“If you follow the inner path using truth and clarity as your compass points, the outer world cannot help but respond to your intention” – Deepak Chopra
Years ago I used to travel with work three weeks of almost every month. I flew into or drove through almost every state except Alaska, Maine and Hawaii. The rental cars were charging extra for the GPS and my employer seldom got a rental car with one. It was printed directions from google maps or a similar program. My favorite saying was no trip was complete without at least one U-turn.
My husband swears that I have no sense of direction, and at some point in almost every trip I would get lost. Sometimes I thought I must have driven too far and would turn around, only to find the destination had been just a little further down the road. Other times I would drive around in circles. Did you know that in some places in New Jersey they don’t allow left hand turns? You have to do this weird three right turns so that you are on the street which crosses the intersection to the address you are looking for. It once took me 20 minutes to figure out what the directions were telling me to do.
“You inner voice always knows what to do, but it is a quiet voice. You can only hear the whisperings of your inner voice, your inner compass – when you turn down the volume of your fears, your regrets, your resentments, and the fear based advice your neighbors are so willing to give you” – Jonathon Lockwood Huie
So I have experience both literally and metaphysically with turning around because I am going in the wrong direction. The most interesting thing about it though, is how do you know when you are going in the wrong direction? How do you tell that it is time to turn around, because you will not be able to get to your destination on the road that you are traveling on? How do you know that you don’t just need to drive a little further down the road?
“You must find the place inside yourself where nothing is impossible: – Deepak Chopra
The first thing that I had to do on my actual road trips was quit stressing about being late; about being lost; and just stop and get my bearings. When I stopped stressing and looked at the directions calmly I would usually see where I went the wrong way or what I misunderstood. Sometimes I had to humble myself and call the place I was trying to get to and ask for directions. Sometimes there was a nearby gas station to give me directions. The same is true on the metaphysical level.
“The beauty is that through disappointment you can gain clarity, and with clarity comes conviction and true originality” – Conan O’Brian
When you get grounded, release the stress, and get into that calm place – you can get your bearings. You just need to breathe, trust and let go. This gives your inner compass a chance to get your bearings and stop spinning wildly in circles. Your true north will always draw you to it.
“You have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition. What you’ll discover will be wonderful. What you’ll discover is yourself” – Alan Alda
Sometimes the issue isn’t that your lost. It is that you are living a life of holding your potential in check. You need to be brave and unleash the potential to start moving. You feel like if you claim that you are lost, you won’t run the risk of failure. By quitting you are playing it safe.
The truth is that whether you stay put or move forward, there is a price that is being paid. Since you are already paying for being stuck in place, why not go ahead and pay the price of moving forward – why not “RELEASE THE KRAKEN” and move forward?
“You gut is your inner compass. Whenever you have to consult with other people for an answer, you’re headed in the wrong direction” – Oprah
Being lost is just a nuisance. There is no new discovery until you release the potential. Your potential is revealed by your values, your purpose. It is part of the souls journey. So put on the backpack, grab the walking stick, partner with a trustworthy friend and get going. Risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight and discover what your human spirit is all about.
“The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experiences” – Eleanor Roosevelt
I love acronyms – WAIT = Watch, Ask, Invite, Trust. The faithful saying, “Let go and Let God” also comes to mind. It isn’t about doing nothing. You keep moving forward, but you are also watching to see what is happening around you that might play into what you are trying to accomplish. You are asking for divine assistance. You are inviting others (everyone you know AND everyone you meet) to help you with your journey. And last of all you are trusting that as long as you keep moving, keep looking, keep asking, and keep trusting; what you need next will appear before you.
In life sometimes we get presented with these mind blowing dreams. We get that million dollar idea for a product or a service. We see a gap (a need) in our industry and know that we could create a company and a brand to fill it. We think that maybe we could write the next New York Times Best Seller. We want to try out for “So You Think You Can Dance” or “The Voice” or “America’s Got Talent”.
I don’t do “pointless” very well. If it’s not going somewhere, serving a purpose, or fulfilling, it’s not worth keeping. No time to waste. No games to play. No room for BS.
– Rob Hill Sr.
What stops us? Plans – We think we need a plan, because we don’t have the first idea how to proceed. What I have learned in life, is that nothing ever turns out like I planned, so why do I waste time trying to find one? The 500 page business plan, the life plan for the next 10 years. Those kinds of plans keep many people from even getting started, because they have no idea who, what, why or where any of that information comes from. They can’t see 5 years ahead, let alone 10 years. How many ideas did you have that later show up as a product – ideas that you could have brought to market, but you let the fear of having everything planned out stop you from doing it, and someone else is now the millionaire.
Seasons of waiting are designed to prepare you, stretch your faith, and get you ready for everything that’s coming next.
– Mandy Hale
I don’t mean that I don’t have any plans – what I mean is that I start out figuring out one small thing that will move me forward. I ask everyone I know what they know and who they know that could help me with the next step? Do they know anyone that might know the answer to what I am looking for? I always loved the 7 degrees of separation game for the Actor Kevin Bacon. It is true that you can find who you need to talk to by asking, asking, and asking on down the line. You ask enough people and someone will have the connection you need. When I have that step figured out, then I take another step and another.
I currently have an extremely flexible plan that I am moving towards, but I purposely allow for the divine to put things in my path. The divine knows what I am supposed to be accomplishing. I know that what the divine brings me is always bigger and better than anything I could have planned.
