When the butterfly has completed its change, the last step is to break through the chrysalis and unfurl its wings. Once they are dry, it is time to fly. The butterfly must care for itself to both emerge and then complete the process of self transformation.
I have come to believe that caring for myself is not self indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival.
– Audre Lorde
There is a story about how if you help the butterfly out of its coverings, it is crippled. This is because it needs to complete its growth through the releasing of its casing. If you enlarge the hole it creates, it deforms the wings. The same is true for us. We can be supported by the sun, to dry ourselves off. We can be uplifted with the winds. But we are the ones that must spread out our wings in order to thrive.
Damaged people are dangerous because they know they can survive.
Sometimes life’s struggles are to help us realize that we need to grow stronger to complete our journey. Being courageous requires us to be vulnerable. It is a sign of strength when we put ourselves out there. You can’t really experience life, if you live without putting yourself out there to really live life. It is in fact a gift, this struggle, because all of us have far more strength than we ever dreamed possible. You must do the thing that you think you cannot do.
Strength comes from struggle. When you learn to see your struggles as opportunities to become stronger, better, wiser, then your thinking shifts from “I can’t do this” to “I must do this”.
– Toni Sorenson
Remember Star Wars when Luke is trying to lift his ship and he struggles and gives up. Then Yoda shows him. Luke could have done it the first time, but he doubted, he had a lack of faith not in God, but in himself. You must do the thing that you think you cannot do. It would not have been placed before you if God didn’t know that you could do it. It is there so that you can believe it yourself. To grow your faith, for the next time fear stops you.
The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.
– Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
Looking at history, I think this quote best describes two people who suffered in Nazi Germany. Anne Frank, who still believed even after the things she experienced, that the world is filled with good people. We can read her diary, as well as the writings of those who new her. The other is Viktor Frankl. His book “Man’s Search For Meaning” should be required reading for everyone.
We run from grief because loss scares us, yet our hearts reach toward grief because the broken parts want to mend.
– Brene Brown
When struggles happen to us we have a choice, they can define us or refine us. For Anne and Viktor they refined them. They both chose to reach toward the grief and pain of what was happening to her, to her family, to her people. They somehow knew, had that inner wisdom to realize that by reaching out, they was in fact healing themselves. Those who become defined by their struggles are true victims. They can’t move past the horrible thing that happened. They encase themselves with what happened and choose safety out of fear. They stop growing, becoming deformed inside, until they learn to “let it go”. To break out of the casing and unfurl their wings.
Being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure.
– Bob Marley
Life is short. Break the rules. Forgive quickly. Kiss slowly, like in the romantic movies. Laugh uncontrollably and giggle whenever you can. Never regret anything that brings smile to your eyes as well as your face. You take a chance of being wounded by living this way, but living any other way is not really experiencing life.
The best people possess a feeling for beauty, the courage to take risks, the discipline to tell the truth, the capacity for sacrifice.
– Ernest Hemingway
No one in the world was ever you before, with your particular gifts and abilities and possibilities.
– Joseph Campbell
Each of us at conception is granted a “stone”, a sacred life purpose, that we are to “cast across the waters”. That stone or purpose is to create many ripples. Those ripples change us from the action of casting that stone, and those same ripples also impact many others. We set out on the journey of discovering and living our life purpose.
I have begun to think of life as a series of ripples, widening out from an original center.
– Seamus Heaney
As we walk that path, it shifts and changes both us and the world in some way. This is because each of us is impacted by everyone else, as each ripple touches and changes the other ripples. For each stone that is cast or not casted, there is a change in the water. It doesn’t matter if we are those who are hoarding their stones afraid to cast them, or we are those who grab the courage to risk casting their own “stone” or life purpose. There is always an impact.
The world is changed by your example, not by your opinion.
– Paulo Coelho
Most of us however, are also born with a reluctance to change. We resist it. We fear it. We create stories around every impulse to create change in our lives. We build walls, not to keep other people out, as much as to keep ourselves safe within. As humans we also have this need to improve our lives. We demonstrate this every January when we create New Years Resolutions around the changes we want to make in our lives. Dreams we want to materialize. Goals that we want to achieve. We work hard to bring them into reality. The funny thing is that most of us have these competing challenges going on. We don’t want to change, yet we want those dreams to come into reality. So most of the hard work in bringing the dream into reality, is that we are fighting ourselves internally around the changes we want to make. We don’t know what is worse, that we try and fail, or we try and actually succeed.
If you believe in the doubts in your mind you won’t achieve the dreams in your heart.
– Marinela Reka
We are afraid that we will lose our soul along the journey of success. We are also just as terrified that we will live our soul’s unique version of success. We compare our journey with all of those that we know. We compete, we judge. We are full of the dark emotions such as anger, regret, worry, blame, guilt and fear. We have people in our lives that threaten our peace of mind and our self worth. Worst of all we have our own judgmental inner selves.
We realize the importance of our voice when we are silenced.
– Malala Yousafazi
Some of us are given powerful life purposes, such as Mother Teresa and Malala. Others have smaller visions and life purposes. All of us come up against obstacles in fulfilling them.
Life gives no one immunity against adversity, but life gives to everyone the power of positive thought which is sufficient to master all circumstances of adversity and convert them into beliefs.
– Napoleon Hill
We will all make up stories about what happens to us in life. They will either weaken or strengthen us, the choice is always within us. We can blame our parents, our “ex”, our employer, our best friend who provided the knife that stabbed us in the back. That creates the victimhood that keeps us safely hoarding our “stone” and refusing to allow change to transform us into something powerful beyond measure. To transform us into our divine purpose.
Just as one drop of water creates countless ripples, so does one gesture of kindness or love change countless lives.
– Randi G Fine
Water is an ultimate teacher for us. It changes shape to adapt to its situation. Steam, fog, a cool refreshing liquid against our skin, a single snowflake, a sheet of ice or a mountain glacier, and a hot volcanic pool of water that would be death to enter. Its waves kiss the shore along the ocean gently, and it pounds against the rocks wearing them down into small particles that get dragged deep onto the ocean floor. It carves into the earth deep canyons, and flows down those same canyons as a beautiful waterfall. It both gives and takes life. It is neither good or evil, light or dark. It reflects back to us how both action and inaction with our stone, still an impact is made on this earth.
