What I love about this quote with the photo I found, is the dichotomy of how part of her seems to be like the ancient stone and part of her is golden and light filled, looking like she is still alive fighting her battles. When we are fighting a desperate battle, sometimes it feels like we can’t take one more step. Like we have turned to stone. Like the internal battle between what we know we have to do (taking the next step) and how we feel (we can’t move another step) is literally dividing us and tearing us in two.
Remember how far you have come, all the battles you have won, the fears that you conquered, and tell that person who is trying to bring you down to go to hell.
We all have several groups or individuals who tear us down. Those well meaning friends and loved ones who don’t want to see us get hurt, so they tells us that we can’t or shouldn’t try to be successful in our chosen endeavor. That we are risking too much. That we are doomed to fail. That it is impossible, so why take the chance of evitable failure?
Be the person who stays strong even when you have every reason to break down.
Then there is that group that just can’t bear for someone to be successful and so they tear down others to make themselves feel better. They are too afraid to take any kind of risk that would have the potential of making them look bad. Bullies fall into this category. They can’t stand seeing someone better at something than they are, so they tear you down whenever you show any desire to have a better life or be a better person.
Our greatest battles are those with our own minds.
– Jameson Frank
And lastly the worst group of all, our own minds. That voice inside of our head that tells us all of the reasons why we shouldn’t try. That reminds us of every failure we have had starting at birth and going forward through time to this very moment. That tells us the horror story of everyone who has tried and failed in the history of mankind. That voice that will not shut up and that we can’t escape from.
You may have to fight a battle more than once to win it.
– Margaret Thatcher
It doesn’t matter how many battles we fight and lose. It doesn’t matter how many battles we have to fight over and over again. What matters is that we fought. That we learned something from it. That we not only survive the battle, but that we thrive after we have either won or lost it. I heard this analogy and I loved it. Everything comes out in the wash!
Fear makes the wolf bigger than he is.
– German Proverb
Every problem that we see as something that will take us out of the battle, that seems insurmountable, think of the problem like a washing machine. The problem may twist us in a knot, it may spin us around until we lose our balance and fall down. It may knock us down the hillside, and as we roll through the mud, as the rocks cut at us, and the nettles sting us, in the end, we will come out cleaner, brighter and better than before we entered the wash. This is because “everything comes out in the wash”. Meaning that coming out the other side, meaning that whether we win or lose, we were not defeated. We are only defeated when we quit.
In a society that profits from your self doubt, liking yourself is a rebellious act.
I love this! All you have to do is watch commercials to see how profitable self doubt is. We are taught to have a “lack mentality”. The saying that you can’t be rich enough or skinny enough, or beautiful enough. That we need to spend more money on things, to have the latest cars, the latest gadget, to sculpt our bodies with surgery, to move to a bigger and more expensive home, to ask our doctor for the latest designer drugs that have more side effects than the issues they are supposed to cure. All ways to make us happy, when none of those things will make us happy. The place to start is to love ourselves and then build from that space the life that spreads that happiness out into the world.
When life demands more of people than they demand of life – as is ordinarily the case – what results is a resentment of life almost as deep-seated as the fear of death.
– Tom Robbins
I was asked today what LemonadeMakers is all about. This quote really states it pretty well. When my nephew was murdered, and when anyone in life has such a life shattering moment occur, you really have two choices. You can demand more of yourself, and surmount the problem. If you don’t, then the second choice is defaulted to. You fall into resentment, victimhood, depression, etc. . , you stop living life and you start existing until death takes you out of life. I didn’t want our family to fall into that deep crevasse and be buried alive until they died. I wanted us to transform what had happened to us, into something that happened for us. I wanted to bring something positive out of that debilitating experience and share it with you.
Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it.
– Charles Swindell
Successes in life come from struggles. The butterfly has to fight to release itself from the chrysalis. If you open it up, the wings become deformed and it can’t fly. We are the same. The fight to transform life’s lemons into lemonade is what strengthens us and makes the transformation more than a temporary change. When we have struggled to fight the inner demons; when we have fought the uphill battle of addiction; when we have taken step after step through the mud and swamps of personal failures – we know that we will never, ever, go back there. That we will never again, ever, allow anyone to make us feel like we aren’t worthy of a seat at the table.
