and shape the music as you go. No one tries to lord it over the others, but rather hearing the direction one person is going, the others try to uplift it to an even higher plane of existence. In this way, as each player changes their playing of their own instrument, they change the sound and direction of the music being played. Not by directing it, but by exploring it. As you explore yourself and shift and change, so does every other player. You can see them sitting there, eyes closed, faces of joy, totally lost in the journey the music itself is directing. The result sounds like they already knew where they were going, but in fact it was the exploration that directed the destination.
Unless someone can look into the core of your heart, and see the degree of your passion, or look into the depths of your soul and see the extent of your will, then they have no business telling you what you can or cannot achieve. Because while they may know the odds, they do not know you. Nor do they know the power of your angels.
– Sandra Kring
It is interesting that when I write, especially poetry I hear music playing in my head. It is usually a combination of different songs that kind of blend themselves in and out of the writing. There is an emotional connection to the heart and soul when I write. I can feel the searching for the right words, both from the meaning of the word and the vibration of the word. For example, hope and faith. I tend to go with faith, because to me the vibration of the word hope is lower. It is more of a maybe word, whereas faith to me has an expectation that it will be so, that it will happen. Hope has more of a maybe, I don’t know vibration to it. That is my own personal relationship to the words. Others would have a different relationship to the words and that is ok. But what this does is to allow me to touch the personal passion I feel when I write. Music does the same thing, touching emotional vibrations.
Once your mindset changes, everything on the outside will change with it.
– Steve Maraboli
What is the mindset that changes everything? It is having the courage to take risks, by wearing our heart on our sleeve. To feel the emotions of everything we come in contact with, and not let it take us out, but rather let them flow on by. It is about have the capacity to sacrifice the “I want you to like me” feelings, so that I can tell you want you need to hear, instead of what you want to hear. It is being vulnerable enough within ourselves, to pull out all the bits of behavior and personality we have taken on to be accepted. And leaving out in the open all the bits that make us who we are that we have hidden away, as not being worthy. It is the wearing those bits of who we are at a soul level, that connects our life to our consciousness.
Once you realize that the road is the goal, and that you are always on the road, not to reach a goal, but to enjoy its beauty and its wisdom, life ceases to be a task, and becomes natural and simple, in itself an ecstasy . . .
– Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj
Living our truth; reaching for the stars; falling to the earth and trying again – that is the road we are on. We have to be willing to be rejected because we live real, authentic lives. We have to be willing to mark out our boundaries not our of fear of others, but love of ourselves. When we change our mindset and live out loud who we are – that is when we are brave enough to climb that ladder. When we have the courage to reach higher and higher into our true potential – that is when life itself is an ecstasy.
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“Keep going. Everything you need will come to you at a perfect time” – unknown
Just keep swimming. The storm clouds will pass, and the sun always shines once again. It may seem like you are walking through the valley of shadows and death alone, but that is an illusion.
There is the invisible spiritual world that is always by your side. There are friends and relatives that may not know how to help, what to say or do – but they are cheering you on. There are people in this world who every night pray for those who feel they are lost on life’s journey.
Just as your faith can move mountains, your doubts are what put them there. Stop creating barriers that you have to fight to get over.
“Have the courage to make the change, the strength to see you through it, and faith that everything will turn out for the best” – unknown
Some leave you because they are not interested in a transformational journey any longer. They wish to stay safe within their comfort zone and make no waves that might swamp their little boats.
Some you leave because you realize that you can’t continue to carry their weight and still walk your own path. You have to cut the chains that are dragging you down.
Out of the best of motives, you find that you have done too much for someone, and you have to stop. It only hurts them to continue. You are not giving up on them. It was just time to release them to their own journey, and for them to find their own way. It is not the end of your story, just the end of their part in your story. And that is ok.
“Note to self: None of us are getting out of here alive, so please stop treating yourself like an afterthought. Eat the delicious food. Walk in the sunshine. Jump in the ocean. Say the truth that you’re carrying in your heart like a hidden treasure. Be silly. Be kind. Be weird. There’s no time for anything else” – Nanea Hoffman
If you have never read any of Caroline Myss’s books or heard her speak I highly encourage you to check out her body of work. To me she is that really critical aunt that drove you crazy as a kid, but you learn to love and appreciate as an adult. Because everything that she says is total reality, no sugar coating, and is the best advice that you could get.
