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Remember To Fall Asleep With A Dream And To Wake Up With A Purpose

Follow Your Dreams for They Know the Way

Don’t follow your dreams  . . .  chase them!

  – Kunal Patel

Dreams come preloaded with a guidance system. They know the fastest way to bring themselves into reality.  Give yourself permission to listen to them, to step into who you are meant to be.  As little girls we are taught to play small.  Not to be too much of anything, because it is prideful to draw attention to ourselves.  Nick names such as “Miss Priss”, “Smarty pants” are designed to make us feel even smaller – like who does she think she is?  Little girls who aspire to do jobs in the Stem fields have to fight and work harder, just because “girls are not good at those things”.

Little girls with dreams become women with vision.

  – Unknown

Dreams also come with more than one path. I say this, because the fastest way is “as the crow flies” which means it is usually the harder path to take. Most of us would prefer the shortcut. The Staples “easy button”.  But the “easy” button doesn’t expand our comfort zone.  It doesn’t teach us new things about ourselves.  We don’t get to explore the depths of who we are and what we are capable of.  It isn’t the path to adventure.  The “easy” button is not the way to mastery or to accomplishing any great work.  It is about settling and living life in a rut, just a hamster in a wheel, running fast and going nowhere.  The harder path is over mountains, down steep ravines.  You  have to ford rivers at flood stage.  You trudge through hot dry deserts and lose your bearings in muggy swamps covered with mosquito bites.  The fastest way tests your mind, body and soul.  It builds you up, strengthening muscles in places you didn’t even know you had muscles.  At the end of the day, you may be exhausted, but it is a happy exhausted.  You have proven to yourself what you are truly capable of being and doing.

Follow your dreams even if it means standing alone.  Be different but stay yourself.

  – Unknown

It might be that we are not confident of your ability to take that harder path. I am a huge “Lord of the Rings” fan. When Frodo and Samwise go forward on the journey with just the two of them, they are definitely taking that hard path. I always thought that if the Eagles could rescue them at the end when the lava was coming to kill them, why couldn’t they have dropped them off at the mouth of the cave?  What Frodo and Samwise learned was there was a big difference in setting out on the journey to accomplish your dreams, and actually traveling and experiencing the journey itself.  It stretched them beyond every boundary.  Responsibility, wisdom, self knowledge, self reflection, fears, courage – every word was dismantled, tested in forges of fire, and rebuilt as they took on new meanings.

Everyone has talent.  What’s rare is the courage to follow it to the dark places where it leads.

  – Erica Jong

The reason of course is that Frodo and Samwise needed to learn many things to enable them to win over the power of the ring and truly destroy it. Without those lessons, the ring would have won.  The dark places, are the places where we get tested. Both Frodo and Samwise had to go through their own dark places.  When you have been in those places, you reach a completely new understanding of compassion.  We all have cracks and dents from our collisions with life.  The bent and broken places heal, but they are never the same.  We think that surviving the fires is what refines us, when in fact, it is what we do with what happened that tells the story.  The end is a new beginning – but are we crossing the threshold with the ashes and tattered clothing or are we like the phoenix rising up out of the ashes reborn?

Each morning we are born again.  What we do today is what matters.

  – Buddha

So it is with us. The harder path will teach us what we need to win through to the dream and be able to handle the changes that accomplishing the dream will make in our lives. If we take the easy path, the shortcuts, then we may not have the strength of character that has been tested and forged in the fire. Without this, our ultimate dream may not be able to make it into reality.  Fame and fortune is full of stories about the rich and famous imploding in a ball of fire.  Suicide, Murder, Drugs, Crime, and so on . . . because they could not handle the changes the fulfillment of the dream made in their lives.  Their lifestyle burned the candle at both ends.  Soon there was nothing left but a burnt broken stub that could no longer hold a flame.  Not many are able to restructure their life after the burn out.

We may place blame, give reasons, and even have excuses, but in the end, it is an act of cowardice to not follow your dreams.

  – Dr. Steve Maraboli

So even when the dream points us in a direction that we think is too difficult, that we don’t think that we possess the courage or skills to make happen – it is in our ultimate best interest to pull up the big girl/boy panties and go for it. I always tell myself, that if the divine gave me this dream, then he also must have given me the skills needed to make it happen. There are stars hidden in our soul, and only in reaching for the deep dreams can we find them.  We need to make space for the wisdom of our soul to emerge.

