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In Order To Change The World, You Must Be The Change

 I stopped explaining myself when I realized people only understand from their level of perception.

Only I can change my life.  No one can do it for me.

  –  Carol Burnett

This photo so clearly explains why other people don’t get the transformations that we are being called to make in our lives.  There are two different levels of perception here.  And each person can only see their own level of perception.  Both are true.  I can explain what I see with twenty thousand words, and if your level of perception is contained in the world she is pulling away, dark depressing and dreary, you will never see the sunshine that I do.

 Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands.

  – Clint Eastwood

The better we know ourselves the better we can embrace change.  Self knowledge is vital, because our subconscious minds run these programs behind the scenes.  They like things exactly the way they are.  They will try to keep us in our comfort zone.  We need to let go of the old programs. 

One of the most courageous decisions you’ll ever make is to finally let go of what is hurting your heart and soul.

  – Brigitte Nicole

Most of the fears that we have are fears of the unknown.  Those fears are negative programing.  They will keep you stuck in the shadows, in the dark.  They keep us from perceiving what else is possible.  I know that for myself when I have a medical issue, waiting for test results is the worst.  My mind goes crazy thinking of all of the worst case scenarios.  I am definitely in a dark place with wild imagining of brain tumors, cancer, a failing organ, and so on.

The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.

  – Socrates

But once I have a diagnosis, it all changes.  Now I am researching and figuring out how to cure the issue and become healthy again.  Now I have something tangible to work towards.  The unknown has been removed and that fear is dissolved.  I am free again to begin making positive changes for my health and my life.

May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.

  – Nelson Mandela

That doesn’t mean that fear doesn’t show up again.  It does.  But if I am being honest with myself, I can identify the unknown piece that is creating the fear and remove the unknown piece with new knowledge.

If we don’t change, we don’t grow.  If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living.

  – Gail Sheehy

How do I know when fear of the unknown is showing up in my life?   For most of us it has shown up whenever we find ourselves avoiding something that needs to be done, or find that our progress towards a dream being slowed down.  We begin to lose passion and fire towards the dream.  We begin to feel like we are wading through the mud instead of flowing down the stream.

I just wanna go on more adventures.  Be around good energy.  Connect with people.  Learn new things.  Grow.

  – Unknown

Whenever these feelings start to exist, it is time to get quiet in our minds.  Then sit quietly and ask our inner knower what am I not seeing?  What is it that is slowing me down or sidetracking me?  What research can I do to bring light to this area?  

I am on the hunt for who I’ve not yet become.

  – Unknown

Once we identify the fear, then sit with it a while longer.  See what lies beneath that fear.  I can guarantee that there is always another layer.  Fears tend to travel in packs like wild dogs.  Each dog having its own fear.  Once you think you have given each dog a name, now you can make it a tamer dog by addressing its own particular fear.  

Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.

  –  Jim Rohn

You will know if you are successful because you will feel the energy and passion return to your dream.  All of a sudden you will feel flow happening and that progress is being made.  It is like a hose that has a kink in it.  At first we are not getting any water pressure.  But once we find the kink and straighten it out water comes pouring out at full force.

Change can be beautiful when we are brave enough to evolve with it, and change can be brutal when we fearfully resist.

  – Bryant McGill

The key is to be paying attention to what is happening in your life.  It is so easy to get lost and sidetracked.  It is so easy for the fears so sneak up on you and gain control.  It is also easy to stop and listen to your heart and soul for guidance.

It doesn’t matter how slowly you go, as long as you do not stop.

  – Unknown

It takes practice to check in with yourself on a regular basis.  Meditation and journaling are two practices that help us to keep track of where we are, and wake us up if we start to fall asleep.

If you enjoy and find our posts uplift you, will be excited that we will soon be releasing our first monthly daily journal.  Each day will have four pages.  The first page will be a beautiful color photo with a quote, the second and third pages will be the post that goes with it.  Then a fourth page to journal your thoughts.  We are hoping to have the first volume published by the end of November or beginning of December.  

When we are no longer able to change a situation – we are challenged to change ourselves.

  – Viktor Frankl

I know how much these writings help me to catch myself when I start to get sidetracked.  They help me bring my energy back up into the higher vibrations which is such a vital part of bringing my dreams into reality.  They remind me of what I have transformed in my past and give me courage that I can transform what is in front of me now.  Truly, the better we know ourselves, the better we can embrace what is now changing in our lives.

I Am What I Choose To Become

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Today I am discovering who I am.  Today I am becoming my person, worthy of developing all of me.  Today I am beginning to know that I am okay the way I am.

  – Ruth Fishel

Discovering who we are requires that we go on a journey.  We can’t become who we are trying to become by remaining where we are, or what we are.  This journey begins with curiosity.  Asking the hard questions of ourselves.  Where am I going?  What am I learning from what I read, what I listen to, what I am watching on TV?  What do those I associate with have me thinking about?  Are the answers to these questions what I want my life to be about?  It isn’t chance that helps me to become what I am seeking.  It is making transformational life changes that does that.

If we are always arriving and departing, it is also true that we are eternally anchored.  One’s destination is never a place, but rather a new way of looking at things.

  – Henry Miller

When we start out on this journey of self discovery, we think that if we can just learn enough, take in enough knowledge that we will develop the wisdom to become the person we want to be.  It is the natural first step, and many of us get lost in this first step.  We do a lot of work, and it just doesn’t seem like we are making any progress.  We keep departing, but it doesn’t feel like we are ever arriving.  There is this gap.  We keep stuffing it with creative ideas, and plans, and dreams – but it doesn’t seem like we are creating anything that truly bridges that gap.  I love the word GAP – because it is Gods Area of Preparation.  That is why it doesn’t seem like the bridge is ever getting completed.  Don’t give up.  Keeping fighting to reach the other side of the gap.

I love the person I’ve become, because I fought to become her.

  – Kaci Diane

I remember the true story of an Olympic Athlete.  She went to a sports camp as a child and demonstrated some talent with volleyball.  The coach told her that if she worked hard, it would give her a scholarship to college.  So she worked hard and when it came time, she wrote to the colleges with a good volleyball program and asked them to come see her play.  She got her teachers to write letters about her and was successful in getting a full ride to college.  Her senior year in college she was watching the Olympic Games and decided to chase the dream of being in the Olympics.  So again, she wrote letters to come see her play and got her professors to write letters and was successful in getting into the tryouts.  She spent a week in tryouts and worked hard, and even though she felt the other players were better she made it to the team.  The team lived and worked in Southern California for 4 years to the next Olympic Games.  During that time she realized that if she was going to be on the team that played in the games, she needed to tear her game down and rebuild it.  Now think about this – she was good enough to get a full ride into college.  In college she was All American.  She tried out and was accepted on the Olympic Team.  Obviously she was talented and skilled.  But she knew that she could be more, so she fought to be more.

I always did something I was a little not ready to do.  I think that’s how you grow.  When there’s that moment of “wow, I’m not really sure I can do this” and you push through those moments, that’s when you have a breakthrough.

  – Marissa Meyer

So when we are having a bad day, week, month or year – that is something to remember.  Sometimes we need to tear ourselves back down to the foundations of who we are, and rebuild.  Take all of the lessons that we have learned in this life, all of the crazy experiences, hurts, blessings in disguise and know that none of it was a mistake.  Find positive ways to be in the world.  Make a difference, no matter how small it feels.  We can be the change we want to see in our world.  Be open to the challenge of change.  Face our fears of not being enough, not knowing enough, and do the things we know need to be done, even if it terrifies us.  Love who and what you are, and who you are becoming.  Trust that you have within you everything that you need to do so.  Believe in yourself.  Wish upon the stars and then put faith in that wish coming true.

Do not confuse the word “belief” with the word “wish”.  The two are not the same . . .  the element of faith is the only sure power by which a wish may be translated into a belief, and a belief into a reality.

