Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway.
– Earl Nightingale
On our birthdays and the beginning of each new year we take a look at both the time that has passed, and what time might yet be available to us. We think of the dreams we have that haven’t come true yet. We wonder if we have what it takes to get them done. We might even judge ourselves of not being worthy of them coming true. I firmly believe that if God has planted something in my heart to do, then I must have the ability to do it. At the same time I wonder if he’s really, really sure I can do it, because it feels like it is just out of reach. I wonder who am I to go after something that big. Fears creep in all sorts of shapes and sizes to prevent the dreams from being fulfilled.
My son has been visiting with his wife and little dog. They took in a rescue dog about a year ago. He’s named after the pirate in the movie The Goonies – One-Eyed Willie because before they got him he lost an eye. Willie loves cheese. My son will hold up a piece of cheese and Willie will jump up to get it. He will hold it up just out of Willie’s jumping ability and it is amazing how high that little dog will jump for his cheese. At first you think he can’t do it, but he is determined and somehow he gets just a little bit higher and grabs his cheese. We all cheer for him.
When we are pursuing a dream, it has to be something just out of reach. Otherwise it isn’t something that stretches us. Something that we aren’t sure how to do or what to do to make it happen. Like Willie, if we want it bad enough we will find that little bit of extra strength, and leap up just high enough to grab our cheese (dream ) and pull it down into reality.
Take a moment and write this out for yourself (taken from the program DO IT SCARED with my own additions) fill in the blanks at the end of each sentence.
This is the year that I will MAKE ____________________________________________________ (your dream)
This is the year that I will do MORE ____________________________________________ (something positive that moves the needle)
and LESS _____________________________________________________________________ (telling myself if can’t be done or quitting at the least sign of resistance or failure)
This is the year I will CHOOSE _______________________________________________________ (the hard choice to stretch myself)
OVER ________________________________________________________________________ (the easy choice that maintains the same boundaries I now have)
to do BIG things this year, I MUST DO __________________________________________________ (one action, one step at a time) to get started TODAY.
Every year millions of people make New Year’s Resolutions or Goals. If you have ever joined a gym, you see it happen year after year. The goal of weight loss or physical fitness of some sort is made and the gym’s are all packed in January. In February they begin losing a few people, In March a few more and by April the gym is back to what is normal attendance. Why do we make goals each year that after a few months fall by the wayside? And what can you do to make this year different?
So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then when we summon the will they soon become inevitable.
– Christopher Reeves
I don’t think it is just a matter of being something you truly desire. And it isn’t just a matter of will power. Or attitude. Or a million other words that mean essentially the same thing as motivation. It is more complicated than that. Some of it is planning. Some of it is accountability. Some of it is getting past the feeling of overwhelm, because we have so much on our list of what needs to be done or may not even know how to do. Some of it is getting past feeling frustrated when we seem to be stuck in the mud and can’t make any progress. So many other little negative reasons, stop signs, or caution lights that add up to another year, in which we didn’t make any or very little progress towards our dreams.
Don’t wait . . , start your business, write your book, enroll in school, start your blog, choose happiness. You won’t regret starting now.
As we discussed in the previous post the year 2020 is all about focus 20/20 eyesight that allows for perfect clarity, both near and far. Vision that is crisp and clear. To build on our foundation of living a better life, whatever that means to you personally. A year where we can make progress each month and celebrate what we are accomplishing.
A dream written down with a date becomes a goal. A goal broken down into steps becomes a plan. A plan backed by action makes your dreams come true.
In pursuit of that take the paragraph that you wrote out above and from those words create three big hairy audacious goals for the year 2020. One of mine is to launch The Transformational Life Compass program starting with the first of three programs in February. We did a pilot class in October/November 2019 for six weeks and it was very inspirational. The first course will be for three months. I am really excited about it because I know how much I have transformed my own life using these same tools. I was really excited in watching everyone who participated in our pilot course. They made connections between the archetypes they have been living under, their past experiences, and how self sabotage was showing up in their lives from those archetypes and experiences.
The road to success is not straight. There is a curve called failure. A loop called confusion. Speed bumps called friends. Red lights called enemies. Caution lights called family. You will have flat tires called jobs. But if you have determination, an engine called perseverance, and a driver called God you will make it to a place called success!
Rather than just talking about how to fill in a bunch of answers and creating a goal plan with steps, I would love to invite everyone to a virtual get together and walk you through step by step how I created my own 20/20 vision for myself and for what I would like to accomplish with LemonadeMakers for 2020. Learn how to claim your goals; how to refine them; and how to understand what your motivation around those goals is all about. It’s not just about writing some words on a piece of paper. We are going to brainstorm our way, map out the detours around the obstacles, and fully implement your plan.
Just click below to go to a google form to collect your contact information so I can send you how to get on our Zoom call. I know that if someone gives me something I may or may not make the time to actually do the work. But if someone takes the time to work with me through the material I get some action and forward momentum started. So take this small first step for 2020 and lets make some noise!
What I know for sure is that we all hit walls of failure, fatigue, and flat tires. It helps us to have a few tricks up our sleeves to handle them so that they just create slowdowns and maybe a few detours, but don’t stop us completely. In the movie Star Man with Jeff Bridges there is a line about yellow lights when they are driving down the road. “Starman: I watched you very carefully. Red light, stop; green light, go; yellow light, go very fast.”
Click below and let’s all learn to “go very fast”.
Success is not built on success. It’s built on failure. It’s built on frustration. Sometimes it’s built on catastrophe.
– Sumner Redstone
If you have been following our posts for some time, you probably know the story of why I started writing my blog. My nephew Carl was murdered in a random act of gang violence, literally walking through the park at the wrong time. As you can imagine, this took a toll on our family. In addition to grieving over his death, I was concerned about my sister making it through this tragedy. I started writing through my own grief for both of them on my personal Facebook page and it took on a life of its own.
Persistence can change failure into extraordinary achievement.
– Matt Biondi
After a couple of years I created LemonadeMakers – because when life gives you lemons, you need to make lemonade. At least I did. Every part of life is full of choices. You can choose to hide in the negative or dig for the positive. Sometimes it seems like we don’t have a choice, but we always do. It feels like we are so sunk down into the mud, that mud is all we can see. We then miss the dry ground, the doors that we could open. The chance for a different choice or response, to what is happening.
All I knew was that I had to bring something good and positive and life affirming to the table for myself and my family. Then as I cleaned the mud off of me, I saw the need to bring this to others, because we are all going through something. Maybe not as tragic or violent as my nephews murder, or maybe something even more so. So a dream was born that just maybe I could help others, inspire them to make their own brand of lemonade.
Love challenges, be intrigued by mistakes, enjoy effort and keep on learning.
– Carol Dweck
As LemonadeMakers has grown, so have I. It has challenged me to work on my writing skills. Believe me, I have heard from many readers when the grammar is incorrect, or the misspelling made it through spellcheck. I think I have proof read something 10 times, and then I am reading an old post and see something that I missed. It has helped me grow a thicker skin, and let go of the need for perfection and so many other lessons.
Challenges are what make life interesting. Overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.
