Make your life a masterpiece; imagine no limitations on what you can be, have or do.
– Brian Tracy
As we go through life, we are given glimpses through open doors of opportunities. Most of the time we pass them by. But once in awhile there is a door that grabs us. It stirs our curiosity. What would it be like to accomplish this dream? Like a blank canvas, with a range of colors on the palette it calls to us to use this color. Try this one next. What is critical at this point is to not overthink it. That will ruin the painting. We will get stuck with writers block. Instead we just need to challenge ourselves to step into the room. One step at a time over to the easel. Pick up the paint brush and just start with one color.
Make your life a masterpiece: Step beyond the demands of the moment and begin right now to design and live the life you deserve.
– Tony Robbins
As you look at the canvas you might decide that you want a color that has a pinkish purple flavor to it. When you look at your palette, you find two colors that sort of call out to you. Two competing dreams as it were. Which one do you pick? Pick the one that is bolder in color. The one that scares you a little to use it. What will people think when they look at your painting? Will they say it is too wild? Too garish looking? Picking the one that scares you, is the one that is going to grow you. Always go for the scary colors.
You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.
– C.S. Lewis
Now how are you approaching this canvas? I always think of the eccentric Frenchman artist type. All wild colors, nothing matching. All flair and panache. When we step into a dream which is going to challenge us, we need that flair of enthusiasm. Think of the Martin Short character in “Father of the Bride”. He was so enthusiastic that he could talk you into saying yes to something that you would have never tried. And the amazing part of it, is that his taste was perfect. You might have thought it was too much, but in fact it is just right.
Hope is the thing with feathers – that perches in the soul – and sings the tune without the words – and never stops – at all.
– Emily Dickenson
Hope is perching in our souls and singing to us everyday. It tells us these wonderful stories of what we can accomplish in our lives. Visualization is critical to this hope, as it helps to bring in everything we want in our lives. Hope is what keeps us going when we seem to fail in bringing our vision into reality.
I always think it’s important to constantly visualize success, but to consider failure, even for a second, so you can be prepared if things don’t work out just as planned.
– Jen Gotch
3M was trying to create super strong adhesives when they accidentally created the glue we have on post it notes. For years they couldn’t figure out how to use this glue in a commercial way. Then came a second accident. One of their employees who sang in a church choir put the glue on a piece of paper so that he wouldn’t lose his place in the hymnal for the songs they were singing. Then employees used it for over 3 years before they started to market it. Today it is one of their top selling products. So just because we might fail at what we are trying to bring into reality, doesn’t mean it really is a failure – sometimes it is even better than what we were trying to create.
Visualize this thing that you want, see it, feel it, believe in it. Make your mental blue print and begin to build.
– Robert Collier
In the movie “The Secret” and the book that followed it, they talked about visualization. Many people will tell you that they have a hard time with it, but if you tell your mind not to picture “your kitchen”, 99% of us immediately see our kitchen in our minds eye. It is a little harder to build a visualization of something that you have never seen, but block by block, with practice it can be done.
By visualizing information, we turn it into a landscape that you can explore with your eyes, a sort of information map. And when you’re lost in information, an information may is kind of useful.
– David McCandless
When I learned how to do it, I started with visualizing an orange. I would stare at a blank wall and try to form a circle. I practiced every day and eventually I could see a circle. Then I added color (orange), then texture (the dimples, feeling the smooth bumps). Then I would see it squirting juice down the side of the orange as I started to peel it. I would feel the spray on my face. When I reached that point of seeing the juice, I could actually taste orange juice in my mouth as I watched the juice run down the side of the orange. I just practiced every day for several weeks, until one day I didn’t need to do it step by step, it just instantly popped into my head. Then I moved on to other things. They seem real, because I put all of my senses into the visualization.
You’ll ever change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.
– John Maxwell
This really helped me to connect deeper to my imagination. When I read books, I now see the story in my mind. The sun shining on the ocean as it flashes bright lights along the cresting waves. I hear the waves crashing on the shoreline. I feel the wind blowing and as I dig my toes down into the cool part of the sand, I smell the salt air. I can totally enter the world being created by the author. When I am in this space, I see connections and possibilities that I have never thought of before.
A dream becomes a goal when action is taken towards its achievement.
– Bo Bennett
This is how I learn from everything that I read, because I enter into worlds I have no experience of. I love it when a really good movie brings you totally into the world they have created. You forget you are even watching a movie.
If you want to reach a goal, you must see the reaching in your own mid before you actually arrive at your goal.