So follow the breadcrumbs and storm the castle!  Be bold and build your life around the answers that you innate soul wisdom gives to you.  If you don’t go after what you want, you’ll never get it.  If you don’t step forward, you’ll always be stuck in the same rut.  Let your passion and purpose collide – once in awhile we need to blow open our minds so that we can truly see what life is offering us.

May you follow your dreams, and always believe in yourself.  Keep your eyes on the stars and hope in your heart.

  – C.M.V.

Clarity of Purpose Is A Magical Gift

Magic Wishes will get you clear on what matters by getting rid of everything that doesn't


A lack of clarity could put the brakes on any journey to success.

  – Steve Maraboli

Okay, I have to confess that this happens to me a lot. I walk into a room to do something specific – maybe the kitchen to grab the dirty dish towels to put in my load of laundry. Then something catches my attention and I think, “Oh, I have to water this plant”. Minutes go by. I have forgotten all about the towels and laundry. I wander into another room with the goal to water another plant, and I get distracted by something else. At the end of the day, I have all of these half finished ideas and projects. Does this happen to anyone else?

Clarity can be hard to come by in today’s busy world. The speed of change is getting faster and faster. How do we slow down to see what is important?

When you have clarity of intention, the universe conspires with you to make it happen.

  – Fabienne Fredrickson

I let my imagination wander to what situation in life would be fun, yet also produce instantaneous clarity? The genie with the proverbial three wishes. There he is waiting for you to say what you want. Can you just feel your mind sorting through every wish list that you have ever created? What would be the three most important things I would wish for? With the genie sitting there waiting for the wishes, nothing would distract me.

Lets go invent tomorrow instead of worrying about what happened yesterday.

  – Steve Jobs

Clarity of purpose is a mighty tool The clearer you are about “exactly” what you want, the more your brain will work on how to attract it into your life. The problem is that most of us have “squirrel thinking”. We let the distractions take us out of what we came into the room to do.

Your dreams are a poetic reflection of your soul’s wishes.  Make this the day you take the first step in the beautiful journey of bringing your dreams to live.

  – Steve Maraboli

My dog had a squirrel as her nemesis. That squirrel could side line her from anything she was doing. She would be so intent on something in the yard, and the squirrel would climb on the telephone pole and immediately distract her. Her food, her treat, her toy, everything was forgotten for the chance that the squirrel would magically fall down the pole into her waiting paws or jaws as the case may be.

Breathe.  The universe is taking care of everything else.

  – Unknown

What are your squirrels? Mine are exciting new ideas or possibilities. I will be working on a project and a new idea will pop into my mind. Now I am off to research what I can do with it. Meanwhile the project I was on lies forgotten, half finished and gathers dust. These half finished projects that we have take up mental space until they are completed.  Have you ever noticed for example when you get one of them finished how uplifted you feel?  This is because the “weight” of the project has been lifted out of your mind.  Pay attention the next time you complete something that your mind or your partner has been nagging at you to get done.  You will feel it.  What can you do to corral your brain, if you don’t have the magic lamp and genie with three wishes captivating your attention?

The world is full of magic things, patiently waiting for our senses to grow sharper.

  – W.B. Yeats

I first heard of this idea a few weeks ago at a seminar – it’s called “a parking lot”. Have a folder in which you capture the gist of the idea down on paper and then you put it in the folder, and park it. This way you don’t lose the idea, but are able to go back and keep your focus on what you were doing. That way you don’t get sidetracked from what you are doing.  By capturing it, you can release it for later.  Then on a regular basis you go through the folder. You can prioritize what needs to remain in the parking lot, and what should go on the “to do” list.

Years ago I went to see Monticello, Thomas Jefferson’s Estate.  They had a man made pond at the back of the house.  The property runs alongside Potomac River.  One of the things they did for food was fish the river.  As we know, fish bite when they want to, not at our convenience.  So they would bring the fish still alive from the river and put them in the pond.  Then when they wanted fish for dinner, they just had to scoop out what the cook wanted.  That is what our mental parking lot is like.  We park the ideas our mind generates there, and when we are ready for them we can grab them and explore where they go.

If you’re feeling good, then you’re creating a future that’s on track with your desires.  If you’re feeling bad, you’re creating a future that’s off track with your desires.  As you go about your day, the law of attraction is working in every second.  Everything we think and feel is creating our future.  If you’re worried or in fear, then you’re bringing more of that into your life throughout the day.