– Joshua J. Marine
2019 has come to an end and I wanted to talk about how you keep going, growing, and expanding your comfort zone from day to day. In 2019 my birth father died and I had to let go of the dream I have had for over 55 years – that some day he would call me and tell me how much he loved me and wanted to be a part of my life.
I have been caring for my bonus father (I don’t like the step part of any label, as though it is less than the real thing) and his health has been steadily deteriorating this year and he has been in and out of the hospital. He is starting to lose brain function and it breaks my heart.
This August we found out that my husband of 46 years has prostrate cancer. It is outside of the prostrate and so surgery isn’t an option and he is starting radiation therapy. He was a long haul truck driver, so he had to retire a little sooner than we were planning on.
The entire year I have been working month to month, each month waiting to hear if this is the month I get laid off work. I have worked for the bank for 15 years and they keep extending the lay off, and they also keep telling me it is coming.
Failure is not the opposite of success; it’s part of success.
– Arianna Huffington
When you add this year up, it has pretty much sucked. I am sharing this with all of you for a couple of reasons. I know that I am not the only one that had things go sideways in her life this year. I think it helps when you know you are not alone in walking and sometimes crawling through life’s storms. I also wanted to share with all of you some of the great things that happened this year, the times when the storm clouds parted and the sun shined for a brief moment reminding me that storms don’t last forever.
Failure is so important. We speak about success all the time. But it is the ability to resist or use failure that often leads to greater success.
– J.K. Rowling
I stepped out and made a video about “Catching the Perfect Wave”. I tried to do a couple of webinars, which failed dramatically with no one or only a couple of people attending. I discovered my own way of doing things, rather than just following in someone else’s steps of how things should be done. I learned a lot and really expanded my comfort zone around talking and teaching with groups of people.
Success is not final, failure is not fatal; It is the courage to continue that counts.
– Winston Churchill
I created a pilot program about transforming your life. It centered on the first ring of the Transformational Life Compass, which is all about the labels we live our lives around, the archetypes in our personalities and how to see how we are sometimes our own worst enemy in self sabotaging our life. We granted scholarships to 22 people and while everyone didn’t show up and some didn’t finish – I think it was a great success. The full program will start in February and I am really excited about the life transformations it is going to create to those brave enough to come and join us.
Important achievements require a clear focus, all-out effort, and a bottomless trunk full of strategies. Plus allies in learning.
– Carol Dweck
I think that 2020 is going to be a turning point year for a lot of us. I love the thought of 20/20 vision, focus that is crisp and clear. The ability to see both near and far without fog distorting the images. So how do we take all of the lessons of 2019, the good, bad and ugly experiences and build on that foundation something even better?
The only limit to the height of your achievements is the reach of your dreams and your willingness to work for them.
– Michelle Obama
For the start of the year, to give us all 20/20 insight and vision of what we can accomplish in this brand new year, I am designing a workshop. It will give all of us working together the tools of how to plan out the new year. What to do when the lemons start falling off the tree and hitting us in the head.
There is a military proverb that says something like “in war the battle plans only survive until the battle begins”. Every year we make goals or resolutions to make changes in our life. It might be for health, or education, a better job, working on our marriage, raising children, buying our first home and so on. Those goals or dreams seem to survive the first month or two of the year and then they morph into something unachievable and unrecognizable.
There are no limits to what you can accomplish, except the limits you place on your own thinking.
– Brian Tracy
With everything going on with my job, my husband, and my dad, I could put my dreams for the next step for LemonadeMakers on hold. I could put my entire 20/20 focus on these very important personal things in my life. I could just let LemonadeMakers struggle along until my personal life got easier. I put my writing on hold for too many years. I refused to do that in 2019, and I won’t do that in 2020. I am in a marathon and there comes a point in running where if you keep going, you break through into a new level. I want to share with you how I did this in 2019 and how I plan on it in 2020.
The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.
– Eleanor Roosevelt
So stay tuned tomorrow for Part Two, to read about some of the tools I use and that you can use too – I can’t wait to share everything with you!
And every day, the world will drag you by the hand, yelling, “This is important! And this is important! And this is important! You need to worry about this! And this! And this! And each day, it’s up to you to yank your hand back, put it on your heart and say, “No. This is what’s important.”
– Ian Thomas
What we all need to realize, is that the lights of the passing ships are mere distractions preventing you from living your life to the fullest. They are the battles that you fight each day, but which do not lead us anywhere. When we honestly realize how asleep we are in our lives, those are the moments when you can begin to challenge the ongoing distractions and bring focus back to the stars – the lights of our true destination.
In a world deluged by irrelevant information, clarity is power.
– Yuval Noah Harari
It’s like someone has set up a circus tent in front of us. You hear the chaos of the music and the shouting barkers telling you about what’s happening in their tents. You hear the shouts and screams of people as they spin and circle and go up and down on the rides. You smell the funnel cakes and cotton candy and popcorn. Bright lights spin on the games as they encourage you to step up and try your luck. So many distractions that you can’t hear yourself think. All of the bright shiny objects promising you the moon, if you just come nearer and pay attention to them. It is a constant battle for your attention. Who wins? The one you pay attention to.
It is those who concentrate on but one thing at a time who advance in this world.
– Og Mandino
I love to ride the roller coaster. To watch the performers with the animals. To see the daring artist high up on the trapeze dancing across the wire. There are lots of fun and exciting things that we can do in our life. What we have to decide is are they part of our goals and dreams, or are they just fun distractions that keep us occupied, distracted. Are they keeping us occupied so that we are not making the changes and transformations that we need to make in order to achieve the life of our dreams? Are they fun things that we should be saying “no” to?
The successful warrior is the average man, with laser-like focus.
– Bruce Lee
Are we living our life with laser-like focus? I always think of Bruce Lee when he is in his stance about to engage with someone in battle. He doesn’t hear the sounds around him. He doesn’t see the bright shiny objects trying to distract him. He see’s only one thing – the man in front of him that he’s about to engage in battle with.
The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.
– Marcel Proust
Remember the movie City Slickers? Remember Curly, Jack Palance’s character? I love his famous line –
“Curly : Do you know what the secret of life is?
[holds up one finger]
Curly : This.
Mitch : Your finger?
Curly : One thing. Just one thing. You stick to that and the rest don’t mean shit.
Mitch : But, what is the “one thing?”
Curly : [smiles] That’s what *you* have to find out.”
When you are pursuit of the “that one thing”, then the rest of the world fades away. We don’t see the lights of the passing ships – we are laser focused on that star – that bright shining light in the night sky. We no longer wander through the circus seeking distractions. Now we are traveling for fulfillment. We are seeing the world with new eyes. New eyes that are open for the first time to the many doors of potential and opportunity that we missed when we were being distracted by the circus.
But I’ll tell you what hermits realize. If you go off into a far, far forest and get very quiet, you’ll come to understand that you’re connected with everything
– Alan Watts
That is kind of what the movie City Slickers was about – those men had gone asleep to what was important in their lives. They were living by distraction, not laser-like focus. The meaning of life can be found in many things if we are awake and looking for it. It tends to show up when we are out of our normal element. Going off on a day trip to the mountains, the beach, the desert. Away from the day to day of our life. Away from the distractions that follow us around.