In a different way today, we have what they are now terming “Raindrop” moments. This is the disruption of a certain type of business, by new developments that take over in technology. We think of things such as physical books in print, newspapers, music in CD/Albums, which have become electronic, changing the nature of both entertainment and business. We can see the future disruptions in the movie and TV industries, changing from having human actors to artificial actors. We see businesses such as Taxi’s being impacted by new businesses such as Uber. These are all the results of someone who cast their stone across the water and created a ripple that was felt around the world. They made an impact.
How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.
– Anne Frank
Change happens whether we want it to or not. What water has to teach us is the ability to adapt, to improvise, and to overcome. It teaches to shift our shapes and transform. We all have our “stone”, the divine purpose that we are here to achieve. The method of doing so in within us, and the ability to change, shift our shape, to transform, is what brings us to success. We must each of us, be that change that we wish to see in the world. If you think that world hunger is wrong, what are you doing to feed someone? Whatever you have strong beliefs around, what are you individually doing to make that change in your own space in this world?
The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.
– Christopher Hitchens
Be like water and adapt, improvise, overcome, shift your shape (consciousness), transform.
At some point in our journey we come to a crossroads. We have to pick a path (without any ability to know), which will or will not lead us to our destination. We have to ask ourselves that unanswerable question, Do I go forwards, backwards, left, right, diagonal? Steve Jobs asked this question to John Sculley when he was vice president at PepsiCo, before Apple was a household name. “Do you want to spend the rest of your life selling sugared water or do you want a chance to change the world?”
People who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do.
– Apple Commercial
Do not allow anyone’s definition of who you are, including your own, to define who you are. Like water, you can transform into what is needed to travel your own unique path in life. The important thing is to stay curious, keep looking for open doors, keep asking unanswerable questions. To quiet the mind, and to listen to the soul, which is the source of the unanswerable questions. To go deep within, to visit and learn from the place our of real existence. Promise yourself, to not permit fear of failure or greatness keep you frozen in place.
Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle.
– Christian D. Larson
That something is divine guidance, trust in it and don’t stop.
When you can quiet the fluctuations of your mind and drift into stillness and silence, you can finally hear the whispers of your heart.
Silence isn’t just empty space. It is the container that holds all of the answers. But you can’t access it, until you release what you think life should be. It is only then that you can begin to see what is, and accept it. When you can process life as it is, only then you can see what it can be. That is the beginning of the journey of transformation. Because it is only in this place that you can begin to hear the sound of your soul.
True silence is the rest of the mind, and is to the spirit what sleep is to the body, nourishment and refreshment.
– William Penn
It is in the silence you begin to hear your own heart. It is in the heart that the soul hears the whispers of the divine, Gods answers. This is where true intelligence is, not in the mind. By listening to this voice, you see things in a different light, a different space. This is the space that you hear God’s voice answering those prayers for direction. That is the space where your soul is at peace with your minds thoughts.
Dare to stand before those you fear and speak your mind, even if your voice shakes.
– Maggie Kuhn
This is where what they call “out of the box” thinking occurs. It is the place where the curiosity starts, where creativity lives, where you can find the right solutions. It is the place of firm collaboration of the mind, body and soul. Where the spirit and soul commune to stand in an overwhelming force for doing the right thing, regardless of what anyone else is saying or doing.
It’s a shame when the things that are on your mind and in your heart, never reach your lips.
The worst thing that can happen is for people to be too ashamed, too scared, or feel too unworthy to speak their own truth. When other people to try crush you because you don’t share the same religion, the same culture, the same language, the same color of skin, or the same sexual orientation the human race is being robbed. We should welcome all expression. Risk being seen, not just in all of your glory, but with all of your imperfections..
The biggest bully most of us will ever face lives within us, located inside our own heads. The screaming thoughts that we hurl at ourselves about ourselves, we would never allow anyone to say to us. We worry about what kind of person we would be if we let loose who we really are. That we are too much, too emotional, too loving, too sensitive. That we are a bad person; that everyone would judge us as not enough and we will be destroyed. We don’t give ourselves the love we give to others, the grace and forgiveness that we give to others.
Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself and know that everything in this life has a purpose.
– Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
Like most things in life, silence also has it shadow that gets expressed out in the world. Martin Luther King Jr. wrote about this shadow when he said:
Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.
– Martin Luther King Jr.
This is what all civil unrest and protests comes from. Something that matters so much that they are willing to step outside of fear of judgment or retribution. I know that to me these people are like modern day Joan of Arc’s. Their bravery lies in standing in protest, being willing to be beaten, hit with water cannons, or tear gas. To be arrested or even the ultimate sacrifice of their lives. I may not always agree with their beliefs, or their methods. But I do praise their courage that they are willing to stand up for their ideals.
They say that time heals all wounds. It isn’t the passage of time itself that heals. It is the knowledge and application of that knowledge (using it wisely) that heals. I know that from the murder of my nephew, there are stages of grief. The more distance there is from the actual murder, the more time the raw emotions have to pass through you. It is the emotions that create the pain and suffering. But you can only live in that place of raw emotions for so long. If you don’t process through them, they will literally drive you insane. It is self preservation that moves those emotions through you.
The ultimate way of Being lies beyond all contradictory pairs of opposites with which our two dimensional thinking mind operates. As soon as we are successful in silencing the restless activity of the thinking mind and give a chance to intuition, the pure all embracing spirit in us will manifest effortlessly.
– Anagarika Govinda
Intuition and creativity takes you on a wild ride of so many options and choices, it is life inspiring, life fulfilling, and more valuable that all of the gold in Fort Knox. This is because life is not just light and dark, and choices are not just this or that. We live in a multi-dimensional universe, and we were created in God’s image. Each of us has the power of miracles within us. When we embrace his spirit and power, we manifest our divine destiny.
Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.
– Eleanor Roosevelt
Eleanor Roosevelt is one of my heroes. She is on my bucket list of people that I would love to have a long visit with. She has such great wisdom, and she was an amazing woman. When we operate from that space of great minds, the soul speaks.
The quieter you become, the more you can hear.
– Ram Dass
It helps when you surround yourself with people who can hear the sound of your soul, as well as their own. If you listen to the voice of intuition, the voice of the soul, you will find the way of life that you love, that was designed just for you. Then all that is left is to have the courage to live it.
I was having a conversation this morning, about the art piece I posted. The artist made amazing pieces of art out of thrown away metal, gears, assorted bars, and pipes. When he talked about his art it came from a place deep within his heart. He was deep within his gift. His soul just poured out of him. He lays it down at your feet waiting for your reaction. And because it was all about the gift. It had nothing to do with ego. It wasn’t about his being invested in what you thought about his art. He does it, because he can’t not do it. Being that connected to your gift is your purpose, and when you are in that space, destiny collides with you.
Ego says, Once everything falls into place, I’ll feel peace. Spirit says, Find your peace, and then everything falls into place.
– Marianne Williamson
There is a moment when you are walking in your purpose, where the fears and dreams collide together.
Decisions determine destiny.
– Thomas S. Monson
You can follow the dream where it leads you, or you can bury it down in shadow, where it will become unbalanced. This imbalance create patterns in your life that won’t be beneficial to you. Have you ever felt like you had your foot on the gas and the brake at the same time? That is shadow patterns in your life at work. Have you ever experienced self sabotage? A time when you know that the words coming out of your mouth are like someone else is in control? You watch as before your eyes, you destroy something you love and you can’t help yourself? That is shadow patterns in your life. They come from fear. From fear wanting to protect you, even as it is destroying you.
Fear cannot isolate you, if you allow love to surround you.
– Sarah Jakes
When you are balanced in your life with your gift, you bring it out of the shadow. It is about being real as to who you are. No masks. No living from the opinions of others. You share your true self, and by doing so you touch the lives of others. We are all one creation based in love. It is only egos and fears that separate us. Those egos and fears create beliefs to further the separation. Live from the space of love. The space of being true and real is where it all starts. You character helps to shape your destiny into the reality you are reaching for.
It is when you realize that, like the artist above, you don’t have a choice but to live within the gift. It has a hold on you. Sleep, food, riches, fame – nothing matters except releasing that gift into the world. When I am in that space, my writing just flows out. Hours go by and nothing else matters. I reveal the elusive words, analogies, stories. Everything flow down into the characters on the blank page. My soul pours out and I can’t stop it. And then comes the moment, when the gift has used me all up. I come around to being hungry. I notice I am cramped from sitting in my chair too long. Once again awareness of the world around me seeps into my consciousness.
A successful life is one that is lived through understanding and pursuing one’s own path, not chasing after the dreams of others… In spite of your fear, do what you have to do.
– Chin-Ning Chu
This dream that leads you to your destiny is that one that keeps coming back. No matter how many times you push it away, it returns. The successes, failures, the ups and downs of life don’t shape your destiny. Your destiny shapes you by swinging back into your life, situation after situation. It serves your life, unless you push it down into shadow. Then it wrecks havoc in your life. No matter what, like a pendulum, it keeps swinging back into your life.
Even if your life hasn’t turned out the way you expected and you find yourself in an unexpected place, decide to make the most of where you are, because there is always a spiritual reason that your destiny has led you to this destination.
It is a constant collision that creates both order and chaos in our life, all depending on how we shape the way it swings. Order and chaos both have good purposes in our life. They are like the monster waves we are riding in the ocean. We can ride it for miles, exhilarated by the fears we are facing. It dances with us in the sunlight, unfolding past the fears. If we push it away it can drag us down into the depths of the dark water, spitting us back on the shore, exhausted and battered.
Your mission your purpose and your destiny will all be tied to one thing – your gift.
– Steve Harvey
My passion is to help everyone who reads my words to realize something wonderful about themselves. To glimpse their own dreams. To follow them wherever they lead. To not let the loose shale cause them to stumble. To not cut themselves on the sharp edges. To not fall into the pits of others opinions of what you can or can’t do. Rather to leap or crawl over the boulders of confusion. To realize that the only person who can truly stop you is you. To not let anything put you in the space of giving up.
Every time you rise up, your dream becomes stronger and your destiny flourishes. Use everything as part of the creation process, just like that artist. Realize that everything that comes into your life, can be used to further bring your dreams and destiny into reality. Just like that artist, every piece of metal, heated by the fire in your forge, can be bent and hammered to serve a purpose.
The universe conspires to reveal the truth and to make your path easy if you have the courage to follow the signs.
Signs of a Good Life – adventure forth to learn all that you can. Remember the joy is in the journey, not the destination. Unleash your purpose to use everything that you experience in life, to grow into who you need to be to fulfill this destiny. Learn from nature, everything changes from day to day, season to season. Change is to be welcomed with all honor and dignity. The challenge from all this change is to guide it into growing, and shifting you in a way that serves you. The true essence of a life well lived, is to care for and befriend all you meet on your journey. Who you travel with could be the only way to reach your destination. Dare to care. Open your heart and let others in. See the beauty of life in giving away everything, knowing that by serving others, we serve our destiny.
Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.
– Brene Brown
So if you are scared. If you are lost. If you are unprepared. If you are falling apart. If you think that you can’t survive, and all hope is truly lost beyond recovery. Take heart. Rise Up! Rejoice! We have all been there. We have all done that. And still, here we are, walking onwards to fulfill the life purpose the Divine anchored in our hearts and souls. People come into our lives for a reason. Sometimes they need a hand, sometimes they give us a hand. When our worlds collide, let us take each others hand. Walk we me until your courage is restored. Light your candle with my flame. Every passion has its destiny, and for this moment in time, our destiny has linked hands. When you are ready, let go and fly away with your wings of destiny into the light.
