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Don’t Be The Missing Piece In The Divine Puzzle

We are each a unique piece of the puzzle.We are all different shapes, colors and sizes.Yet we all bel

Eventually all the pieces fall into place.  Until then, laugh at the confusion, live for the moment and know that everything happens for a reason. 

 – Unknown

I have several bags of puzzles at home. At some point they must have had a box or pictures of the puzzles, but somewhere along the way that part got lost. So I have these puzzles with no idea of what they are supposed to look like. I put one together, starting with the borders and then just gradually tackling one inside piece at a time. The day finally came when the last piece was inserted and I could see the entire picture – Niagara Falls with the both of the cities on the American and Canadian side showing.

There are no extra pieces in the universe. Everyone is here because he or she has a place to fill ,and every piece must fit itself into the big jigsaw puzzle.

 _ Deepak Chopra

Life is like that puzzle. I could tell that I had water of some sort based on the pieces, but wasn’t sure if it was a lake, the ocean, or a river? I could tell that I had some sort of buildings, some landscape etc.. Every day I would spend some time just working on one of the corners, trying every single piece that seemed to have the right shape or color to it.

Life isn’t about finding pieces of a puzzle.  It’s about creating and putting those exceptional pieces together.

 – Unknown

Years ago I saw a movie called “Man of the House” with Farah Fawcett. She had this wall sculpture on a big board that she was putting together with pieces of driftwood, sea glass, shells, etc…  Periodically she would find something and put it on the board.  One day she finds what she deems to be the last piece, and declares it is complete.  It was like a puzzle, because each thing she put onto the board was something that she was drawn to.  Life is like that.  There are things that come into our life that just call to us.  We don’t know where they fit, or why they should be there, but listening to our intuition we put them on the board and create our very own puzzle.

Don’t lie.  Life is a puzzle and we are all unique pieces.  When you lie you make it impossible to find your true place in the grand design.

 – Dr. Steve Maraboli

We each have these unique gifts and talents to share as part of the divine puzzle. These are things that come naturally to us. That we just do with what seems like little effort. I can see patterns in how people talk and act. The missing puzzle pieces in their lives seem to call out to me to notice them.  I have some talent in writing. I can do things very fast because of the patterns that I see. You have your own unique gifts that you bring to this giant jigsaw puzzle.

You may find pieces to life’s puzzle in many places, but it is within you where the picture becomes clear.

 – Unknown

We tend to discount our gifts, We want to fit in and not be a unique part of the puzzle, The fear of risk in going for our own transformation, has us wanting instead to blend in. What we have is the opportunity to blend the fear of standing out, with the realization that we are a part of the divine plan. It is about seeing ourselves differently in relation to the world. How our differences is what makes the whole picture complete.

We all, at certain times in our lives, find ourselves broken.  True strength is found in picking up the pieces of our shattered lives.

 – Jill Hanna

The greatest gift that we have is of our own self transformation. Embrace whatever challenge is currently happening in your life as an opportunity for self transformation. Have you ever had an almost completed puzzle get scattered all over the floor?  Maybe a small child or your cat decided to have a little fun at your expense?  All your hard work destroyed and you  have to put it all back together again.  Or maybe you got to the last few pieces and discovered that the last piece was missing?  You tear the room apart looking for it.  Did you ever notice that the word challenge contains the word change (CHAlleNGE)?  When we are challenged in life; when our puzzle is missing the last piece or has been scattered across the floor, life is asking us to change in some way. Unwrap yourself, and go beyond your current form. Rise to the challenge and change!

A winner is one who accepts his failures and mistakes, picks up the pieces, and continues striving to reach his goals.

 – Dexter Yager

Unexplored Possibilities Are Waiting For You To Release Them

The most important thing in life is to stop saying, _I wish_ and start saying, _I will._ Consider not (1)

Limitations live only in our minds.  But if we use our imaginations, our possibilities become limitless.

  – Jamie Paolinetti

Possibilities are like rabbits.  The more you think about them, the more they multiply.  Pretty soon you have a field full of them.  The trick is to turn them into probabilities.  Probabilities are a guide to enlightenment, in the journey of life.  It is the secret of how the Phoenix arises from the ashes and is reborn.  The Phoenix has coded in its DNA the belief of triumph over impossible odds.  So even when defeated, it rises once more from the ashes to achieve the impossible.

You must find the place inside yourself where nothing is impossible.

– Deepak Chopra

Imagination, is like turning on the faucet.  When we start imagining the possibilities, the water gets turned on and we start getting ideas.  The trick is to just start writing them down.  No judgement or editing or being critical.  Just put them down on paper, idea after idea.  Possibility after possibility.  Once we have wrung every last drop out of our faucet, then we start looking at each possibility and see how many of them can grow into a probability.  That is how the miracles are born.  It is looking for the one thing that leaps off the page, no matter how impossible it seems.  That is the one, the one that your inner guidance is calling out for.  That is the one that causes the Phoenix to rise up from the ashes.  Do not allow the critical, judgmental thinking to chain it from taking flight.

Possibilities and miracles mean the same thing.

– Prentice Mulford

So where does that critical judgmental thinking come from?  It comes from our own insecurities.  From every unkind word we have heard.   From every well meaning person who said, “Oh no honey, you can’t do that”, girls aren’t good at sports, math, or science.  Or boys don’t play house or with dolls.  From every time we tried something, failed and walked away.  From every time we said we would do something, and didn’t.  All of those negative experiences pile up in our minds and become these critical judgmental thinking machines.  They promise us safety, that we won’t get hurt if we listen to them, but in reality they are the bars of a prison of our own making.

Until you cross the bridge of your insecurities, you can’t begin to explore your possibilities.