  – Napoleon Hill

It can be really scary, to keep going when we are in the stage of moving mountains.  We see the pain, the heartache, the mistakes that we are making along the way.  We judge ourselves, we cower in fear and wish it would all just go away and leave us here in the middle of the floor, just a shapeless puddle of confusion and fears.  But what makes us powerful, is when we get up, shake off the confusion, face the fear and walk in in the power of who we really are.  When we remember that it isn’t what happens to us.  It isn’t the mistakes we made along the way that define us.  What defines us is who we chose to become in spite of all of it.  We are at the end of the journey, the only one who is responsible for who we become.  We are always  a work in progress.  Each day is a new day.  A new pattern of thoughts.  A new wave of emotions, A new belief that we can truly become what we wish to become.

You’ll learn as you get older, that rules are made to be broken.  Be bold enough to live life on your own terms, and never ever apologize for it.  Go against the grain, refuse to conform, take the road less traveled instead of the well-beaten path.  Laugh in the face of adversity, and leap before you look.  Dance as though everybody is watching.  March to the beat of your own drummer.  And stubbornly refuse to fit it.

  – Mandy Hale


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  • How can we be honest with ourselves and others, around such things as overcoming addictions or similar problems?
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Windwalkers – The Eagles Among Us

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Soaring in solitude, Grandfather Eagle calls to me as he circles high above.
With a few strokes his wings push him even higher above mother earth.
His razor vision upon me, he reminds me that I have the gift of inner vision to see far off in the distance of my own journey. 

Just as he sometimes soars on the air currents, and other times beats his wings to fly against the wind, I too can adjust my journey to meet what is coming down the road to meet me.

As he circles overhead he conserves his energy by gliding with the air currents.
I am reminded of the need for rest, to not be constantly pushing my body to exhaustion.
He appears to be drifting, but one pump of his wings reminds me that action is always needed to remain in forward motion and go the full distance.

At all times he is connected to mother earth, staying grounded with his vision.
He always remembers where home is. I see he flies with purpose.
If I am to remain strong in my vision, I too must be grounded into our mother’s soil, so that I am not blown off course by the winds of distraction.

He flexes his talons and cries out again reminding me that I must listen to my intuition in order to know when to take flight, and when to stand strong and fight for the vision within me.
I must be strong enough to not only give birth to it, but to also grow it into maturity.
I must know when it is time to leave the nest, stretch out my wings and take flight.

He shows me visions of his long journey,
I see high above the ground the hundreds of miles he has flown, from new moon to new moon, over the mountains, the desert, hills, valleys, lakes and rivers he has seen.
He speaks to me of his great courage in his willingness to explore the unknown, to not just look in the light, but to peer into the dark shadowed places.

He is not terrified of the emptiness of the unknown.
I see the great lesson from the creator that he is teaching, to not be afraid to journey into places and experiences that are unknown.
Even the dark places have important lessons to be learned.

He plummets out of the sky dropping without sound, and with perfect accuracy catches his prey unaware.
As he climbs back into the heights he calls out to see if I understand the import of yet another lesson, that of being here now.

The prey was not aware of the danger approaching.
The prey was living in either the past which can’t be changed, or the future which hasn’t yet happened.
I nod my head grateful for the reminder to be alert to what is happening around me, so that I don’t miss the messages that the great creator sends me.

The windwalker alone of all birds flies above the rain instead of landing until storms ends.
He reflects that those with the Windwalkers gifts must never allow circumstances to deflect us from our purpose, but instead gather our courage and stretch our limits.

By flying higher, we gain a greater perspective, and we can see that while others might be shortsighted and think we are in retreat, we are in fact advancing high above the clouds.
We do not let hardships bring us down into hiding, but we continue onwards in our journey.

His sharp beak and strong jaw muscles reflect the importance of knowing when to speak , how much to say, and how strong the words need to be in order to impart the lessons of the past and those visions yet to happen.

The Windwalker, like many of our earth’s brothers and sisters in the animal kingdom, have many lessons to teach us reminding us of what we already know, but have forgotten.
We must have the eyes to see, the ears to listen, and the wisdom into our heart, and them implement it in our lives.
When you hear the cry of the eagle, stop and contemplate what his reminder to you might be.

Curiosity Is The First Step In Awakening The Soul

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Many of us step foot on the path to spiritual enlightenment expecting it to lead us onward and upward, hoping to become something better than we are, and ready to gather all of the important things we need along the way.  What a surprise it is when we eventually realize that this path isn’t taking us onward but inward, that we’re not gather things so much as letting them go, and that there was never anything more to aspire to than the truth of what we already are.

  – Cristen Rodgers

Something will occur in our lives when the soul is ready to wake up.  It could be a health scare or near death experience that we have.  It could be losing a parent, spouse or child.  Loss of identity when we lose our job.  A divorce.  Then come the signs of feeling that your life is empty, devoid of real meaning and purpose.  It is as though you are lost in the woods and you keep trying to find a trail back to your car, but you are just wandering and starting to panic.  You feel as though something is lost or missing in your life.  Like there is this giant hole that you keep walking around.  You don’t know what it means, except that you have to find something to make your life meaningful  You start questioning everything you have been taught.  Either you have abandoned God or you feel he has abandoned you.  There is a sense of injustice.  You feel like a blind person groping about in the darkness.  Loved ones may be trying to help you, and you just want everyone to leave you alone.  In fact it seems to be a necessity if you are to figure this out – you must be alone.

Fortunately, some are born with spiritual immune systems that sooner or later give rejection to the illusory worldview grafted upon them from birth through social conditioning.  They begin sensing that something is amiss, and start looking for answers.  Inner knowledge and anomalous outer experiences show them a side of reality others at oblivious to, and so begins their journey of awakening.  Each step of the journey is made by following the heart instead of following the crowd and by choosing knowledge over the veils of ignorance.

 – Henri Bergson

It is the being alone that allows us to go within.  It is important when we start on this path to enlightenment to understand the need for space for just sitting and going within.  To create the space for connection, to see what is crying out to be released as not being part of our authentic self.  To regenerate and renew the pieces of us that were killed off as part of social conditioning.  The parts we buried because we were told it wasn’t safe to be who we really are.  It takes a great deal of courage to go within and choose to be our true self.

Who looks outside dreams, who looks inside awakens.

  – Carl Jung

When we start down this path, we always think we are missing something.  Think back to the Wizard of Oz and the journey down the yellow brick road.  Toto was a catalyst for Dorothy always running off when Dorothy was needing to wake up and become conscious about something.  The first thing she found on the journey was the ruby slippers.  She had no idea of the power of the slippers and they remained dormant until she was enlightened enough to correctly use them  The Scarecrow, The Tin Man, The Cowardly Lion, all had what they were looking for.  The journey for them, was to look inside and expand their boundaries and limitations.  To realize their full potential.  They weren’t missing anything.  They just needed to awaken to who they already were.  To choose to be better.  To let go of doubts and stories that we all tell ourselves that we are not capable of being or doing that.  To gather enough experience that they could have the confidence that they were more than enough already.

Many of us step foot on the path to spiritual enlightenment expecting it to lead us onward and upward, hoping to become something better than we are, and ready to gather all of the important things we need along the way.  What a surprise it is when we eventually realize that this path isn’t taking us onward but inward, that we’re not gather things so much as letting them go, and that there was never anything more to aspire to than the truth of what we already are.

  – Cristen Rodgers

As we walk on our journey of self discovery, we crave the enlightenment that we are seeking.  To know who we are deep within our heart and soul and to be able to grow and transform into who we are destined to become.  Every life experience that we have had, has been designed especially to help us learn the skills required to fulfill our destiny.  Instead of continuing  to conform to our parents ideas of who we should be, or our friends expectations of who we should be, we choose to listen to the guidance of our own soul’s voice.  To travel the unexplored path, to think outside of the box, to be curious and question everything we have been taught.  To discover the impossible journey.

My message, especially to young people is to have courage to think differently, courage to invent, to travel the unexplored path, courage to discover the impossible and to conquer the problems and succeed.  These are great qualities that they must work towards.  This is my message to the young people.