  – Rhonda Byrne

I have put several paper tablets in various rooms of the house. I will go into the room to do a specific thing, and then an idea will pop into my head. I used to think that I had to do that thing now, or I would forget to do it later. Now I can park the idea on the paper tablet, and do the thing I actually came into the room to do. If I am at work I use the note pad on my phone to jot down the idea. It emails the list to me automatically at home, and I can print it or write it down in the folder.

Magic is believing in yourself.  If you can do that you can make anything happen.

  – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

If the “squirrel” is a request from someone to attend an event, collaborate on a new project with them etc…, then I try to filter the request through a “time priority sieve” or funnel. What else have I got on my plate that I am already committed to? How much “free time” do I have to commit to this new request? Is this request going to contribute in some way to my current years goals, or will it take needed time away from them? I find that sometimes even though I would love to commit to their request, I have to say “no thank you”. Otherwise the important things I really need to do get pushed aside and my goals don’t get accomplished.

Each day has a magical moment that helps us to change and sends us out to make our dreams come true.

  – Paulo Coelho

Now if the Genie would just pop up and grant me three wishes – or maybe our modern day Genie, “The Lotto” would finally give me some winning numbers. 

Don’t Let Insecurities Run Your Life. Fight For Your Dreams.


“How dare you settle for less when the world has made it so easy for you to be remarkable”  – Seth Godin – Author and Speaker

Your dreams are calling you. Are you answering them?  Are you putting them through to voice mail because you don’t recognize the number?  If you recognize the number are you putting it through to voice mail because you don’t want to have that inner conversation with yourself?  You know that one where you argue with yourself about what you are doing versus what you are telling everyone you want to do. What causes you to procrastinate, to put things on hold? How many of your dreams do you currently have in voice mail waiting for you to pick up the phone and return the call?  Is your voice mail now full and you are totally missing any new calls?

“There is no greater gift you can give or receive than to honor your calling.  It’s why you were born, and how you become most truly alive”  – Oprah

I know that if someone compliments me, the first thought in my mind is discounting what they said.  When I was growing up my sister closest in age to me was always the pretty one, the beautiful one. She is 18 months younger and her body matured faster than mine. She is several inches taller than my 5’3″. I was the smart one. This comparison ran through our childhood. To this day she carries that role of not being smart, even though it isn’t true.  I carry the role of not being pretty and discount anyone who says that it isn’t true.  Isn’t it sad how you prove that those family comparisons are true, simply out of habit?  You were told all of your life that this “story” created when you were tiny child is who you are and so you go around making it a self fulfilling prophecy.

“What I know for sure is this:  You are built not to shrink down to less, but to blossom into more.  To be more splendid.  To be more extraordinary”  – Oprah

There are days when I get a lot of Facebook friend requests on my personal FB page.  I am part of several large groups and whenever they have an influx of new people on their fan page, a number of people will friend request everyone in the group.  It might also be that people figure out I am the founder of LemonadaMakers and request my personal Facebook friend page too.  There are some requests from men who think Facebook is a dating app.  I try to screen them out but once in awhile one makes it through.  When they say they like my smile – which is the usual first comment they make, I immediately think something negative like that’s because you don’t see the rest of me.

Commit To Your Dreams!

I invite you to join us on April 4th for a purposeful gathering. Our intention is to create moments of life-changing conversation on how to make 2020 the year of achievement.

Chances are that what you’re struggling with, others are too. What life questions you have been asking yourself, others are asking themselves too. Get clear on what you want and how to obtain it. If your 2020 dreams and goals are already stalling, get recharged and refocused. Learn how to pivot to success. Join us for a gathering that no one will forget.

“No matter where you’re from, your dreams are valid”  – Lupita Nyong’o

Do you do that? What is it that causes you to turn away from a compliment about your looks, the quality of your work – anything that seems personal? People could compliment you about your children or grandchildren and you wouldn’t turn away from the compliment. Only if it is personal about you do the alarm bells go off.

“Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start”  – Nido Qubein

There was a commercial video I saw a few months back talking about the phrase “sorry” when we mean “excuse me”. It was about how often you apologize when you didn’t do anything wrong. It was by Pantene the shampoo company and it really reflected how many times you use it when you really mean something else.  A turn around of this commercial is great.  Showing scene after scene of women who did not require validation from anyone else in the room.  Women who walked in and owned the room, like the leaders that they in truth are.  You don’t have to be the main character in “The Devil Wears Prada” to be successful, but you can take charge without apology.