  – Tim Fargo

 The trick is to not believe the magician with his sleight of hand tricks. Not becoming attached to those negative beliefs.  They become chains linked to an anchor that we drag around.  Our imaginations can’t take flight with chains connected to an anchor keeping us bound to the earth.  We need to release all of those negative, judgmental thoughts as they do not serve us.  They are limitations, illusions of the magician.  He tells us that if we leave his stage we will be in darkness, no longer in the protection of his light.  We have built barricades from his illusions of danger, while leaving us exposed to an unlived life.  A life lived without passion and purpose.  A life that doesn’t fulfill our divine destiny.

Breathe in the sweet air of limitless possibility, and make life as rich as you know it can be.

  – Ralph Marston

So what if we burned the bridge of insecurities, and let the Phoenix rise from the ashes?  What if we release all of the trauma, drama, and old beliefs of what might go wrong, and instead place our beliefs in what is possible?  What if we dared to pick up the pieces of possibilities, and built wings to take flight with?  What if we lived in faith with infinite possibilities, and expected the promised miracles of probabilities?

Probability of Success

I won’t – 0%

I can’t – 10%

I don’t know how – 20%

I wish I could – 30%

I want to – 40%

I think I might – 50%

I might – 60%

I think I can – 70%

I can – 80%

I am – 90%

I did – 100%

What if we stopped saying, “I wish” and instead said, “Guess what I did today?”


Imagination Embraces All That We Can Be, And What Our World Could Be

_Learning is a treasure that will follow its owner everywhere_ Chinese Proverb

Do you want to change the world?

Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.

  – Nelson Mandela

One of my favorite non-profits is “The Unstoppable Foundation”.  Cynthia Kersey started this foundation out a burning desire to make a difference. Over the years that I have been supporting her work we have become friends. They have a sponsor a village model that they use across Africa, which brings not only education, which I believe is primary, but also clean drinking water and sanitation, medical, food and nutrition, and they help educate the parents for empowerment and income training, so they can raise up the entire village.  The plan is that after five years, the villages are self supporting and no longer need any aid.  Last year the first female student to graduate was accepted into college.  The five year plan is working.

And if we want to achieve our goal, then let us empower ourselves with the weapon of knowledge, and let us shield ourselves with unity and togetherness.

  – Malala Yousafzi

What Malala has done so successfully, is that she makes peace heroic. Success comes about not because of what you accomplish for yourself with wisdom, but because of what you inspire others to do. We all love being inspired by a hero. We are all hungry for meaning in our lives. Malala is bringing that meaning to many young girls and women around the world through education with her foundation.

Education is the beginning of the answer.

Education is the kindling of a flame, not the filling of a vessel.

  – Socrates

Education is the beginning of the journey. This is because book knowledge will only get you so far. The kindling of the flame is in being curious, in the “wonder” of application of the knowledge.

Wisdom begins in wonder.

  – Socrates

When you learn something, it starts with the brain, taking it in. Then it is important to download that knowledge down into the heart so that it can be transmuted into wisdom. Wisdom comes from the correct use of that knowledge. Like the American Indian story, we all have two wolves inside of us, one good and one bad. Who wins is the one we feed.

Educating the mind without educating the heart is no education at all.

  – Aristotle

Martin Luther King Jr. stated that we needed to develop a world perspective, instead of a loyalty to some race, tribe or nation. I think that education of girls and young women has really taken this world perspective on, as it is moving from just a few countries around the world, to envelop the whole world. It will take them out of child marriages. It will provide them with both opportunity and choices.

It will not only take these individual women out of poverty, it will lift entire nations our of poverty. It is what will bring the world out of darkness and into the light. It is both hope and peace. Educating the minds, hearts and souls of everyone is what will change the world.

But what about us, as in each of us? 

Education is the beginning of transformation.  Dedicate yourself to daily learning via books, audios, seminars and coaching. 

  – Robin Sharma

Many of us ended our formal education years ago, whether it was completing high school, trade school, or college.  But what have we been doing lately to continue our education, as part of our transformational process?  Some of us are book readers and some of us are not.  They have audio books now that can help those who hate to read, and it makes the commute to and from work have a whole lot less road rage. 

If I was to ask you how many books you read so far this year what would the answer be?  None, 1 or 2?  So, if you can’t make room in your busy life for books, what can you make room for?  In todays world with smartphones and apps like Kindle, it is really easy to have a book with you where ever you go.  Then whenever you are standing in a line, read a paragraph or two.  You would be surprised how many books you can read in a year doing this.  Especially in doctor offices and the DMV –  you could read a whole book in those waiting rooms – lol.

If you think that you are ready to take more wisdom into your life, I invite you to join our LemonadeMakers Club.  Come immerse yourself in transformational learning and thinking.  Come help us change the world.


To Grow, We Must Transform

Like the butterfly, I have the strength and hope to believe that in time, I will emerge from my ch

How can you tell if you still might be in a caterpillar stage of growth? Some questions to think about –

Do I hide my value or discount the gifts that I have for this world?
Am I tightly guarded, afraid?
Do I feel like I am stuck in the mud, unable to move?
Can I see my potential, but don’t know how to unlock it?
Do I feel vulnerable, tossed about with no control?

“If your view of reality is not supportive, is not positive, is not charging you with energy and joy and zest each day, it is time to change what you are paying attention to.  It is time to change your focus.  It is time to change your very definition of what reality is, what your life is, what your future will be.”  Brendon Burchard.  
Brendon tells the story of when he changed his focus on life.  He had broken up with a girlfriend and to heal had traveled to a South American country with a friend.  They were driving down a narrow rural road, late at night.  Because they couldn’t see well and there weren’t any road signs, they took a hair pin curve too fast.  The vehicle left the road and fell down a hillside.  Regaining consciousness, bleeding, and thinking he was going to die, he asked himself three questions.  Had he really loved, had he really lived life, and had he made a difference, did he matter?
Brendon realized that he wasn’t happy with his life.  That he needed to make some changes.  That he wanted his life to matter, to be able to say that his life made a difference to others.  We don’t need a possible life ending experience to look long and hard at our life.  In fact, we should take a life evaluation periodically.  It is really easy, to take a break and fall asleep in our lives.  How long will you allow yourself to remain in a caterpillar stage?