Be addicted to your passions, not your distractions.
It is when we can get quiet that a connection is possible. We finally see the truths we have been avoiding with the distractions. We discover that the thread of destiny in our life, is where the laser-like focus really begins to take shape. That “thing” that we not so much latch on to, as it latches on to us. We are pushed, pulled, and prodded until finally we realize that we have no choice – we have to live the life that brings our destiny into fulfillment.
Tomorrow becomes never. No matter how small the task, take the first step now!
– Tim Ferriss
If like the character in City Slickers you don’t know what that “one thing” is, go find it. Go somewhere quiet without any of the normal distractions in your life. Sit and think about your life. Dig up all of your old dreams that you abandoned as not being possible when you failed the first time. Reconnect with your passion, the thing that liberates your energy and your spirit. The thing that inspires hope in you again. When you find it, do everything in your power to stay connected.
In life, people tend to wait for the good things to come to them. And by waiting, they miss out.
– Neil Strauss
Let the circus roll on by. Don’t stop for the Carmel Corn or the Hot Dog. Don’t go on the rides, or play the games, or watch the circus clowns climb in and out of the clown car. Keep your eyes on the stars, and not the passing ships lights. Clarity, focus, making things happen. That’s how you keep your eyes on your stars. Ignore the circus as it shouts to you about what it thinks is so important. Once you understand your own destiny, your secret of life, don’t let that connection go. Remember that the best view comes after the hardest climb.
You can’t change what’s going on around you, until you start changing what’s going on within you.
What is the difference between a professional or an amateur, and what does that have to do with change? Many things, but the first thing that comes to mind is this: An amateur stops with the initial change, while a professional understands that the first change is just the beginning and that many more will follow.
So an amateur might be the caterpillar that builds the chrysalis and thinks he is done. He has changed his life. While the professional takes a much longer viewpoint and realizes that he not only needs to build the chrysalis, but that there will be changes within the chrysalis and that at some point, which those transformations have been fully completed, he will need an exit strategy. Then he will need to emerge into a new world, and that this world will expect more changes and transformations out of him. Just like the butterfly, there is a new life to be fully explored. The chrysalis was just the beginning.
Life is not always fair. Sometimes you get a splinter sliding down a rainbow.
We must live a multidimensional, multifaceted life. The first viewpoint is just that – a first. There are so many angles to view life from. Part of that process of becoming a professional, is realizing that feedback or coaching shouldn’t be viewed as negative. It shouldn’t be viewed as a personal attack, even if it is delivered like one. I remember years ago reading something that really changed my life. If someone is telling you that you did something wrong, and you didn’t do it – you should still listen to what is being said. The very fact that it is being said means that somewhere in the garbage being unloaded on you, is a gold nugget. Instead of getting mad, hurt, angry and yelling at the world for being unfair – look for the gold nugget. We all have weak spots – things that we don’t see or recognize about ourselves. Finding out what those are and working to bring them into our circle of competence is what will make us successful in any endeavor.
You have to fight through some bad days to earn the best days of your life.
Professionals accept failure as a learning tool. In sports such as baseball or basketball you learn that you can’t hit a homerun or have the basketball shoot through the hoop every single time you try. But you can analyze your process and use the failure as a tool towards growth and mastery of the sport. In the same way, the more consistent we are with our process of change, of transforming our lives through the failures, the better our outcomes will be.
Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds, cannot change anything.
George Bernard Shaw
Knowledge is power, because we know what to do. But the application of that knowledge is what is really important. It is the correct application of knowledge that brings true wisdom to the fore. It is this – the knowledge of why the rule is there, tells us when it should be followed and when it should be broken. It is the understanding of bringing humanity into our decisions. Of understanding when the needs of the many outweigh the needs of the one, or when the needs of the one outweigh the needs of the many – both can be true. It is the focus of both long term and short term results that tell you which way is the right way. It is understanding second level thinking.
Old ways won’t open new doors.
When we first meet someone, we make a judgment about the person. Based on what they look like, how they present themselves, how they talk and move – we make a superficial judgment about who they are. If you were to meet me on the street, because I dress very casually, and love to shop second hand stores and don’t live in an upscale neighborhood you might make a certain kind of judgment about me. If you heard about how poor our family was when I was growing up and that I left school my senior year and didn’t get a college degree you might make another kind of judgment about me. If you heard that I am a Director at one of the top five banks in the world, you might make another kind of judgment about me.
Don’t judge my choices if you don’t understand my reasons.
All of those would be superficial and not take into account a million things that are also true about me. Second level thinking goes beyond the superficial where most of us live our lives. Second level thinking is deep, complex, and convoluted. It is the kind of thinking required to play chess well. It looks at all of the moves that can be made on both sides of the board, and levels that up to all possible plays with each new move. It looks at each piece of knowledge; at where the decision paths converge and at when they then separate. It creates a consensus of all of the data and of all of the probabilities, then it comes to the best decision based on everything that is known and can be guessed.
One of the happiest moments in life is when you find the courage to let go of what you can’t change.
It is the realization that the first answer we think of, the first thing we think is the right way to go is rarely so. It is knowing that absolutes are almost never the right answer or the right way to think. That black and white thinking keeps us in first level thinking and keeps us in the large amateur crowd. We need to be curious and consider all of the probabilities and possibilities. We need to understand that true reality is not what we want to see, but what’s true. Get curiouser and curiouser. Take the time to deep dive into exploration; into letting our minds run, and look for the inspiration to do and be different.
We cannot become what we want by remaining what we are.
So it all comes down to being curious. To up-level our thinking to the second or even third level. To looking at reality – not from what we want it to be, but what it is. From making big and little changes, even micro changes – but always making new transformations in our lives.
The biggest gap in your life is between what you know and what you do.
– Bob Proctor
It is up to us to be a prisoner of our past, by remaining in it; or to be a champion of our future by building it. If your life path was to travel from one of these formations to the next one and so on to the end, how would you do it?
There is always a gap between intention and action.
– Paulo Coelho
You could anchor yourself and rappel down the mountain, then walk to the next peak and scale up that peak. Then cross the peak, rappel down the mountain and repeat over and over again.
We are human. We are not perfect. We are alive. We try things. We make mistakes. We stumble. We fall. We get hurt. We rise again. We try again. We keep learning. We keep growing. And we are thankful for this priceless opportunity called life.
Or, you could become a bridge builder. You could build a temporary bridge out of ropes or wood, or a bridge designed with stone or steel that would last for many years.
Listen to your heart. It knows everything.
– Paulo Coelho
Neither way is wrong or right. Just different choices. We could for sake of argument take opposing viewpoints on the better, faster way to walk this path. We could discuss how those that follow us would make better speed with some type of bridge. Or how scaling up each peak would define us, and make us stronger. For me, rock climbing would be facing the fear of falling to my death. It would test my faith in ropes, cords, carabineers, slings, anchors , and harnesses. At the end of the day, the analogy is that each of us has our own path of divine destiny to walk. There really isn’t a right or wrong way to walk the path. The lessons will come to us regardless of what we choose.
The purpose of life is to be defeated by greater and greater things.