“If people aren’t laughing at you, your dreams aren’t big enough”  – Unknown

We open a office door to talk to someone and say “sorry”. We brush by someone and say “sorry”. The list goes on.  Share this with someone to help you keep track of how many times you do this for the next few weeks, or watch to see how many times you see it happen.  See how many times you or another women says “sorry” when what should be said is “excuse me”. The suggestion is that we feel undeserving, and so say “I’m Sorry” for taking up your time, for taking up space, for thinking that you might have something to contribute.

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“Take charge, and don’t apologize for it”  – Elite Daily

Sheryl Sandberg was really talking about this when she said “we’ve got to get women to sit at the table.” She talked about how she went to a conference room for a meeting and the women were not sitting at the conference table, they were sitting around the table in the extra chairs against the wall. They were doing this even though there were empty seats at the conference table.  You need to stop letting other people who lack courage or determination to follow through on their dreams, stop you from doing so with yours.  You need to live your truth, and trust that you are more than worthy to sit at the table.  You need to live your truth and honor what you have to contribute.

“If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I, an artist, will answer you:  I am here to live out loud”  – Emile Zola

She felt that a big piece of why we don’t take a seat at the table is because we don’t want the label of “bossy” and the other “B” word when we take the lead. You shouldn’t be afraid to be as ambitious as a man. You should ask for what you want – the raise, the promotion, to take the lead. You shouldn’t be afraid to be told you have a beautiful smile.

“The cost of not following your heart, is spending the rest of your life wishing you had”  – Unknown

So I am ending this with my most favorite quote by Marianne Williamson because – How dare any of us settle for less when the world is waiting for us to be remarkable!

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others” – Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles”

Commit To Your Dreams!

I invite you to join us on April 4th for a purposeful gathering. Our intention is to create moments of life-changing conversation on how to make 2020 the year of achievement.

Chances are that what you’re struggling with, others are too. What life questions you have been asking yourself, others are asking themselves too. Get clear on what you want and how to obtain it. If your 2020 dreams and goals are already stalling, get recharged and refocused. Learn how to pivot to success. Join us for a gathering that no one will forget.

Receiving With Grace

We don't have to do it all alone. We were never meant too.

When you look away from a homeless person, you diminish their humanity and your own.

 –  Father Murray, as quoted by Brene Brown in her book “Rising Strong”.

This simple sentence really speaks volumes. What is it that makes us turn away from people? We pretend we don’t see them. Why are we afraid connect to that person? Why is it so hard for some of us to make eye contact with anyone?

Be grateful for every compliment you receive – don’t shrug it off.  When you are open to receiving, you will receive more from the universe.

  – Unknown

I was at a seminar last weekend and one of the things we did was to move around the room and hug. No words were allowed. Just a real, heart-felt hug and move on to another person. Most of us connected after the hug, looking into the other person’s eyes before moving on to the next person. Some of the people had a really hard time with this. Their eyes darted around and could not maintain the steady looking into the eyes of the other person.

When you give cheerfully and accept gratefully, everyone is blessed.

  – Maya Angelou

One woman in particular really connected with me. When I look deeply into another person’s eyes it is like I fall into their soul. I see them. I see their stories. Their triumphs and failures. So much joy and pain. I saw all of those things and she felt it. We had a heart to heart connection. She came up later and handed me a card and quickly walked away. When I looked at the card, it was a drawing with the heart in the middle. I realized that she wanted to acknowledge the connection, but she wasn’t ready to talk about it. It was a beautiful moment.

Everything comes to us that belongs to us if we create the capacity to receive it.

  – Rabindranath Tagore

We had both been moved, because we saw and acknowledged that we had both been through hard times and it was ok. We were ok, because of the love and kindness of others.

Always show more kindness than seems necessary, because the person receiving it needs it more than you will ever know.

  – Colin Powell

I think that when we look away, avoiding connection, we are putting people into that “other” category. We might called them “street people”, “homeless”, “bums”, putting them into some “other” category from us. Are we afraid that we might be in their shoes someday? Like it is somehow catching? Are we judging them for somehow failing in life?

It’s really important to be able to receive love and receive compassion.  It is as important as being able to give it.

  – Pema Chodron

Brene Brown in her book, “Rising Strong” relates it to not wanting to admit that we need others in our lives. That we can’t do it all alone. That we are afraid to receive, and so when others are asking for what they need in order to survive, it throws us for a loop. Because we don’t want to imagine having to depend on the kindness of others in order to survive.