The whole reason to be on the path to personal self-transformation is to realize that there are parts of you that are not in balance. To learn how to bring them back out of the shadow and into the light. You can’t do that work unless you are willing to be totally honest with yourself.
“Facing personal truths and purging yourself of addictions or manipulative habits requires strength, courage, humility, faith, and the other qualities of a soul with stamina, because you are not just changing yourself; you are changing your universe. Change one coordinate in your spiritual compass and you change your entire life’s direction” – Caroline Myss
“May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears” – Nelson Mandela
If you are willing to make a few mistakes, to have a few failures, you can learn how to release the monsters from under your bed. You can take on one monster at a time. You can talk to it and learn its story, its reason to exist. They were created when you were small and most of their stories are just bits of truth wrapped up in drama, trauma, and misunderstanding.
If you can unwind the experience, you can help them take off their masks and their costumes. You can take away their illusions. You can help them understand that their help was exactly what we needed at the time. You can thank them for protecting you. And if you can change one small thing for them, you can transform their relationship with you.
One small change at a time, one degree makes all of the difference.

“It takes courage to grow up and become who we really are” e.e. cummings
Walking on the path of the transformation life, you sometimes find your path ends with a large body of water that needs to be crossed. You might swim across, but sometimes that body of water has a strong current, rapids or even is close to the drop off of a waterfall. So, swimming might seem too risky.
You could look for a way to build a bridge across. But you might decide that you don’t have the “know how” to build a bridge.
You could build a boat to row across, but maybe you don’t have the funds to buy the lumber.
Or you could fly.
What you must never do is to be afraid of doing whatever is needed to get across that body of water. Because the worst thing that can happen is that you build a house alongside that body of water, and never even attempt to get across. That is guaranteed to give you a life of regrets. To be always wondering “what if?” What if you could have flown across?
What might you have accomplished in your life, if you had just risked continuing down the path of a transformational life?
What is necessary is that you are stronger than your excuses. Whenever you hear yourself say the word, “but”, you need to stop what you are saying. Because whatever follows but is an excuse. You don’t need to unpack your backpack at the word “but” and build a home there. What you need to do is to get a shovel and dig under the excuse to find the pattern of sabotage that is underneath the excuse.
Root out the pattern and recognize it as a fear. Shift and change how you are dealing with that fear. Doubt has built another mountain, and you can refuse to climb it. You can instead have faith in yourself, in your friends and family, in your spiritual beliefs, and know that if you built that mountain, you can take it apart and keep on your journey.
“When it is all finished, you will discover that it was never random” – unknown
When I look back at what I thought were mistakes, I see these links. I took a new job, which ended three months later. I was laid off and I couldn’t find work. I lost my car because I had no money. I moved out of state. I got a new job and the reason they hired me?
It was because of what I was doing at that job for three months. That experience led to a promotion for a position that I had been aiming for, to teaching at two different community colleges, to creating and running a training program for seven branches of a savings and loan bank. None of which would have happened without that job for three months.
So was it a mistake? I don’t think so. Nothing in that string of experiences was random. I was following the path of self transformation. Sometimes the path kicks you butt, and sometimes you kick it back.
So, what do we do? You swim. You just keep swimming. You make mistakes and you keep swimming. You try new things and you keep swimming. You change yourself, your world and you just keep swimming.
I hope this year, you make mistakes.
Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world.
You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re Doing Something.
Don’t freeze, don’t stop, don’t worry that it isn’t good enough, or it isn’t perfect, wherever it is, art, or love, or work, or family, or life.
Whatever it is you’re scared of doing, DO IT.
Make your mistakes, next year and forever.
– Neil Gaiman

“Dreams are illustrations from the book your soul is writing about you” – Marsha Norman
Such a beautiful idea, dreams coming from your soul, as illustrations of what you can accomplish with your life. What kind of life did you imagine when you were five? Ten? Twenty? Forty? Sixty?
Your dreams are waiting patiently for you to come back and try again. But it isn’t a matter of doing the same things that already failed to bring your dreams into reality.
It is all about you transforming and changing yourself, so that you can become the person who can support that dream. I think that is why many fail so many times. You keep thinking that you just need to keep climbing the same slippery slope. And every time you slide back down, you think you just need to try harder.