Life is a gift, and it offers us the privilege, opportunity and responsibility to give something back by becoming more.
– Anthony Robbins
I had a great conversation today with one of my mentors. It was really interesting because 90% of the conversation was around potential, and what this year was opening up for me. What made it so interesting is that I had already written about most of what they were bringing up. I had written it with myself in mind, as that is what my writing this blog is all about. Writing what is showing up for me supports me in multiple ways. I love sharing it with you, in the hope that I can support you in your growth. It isn’t that you don’t already know everything I write. It is just that we all need reminders of how important it is to keep growing in our life. In turn you inspire me back with your likes, hearts, comments, and sharing of what I write.
What I realized during the conversation, is that I had this containment field around what I thought my potential was. It was an unconscious fence based on how I have been changing and transforming my life. Based on what I think LemonadeMakers is growing me into. I didn’t realize that I had put a ceiling on my potential. I had unconsciously concentrated on my writing gift, as all I had to offer to my community. A person can grow only as much as their horizon allows.
Only when we put our perceived potential to the test, can we learn to look, know where to look, and position ourselves to realize our true potential.
In the discussion with my mentor, we talked about music. My writing, especially my poetry has music enveloped within it. When I write I hear music. I have always maintained that I can’t sing. That I am tone deaf. I guess it came from around 4th grade, when I had a choir class. The only time I ever took choir was for just that few months. I remember this moment when the teacher made each of us sing by ourselves to try and find the person who was out of tune. I was terrified it was me. I mean really scared. I was standing there shaking, waiting to be humiliated. She didn’t find the person she was looking for, but after that experience I refused to take choir again. My mentors feel strongly that I have some hidden talents around music, so something new to explore this year.
If it’s both terrifying and amazing then you should definitely pursue it.
As I have said in other posts, we moved around a lot when I was a child. I don’t think that I finished one whole year at a school until high school. So at one point, I remember music lessons in an elementary school. I wanted to learn piano, but my parents couldn’t afford to rent one. The school had a violin, so that was what I got to learn to play. I remember practicing, and of course I sounded horrible. My parents complained about the noise. When we moved, the violin went back to the school. I never took music lessons again. So when they said that I probably had some talent with music and singing, I remembered my childhood experiences. They were not favorable. So what do you do when someone tells you, you have a hidden talent waiting to be discovered, lying in a place that you abandoned in failure?
It is good to look at, to examine the stories we have created around things in our life. While stories help us to make sense of our experiences, they are inherently not true. Most of them are made up by us. They serve a purpose to try and make sense of our lives. But if we live our life as though they are true, we are doing ourselves a disservice. We will walk away from gifts and talents. We will assume the story is right. We will assume that we can’t do or be what we thought we could. We walk away from our full potential.
Inherent in being proactive and trying new things, and not waiting to be told what to do, is the fact that you’re going to fail, you’re going to make mistakes, and you’re probably going to piss people off. And it you’re not pissing people off, if you don’t have haters, if you’re not putting yourself in a situation that has some risks associated with it, you’re probably not going to realize your full potential.
– Gina Bianchini
Overcoming self-limiting beliefs and self-imposed limitations is often the biggest obstacle standing between you and the realization of your full potential. One way to see where our potential might be expanded is to make a list of your gifts and talents. Be sure to list the things that others say you are good at, but which you discount as being “no big deal”. Then look at each one, and see where the passion is on a scale of 1 – 10. Then taking the three highest ranking talents, ask yourself how in love with it you are. The one talent that you are passionate about, and also in love with – that is the one that has more potential just waiting for you to explore and expand.
In keeping with the discussion, I am meditating on what to do with this new challenge around music? Singing lessons? Take up piano lessons? Learn to play the American Indian drum I purchased years ago, but just play around with? I was just gifted with an Ukulele and it appears to be really easy to learn – at least that was what they told me when they gave it to me. I challenge you to take up some childhood dream that you had, that you felt like you failed at. What existing gift or talent can you try to unleash and find your own unlimited potential?
What can you pursue that is both terrifying, and amazing? What can you pursue that you will fail at trying, but know in your heart that you are supposed to be doing? You become a master at something when you have practiced the 10,000 hours. it is scary to think of how much potential is lost by those who don’t have the courage to unleash it. The edge of potential is where you are meeting difficulties in your life.
Change is inevitable, but transformation is by conscious choice.
– Heather Ash Amara
Do not dilute the truth of your potential. We often convince ourselves that we cannot change, that we cannot overcome the circumstances of our lives. That is simply not true. You have been blessed with immeasurable power to make positive changes in your life. But you can’t just wish it, you can’t just hope it, you can’t just want it…, you have to live it, be it, do it.
– Steve Maraboli
You have within you, right now, everything you could ever need or want to be a great success in every area of your life. Whether you’re aware of it or not, you have deep reserves of potential and ability. If you properly harness and channel it, it will enable you to accomplish extraordinary things in your life.
It’s about personal development. It’s about creating your own character and pushing it to the limit. It’s about pushing yourself so far out of your own and everybody else’s idea of who you are, and what you’re capable of, that you no longer believe in limits. It’s about reaching beyond your so-called potential, because your potential is never where you or anyone else expects it to be, not even close. It’s about being able to say with the last breath of your life, “I used all my potential and all my talents and pushed myself to the limit. I could not have fought any harder”..
– Charlotte Eriksson
Potential is in fact, limitless. It is unlocked by gratitude. In order to really experience what life has waiting for us, we need to break out of living close to the potential. We need to release the fears and unleash our creative potential. We need to pursue the things we dream about doing. We need to pursue the things that are pure and real to us, authentic to who we are becoming.
I love piano music. I can sit and listen to it for hours. I wanted to play as a child. I was given a free piano a couple of years ago. It sits in my living room as a place to put family photos. It just gathers dust because: I took it thinking that my grandkids who were living with me at the time could learn to play, not for me to learn it myself. It needs tuning. I really don’t have the time to take lessons. I probably can’t learn to read music, or understand how to get the timing of a piece of music. I could go on and on listing the reasons (excuses) why I haven’t even tried to learn to play even though it is sitting there looking back at me every single day.