A good traveler has no fixed plans and is not intent on arriving.
– Lao Tzu
What else stops us? Fear – We think that we will fall on our face and fail. So what? Everyone does, and they are all too busy worrying about their failures to pay attention to what we are doing anyway. If you were to read any honest biography of every important and not so important person in print, you would see epic failures in their life. The failures are where the best growth and changes happen.
You’re mourning the loss of what you thought your life was going to be. Let it go. Things don’t always work out how you planned; that’s not necessarily bad. Things have a way of working out anyway.
– Frasier Crane
The third thing that stops us is a lack of trust – lack of trust in the divine, and in ourselves. I find that a lack of self love and self trust are almost always at the heart of any matter that is stopping us from achieving our dreams. Like the runner in the photo, stop – take a breath – just stop with the expectations – breathe, let go, and let God. A bad attitude can literally block love, blessings, and destiny from finding you. Don’t be the reason you don’t succeed. Learn to recognize the patterns of self sabotage, and block them instead.
What we are trying to accomplish will unfold perfectly how it is meant to.
What you seek is seeking you.
Wherever you go,
Whatever you do,
No one can take the Fire out of your soul,
the Stars from your eyes,
the Passion in your heart.
Those are yours forever.
Do you remember that famous line from “The Wizard of Oz”? Almost at the end, Glinda the Good Witch says, “You’ve always had the power to go back to Kansas”, then the Scarecrow asked why she didn’t say anything at the beginning of the journey? And Glinda replies, “She had to learn it for herself.” The same thing is true for each of us.
“Have faith in your journey. Everything had to happen exactly as it did to get you where you’re going next” – Mandy Hale
I love the thought of curiosity in our travels. Around the next corner, you never know what might be waiting for you. Your focus will reflect what pops out at you. You will notice the sun shining brightly, or the clouds coming to cover it up. You will see rainbows or the coming thunder storm. It is all a matter of the filters that you are viewing your life from. Each experience adds up to who we are at this very moment. And each moment, presents change and a new you. Who are you becoming, as you journey down the road of life?
“The journey between what you once were and who are you now becoming is where the dance of life really takes place” – Barbara DeAngelis
When you have some specific goals in mind, time seems to be so slow. You feel like you’re wading through the mud, with each step taking so much effort. Stepping down into the mud, feeling the cold water flooding inside your boots. Even your toes are struggling to get a grip on the sole of the boot, as you’re trying to lift your foot out of the mud to take the next step. Fighting against the boot as it remains stuck in the mud. You tug at your boot. Finally getting it loose you struggle with the weight of the mud that is still attached to the boot. You keep trying not to lose your balance and do a face plant into the mud. It takes forever just to take a few steps in the right direction.
Have you ever felt that way? Your have to remind yourself that each experience in your life, has been right on time. Your are never late according the divine destiny. Each step, and each situation that showed up at your door step right on time. Right now you may be experiencing sickness, a job loss, work furlough, stress around your financial future, worried about putting food on the table. That would be you stuck in the mud. It’s hard to tell where to take the next step.
“I am learning to trust the journey even when I do not understand it” – Mile Bron
Each obstacle that you encounter, every mountain that you climb and then hike back down again, strengthens your muscles. Some of the muscles are physical, some mental, and some are spiritual. Learning to pace yourself so that you don’t get injured or tired and quit. Learning about the importance of not getting caught in the mind whirlpool of indecision. Learning that even when you think that you’re abandoned by God, you are in fact always being supported. The breakdown teaches you so much about yourself. You are stronger than you will ever know. No matter what is falling apart in your life this minute, you can conquer anything and anyone.
“Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything. Maybe it’s about unbecoming everything that isn’t really you, so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place” – Summer Saldana
It is also important to take the time to give thanks to every single person that has been a part of your life’s journey so far. The wisdom of the mentors in your life. The love of family. The blessing of friends, who are only a text, IM or phone call away. You can Skype girlfriends from around the world, and see their faces and feel in your soul how much they care and support you. Remind yourself to stop feeling that world is passing you by. Enjoy the journey. If you have a habit of getting so involved in planning, in working, in taking action, that you spend all your time “doing” – push the pause button and take time to just “be”. To remember that joy and happiness are found within the journey itself, not as a reward for reaching a new destination.
“I am deeply reminded that our life’s journey is a gift, not a given, and that we can never truly know how long the journey will last. All we can do is decide how it unfolds” – Sonia Choquette
The best part of the journey to self discovery, is that it really never ends. Because each time you reach a destination, the new you that it took to get there, looks around and says, “Where are we going to go now?” The journey has way-stops or check points along the way, but each destination opens doors. Doors to new places to go to, new ways you grow into. Sometimes going around the corner to a new destination, is simply learning to look at familiar things with new eyes. The thing that I know for certain, is that the journey is never over. Even when you leave this life, you will still be on a journey.
“You are not on a journey to God; you are on a journey with God” – Dr. Steve Maraboli
Eventually all the pieces fall into place. Until then, laugh at the confusion, live for the moment and know that everything happens for a reason.
I have several bags of puzzles at home. At some point they must have had a box or pictures of the puzzles, but somewhere along the way that part got lost. So I have these puzzles with no idea of what they are supposed to look like. I put one together, starting with the borders and then just gradually tackling one inside piece at a time. The day finally came when the last piece was inserted and I could see the entire picture – Niagara Falls with the both of the cities on the American and Canadian side showing.