“Too many times we stand aside
And let waters slip away
’til what we put off ’til tomorrow
Has now become today
So don’t you sit upon the shoreline
And say you’re satisfied
Choose to chance the rapids
And dare to dance the tide . . “
We cannot become what we want to be by remaining what we are.
– Max Depree
I love to read great books. I have love affairs with the characters, watching them undergo their transformational hero’s journeys through the pages to the end of the story. I get great ideas from the authors words, that send me speeding down the side roads of my own life. Every year I look back at what in my life I shed like an old skin, and what ways I have changed as I try to improve my own life.
The most important question to ask is, “What am I becoming?”
– Jim Rohn
I have a rule, that I can’t bring a new thing into my house, unless I let go of something that is already there. I love to send boxes to the goodwill or some other second hand store. I think about the clothes I give away as going to a new person who will enjoy them just as much as I did. I think about the books I have read, laughing and crying my way through them and how they will stir the emotions of another reader.
I love the person I’ve become, because I fought to become her.
– Kaci Dianne
In this same way, I look at my beliefs, my habits, my lifestyle. When I want to get healthier, work on improving my finances, grow in my own self knowledge, I realize that in order to make these transformational changes in my life, I have to let go of something that is no longer serving me. I have to step outside the comfort zone and pay the tolls to walk down a new path, to undertake a new journey.
I know not who I am, simply that I am forever becoming exactly what I am meant to be.
– Becca Lee
There is so much more to us than we are aware of. I like the word developing. Like the developing of film. When we look outside and take in a scene, there are certain things that attract our attention. We miss most of the scene we are looking at because we simply see what our filters let us see. But if you snap a photo and enlarge it and go over it and over it, there is so much more there than we were aware of. If you were to grid out the photo and examine each block of the grid, you would probably see insects, birds, small animals and lots of plants. You would look deeply into the shadows to see what is hidden in the semi darkness.
Dear Self, This is going to be your year. So dust off your sh*tkickers and let’s get started. All my love, Me
Taking that same view into our own personal lives can be a real eye opener. We are all worthy of being fully developed into the magnificent beings that we are capable of being. I remember that when I was growing up I had two of my sisters and my brother develop into artists through classes in school. I can’t draw a stick figure and I was always jealous. My mom always wished she could draw and paint like they could. Sometime in her early 50’s she was talked into taking an art class with her best friend. I have hanging on my wall in the living room a painting that she did. It is amazing that what she discovered and developed from one art class, is that she could in fact draw and paint.
Always go with your passions. Never ask yourself if it’s realistic or not.
– Deepak Chopra
Inside of all of us are these amazing talents we don’t know we have. We just haven’t taken the time and energy to do that thing we always wished we could do. We just don’t have the confidence and courage to step out and take the chance that we might be really good at something that we think we are terrible about. We just haven’t decided what is behind fears door #1, #2 or #3.
Think of three things what you have always wanted to learn how to do – play a musical instrument, learn how to dance, learn a craft of some sort, paint, pottery, woodcraft – whatever it is. Now take photos of those things and paste them on a piece of paper and then cut out some doors from a magazine and tape the doors over the three things you have always wanted to learn how to do. Now just sit there and free write all of the “reasons” why you can’t learn about what is behind door #1, then do the same thing for door #2 and #3.
I began to realize how important it was to be an enthusiast in life. If you are interested in something, no matter what it is, go at it fullspeed. Embrace it with both arms, hug it, love it and above all become passionate about it. Lukewarm is no good.