– Rainer Maria Rilke
Some time ago I self identified a pattern that I have. I call it one foot on the brake and one foot on the gas. It began with a childhood experience when I was four years old. I was very motivated to the best in school and when I was an adult to climb the corporate ladder. I was also very introverted and didn’t like to be seen and noticed. This pattern of drawing attention to myself by being a master at my job, and then shrinking back when I got the attention used to drive me crazy.
Mind the gap – it’s the distance between life as you dream it and life as it is.
– Cate Blanchett
I finally through years of self improvement identified this pattern and starting working to shift and transform it. Every time I feel like I am walking in slow motion, or pushing a boulder up hill, I know that this pattern has reentered my life. It is an energetic signal that I am being blocked in some way. Have you ever had a project you wanted to complete and every time you sat down to work on it, you would remember something else you had to do. It might be an email that simply must be written and sent now. It might be laundry or dishes that have to be done. You notice a spider web on the ceiling that must be removed. You have to run to the store. Your mind is looking for something to distract you away from the project. Suddenly the whole day is gone and you didn’t work on it at all.
Put gaps in your life: moments to reflect, prepare, meditate and breathe.
– Jody Adams
For whatever reason your life pattern is trying to shift you away from the project. There is something about this project that it wants to avoid. In some manner, this project is pushing up against the boundaries you have set in your subconscious. It sees a danger, and so it works hard to gently distract you away from it. The completion of the project will in some way change and shift your life – it could be that you are aware of it, or it could be some unforeseen possibility that your subconscious wants to avoid.
In my case, I started shifting the pattern first by writing these blogs. It felt safe because I am unseen and unknown to you. Then I started speaking on stages about my transformational work. This was also not too hard, because with the lights on a stage, it is hard to see the audience. They aren’t up close and personal. The hardest thing to shift was being able to walk into a room and not be terrified of meeting and having conversations with strangers.
Negativity is born in the gap where love has been excluded Gaps occur in places where we are afraid to see ourselves.
– Deepak Chopra
What I have discovered though is that this pattern is really great at camouflaging itself. It has chameleon qualities. When I started with this Facebook page, I knew that I needed a website for the blog posts. Instead of 30 – 45 days it took me nine months and the hold ups were all from me. It took me months to actually sit down and start writing my first book. I am now creating a webinar series to go deeper and share my Transformational Compass™, as well as the launching of my first book and what we are calling our Ambassador program. Again “Cami” my life pattern of putting on the brakes has been showing up. The good news is that it is taking less time for me to recognize what she is doing and shift her efforts at slowing me down.
I may not have gone where I intended to go. But I think I have ended up where I needed to be.
– Douglas Adams
Many teach that we came into this life to have a certain experience. Mine seems to be dealing with this pattern of foot on the brakes, when I am pushing hard on the gas to accomplish a goal. Now I recognize it has chameleon like qualities. I know that when I feel like I am not progressing towards my goals, I have to go looking for that sneaky lizard.
Love is a beautiful things to bring into the gap of life’s unknowns.
– Lysa TerKeurst
Here’s to the space, the gaps, the pauses, the silence. Here’s to embracing five minutes of slow everyday. Here’s to savoring that cup of tea, hot chocolate or glass of wine. Here’s to watching the wind in the leaves. Here’s to sitting in a swing and enjoying the feeling of flying as we swing up into the sky. Here’s to lying on a sandy beach and listening to the surf as the waves come into the shore and retreat back into the ocean. To the smell of the salt air and the cry of the seagulls. Here’s to lake fishing along the shoreline, casting out the line and sitting in companionable silence as you reel it back in and cast again. Here’s to listening to the laughter of our children and grandchildren. Here’s to sharing a meal with new friends and old friends. Here’s to a roasting marshmallows and making smores around an outdoor fire pit.. Here’s to turning off our phones and having a conversation.
The best thing in life is to go ahead with all your plans and your dreams, to embrace life and to live everyday with passion, to lose and still keep the faith and to win while being grateful. All of this because the world belongs to those who dare to go after what they want. And because life is really too short to be insignificant.
– Charlie Chaplin
This life pattern is my GAP – Gods Area of Preparation. This is where I learn about new ways that my life pattern has shifted, and I learn new ways to build bridges to close that gap.
The winds of life will try and pull you off course. The space between your values and behavior is called the Integrity gap. It is the places where what you say you are doing and what actions are actually taking place, have a gap. It isn’t that you are purposefully not living in integrity. It is that sneaky chameleon who has disguised itself to put up road blocks to the actions that you intend to do. Going back to places where you feel like you might have the brake and gas on at the same time. Once you recognize the patterns, it becomes easier and easier to remove the brakes and have your actions spring back into gear.
Can you see GAPs in your life pattern? Do you see where you need to learn to build bridges to close off the gap to get to your destination? Don’t be afraid to explore and discover what the broken pieces of you are trying to say. Mosaics at made from broken pieces, and they are a beautiful work of art. All of life experiences come together to create who we are. To expose the divine gifts we have, we rearrange the pieces to uncover the hidden treasures we have buried deep within us. To show us just how every shattered dream, served to provide just what was needed to move forward in strength.
Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending out lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not early as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy – the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.
– Brene Brown
Hope is the thing with feathers – that perches in the soul – and sings the tune without the words – and never stops – at all.
– Emily Dickenson
Hope is perching in our souls and singing to us everyday. It tells us these wonderful stories of what we can accomplish in our lives. Visualization is critical to this hope, as it helps to bring in everything we want in our lives. Hope is what keeps us going when we seem to fail in bringing our vision into reality.
I always think it’s important to constantly visualize success, but to consider failure, even for a second, so you can be prepared if things don’t work out just as planned.
– Jen Gotch
3M was trying to create super strong adhesives when they accidentally created the glue we have on post it notes. For years they couldn’t figure out how to use this glue in a commercial way. Then came a second accident. One of their employees who sang in a church choir put the glue on a piece of paper so that he wouldn’t lose his place in the hymnal for the songs they were singing. Then employees used it for over 3 years before they started to market it. Today it is one of their top selling products. So just because we might fail at what we are trying to bring into reality, doesn’t mean it really is a failure – sometimes it is even better than what we were trying to create.
Visualize this thing that you want, see it, feel it, believe in it. Make your mental blue print and begin to build.
– Robert Collier
In the movie “The Secret” and the book that followed it, they talked about visualization. Many people will tell you that they have a hard time with it, but if you tell your mind not to picture “your kitchen”, 99% of us immediately see our kitchen in our minds eye. It is a little harder to build a visualization of something that you have never seen, but block by block, with practice it can be done.
By visualizing information, we turn it into a landscape that you can explore with your eyes, a sort of information map. And when you’re lost in information, an information may is kind of useful.
– David McCandless
When I learned how to do it, I started with visualizing an orange. I would stare at a blank wall and try to form a circle. I practiced every day and eventually I could see a circle. Then I added color (orange), then texture (the dimples, feeling the smooth bumps). Then I would see it squirting juice down the side of the orange as I started to peel it. I would feel the spray on my face. When I reached that point of seeing the juice, I could actually taste orange juice in my mouth as I watched the juice run down the side of the orange. I just practiced every day for several weeks, until one day I didn’t need to do it step by step, it just instantly popped into my head. Then I moved on to other things. They seem real, because I put all of my senses into the visualization.