Unlike the real caterpillar, we have different phases of transformation. It isn’t a one time thing, go into the chrysalis and come out a butterfly for us. We have a mind, body, and soul, which is continually growing and expanding. Which means that we have different levels of transformation and growth.  “Spiritual growth involves giving up the stories of your past, so the universe can write a new one”  Marianne Williamson.  

Each time we feel stuck, we need to enter the chrysalis and undergo another change. Each time we realize that we have greater potential than we are using, we need to enter the chrysalis and undergo another change. “It’s not about being perfect.  It’s about effort.  And when you bring that effort every single day, that’s where transformation happens.  That’s have change occurs”  Jillian Michaels.  Transformation isn’t about “fixing” yourself like you are something broken.  It’s about transforming what is no longer serving you, to grow into who you are to become.

Taking the caterpillar to butterfly analogy one step further, the caterpillar exists by eating up the foliage of the plants it crawls across. It feeds the caterpillar, but does nothing positive for the plants themselves. Once the caterpillar transforms into the butterfly it now flies from plant to plant and helps to pollinate the plants to bring about new life. It helps in the creation of new life, a truly positive purpose.

In this same way, when we get stuck, hide our value, and become tightly guarded, we are not producing anything positive in the world, but rather we are just using up the resources around us. We are not giving back. We are not contributing.  “Unless you are prepared to give up something valuable, you will never be able to truly change at all, because you’ll be forever in the control of things you can’t give up”  Andy Law

“If we don’t change, we don’t grow.  If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living.”  Gail Sheehy.  But when we change, transform and grow, we are then in a space of being open, and sharing our values with the world around us. We pay it forward, because we delight in the joy of giving. We focus on how we can contribute to make the world a better place. We unfurl our wings to move freely in the expanded space of our transformation. We become a new creation, with a worthy cause fulfilling our divine purpose.

This chrysalis is the place to enter when we need a breakthrough. The breakdown results in a new way of thinking.  It is about seeing yourself differently.  Where we exercise the patience to grow and transform. The persistence to follow the breakdown through to the breakthrough. Knowing that the surrender is what leads to the life transformation will produce a new happiness of “we did it”. Bob Dylan said “behind every beautiful thing, there’s some kind of pain.” 

So like the butterfly, I know that each time I enter the chrysalis I will come out a new creation. That there is some old part of my life, that is outgrown and no longer serving me or the world around me, that needs to end. And in that ending I will, once again have the strength to emerge, and will be transformed in some way to further the unfolding of divine destiny.  It’s time to use those wings and dance lightly through the edges of change.

I Can Because I Am Limitless. I Am Because I Know No Boundaries

_Every Crisis contains within it the seeds of transformation and growth. Jodie Gale

Have you ever had a healing crisis? A healing crisis isn’t just a health related crisis. It can be healing any part of our life that just isn’t working out the way we know that it should.

Nothing has transformed my life more than listening to what needed to be heard.

  – Jeffrey Shaw 

Years ago, when I was first working in the financial industry I had just received a huge promotion. I was really working hard, and for some reason, the different aspects of the job were just not working out right. I finally had a long talk with my boss, and following her advice I turned things around. I knew that I was perfectly capable of doing the job, but I just couldn’t figure out why it wasn’t working. I think that at different shifting points in our lives we run up against this road block. We need a different set of eyes to see what needs to be seen. To see what needs to be transformed.

If you’re trying to achieve, there will be roadblocks.  I’ve had them; everybody has had them.  But obstacles don’t  have to stop you.  If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up.  Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.

  – Michael Jordan

Do you know why Michael Jordan was so successful?  This quote gives us a clue.  He didn’t reach a roadblock and say, “oh well, I guess I am not talented enough to do this”; or “oh well, I guess this dream was just too big for me to accomplish”.  No, he practiced until he was able to break it down.   He worked with coaches who were able to help him see what he couldn’t see.

Remember that your greatest talent is so much more powerful than your biggest fear.

  – Unknown

There comes a time when we need to take a calculated risk. If you look at the game of baseball it really speaks to calculated risk. The player who is on first base, will watch the pitcher, the batter, and outfielders to gauge how far off the base he can go without getting caught. If he gauges it correctly, he can steal a base, or even make it to 3rd base with an infield hit from the batter because of getting the head start.

I think sometimes you forget that you were born to be awesome.  (here’s your reminder)

  – Unknown

In our lives, if we risk nothing, we get nothing. In personal transformation, we need to take calculated risks. In our life of personal growth, in order to grow we have to take our foot off the safe “base” we are on. We need to risk opening the chrysalis with the hope that we have finished our transformation, and the wings are ready to fly.

Risk more than others think is safe. Care more than others think is wise. Dream more than others think is practical. Expect more than others think is possible.

   – Ronnie Max Oldham

This really is the only way to live your life. Not putting off things until we think it is safe. Really opening our hearts completely in how we care about others. To understand that the reality is that almost anything is possible. Whatever is currently stumping you, just means that you are not asking the right questions, or the right people for help.

Our thoughts are very powerful. When we focus on what we lack, we create blockages and limitations. We become imprisoned by the vibration of our negative energy.

  – Randi G Fine

In other words if we think that we can’t we will be a self fulfilling prophecy.

If you think you can or you think you can’t you are right.

  – Henry Ford

I find myself doing this sometimes. I stress about not having enough time and sure enough, unforeseen stuff starts filling up my life. Then I catch myself, and unlock the door to that cage, freeing myself and all of a sudden, the stuff just starts going away and I have my time back to do what needs to be done.

Remember, the moment you accept total responsibility for everything in your life is the moment you claim the power to change anything in your life.

  – Hal Elrod

So if you find yourself in any sort of “healing crisis” at the moment, just take some time to meditate as to how you just lost yourself in the woods. Transform the path by backing up or regrouping. Get back on the path that you were traveling.