There are no extra pieces in the universe. Everyone is here because he or she has a place to fill ,and every piece must fit itself into the big jigsaw puzzle.
_ Deepak Chopra
Life is like that puzzle. I could tell that I had water of some sort based on the pieces, but wasn’t sure if it was a lake, the ocean, or a river? I could tell that I had some sort of buildings, some landscape etc.. Every day I would spend some time just working on one of the corners, trying every single piece that seemed to have the right shape or color to it.
Life isn’t about finding pieces of a puzzle. It’s about creating and putting those exceptional pieces together.
Years ago I saw a movie called “Man of the House” with Farah Fawcett. She had this wall sculpture on a big board that she was putting together with pieces of driftwood, sea glass, shells, etc… Periodically she would find something and put it on the board. One day she finds what she deems to be the last piece, and declares it is complete. It was like a puzzle, because each thing she put onto the board was something that she was drawn to. Life is like that. There are things that come into our life that just call to us. We don’t know where they fit, or why they should be there, but listening to our intuition we put them on the board and create our very own puzzle.
Don’t lie. Life is a puzzle and we are all unique pieces. When you lie you make it impossible to find your true place in the grand design.
– Dr. Steve Maraboli
We each have these unique gifts and talents to share as part of the divine puzzle. These are things that come naturally to us. That we just do with what seems like little effort. I can see patterns in how people talk and act. The missing puzzle pieces in their lives seem to call out to me to notice them. I have some talent in writing. I can do things very fast because of the patterns that I see. You have your own unique gifts that you bring to this giant jigsaw puzzle.
You may find pieces to life’s puzzle in many places, but it is within you where the picture becomes clear.
We tend to discount our gifts, We want to fit in and not be a unique part of the puzzle, The fear of risk in going for our own transformation, has us wanting instead to blend in. What we have is the opportunity to blend the fear of standing out, with the realization that we are a part of the divine plan. It is about seeing ourselves differently in relation to the world. How our differences is what makes the whole picture complete.
We all, at certain times in our lives, find ourselves broken. True strength is found in picking up the pieces of our shattered lives.
– Jill Hanna
The greatest gift that we have is of our own self transformation. Embrace whatever challenge is currently happening in your life as an opportunity for self transformation. Have you ever had an almost completed puzzle get scattered all over the floor? Maybe a small child or your cat decided to have a little fun at your expense? All your hard work destroyed and you have to put it all back together again. Or maybe you got to the last few pieces and discovered that the last piece was missing? You tear the room apart looking for it. Did you ever notice that the word challenge contains the word change (CHAlleNGE)? When we are challenged in life; when our puzzle is missing the last piece or has been scattered across the floor, life is asking us to change in some way. Unwrap yourself, and go beyond your current form. Rise to the challenge and change!
A winner is one who accepts his failures and mistakes, picks up the pieces, and continues striving to reach his goals.
– Dexter Yager
“Limitations live only in our minds. But if we use our imaginations, our possibilities become limitless” – Jamie Paolinetti
Possibilities are like rabbits. The more you think about them, the more they multiply. Pretty soon you have a field full of them. The trick is to turn them into probabilities. Probabilities are a guide to enlightenment, in the journey of life.
It is the secret of how the Phoenix arises from the ashes and is reborn. The Phoenix has coded in its DNA the belief of triumph over impossible odds. So even when defeated, it rises once more from the ashes to achieve the impossible.
“You must find the place inside yourself where nothing is impossible” – Deepak Chopra
Imagination, is like turning on the faucet. When you start imagining the possibilities, the water gets turned on and you start getting ideas. The trick is to just start writing them down. No judgement or editing or being critical. Just put them down on paper, idea after idea. Possibility after possibility. Once you have wrung every last drop out of your faucet, then you start looking at each possibility and see how many of them can grow into a probability.
That is how the miracles are born. It is looking for the one thing that leaps off the page, no matter how impossible it seems. That is the one, the one that your inner guidance is calling out for. That is the one that causes the Phoenix to rise up from the ashes. Do not allow the critical, judgmental thinking to chain it from taking flight.
“Possibilities and miracles mean the same thing” – Prentice Mulford
So where does that critical judgmental thinking come from? It comes from your own insecurities. From every unkind word you have heard. From every well meaning person who said, “Oh no honey, you can’t do that”, girls aren’t good at sports, math, or science. Or boys don’t play house or with dolls. From every time you tried something, failed and walked away. From every time you said you would do something, and didn’t.
All of those negative experiences pile up in your minds and become these critical judgmental thinking machines. They promise you safety, that you won’t get hurt if you listen to them, but in reality they are the bars of a prison of your own making.
The trick is to not believe the magician with his sleight of hand tricks. Not becoming attached to those negative beliefs. They become chains linked to an anchor that you drag around. Our imaginations can’t take flight with chains connected to an anchor keeping us bound to the earth. You need to release all of those negative, judgmental thoughts, as they do not serve you.
They are limitations, illusions of the magician. He tells us that if you leave his stage you will be in darkness, no longer in the protection of his light. You have built barricades from his illusions of danger, while leaving you exposed to an unlived life. A life lived without passion and purpose. A life that doesn’t fulfill our divine destiny.
“Breathe in the sweet air of limitless possibility, and make life as rich as you know it can be” – Ralph Marston
Probability of Success
I won’t – 0%
I can’t – 10%
I don’t know how – 20%
I wish I could – 30%
I want to – 40%
I think I might – 50%
I might – 60%
I think I can – 70%
I can – 80%
I am – 90%
I did – 100%
What if you stopped saying, “I wish” and instead said, “Guess what I did today?”