  – A.P.J. Abdul Kalam

Curiosity is the beginning of awakening.  It is the first step on the path to discover who you are, what you purpose is, what feeds your soul.  When we get curious we start exploring the world around us.  We choose what to release and leave behind us as no longer fitting who we are.  We choose what new things to bring into our life, new truths, new understandings, new awakenings.  We create the magic of unveiling who we are. The treasures of the gifts we never recognized that we have.  We let go of fear after fear.  We start honoring and valuing who we are deep down inside.  Self love and self trust grow and expand with each fear that we release.  We recognize that each fear was in fact designed to hold us captive, bound so that we couldn’t discover our divine selves.

You reach a point where you feel yourself going through an awakening.  You look at what you used to do and who you used to be.  It hurts because you realize you believed in and promoted nonsense.  You grow; you evolve and you stop because you no longer operate at that frequency.  As a result, there’s certain people that you have to walk away from.  As a result, you start to realize just how messed up the world is.  You want to help; you want to heal; you want to make it a better world.  This is how you know you’re awakening a higher level of consciousness . . . 

  – Sylvester McNutt

When you start living from that authentic place deep inside of you, you will be truly seen.  In order to be who you are at the soul level, you have to let go of the stories you have heard all of your life that you have been defined by.  It is like a puzzle where the pieces were jammed into place because they didn’t quite fit.  When you are living life from the authentic place at the soul level you find yourself, slowing piece by piece rearranging the pieces of the puzzle.  When you realize who you are at your deepest level, all the pieces will fit together with no gaps.  That is when you will experience a whole new level of love, grace, peace and serenity in your life.  You will still have road blocks on your path.  You will still continue to grow through success and failures.  The difference is that you begin to recover faster.  The difference is that you embrace what is true, that you keep being curious and ask better questions that when you started.  The difference is measured by real progress on our life’s journey.

You find peace not by rearranging the circumstances of your life, but by realizing who you are at the deepest level.

  – Eckhart Tolle


A Courageous Conversation?

Are you brave enough to speak out loud the conversations that you have inside of yourself late at night when you are all alone?
  • How do we have a courageous conversation about the tragedy’s we have faced in our lives?  Some things just seem too devastating to turn from a negative to a positive experience.
  • How can we be honest with ourselves and others, around such things as overcoming addictions or similar problems?
  • What if we are trying to make positive changes in our lives, and we have “no one” in our lives to support us in making a life changing transformation?

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It All Begins With A Dream, A Story. Stay True To The Dreamers Story.

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Promise to stay wild with me.  We’ll seek and return and stay and find beauty and the extraordinary in all the spaces we can claim.  We’ll know how to live.  How to breathe magic into the mundane.

  – Victoria Erickson

I think that turning our dreams into realities is all about staying wild.  To stay adventurous and be curious.  How to breathe magic into the mundane.  It is about touching the stars and flying with dragonflies.  It is about dancing with fairies and talking to the moon.  It is about following Alice into the mirror or down the rabbit hole.  It is about returning to Oz for more adventures.  The imagination is critical to planting the seeds of our future.  Don’t listen to those who purvey logic and say it can’t be done.  Listen the to whisper of your heart as it leads you to create what others can’t even imagine.

Refuse to be that person that, like so many others is still driving down the same road years down the line, mournfully longing to go back in time to be given just one more chance to take the road they should have taken because they ignored all possible extraordinary signs.  It’ll never get easier to make the leap and this is your chance, so make the change.  Take the road now.

  – Victoria Erickson

The things that we do and don’t do shape who we are.  They put detail into our minds, bodies, heart and soul.  The stretchmark’s of childbirth.  The laughter wrinkles.  The broken hearts and mended souls.  We have learned how to be brave, smile through the tears.  We promise ourselves and our loved ones that whatever tragedy is happening in our life – we will still be okay.  We have learned how to shift our patterns through the tides of change.  How to ride the wild waves and make it back to shore.  How to stand in the wind and adjust our sails.  And we have learned to leap.  How to leap out of the ocean depths and fly across the water.  To ride the storm and make it back out into calm waters.  We are not settlers.  We didn’t settle to drive down the straight and narrow roads, that ones that don’t lead to adventures.   We chose the road to adventure.

I have the deepest affection for intellectual conversations. The ability to just sit and talk.  About love, about life, about anything, about everything.  To sit under the moon with all the time in the world, the full-speed train that is our lives slowing to a crawl.  Bound by no obligations, barred by no human limitations.  To speak without regret of fear of consequence.  Talk for hours and about what’s really important in life.

  – Unknown

I love my tribe of special girlfriends.  We sit around the fire and drink wine and talk.  We talk about our lives and solve all of our problems.  Then we move on to solving all of the worlds problems.  My mom would always ask me what we talked about, and I would say that we just created a better world for all of us.  There is a movie with Sam Waterston, John Heard and Liv Ullmann called “Mindwalk” – it is about a lawyer, a politician and a scientist who meet up at Mont St. Michel.  They get caught up is the magic of having one of those kinds of conversations.  They explore everything as they walk around the castle.  I loved the film because you see how exhilarating a conversation can be when you aren’t arguing with each other but instead opening up each others minds to explore new ideas and concepts.

The idea is to live your life in a way that makes you feel lit up.  Alive.  Fully fledged.  Beautiful.  Know and find what nourishes you inside out, bones to skin and then build your world from that alone.  All else is not part of your revolution.  Or your ultimate evolution.

  – Victoria Erickson

Our dreams are meant to be moments of connection.  Connecting ideas, concepts and changing the reality of our life.  They are expansive.  They flash across time and space, to a point in the future and then ricochet back to us with what the next step is to make them a reality.  The dreams are fluid and watery as they flow and adapt to new information.  They are always moving forward, never retracting.  They are malleable, luminous, free like the clouds in the sky to form new patterns and shapes.  Follow your passion. Listen to your heart.  Don’t be afraid of changing and adapting.

There’s a turning point.  It arrives when we find ourselves quietly hovering inside the realization that the choice is between two pains:  the pain of the jump or the pain of regret.

  – Victoria Erickson

Leaping is such a wonderful visual word.  Like you have a “pride of lions”, for leopards, it is “leap of leopards”.  When a leopard kills an antelope it has to take his kill high up into the trees. If he doesn’t other animals will take his kill away from him.  The adult male leopard with 80-198 lbs, and the female 63-132 lbs.  An antelope outweighs the leopard with the largest weighing more than 1,000 lbs.  So if the leopard doesn’t balance his leap perfectly, it risks being crushed by their own kill.  If they don’t make the leap high into the tree branches, it risks losing his dinner and starvation.  Every time I see the word leap, I think of the leopard.

Remember that you are more than skin and bones.  You are one thousand stories of before.  One thousand stories of potential.  One thousand stories you’ve yet to see and know and feel and breathe.  There’s more to come.  And it’s something beautiful.

  -Victoria Erickson

If I don’t leap, I won’t be able to continue bringing my dream into reality.  If I do leap, I know that there are times when I will fail.  Experience has shown me that I will then need to regroup and leap again.  To rise up and continue my journey. Since there will be pain of failure, pain of regret, or pain of the leap itself, I tip myself over the edge with the knowledge that I can flip my fears into courage.  There are thousands of stories yet to be lived and told over the campfire.  There is so much more potential to be revealed.  I am still unraveling the parts of me that don’t belong and uncovering the true me that I buried so long ago.  So when I am given the chance to leap, I take it.  I live a new story.  I share that story with you.  I can’t wait to hear your stories.  To hear your dreams of realities not yet created, as well as all of the transformations you already have unveiled.

There will be certain people and places that’ll open your aliveness, flooding you with the same awe and sweet ache as a thousand daydreams revealed.  Hold these connections close, for one day you’ll know a clearer view of what they truly were from the beginning – still moments of perfection in an ever spinning world.

  – Victoria Erickson

So as you sail about in the sky, reaching for the castle of your dreams, treasure the still moments of perfection that happen along the road.  Make sure you take time each day to dip your toes into the pools of still moments of perfection.  See the daydreams unveil themselves.  Get a clear focused view, an eternal moment of clarity.  Take out your compass and adjust your course as needed.  Stay in the wild spaces.  Keep leaping.  Remember to live your life not in the past, or in the future, but in this moment.  Feel the love, the joy, the happiness and most of all live with an open heart to see the beauty of your life in its thousands of forms.