– Zig Ziglar
I am sure that you heard the joke of the man who was on his rooftop, the water in flood stage cresting higher and higher towards him. He prays for help and God sends him some people with a canoe and he says “no thanks, God is sending me help”. He prays for help and God sends him some people with a motor boat and he says “no thanks, God is sending me help”. Then a helicopter comes and he says, “no thanks, God is sending me help”. Then the flood waters come higher and he drowns. Upon entering heaven he asks God, “why didn’t you save me?” God says, I sent a canoe, a motor boat and a helicopter, but you wouldn’t get in.
This kind of visualization is how we can attract into our lives, the things we need, to bring to us the goals and dreams we want. We have to remember that part of the journey, is the lessons we learn and how we grow and change, as we go towards our destination. By visualizing into the space the gratitude of already having it, by using all of the senses, we make it so real, that the divine is busy seeing what doors of opportunity it can open for us. What kinds of synchronicity it can bring into our lives. But we have to get into the boat.
The most important thing for us is to be looking for the doors and opportunities as they pass by us and grab them. Go through them, no matter how scared we are. Take the leap of faith that this is your answer, and climb up the ladder being presented and get into the helicopter.
You were put on this earth to achieve your greatest self, to live out your purpose, and to do it courageously.
Her life improved dramatically, when she decided to break the rules and find beauty where she’d been told there was none.
And one day she discovered that she was fierce, and strong, and full of fire, and that not even she could hold herself back because her passion burned brighter than her fears.
– Mark Anthony
Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.
– Brene Brown
If you want to make a difference, the next time you see someone being cruel to another human being, take it personally. Take it personally because it is personal.
Have the courage to follow your heart & intuition, they somehow already know what you truly want to become . . . , almost everything, all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure, these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die, is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.
– Steve Jobs
I think that one of the hardest things for me to do is to take the time to just be. To sit in prayer or meditation and just allow my heart to have its say. I am so filled with doing and avoiding what really needs to be done. The doing of things does need to happen – I have to pay my bills, read and respond to emails, write posts such as this. I have to cook, clean and garden. I work fulltime, so there are the hours spent there and commuting back and forth. My elderly dad lives with me and I have to care for him. So when I am avoiding something, like right now proof reading the final copy of my book, I am doing something like this that my mind says also needs to be done. So allocating time to just sit and be like this photo, is hard for me.
I will persist until I succeed. I was not delivered into this world into defeat, nor does failure course my veins. I am not a sheep waiting to be prodded by my shepherd. I am a lion, and I refuse to talk, walk, and to sleep with the sheep. I will persist until I succeed.
– Og Mandino
We think that it is selfish. That it is not high on the list of necessary things to do for this day. So when Mastin Kipp sent me an email with a version of this, I was inspired to write a post of my own. Because taking the time to find the freedom to do these things is just as important as your day job. It is just as important as eating, and more important than cleaning the house and doing laundry. We are not really living if we don’t take the time to do these things, we are just existing. We are asleep when we neglect these things. If we are truly awake, conscious and aware, then this has to be a daily part of our life.
The truth is like a lion. You don’t have to defend it. Let it loose and it will defend itself.
– St. Augustine
If you want more happiness, more joy in your life, check the list to see what is missing in your daily routine. Trust in the whispers of your heart, for it is leading you intuitively to this practice. Follow through on your highest intentions, changing them from wishes to commitments. Voice what matters, because if you remain silent, you are holding back from your life purpose. Pursue your dreams. Run after them, putting them into action. Step by step the pursuit of your dreams leads you to have confidence that what you are bringing to the world matters. If you have that confidence, then it doesn’t matter what other people say or do, you will stay in pursuit of accomplishing your dreams. Fulfilling your destiny becomes a primary focus in life.
The greatest fear in the world is of the opinions of others. And the moment you are unafraid of the crowd you are no longer a sheep, you become a lion. A great roar arises in your heart, the roar of freedom.
Forgiveness for yourself and others is necessary because we all make mistakes. We all fall short of perfection. Some of our friends and family may say or do something that discourages us from the pursuit of our dreams. They don’t see or feel what you do. So they put up road blocks thinking that they are protecting us from being hurt, when in reality they are the ones hurting us. Try saying something like this to them that expresses compassion with what they are feeling, “What I hear is that you are in fear for me, and for yourself, in how these dreams are going to be fulfilled. How it will impact my life, your life and our relationship.” If we exercise empathy, we can look beyond their fears to see that they do love us. This allows us to reconcile their actions with their intentions, and grants the space for forgiveness for any hurt we may be feeling. Opening up the space for their heart to talk to our heart, so that they can not only hear you, but begin to understand.
Deep listening is the kind of listening that can help relieve the suffering of another person. You can call it compassionate listening. You listen with only one purpose, to help him or her to empty his heart.