– Ronald Dahl
Now I am giving you a magic wand that is called enthusiasm. I want you to waive it over the three doors and grant yourself one wish. Open up the door that most calls to your heart and soul and write down how you will feel when you are doing this thing. I want you to write it in the present tense, that you have taken the classes or lessons and now you can play the piano, or dance the waltz or you just built a cabinet or rebuilt a car engine. How happy and joyful do you feel? Now go back to all of those “reasons” why you can’t do what is behind that door. Cross through each one as you name the fear behind it. Fear of success, fear of failure, fear of not being good enough and so on. Now go out and learn what you need to know to bring that dream out from under the bed, dust it off, shine a light on it, and figure out how to do what you need to do to “get it done”.
If you want to be successful, it’s just this simple.
Know what you are doing.
Love what you are doing.
And believe in what you are doing.
– Will Rogers
What is the difference between leaving something that doesn’t serve you and running away? I think it is several things. The realization that there is nothing that you can do to change the situation. You can only change yourself, and if the situation doesn’t change when you do, then it is time to ask yourself “why am I still here?”
Years ago I had interviewed for a new job and was hired. The first hour of my first day at the new job, I knew that I had made a mistake. The owner of the company had a lot of issues with anger and how he treated his employees. He wasn’t the person that I had interviewed with, and when I interviewed he wasn’t in the office. If he had been, I would not have accepted the position. As an example, when he would walk through the office, he would pull out the fax machine paper trays and if the paper wasn’t completely full, he would start yelling and swearing at the receptionist – even if she had filled them up just five minutes before.
The Saturday of my first week there, I had come in the office to set up my desk with the various underwriting guidelines they used for several companies. While I was there, the owner of the company came in and we started talking. I had already worked for an owner like him, and I had sworn I would never allow someone to treat me like that again. So I told him very clearly that the first time he yelled and swore at me, like I had seen him do with others, would be the day I quit.
Now I needed that job to support my family. But I had made a promise to myself to never let anyone demean me again. It took a tremendous amount of courage to go and grab that box. I was determined to be true to my word to myself. I chose to love myself, over fear of losing the job and income needed to support my family.
If you’re brave to say “good bye”. life will reward you with a new “hello”. He also said, “You are what you believe yourself to be.
The only way to discover what you are truly capable of, is to take leaps of faith across the chasms and up into the heights of trees. It is what is necessary to push out the boundaries of your comfort zone, or to decrease the size of your tolerance zone, as the case may be.
Transformation gives you the chance to rewrite the story of who you are and who you are capable of being. There are many things in our life that we give negative meanings to. But what if you gave pain the definition that it shows you that which is not right for you? This would be a positive thing to know – what doesn’t belong to me or my life. It is hard to leave something or someone behind you, to let them or it go. It is hard until you decide to do it. Then it becomes easy. It isn’t the leaving that is hard, it is the decision.
Envy is another word that has a bad rap. What if envy simply shows you things which you may wish to empower in your own life? That would be a great thing to know – things I want in my life and can empower myself to obtain. In our lives we have the habit of settling. We settle with that 10 lbs of weight that we can’t seem to lose. We settle with our job, thinking what we have is better than nothing. We settle, settle, settle, because the reality is that we don’t know what we really, really want.
I am always stuck. I am always stuck between giving people everything because I am dying to create meaningful relationships, and giving them nothing at all because then if they leave, at least I’ll be left whole.
– (via yoymenoyhoy)
Your life is yours to live, no matter how you choose to live it. When you do not think about how you intend to live it, it lives you. When you occupy it, step into it consciously, you live it.
– Gary Zukav
Take a moment to think about this past week in your life. How many things are habitual that you do? How much of your life is lived on autopilot? You get up in the morning, shower, brush your teeth, . . . daily habits that we don’t think about if we should do or not do. Now think about how much of your life you actually thought about living? Did you do anything new? Did you plan out a trip to somewhere you’ve never been? Did you drive down a different street going to or from work that you’ve never been down before? Did you do anything different than the previous week, month or ever year? How much of your life is lived consciously? Can you say like Alice in Wonderland, “I knew who I was this morning, but I’ve changed quite a few times since then?”