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Are you brave enough to speak out loud the conversations that you have inside of yourself late at night when you are all alone?
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  • How can we be honest with ourselves and others, around such things as overcoming addictions or similar problems?
  • What if we are trying to make positive changes in our lives, and we have “no one” in our lives to support us in making a life changing transformation?

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Bridging The Gap Between Knowledge And Action

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The biggest gap in your life is between what you know and what you do.

  – Bob Proctor

It is up to us to be a prisoner of our past, by remaining in it; or to be a champion of our future by building it. If your life path was to travel from one of these formations to the next one and so on to the end, how would you do it?

There is always a gap between intention and action.

  –  Paulo Coelho

You could anchor yourself and rappel down the mountain, then walk to the next peak and scale up that peak.  Then cross the peak, rappel down the mountain and repeat over and over again.

We are human.  We are not perfect.  We are alive.  We try things.  We make mistakes.  We stumble.  We fall. We get hurt.  We rise again.  We try again.  We keep learning.  We keep growing.  And we are thankful for this priceless opportunity called life.

  – Unknown

Or, you could become a bridge builder.  You could build a temporary bridge out of ropes or wood, or a bridge designed with stone or steel that would last for many years.

Listen to your heart.  It knows everything.

  – Paulo Coelho

Neither way is wrong or right. Just different choices. We could for sake of argument take opposing viewpoints on the better, faster way to walk this path. We could discuss how those that follow us would make better speed with some type of bridge.  Or how scaling up each peak would define us, and make us stronger. For me, rock climbing would be facing the fear of falling to my death.  It would test my faith in ropes, cords, carabineers, slings, anchors , and harnesses.  At the end of the day, the analogy is that each of us has our own path of divine destiny to walk.  There really isn’t a right or wrong way to walk the path.  The lessons will come to us regardless of what we choose.

The purpose of life is to be defeated by greater and greater things.

  – Rainer Maria Rilke

Some time ago I self identified a pattern that I have.  I call it one foot on the brake and one foot on the gas.  It began with a childhood experience when I was four years old.  I was very motivated to the best in school and when I was an adult to climb the corporate ladder.  I was also very introverted and didn’t like to be seen and noticed.  This pattern of drawing attention to myself by being a master at my job, and then shrinking back when I got the attention used to drive me crazy.

Mind the gap – it’s the distance between life as you dream it and life as it is.

  – Cate Blanchett

I finally through years of self improvement identified this pattern and starting working to shift and transform it.  Every time I feel like I am walking in slow motion, or pushing a boulder up hill, I know that this pattern has reentered my life.  It is an energetic signal that I am being blocked in some way.  Have you ever had a project you wanted to complete and every time you sat down to work on it, you would remember something else you had to do.  It might be an email that simply must be written and sent now.  It might be laundry or dishes that have to be done.  You notice a spider web on the ceiling that must be removed.  You have to run to the store.  Your mind is looking for something to distract you away from the project.  Suddenly the whole day is gone and you didn’t work on it at all.

Put gaps in your life:  moments to reflect, prepare, meditate and breathe.

  – Jody Adams

For whatever reason your life pattern is trying to shift you away from the project.  There is something about this project that it wants to avoid.  In some manner, this project is pushing up against the boundaries you have set in your subconscious.  It sees a danger, and so it works hard to gently distract you away from it.  The completion of the project will in some way change and shift your life – it could be that you are aware of it, or it could be some unforeseen possibility that your subconscious wants to avoid. 

In my case, I started shifting the pattern first by writing these blogs.  It felt safe because I am unseen and unknown to you.  Then I started speaking on stages about my transformational work.  This was also not too hard, because with the lights on a stage, it is hard to see the audience.  They aren’t up close and personal.  The hardest thing to shift was being able to walk into a room and not be terrified of meeting and having conversations with strangers.

Negativity is born in the gap where love has been excluded  Gaps occur in places where we are afraid to see ourselves.

  – Deepak Chopra

What I have discovered though is that this pattern is really great at camouflaging itself.  It has chameleon qualities.  When I started with this Facebook page, I knew that I needed a website for the blog posts.  Instead of 30 – 45 days it took me nine months and the hold ups were all from me.  It took me months to actually sit down and start writing my first book.  I am now creating a webinar series to go deeper and share my Transformational Compass™, as well as the launching of my first book and what we are calling our Ambassador program.  Again “Cami” my life pattern of putting on the brakes has been showing up.  The good news is that it is taking less time for me to recognize what she is doing and shift her efforts at slowing me down.

I may not have gone where I intended to go. But I think I have ended up where I needed to be.

  – Douglas Adams

Many teach that we came into this life to have a certain experience. Mine seems to be dealing with this pattern of foot on the brakes, when I am pushing hard on the gas to accomplish a goal. Now I recognize it has chameleon like qualities. I know that when I feel like I am not progressing towards my goals, I have to go looking for that sneaky lizard.

Love is a beautiful things to bring into the gap of life’s unknowns.

  – Lysa TerKeurst

Here’s to the space, the gaps, the pauses, the silence.  Here’s to embracing five minutes of slow everyday.  Here’s to savoring that cup of tea, hot chocolate or glass of wine.  Here’s to watching the wind in the leaves.  Here’s to sitting in a swing and enjoying the feeling of flying as we swing up into the sky.  Here’s to lying on a sandy beach and listening to the surf as the waves come into the shore and retreat back into the ocean.  To the smell of the salt air and the cry of the seagulls.  Here’s to lake fishing along the shoreline, casting out the line and sitting in companionable silence as you reel it back in and cast again.  Here’s to listening to the laughter of our children and grandchildren.  Here’s to sharing a meal with new friends and old friends.  Here’s to a roasting marshmallows and making smores around an outdoor fire pit..  Here’s to turning off our phones and having a conversation.

The best thing in life is to go ahead with all your plans and your dreams, to embrace life and to live everyday with passion, to lose and still keep the faith and to win while being grateful.  All of this because the world belongs to those who dare to go after what they want.  And because life is really too short to be insignificant.

  – Charlie Chaplin

This life pattern is my GAP – Gods Area of Preparation. This is where I learn about new ways that my life pattern has shifted, and I learn new ways to build bridges to close that gap.

The winds of life will try and pull you off course.  The space between your values and behavior is called the Integrity gap.  It is the places where what you say you are doing and what actions are actually taking place, have a gap.  It isn’t that you are purposefully not living in integrity.  It is that sneaky chameleon who has disguised itself to put up road blocks to the actions that you intend to do.  Going back to places where you feel like you might have the brake and gas on at the same time.  Once you recognize the patterns, it becomes easier and easier to remove the brakes and have your actions spring back into gear. 

Can you see GAPs in your life pattern? Do you see where you need to learn to build bridges to close off the gap to get to your destination?  Don’t be afraid to explore and discover what the broken pieces of you are trying to say.  Mosaics at made from broken pieces, and they are a beautiful work of art.  All of life experiences come together to create who we are.  To expose the divine gifts we have, we rearrange the pieces to uncover the hidden treasures we have buried deep within us.  To show us just how every shattered dream, served to provide just what was needed to move forward in strength.

Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending out lives running from it.  Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not early as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy – the experiences that make us the most vulnerable.  Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.

  – Brene Brown

 


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  • How do we have a courageous conversation about the tragedy’s we have faced in our lives?  Some things just seem too devastating to turn from a negative to a positive experience.
  • How can we be honest with ourselves and others, around such things as overcoming addictions or similar problems?
  • What if we are trying to make positive changes in our lives, and we have “no one” in our lives to support us in making a life changing transformation?

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  – Robin Sharma

 

Transformation Is A Coin, One Side Painful, The Other Side Beautiful. Just Flip The Coin Until You Get To The Beautiful

Tired of riding on the roller coaster of change_ Are you done with the twists, turns, and loops, but%

Life is like a roller coaster.  You can either scream every time there is a bump or you can throw your hands up and enjoy the ride.

  – Unknown

A roller coaster is an interesting ride.  I grew up in Santa Cruz which is home to one of the oldest wooden roller coasters in the United States.  I went on it all of the time.  It is a ride that jerks you around, makes your stomach do flip flops.  Then there is the thrill of adrenaline coursing through your veins when you have both hands up in the air, and can you feel yourself lift off your seat, thighs riding against the bar across your lap.  It can make you frightened, scared, sick, excited and thrilled all in the same moment.  True change and transformation does the same thing.