“Even though the future seems far away, it is actually beginning right now” – Mattie Stepanek
Dreams serve a dual purpose. They grow you, shift and change you in order to accomplish them.
And they bring something wonderful into the world, to shift and change others besides yourself. Dreams are realities not yet beheld.
The story of the Starfish –
What you are doing right this minute, is the beginning of that future. Even if it is as simple, as saving one starfish.
“Don’t downgrade your dream just to fit your reality. Upgrade your conviction to match your destiny” – Shinzoo.com
When you work on becoming the person you need to become, to bring your dream into reality, how do you know what you need to transform within yourself? The clues are like key holes in the walls that you built out of your fears.
Take for example the fear of public speaking. It is said to be one of the most common fears that everyone has. You probably have this fear. So the wall of fear that you have built is designed to avoid any situations in which you might be asked to speak. Your body will fight against you. Some people go into hot/cold sweats. Some become nauseous and even throw up. Some people get that deer in the headlight look and forget everything, including their own name.
You have to discover what is lying underneath the rock called fear of public speaking.
Get curious as to what is underneath your own fear rock.
“Do what you have to do, until you can do what you want to do” – Oprah
When you pick up a literal rock, you might find dozens of different kinds of insects buried underneath it. Within your rock of fear, there it isn’t just one answer buried underneath it. It is usually several different items that are weaved together to create the illusion of a huge unmovable boulder of fears. But as you unwind and untangle each fear, acknowledge it, and see how you can transform it, the illusion of the boulder shrinks down into a manageable fear rock.
As you transform those fears with speaker training; As you practice and become well prepared; you realize that your speech isn’t about you. It’s about helping your audience. You discover that giving a speech can be a wonderful experience. Having some butterflies in your stomach before speaking is normal. And having some nervousness with the first couple of sentences is common. You are planting the seeds of your future success in bringing your dreams into reality.
“Let us make our future now, and let us make our dreams tomorrow’s reality” – Malala Yousafzai
What makes it a “Life Transformation” is the realization afterwards, that while it might not be perfect, you did it! That someone in that audience needed to hear what you have to say. You spoke to that one starfish and helped it get back into the ocean.
You gain the confidence to realize that if you can conquer what might have been a crippling fear about being a public speaker; what else could you transform in your life that has been holding you back?
When you do something this transformational, you literally shift every cell in your body and become a new person. You can’t go back to that person you were before. Like the caterpillar, you just emerged from the chrysalis and spread your beautiful butterfly wings and took flight.
As you transform yourself with change after change, you discover that your dream itself keeps growing. So the journey keeps going.
Along the way you will meet people who tell you logically, that you are wasting your time trying to save a beach full of stranded starfish. You will experience epic failures. You will be disappointed by other people who you thought were in the dream with you for the long haul.
If you stay true to your dream and honor your imagination and never, ever, give up – you will be a winner in bringing that dream a lot further than you could have imagined at the beginning.
Here at LemonadeMakers, we are happy to have those kinds of deep conversations, to help you figure out what is underneath the fears that seem to be holding you back from living your life purpose. Contact us anytime.

Sometimes you need to take a break from everyone and spend time alone, to experience, appreciate, and love yourself – Robert Tew
I have a confession to make. Years ago, when all four of my children were little, I used to hide in the bathroom. Sometimes the mommy, mommy, was just too much. I didn’t want to referee who had what toy, who pushed who, or be the mean mom making them clean up their room.
I was tired out from working all day, coming home and fixing dinner, making sure their homework was done, that they all had their baths, and had clean clothes for the next day at school. I just needed five minutes alone.

If your kids are like mine were, you didn’t get the five minutes alone until they were in bed, and after the 15th excuse to get out of bed, they had finally fallen asleep.
By then of course, you are too tired to even think, and you are falling asleep on the couch. Just a few minutes of peace.
My husband was a wonderful man who in the summer would take the kids on overnight camping trips. For one whole weekend, I would stay at home alone. I slept in. I read a book. I would wallow in alone time and recharge. It was a mini mommy vacation. When they came home Sunday night all excited about fishing, I was a whole new mom, ready to listen to every story and adventure.
If you really love someone, there’s no such thing as not having enough time for them – unknown
For some reason now that the kids are all grown and out on their own, I have filled my life up with so many things to do. It took a while to notice that I have let the habit of alone time disappear. I am following my own advice and putting this time down on the calendar.