– Thich Nhat Hanh
We must do the same thing for ourselves. Our shadows present a whole dictionary of negative comments on how our dreams are not going to happen. They put up brick walls to protect us from ourselves. We need to take down each brick understanding the motivation. To exercise self love and self trust, help these gremlin shadows to see how important these dreams are. Enlist their help for ideas on how we can safely walk the path of fulfilling these dreams, presenting a win/win for ourselves.
You will never be able to escape from your heart. So it’s better to listen to what it has to say.
– Paulo Coelho
Each morning is a new day. Each morning spend a few minutes in prayer and meditation. Listen to the whisper of your heart. Do today what matters most. Breathe. Love. Trust. Follow the freedom of your heart. Use your voice boldly. Live in freedom the life you have always imagined.
Never let your fears hold you back from pursuing your hopes.
– John F. Kennedy
How does one become fearless? Can you really be totally fearless? Would you want to? I think that if fear is standing in the way of something that I want to do, then I need to do something to break up that fear into smaller pieces. My own experience in life so far, has been that some measure of fear is healthy. It helps me to not be stupid and hurt myself. It also feeds into my spirit of victory when I accomplish something by growing through the fear and doing it anyway.
Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.
– Dale Carnegie
So how do you control fear in your life? How do you control your life at all? How do you figure out what is within your control and what isn’t? Part of it starts with understanding what is and is not under your control. When you accept responsibility for and control over, such things as your judgments, impulses, and desires, then your life changes completely. These are things that are within your ability to control. If you try to control other things beyond your control, that is when you just get weighed down. It is like trying to swim with cement shoes, it isn’t going to end well.
Here’s the truth about big life changes: some people won’t come with you. and that’s okay.
– Early Mama
We can’t control our reputation because it is based on exterior things that are beyond our control. We can’t control the spin that other people put upon what we say or do. We can however, chose to take the high road and not get mired down in the drama. How many times have things you have said or done been taken out of context and used against you? You will be driven crazy trying to control stuff like that.
Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
Your anxiety or getting angry about it doesn’t make it go away. It doesn’t suddenly become something that you can control. All it does is make you unhappy and destroy your peace of mind. You have the choice of continuing to self inflict injuries upon yourself by trying to control it, or you can let it go. Realize that in the end, people will either recognize you for who you really are or they won’t. It is not something within your control.
What would you do if you weren’t afraid?
The realization that what other people do is not your job to control, and you can’t make them change, will shift your world completely. You begin to focus on walking your own path. You are no longer try to control another persons journey. With your focus on your journey, the ups and downs of life even out. Your path becomes more serene. You aren’t trying to avoid drama, you are just not drawing it into your world. If something comes into your space, you just take a few deep breaths, let go of any desire to change someone’s else’s journey and keep walking drama free.
The fears we don’t face becomes our limits.
– Robin Sharma
What is amazing is that we also have the ability to shift the memories we have into ones that don’t create a negative emotional response inside of us. Our brain allows us to recall memories and reconsolidate them. This means that we can take a childhood memory and add new information that wasn’t available to us as children. We can turn fearful memories into fearless ones.
Everything we want is on the other side of fear.
– Jack Canfield
My sister Julie for example is a real scaredy cat. She jumps at anything. When she was a teenager, there was a movie that came out with a ventriloquist dummy that was a horror show. She was watching T.V. alone late at night and the commercial came on for the movie. She was terrified that it was coming after her. So she went to my parents bedroom door, opened it and called for my mom. My parents bedroom was up some stairs, and their bed was against the railing of the stairs. So my mom leaned over the railing to tell my sister to be quiet so she didn’t wake up our dad. When my sister saw a head looming down the staircase she screamed and fell over backwards, falling down the couple of stairs that she had started up. Needless to say, my dad was woken up – lol.
When you open your mind, you open new doors to new possibilities for yourself and new opportunities to help others.
– Roy Bennett
My sister as an adult can laugh at this story and it is no longer scary, because she has new information available to her, that her teenage self didn’t have. We can do this with any scary memory that we have. Update our memory with new information.
Life is like a game. You can play it safe and be good, or you can take a chance and be great.
With visualization we can do the same thing to our future. We can see into our future regarding something that we are scared of. We can go through the experience step by step over and over again in our mind. We can cross over from being fearful of the situation to being confident of it. This is exactly what Olympic Athlete’s do. They see themselves performing their routines perfectly over and over again. They have hooked up machines to them and discovered that the muscles of the athlete’s are actually firing just like they were physically doing the routine when they are just using visualization. The more they do this, the better their skills become.
Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.