And suddenly you know . .  It’s time to start something new and trust in the magic of beginnings. 

  – Unknown

Differences of change and transformation,  There is a process to change.  You determine that you have something that you want to remove from your life, and something you want to introduce to your life.  So you make a change.  I use weight as an example because it is the primary thing I have been wrestling with from a personal perspective.  A diet is something that we can change to lose weight.  We restrict ourselves to our food intake and we introduce more exercise.   The problem with this way of doing things is that for 90% of us, it is temporary change.  For a short while we run everyday and eliminate carbs as an example.  We lose 10, 20, 30 lbs but at some point the willpower that we are exerting for this change dies out and we return to normal habits. 

Transformation isn’t sweet and bright.  It’s a dark and murky, painful pushing. An unraveling of the untruths you’ve carried in your body.  A practice in facing your own created demons.  A complete uprooting before becoming.

  – Victoria Erickson

Transformation isn’t about adding temporary measures to achieve a goal.  It is all about changing the lifestyle. It starts in the chaos.  For myself, there is a reason why I gained the weight, and now want to release it.  If the pain of wanting to release it doesn’t outweigh the pain of why I gained the weight, then anything I do won’t last.  I know this to be true, because I have been on this roller coaster of weight loss and regaining it all back.  We have to unravel the untruths in our body that the weight was formed from.  We have created our own set of demons that put on every pound.  We have to uproot the entire plant and root system, or like a weed it just comes back.  Letting go of the demons we created is an accepting that the “truth” they promised to be for us was a lie.

One of the most courageous decisions you’ll ever make is to finally let go of what is hurting your heart and soul.

  – Brigitte Nicole

I have always love the saying that life is a riddle, wrapped up in a mystery. inside an enigma.  It came from a radio broadcast and is attributed to Winston Churchill.  That is what it is like when we run up again the fear of change.  Somewhere inside of us is the riddle of what has triggered the fear.  Inside the fear is a mystery or story about the fear. Inside the story is the enigma of something subconscious that we can’t remember or recognize.  It is what makes the change temporary and why sometimes such extreme chaos is triggered in order for the transformation to happen.  In my own case with weight, I can feel something different this time.  It’s been three months of change for me so far.  I have released about 25 lbs.  The chaos that has triggered the change is health related.  I can feel a difference in the motivation this time.  It doesn’t feel like short term thinking for the first time.  Time will of course tell me in the end if this is true transformation.

I listen to the wind, to the wind of my soul where I end up, well, I think only God really knows.

  – Cat Stevens

Whatever the transformation is, it is something that impacts all areas of our life.  It is so drastic a change that we can’t go back to what we were.  Cat Stevens transformation was around his spirituality.  He changed his name, he stopped singing and gave up a successful music career, he changed his religion. – and that changed everything.  He had a brush with death and almost drowned in the Pacific Ocean.  He promised God he would work for him, if he could make it back to shore.  Then a wave came that carried him back to shore.  It would be 25 years before he performed publically again.  It wasn’t a short term change using willpower. It was a lifestyle transformation.

Life is filled with so many exciting twists and turns.  Hop off the straight and narrow whenever you can and take the winding paths.  Experience the exhilaration of the view from the edge. Because the moments spent there, that take your breath away, are what make you feel truly alive.

  – Stacey Charter

When the winds of change blow, what is our reaction?  Do we build a wall to keep it out?  Do we build a windmill to harness the energy to facilitate a true transformation?  All great transformations are preceded by chaos.  Chaos is what sends us on the journey.  For Cat Stevens it would appear that he built a wall to keep things out.  Later in life, he returned to the music world, although he hasn’t had the same success as when he left it.  He just recently released a new album, and it appears that he has torn down the wall, to instead use the energy of the windmill.  He has become very involved with various charity organizations.  Like a roller coaster, his transformation took him to the edge of cutting himself off from the world, and now is taking him to the edge of incorporating his life back into the world, but with a focus of helping child refugees and his charitable foundation, “Small Kindness”.

You have to stop thinking you’ll be stuck in your situation forever.  We feel like our heart will never heal or we’ll never get out of this impossible struggle.  Don’t confuse a season for a lifetime.  Even your trials have an expiration date.  You will grow, life will change, things will work out.

  – Brittney Moses

The difference when undergoing transformation, is where we are making the changes from energetically.  Are we making them out of fear or out of love?  From a place of courage or fear?  Life or death choices are one thread, a single coin.  It is all about which side we are viewing them from.  Lack or abundance?  Love or fear?  Life or death?  Are you screaming at life or throwing your hands up in the air and enjoying it?

May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.

  – Nelson Mandela


A Courageous Conversation?

Are you brave enough to speak out loud the conversations that you have inside of yourself late at night when you are all alone?
  • How do we have a courageous conversation about the tragedy’s we have faced in our lives?  Some things just seem too devastating to turn from a negative to a positive experience.
  • How can we be honest with ourselves and others, around such things as overcoming addictions or similar problems?
  • What if we are trying to make positive changes in our lives, and we have “no one” in our lives to support us in making a life changing transformation?

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New Day, New Chapter

You have to power through at any given moment - to say that this is NOT the end of my story.

Not everything has a happy ending, but that’s life.  Just pick up the pieces and move on to the next chapter.

  – Unknown

Something tragic happened here.  A bridge was destroyed or a chasm opened up where there used to be solid ground.  Sounds like some relationships doesn’t it? You meet someone, get to know them.  Start loving and trusting them.  Years may go by with you both the best of friends.  Maybe it is even a sibling or a parent.  Something breaks down in the relationship and everything ends.  It could be gradual or suddenly without warning.  The father cuts off the child because the child isn’t doing what the father wants.  The brother and sister get into an ugly fight, saying unspeakable things as only those who truly know us can.  Years go by without them speaking to each other.  Your best friend cheated with your spouse.  All kinds of stories and possibilities.

The moral of this story is that no matter how much we try, no matter how much we want it . . .  some stories just don’t have a happy ending.

  – Jodi Picoult

Or this could be the job that you thought you were indispensable at.  You worked long hours – days, nights and weekends spent away from your family.  You poured your heart and soul and even your identity into the job and they fired you or laid you off, or the company shut its doors.  No warning, no idea it was going to happen.  You are devastated.  You feel you are a failure.  You feel like you were used up and then thrown out with the trash.

There are moments which mark your life.  Moments when you realize nothing will ever be the same and time is divided into two parts – before this, and after this.

  – Fallen

Or maybe something terrible happens.  Like my sister, your only child is murdered.  The loss of the child ends your marriage and you find yourself lost and alone.  Or maybe it is tragic news for your personal health.  So many possibilities of tragic things that can happen in our life, that leave us lost, alone, afraid and thinking that our life is over.

Anyone who tells you to get over it and stop living in the past clearly doesn’t understand the concept of time.  If you’re feeling it now – it’s the present.

  – Ranata Suzuki

The thing that all these stories have in common, is that we need to grieve what the loss to us is.  We need to go through the stages of grief for the loss, and then let go of the guilt, anger, lost love, loss or betrayal.  It seems that when these things come into our lives we get into a fighting mode.  We fight to hold to what is falling off the edge of the tracks, and then we fight to let it go before it drags us down the chasm with it. 

Grief never ends . . .   But it changes.  It’s a passage, not a place to stay.  Grief is not a sign of weakness, nor a lack of faith . . . It is the price of love.

  – Unknown

There always comes the day when you feel like you’re actually going to start to live again.  They start gradually.  You find yourself smiling or laughing.  It might shock you at first.  But gradually the grief lessens and the joys start coming back into your life.   You become less scared, less terrified that you are so broken you can’t imagine being whole again.  You start grabbing onto scraps of courage.  You realize that there is a sacredness to tears.  They cleanse our soul.  They speak not only of the grief we are going through, but also of the love we had.  You know that you are turning a corner, when you can hold the grief in one hand and the love in the other and realize that you don’t have to pick one.  You realize that when you put your hands together, they are just opposite sides of the same coin. 