You’ll ever change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.
– John Maxwell
This really helped me to connect deeper to my imagination. When I read books, I now see the story in my mind. The sun shining on the ocean as it flashes bright lights along the cresting waves. I hear the waves crashing on the shoreline. I feel the wind blowing and as I dig my toes down into the cool part of the sand, I smell the salt air. I can totally enter the world being created by the author. When I am in this space, I see connections and possibilities that I have never thought of before.
A dream becomes a goal when action is taken towards its achievement.
– Bo Bennett
This is how I learn from everything that I read, because I enter into worlds I have no experience of. I love it when a really good movie brings you totally into the world they have created. You forget you are even watching a movie.
If you want to reach a goal, you must see the reaching in your own mid before you actually arrive at your goal.
– Zig Ziglar
I am sure that you heard the joke of the man who was on his rooftop, the water in flood stage cresting higher and higher towards him. He prays for help and God sends him some people with a canoe and he says “no thanks, God is sending me help”. He prays for help and God sends him some people with a motor boat and he says “no thanks, God is sending me help”. Then a helicopter comes and he says, “no thanks, God is sending me help”. Then the flood waters come higher and he drowns. Upon entering heaven he asks God, “why didn’t you save me?” God says, I sent a canoe, a motor boat and a helicopter, but you wouldn’t get in.
This kind of visualization is how we can attract into our lives, the things we need, to bring to us the goals and dreams we want. We have to remember that part of the journey, is the lessons we learn and how we grow and change, as we go towards our destination. By visualizing into the space the gratitude of already having it, by using all of the senses, we make it so real, that the divine is busy seeing what doors of opportunity it can open for us. What kinds of synchronicity it can bring into our lives. But we have to get into the boat.
The most important thing for us is to be looking for the doors and opportunities as they pass by us and grab them. Go through them, no matter how scared we are. Take the leap of faith that this is your answer, and climb up the ladder being presented and get into the helicopter.
I don’t know when it had shifted but it felt like the beginning of a wealth mindset had shifted into place. That the energy of money was flowing into my space and back out, with no discord or anxiety. No worries. It was just flowing by to meet not only my daily needs, but hundreds of other peoples daily needs.
Seems like a pretty cool place to live life from!
Never let your fears hold you back from pursuing your hopes.
– John F. Kennedy
How does one become fearless? Can you really be totally fearless? Would you want to? I think that if fear is standing in the way of something that I want to do, then I need to do something to break up that fear into smaller pieces. My own experience in life so far, has been that some measure of fear is healthy. It helps me to not be stupid and hurt myself. It also feeds into my spirit of victory when I accomplish something by growing through the fear and doing it anyway.
Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.
– Dale Carnegie
So how do you control fear in your life? How do you control your life at all? How do you figure out what is within your control and what isn’t? Part of it starts with understanding what is and is not under your control. When you accept responsibility for and control over, such things as your judgments, impulses, and desires, then your life changes completely. These are things that are within your ability to control. If you try to control other things beyond your control, that is when you just get weighed down. It is like trying to swim with cement shoes, it isn’t going to end well.
Here’s the truth about big life changes: some people won’t come with you. and that’s okay.
– Early Mama
We can’t control our reputation because it is based on exterior things that are beyond our control. We can’t control the spin that other people put upon what we say or do. We can however, chose to take the high road and not get mired down in the drama. How many times have things you have said or done been taken out of context and used against you? You will be driven crazy trying to control stuff like that.
Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
Your anxiety or getting angry about it doesn’t make it go away. It doesn’t suddenly become something that you can control. All it does is make you unhappy and destroy your peace of mind. You have the choice of continuing to self inflict injuries upon yourself by trying to control it, or you can let it go. Realize that in the end, people will either recognize you for who you really are or they won’t. It is not something within your control.
What would you do if you weren’t afraid?
The realization that what other people do is not your job to control, and you can’t make them change, will shift your world completely. You begin to focus on walking your own path. You are no longer try to control another persons journey. With your focus on your journey, the ups and downs of life even out. Your path becomes more serene. You aren’t trying to avoid drama, you are just not drawing it into your world. If something comes into your space, you just take a few deep breaths, let go of any desire to change someone’s else’s journey and keep walking drama free.
The fears we don’t face becomes our limits.
– Robin Sharma
What is amazing is that we also have the ability to shift the memories we have into ones that don’t create a negative emotional response inside of us. Our brain allows us to recall memories and reconsolidate them. This means that we can take a childhood memory and add new information that wasn’t available to us as children. We can turn fearful memories into fearless ones.
Everything we want is on the other side of fear.
– Jack Canfield
My sister Julie for example is a real scaredy cat. She jumps at anything. When she was a teenager, there was a movie that came out with a ventriloquist dummy that was a horror show. She was watching T.V. alone late at night and the commercial came on for the movie. She was terrified that it was coming after her. So she went to my parents bedroom door, opened it and called for my mom. My parents bedroom was up some stairs, and their bed was against the railing of the stairs. So my mom leaned over the railing to tell my sister to be quiet so she didn’t wake up our dad. When my sister saw a head looming down the staircase she screamed and fell over backwards, falling down the couple of stairs that she had started up. Needless to say, my dad was woken up – lol.
When you open your mind, you open new doors to new possibilities for yourself and new opportunities to help others.
– Roy Bennett
My sister as an adult can laugh at this story and it is no longer scary, because she has new information available to her, that her teenage self didn’t have. We can do this with any scary memory that we have. Update our memory with new information.
Life is like a game. You can play it safe and be good, or you can take a chance and be great.
With visualization we can do the same thing to our future. We can see into our future regarding something that we are scared of. We can go through the experience step by step over and over again in our mind. We can cross over from being fearful of the situation to being confident of it. This is exactly what Olympic Athlete’s do. They see themselves performing their routines perfectly over and over again. They have hooked up machines to them and discovered that the muscles of the athlete’s are actually firing just like they were physically doing the routine when they are just using visualization. The more they do this, the better their skills become.
Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.
– Neale Donald Walsch
So with visualization, we can preview anything coming up in our lives that we have intense fears over. We can practice what we would say or do over and over again. This will give us some confidence that we can accomplish the thing that we are afraid to do. When a rock climber wants to solo a difficult climb without ropes, they start out with ropes. They climb it several times to learn where to put their hands and feet. They then replay the climb over and over again in their minds. They lose a lot of the fear over the climb this way because they have gained confidence in their ability to do it by the repetition.
I am the master of my habits.
So break down the walls of fear that you built to keep you safe. Start believing and visualizing your dreams coming true. Take a practice run to see what you can do with the ropes of safety. Then expand that with visualization. Then go for the life you have been dreaming of living. Don’t let fear hold you back. Go become the person that you have never been, but wished you were.
One of the most common complaints is not enough time. There isn’t enough time to get everything done. When you have the demands of a career, a family, volunteering for your favorite charity, a spiritual life, trying to fit in physical fitness, etc. . . . how can you fit all of that into one 24 hr time period, or even spread it out through your week? How do you balance the hours in the day with everything that needs to be done? The most common answer is something called “time management”. I have read many books, heard speakers talk about it, but I have never been able to manage time. The best I can do is keep that running list that just keeps getting bigger and bigger.