It is really important to carve out the space to be able to soul search. To recover energetically. To be able to do some deep thinking, following the rabbit down the rabbit hole. To just be without any agenda or schedule or purpose. It is a part of having a healthy relationship with yourself. It is a part of loving yourself and making time for just you.

Alone time is when I distance myself from the voices of the world so I can hear my own – Oprah
I love to garden, to crochet, and I have always wanted to play the piano. I want to go on a hot air balloon ride. I want to travel to Scotland and see where my dad’s family came from. I want to explore medieval castles all over Europe.
I have been neglecting this part of my life because of not balancing myself between my day job, taking care of my husband and his health issues, being there for the grandchildren, and the amount of time it takes to promote and build LemonadeMakers. The “I should be’s” overwhelm the “I want to’s“.
But what I know from life experience and lots of years of education, is that it is just as important to take the time to recharge my batteries.
So, like the sailor in the ship, you need to make course adjustments, to make sure that you don’t keep losing yourself in life’s often conflicting priorities.

Remember to take those moments, or those weekends to smell the roses. You will come back reenergized and ready to take on whatever life is getting ready to throw in your direction.
Isn’t funny how you will look at someone as being “the overnight success” story. There is no such thing as the overnight success. Every step that we take in bringing our dreams into reality has a price. People don’t see the 10,000 hours you put in to become the master that you are today. They don’t see the hours that you continue to put in to hone your gifts into the genius category. What if instead of getting mad about someone’s cutting remarks, we stayed silent. And to take it one step further, what if instead of crying about what they just said or did (which is what they want) you laughed out loud about it? What if you said, “if you hate this, just wait – I have more achievements that you can be mad about coming.” And my personal favorite, “If you don’t like me and still watch everything I do, you’re not my haters, you’re my fans.”
Silence your critics.
Ignore your haters.
Delete your cynics.
– Robin Sharma
The sad thing is that we listen to the critics at all. We can have 10 people come up and gush all over us, how wonderful we are, so inspiring. And then one person finds something negative to say about us, usually personal and not having anything to do with the job we do, and that is all we think about. What if we turned it around? Instead of taking it personally and getting wounded, what if we took it as a sign that we have something within us that needs to be released. Thanking them, literally, because they just made you aware of some personal work that you need to do for yourself? Just a little housecleaning to track down where that hurt you just felt is actually coming from.
When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you.
– African Proverb
I have always loved the quote from Theodore Roosevelt. It puts everything into perspective, because most haters are not putting themselves out there to accomplish their dreams. They become haters because the truth that you are living, shows up the lies they are telling themselves. They become haters because every time one of us puts ourselves out there, it reflects to them that they aren’t fulfilling their own personal destiny. Every time we get back up from the failures, and keep going until we win through, it is like a stake in their hearts because they are too afraid to fail and so they don’t take even the first step into the arena. They know that they have a divine destiny, a life purpose. Instead of listening and following their souls calling, they smother their heart when it cries out to them to walk into the arena and get dirty.
It is not the critic who counts; nor the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deed could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, who face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs; who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.
– Theodore Roosevelt
So how do you unlock your own potential? You get curious. You look for open doors to walk through. You go on adventures. You read, watch and listen and then think, think, think. You wonder what if? What could I just do next? What happens when I? Like Alice in Wonderland, each step down the path brought something new into her life. She realized that every single day she was a totally new person; that nothing was impossible; and that all of us are just a little bit mad; and it is always tea time.
“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?’
‘That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,’ said the Cat.
‘I don’t much care where -‘ said Alice.
‘Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,’ said the Cat.
‘- so long as I get SOMEWHERE,’ Alice added as an explanation.
‘Oh, you’re sure to do that,’ said the Cat, ‘if you only walk long enough”
― Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland
Whenever I hear the word relentless, I think of a small child. You know that age where they ask “why”? Why is the sky blue? Why do dogs bark and cats meow? Why, why, why? At first it is cute. Then it drives you mad. Children are great examples of being relentless when they want something. How many times as parents have we said no, only to give in later because we can’t take it anymore? But like a lot of excellent childlike qualities at some point most of us lose that quality of being relentless. We stop asking because they will just say no. We don’t ask because what if they say no and we put ourselves out there just to be shot down. We don’t want to be annoying, or look foolish or be a failure, and . . . . . so we make excuses. We place the blame on others. We start looking around for things that won’t be hard to do.