There is a saying that we have two ears and one mouth, because we are supposed to listen twice as much as we speak. I think that this ability to listen also applies to listening to our inner voice. I know that this is something that I constantly practice.
Trust your instincts. Intuition doesn’t lie.
Do you ever have that nagging feeling as you are walking out the door to go to work or run errands? That feeling that you are forgetting something, but can’t think of what it might be? Do you run down your mental checklist and don’t see anything that you have forgotten? Then later, something happens and you realize what it was you forgot? Happens to me all the time. That is the inner voice talking, but not being listened to.
The more you trust your intuition, the more empowered you become, the stronger you become, and the happier you become.
– Gisele Bundchen
It is the same voice that tells you stay away from that person – you know the one that makes your skin crawl? It is like a radar warning you away from danger or from a bad relationship. Have you ever pushed that voice down saying, “there is nothing wrong with this person” to yourself, only to regret later not listening to it?
The intuitive minds is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.
– Albert Einstein
When I worked for a major bank in San Diego years ago I had that feeling about a new hire. I was a mortgage loan supervisor at the time, and every new loan would come across my desk and I would assign the set up clerk and loan processor for the file. This new hire literally made my skin crawl. I told the branch manager that there was something majorly wrong with this guy, but he passed the background check, so that was all he cared about. So I went through each new loan submission this guy turned in and rejected almost all of them as having something wrong with the documentation (translate loan fraud).
Our office was on the 15th floor facing the freeway. There was a side road that ran along the freeway and one afternoon everyone was at the windows watching something going on down below. When I went to see what was going on, this loan officers Porsche was alongside the chain link fence next to the freeway and it was on fire. The fire department was there and as they were shooting water at the car, I could see these funny sparks shooting out around the vehicle. Pretty soon I saw the police arrive and they handcuffed the loan officer and put him in the back of the police car.
Turns out he had several hand guns and rifles in the trunk of the car along with ammunition. It was live ammunition going off that was creating the sparks. It was a few days before he came back to work, and he was fired. I never let my branch manager forget that I had told him that there was something wrong with that guy. Sometimes we just know intuitively when something isn’t right.
Problems are the gifts that make us dig out and figure out who we are, what we’re made for, and what we’re responsible to give back to life.
– Tony Robbins
This inner voice is the key to having a life of transformation that doesn’t throw us into “dark night of the soul” transformations. When we listen to this voice, reflect on what it is trying to tell us we can save ourselves a lot of trouble. I love Tony Robbins quote because it puts a slightly different spin on knowing ourselves. We need to understand our place in this world, in order to figure out what we are responsible to do with our life. The biggest changes we have made in our life usually come out of the biggest challenges. It shows us who we really are when we pull back the curtains and stop pretending to be the “All Powerful Wizard”. It shows us how to pay it forward and do good with our life.
Knowing yourself means being able to separate the true from the false in yourself – love from emotion, joy from sentiment, will from desire.
– Barry Long
I am sure that most of us have heard of the saying, take 10 deep breaths, then talk. It is critical that we pause before reacting. What is so important about taking the deep breaths, is that it helps us step out of the whirlpool of emotions that we are drowning in. We can step back and see from a less emotional viewpoint what really needs to be said, or done at that moment. It allows us to reconnect the heart and mind, so that we can make good decisions instead of emotional ones.
Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.
When I was growing up, there was a lot of yelling and fighting between my parents. It was one of the things that I used to say, “I won’t be this kind of parent when I grow up.” When my kids would do something that made me mad, the house rule was they had to go to their room. When I was done being mad, and able to have a conscious conversation about their behavior then I would go to their room and we would have a talk about what had happened.
When you know yourself you are empowered. When you accept yourself you are invincible.
– Tina Lifford
I think that the hardest part of this quote is not the knowing oneself, it is the accepting part of it. It is also the most critical part. I don’t know about you, but if you are like me at all, it is hard to acknowledge the parts of me that I don’t want others to know about. Like if I hide it from myself, no one else can see it either – reminds me of the fairy tale of “The Emperor’s New Clothes”. LOL
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