You can do anything, but not everything.
– David Allen
What if it isn’t time management that brings a semblance of balance into a person’s life? What if it is boundary management? How many times have you said yes to your friend when she asked you to watch her kids, when you didn’t have the time to do it or even want to do it? How many times do you have priorities screaming at home you want to get done, but you let your girlfriend talk you into going out on the town? Not only did you burn up hours that you wanted to do something different with, now your budget is out of whack $100.00, and you didn’t even have good time.
Balance comes in the moments, when you stand up for the life you truly want for yourself, by making choices that align with that.
We could write a book of similar things that happen with work, such as having to work on Saturday because someone else in your department didn’t get their job done on time. Or your child’s school talked you into committing to baking 12 dozen cookies for the bake sale. You want to just drive by the grocery story and buy from the bakery, but every other mom is baking and so you feel that you have to too. All of these are not time management issues. They are boundary issues. We don’t know how to say no in such a way that they know we mean it. How do you say no in such a way that they know we still love them, but “no I can’t commit to that.”
Life is about balance; too much and too little can kill. The best way to balance life is setting your boundaries and learning to say enough.
– M G Garcia
When we don’t stand up for the life that we want, then we end up living the life that everyone else pulls us into. Boundaries keep our life on track and within the path that we have chosen to walk. There are a lot of trainings and seminars that sound fun to me. A lot of books that look like a great summer read. A lot of TV series that look like they would be fun to watch (everyone at work is talking about them). But I have boundaries in my life where I self limit the number of hours I spend on things that are not furthering the dreams in my life. I still enjoy TV and read great books, but I limit the number of hours that they suck up, because I could read book after book after book if I let myself. The dishes would sit in the sink, the laundry would pile up and I would get around to a lot of chores as soon as I finish the next chapter – LOL.
If you allow people to make more withdrawals than deposits in your life, you will be out of balance and in the negative. Know when to close the account.
So boundaries are both between me and the world, and between me and my dreams. I don’t have perfect balance. I binge on books or TV every once in awhile. But I am constantly asking myself, “does this help me grow and expand LemonadeMakers in some way?” When I do the occasional binge, it is because I have been working way too hard, and my brain needs a break. I just don’t let my brain stay on a permanent vacation. I love doing the research, finding the quotes and photos and writing these posts. I love the comments people make and interacting with the community. I am constantly learning new things so that I can bring them to my community and engage them in even more meaningful ways.
Try to always live a balanced life. Don’t deprive yourself, but don’t overindulge; don’t be lazy, but learn that it’s ok to relax; challenge yourself, but don’t be afraid to silly and let loose.
– Alex and Ani
In addition to boundaries, balance is also about letting things go in our life. Understanding the deeper concept of letting go or giving up. What is the difference between them? How do we know when we should keep trying and when we just need to stop? I always think of the hospital shows on TV. You see the doctor giving a patient who is having a heart attack CPR. 5 minutes, 10 minutes, 30 minutes? How many times do you shock the heart to restart it? There comes that moment when everyone else in the room has stepped back. You can see they want to say, stop, this isn’t working. But they are afraid to say it. Then finally someone says you have to call the time of death. No matter how many times you try, that heart isn’t going to start beating again. So how do you know if it is too soon or too late? When do you let go?
Life is a balance between what we can control and what we can’t. You must learn to live comfortably between effort and surrender.
– Quotes and Thoughts
When do you say goodbye to a job? To a relationship? To a dream? To a belief? When should you be holding on, and when should you be letting them go? Balance is usually achieved by living between the two extremes. Not letting go of things just because it is too hard; and knowing when to let go of things that no longer serve you. Letting go of things that are actually beginning to harm you, because of your refusal to let go.
Balance is not something you find. It’s something your create.
I think that we need to relook at what is happening with the thing you are trying to hold on to or let go of. Why are we being called to either hold onto it or release it? Is it tied to a fear? Is it too hard to accomplish? Is it unhealthy? Have we outgrown it or we just haven’t grown into it yet? Does it still reflect who we are growing into being?
I always think of children when explaining this concept. Maybe you have done this, but I am certain that you can think of a child who has done it. My son had a pair of rain boots that he loved. He was around 3 years old at the time. They were like fireman boots, all black, with a red circle around the top of the boots, and went up to his knees. I noticed one day that he was squishing his toes to fit into the boots. So I put them away in the top shelf of the hallway closet to save for his baby brother to wear when he was older. Every time I turned around he had those boots on. It didn’t matter where I hid them, he found them and put them on. Even though they hurt his feet to walk in them. I finally had to give them away.
He outgrew the boots. But he kept holding on to them. Even though it caused physical pain, he would put them on. I got rid of them because I was worried he was going to cause real damage to his feet. How many things in your life, are you refusing to let go of, that you have outgrown? Are the problems in your life actually being created because you refuse to let go?
This same son, fast forward to high school age. He enrolled in a drafting class because he was interested in drawing. About six weeks into the class, he came home wanting to quit the class. He said it wasn’t what he thought it was going to be. He wanted to take a German language class instead. I said he should stay in the drafting class and finish it. My husband thought he should be allowed to quit it. So he transferred into the German class. About six weeks later we were having the same conversation about the German class. I told my husband that he needed to learn to finish what he started. Whatever reason he come up with for quitting, it wasn’t the real reason he wanted to quit. The real reason he wanted to quit, in this case drafting or German language, wasn’t because he didn’t like the teacher, or any other off the top of his head excuse. It was because the class just hit a hard spot.
When life hits a hard spot in a job, or a relationship or a dream – we might think it is time to quit. We might think that the fact that we are having problems means it just won’t work out the way we wanted. We might think that the hard spot is proof that we were wrong about that dream being our destiny. That God is telling us to turn and go back to what we had before. That we are being called to a different dream, so we should close the door on this one as being the wrong one.
The only way to know that we should keep trying or quit, is to ask ourselves the hard questions around why we are doing so. We need to look at our past and see what kinds of patterns we have in regards to trying harder or quitting. We just need to keep growing into the best version of ourselves. To keep expanding the comfort zone. To be awake and conscious enough to understand when the subconscious is leading us astray in telling us to hold on to something that is harming us or we have outgrown. To balance that understanding of when the subconscious is being tricky and telling us to walk away from something that we just had a setback with. Not to believe it when it says that this is proof that we aren’t meant to be or accomplish that thing.
Your aren’t perfect. All you can be is your best. Be your best at work. Be your best at home. Even if you can’t spend the time you want in an aspect of your life, be your best at it when you are in it. Be in harmony.
– Dr. Bill Gentry
Never settle. Fight for the life, the career, the dreams, the love that you deserve.
– Mandy Hale
Women cry not just when they are sad. They cry when the are angry, frustrated, and misunderstood. They also cry when they are in joyous exultation, happy beyond bearing. When a divine truth enters a woman’s life, it strips her bare. These are tears that need to be honored. It is time to say goodbye to something that no longer bears the resonance of truth for us. It is time to say hello to a new truth. Playing with the fire of truth, we burn away the parts that no longer belong and refine what remains.