And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive.  You won’t even be sure whether the storm is really over.  But one thing is certain.  When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in.  That’s what the storm’s all about.

  – Haruki Murakami

This is another critical piece of the transformation puzzle, in really getting to know oneself. 

Don’t Wait, Do It Now

My bed is a magical place where I suddenly remember everything I was supposed to do.Hopefully I am not the only one that this happens to.  On my commute to work and back to home, my brain is so busy detailing everything I have to do – both at work and at home.  The minute I step into my office or my home, that list magically hides itself.  I forgot most of what I have to do, being busy doing so many other things.  Then the minute my head hits the pillow, the list reappears as a list of everything that I didn’t get done.  Does anyone else go through this?

Why is taking action so hard?  We have these dreams, passions around our life.  The space between a dream and reality is where all of the action has to take place.  We want whatever the dream is.  We talk about it all of the time.  “Don’t wait for your feelings to change to take the action.  Take the actions and your feelings will change”  Barbara Baron. 

We tend to put off the hard parts.  The parts where we aren’t sure what to do.  I do it everyday.  Put off the conversation I don’t want to have with a friend, relative or co-worker.  Put off studying for a test because I am afraid of failing it.  Not asking for what I want, because what if they say no?  I am sure that this list could go on forever.  The key is to just take a first step, then one more.  Don’t look at the whole mountain that needs to be climbed, just look at the next few steps.

I always think about physical workouts here.  If you are on a treadmill, and your goal is five miles.  You start to get worn out and out of breath on mile three.  Those next two miles seems like impossible.  Seems like forever.  Seems like Mount Everest.  Seems like you can’t do it.  But here is where a little stubbornness comes in handy.  You just tell yourself five more minutes, and you take the next step and the next step, and before you know it, that fifth mile is done.  Be proud of every next step, not just the one that puts you over the goal.

“We are what we repeatedly do.  Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”  Aristotle.  It is important that these lists are not just a grocery list or a laundry list.  Things that take up time and space, but are not really taking a step.  That is the first step of procrastination.  What I call the shiny object or squirrel.  Have you seen the cartoon, where the dog is doing or saying something, then shouts squirrel and takes off right in the middle of it?  That is a squirrel.  I come into my office to write this blog post.  Then I see some mail that I forgot to take care of yesterday and so I do that.  Then an email comes in, so I read that.  Then I think of something I wanted to research and I do that.  Two hours later, I haven’t written a single word of the post I came in to write.  That is chasing the squirrel.  I didn’t really take a single step toward writing that post, and now my time is gone.

The best that we can do is to promise ourselves to be better and do better.  The best that we can do is to keep trying, putting one foot in front of the other.  To ask ourselves, what is the most important thing I can do right this moment to take that next step, and then just take it.  Don’t wait for permission.  Don’t wait for the perfect moment.  Don’t wait for anything, just take that next step.  We might fall down.  We might get hurt or do what we later judge to be the wrong thing.  It doesn’t in the big picture matter.  What matters is that we took what we saw to be the next step.  The funny thing about life, is that those steps that we judged to be wrong, are usually the steps that give us what we need for a future step.  So that, in the long run, none of the steps were really wrong.

“I promise myself,

To be so strong that nothing can disturb my peace of mind.

To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person I meet.

To make all my friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them.

To look at the sunny side of everything and make my optimism come true.

To think only of the best, to work only for the best and to expect only the best.

To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as I am about my own.

To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.

To give so much time to improving myself that I have no time to criticize others.

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of myself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words, but in great deeds.

To live in the faith that the whole world is on my side, so long as I am true to the best that is in me”

Christian D. Larson

Challenges Change Everything

_Everything changes. It is how you choose to adapt to those changes that will tear you apart.., or s

Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.

  – Eckhart Tolle

In 1885 the first practical auto was driven down the road.  The horse and buggy industry didn’t take notice.  They felt that this new fangled invention was just a temporary fad.  A few years later this industry discovered they were wrong, as the auto took over the roadways and became the common mode of transportation.  In March of 2009 Uber was founded and it is doing the same thing to the taxi industry.  In a few years the same thing will happen with the long haul trucking industry as driver-less trucks will become the norm.  One of the constants in our world is change.  If you aren’t paying attention your industry could be impacted, and you might no longer have an occupation.

You’re always one decision away from a totally different life.

  – Unknown

Just like these examples, most industries that we know and recognize in a certain way today, will at some point in our future totally change.  Most will be caught unaware when it happens.  In our personal lives, the same thing is true.  Everyday in some way, you are a new person.  In the past 24 hours you have probably learned something new.  You have probably changed your mind about something.  You realized, due to getting more information, or looking at it in a new way, that maybe what you thought about it wasn’t 100% true.  You outgrew a belief.  You adopted a new belief.  You released an old belief.

There are moments which mark your life.  Moments when you realize nothing will ever be the same and time is divided into two parts, before this, and after this.

  – N. Kazan

Change builds resilience in us.  Resilience isn’t being numb to the changes.  It means that even though the change you experience may have felt like you are a failure or hurt you in some way, that you keep going.   It takes courage to let go of what can’t be changed.  Sometimes this means that you have to learn a new job skill.  Sometimes you have lost an arm, leg, went blind or deaf.  It takes courage to find a new and different way to still be able to live the dreams you have for yourself.

You must face annihilation over and over again to find what is indestructible in yourself.

  –   Pema Chodron

When I was growing up, I realized through hard life lessons that my parents were not, and could not be the foundation of my world.  When I married my husband, I thought that he would be the foundation of my world, and through a hard life lesson, I learned that this was also not true.  Then I thought that God would be the foundation of my world, and discovered that this also was not true.  I had to be the foundation of my world.  Then on that foundation, I could build my spirituality, my family, my friends, my career, and everything else in my life.  But I had to build them upon me, as a true foundation.