The first Saturday of every month we get together on Zoom to talk about our challenges, to encourage each other, and provide inspiration to continue on our individual journeys. As we share the lessons of each one’s individual journey, resilience is grown for everyone. Join us for the next conversation and become even more inspired to reach out and pull your dreams into reality.
Such a profound question – what is life?
I wanted a perfect ending. Now I’ve learned, that hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next. Delicious Ambiguity.
– Gilda Radner
When you look around at your friends and family, how many people do you know that “just exist”? They are here. They wake up each day. They take in the breath of life, they eat, they go to work or school, they come home and watch a movie, TV, play video games. They are here, but what else is there in life, besides just being here?
The voyage of discovery is not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.
– Marcel Proust
There is something about asking questions that opens life up. About being curious. Asking yourself the questions that you are afraid to ask, afraid of how the answers might change your life. Questions like, “Why am I not happy with who I am”?
Be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living, and your belief will help create the fact.
– William James
I think that there is more to life, than just existing. I think of some of the stories that I love best. They are made up of characters that progress down a timeline, the hero’s journey. They are walking along a path and something happens. Things go wrong, they change to meet the challenges and come out the other end a different person than the one we met in the beginning of the story.
Time is like a river, you cannot touch the same water twice, because the flow that has passed will never pass again. Enjoy every moment of life . . . ,
They discover things about themselves during the journey. They discover the “fire in the belly”, passion. They learn to speak up and speak out. They learn that they have courage to fight for truth, justice, life and liberty. We root for them to beat the odds and win. Take the first “Rocky” movie. He is employed in a sketchy business as a collector for a loan shark.. He boxes and is made fun of, nothing but a loser and a bum. He dreams of a better life and thinks that fighting in the ring, could be his ticket to be somebody. He gets a one in a million shot at it, wins against the heavyweight champion, falls in love.
Difficult roads often lead to beautiful destinations.
Boxing was his passion. He learned to have self confidence in his talent. He learned that we can all be somebody if we are willing to pay the price of hard work to make it happen. If we are willing to not give up when it looks hopeless. As the rest of the series of movies show, transformation is an ongoing process. We will learn valuable and painful lessons when we don’t remain conscious of who we are and where we are going in life.
Most of us have been through some sort of personal hero’s journey in our life.
Someday everything will make perfect sense. So, for now, laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears and keep reminding yourself that EVERYTHING happens for a reason.
What did we discover about ourselves? Brendon Buchard tells a story about his own personal journey when he was in college. He had a bad breakup with his girlfriend. She was the one he was going to spend the rest of his life with. So to try and get out of his depression he went on a trip with a college friend to South America. They were driving in a rural mountainous area on a narrow road. The road turned out to be a hairpin curve. His friend lost control of the car, and they went tumbling off the mountain. When he came to he was bleeding. They had fallen down a ravine. He thought that he was dying. In despair he asked himself three questions – Did I live? Did I love? Did I matter?
Thankfully they didn’t die. They both got medical attention, and when he returned to the United States he was a different person. He is an international bestseller with multiple books; he is the founder of Experts Academy and High Performance Academy and is a sought after motivational speaker. How was his life impacted from getting a broken heart? From an auto accident that could have ended his life? We never know how the painful experiences of our life, will be positively used for the rest of our lives.
Life has many ways of testing a person’s will, either by having nothing happen at all or by having everything happen at once.
– Paulo Coelho
I think that we all want to live a life that results in great friends and family that love us. That results in us being happy and passionate about what we do with our days and nights. That results in knowing that we had a positive impact in the world. But sometimes we fall asleep to those dreams. Sometimes we get so beaten down by our hero’s journey, that we give the dream up as being impossible. What I have discovered in life is that we tend to do one of two things. We act without thinking our decision all of the way through and so we end up paying the bill of “unintended consequences”. Or we think about it, and think about it, and do nothing about it. Why? Because we can’t face our fears about “what if?”.
Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they life.
– Lao Tzo
So each morning, what if the first question we ask ourselves is:
If my life is a story, what can I do today to make it a New York Times Bestseller?
What could I do today, that a movie producer would want to make my life into an inspirational movie?
What can I do today that uses up all the best parts of me (my talents), to inspire the world around me to be a better place?
What can I do today that makes people laugh, smile and be more joyful?
Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside of us while we live.
– Norman Cousins
They have a saying, that the best stories are in the graveyard. There are books that never got written; apologies and forgiveness that were said in their heart, but never left their lips. Millions of secret recipes that never got passed on. Don’t wait for the end to ask, “Did I live, love and matter”, but instead ask it each night. Ask if you showed love, and gave love to others each night. Ask if you were able to do one small thing today that mattered to someone. If you can say yes, to these questions each night, you have a wonderful life. You inspire me to try harder, to be better, to live fully in the present. To lose myself in the sunset.
Never, ever underestimate the importance of having fun.
– Randy Pausch
The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.
– Mark Twain
Finding your passion isn’t just about a dream job for your career, or about being wealthy. It is about finding your authentic self. It is about having a meaningful life, with both spirituality and community weaved together. This authentic life is your life propose. The surest way to find your life purpose is to follow where your passion leads you. When you find it and align everything in your life with it, that is when your eyes light up, and your heart sings with joy. You literally fill up your soul with light and shine brightly from within. This is your calling, given to you by the divine. It is the difference between really living and just existing.