– Neale Donald Walsch
So with visualization, we can preview anything coming up in our lives that we have intense fears over. We can practice what we would say or do over and over again. This will give us some confidence that we can accomplish the thing that we are afraid to do. When a rock climber wants to solo a difficult climb without ropes, they start out with ropes. They climb it several times to learn where to put their hands and feet. They then replay the climb over and over again in their minds. They lose a lot of the fear over the climb this way because they have gained confidence in their ability to do it by the repetition.
I am the master of my habits.
So break down the walls of fear that you built to keep you safe. Start believing and visualizing your dreams coming true. Take a practice run to see what you can do with the ropes of safety. Then expand that with visualization. Then go for the life you have been dreaming of living. Don’t let fear hold you back. Go become the person that you have never been, but wished you were.
Nothing can dim the light that shines within.
– Maya Angelou
It takes considerable strength to dare to dream. To dare to be the one chosen to bring something special and wonderful to the world. It means that you’ve taken the step of defining who you are at a soul level. You are daring yourself to live up to that soul destiny. When you dare to step out on the ledge, you realize that you are making yourself vulnerable. Those who dare greatly, can fail greatly. In fact, failures are a given. You can’t step outside your comfort zone and not have some failures in your life.
Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.
– Robert Kennedy
When you reach up to touch the sky, you will almost always find that there are those who want to knock you down. You can’t listen to the bullies of the world. You can’t let fear run your life. Your assignment, your commitment, your intentions are all too valuable to be derailed by the lies and hatred of those who can’t stand in your light.
Advice is like snow. The softer it falls, the longer it dwells upon and the deeper it sinks into the mind.
– Samuel Taylor Coleridge
Some poems have so much learning in them, that it blows your mind. Some truths are so universal and so grounded in absolute truth, that they define all cultures and times. I think that the poem “If” by Rudyard Kipling is one of those poems. It was brought to my attention again when I read a blog that I subscribe to. There is such a depth to it that I am only talking about a small part of it. The part that relates to the courage we need to rise above all the drama that tries to attach itself, when we are daring greatly. I will print the entire poem at the end.
Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, cause hate in your heart will consume you too.
– Will Smith
I am only talking about the first stanza because we have seen so many people lately get caught up in violence, both with terrorism and workplace violence. They fight against those that have different beliefs than themselves, as though having a difference of opinion makes theirs less valid. They don’t understand that we can hold opposing viewpoints and not have to label one as right and one as wrong.
You don’t have to disrespect and insult others simply to hold your own ground. If you do, that shows how shaky your own position is.
– Red Haircrow
True warriors know that they don’t need to resort to fighting to be strong, to dare greatly and face the wind. They can face the wind because they know what it takes to be different, and still be grounded in a fullness and ease of spirit and grace. When you face the wind, you lift yourself up above the opinions of others. You step into a space of knowing that what you are creating, manufacturing and generating is your own successful life. You are fulfilling your destiny by daring to touch the sky.
Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain. It takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.
– Dale Carnegie
One of the hardest things to learn as you mature, is that while people can say or do nasty things to you, you don’t have to get down in the mud with them. Politicians in general (there are some who don’t feel it is necessary to degenerate their opponents to make a valid point) seem to get into name calling wars. As adults we are often disappointed when we see that even though someone may old enough that you would think that they would have matured beyond the need to build up their own egos by tearing down someone else’s, they continue to behave badly. Sadly, we see this kind of behavior not only in politics, but also in our jobs, in our families, and among our friends.
If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
– If by Rudyard Kipling
Bullies and cyberbullies are becoming way to common. I think that the leaders of all of the countries around the world need to understand, that when they act badly, it sets the tone for others to do so. I can remember trying so hard to teach my children that people who bully others have a very low opinion of themselves. They usually are being bullied themselves, or were bullied when they were younger. They attack without reason, because in their minds they believe that if they hit first and hit hard enough, they are in fact protecting themselves. They are hurting so badly that they need to hurt others. I wanted them to be able to understand why someone would be mean, spiteful and say things that they knew were not true.
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
– If by Rudyard Kipling
How does a person listen to the lies that someone else tells or feel the pain of being hated, and not go down the same road in displaying that behavior back to the person who is hurting them? Remember the childhood rhyme, “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me? Or the “I’m rubber your glue, bounces off me and sticks to you?” We tried to pretend as children that whatever mean hurtful thing was being said, it didn’t effect us. But it did. We tried walking away, but usually they just followed us. So we became small, withdrawn and tried to take up as little space as possible. We wrapped ourselves up in silence and disappeared.
Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life, but define yourself.