Why Do I Succeed?
I am willing to do the things you are not
I will fight against the odds
I will sacrifice
I am not shackled by fear, insecurity or doubt
I am motivated by accomplishment, not pride
If I fall – I will get up
If I am beaten – I will return
I will never stop getting better
I will never give up – ever
That Is Why I Succeed
Unknown
Find a purpose in life so big, that it challenges every belief you have. That it challenges you to do things and try things that never occurred to you before. Instead of following the crowd, break out and find your own path. Change the way you think. Your story gives you so many clues to your life purpose. Your dreams are like sign posts pointing you in the direction to go forward and bring them into reality. Your souls voice is you refusing to be quiet and invisible. We can’t know your story until you tell it. Whether that is from speaking, writing, acting, dancing, singing – whatever form it takes, it must be told. Your story isn’t about being a victim, it isn’t about the tragedy that happened. Your story is about how you overcame “all that stuff”, and how you took life’s lemons and made the best lemonade in town.
I recently read an article about a 10 year old boy in Texas who likes to invent things. In his neighborhood, there had been a baby left in a vehicle in the summer that had died. It really affected him. Now he wasn’t like most of us, saying how could someone forget their child in the car. He wasn’t thinking that they should go to jail. What he was thinking was what could I invent so that when someone makes a tragic mistake, it doesn’t have to result in the death of a baby? So he now has a patent pending for a little cooler that looks like a giant lego, that will turn on when the heat gets too high and the car seat is occupied by a child. By cooling the baby, it makes time for the parent to remember they left the child in the car and rescue them. What struck me about this story is that this totally preventable situation has been happening for years and it never occurred to millions of adults to create some sort of mechanism in the car seat to cool the child and buy enough time for the child to be rescued. How many other opportunities are there out there for some great thinking outside the box that will save lives?
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If I were to ask you what your highest potential is, would you have a ready answer? Would you need to think about it for awhile? What about the first career that you thought you wanted when you were little? A policeman, Fireman, Doctor, Teacher, or maybe even the President? What was it about that career that appealed to you? Why did you change your mind? Why did you give up the dream?
You have everything you need to build something far greater than yourself.
– Seth Godin
Usually we give up a dream because we think we don’t have what it takes to make it happen. This can come from the outside, from parents, friends, peers etc…, or from the inner critic fear, who convinces us that we aren’t good enough to be that person who can make their dreams come true. To catch our potential and live our dreams we have to fight our greatest fears. I believe absolutely that if we are given the dream, then we do have the potential. I believe that all of us are better than we think we can be.
As human beings greatness is not so much in being able to remake the world as in being able to remake ourselves.
– Ghandi
When faced with those fears of living out our dreams, we tend to run away. We blame others for what we are afraid that we can’t accomplish. We get involved in time sucking activities. We live down to the lowest level of our potential, figuring that falling off the first stair step of the staircase won’t hurt as much as falling down one or two dozen steps. Then looking up from the ground level, that idea of reaching for the moon seems even further away and less obtainable. We run around with others who are running away from their own potential, so that we feel part of a crowd, safe and secure – “just like everyone else”.
You can see and feel this mindset when you try to make a change. The crowd around you doesn’t want you to make any changes in reaching out to grow into your potential. They see that mirror of you reflecting back at them, and they will oppose it, because they don’t want to wake up to their own true potential. It would mean that they have to grow and change too, and that is just too scary. It is far easier to remain unconscious and in a rut.
Have you even seen pictures of the Oregon Trail with the ruts that were worn into the prairie by the wagon trains? Some of them dug so far into the earth that it was like a wall on both sides of the wagon as they went through. It might make you feel safer, but ruts are filled up with limiting beliefs, uninspired sameness, mental, physical, and career burnout. It is a sure path to being asleep in your life.
I want people in my life who are more interested in my growth than my comfort.
– Eric Johnson
Why does that matter? Because study after study reflects that as a group, we develop a “sameness” in our actions. Eating habits, exercise habits, even monthly menstruations, it all tends to become regulated to the group. So if you want to reach your potential you need to associate with other people who are trying to reach theirs. People who take action. Who are awake and conscious not only to their own potential, but in the potential of others around them. People who will cheer you on, who will stop when they see you take a fall and help you get back up. There isn’t any competition with this group of people, but rather collaboration in helping each other get up the next level of growth, and celebrating all of the milestones along the way.