The weird, weird thing about devastating loss is that life actually goes on.  When you’re faced with a tragedy, a loss so huge that you have no idea how you can live through it, somehow, the world keeps turning, the seconds keep ticking.

  – James Patterson

What you realize when you are stumbling through the “dark night of the soul” is that it is like a natural disaster has hit you.  It tore everything you have built off the foundations.  The wood, the windows, the roof, and the pieces are lying around like someone smashed a popsicle fort.  Like Humpty Dumpty, you feel like you can’t be put back together again.  But what you also realize when the pity party has broken up and all of the revelers have left you alone, is that this is also something wonderful.  Because instead of being unhappy with your floor plan; instead of just repainting the same walls and ceilings trying to dress up something you were already unhappy with – you get to rebuild from the foundation up.  You get to build from rock bottom a new solid foundation with the floor plan of your dreams and the best paint colors you can dream up.  You get a “do over” and get to rebuild your life.  You decide, you choose to be the Queen of your own specially designed life.

One day she finally grasped that unexpected things were always going to happen in life.  And with that, she realized the only control she had was how she chose to handle them.  so, she made the decision to survive using courage, humor, and grace.  She was the Queen of her own life and the choice was hers.

  – Kathy Kennet

 A new pattern of thoughts – using the brain in your head, heart, and root chakra – I listen to my soul’s voice of intuition and seek fulfillment of my life purpose.  I realize that I don’t have to have it all figured out to move forward towards my dreams – just the next step.

A new way of using the emotional vibrational scale  – to stay in positive emotions.  When the negative emotions come up, like a wave riding into the shore, we allow them to dissipate into the sand and be released.  We don’t hold on to them, but like the foams left behind as the wave withdraws, the negative emotions simply fade away.

A new spiritual connection to the world – I face myself and fully accept who I am, perfectly imperfect person that I am.  A divine child of God.  With a divine commission to fulfill.

A new belief system –  of being daring and different, not afraid to live out loud who I really am.  I am a person of integrity towards my life purpose and with imaginative vision I seek to walk my own path in love, trust, and grace.

Your life will consist of a series of times when you must reinvent yourself.  We desperately cling to the idea that things should stay the same, but life and growth are about change.  Don’t mistake the end of a chapter for the end of the story.  Lean into the plot changes, and follow your character arc.  If you are in a dark part of your tale, know that this night will not last forever, but you must be brave enough to see it through.  This is not the end, oh no my friend.  Take courage, better things await you.

  – John Mark Green


A Courageous Conversation?

Are you brave enough to speak out loud the conversations that you have inside of yourself late at night when you are all alone?
  • How do we have a courageous conversation about the tragedy’s we have faced in our lives?  Some things just seem too devastating to turn from a negative to a positive experience.
  • How can we be honest with ourselves and others, around such things as overcoming addictions or similar problems?
  • What if we are trying to make positive changes in our lives, and we have “no one” in our lives to support us in making a life changing transformation?

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What Shape Waits In The Seed Of You?

Don't let anyone dull your sparkle

Plant seeds of happiness, hope, success, and love; it will all come back to you in abundance.  This is the Law of Nature.

  – Dr. Steve Maraboli

I’ve always thought that if I was a flower, I would want to be a dandelion.  I love how their seed heads seem to sparkle.  When my bright yellow flower matured into tiny seeds, I wanted a little girl to pick me and make wishes.  Then blow me all over the meadow, so that I could spread and grow into the whole meadow.  A whole meadow of new tiny wishes to be made. 

Only the wind knows where it will carry our dandelion souls.

  – A.R. Asher

Dandelions are considered to be weeds by many.  But they are edible plants, and dandelion tea is very good for the liver, although I guess that dandelion wine might be a better drink – lol.  It is a useful plant, not pretentious or hard to grow like some flowers.  It is found almost everywhere. It is even a social flower because their deep taproots bring up nutrients not only for themselves, but any nearby plants too.  If you plant them around your trees, they release a gas that actually helps fruit to ripen. 

What I need is the dandelion in the spring.  The bright yellow that means rebirth instead of destruction.  The promise that life can go on, no matter how bad our losses.  That it can be good again.

  – Suzanne Collins

When the seeds disperse they parachute outwards, like they are enjoying even the end of the life to the maximum, with no reservations.  They have faith that their landing will continue to their species.  This faith is born out by the fact that they have been around since prehistoric times and are not a cultivated plant in most places.

Faith is not belief without proof, but trust without reservation.

  – D. Elton Trueblood

Words are like seeds.  They have creative power.  What seeds are you planting?  What choices are you making today, that will be harvested tomorrow, next week, next month, next year?  Do you choose to make changes, so that you can excel?  Do you choose to listen to your inner mean mind voice or the soft whisper of your soul?  Do you choose to be useful, not using and manipulating others?  Do you choose to live your life with courage, standing up for yourself and others?  Words grow larger when they are examined.  The words are like the opening of a flower, from the bud to the blossom. 

And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to bloom.

  – Anais Nin

Why are we afraid of opening from a bud to a bloom?  I think part of the reason is that we are afraid of being judged as not worthy.  Not a very pretty blossom.  Poor color.  Bent petals.  Not attracting the right kinds of bees, birds or insects to help pollinate others.  No scent, or even worse, we stink.  We might get attacked by Aphids and look all spotty.  A dog or cat might decide we are the litter box.  Some child running by could step on us and smash us into paste.  Then we won’t even have a chance to go to seed.  Our purpose has all been for nothing.  We should have just remained in the dark earth and not even tried to shoot towards the sun.

Every crisis contains within it the seeds for transformation and growth

  – Jodie Gale

Then there is the whole going to seed part.  It is frightening.  We must completely fall apart.  All of the beautiful petals of our youth fall to the ground.  Our leaves turn brown and brittle and fall off.  The wind takes our precious seeds and just blows them away.  We don’t even get a say where they land.  Some landings will be on hard ground and the birds will eat us up.  But some will land in moist soil and falling into darkness they will start the germination process all over again.  The circle of life begins anew.

The heart is like a garden.  It can grow compassion, or fear, resentment or love.  What seeds will you plant there?

  – Jack Kornfield

When you have a good healthy discussion, the words used are like a seasoning.  They bring flavor to the ideas.  They change the texture of the meanings when they are used in new and different ways.  They expand our heart and mind.  They fall into the cracks and grow something new and unforeseen.  Words can be hot and spicy, or cool and watery.  Mellow words sooth and soften us.  They have the saying, “those are fighting words”.  Our words can cause us to run the entire string of the emotional scale.  What kind of words do you use?  Are they growing compassion or hatred? Fear or love?  Anger or resentment or are they conciliatory?

For a seed to achieve its greatest expression, it must come completely undone.  The shell cracks, its insides come out and everything changes.  To someone who doesn’t understand growth, it would look like complete destruction.

  – Cynthia Occelli

Life brings challenges to us.  Many times the worst thing that can happen, becomes the best thing that could have happened to us.  It sometimes takes us cracking, falling apart in total destruction for us to find the truth of who we really are.  To set us on the path that we are supposed to be on.  Today someone fell in love and someone lost the love of their life.  Today someone lived through an accident that should have killed them, and someone else didn’t wake up this morning because they died in their sleep.  Today someone made their parents proud and today someone crushed their parents hearts.  Today someone was healed from cancer and someone died from cancer.  Today could have been the best day of your life or the worst day of your life. 

You have seen my descent.  Now watch my rising.

  – Rumi

At some point the destruction hits us or misses us.  But take heart, because it isn’t really destruction.  When life buries us, remember that we are seeds.  We will rise back up out of the darkness.  We will shine again.  Like the ocean tide, we rise and we fall, and we rise again.  Where we are headed is much more important that what we are leaving behind us.  We keep growing, keep learning, and we try new things.  We are human, not perfect, but perfectly imperfect.  I am thankful to be alive and still moving to fulfill my dreams and my destiny.  I embrace life with grace and courage.  I see wishes floating on the breeze, parachuting into a new adventure!

What defines us, us how well we rise after falling.