I will not trade my authenticity for your approval.
– Wild Woman Sisterhood
I went to see the Wonder Woman movie this past weekend. I enjoyed it, as I watched her face her idealisms being shattered. I watched her as she refined herself, her purpose in her life. The decision she made to leave the island. The decision she made to liberate the village. The life changing decision that she made in facing up to Ares and his taunts. Ares demonstrated in front of her that mankind wasn’t worth her sacrifices. I loved the principle that was celebrated, that it really didn’t matter if the people were judged as being worthy of her sacrifice. She wasn’t their judge about such things. She was doing what she did for her own beliefs that she held sacred.
Transformation is the journey you are on. You are exploring the wisdom of your soul. You are shedding old ways and beliefs that no longer fit who you are becoming. Be brave, dear one. You are becoming your authentic self.
It reminded me of when you are walking down the street and you see homeless people panhandling. Many would say, “they are not worthy of our hard earned money”. That, “they will just use it for drugs or alcohol”. That somehow, “they deserve the situation that they have landed themselves in”. My hope is that this movie gets us to rethink about the automatic judgments we make. The condemnations that we believe we are justified in holding. That we open our hearts instead to look for a different way. A better way to help those who have lost their way. We can’t change their lives for them, they have to do that. But we can give them a helping hand, a hand up, not just a hand out. That we can help to empower them to see, that they are worth something still. That they have a powerful story that can help save others.
If you are not free to be who you are, you are not free . . .
– Clarissa Pinkola Estes
There are days when the frustrations of running up against road blocks make you want to blow up the road, and disappear into the wilderness. You can’t let those days make you run away. There are too many people out there that are looking to you to show them the way to follow their dreams. Hold on to sisters who are fellow dreamers and action takers. When your flame is being blown out, they will shelter you from the wind. They will help you to regroup. They will be your saving grace to keep you from going dark. Each time we get into a level of frustration that has us wanting to “tap out” of life, we need to reassess what we are doing. If the actions we are taking are not getting us where we desire to go, then we need to reassess and regroup. What else is possible? How can we redefine what we are doing?
It takes 4 weeks for you to notice a change. It takes 8 weeks for your friends to notice. It takes 12 weeks for the rest of the world to notice a change. It takes 1 day to decide that you are enough.
I wonder how many times our change actually took place, and we stopped working on it on week 3 because we couldn’t see it happening? Maybe you have achieved something new, and then you threw away because you were still looking at yourself through the old filter. You couldn’t see what you had actually accomplished, so you just went back to the same old you?
Don’t wait until you’ve reached your goal to be proud of yourself. Be proud of every step you take toward reaching your goal.
Imagine you have a potters wheel in front of you. You are sculpting a bowl. You look at it and it isn’t what you were trying to make. Do you take the clay and throw it against the wall? Do you blame the clay or the wheel for not producing your work of art the way you wanted it to be? Or do you simply squish it back down and start over? If our bowl is to be molded to what we want, maybe we just look for ways to do it differently. What can we add, or take away? Go faster or slower spinning the wheel? More or less water? Create definitions higher or lower? We have millions of choices to get where we are trying to go. We also have millions of chances and changes to make in getting us there.
Transformation is often more about unlearning, then relearning.
– Richard Rohr
I always think about babies for this. They learn to roll over to change what they can see or touch. Then they learn how to get their legs underneath them so that they can move them and learn to crawl. Then they start using leverage against furniture to get them to stand up on their legs. Then they start walking and from there they start running, climbing and jumping. Each step fed into the next step. They don’t crawl once they have learned to walk. They let go or unlearn the crawling piece as they transform how they get around the room by walking, running, climbing and jumping.
The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.
In this same way, each new thing we learn essentially replaces a previous truth. At one time I was a roller, then a crawler, then I let those old truths be replaced with the next level of learning. All of those old levels of learning were necessary to get me where I am today. But they are not what is going to get me where I am going tomorrow. When the new door of opportunity for learning and growth opens up, go through the door. Don’t stay a roller or a crawler, stuck in a cramped space that no longer allows any room for new growth. Don’t settle. Shoot for the stars. Any time we find ourselves stuck in a cramped space and not growing, we need to accept responsibility for being there. In some way we are inhibiting our growth and transformation. Then step through the door to growth and transformation. Adjust your sails to catch the wind and fly across the waves.
Everything you want is out there waiting for you to ask. Everything you want also wants you. But you have to take action to get it.
– Jack Canfield
It is not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not.
– Denis Waitley
I was recently talking to my coach about my book that is being published this summer. It is a collection of 90 of my posts and it will be called, ‘Timeless Treasures For Today’s Living’. We were talking about how to promote the book and she was telling me of something that she had read about another author. They had created a program, where if you bought 50 books, you became an Ambassador of the book and author. In return she included a bunch of bonus items wrapped around some personal coaching calls, her monthly subscription program etc… The first thought in my mind was I am not worth someone spending that much money on me. No one would think that what I have is that valuable.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
– Eleanor Roosevelt
This quote includes not letting my own negative mind talk make me feel inferior. I immediately checked those thoughts of being unworthy. What was so interesting is that before our coaching call, I had been looking for new graphics for a post and I saw this picture with her hand on the mirror and looking away. It immediately called to me to write about self love. So already before I had that coaching call, my intuition was telling me that another layer of not accepting who I am was about to be revealed. I wouldn’t let anyone tell me that I am not worthy or capable of doing whatever is in my heart to do. So why would I allow my inner negative critic to do so?
Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.
– Brene Brown
It used to take me awhile to recognize that “Cami” was running my mind and was in control of my thoughts. I named her Cami, because she is so good at camouflaging herself. She sneaks into random thoughts, inserts herself into conversations and just all around makes a pest of herself. Cami and I journal together sometimes. I will write down a question for her, and then just detach from the answer and wait for her to tell me what to write down. She comes from a place of fear. She puts the worst interpretations on everything.
Have you ever been at work, just minding your own business and you get a call to go into your bosses office? What is the first thought that comes into your head? Is it, Oh no! What is wrong? What did I mess up? Am I going to get fired? And then you go into your bosses office and they just have some random question for you? That is your own internal Cami at work.
The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts.
– Marcus Aurelius
My Cami is just trying to protect me. She is afraid of everything. She criticizes me to keep me within her self designed comfort zone. Within that zone she controls the world and keeps me safe. The problem is that I am busy expanding that zone. I am busy learning new things. I have this Facebook page community to grow. I have the new LemonadeMakers Club to grow into a community of people who are looking for ways to expand their own comfort zones, and confront, reason, and work with their own Cami’s. I have my first book coming out this summer. So Cami and I have been conversing throughout the weekend.
Embrace the glorious mess that you are.
– Elizabeth Gilbert
The quickest way to bring Cami around to my way of thinking is to take what I want to do in steps. Kind of like when you take a small child to learn to swim. I would first hold them and get their feet wet. Then they would stand and we would walk out deeper and deeper into the water. Each step is a new victory. The only way to be confident of my own talents, gifts and abilities is to do what I am afraid to do. So I make Cami a deal. I will walk so far and then we will talk and negotiate a new distance to explore. Eventually I have her swimming in the deep end of the pool with a new comfort zone.