The reason this is true for me, is I had to accept responsibility for just me.  I had to accept reality, and not try to push decisions or the results of those decisions on anyone else, including blaming God for what was happening.  First it was me.  I had to be the “hot coal”.  If you have ever had to heat your home with wood or coal, then you know that if you bank the fire at night, it is easy to get going in the morning.  This is because underneath the cold looking ashes, lies a hot coal.  It is easy to get the fire going again with those hot coals.  There is no way for me to be a perfect woman, but there are a million ways I have can be a good wife, mother, sister, aunt, niece, and friend.

Look around you. Everything changes.  Everything on this earth is in a continuous state of evolving, refining, improving, adapting, enhancing . . . , changing.  You were not put on this earth to remain stagnant.

  –  Dr. Steve Maraboli

We need to become like the hot coal, and not like the burning match.  When the winds of change blow into our life, if we are the match we burn out quickly and die.  But the winds of change blowing on the hot coals will cause you to burst into flames of light, and not burn out.  What we believe defines us.  What we tell ourselves about who we are, how we react to change, is a part of this definition of who we are.  I loved this photo because it is the same tree, the same field.  But each section presents a different season, time of day, 

The tragedy of life is not death, but what we let die inside of us while we live.

  – Norman Cousins

When we try to remain safe inside of the box, and resist change, we inhibit the natural growth that is supposed to happen in our life.  We in essence become deformed, deep inside of ourselves.  That is the real tragedy in life.  We stop living and just keep existing.

All you can change is yourself, but sometimes that changes everything

  –   Gary W. Goldstein

Do You Have The Courage To Break Those Chains And Redefine Your Life?

_I am like a book, with pages that have stuck together for want of use_ my mind needs unpacking an

When we are at the airport and getting ready to check our luggage, they always ask, “Has anyone asked you to carry something for them in your luggage?  Has anyone else packed your bags?”  Have you ever wondered how much of what weighs you down is not yours to carry?  What beliefs do you carry around in your baggage that don’t really belong to you?  When we unpack the stories in our luggage, what we find is that we are carrying around stories that belong to our parents, our grandparents, our family, culture, tribe.  Most of those stories are not ours.  They are not who we are.  They belong to others and need to be unpacked, they need to be left with those that they really belong to.  That is the luggage that needs to be checked.  Release it.

“I can’t”. . . , “it’s not possible”. . . , “I’m not good enough”. . . , These are the lies the demons of your past use to scare away the possibilities of the present.

  –  Dr. Steve Maraboli

There is a movie that Lucille Ball made with her husband about a trip they were making in a car that was towing a big trailer.  Along the trip the character Lucille was playing kept putting in these large stones or rocks of everyplace they stopped.  Finally the weight was so much, they couldn’t tow the trailer up over the mountains.  This is the same for us. 

How many of us walk around being weighed down by the baggage of our journey?  You can’t possibly embrace that new relationship, that new companion, that new career, that new friendship, or that new life you want while you’re still holding on to the baggage of the last one.  Let go . . . , and allow yourself to embrace what is waiting for you right at your feet.

  – Dr. Steve Maraboli

Our mind has these filters.  They sort through everything that we see and do, looking for proof of our beliefs.  We carry with us all of these heavy stones, which are stories of our past.  At some point the weight of the stories will pull us down, if they are weighted with negativity.  We need to unpack all of the “I should of’s” and “I shouldn’t have’s” and leave those stones at the side of the road you are traveling on.  We need to lighten the load, by releasing everything negative.

I am like a book, with pages that have stuck together for want of use.  My mind needs unpacking and the truths stored within must be turned over from time to time, to be ready when occasion demands.

  –  Seneca

The problem with our stories, is that they are usually one sided.  This is because our “truth” is never the entire truth.  It takes courage to break those chains and redefine your own life.  What we need to do is examine all of those stories.  We need to unpack the stories and ask, why they are important?  What about our true values do they reflect?  What about them brings us joy and happiness?  What do they tell us from a space of self love and trust? When we focus our light on the things that build us up, the things that were dragging us down will disappear on their own.  They can’t exist in our authentic light of love and truth.

Sometimes you don’t realize the weight of something you’ve been carrying until you feel the weight of its release


Our minds do not know the difference between actual events and our imagination.  Most of us carry these unconscious beliefs formed as a small child before we really understood what was really happening.  For example, when I was around four years old, I walked in on my mom having an affair.  Shortly thereafter my mom and dad divorced.  As a four year old, I assumed the responsibility of breaking up the marriage.  I felt that I wasn’t to be trusted, and that it wasn’t safe to be seen. 

That program ran my life all of my childhood and most of my adult life.  When I figured out what was creating the pattern of “my foot on the brake and gas at the same time”, I released that story.  I had nothing to do with the breakup of my parents marriage.  Now this pattern no longer shows up in my life.  Most of us have patterns created by a small child, that were made up by our imagination to explain something that we didn’t understand..

The things you want are always possible; it is just that the way to get them is not always apparent.  The only real obstacle in your path to a fulfilling life is you, and that can be a considerable obstacle because you carry the baggage of insecurities and past experience.

  –  Les Brown

So take a few moments and ask yourselves the questions we talked about.  Loosen up the load; put down the bags; unlock the chains and let them fall to the ground; unpack those bags.  Set yourself free.  Reminds me of the lyrics from 50 Ways to Leave Your Lover – Just slip out the back Jack and set yourself free.

Sometimes the most difficult part of any journey is believing that you’re worthy of the destination.  The one where you see that goal, that dream or what it is that you have always longed for.  You are brave enough to face the challenges and strong enough to see it through the end.  Never be afraid to take that first step.  With each new step, bringing you closer to it.  Believe it!  You can do it.

  – Brigitte Nicole

Just Because My Path Is Different, Doesn’t Mean I’m Lost

Traveler,there is no path.The path must be discovered as you walk.

It’s better to walk alone, than with a crowd going in the wrong direction.