Sometimes people have a hard time receiving what they want.  Why?  Because they feel they don’t deserve it.

  –  Notes from Nora

I can identify with the difficulty of having the capacity to receive. In some areas of my life, I have no problem. We were a hand me down family growing up, so I have no problem with second hand furniture or clothes. However, if my needs are more personal, then it is another matter. Like if I can’t do it all myself, I am somehow a failure.

You are important enough to ask and you are blessed enough to receive back.

  – Wayne Dyer

Someone once talked about this, and it really helped me adjust some of my attitude around this. They talked about hiring someone to clean your home. The way they looked at it, by hiring someone to come and clean your home, you were helping another woman help support her family and why wouldn’t we want to do that? It really changed the thought from feeling guilty that I wasn’t super woman and doing everything myself, to I can help another person to support their family by hiring them to do my house cleaning or yard work.

Many people love to give.  It’s a great feeling, and they do so with no expectation.  But they often are awful at receiving, and really deprive others of that joy of giving.  If given a gift, they say, “You shouldn’t have”, “It’s too much”, or the worst, “I feel bad that you got me this”.  Ouch.  This creates bad feelings during what should be a nice moment, and though their intent was to be selfless and polite, it is actually ungrateful.   When a gift is given, “thank you” says that they appreciate the time, consideration, and effort that person has already put forth.  Giving is virtuous, but so is accepting gifts gratefully.

  – Doe Zantamata

We are not meant to “do it all by ourselves”. We are all driven by our need of community. The phrase, “it takes a village to raise a child” says it all. Open up your capacity to receive. Connect to others. Really see everyone you meet. That connection you make could be just what they need to get through to another day.

Be The Change You Want To See



Do the one thing you think you cannot do.  Fail at it.  Try again. Do better the second time.  The only people who never tumble are those who never mount the high wire.  This is your moment.  Own it.

  – Oprah

In order to stand out, one must be different. I have always loved the saying “why fit in when you were born to stand out?” by Dr. Seuss. For me it was really hard to make this change, as I had spent most of my life being invisible.

I love the analogy of a rainbow. It isn’t just made up of red, yellow, blue, green, pink, and purple. It is made up of 100 of shades of every color, and every mix of color imaginable. Take just the 1,000’s of shade combinations of purple in the rainbow. While you might think that no one will notice if one shade is not shining brightly, the rainbow is diminished in its beauty when that happens. It requires every single shade to be there, in order to be the beautiful promise of God. We require every one of you to shine brightly to deliver the promise of God, which he made when he sent you to this earth.

Let excellence be your brand . . .  When you are excellent, you become unforgettable.  Doing the right thing, even when nobody knows you’re doing the right thing will always bring the right thing to you.

  – Oprah

At work the panel of lights over about 10 desks in a row for some reason turns itself off and on by itself.  Since we are surrounded by windows you don’t really notice as it slowly fades to the off position.  It does a gradual shut down.  But when it turns back on 20 minutes or so later, you really notice the brightness of the light.  You missed it subconsciously, and it is funny how I always notice when the lights have turned back on, I don’t notice the gradual turning off.  I think that leadership is like this.  We may be busy doing our work and not notice right away when leadership is missing – but when it shows up, fully turned on, you notice right away.

In the future, there will be no female leaders.  There will just be leaders.

  – Sheryl Sandberg

Being a leader is an interesting subject for women. In Sheryl Sandberg’s Ted Talk, and she was talking about how when she was in school she was told to not raise her hand so much. I remember the same thing happening to me.  The feeling that I was given and even told, that because I raised my hand all of the time, I was bossy, a know-it-all, too smart for myself. I was making the entire class feel bad.  No one else would raise their hand, because I did, and so on.  So I shut down and started being even more invisible.

What’s the greatest lesson a woman should learn?  That since day one, she’s already had everything she needs within herself.  It’s the world that convinced her she did not.

  – Rupi Kaur

I started waiting for someone to pick me instead of volunteering, and this carried over into my adult life. I turned down promotions saying that I didn’t want the responsibility, when what I really wanted to say was I didn’t want to risk being told to once again become invisible. I continually pushed down the answers I had for senior management and let others steal the ideas and promote themselves.

With every experience, you alone are painting your own canvas, thought by thought, choice by choice.