To reach your full potential, you have to set goals that will stretch you. You must not be afraid of taking risks. You must learn to recognize opportunities and have the courage to pursue them. You have to make better choices that will provide better results. Finally, you need to avoid the negative influences of other people and surround yourself with successful people who will encourage you to pursue your dreams.
– Zig Ziglar
And you should expect to fall down more times than you succeed. It is part of the process of learning something new. You learn a new language, you will say the wrong words, in the wrong sequence, or just pronounce it so poorly that no one can understand you. But if you immerse yourself in the language and culture (go live in the country that speaks that language with an actually family that refuses to speak your native tongue) you will be amazed at how fast you become proficient.
The problem is when we fall down and get up, at some point when we fall down again, we say we can’t get up again. You fill in the blank of what your favorite excuse is, because anything we say after the word “BUT” is just that an excuse. I wanted to finish college, but . . . “this is too hard”; I wanted to interview for the new promotion, but . . . “I am afraid I it’s too big a leap”; I thought we would be married forever, but . . . “I’m just not cut out for this”. If you can build a visual picture of your life when you have accomplished the dream, it makes it easier to get clarity, to stay focused, to in a few words, “Have a Vision” and accomplish it.
Vision is the ability to see potential in what others overlook.
– Rick Warren
So what do you do if it has been forever since you listened to your dreams? If you have forgotten what wakes you up and fills you with joy of life? First of all you need to believe in your potential being way greater that where ever you are right now. Then think back to what makes you happy. If money, time, and family was all in your favor, what would you do with your life right now? If you knew that you only had one week left in your life, what unfinished dream would you want to dedicate all of your remaining time to? What is it that haunts you, keeps you awake when you give your mind the freedom to think about it? What is the “only if” in your life? These are all places to look for that dream if you have misplaced it. It also shows up in the areas in our life that come naturally to us. Look for the pattern and sew that dream back together piece by piece.
So we have this dream. We map out the path to bring it into reality. We create a Destiny Map. We start building bridges to grow ourselves into the kind of person that dream requires us to be. Then at some point, we see that we have to cross a different kind of bridge. The gap between where we are and where we want to go next, requires us to step out onto a bridge that we can’t see. Like Indiana Jones we have to literally walk across what we see as air, and trust that the bridge is really there. We have to risk everything we have, all of our beliefs in what we are capable of, to cross that bridge. If you are lucky enough to reach this bridge, this is where most dreamers quit. They fail to seize the moment to do something they have never done.
When you are not willing to be challenged, disturbed or offended, you are not willing to explore your weaknesses or ever reach your highest potential.
– Bryant McGill
So expect failure. Expect to be wrong. Expect change. Expect challenging times. Realize that your greatness is hidden in your true potential and keep digging it up until you find it and expose it to the world. Unlock the treasure chest and release your potential. It is a priceless treasure, which doesn’t do us any good unless we are out there distributing it. Dream big. Work hard. Believe in yourself. Be who you really are. Dream, plan, execute!
When everything seems to be going against you remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it.
– Henry Ford
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“The best thing you could do is MASTER the chaos in you. You are not thrown into the fire. YOU ARE THE FIRE” – Mama Indigo
The smallest spark ignites the fire of passion that lives deep within your soul. When that passion bursts out, then anything is suddenly possible. That passion says that you will not give up. That you might get knocked down, but you will get back up. That you might fail, but you will keep trying until you succeed.
It is in the trying, failing and trying again that you learn just what you are made up of. It strips away the facades that you hide behind. It exposes the bones of what you are made up of.

The Cherokees teach that your ancient ancestors came from the stars. Science has proven that your body contains stardust. Like the stars you burn with an inner fire.
Your eyes, the windows of your soul, shine with that inner fire. It is that inner focus that drives you forward. That inner fire is like a forge, in that it will burn away all of the things that don’t belong, leaving the pure beauty of your soul’s core.
Focus is like a bellows, which supplies air to the fire so that it breathes. That hot air rises to push you up out of the ashes. It is in that place inside your heart, deep within the soul where joy burns away the pain. Life isn’t ever what you thought it was. It is in fact, all about what it is possible to become. What you are truly capable of being.