Always go with your passions. Never ask yourself if it is realistic or not.
– Deepak Chopra
When you are in alignment with your purpose, passion creates a calmness within the heart, so that no matter what the madness and chaos that is happening around us, we are at peace. When you embrace your authentic self, you have no competition. When you focus on your passion and fulfilling your purpose, the doors of opportunity swing wide open. Creativity seems to pour out of your soul. Ideas pop into your head. You see so many possibilities that your like a kid in a candy store and you can’t decide which one to taste first.
Have the courage to follow the things that you are naturally drawn to. Pupose is the reason you journey, walking the path towards insight pulls you forward. Passion is the fire that lights the way, and keeps you going on the dark and stormy nights. I think of Jane Goodall, who has lived her whole life for monkeys. I don’t understand her passion for them, but you can see it. What I can understand, is having that kind of passion. I have it, for LemonadeMakers. It is your job, your responsibility, your calling, to let the world know why you are here. The world needs people who have come alive with passion.
Curiosity only does one thing, and that is to give. And what it gives you are clues on the incredible scavenger hunt of your life.
– Elizabeth Gilbert
We find happiness by being driven by this curiosity, because it causes us to ask questions that we would never think to ask. It causes us to look in strange places for answers to the questions and make connections. The connections might seem strange, yet they fit perfectly to what is happening in our lives. Each one a clue to the next place to look, the next discovery to make. We get so excited about what we are discovering that our friends and relatives look at us as though we have gone over the deep end of the pool.
One of the oldest and most generous tricks that the universe plays on human beings is to bury strange jewels within us all. And then stand back to see if we can ever find them.
– Elizabeth Gilbert
It is looking in the strange places that we find clues to what we are capable of in our lives. We see how everything in our past is connected. We can see the dots being connected. The main path we are walking, with all of the side roads winding through the woods. We see how each served a purpose, even though we did not connect the dots until years later. But each jewel we discover is required to have the complete set of our string of pearls, which is our life.
You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage – pleasantly, smiling, non-apologetically – to say “no” to other things. And the way to do that is by having a bigger “yes” burning inside.
– Stephen Covey
You have to peel off the masks of social conditioning that say you must meet the needs of others, before your own. That what you need and desire, is as important. In fact, will be fatal to your soul if you don’t pursue it. You must become what you are seeking. It needs to seep deep into your pores, become part of your cells. Live and breathe your dream.
Do you remember having a favorite article of clothing that you loved to wear? It might have been when you were a child, and you wanted to wear it every day, and your mom would argue with you to choose something different. But you only wanted to wear that particular outfit. So you would pitch a fit until she gave in, or maybe you snuck it out of the house and changed and wore it anyway. Wear your passion like that. Be a rebel.
You’ll learn as you get older that rules are made to be broken. Be bold enough to live life on your own terms, and never ever apologize for it. Go against the grain, refuse to conform, take the road less traveled instead of the well beaten path. Laugh in the face of adversity, and leap before you look. Dance as though everyone is watching. March to the beat of your own drummer. And stubbornly refuse to fit it.
– Mandy Hale
Doing what others find difficult is talent; doing what is impossible with talent is genius.
– Henri Frederic Amiel
What is the difference between your talents and your vocation? Your talent is the thing that you spend the 10,000 hours training for to become a master. In the old days, you were apprenticed to a master craftman and you learned at the masters feet to grow your talent, your skills. You have worked hard to become the best in your field of endeavor – you may have gone to school to learn to be a doctor, an accountant, a teacher. Or you may have learned on the job how to be a plumber, an electrician etc…Your vocation is what you were made to do, it is a divine calling, a divine purpose.
A Man knows when he has found his vocation when he stops thinking about how to live and begins to live.
– Thomas Merton
Your vocation in life comes from where your greatest joy meets the world’s greatest need.
– Frederick Buechner
I firmly believe that all of us have a vocation, a calling. That we are an individual puzzle piece that completes Gods plan for what is happening in our lifetime. If we walk away from that, then that piece of the puzzle is missing, it is incomplete. We might still be able to see what the puzzle is supposed to look like, but the hole is still there. It is sometimes really scary and daunting to realize what our talents and vocation truly are meant to be. We look at that and we get scared of failing to complete the picture. We get scared of getting called up on stage to sing in front of an audience. We get scared that if we truly shine, people will judge us as imperfect. They will throw judgment or hatred for where we demonstrate that we are not perfect. Of being called a fraud. Of being laughed at.
If you’re not the hero of your talent story, you simply become a player in one you didn’t choose.”
– Jermainne Perry
Sometimes walking away has nothing to do with weakness, and everything to do with strength. We walk away not because we want others to realize our worth and value, but because we finally realize our own.
– Robert Tew
What we don’t realize is that true failure happens when we walk away. When we plug our ears and ignore the calling. When we deny who we are. When we walk past that door of opportunity and say, “Oh no, I am not talented enough, capable enough, you have the wrong person”. When we do that we end up living an unsatisfying life. We drag ourselves to work everyday at a job we hate, doing boring work. We numb ourselves at home with liquor, drugs, or being a couch potato, watching movies and T.V. and doing nothing with our life.
Everyone has talent, what is rare is the courage to follow it to the dark places where it leads.
– Erica Jong
Everyone has a purpose in life . . , a unique gift or special talent to give to others. And when we blend this unique talent with service to others we experience the ecstasy and exultation of our own spirit, which is the ultimate goal of all goals.