– Tim Fields
How do we go from that child who tried to disappear, to the adult who steps out on the ledge and says, “Look at me – I am daring to stand up and touch the sky, to make a difference in the world.” As an adult, we could still be telling ourselves that we will be ok. We could kill them with kindness. Or deflect it saying that their energy or vibration was way below ours. Or you pretend that all their negative remarks did not even phase you, hoping eventually it would be true. It isn’t just about surviving something. Because if you are only surviving then you are still being a victim of the bullying, even if it happened years ago. It is about forgiving and letting it go. It is about having being free of the drama and leaving it behind you. It is about living a thriving lifestyle.
If it is still happening in your life now, then think about this – what in your case is “the ball”, and how can you take it and “go home”?
The way to work with a bully is to take the ball and go home. First time, every time. When there’s no ball, there’s no game. Bullies hate that. So they’ll either behave so they can play with you, or they’ll go bully someone else.
– Seth Godin
Put another way, don’t add fuel to the fire. Without your fuel, the fire will go out. How do you get into this frame of mind? How do you not feel that you have defend yourself, defend your reputation, defend that your rights? You stay in your own lane. You keep dancing to your own rhythm. Yes, it might be that some people who don’t know you well enough will listen to what the bully is saying and repeat it. What is done in the dark will come to light. Time has a way of showing people’s true colors. Eventually if you stay in your lane, and keep your own internal rhythm strong, people will recognize who is living the good life, and who is the one trying to tear others lives apart.
Dance and make the song you sing your prayer. Sing it courageously, and with each step strengthen yourself with the knowledge and wisdom of your elders. So whatever next happens you can survive and not lose your rhythm.
– Red Haircrow
If by Rudyard Kipling
If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on!”
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!
Talent hits a target no one else can hit. Genius hits a target no one else can see.
– Arthur Schopenhauer
What stands in the way of you hitting your target? Your Dreams? Your big hairy audacious goals? How many excuses have you made up for why you are trusting your soul to lead you in the right direction? How many times are you going to use your family, your job, others peoples problems as excuses to block access to the door of your own dreams?
Creativity comes from trust. Trust your instincts.
– Rita Mae Brown
I am not yet ready. As soon as I have everything organized, I will be ready. As soon as I have my ducks in a row, I will be ready. As soon as I . . . fill in the blank. (Finish? Learn more? Buy a house? Get the kids through college? etc. . . . ). There will always be something new to stick in that blank, that lets us stand in the way of our destiny. The problem has to do with time. There comes a time when we used it all up. Then all we have left is an unfulfilled life.
We believe what we want to believe, and once we believe something, it becomes a self fulfilling truth. You have everything you need to build something far bigger than yourself.
– Seth Godin
Not today, but later. Tomorrow I will do it. Too busy today. Later I will . . . Tomorrow I will . . . fill in the blank. Like time is a blank check that we can write any amount we need into it. The reality is “Someday” never comes. I used to tell myself that as soon as the kids were all in school I would have time to write. Then it was as soon as the kids were out of the house. Then it was as soon as I wasn’t working so much overtime. It was always, “as soon as” – that “Someday” just kept moving further and further down the timeline. I could never catch up to it, until I decided I wasn’t playing the game anymore. Then everything changed.
It’s your road, and yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.
Or maybe your excuses are you don’t know what you should be aiming for. You don’t know what your life purpose is; you don’t know what your personal genius is. Are you even trying to find the answers? What sets your soul on fire? What is it that you can see that sends your mind down the rabbit hole of possibilities? What is it that so wraps up your heart and soul, that you don’t even hear the objections of everyone around you saying it can’t be done? Your soul has all of the answers, you just have to ask the right questions. Your personal genius sees what no one else can see, and if you aim your heart and mind to what it tells you, there isn’t a target that you can’t hit.
If you feel like there’s something out there that you’re supposed to be doing, if you have a passion for it, then stop wishing and just do it.
– Wanda Sykes
Or maybe your subconscious patterns have you stuck and asleep at the wheel of life. Your the dreamer in a dream dreaming, and you think that you are awake. It reminds me of the movie, “The Matrix”. Will you take the blue pill and stay in your dream or the red pill and follow the rabbit down the rabbit hole? (side note, did you know that Keanu Reeves donated approximately $50M which was almost all of his earnings from this movie to the special effects team, making them all millionaires? I think he took the red pill in real life too.) There is a big difference between knowing what you should do, and actually doing it. It all comes down to the blue pill of knowing or the red pill of doing. Doing requires you to initiate your life.
The easiest thing is to react. The second easiest thing is to respond. But the hardest thing is to initiate.
– Seth Godin
Or it could be that your resiliency has lost all of its bounce. You used to be like Tigger and bounce everywhere and somehow you’ve turned into Eeyore. Now you have a dark cloud over your head shutting out all light. Don’t let your mind enslave you. Let go of the illusions created from failure or disappointment. Free yourself from the chains of your own making. Don’t make yourself an undiscovered genius.