I am going to listen to divine direction, and see what unfolds around music and/or singing in my life. I am going to see where inspiration is lying hidden, waiting for me to dig down to it. To uncover that vein of gold. I am going to see where the music in my soul is waiting for me to have the courage to pursue it and express it.
You can only become truly accomplished at something you love. Don’t make money your goal. Instead, pursue the things you love doing, and then do them so well that people can’t take their eyes off you.
– Maya Angelou
So here we go. I am committing to unleashing my potential around music. What will you commit to? Your inner potential cannot develop without your willingness to commit. Please comment below and say it out loud to be witnessed. When you say it out loud, it is the first step to overcoming your current limits. Go do what you were created to do.
Use your special key. Unlock that potential
Knowing my True North gives me courage to focus my energy where I believe it should be, not according to what is popular or pleasing to others.
– Jennifer Cummings
There are times when we feel drawn by something that we can’t quite name. It’s a whisper in our ears, a tug in our hearts. We feel it pulling us towards “true north” or home. We may not understand it, but we know that we have to go there. When we are searching for our place in this life, we are looking for our souls home.
Never ever base a decision on someone else or what they think. Find your compass and find your own true north.
– Michelle McIntosh
The interior compass may seem to be spinning in all directions. You no longer have an interest in looking backwards. You just don’t know what direction to take.
Coincidence doesn’t exist and goosebumps never lie. Your body already knows the answer. All you have to do is turn down your spinning mind, and continue to follow all signs. Because you are always worthy of becoming your best and most actualized self.
– Victoria Erickson
When we are at one of life’s transitions, and trying to re-imagine a new life – that is when we need each other. We can help each other to find the way to our souls calling, to home. We don’t throw limited beliefs into each others faces. We help to end the wobble in each others compass, so we can each find our own true north. These kind of friends celebrate you living your own truth, your divine destiny. Sharing a path with such a person is a sacred gift.
The ache for home lives in all of us. The safe place where we can go as we are, and not be questioned.
– Maya Angelou
The path to home is found in only one direction, the winds of change. The storms of life are by design to help us change. They don’t happen to us, they happen for us. Recognize change when it comes upon you, learn what it has to teach you, and always keep your compass on your own True North.
We are not retreating – we are advancing in another direction.
– Douglas MacArthur
How much we go through in these storms is determined by the attitude we have, by the actions we take, and how well we are listening and paying attention to what is happening. I think that the meaning we give things has a large part to play in how we advance. Are we retreating or advancing in a new direction. One view indicates failure and one view indicates resilience.
People always asked her where she was going . . . Not fully knowing herself, she answered with a smile: “I’m going in the right direction.”
The more clarity we take in, the less damage the storm brings with it, as we go through it. It is always our choice of having a breakdown or a breakthrough. We don’t have to get lost drifting in the “good old days” feeling sorry for ourselves. We don’t try to avoid the truths that the storm reveals, by using drugs or alcohol or sex to escape. We cannot become who we wish to be, if we don’t push forward and leave the past behind us.
Goals are my north star. My compass. The map that guides me along the road I wish to travel. Goals are motivations with wind in their sails, they carry me forward despite the storms.
– Richelle Goodrich
LemonadeMakers don’t wait for the world to change into a better place. They change themselves, guided by their journey to their own True North. LemonadeMakers are driven by the passion they have in life, to do and be extraordinary. As each individual, upon each individual changes, the world changes with them. It may not happen overnight, and it may not happen as fast as we want it to happen. But is will happen.
Like a magnetized needle floating on a surface of oil, resistance will unfailing point to true north – meaning that calling or action it most wants to stop us from doing. We can use this. We can use it as a compass. We can navigate by resistance, letting it guide us to that calling or action that we must follow before all others. Rule of thumb: The more important a call or action is to our soul’s evolution, the more resistance we will feel toward pursuing it.
– Steven Presfield
LemonadeMakers are all just walking each other home. Home is not where we were born. It is not our current place of residence. It is a place that we find deep within ourselves. It is that space in our heart, where our soul resides. It is the place where we discover our true self. And if the sun is too hot, or the rain is a down pouring torrent, or the snow becomes a blizzard, then we can be each a shelter for each other, until the path home becomes clear again.
Knowing my true north gives me the courage to focus my energy where I believe it should be, not according to what is popular or pleasing to others.
– Jennifer Cummings
Love yourself. Forgive yourself. Be true to yourself. How you treat yourself sets the standard for how others treat you.
– Steve Maraboli
Years ago I worked for a mortgage company in the Seattle, WA area. When I interviewed for a loan processor position, the branch manager told me that I shouldn’t take the job if swearing bothered me, as everyone in her office swore. I am good at tuning out what I don’t want to hear, so I went ahead and accepted the position.
I had been on the job just a month or two when one of the other employees in the branch came up to me with a question. She wanted to know what I had said to everyone that made them not swear when I was part of the conversation. I told her that I hadn’t even realized that they didn’t swear when they spoke to me, and that I hadn’t told them anything. She wanted to know why they were treating her different than they treated me. I told her something like the above quote. We subconsciously tell people how to treat us. If she wasn’t being treated how she wanted to be, then she needed to look inside of herself to determine what needed to be changed.
Our job is to love others without stopping to inquire whether or not they are worthy.
I think that the hardest part about giving and receiving love is that it puts us at risk of being hurt. We worry about whether this new being in our lives will hurt us, if we open our hearts up to giving and receiving love.
Faith ends where worry begins, and worry ends where faith begins.
– George Mueller
My father (stepfather) married my mother, and took on six girls ranging in ages from newborn to 9 yrs old (I was the 9 yr old). Not one time in over 49 yrs has the word “stepdaughter” ever come out of his mouth. Every time it has been “my daughter”. My parents went on to have one more child, my brother, who is my dads only “blood” child. My brother and my dad have a rocky relationship. What so many of us had a hard time with, is that we want people to behave in a certain way. We want a mother, father, spouse, brother or sister, to say or do certain things, and when they fall short of our expectations, we create trauma around it.