– Deepak Chopra
Part of the journey of the intersection of talent and vocation, is that we have to go back in our lives and pull the vocation out of the deep hole that we buried it in. How many times have you watched one of the many shows on T.V. for talent contests – whether singing, dancing, or being a comedian. You hear person after person say that at some point in their life, people discouraged them. Told them they weren’t good enough. Not enough talent. Rejected for auditions.
Every man has his vocation. The talent is the call. There is one direction in which all space is open to him.
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
Walt Disney was fired from the Kansas City Star because the editor said, “he lacked imagination and had no good ideas”. It wasn’t true, he was just in the wrong job, not his vocation. Oprah same thing. She was fired because she couldn’t sever her emotions from her stories. That is exactly what made her so good at her T.V. Show. It was part of her vocation to follow the emotions of the stories being told. Elvis after performing at “The Grand Ole Opry was told that he should return to being a truck driver. It wasn’t that Elvis couldn’t perform, sing, or play his guitar. It was that Country Western music wasn’t his vocation. So don’t let rejections around your vocation stop you. It may just be that you haven’t yet found how your talent and vocation intersect.
Start by doing what is necessary, then do what is possible, and suddenly you are doing the impossible.
– St. Francis of Assisi
Vocations usually start out as something small. Maybe as a child you would draw pictures in crayon. Your mom thought you were a genius. As you grew older, you started drawing fashion designs for your dolls. Then when you got into Junior High or High School you started taking art classes. Your talents were nurtured and they grew. Then one day, you discovered sculpture. It took over your life. You felt incomplete when you were not working with metal, stone, or marble.
Entrusted with the task of crafting, to create a work of art, a masterpiece, your vocation sheds light on the path, so that you will know which way to go. The vocation is built into you. You literally have no choice. It is the air you breathe.
If you are what you should be, then you will set the world on fire.
– St. Catherine of Seina
David was Michelangelo’s masterpiece. He saw him in the marble and released him, a symbol of beauty and strength. Look at what the world would have missed had his talent and vocation not intersected. If he had walked away from his vocation, saying it was too much pressure.
We must realize our own talents and, having realized, accept them; and play on them like a symphony in which all other instruments are harmonized to make a better universe.
– Jeane Dixon
“Life is meaningless only if we allow it to be. Each of us has the power to give life meaning, to make our bodies and our words into instruments of love and hope.” – Tom Head
When you approach each moment with fresh eyes and an open heart, you are no longer defined by your past pain or your fears for the future. This is because you are not using that past pain or fear, as a filter to color every future experience. Just because someone broke your heart doesn’t mean that everyone else will do so. It doesn’t mean that you can’t trust yourself with anyone ever again. Everything you experience is always a different experience. You are not the same person you were prior to that experience. The person you are currently having an experience with is not that person who hurt you.
Sometimes you just need to realize that just because you have had a bad day, doesn’t mean you have a bad life. Just breathe, let it go. Begin again.
“Magic is believing in yourself. If you can do that, you can make anything happen” – Johann Wolfgang Van Goethe
Everything in life is temporary. Both the good things and the bad things. Nothing lasts forever, as moment by moment life changes you. Most of what you term a bad experience, was simply judged as being bad by you. You got a “D” or an “F” on an assignment. You could judge that as being a bad experience. Or it could be judged as a good experience because it served as a wake up call, to pay attention to your studies. Now you can graduate with honors and be successful in your chosen career.
Or it could even be the “stop” what you are doing call. The call that says this isn’t what you want to do with your life. That you need to stop going through the motions of making someone else happy. If you find yourself in the wrong fairy tale, either rewrite the story or leave it.
It could be the moment that you go after our dreams.
At a Hay House Event I attended, I enjoyed a seminar with Sonia Choquette. I have been a fan of her books for years. She is an intuitive spiritual teacher. She told the story of how her marriage ended a couple of years ago, a total surprise to her. She spoke about the falling apart, the recovery. Then he came back and wanted to make it work, and then he left her again. The second falling apart was not as bad. She spoke about what all she learned about herself. How much her daily practices saved her so much in recovery time.
It is funny about the good things being around the corner – you can look down the street, and you don’t see them. It is physically impossible to know what is around a corner. It is not until you walk around the corner that you see it. So the good thing surprises you just as much as the devastation does, because it catches you unaware.
“She believed in dreams all right, but she also believed in doing something about them…, When Prince Charming didn’t come along, she went over to the palace and got him. ” – Walt Disney
Even in the fairy tales you had to fight to get what you wanted. It wasn’t all stardust and lollipops. Bad things happened and had to be overcome. Many times just as you thought everything was going to end up perfect, another bad thing happened. You somehow think that life will just roll everything perfectly to your door, without any effort on your part. Or you think that if you just follow all the rules, life will repay you with what you want.
Life brings you lessons to build character. It opens many doors, but most of them you pass by because you are not conscious and paying attention. Then you complain, that your dreams are not happening, and they must not be true.
There are far better things ahead than any we leave behind” – C.S. Lewis
Nothing is safe and everything changes. So reach out and touch the dragonflies and butterfly’s as you take flight. Reach for the stars. Dance with the fairies. Howl at the moon. Be a shapeshifter. Life is a treasure hunt with a shifting map. Find the chocolate. Be happy, have fun, and enjoy the beauty of life..