The sky has fallen. Always knew that it would. I would look at the bright side, if I could just find it.
The hardest part of hitting the target is the decision to let go of the arrow. To take fear and doubt out of the equation. To cast time out the window. Passion unchains your creativity. It removes the fear of change, the fear of success or failure.
As soon as you start to pursue a dream, you life wakes up and everything has meaning.
– Barbara Sher
Mirror, Mirror on the wall, show me who I really am. Many fairy tales tell of magic mirrors. Mirrors that can tell the future. Mirrors that show you your loved ones. Mirrors that twist everything to mean something different than it really means. And mirrors that reflect back the truth to us. How do we know that the reflection back to us is the truth?
The more reflective that you are, the more of the real you comes into reality.
– Sheryl Silbaugh
In a fun house the mirrors reflects us with some twist and change to how we really look. One mirror shows us a reflection of being short and fat. Another mirror reflects back to us the image of a really tall, skinny girl. Because of the shape of the mirror the reflections are changed and altered from the truth of what we look like.
Mirrors reverse everything. Look at how her hand is touching the mirror. The mirror image touching back to her. It looks like the left hand is touching the left hand. But in reality, it is her left hand touching the reflections right hand. So even mirrors that are true, still change what we see reflected back to us. The reflection back to us is in fact, backwards to reality. It isn’t the real you.
In a mirror is where we find a reflection of our appearances, but in a heart is where we find a reflection of our soul.
Mirrors are obstacles to light. Fun house mirrors distort what we see, creating illusions. What if there were all different kinds of mirrors, each reflecting a different “us” based on what path we took? Based on a multitude of small decisions, how would we be changed? Wouldn’t it be wonderful if in real life we could be like Alice and step through the looking glass and see what would happen if we chose this job or that job? If we left our bad situation now, or wait another year?
Life is only a reflection of what we allow ourselves to see.
The movie “Sliding Doors” is all about the thought of what if you made the train or missed it – how does something so small and simple change or not change your life. I love the concept of how a reflection actually bends back from the surface and allows one to think seriously or ponder what is being shown. It takes some consciousness and understanding to start seeing who and what we really are. To see beyond the surface reflection to the soul within the body. To get the concept of why we make the choices we do. To see how much of what happens to us is within our choices, and not fate or destiny driving us towards some unseen future.
Time spent in self-reflection is never wasted – it is an intimate date with yourself.
– Paul TP Wong
Since the reflection that we see in a mirror is bent back from the surface, it allows us to examine what we are seeing from different angles. We can bend the metaphorical light of our experiences and see what is underneath. It can serve as a bridge between learning and experiences. If we can remove the barrier between one’s feelings, thoughts and emotions from the experience, we can see more of the truth and less of the story that we tell ourselves happened. This internal dialogue stripped of the emotional charge, is what enables us to move from victim, past survivor, to a totally new space of thriving. The depth to which we take these reflections, determines the kind of attitude and actions that we take in our life.
To make the right choices in life, you have to get in touch with your soul. to do this, you need to experience solitudes, which most people are afraid of, because in the silence you hear the truth and know the solutions.
– Deepak Chopra
Reflection provides an opportunity for us to open their hearts and minds to our experiences. To see our wisdom and our foolishness. To see our strengths and weaknesses. It also allows us to delve in the possibilities of looking at those experiences through the viewpoints of others involved.
Facing you, loving you and accepting you as you are can be painfully challenging, but it’s so necessary.
– Dau Voire
Recently my granddaughter got into a bit of drama with one of her friends. They had been out somewhere and my granddaughter borrowed some money from her friend. They didn’t discuss when it would be paid back. My granddaughter didn’t know how she was going to pay it back, since she doesn’t have a job. She does some babysitting, but nothing on a regular basis. So this debt created some friction. Her friend asked her to pay it back, which upset my granddaughter because she didn’t have it. But they didn’t discuss their feelings, they both just pushed it inside.
Everything is your life is a reflection of a choice you have made. If you want a different result, make a different choice.
When my granddaughter had a new babysitting job, she paid back the debt. But instead of apologizing for taking so long, she said, “here’s your money, now you can stop bugging me about it.” Of course, her friend was really hurt by those words. So, it escalated into a huge fight. Both girls had a party to the misunderstanding, and neither girl has been able to see how their lack of communication created a mountain out a molehill. Neither so far has made it to the point of realizing they were in the wrong and owning their own part in the debacle.
It’s unfair to yourself to justify why you’re holding on to toxicity. There are lessons in letting go and moving on.