 – Diane Grant

When we try to walk down another persons road, it leads to disillusionment and disappointment. That is because it isn’t “our” road. In the book “The Pilgrimage”, Paulo Coelho said that:

It is our decision to walk, that creates the road ahead of us.

 – Paulo Coelho

Trying to explain to someone what our personal truth is for the path we are walking, is like trying to explain rocket science to a baby.  It isn’t that the baby will never understand rocket science.  It is that the baby isn’t yet developed enough to understand.  We can’t explain our path to someone who isn’t yet at that same stage of their own truth.  It will only create misunderstandings, miscommunications, and lots of frustration.  Even we sometimes can’t put into words the necessity for why we have to do something.  We just know that we have to do it.  It has to do with our being conscious and open minded enough to realize when we are being directed.  It has to do with our acceptance of that direction, even when we don’t know why.

It takes courage to keep walking when the path is obscured by confusion.  TRUST.  BELIEVE.  And just keep walking.  The way will be revealed.

  – Sue Krebs

It is both being courageous and having curiosity, that keeps us forging ahead on the path. It is the journey itself, that grows us as a person. It is our attitude about what happens.  It molds us either for our greater good, or for living out life disappointed as a victim of circumstances and bad luck.  It is the difference between knowing what you need to do, and doing what needs to be done.  It is easy to get the knowledge, but the wisdom only comes from putting that knowledge into action.  It can’t just be “book learning”, it also has to be married to “learning in action”.

Getting lost along your path is part of finding the path you are meant to be on.

 – Robin S. Sharma

It has been said that it’s never about obtaining the “goal”. It is rather about who you need to become, to achieve the goal.  There are many different roads to walk. They go through many different landscapes.  It could be a forest path, with giant trees that shadow the land.  It could be through sand dunes and along beaches.  It could be a path of a river which sometimes meanders slowly, and other times rushes through rapids crushing you against the rocks, and then dumps you down a waterfall.  It could be the hot desert or the frozen tundra.  Each path will require different skillsets in order for you to become the master of your journey.  Different clothing, different shoes, different temperatures to be endured.  Different equipment from ropes, boats, sleds etc. . . .  It is always your choice of where you step, and which path(s) your choose.  If you don’t like the first road you chose, move over to a new one.

You must learn a new way to think before you can master a new way to be.

 – Marianne Williamson

It is always our decision to skip and sing our way along the yellow brick road, or to whine, complain, dragging our feet as we ask “are we there yet”?  Are you standing in your own truth?  Are you walking your own path?  Is your heart guiding you?  Look for the opportunities to better understand the journey.  Look for the helpers to guide us on our path.  The destination or outcome of our journey isn’t what is important.  It is who we are becoming, what we are actually doing that makes us successful.

I have always loved the saying, “It’s not the destination,… it’s the journey”. This is because the path we choose is our journey. It is where we live our life. It is all of life’s experiences. The good, bad, and the ugly. The messy parts, as well as the glorious adventures. We can see treasures every single day, if we just take the time to notice them.  Life goes on, it moves on.  It does it regardless of whether we are saying yes to our destiny or running the other way.  Since the path to happiness lies in the direction of our destiny, why not say yes?  Choose happiness.

Does the walker choose the path, or the path the walker?

 – Garth Nix

Along the way, we live life out loud. We can choose to taste and savor the experiences that that journey brings to us. The more that we can reach out in happiness, joy, and just plain exuberance, the richer our life is. The destination is simply a road sign. A sign that we made it to “X”. Then we begin planning a new destination or goal. It’s all about the road we choose, the path we forge.  Who we are becoming.  What we reveal and release that is not truly who we are at heart.

By choosing the path, we choose the destination.

 –  Thomas Monson

Have you ever heard the saying, “you can’t go home again”?  The reason why is that while you were away, you changed.  You look at things differently.  You think that everything changed.  But in reality it was you who changed.  The house you lived in as a small child, suddenly looks much smaller – the house didn’t change size – but your way of looking at the world changed.  We are all far from who we once were, and we are still farther from whom we are growing into.  What is really scary is when you go home again, and see those who haven’t changed.  They haven’t even put on foot onto their path.  They are still stuck back five, ten, or twenty years ago with the same victimhood mentality.  They are caution signs to keep walking on your path.

One’s destination is never a place but rather a new way of looking at things.

 – Henry Miller

So cast off the bowlines. Sail out of the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds and see where they take you. Remember that you are always only one decision away from a totally different life. Embrace the journey and it will love you back.  Trust your journey, even when you don’t understand where destiny is taking you.  It could just be the biggest, most juiciest trip of your life.

Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love.  It will not lead you astray.

  – Rumi

Remove The Boundaries And Make Your Dreams A Reality

 The Boundaries are Imaginary.The Rules are made up.The limits don't even exist

In 2013, in Oregon, teenage sisters Hanna (age 16) & Haylee (age 14) lifted a tractor to save their father pinned underneath.

In 2015, in St. John’s, Newfoundland, Nick Williams lifted a four-wheel-drive vehicle to save a young boy pinned beneath its tire.

In 2015, in Vienna, Virginia, Charlotte Heffelmire was able to momentarily use incredible strength to free her dad from a GMC pick-up truck.

The only thing limiting us in life is our belief that there are limits.

  – unknown

What do these three things have in common? They are what we call miracles, extreme feats of strength. Adrenaline on overload. What they demonstrate is that the rules, boundaries and limitations don’t exist. Why? Because we can blast through them, when we don’t stop to think about it. These examples show people that did something their mind’s would have told them was impossible. But because someone they loved was in danger, they did the impossible.

I don’t think people should have boundaries put on them, by themselves or society or another gender, because it is our birthright to experience life in whatever way we feel best suits us.

  – Hilary Swank

There was a commercial at Super Bowl XLIX for Always #LikeAGirl. In the video they have a woman show them what it was like to run like a girl, then a young teen, and preteen and little girl. The older girls ran in an unreal way that was weak and ineffective. The younger girls ran as fast as they could. The commercial highlighted the fact that women especially, when they hit puberty take in limitations to what they can do and be. 