“What you want to ignite in others must first burn inside yourself” – One PlanetOnePlanet.com
If you have ever heated your home with a wood fire, then you know the importance of banking the coals at night. When you do that, then in the morning it is easy to get the fire going quickly. You need to bank your inner fires when you are being hard pressed. When you are going through the valley of death and darkness. If you keep the inner core burning brightly, it doesn’t matter what happens outside of you.
You shall rise, lighting the way out of the darkness with a brightly burning all consuming passion, to change yourself and thereby change the world.

What matters most is your own self confidence. Your own beliefs. Your own self love and self-trust. Because when the bridges are burning, sometimes that only way out is through. When you have to walk down that road of fire, you are only going to be able to do it if you believe you can.
Sometimes in order to rise higher, you need to burn the boats containing plans B – Z and realize that plan A is the only option. You have to be all in. You have to surround yourself with those who will not be afraid of the changes you are going through, because they are transforming themselves. People who will believe in your dreams and will fan the flames of your fire. The chain reaction of one heart on fire lighting another, and another until there is light for all.
“You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage – pleasantly, smilingly, non-apologetically – to say “no” to other things. And the way to do that is by having a bigger “Yes” burning inside” – Stephen Covey
Seek that path that demands more from you than you currently know how to give. Motivation comes from that fire within us, an awakened soul.
You have the capacity to create, to overcome, to endure, to transform, to love, and to be greater than all of your hopes, desires, dreams and inspirations.


“If you follow the inner path using truth and clarity as your compass points, the outer world cannot help but respond to your intention” – Deepak Chopra
Years ago I used to travel with work three weeks of almost every month. I flew into or drove through almost every state except Alaska, Maine and Hawaii. The rental cars were charging extra for the GPS and my employer seldom got a rental car with one. It was printed directions from google maps or a similar program. My favorite saying was no trip was complete without at least one U-turn.
My husband swears that I have no sense of direction, and at some point in almost every trip I would get lost. Sometimes I thought I must have driven too far and would turn around, only to find the destination had been just a little further down the road. Other times I would drive around in circles. Did you know that in some places in New Jersey they don’t allow left hand turns? You have to do this weird three right turns so that you are on the street which crosses the intersection to the address you are looking for. It once took me 20 minutes to figure out what the directions were telling me to do.
“You inner voice always knows what to do, but it is a quiet voice. You can only hear the whisperings of your inner voice, your inner compass – when you turn down the volume of your fears, your regrets, your resentments, and the fear based advice your neighbors are so willing to give you” – Jonathon Lockwood Huie
So I have experience both literally and metaphysically with turning around because I am going in the wrong direction. The most interesting thing about it though, is how do you know when you are going in the wrong direction? How do you tell that it is time to turn around, because you will not be able to get to your destination on the road that you are traveling on? How do you know that you don’t just need to drive a little further down the road?
“You must find the place inside yourself where nothing is impossible: – Deepak Chopra
The first thing that I had to do on my actual road trips was quit stressing about being late; about being lost; and just stop and get my bearings. When I stopped stressing and looked at the directions calmly I would usually see where I went the wrong way or what I misunderstood. Sometimes I had to humble myself and call the place I was trying to get to and ask for directions. Sometimes there was a nearby gas station to give me directions. The same is true on the metaphysical level.
I invite you to join us on April 4th for a purposeful gathering. Our intention is to create moments of life-changing conversation on how to make 2020 the year of achievement.
Chances are that what you’re struggling with, others are too. What life questions you have been asking yourself, others are asking themselves too. Get clear on what you want and how to obtain it. If your 2020 dreams and goals are already stalling, get recharged and refocused. Learn how to pivot to success. Join us for a gathering that no one will forget.
“The beauty is that through disappointment you can gain clarity, and with clarity comes conviction and true originality” – Conan O’Brian
When you get grounded, release the stress, and get into that calm place – you can get your bearings. You just need to breathe, trust and let go. This gives your inner compass a chance to get your bearings and stop spinning wildly in circles. Your true north will always draw you to it.
“You have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition. What you’ll discover will be wonderful. What you’ll discover is yourself” – Alan Alda
Sometimes the issue isn’t that your lost. It is that you are living a life of holding your potential in check. You need to be brave and unleash the potential to start moving. You feel like if you claim that you are lost, you won’t run the risk of failure. By quitting you are playing it safe.