– Alex Elle
It is times like this that I wish we could hit a replay button, and see how the story that we internalize is not the true story. Both girls think that they we totally right, and the other is wrong. Each of us hides behind this gate of reality. We see a distorted image of what happened, of ourselves. We don’t want to be the victim and we don’t want to be the perpetrator but in most situations in life we are one or the other, and sometimes even both at the same time. So, we create a story and we create drama where there shouldn’t be any.
Self reflection is a humbling process. It’s essential to find out why you think, say, and do certain things . . . then better yourself.
– Sonya Teclai
No one else can unlock that gate for us. It can only be unlocked by us. We can’t open anyone else’s gate either by argument or emotional appeal. I’ve had talked to my granddaughter and so far, she hasn’t been able to open that gate. My granddaughter has a saying when we talk, that I am judging her. And she is both right and wrong at the same time. Anytime we want to fix someone or something, we are in fact judging it or them. We are saying that something is broken or disconnected. So in that sense I am judging her, because I can see what is broken. But I am not judging her as being bad, or unworthy or less than she is.
If you are still searching for that one person who will change your life, look in the mirror.
We do that to ourselves all the time. We judge the actions or inactions that we take. We beat ourselves up that we should have done a better job. That we shouldn’t have forgotten that important thing. What we need to learn to do is to take the take for reflection. See what is broken or disconnected, and what we can do to alter the outcome. Some things can be altered and connection restored. Some things are beyond our ability to reconnect. Release the judgement. Accept them as they are or let them go.
Be a reflection of what you’d like to receive. If you want love, give love. If you want truth, be truthful. What you give out will always return.
Look into the mirror. Dig beneath the surface. Love and accept what you find. Reconnect with your soul, with your life purpose. Get back onto the right path for you. Transform what can be changed and release what can’t.
You will either step forward into growth, or you will step backward into safety.
– Abraham Maslow
On “America’s Got Talent”, Mandy Harvey sang an amazing song. She got the gold buzzer. What she demonstrated through her song and her story is resilience. When she was 18 years old, she lost her hearing from a disease. She had been singing since she was four years old. When she lost her hearing, she did what most of us would do and put away her dream as something that would never be able to happen for her. She stopped singing.
Yes, sometimes the odds are really stacked against you, but no that doesn’t mean you’ll fail. The odds of you even being conceived are so close to nothing that no one in their right mind would bet on your being here. But you are. You’ve already proved you can beat the odds. So, do it again.
– Doe Zantamata
Now here she was on stage to sing. What had happened? Why did she decide to try again to be a singer? The song she sang is one that she wrote. In the song she says that she got tired of not living the life she wanted to live. That she was tired of saying no to her dream. That even though the sky was more gray than blue for her, she was going to try and take her place again. To try and live the life she still felt that she was destined to live.
Wanting something is not enough. You must hunger for it. Your motivation must be absolutely compelling in order to overcome the obstacles that will invariably come your way.
– Les Brown
She got the gold buzzer because of the combination of her beautiful voice, her heartfelt song of struggle, and her determination to overcome her perceived limitations caused by her deafness. She was so hungry that she refused to let her dreams be defeated. What Mandy teaches us is so vital. She had the worlds best excuse not to go after her dreams. She can’t hear her own voice. She can’t hear her music. But instead of stopping her forever, she took some time to heal through what had happened and then she did a very important thing. She got curious.
A challenge only becomes an obstacle when you bow to it.
She got curious about what did she have that she could use. Standing in her stocking feet, she can feel the music through the floor. She then found that she could trust her voice to be on pitch. She trusted her musicians and translator to let her know how the music sounded, how her voice sounded. She found she could trust her body and voice to support her in her singing. Her past of losing her hearing did not mean the end of her life. It meant learning to live her live in a new way, so that she could still follow her dreams.
Anyone can hide; it’s the easiest thing to do. Standing up, facing the truth, and working through problems, that’s what makes you strong.
We all have things in our life that create challenges and obstacles. Some of them are life altering and may seem to close the door to our dreams. We may sit in the dark and bewail what has happened to us. We may have to go through the stages of grief, from anger, betrayal, denial, sorrow and so on. But each day we face a new choice. We can process through those negative emotions and rebuild our life, or stay in the dark ashes of what we thought life was going to be.
When obstacles arise, you change your direction to reach your goal. You do not change your decision to get there.
– Zig Ziglar
Like Mandy, we each of us have something inside of us that is greater than any lemon that life can throw at us. Sometimes when we are deep within the struggle of survival we can’t see it. But it is there, patiently waiting for us to get off the floor and back onto our life path. It helps when we can recall other times in our life when we got knocked down. The times when we faced the battle against our negative mind talk. Against the “not good enough” talk. Against the friends and family who told us to give up, that what we wanted was not possible. Against those who wanted to protect us from ourselves, from disappointment and failure. Remember the fears that you faced down. Remember how you discovered that those fears were all an illusion.