Our beliefs are just thoughts with emotions tied to them that we’ve taught ourselves to believe are true. 

  –   JV Crum III

As teenagers, in order to fit in, we start holding back on what we can do.  75-80% of all negative thinking patterns come from negative beliefs that we make up about ourselves.  When I started school, I was four years old, turning five in November and entered first grade, because my school didn’t have a kindergarten.  So I was very small and always 1-2 years younger than everyone each grade.  I was always last to be chosen for any sport activity and so I formed this belief that I wasn’t good at sports.  Because of this belief I never tried to be good.  To this day, I am not active in any sports.  This is just a belief, and only my reality as long as I let it be. 

Beliefs have the power to create ad the power to destroy.  Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that disempowers them or one that can literally save their lives.

   – Tony Robbins

Ernestine Shepard, is a body builder.  She believes that age is noting but a number.  Because of that belief she is doing some amazing things.  When she was 56 years old she decided to become a body builder.  In 2010 she entered the Guinness Book of World Records as the oldest female body builder.  Now almost 80 years old she is still going strong.  She has been on Oprah and recognized throughout the world for what she is doing. She teaches an Energy Fitness Class at a gym.  She has a video created by Prevention Magazine.  She is an excellent example of it is never to late to take a negative belief about ourselves and break through the self imposed limitations with a new positive belief.

Don’t limit yourself.  Many people limit themselves to what they think they can do.  You can go as far as your mind lets you.  What you believe, remember, you can achieve.

   – Mary Kay Ash

All of us continue to allow limitations to rule our lives as adults. Some limiting beliefs are conscious and some unconscious. What we need to realize is that they are all just a belief of our imagination. At one time, the saying was man will never fly. If god had meant for man to fly he would have been given wings. But people like the Wright Brothers refused to allow that limiting belief hold them back from their dream.  Your beliefs either challenge you to get creative.  You allow your mind to rise up and create what is need to be successful.  Failures come about because instead of rising up, our mind create road blocks of all of the reasons why it can’t possibly work or why we are not enough to make it happen.  This path of limited thinking leads down into failure.

 You can have anything you want, if you are willing to give up the belief that you can’t have it.

   –  Robert Anthony

People with boundary problems usually have distorted attitudes about who is responsible for failures in their life.  It is because our parents made mistakes in how we were raised.  It is because we have relationships we are in right now don’t allow us the freedom we need to be successful.  It is because we don’t have a college degree.  It is because we are poor.  It is because someone is out to get us at work.  The excuses list could go on and on.   The truth is that they have built boundaries all around them, painted themselves into the corner.  The corner is limiting, but it feels safe.  They lack the courage to step over the line and actually risk pursuing something they want.  They are just plain afraid of any change in their life.

Boundaries are for those who are too afraid to take the leap.

  – quoted from @Business Beware

If you accept a limiting belief, it will become your truth.  What walls have you built over the door of opportunity that you are ready to blast into bits? What limiting belief are you ready to let go of?

Share with us your limiting belief that you are letting go of.   Your share will help all of us to do the same.

Keep Going. Everything You Need Will Be Provided With Divine Timing

_What to Remember When You Begin.What you can plan is too small for you to live.To be human is to% (1)Life is too short to think small.  If you think that something can be done, then it is too small.  If you think something is probably impossible, that is the goal to go for.  Not because the goal itself is the thing, but because of how trying to reach it will grow you.  If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change youGo for the moon shot kind of goals. Moon shot goals involve others in coming together as a community to make the really big goals happen.  Moon shot goals help others to reach out past their own boundaries and limitations as they buy into helping you accomplish yours.

The will to win.  The desire to succeed.  The urge to reach your full potential.., these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence. 

  – Sabine Mondestin

The hard work of the goal is in making the vision clear.  When we can see the minute detail, then we can make plans.  With plans come steps.  With steps, we begin moving into action.  We gain a tremendous feeling of confidence when this happens.  This confidence, grants us personal empowerment.  Empowerment fuels our passion to bring the goals into reality. This is how the miracles begin.

Your limits are somewhere up there, waiting for you to reach beyond infinity.

  – Arnold Henry

It is like the infinity circle in which one part feeds and fuels the next part, in an never ending cycle.  Clarity fuels the plans.  Then plans fuel the steps.  Then steps start the wheels moving and we get action.  Action gets us excited that stuff is finally happening.  Personal empowerment comes from actions taking place.  Personal empowerment in turn fuels passion.  Passion feeds back into clarity.  Clarity begins the whole process again.  This is because as the vision starts moving forward into implementation, we get more clarity.  Clarity starts new plans.  New plans lead to revised actions.  The whole cycle begins spinning again.

Until you cross the bridge of your insecurities, you can’t begin to explore your possibilities.

  –   Tim Fargo

With engagement the divine one moves in with synchronicities and doors begin to open.  People show up, all to bring our goals into reality.  We are not meant to accomplish things by ourselves.  But no one can help us, until we help ourselves.

I used to extinguish under the weight of living, but one day, I reached into my chest, dusted off my courage, and asked myself, “where’s your fire?”

  –   D. Antoinette Foy

Be strong about your goals, and flexible about your methods.  Be willing to try things you don’t think will work.  To try things that you have never done.  We learn by discovering what will work for ourselves.  Has anyone ever tried you train you by having you watch them do the job?  They walk you through a program.  They tell you what your inputs should be.  You go back to your desk, and you can’t remember what to do.  Your notes don’t make any sense to you.  But when someone sits beside you, and guides you as you do the work, now it sinks in.  You learn by doing it yourself.  As you do the work, you have the space to think of the questions you need to ask to understand the process.  When you just learn the process you are just a cog in a machine. When you understand the process, now you can innovate.  Now you can teach it.

When you are not willing to be challenged, disturbed, or offended, you are not willing to explore your weaknesses, or ever reach your highest potential.