When you love someone, you love the whole person just as he or she is, and not as you would like them to be.
– Leo Tolstoy
My mom passed away over 20 yrs ago, and our dad has been living with my husband and I for the past 11 years. A couple of years ago, my brother and I had a long talk about his dad, and why I maintained our relationship after our mother died. With those that we love in our lives, our close friends and relatives, it can be easy to look at their faults. To see all of the “dirt” in their lives. Those faults pop up like neon lights blinking and blinking, “look here”, but there are also hidden nuggets of gold laying alongside each fault line.
None of us can be the perfect parent, son, daughter, sister, brother, or spouse. It has meant a lot to me that “step” never came before daughter. He has other well hidden (LOL) nuggets of gold, and he has his share of dirt, just like every one of us. We need to adjust our “glasses” to see others through the filters of gold, instead of just neon signs of dirt.
At the same time, we can’t live our own lives trying to live up to the expectations of others.
Stop seeing yourself through the eyes of others. You will never be able to live up to their expectations, and it will leave you feeling broken and insecure… Rather see yourself as the beautiful soul God made you to be, and know he made you to do great things.
– Karen Kastyla
Have your ever looked at yourself through the “fun house” mirrors at a fair? They distort your shape, making you tall, small, thin, fat. Some of them distort just a portion of your body and others the entire body. When we try to live our lives for others, we distort ourselves creating a fun house mirror – we don’t see us, we just see the distortion.
This is your own journey. Don’t let others define it for you. You shape the path of your journey through your effort, hard work, love, aspirations, dreams and always your pure intention.
– Abira Mukherjee
When I look at this photo, I see love on both the mans and the cats faces. The cat doesn’t expect the man to act like another cat. The man doesn’t expect the cat to be a dog. They see the nuggets of gold in each other. Their love is apparent. They may not live up to 100% of the expectations. And that failure to live up to expectations, doesn’t mean that they damn up their love behind a concrete barrier, demanding that the other behave a certain way.
I know that my cats expect breakfast each morning the minute my feet hit the bedroom floor. Since during the week I get up at 5 AM, on Saturday, Sunday, and any holidays, they still expect breakfast at 5 AM. They seem to live with the disappointment (although they can be quite demanding and noisy about it – LOL). They still rub up against me purring. They still hop in my lap and try to type on the keyboard when I am busy. I still pet them, feed them, and cuddle them. I know that I will have to remove at least one cat every time I sit down at the keyboard to compose one of these posts. I accept their need to interrupt me when I am not paying them enough attention, and they accept that I am eventually going to shut them out of the office so I can finish my post without kitty paws typing. (I blame all spelling errors on my cats!).
In the end nothing we do or say in this lifetime will matter as much as the way we have loved one another.
– Daphne Rose Kingma
Your soul is a compass. Change one coordinate in your spiritual compass and you change your entire life’s direction.
– Caroline Myss
We are here to discover what our work in this world is to be, and once we find it to pursue it with passion. Every night in our dreams, our imagination and creativity go to work to find what we are looking for. We need to ask ourselves powerful questions to put that time to good use. I highly recommend a dream journal.
Life will only change when you become more committed to your dreams than you are to your comfort zone.
Every night take just a few moments to center. Review your day. Now ask your soul for the perfect question to dream about. Then write that question down in your journal. Go to sleep with that question in your thoughts. Record any dreams that you can remember upon awakening. If you make this a practice every night, you will start dreaming the answers. It might take a little while for your subconscious to get what you are doing. But if you are consistent, answers will start happening. It is up to us when we wake up, to bring those dreams into reality. Following our passions is critical, because it is the key to unlocking the hidden door to our purpose.
With one kind gesture you can change a life. One person at a time, you can change the world. One day at a time, we can change everything. – Dr. Steve Maraboli
Be passionate about seeking for the truth, instead of assuming you already know it. Everything we know about life is constantly changing. If we become dogmatic about a definition or interpretation of what our life is about, we will get stuck in a falsehood. Think of all of the inventions that are common place around us, that were considered at one time to be impossible. Men walking on the moon, space ships, submarines, airplanes, etc…
The ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.
– Steve Jobs
Blaze your own trail with the understanding that if we come to a dead end, a road closed sign, if we see that the bridge is out or a mudslide or avalanche has blocked our passage, it isn’t because we chose the wrong way. We didn’t fail, and we don’t just stop right there and refuse to move. We don’t whine and moan about how unfair life is, and how we should just give up.
When you know who you are; when your mission is clear and you burn with the inner fire of unbreakable will; no cold can touch your heart; no deluge can dampen your purpose You know that you are alive.
– Chief Seattle
There is a purpose and meaning in everything that we do. Along that road we gathered up items that we will need for our journey, we just don’t know it yet. The so called “end of the road”, is just a cul de sac for us to turn around in and continue our journey. A small group of thoughtful people could change the world. I call these world changers, LemonadeMakers.
A small group of thoughtful people could change the world. Indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.
– Margaret Mead
Your profession or calling is what you’re put here on earth to do. So do it with such passion and intensity that it becomes spiritual in its calling. This is how you find the “great work” that Steve Jobs spoke about. The only way to do great work, is to love what you do. Don’t settle by believing in the naysayers that say it can’t be done. Some of us are meant to change the world, to spark the brain of others to help us do so. Some of us are meant to hold everything together for those who do. Trust your instincts, and do the very thing that they say can’t be done. Don’t be afraid to fail, be afraid to not even try. It is how you find out who you really are.
If you cannot do great things, do small things in a great way.