The truth is that whether you stay put or move forward, there is a price that is being paid. Since you are already paying for being stuck in place, why not go ahead and pay the price of moving forward – why not “RELEASE THE KRAKEN” and move forward?
“You gut is your inner compass. Whenever you have to consult with other people for an answer, you’re headed in the wrong direction” – Oprah
Being lost is just a nuisance. There is no new discovery until you release the potential. Your potential is revealed by your values, your purpose. It is part of the souls journey. So put on the backpack, grab the walking stick, partner with a trustworthy friend and get going. Risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight and discover what your human spirit is all about.
“The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experiences” – Eleanor Roosevelt
I invite you to join us on April 4th for a purposeful gathering. Our intention is to create moments of life-changing conversation on how to make 2020 the year of achievement.
Chances are that what you’re struggling with, others are too. What life questions you have been asking yourself, others are asking themselves too. Get clear on what you want and how to obtain it. If your 2020 dreams and goals are already stalling, get recharged and refocused. Learn how to pivot to success. Join us for a gathering that no one will forget.

I love acronyms – WAIT = Watch, Ask, Invite, Trust. The faithful saying, “Let go and Let God” also comes to mind. It isn’t about doing nothing. You keep moving forward, but you are also watching to see what is happening around you that might play into what you are trying to accomplish. You are asking for divine assistance.
You are inviting others (everyone you know AND everyone you meet) to help you with your journey. And last of all you are trusting that as long as you keep moving, keep looking, keep asking, and keep trusting; what you need next will appear before you.
In life sometimes you get presented with these mind-blowing dreams. You get that million-dollar idea for a product or a service. You see a gap (a need) in your industry and know that you could create a company and a brand to fill it. You think that maybe you could write the next New York Times Best Seller. You want to try out for “So You Think You Can Dance” or “The Voice” or “America’s Got Talent”.
I don’t do “pointless” very well. If it’s not going somewhere, serving a purpose, or fulfilling, it’s not worth keeping. No time to waste. No games to play. No room for BS – Rob Hill Sr.
What stops you? Plans – You think you need a plan, because you don’t have the first idea how to proceed.
What I have learned in life, is that nothing ever turns out like I planned, so why do I waste time trying to find one? The 500-page business plan, the life plan for the next 10 years. Those kinds of plans keep many people from even getting started, because they have no idea who, what, why or where any of that information comes from. They can’t see 5 years ahead, let alone 10 years.
How many ideas did you have that later show up as a product – ideas that you could have brought to market, but you let the fear of having everything planned out stop you from doing it, and someone else is now the millionaire.

I don’t mean that I don’t have any plans – what I mean is that I start out figuring out one small thing that will move me forward. I ask everyone I know what they know and who they know that could help me with the next step? Do they know anyone that might know the answer to what I am looking for?
I always loved the 7 degrees of separation game for the Actor Kevin Bacon. It is true that you can find who you need to talk to by asking, asking, and asking on down the line. You ask enough people, and someone will have the connection you need. When I have that step figured out, then I take another step and another.
I currently have an extremely flexible plan that I am moving towards, but I purposely allow for the divine to put things in my path. The divine knows what I am supposed to be accomplishing. I know that what the divine brings me is always bigger and better than anything I could have planned.
A good traveler has no fixed plans and is not intent on arriving – Lao Tzu
What else stops you? Fear – you think that you will fall on your face and fail. So what? Everyone does, and they are all too busy worrying about their failures to pay attention to what you are doing anyway.
If you were to read any honest biography of every important and not so important person in print, you would see epic failures in their life. The failures are where the best growth and changes happen.

The third thing that stops us is a lack of trust – lack of trust in the divine, and in ourselves. I find that a lack of self-love and self-trust are almost always at the heart of any matter that is stopping you from achieving your dreams. Like the runner in the top photo, stop – take a breath – just stop with the expectations – breathe, let go, and let God.
A bad attitude can literally block love, blessings, and destiny from finding you. Don’t be the reason you don’t succeed. Learn to recognize the patterns of self-sabotage, and block them instead.
What you are trying to accomplish will unfold perfectly how it is meant to.
What you seek is seeking you – Rumi