  – Oprah

I finally had enough and became what I called an agent of change for my own self. I started listening and following my intuition. I stepped out of my comfort zone, stood up and voiced my opinions. And I have kept expanding my comfort zone.

We need to accept that we won’t always make the right decisions.  That we’ll screw up royally sometimes, understanding that failure is not the opposite of success.  It’s part of success.

  – Arianna Huffington

Every mistake I have made is like compost in the garden. It may feel and smell like manure when it happens, but if I compost those failures into my life, I can learn and grow from them. I learned that I can fail and my life isn’t over. I learned that the person who judges me the most has been me, and so I gave the judge permission to cheer me on instead.

If you look close enough at the world around you, you might find someone like you.  Someone trying to find their way.  Someone trying to find themselves.  Sometimes, it seems like you are the only one in the world who’s struggling, who’s frustrated, unsatisfied, barely getting by.  That feelings a lie.  And if you just hold on, just find the courage to face it all for another day, someone or something will find you and make it all okay.  Because we all need a little help sometimes.  We need someone to remind us that it won’t always be this way.  That someone is out there.  And that someone will find you.

  – Unknown

I heard a story that Oprah bit her tongue a lot when she first started her talk show.  Then one day she had a guest who was a cheating husband, and the wife came on the show not knowing what was going to happen.  When Oprah watched this woman exposed on stage for the world to see her world come crashing down on her, something inside her shifted.  She had a meeting after the show and told them they would never do anything like that again, and that was the moment when her show changed and truly became her show.  I don’t know if it was a true story, but I can certainly believe that something like that happened.  You sometimes do what you need to do to pay your dues, but there does come that defining moment when you stand up and say that this will not happen again.  I will not allow or tolerate it and you win because you have the background to back you up. You become the storm that no one can stop.

If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.

  – John Quincy Adams

I love this quote I found today, “when you dance to your own rhythm, people may not understand you; they may even hate you. But mostly they’ll wish they had the courage to do the same.” I am going to hang it over my desk. I have spent too much of my life wishing I had the courage to do what I see others doing. Instead I am going to “dance to my own rhythm” and let someone else be inspired to do the same.

Do what you have to do until you can do what you want to do.

  –  Oprah

The Lion is released from the cage, and ready for the grand adventure!

Mystical Journeys

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All journeys have secret destinations of which the traveler is unaware.

  – Martin Buber

When going on a mystical journey, sometimes we feel like we are lost. We pull out our compass and try to determine where the path is taking us. We get this timeline in our head with a “to do” list.  We check off boxes.  We get frustrated when things are not on schedule and going to plan.  And God laughs at us.  This is not how we in fact take a mystical journey.  There are no “to do” lists or timelines.  There are lots of experiences.  There are side roads.  There are accidents.  There are detours.  And they are all part of the plan.

Your journey has molded you for your greater good, and it was exactly what it needed to be.  Don’t think you’ve lost time. There is no short-cutting to life.  It took each and every situation you have encountered to bring you to the now.  And now is right on time. 

  – Asha Tyson

Our experience of life so far may not have required that we don the clothes of a hero. So we don’t know that we have the “super” cape in our closet, just waiting for the opportunity to spring into action.  There are definitely dark places within the journey.  Places of being lost, in despair. The constant negative voice telling us to give up.  Telling us we have done all that we can.  That what we are trying to do is impossible.  That is when it is time to call for help.  To reach out to have our spirits filled with joy, light, and courage to face down the darkness and complete the journey.

Today, I call upon my Higher Power to deliver me from the impossible to the possible: from darkness to light, and from fear to courage.

  – Byrant McGill

Mystical journeys don’t have any short cuts. If we try to short cut the journey, we end up lost in the forest, chased by our fears until we are exhausted. Mystical journeys can sometimes bring us to our knees, heads bowed and hands open to receive divine help and guidance.

Let your heart be your compass, your mind your map, your soul your guide, and you will never get lost.

  –  Ritu Ghatourey

We open our hearts to receive the gift of moving from fear to courage. From impossible to possible. We open to receive exactly what we need, even though it might be different than what we want. We draw in the mentors, allies and challengers because we need all of them to continue the journey.  The journey is really all about discovering who we really are. 

The mystical journey drives us into ourselves, to a sacred flame at our center.

  – Marianne Williamson

We are not the stories handed down to us from our childhood.  Not the “your just like your mom, dad, etc . . . relative” stuff we hear as we grow up.  Not who our friends and relatives want us to be, and who we pretend we are so that “everyone” will love us.  Who are we really deep down inside? 