We have all been placed on this earth to discover our own path, and we will never be happy if we live someone else’s idea of life. Unless you are a little madly insanely passionate about it, it’s a waste of time, and a waste of your abilities and gifts. Never stop believing that you can do what the divine put you here to do. Risk comes from not knowing what you are doing. Take risks, because that kind of action is what changes the world. The people who didn’t know it couldn’t be done are the people who do it. Then everyone does it. It all starts with one voice calling out of the wilderness. Small acts performed by many people, can change the world.
The most dangerous risk of all – the risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself freedom to do it later.
And most of all choose to listen to that inner voice, and not the random opinions of others. That whisper from the heart that tells you that you are not to be one of the mediocre things in life. That whispering voice that says to chase curiosity. Chase your passion.
Passion will move men beyond themselves, beyond their shortcomings, beyond their failures.
– Joseph Campbell
Live a life worth living. A life that says, “I am a certified, bona fide, being of light, capable of transcending all fears and manifesting all dreams.” (words in quotes adapted from Notes From the Universe). Talk with people who will make you see the world differently. People from different lifestyles and cultures. People from all kinds of backgrounds. It helps you to understand yourself from a different perspective. It grows and shifts you into a better human being. It helps you to uncover what kind of difference you want to make in the world.
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.
– Steve Jobs
Or as Spock always said, “Live long and prosper” – so go out and change the world!
Have you ever had a healing crisis? A healing crisis isn’t just a health related crisis. It can be healing any part of our life that just isn’t working out the way we know that it should.
Nothing has transformed my life more than listening to what needed to be heard.
– Jeffrey Shaw
Years ago, when I was first working in the financial industry I had just received a huge promotion. I was really working hard, and for some reason, the different aspects of the job were just not working out right. I finally had a long talk with my boss, and following her advice I turned things around. I knew that I was perfectly capable of doing the job, but I just couldn’t figure out why it wasn’t working. I think that at different shifting points in our lives we run up against this road block. We need a different set of eyes to see what needs to be seen. To see what needs to be transformed.
If you’re trying to achieve, there will be roadblocks. I’ve had them; everybody has had them. But obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.
– Michael Jordan
Do you know why Michael Jordan was so successful? This quote gives us a clue. He didn’t reach a roadblock and say, “oh well, I guess I am not talented enough to do this”; or “oh well, I guess this dream was just too big for me to accomplish”. No, he practiced until he was able to break it down. He worked with coaches who were able to help him see what he couldn’t see.
Remember that your greatest talent is so much more powerful than your biggest fear.
There comes a time when we need to take a calculated risk. If you look at the game of baseball it really speaks to calculated risk. The player who is on first base, will watch the pitcher, the batter, and outfielders to gauge how far off the base he can go without getting caught. If he gauges it correctly, he can steal a base, or even make it to 3rd base with an infield hit from the batter because of getting the head start.
I think sometimes you forget that you were born to be awesome. (here’s your reminder)
In our lives, if we risk nothing, we get nothing. In personal transformation, we need to take calculated risks. In our life of personal growth, in order to grow we have to take our foot off the safe “base” we are on. We need to risk opening the chrysalis with the hope that we have finished our transformation, and the wings are ready to fly.
Risk more than others think is safe. Care more than others think is wise. Dream more than others think is practical. Expect more than others think is possible.
– Ronnie Max Oldham
This really is the only way to live your life. Not putting off things until we think it is safe. Really opening our hearts completely in how we care about others. To understand that the reality is that almost anything is possible. Whatever is currently stumping you, just means that you are not asking the right questions, or the right people for help.
Our thoughts are very powerful. When we focus on what we lack, we create blockages and limitations. We become imprisoned by the vibration of our negative energy.
– Randi G Fine
In other words if we think that we can’t we will be a self fulfilling prophecy.
If you think you can or you think you can’t you are right.
– Henry Ford
I find myself doing this sometimes. I stress about not having enough time and sure enough, unforeseen stuff starts filling up my life. Then I catch myself, and unlock the door to that cage, freeing myself and all of a sudden, the stuff just starts going away and I have my time back to do what needs to be done.
Remember, the moment you accept total responsibility for everything in your life is the moment you claim the power to change anything in your life.
– Hal Elrod
So if you find yourself in any sort of “healing crisis” at the moment, just take some time to meditate as to how you just lost yourself in the woods. Transform the path by backing up or regrouping. Get back on the path that you were traveling.
And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what the storm’s all about.
– Haruki Murakami
This is another critical piece of the transformation puzzle, in really getting to know oneself.
Let go of what you thought life was all about. Let go of your expectations of life and people. Let go of holding on to something so hard that you become brittle, hard, and breakable. Let go, so that you can move forward. Be a once in a lifetime kind of woman, build a castle with all of the bricks that others throw at you. When women are connected and collaborate together, they are the most transformational force on our world. Probably in our universe. When you have your whole tribe behind you, you are fearless, because you know that they have your back.
A woman is like a tea bag. You never know how strong it is until it’s in hot water.
– Eleanor Roosevelt
Have you ever watched someone who isn’t the type of look that is considered beautiful? Someone who is so confident and centered in who they are, that they radiate something beyond beautiful. It is like you can’t not look at them. They are so comfortable being overweight, or too short, or boyish looking – whatever isn’t considered by the masses to be like a model. Even so they show us the true essence of beauty.
Embracing your true self radiates a natural beauty that cannot be diluted or ignored. Confident, powerful, untamable, badass you!
– Dr. Steve Maraboli
Life tests all of us. We all get some lemons in our life. Each time we make lemonade from those lemons we rise up. We become stronger. And what is so important to remember is that we are ALWAYS strong enough, even when we think we aren’t. This is what the whole “make lemonade out of lemons” is all about.
There is a purpose in each lemon that life gives us. It is to help us reach back to that dream we had when we were a little girl. To fulfill that promise that you made to yourself that when you grew up, you were going to . . . , whatever that fill in the blank is. Don’t disappoint that little girl. Go out there and create the fulfillment of that dream. There are thousands of other little girls who are looking for inspiration and encouragement, that they too can fulfill their dreams. Be brave and be that woman! Be an empowered woman with vision. Give to yourself the grace to achieve what you set out to do, and self awareness to do it with a soft heart and honest open arms.