Tell the negative committee that meets inside your head to sit down and shut up.
– Ann Bradford
If I try to bulldoze her then she tricks me. Like being lost in the forest, I walk in circles. I think that I am making progress, but little things keep drawing me further and further away from my chosen destination. Have you ever had a day, where you planned out this list of things that you were going to get done – yet you find yourself 12 hours later, exhausted and you only were able to cross off 1 thing? That is your Cami at work again. Bright shiny objects grab your attention. A sudden desire to clean out a closet. You went to the grocery store just to buy milk and you came home with a months worth of groceries 3 hours later. Cami struck again.
I am strong because I know my weaknesses. I am beautiful because I am aware of my flaws. I am fearless, because I learnt to recognize illusion from real. I am wise because I learn from my mistakes, I am a lover because I have felt hate. And, I can laugh because I have known sadness.
By trial and error, you too can find a way to deal with your Cami. Maybe like me you will learn to journal and negotiate with her. Maybe you will be successful with willpower and bulldoze your Cami into submission. There are over 80 different kinds of hammers. Most of us are familiar with one kind. Now we can use that hammer for a multitude of projects, and sometimes they will sort of work. We might have a few dents, scratches, dings, but we finished the product. Or we could use the right kind of hammer, and end up with a beautiful work of art. Take the time to learn who your Cami is. What she is afraid of. How she wants to communicate with you. Learn how to reassure her. Appreciate that she is doing what she thinks is the right thing, based on your own past experiences.
Love yourself and be proud of everything that you do, even your mistakes. Because even mistakes mean you’re trying.
So back to the discussion about the book. I am going to look into what kind of Ambassador program I can create – so here’s the question for all of you – is anyone interested in helping promote the book?
It will be at least a 60 day program, with group calls and one on one coaching, a two year free membership with The LemonadeMakers Club and so much more. I will autograph the books and they will make great presents for those that you love.
Let me know what you would be interested in as a bonus for the program. We will design it around what you most want to explore, to get curious about, and to delve deep into.
When you truly “let go, and let God” you stop trying to make something happen by a certain time. You stop pushing the stop watch. You stop pushing those goals which are like large boulders up the hill, only to have them roll back down to the bottom when you get distracted.
You don’t always need a plan. Sometimes you just need to breathe, trust, let go, and see what happens.
– Mandy Hale
What will then happen, is that divine timing is allowed to work in its own way, its own time, and its own mysterious plans and ways. Paths open up before you that take you places that you would never have chosen to go. Places that open you up to something new and so delightful that you never want to leave.
Patience is quieting the ego and trusting divine timing.
– Dean Jackson
Divine timing has amazing short cuts. Let’s say that you have on your bucket list to go to Mt. Kilimanjaro. You have no money to finance this kind of trip. In your home town is a non-profit that you volunteer to work for. One day this non-profit, along with other agencies get a call to provide relief supplies for some villages near the summit of Mt. Kilimanjaro. You volunteer to go and help to deliver the supplies. The helicopter drops you off at the village. You are now within immediate climbing distance of your goal. Now they ask for some of you to go up towards the summit to deliver the supplies. Divine timing has just express delivered a bucket list goal and all you had to do is say yes.
Every experience is part of a divine plan.
– Jessie Neo
Now that story was totally made up, and you are probably saying, but that doesn’t really happen. So I want to share my own personal favorite story of divine timing happening in my own life, when I had no other choice but to let go, and let God.
My middle son called me to tell me that he and his girlfriend were getting married. I was so happy for them. This was in January and they had set the date for August. I sat down and planned out what I could do to get enough money together to pay for their honeymoon. If I was extremely budget conscious and could earn some extra commissions at work, I could just pay for the honeymoon that they wanted In Mexico. The end of February they called with a new surprise, they had moved up the date to May. I looked at my now destroyed plan and no matter how I moved the numbers, there was no way to pay for the honeymoon by the end of April.
So I sat down and pulled out some paper and wrote a letter to my self in that moment in time, from myself in June. I wrote how happy they were to go on their honeymoon. They had a terrific time and I poured every emotion and feeling of gratitude and happiness into this letter. I wrote how amazed I was how unseen forces seemed to move my financial mountains to make it happen. I wrote how I never could have forseen the ability to make my dream of paying for their honeymoon happen, and how grateful I was to God for providing me with the funds.
Then I put the paper away, with no attachment in a drawer and placed all of my faith in divine timing. Two weeks later, I got a phone call from a neighbor who lived across the street from our second home in Upstate New York. They wanted to know if I was interested in selling them 10 acres of our property. They would pay cash and we could close in two weeks.
Your journey has molded you for your greater good, and it was exactly what it needed to be. Don’t think that you’ve lost time. It took each and every situation you have encountered to bring you to the now. And now is right on time.
– Asha Taylor
Now when we had bought this house, it was on 20 acres. I didn’t know why at that time, but I negotiated to cut the parcel in half and have 10 acres of land and 10 acres with the house. We paid full price for the 10 acres with the house and $1.00 for the 10 acres of bare land. So I was able to say yes to the neighbor and we negotiated a fair price. We closed the end of March and the first week of April I was able to fully pay for my son and daughter in-laws honeymoon.
Even if I had thought of selling the land to pay for the honeymoon, it is highly unlikely that we could have sold and closed on it in 30 days. That time of year the area is still covered in snow. But I believe that divine timing knew that when I bought that house five years previously, I was going to need to liquidate that land to pay for my sons honeymoon. So because I had listened to intuition and split the property, divine timing was able to maneuver into place a quick sale and funds to pay for that honeymoon.
The universe knows the perfect timing for all of those things you want and will find through the crack of least resistance, the best way to deliver it to you.
– Abraham Hicks
A analogy of “letting go, and letting God” is water. Water always finds a way. It might take a year, it might take a day, but what is meant to be will always find its own way to completion. I always think of the Grand Canyon. Water carved that canyon out of solid stone. In one place within the canyon is a small island of stone in a perfect circle of water that wound around it. I don’t know how that perfect circle of stone is still standing. But the story my imagination tells me is that the stone was especially strong in that one spot and that it took water a lot of time and persistence, but it was able to carve away all of the parts that didn’t belong, until what was left, was what was supposed to be there. A tall stone island in a perfect circle of water.
So know that in your journey, you are always on perfect time, divine time. You are not early, you are not late. You are right now where you are supposed to be. And that goal, off in the distance that you are busy running to, will happen right on time. It may be that like me, you don’t see any way that you can make it happen. But if you are willing to listen to intuition. If you are willing to do things that may not make sense at the time you are doing them, like splitting up 20 acres into two 10 acre parcels, divine timing will place what you need into your hands, right on time.
There is no such thing as chance in our incredible universe. The coincidences and synchronicities are carefully orchestrated by your guides and angels. So recognize them as the hand of the spirit. Rejoice when you notice them for they are the angels message to you that you are on the right path. Start to expect them and look for them. Be aware that there is a divine reason behind them and consider that the message or lesson is. Synchronicity is also a reminder to you that all things happen in divine timing.
– Angel Cards Affirmations “All Things Happen In Perfect Timing”
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