  – Unknown


A Courageous Conversation?

Are you brave enough to speak out loud the conversations that you have inside of yourself late at night when you are all alone?
  • How do we have a courageous conversation about the tragedy’s we have faced in our lives?  Some things just seem too devastating to turn from a negative to a positive experience.
  • How can we be honest with ourselves and others, around such things as overcoming addictions or similar problems?
  • What if we are trying to make positive changes in our lives, and we have “no one” in our lives to support us in making a life changing transformation?

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Find Your Center And You Can Never Be Lost Again

We can choose to be lost in the labyrinth of our emotions or use these trials to harness our inner strength, but one thing remains

You spend your whole life stuck in the labyrinth, thinking how you’ll escape one day, and how awesome it will be, and imagining that future keeps you going, but you never do it.  You just use the future to escape the present.

  – Unknown

Do you know someone who thinks these immense detailed daydreams?  They can go on for hours telling you how when they win the Lotto they are going to do all of these wonderful things with their life.  It is always “someday” thinking.  Some fantasy of how someone or something will happen in their life, and everything will finally be the way they want it.  I have had this kind of thinking.  Dissatisfied with what life is, we escape into a fantasy of what we want it to be.  Which is fine if it is the beginning of making a change in our life.  But too many times, we just go round and round the labyrinth twisting and turning, but never finding the end.  We feel like we are doing something, but in reality we are lost and going nowhere.

The point of the maze is to find its center.  The point of a labyrinth is to find your center.

  – Unknown

When I walk the path of the labyrinth, it is like stepping outside of time.  I leave everything behind me as I take the first step across the threshold.  With each step I can feel more and more stories, emotions, entanglements dropping off my shoulders.  The stresses of trying to work fulltime with a demanding career.  The stresses of personal family crisis’s that wobble as I try to balance them.  They tip this way and that and keep me running.  Writing these blogs, finishing the book, making my own personal transformations.  Everything just drops off the shoulders with each new step. 

You are looking for the answers to the questions of life.  Lots of reflecting about what has been and gone.  Looking at the here and the now.  Wondering what is ahead of you.  You are being guided by your own guides.  They will light up your way, and show you the path ahead.

  – Unknown

Finally I enter the center and sit in contemplation.  I convene with my soul.  I realize that most of these stresses are of my own creation.  I am the one who makes the rules, who sets the boundaries, who creates the vortex they whirl around.  So I can set them down.  I can let them play themselves out.  I don’t have to control them, structure them or mold them.  When I walk back out of the labyrinth, I pick up the things I dropped.  What has changed though, is that they are no longer the storm rocking my world.  The sunlight has entered into each and every one, and instead of thunder and lightening, I hear birdsong and crickets.  I feel the warm breeze lightly touching my skin.  I am centered and ready to face reality once more.

The intricacies of life are but common to all; it is how we untangle these twists that paints our individuality in the canvas of destiny.  We can choose to be lost in the labyrinth of our emotions or use these trials to harness our inner strength, but one thing remains constant in our lives, we have the sun in our hands.

  – Dodinsky

One of my favorite scenes in the Star Wars saga, is when Luke is about to enter the cave.  He asks Yoda what he will find inside the cave.  Yoda replies, whatever you take in with you.  This is true for all of us.  The labyrinth may have monsters wandering the path.  They would be our own personal monsters that we took with us.  We have fed and watered them until they grew so large we could no longer control them.  The labyrinth is filled with our desires, memories, fears, and passions.  In them we can find and lose ourselves over and over again.  As the proverb says, “The only way out is through”.  Through dangers and hardships unnumbered the fairy tales tell us how to slay the monsters, because if we don’t figure out how to slay them, they will destroy us.

In the labyrinth, one does not lose oneself; in a labyrinth, one finds oneself.  In a labyrinth, one does not encounter the Minotaur; In a labyrinth, one encounters oneself.

  – Unknown

Our will is strong.  The only power the monsters have is that which we have granted to them.  We can take it away at any time.  Fears are like snowflakes in a snowstorm.  Each snow flake is so small.  But when they are joined by more and more of them, they can soon cover the world with a thick blanket of snow.  They can take visibility to zero in no time at all.  But the cool thing about snowflakes is that it just takes a little heat and they melt away like they never existed.  Every single monster in our labyrinth is like a snowflake.  A little heat and they will all melt into nothing, even the puddle of water will disappear and there will be no evidence that we were ever in danger from them. 

Go on with what your heart tells you, or you will lose all.

  – Percy Jackson, The Lightning Thief

There is always the moment when the light shines down.  When the revelation strikes us and we see that all of the journey’s misfortunates have brought us and our dream to this very moment.  The moment of self revelation in which we can choose to follow the dream across the finish line, or to step backwards into the labyrinth and continue to be lost.  The moment of judging and forgiving ourselves.  The moment of self love or self hate. 

You do not need to know precisely what is happening, or exactly where it is all going.  What you need is to recognize the possibilities and challenges offered by the present moment, and to embrace them with courage, faith and hope.

  – Thomas Merton

When all you talk about is finding your way out of the labyrinth, but you don’t take the steps to leave it, then it is time to ask yourself:  What I am afraid I will leave behind me?  Why am I afraid to love myself?  Why am I afraid to go?  What am I afraid to admit to myself?  The things both done and left undone haunt us here.  They must be faced.  The truth hurts, because it matters.  When the pain of staying finally exceeds the pain of going, you will free yourself.  But if you explore the questions, digging beneath them with curiosity, you can clean up your space and leave without the pain of departure.

 A labyrinth is a symbolic journey . . .  but it is a map we can really walk on, blurring the difference between the map and the world.

  – Rebecca Solnit

Trust your heart and soul to lead you in the right direction.  Even when you think that left is right, or up is down, trust the journey.  The side roads don’t really lead away from the destination so much as they provide needed instruction for the journey.  Just remember to use curiosity liberally.  To tone down the emotions, which can get easily out of control.  Have fun.  Explore, adventure, dive deep, climb high.  And don’t forget the questions – they are like umbrellas.  They protect us from the torrential rain, from the beating sun, and from seagull poop – and that is the most important thing ever.   Trust me.

Your sacred space is where you can find yourself again and again.

  – Joseph Campbell


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Remember To Fall Asleep With A Dream And To Wake Up With A Purpose

Follow Your Dreams for They Know the Way

Don’t follow your dreams  . . .  chase them!

  – Kunal Patel

Dreams come preloaded with a guidance system. They know the fastest way to bring themselves into reality.  Give yourself permission to listen to them, to step into who you are meant to be.  As little girls we are taught to play small.  Not to be too much of anything, because it is prideful to draw attention to ourselves.  Nick names such as “Miss Priss”, “Smarty pants” are designed to make us feel even smaller – like who does she think she is?  Little girls who aspire to do jobs in the Stem fields have to fight and work harder, just because “girls are not good at those things”.

Little girls with dreams become women with vision.

  – Unknown

Dreams also come with more than one path. I say this, because the fastest way is “as the crow flies” which means it is usually the harder path to take. Most of us would prefer the shortcut. The Staples “easy button”.  But the “easy” button doesn’t expand our comfort zone.  It doesn’t teach us new things about ourselves.  We don’t get to explore the depths of who we are and what we are capable of.  It isn’t the path to adventure.  The “easy” button is not the way to mastery or to accomplishing any great work.  IT is about settling and living life in a rut, just a hamster in a wheel, running fast and going nowhere.  The harder path is over mountains, down steep ravines.  You  have to ford rivers at flood stage.  You trudge through hot dry deserts and lose your bearings in muggy swamps covered with mosquito bites.  The fastest way tests your mind, body and soul.  It builds you up, strengthening muscles in places you didn’t even know you had muscles.  At the end of the day, you may be exhausted, but it is a happy exhausted.  You have proven to yourself what you are truly capable of being and doing.

Follow your dreams even if it means standing alone.  Be different but stay yourself.