Being a Human Being is all about experiencing all of the wonders of the world.
What if . . . the things that we go through, are ours to go through so that we can both experience the wonders of the world and appreciate them? None of us know what we are truly capable of. If we are just handed all of our desires and dreams, would we see them for what they truly are? Would we grow and expand in our lives? I don’t think that any of us would ever believe what it is possible for us to accomplish.
Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.
– Dale Carnegie
If we could sneak a peak at the end of the chapter that we are currently living, we probably wouldn’t accept the truth of what we read. In the “Wizard of Oz”, Glinda the good witch tells Dorothy – “You’ve always had the power my dear, you just had to learn it for yourself”. The same is true for us. We’ve always had the power to live the life that we dream of. The path to that destination is how we learn to accept it, use it, grow it, and live our life into it. We are all capable of far more than we know. We just need to click those ruby red shoes and say it until we believe it. Then pull up the big girl panties and get it done. No excuses.
If you wait to do everything until you’re sure it’s right, you’ll probably never do much of anything.
– Win Borden
Does it seem sometimes like what directs your life is the bills you have to pay? The things that other people want you to do? Is your life a list of things “to do”, a checklist of obligations? Are you being directed by the problems needing to be resolved, or by the passions of your dreams?
We must take the time to define our own path. Too quickly we can find the world defining it for us.
What if instead of grocery lists, errands to run, and budgets with bills to pay; we instead created a different list. This list would encompass what your ideal life would look like. I’m not talking about the fancy car, or mansion. It isn’t the number of pairs of shoes in your closet. It isn’t things at all.
If you created this list, start with where would you be living. A cabin in the woods over looking the Oregon coast? An adobe home in the high desert? A boathouse on the Columbia River? What would be the ideal way to spend your days? Traveling on the road, or at the office? Is your office in a skyscraper or a home office? Is it in the United States, Europe, South America? How many hours a day would you work? What would you do with your time after work? If you could list everything that was truly important to you – would you have the courage to start building your life around that dream?
We have all been placed on this earth to discover our own path, and we will never be happy if we live someone else’s idea of life.
– James Van Praagh
What do you tell everyone that you want to do? Now what actions are you taking in your life to make that happen? Because the disconnection between what you say you want and what you do about it, speaks to the fact that you don’t really want it. It is an idea you are comfortable with. It isn’t an idea that you have confidence in bringing into reality. There is something missing in the disconnection.
It could be an old dream that you have grown out of, but you don’t want to give it up because you don’t really know what you want instead. The passion which would lead to action is just not there. It could be that it wasn’t really ever your dream. but someone else’s. Maybe your parents unfilled dream; maybe something you just sort of accepted as being yours because your best friend or partner thought it was something you could do together. However it became the dream you talked about, it was never the dream that was as necessary to your life as taking the next breath.
You will recognize your own path when you come upon it, because you will suddenly have all the energy and imagination you will ever need.
– Jerry Giles
How do you know when you have a real dream that is really a soul desire? A heart commitment? It feeds your soul. You can’t take a breath without thinking about it in some way. Even when you are on overwhelm you can’t go to bed until you have done something to take another step on that path of making the dream a reality. You are constantly asking yourself what in your life needs to change to help you be the person who can accomplish that dream.
Find the hidden path. The one behind the secret gate, hidden within the shadows of the mountain. You know the one, that can only be seen in the light of the 13th full moon. The one your heart thought you would never find, when you first read about it under the covers by the light of a flashlight when you were 8 yrs old.
Adventures are when you go someplace new. When you try something for the first time. They can happen in your own backyard, or a 1,000 miles away. It is in the doing of something new that we make discoveries about ourselves.
I don’t believe I luck. Luck = leaving things to chance and the outside world. I believe in being harbringers of our fate, determining our own path, taking action and creating our own destiny in life. This is your life and it is your to create. Don’t ever let others do it for you.
– Celestine Chua
Figuring out something for the first time usually has some trial and error involved. Some frustration, when we swear we are following directions and it isn’t looking like the instruction sheet says it should. It is when you discover that the manufacturer drilled the holes in the wrong spot, or didn’t provide enough screws or you are missing vital parts. It takes Courage. Persistence to continue. Patience to stop, relax, and begin again. Remember there are no limits to what you can do and be. Each time it seems you hit a limit, it is just a resting place. Embrace the uncertainty and a new door will open before you. Embrace Change. Embrace Life.
It is always our own self that we find at the end of the journey. The sooner we face that self, the better.
– Ella Maillart
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