“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever” – Gandhi
The first Saturday of every month we get together on Zoom to talk about our challenges, to encourage each other, and provide inspiration to continue on our individual journeys. As we share the lessons of each one’s individual journey, resilience is grown for everyone. Join us for the next conversation and become even more inspired to reach out and pull your dreams into reality.
Have you ever had that really close friend? The kind that you can say anything to? You know, how when you are really, really mad at your boyfriend or spouse, and you just want to kill them – and you tell all to your best friend, and she says something like – where should we hide the body? “Dear Karma, I have a list of people you missed.” LOL. I love my girlfriends. They not only let me bleed out all of my frustration about what is currently wrong in my life, they jump right in with more wit and sarcasm. By the end of the conversation all is right in my world again. Humor can get you to the other side of almost any heartache.
We need people in our lives that will serve as sounding boards for us. They allow us to vent out what is wrong, so that we don’t bury it under deep levels of sarcasm. “Bestfriend, the one you can get mad at for only a short period because you have important stuff to tell them.” Unknown. When we don’t have a way to work through and release the hurtful things said or done to us, we tend to bury the hurt. Then either that person or someone we don’t fully trust not to hurt us makes a comment, not intended to hurt. But, because we have the buried wound, it does hurt. “Tact is the ability to tell someone to go to hell in such a way that they look forward to the trip” Winston Churchill What can happen then with sarcasm is it becomes unbalanced, in that it becomes a reflective action, in which we hit back before they can hurt us. Having that someone that we can talk to, and tell them everything that is on our minds, is what helps us to keep out thoughts, mind and hearts in balance.
The last few months of my mom’s life, humor was necessary and required. We had friends and relatives coming from all over the U.S, Canada and even Germany so say goodbye to my mom. She had the most powerful hugs and a laugh that you could hear at the other end of the stadium. She could walk into a room of strangers and walk out knowing everyone and their life history. She once went on a trip by herself to Taiwan, Hong Kong and had a blast. Even though she could only speak English, she managed to make life long friends with people who didn’t speak English. As people came to visit, they would out of habit ask, “How are you?” Then they would be mortified because they asked it of a woman who had only weeks to live and was on morphine for the pain of lung cancer. So we got these t-shirts and would wear them almost every day, which said “Really I’m Fine” with a picture of a black and white cow laying on its back with all four legs straight up in the air. The humor of the shirt helped everyone be ok with what was happening. “I’m not a smartass…, I am a skill, trained professional in pointing out the obvious and I speak fluent sarcasm” Minion Quote
“Our reaction to a situation literally has the power to change the situation itself” Unknown. Do you remember a scene in a movie, where the good guy is in deep trouble. No way out. And then they say something designed to tick off the bad guy, and you hold your breath and then the bad guy laughs and the whole scene shifts? Do something that makes people present their best selves to everyone they meet. Risk being seen, in all of your glory, not hiding a single refraction of your light. Don’t just hope for the best. Hope walks through the fire, faith leaps over the fire. What you don’t know, but hope for, is what is killing your dreams from coming into reality. The reason why faith leaps over the fire, is that it is the assured expectation of a reality not yet beheld. It doesn’t just “HOPE” it might happen or be possible. “FAITH” knows that it is already done and waiting for you.
“It’s been a rough week, but on a positive note…, I didn’t need any bail money and didn’t have to hide any bodies” Minion Quote. Heartbreaks happen to all of us, but don’t let anyone break your soul. Realize that a bad attitude is like a flat tire. You have the choice to change it and go places, or sit there and have a pity party. If you think about it, every strong person that you have read about or know personally had things go wrong in their life. Usually a lot of things, that is why you think that they are a strong person. Michelangelo in creating the statue David, removed more of the marble block as waste. than what remained when the statue was completed. What we go through in life, removes all of the parts of us that are not needed. When the divine is finished with us, what remains is a work of art.
And if nothing else gets you moving remember how many people you still have to prove wrong. Lol
If you were in the first balloon with wind, lightning, and rain beating against you it might seem futile to struggle to fly the balloon to safety. The storm could be internal or external, both can seem overpowering, even life threatening. What we need to remember when we are going through a storm, is that the storm isn’t our destination. It can’t rain forever. The storm is just part of our path, and it will last as long as it needs to, in order for us to learn what is needed.
There are some things you learn best in calm, and some in storm.
– Willa Cather
When we are suffering through a real storm in our life, it certainly puts all of our other worries and concerns into perspective. The loss of a job, health crisis, loss of a loved one, or a severe financial struggle, makes us wonder how we can get so mad, that someone didn’t put down the toilet seat. We see how often we let trivial, petty things take away our peace. If you think back the past few months, how many arguments have you had in your life? And how many of those arguments can you not even remember what triggered them to happen? Whatever it was, wasn’t truly important enough to lose our peace over. It also helps us see, how many times the storm blowing through our life was created by us.
A wise woman recognizes when her life is out of balance and summons the courage to act to correct it, she knows the meaning of true generosity, happiness is the reward for a life lived in harmony, with a courage and grace.
– Suze Orman
I love the analogy of a tree with deep roots. The trunk and branches are what we live in the outer world. The root system is our inner world. During a storm, the outer world is what usually gets affected. The leaves get blown away, we may lose a couple of branches. But as long as we stay strong in our roots, our inner world, then we can withstand whatever happens in the outer world. In fact, the storms can cause us to grow our roots even deeper. That is how we stay in balance, living life with courage and grace.
When someone is going through a storm, your silent presence is more powerful than a million empty words.