Your life is a journey. Turn each new road into an adventure of humility; each rocky path into an exploration of self, and each soul you meet into a teacher of compassion.

  – Millie Mestril

When we were a baby and toddler up to the time when we start getting told no and had to learn about inappropriate behavior.  There was a time when we behaved and acted like who we are, the wild child.  And then we started learning a million rules that squashed us into who our parents and loved ones wanted us to be.  A large part of the mystical journey is digging up that person we started out as in the beginning.  It is peeling off the all of the habits, attitudes, and appearances that are not truly who we are. It is not how we dress ourselves up to impress others.  It is not the house, the car, the title at the job.  It is all about “Who You Really Are” down deep at the soul level.  That person needs to be unveiled, unlocked and allowed to come out and play in the real world.

By being yourself, you put something beautiful into the world that was not there before.

  – Edwin Elliot

When we dig deep within ourselves we literally can feel what is what and wrong for us on a cellular level.  It is learning to trust how our body instinctively reacts to things.  To following the directions of the heart and soul.  Following our passion.  Trusting the journey to be right on time and in the exact right place that we need to be.  It is not always easy.  The easy thing is to lie to oneself.  To tell yourself that this is not part of your journey.  To find the easy way back down the mountain and leave behind the heroes journeys to someone else.  Each day we have a new blank page to write our life on. Each day has the possibilities of new beginnings.  Each day has a measure of courage to shift the ending of yesterdays story into something positive and up-building.  It can take a lifetime to find our own truth, or it can take a short time if we are willing to roll up our selves and stay the course of personal transformation.

In the end, she became more than what she expected.  She became the journey, and like all journeys, she did not end, she just simply changed directions and kept going.

  – R.M. Drake


Going Beyond The Possible Is Where Wisdom Is Found

Knowledge is learning something everyday. Wisdom is letting go of something everyday.Zen Proverb

To me knowledge isn’t just about books, school, or job training – places where you learn something new. Sometimes you learn something that seems simple, but on closer examination you see how this one thought changes everything you knew. It turns your world upside down, because you realize that the story that you have been telling yourself was based on bad information.  It is like when you are watching a detective on a TV show solve a murder mystery.  All of the evidence seems to be pointed to the one person. Then they discover one clue and that whole shows shifts as they follow that thread to the real murderer.  Every new thing that we learn is like the thread.  We need to follow it.  We need to allow what we think we know for sure, to be flexible enough for us to let go of what no longer fits.  The new information becomes the new belief.

Knowledge without wisdom is like water in the sand.

  – Guinean Proverb

I remember that the church I went to when I was a teenager had a rumor going around that one of the women who attended had a new boyfriend. Someone had seen her at a restaurant hugging a strange man, and they had kissed each other. When she was finally asked about it, it took her a minute to realize that they were talking about her meeting her brother. He was passing through town and they met for dinner. The story was wrong. The truth changed the whole dynamic of what was witnessed. This happens in our school with history, science, etc . .  where the school books become outdated.  New information is discovered that changes the story.

Knowledge is knowing a tomato is a fruit.  Wisdom is not putting it into a fruit salad.

  – Unknown (but extremely funny!)

This makes this concept of learning new knowledge, and letting something go make perfect sense. Each new thing that we learn, usually requires an adjustment of our viewpoint or story around something. We take in the new knowledge, getting curious about it, and that is what I think leads to wisdom. Tennyson observed, “knowledge comes, but wisdom lingers”.  It is experience that takes the knowledge to a new level.  And we can only gain experience by either creating some sort of action around it, or watching as someone else creates an action around it.

Doubt is the key to knowledge.

  – Proverb

Wisdom to me is more than just an observation. I have always said that I would rather learn from the mistakes of others than make them myself. If I see someone touch a hot stove and get burned, I am determined to make sure that the stove isn’t hot before I touch it. It is a process of following where the knowledge leads. Asking the “why” and the “what if” questions.  Not letting someone inform you that you can’t do it that way. 

It involves looking at the way something “has always been done” and saying how could we improve this process.  These are all about following multiple pathways to determine the best use of the knowledge.  This is how companies like Uber stepped in and changed an industry.  It is why Richard Branson ended up creating Virgin Airlines.  It is taking existing knowledge and saying, “What else is possible?” and then doing something about it.

Knowledge is realizing that the street is a one way.  Wisdom is looking both directions anyway.