 –  Bryant McGill

When we become visible, we take a huge risk.  Because not everyone is going to like us.  Some people are going to hate us, just because we are different.  There will be those people that will be mean and cruel.  That needs to be okay.  We need to understand that we are not here for everyone.  We are not here with our gifts for those who don’t want them.  We are here for those that do.  The only real difference between us, is that some of us have remembered why we are here.  Others are still asleep to their true purpose.   They don’t remember their divine inheritance.    They will find fault with what you are doing, without really understanding why it bothers them so much.  They act as a challenge to help you reach your highest potential.

If you are persistent, you will get it.  If you are consistent you will keep it.

  – Unknown

Such an interesting quote.  Being persistent is how we learn something.  Have you ever listened to a two year old, asking “why”?  They are the most persistent creatures in the universe.  Persistence is how you learn.  Understanding comes from doing it consistently.  We literally sink the learning down into our bones.  I like to think of learning, as how we learned to ride a bike.  Most of us can ride a bike.  But how many of us learned how to ride with no hands?  Learned how to jump the bike over obstacles?  Learned how to do a wheelie?  We were persistent enough to learn to ride, getting back on every time we fell.  But were we consistent enough to go past the basics and learn all of the tricks of riding a bike – did we become a master?

When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.

  – Lao Tzu

How do we let the amazing out of us?  We get curious.  We think, why not?   We question, how come?   We imagine, what if?  We wonder, who can I collaborate with on this?  Curiosity is the compass that leads us to our purpose.  Our reason for being here now.

When you are tempted to give up, your breakthrough is probably just around the corner.

  – Joyce Meyer

Then we work on our true inheritance, and accept that as we become masters on this earth, that our signature will become our autograph.  A signature is so much more than just a splash of ink across the paper.  A signature is style.  It is a “look”.  It is something that says who we are.  When we see the Nike symbol, what pops into our mind?  Nike is not just about shoes.  When we hear the Coca Cola jingle, “I’d like to teach the world to sing” how does it make us feel?  Coca Cola is more than just a drink.  That is what a signature is.

You will see in the world what you carry in your heart.

  – Creig Crippen

We have so much inside of our soul waiting to come out.  That is why we risk becoming visible.  That is why we can’t think small.  Because some part of us deep inside knows how truly magnificent we really are.  Each of us is a thread in Gods tapestry.  Each of us has a part to play.  Each of us has to become visible, in order for the pattern to be seen.  Each of us has that special one of a kind signature that the world needs to see, feel, and hear.

Transformation Is the Dance Of Life

Like the butterfly, I have the strength and hope to believe that in time, I will emerge from my ch

How can you tell if you still might be in a caterpillar stage of growth? Some questions to think about –

Do I hide my value or discount the gifts that I have for this world?
Am I tightly guarded, afraid?
Do I feel like I am stuck in the mud, unable to move?
Can I see my potential, but don’t know how to unlock it?
Do I feel vulnerable, tossed about with no control?

If so, how long will you allow yourself to remain in this caterpillar stage? 
We cannot become what we need to be, by remaining what we are.
  –   Max de Pree

Unlike the real caterpillar, we have different phases of transformation. It isn’t a one time thing, go into the chrysalis and come out a butterfly for us. We have a mind, body, and soul, which is continually growing and expanding. Which means that we have different levels of transformation and growth, both inner and outer. 
The journey between what you once were, and who you are now becoming, is where the dance of life really takes place.
  –   B. Angelis
Each time we feel stuck, we need to enter the chrysalis and undergo another change. Each time we realize that we have greater potential than we are using, we need to enter the chrysalis and undergo another change. When we are able to initiate change and navigate it, it brings an added bonus.  It helps us to manage the change that comes from the outside, over which we have no control.  If you have learned how to navigate your boat through choppy waters, you have some skills to navigate the storm that appears out of nowhere.  But if you have only sailed in smooth waters, then you will have no idea what to do in the storm and will likely capsize your boat.
Everything in your life is there as a vehicle for your transformation.  Use it!
  –  Ram Dass
Taking the caterpillar to butterfly analogy one step further, the caterpillar exists by eating up the foliage of the plants it crawls across. It feeds the caterpillar, but does nothing positive for the plants themselves. Once the caterpillar transforms into the butterfly it now flies from plant to plant and helps to pollinate the plants to bring about new life. It helps in the creation of new life, a truly positive purpose.
It’s never easy letting go.  But if we don’t learn the art of relinquishment, we’ll never move forward to embrace the new relationships God has for us.
  – Mary E. Demuth

In this same way, when we get stuck, hide our value, and become tightly guarded, we are not producing anything positive in the world, but rather we are just using up the resources around us. We are not giving back. We are not contributing.  We need to relinquish what we are holding on to or we can’t move forward.
Strength doesn’t come from what you do.  It comes from overcoming the things you once thought you couldn’t.
  – Rikki Rogers

But when we change, transform and grow, we are then in a space our being open, and sharing our values with the world around us. We pay it forward, because we delight in the joy of giving. We focus on how we can contribute to make the world a better place. We unfurl our wings to move freely in the expanded space of our transformation. We become a new creation, with a worthy cause fulfilling our divine purpose.
We delight in the beauty of the butterfly but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.
  – Maya Angelou

This chrysalis is the place to enter when we need a breakthrough. Where we exercise the patience to grow and transform. Persistence is needed to follow the breakdown through to the breakthrough. We can’t emerge out of the chrysalis if we don’t follow the transformation process through to the end.  Surrendering to what is, leads us to the end of the life transformation.  Spreading our wings to take flight produces the happiness of “I did it!”.
Behind every beautiful thing, there’s some kind of pain.
  –   Bob Dylan
So like the caterpillar, I know that each time I enter the chrysalis I will come out a new creation. That there is always some old part of my life, that is outgrown and no longer serving me or the world around me, that needs to end. And in that ending I will, once again have the strength to emerge, and will be transformed in some way to further the unfolding of divine destiny.


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