– Thema Davis
When someone is in deep pain, we often don’t know what to say or do. Sometimes we realize that nothing we can say or do, will make any difference. Have you have ever been in the middle of a crisis or a life storm, thinking to yourself, I don’t know if I can take anymore? The presence of someone who we know loves us, just giving us a hug, can be the one thing that gets us back on our feet, ready to withstand one more day of heartbreak. Know that the light that shines from within you is creating a beautiful rainbow.
Pain means you’re growing. Fear means you’re risking. Tears mean it mattered. Take what hurts you and let it help you.
– Mandy Hale
In the moment of melt down, when we think that it is unbearable, we transform from the ashes like the phoenix. We reveal our true self. Instead of dying we awaken as though we had been in hibernation. We become fully alert to what has happened for us (not to us) and we shake the sky as we shine through the darkness like the sun coming out from behind the moon in a solar eclipse.
I admire people who choose to shine even after all the storms they’ve been through.
– Joubert Botha.
I love the book, Women Who Run With Wolves, by Clarissa Pinkola Estes. She writes that, we have created these doors from every storm in our life, and that if we yearn for a deeper, more fulfilling life, we have to start opening doors. It reminded me of a saying, “The tiger and the lion may be more powerful…, but the wolf does not perform in the circus.” We have to free ourselves from the cages that we have locked ourselves into, as we perform in the circus of a daily life where we deny who and what we are. We have to be willing, even if we think that we are not strong enough, to speak to what we have hidden and locked behind those doors. We have to be willing to be wild and howl at the moon.
The truth is that we are never “ready” to face the unconscious. There are all those parts of you that you hid away because you were ashamed. The parts of you that are not worthy, not good enough. The not pretty enough parts of our body, the not smart enough parts, the parts that were bullied and made fun of, and so on. There is never the “right time” to unbury and reveal the real us.
If you have yet to be called an incorrigible defiant woman, don’t worry, there is still time.
– Clarissa Pinkola Estes
The most courageous thing we will ever do in our lives is to stand up in the storm as it is happening and intervene. To stand up and show the world who you really are, to reveal the beauty of your wild soul. Instead of drawing back with your head held down in submission, own it, front and center.
As the quote across the photos said, you will not be the same person who entered the storm. It is up to you to arise from the ashes. It is up to you to unlock all of the hidden doors. It is up to you to own all the parts you hid away. To reveal yourself, no longer hiding and trying to be invisible. Breathe. Spend time in stillness and awareness. Try new things. Explore and seek connection with others who want to converse in the language of the heart.
Do you want to change the world? Have you ever imagined what the world would be like without:
“Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world” – Nelson Mandela
One of my favorite non-profits is “The Unstoppable Foundation”. Cynthia Kersey started this foundation out a burning desire to make a difference. Over the years that I have been supporting her work we have become friends. They have a sponsor a village model that they use across Africa, which brings not only education, which I believe is primary, but also clean drinking water and sanitation, medical, food and nutrition, and they help educate the parents for empowerment and income training, so they can raise up the entire village. The plan is that after five years, the villages are self supporting and no longer need any aid. Last year the first female student to graduate was accepted into college. The five year plan is working.
Right now with the global pandemic most of the NGOs in Kenya have left or closed their doors. The Unstoppable Foundation right now is asking for assistance to help those in need. The situation is critical because there is no safety net in Kenya. No stimulus, no CARES Act. So The Unstoppable Foundation is asking for whatever donations you have in your heart to give. Help these families in their desperate need. A little goes a long way. If you feel called to support a family across the world, click on this link.
What Malala has done so successfully, is that she makes peace heroic. Success comes about not because of what you accomplish for yourself with wisdom, but because of what you inspire others to do. We all love being inspired by a hero. We are all hungry for meaning in our lives. Malala is bringing that meaning to many young girls and women around the world through education with her foundation.
Education is the beginning of the answer.
“Education is the kindling of a flame, not the filling of a vessel” – Socrates
Education is the beginning of the journey. This is because book knowledge will only get you so far. The kindling of the flame is in being curious, in the “wonder” of application of the knowledge.
When you learn something, it starts with the brain, taking it in. Then it is important to download that knowledge down into the heart so that it can be transmuted into wisdom. Wisdom comes from the correct use of that knowledge. Like the American Indian story, we all have two wolves inside of us, one good and one bad. Who wins is the one we feed.
“Educating the mind without educating the heart is no education at all” – Aristotle
Martin Luther King Jr. stated that we needed to develop a world perspective, instead of a loyalty to some race, tribe or nation. I think that education of girls and young women has really taken this world perspective on, as it is moving from just a few countries around the world, to envelop the whole world. It will take them out of child marriages. It will provide them with both opportunity and choices.
It will not only take these individual women out of poverty, it will lift entire nations our of poverty. It is what will bring the world out of darkness and into the light. It is both hope and peace. Educating the minds, hearts and souls of everyone is what will change the world.
But what about us, as in each of us?
“Education is the beginning of transformation. Dedicate yourself to daily learning via books, audios, seminars and coaching” – Robin Sharma
Your formal education may have ended years ago, whether it was completing high school, trade school, or college. But what have you been doing lately to continue your education? Are you a life long learner, as part of your transformational process? You may or may not be a book reader. If you are not a book reader, the use of audio books can make the commute to and from work a more pleasant experience.
If you think that you are ready to take more wisdom into your life, I invite you to join our monthly Zoom call.
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