Ask for what you want, and be prepared to get it.
– Maya Angelou
It is better to have a heart without words, unable to express what is crying to come out, than to offer words without the hearts emotion contained within them. Prayer is a longing of the soul to be expressed in a way, that mere words cannot but fail to express. The heart speaks to the soul, and it listens to what the soul has to say. This is the birth of inspiration, the breath of life itself. Hold on to the vision in your heart. Trust the process, life’s lemons, in order to bring that vision into reality.
We need women who are so strong they can be gentle, so educated they can be humble, so fierce they can be compassionate, so passionate they can be rational, and so disciplined they can be free.
– Kavita Ramdas
I heard the expression today of “The Moon Shot”. What it was referencing was the attitude that was displayed when President Kennedy said that we were going to the moon. No one had any idea how to do it, but he energized the nation to figure out a way to do it. Give your life a “Moon Shot” experience. Shoot for something that you have never done, or don’t even think is possible for your to do. Give it everything you have to bring that moon shot vision into your own reality. Believe. Act as if. Live like you have already accomplished it.
I am not what has happened to me. I am what I choose to become.
– Carl Jung
As you move down the path of creating your own Moon Shot experience, forgive yourself whenever what you are trying doesn’t work. Forgive others when they don’t believe in you, and even when they try to stop you. Forgive God whenever you hit the frustration button and start blaming him, bemoaning your life experience. Forgive any situations that create heartache, anger, and bitterness in your life. Forgive yourself for not being, or doing something different. Let all of the anger, fear, frustration – all of the negative emotions that you have been carrying around, flow free from your heart and soul. Stop giving failure a negative meaning. Realize that when you turn that lemon into lemonade, the experience becomes a powerful blessing to you and others.
There is no force equal to a woman determined to rise.
– W.E.B. Dubois
Self awareness is an amazing gift that we can give to ourselves. Take notice of what shows up in your life. Who and what you are attracting into your life. There is a map inside of you, that tells you where you are, and where you are going. But you have to be self aware to read it. Otherwise, it is like listening to six people talk at once, each one in a foreign language. You know they are saying something important, but you can’t make head or tails of it. Self awareness is necessary to move the mountains in our life. Self awareness is what makes life’s journey a full on mountain climbing experience.
I know it’s hard to women to tap into that feeling of self-worth. We need to get the message out that you are valued, your are a goddess and don’t forget that.
– Jennifer Lopez
Don’t let anyone tell you it can’t be done. That you aren’t capable of doing it. Don’t hide yourself. Don’t demean yourself. Don’t let anyone or anything get in your way. Claw your way up and out, fight for what you believe in, for your dreams and visions. Choose your battles and don’t give up. Be the strong, powerful, confident, driven woman that you are.
I believe I’ve always been a big believer in equality. No one has ever been able to tell me I couldn’t do something because I was a girl.
– Anne Hathaway
Hopefully I am not the only one that this happens to. On my commute to work and back to home, my brain is so busy detailing everything I have to do – both at work and at home. The minute I step into my office or my home, that list magically hides itself. I forgot most of what I have to do, being busy doing so many other things. Then the minute my head hits the pillow, the list reappears as a list of everything that I didn’t get done. Does anyone else go through this?
Why is taking action so hard? We have these dreams, passions around our life. The space between a dream and reality is where all of the action has to take place. We want whatever the dream is. We talk about it all of the time. “Don’t wait for your feelings to change to take the action. Take the actions and your feelings will change” Barbara Baron.
We tend to put off the hard parts. The parts where we aren’t sure what to do. I do it everyday. Put off the conversation I don’t want to have with a friend, relative or co-worker. Put off studying for a test because I am afraid of failing it. Not asking for what I want, because what if they say no? I am sure that this list could go on forever. The key is to just take a first step, then one more. Don’t look at the whole mountain that needs to be climbed, just look at the next few steps.
I always think about physical workouts here. If you are on a treadmill, and your goal is five miles. You start to get worn out and out of breath on mile three. Those next two miles seems like impossible. Seems like forever. Seems like Mount Everest. Seems like you can’t do it. But here is where a little stubbornness comes in handy. You just tell yourself five more minutes, and you take the next step and the next step, and before you know it, that fifth mile is done. Be proud of every next step, not just the one that puts you over the goal.
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” Aristotle. It is important that these lists are not just a grocery list or a laundry list. Things that take up time and space, but are not really taking a step. That is the first step of procrastination. What I call the shiny object or squirrel. Have you seen the cartoon, where the dog is doing or saying something, then shouts squirrel and takes off right in the middle of it? That is a squirrel. I come into my office to write this blog post. Then I see some mail that I forgot to take care of yesterday and so I do that. Then an email comes in, so I read that. Then I think of something I wanted to research and I do that. Two hours later, I haven’t written a single word of the post I came in to write. That is chasing the squirrel. I didn’t really take a single step toward writing that post, and now my time is gone.
The best that we can do is to promise ourselves to be better and do better. The best that we can do is to keep trying, putting one foot in front of the other. To ask ourselves, what is the most important thing I can do right this moment to take that next step, and then just take it. Don’t wait for permission. Don’t wait for the perfect moment. Don’t wait for anything, just take that next step. We might fall down. We might get hurt or do what we later judge to be the wrong thing. It doesn’t in the big picture matter. What matters is that we took what we saw to be the next step. The funny thing about life, is that those steps that we judged to be wrong, are usually the steps that give us what we need for a future step. So that, in the long run, none of the steps were really wrong.
“I promise myself,
To be so strong that nothing can disturb my peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person I meet.
To make all my friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them.
To look at the sunny side of everything and make my optimism come true.
To think only of the best, to work only for the best and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as I am about my own.
To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To give so much time to improving myself that I have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.
To think well of myself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words, but in great deeds.
To live in the faith that the whole world is on my side, so long as I am true to the best that is in me”
Christian D. Larson
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