  – Unknown

It might be that we are not confident of our ability to take that harder path. I am a huge “Lord of the Rings” fan. When Frodo and Samwise go forward on the journey with just the two of them, they are definitely taking that hard path. I always thought that if the Eagles could rescue them at the end when the lava was coming to kill them, why couldn’t they have dropped them off at the mouth of the cave?  What Frodo and Samwise learned was there was a big difference in setting out on the journey to accomplish your dreams, and actually traveling and experiencing the journey itself.  It stretched them beyond every boundary.  Responsibility, wisdom, self knowledge, self reflection, fears, courage – every word was dismantled, tested in forges of fire, and rebuilt as they took on new meanings.

Everyone has talent.  What’s rare is the courage to follow it to the dark places where it leads.

  – Erica Jong

The reason of course is that Frodo and Samwise needed to learn many things to enable them to win over the power of the ring and truly destroy it. Without those lessons, the ring would have won.  The dark places, are the places where we get tested. Both Frodo and Samwise had to go through their own dark places.  When you have been in those places, you reach a completely new understanding of compassion.  We all have cracks and dents from our collisions with life.  The bent and broken places heal, but they are never the same.  We think that surviving the fires is what refines us, when in fact, it is what we do with what happened that tells the story.  The end is a new beginning – but are we crossing the threshold with the ashes and tattered clothing or are we like the phoenix rising up out of the ashes reborn?

Each morning we are born again.  What we do today is what matters.

  – Buddha

So it is with us. The harder path will teach us what we need to win through to the dream and be able to handle the changes that accomplishing the dream will make in our lives. If we take the easy path, the shortcuts, then we may not have the strength of character that has been tested and forged in the fire. Without this, our ultimate dream may not be able to make it into reality.  Fame and fortune is full of stories about the rich and famous imploding in a ball of fire.  Suicide, Murder, Drugs, Crime, and so on . . . because they could not handle the changes the fulfillment of the dream made in their lives.  Their lifestyle burned the candle at both ends.  Soon there was nothing left but a burnt broken stub that could no longer hold a flame.  Not many are able to restructure their life after the burn out.

We may place blame, give reasons, and even have excuses, but in the end, it is an act of cowardice to not follow your dreams.

  – Dr. Steve Maraboli

So even when the dream points us in a direction that we think is too difficult, that we don’t think that we possess the courage or skills to make happen – it is in our ultimate best interest to pull up the big girl/boy panties and go for it. I always tell myself, that if the divine gave me this dream, then he also must have given me the skills needed to make it happen. There are stars hidden in our soul, and only in reaching for the deep dreams can we find them.  We need to make space for the wisdom of our soul to emerge.

So follow the breadcrumbs and storm the castle!  Be bold and build your life around the answers that you innate soul wisdom gives to you.  If you don’t go after what you want, you’ll never get it.  If you don’t step forward, you’ll always be stuck in the same rut.  Let your passion and purpose collide – once in awhile we need to blow open our minds so that we can truly see what life is offering us.

May you follow your dreams, and always believe in yourself.  Keep your eyes on the stars and hope in your heart.

  – C.M.V.


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Clarity of Purpose Is A Magical Gift

Magic Wishes will get you clear on what matters by getting rid of everything that doesn't

 

A lack of clarity could put the brakes on any journey to success.

  – Steve Maraboli

Okay, I have to confess that this happens to me a lot. I walk into a room to do something specific – maybe the kitchen to grab the dirty dish towels to put in my load of laundry. Then something catches my attention and I think, “Oh, I have to water this plant”. Minutes go by. I have forgotten all about the towels and laundry. I wander into another room with the goal to water another plant, and I get distracted by something else. At the end of the day, I have all of these half finished ideas and projects. Does this happen to anyone else?

Clarity can be hard to come by in today’s busy world. The speed of change is getting faster and faster. How do we slow down to see what is important?

When you have clarity of intention, the universe conspires with you to make it happen.

  – Fabienne Fredrickson

I let my imagination wander to what situation in life would be fun, yet also produce instantaneous clarity? The genie with the proverbial three wishes. There he is waiting for you to say what you want. Can you just feel your mind sorting through every wish list that you have ever created? What would be the three most important things I would wish for? With the genie sitting there waiting for the wishes, nothing would distract me.

Lets go invent tomorrow instead of worrying about what happened yesterday.

  – Steve Jobs

Clarity of purpose is a mighty tool The clearer you are about “exactly” what you want, the more your brain will work on how to attract it into your life. The problem is that most of us have “squirrel thinking”. We let the distractions take us out of what we came into the room to do.

Your dreams are a poetic reflection of your soul’s wishes.  Make this the day you take the first step in the beautiful journey of bringing your dreams to live.

  – Steve Maraboli

My dog had a squirrel as her nemesis. That squirrel could side line her from anything she was doing. She would be so intent on something in the yard, and the squirrel would climb on the telephone pole and immediately distract her. Her food, her treat, her toy, everything was forgotten for the chance that the squirrel would magically fall down the pole into her waiting paws or jaws as the case may be.

Breathe.  The universe is taking care of everything else.

  – Unknown

What are your squirrels? Mine are exciting new ideas or possibilities. I will be working on a project and a new idea will pop into my mind. Now I am off to research what I can do with it. Meanwhile the project I was on lies forgotten, half finished and gathers dust. These half finished projects that we have take up mental space until they are completed.  Have you ever noticed for example when you get one of them finished how uplifted you feel?  This is because the “weight” of the project has been lifted out of your mind.  Pay attention the next time you complete something that your mind or your partner has been nagging at you to get done.  You will feel it.  What can you do to corral your brain, if you don’t have the magic lamp and genie with three wishes captivating your attention?

The world is full of magic things, patiently waiting for our senses to grow sharper.

  – W.B. Yeats

I first heard of this idea a few weeks ago at a seminar – it’s called “a parking lot”. Have a folder in which you capture the gist of the idea down on paper and then you put it in the folder, and park it. This way you don’t lose the idea, but are able to go back and keep your focus on what you were doing. That way you don’t get sidetracked from what you are doing.  By capturing it, you can release it for later.  Then on a regular basis you go through the folder. You can prioritize what needs to remain in the parking lot, and what should go on the “to do” list.

Years ago I went to see Monticello, Thomas Jefferson’s Estate.  They had a man made pond at the back of the house.  The property runs alongside Potomac River.  One of the things they did for food was fish the river.  As we know, fish bite when they want to, not at our convenience.  So they would bring the fish still alive from the river and put them in the pond.  Then when they wanted fish for dinner, they just had to scoop out what the cook wanted.  That is what our mental parking lot is like.  We park the ideas our mind generates there, and when we are ready for them we can grab them and explore where they go.

If you’re feeling good, then you’re creating a future that’s on track with your desires.  If you’re feeling bad, you’re creating a future that’s off track with your desires.  As you go about your day, the law of attraction is working in every second.  Everything we think and feel is creating our future.  If you’re worried or in fear, then you’re bringing more of that into your life throughout the day.

  – Rhonda Byrne

I have put several paper tablets in various rooms of the house. I will go into the room to do a specific thing, and then an idea will pop into my head. I used to think that I had to do that thing now, or I would forget to do it later. Now I can park the idea on the paper tablet, and do the thing I actually came into the room to do. If I am at work I use the note pad on my phone to jot down the idea. It emails the list to me automatically at home, and I can print it or write it down in the folder.

Magic is believing in yourself.  If you can do that you can make anything happen.

  – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

If the “squirrel” is a request from someone to attend an event, collaborate on a new project with them etc…, then I try to filter the request through a “time priority sieve” or funnel. What else have I got on my plate that I am already committed to? How much “free time” do I have to commit to this new request? Is this request going to contribute in some way to my current years goals, or will it take needed time away from them? I find that sometimes even though I would love to commit to their request, I have to say “no thank you”. Otherwise the important things I really need to do get pushed aside and my goals don’t get accomplished.

Each day has a magical moment that helps us to change and sends us out to make our dreams come true.

  – Paulo Coelho

Now if the Genie would just pop up and grant me three wishes – or maybe our modern day Genie, “The Lotto” would finally give me some winning numbers. 


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  • How can we be honest with ourselves and others, around such things as overcoming addictions or similar problems?
  • What if we are trying to make positive changes in our lives, and we have “no one” in our lives to support us in making a life changing transformation?

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