  – Unknown

They say that you can’t communicate or teach wisdom. I don’t know that I believe that entirely. I think that teaching stories do that if one is listening with an ear to, “how can I apply that in my life” kind of attitude. I agree that many people may not use that filter when they are listening, but that doesn’t mean that they can’t learn to. 

There was a kind of fad years ago that started in the religious communities (I think?) where when you were going to make a decision you would ask yourself, “What would Jesus do?”.  I remember this because my son who was in high school at the time and was a real joker, would say “What would  Chuck Norris do?”.  It really doesn’t matter who your person is, as long as they have the kind of wisdom that you are trying to incorporate into your life. This is the kind of thinking that leads to wisdom, because it allows you to step outside of the emotion you might be feeling at the moment and allow the knowledge you have at the moment to settle down. To think about courses of actions and consequences.  To think about possible unintended consequences.  Wisdom comes from taking the time to examine and find the holes in our knowledge and then determine the best course of action.  If you can find a mentor that you think is a really wise person, (like Jesus) and ask yourself that question before you take action, wisdom will show up in your actions.

Imagination is more important than knowledge. For knowledge is limited to all we now know and understand, while imagination embraces the entire world, and all there ever will be to know and understand.

  –  Albert Einstein

I think that imagination comes into play with Tennyson’s observation that wisdom lingers. If we take what we now know and play with it down the pathways of imagination, not only will wisdom be revealed, we have the opportunity to increase the knowledge with new discoveries.  This is where I think that some of the modern day inventions came down from the last century.  A writer dreamed up something fantastic for his story line.  Maybe it was Captain Nemo and the submarine and the deep sea divers.  Then a scientist said, I think I can invent something like that.  So they started experimenting and through trial and error came up with something.  It wasn’t yet what he really wanted, but it was a first step.  Other brilliant minds got involved and we ended up with all kinds of inventions for moving through the seas and exploring the deeps.  But it all began in the mind of someone who was using his imagination for a story to tell.

It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.

  –  Henry David Thoreau.

So learn something new everyday. Use your imagination, be curious and see what pathways it leads you down. Be adventurous, always seek out the “why”. Miracles will happen if we use our energy to bring our dreams into reality. Live your life fully into the possibilities. Remember that we are made of stardust and shine brightly.

If you have the guts to keep making mistakes, your wisdom and intelligence leap forward with huge momentum.

  – Holly Near 

Native American Wisdom

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May the sun bring you new energy by day.  May the moon softly restore you by night.  May the rain wash away your worries.  May the breeze blow new strength into your being.  May you walk gently through the world and know its beauty all the days of your life.

  – Apache Blessing

In my family we have a story that has been passed down through the generations.  My great great grandmother was orphaned at a young age.  She was adopted into a family and they decided to immigrate out west on the Oregon Trail.  Somewhere along what is now Wyoming and Idaho, the wagon train was raided and my great great grandmother was taken captive.  The family story only talks about her being a child, but not an age.  She grew up and had two little girls.  One day a French Canadian Trapper was trading with this tribe and spotted her.  Late that evening he snuck back into the Indian camp and was able to get her alone.  He asked if she wanted to return to her people.  She said yes, but she wouldn’t leave without her daughters.  So they made arrangements to meet the next day.

For two days my great grandmother traveled in the back of the wagon hidden in an old barrel.  She was told not to make a sound or they would all be killed.  After two days the trapper felt safe enough to let the girls out of the barrel.  They ended up near Eugene, Oregon.  My grandfather would not admit that he was part Indian.  He was too ashamed.  He feared the prejudice.  By contrast his sisters kids all attended the Indian School.

Like the grasses showing tender faces to each other, thus should we do, for this was the wish of the Grandfathers of the World.

  – Black Elk

My husband family has a story that is recorded in the Indian Archives of his Great Great Grandfather, who was a Cherokee Indian living in Georgia when the Trail of Tears happened.  His story is of an American Indian who married a white woman with the last name of Tisdale.  They had one son.  Love Deer, my husbands ancestor was the sheriff in their town.  He saw what was happening after gold was discovered in the Indians land.  He saw the hardship of the “relocation” of the Indians of his tribe.  He saw finally that no matter how “white” he became it would never be good enough and he knew that the day had finally come when he would be forced to relocate with his family.

Let us put our minds together and see what life we can make for our children.

 –  Sitting Bull

Instead he took his rifle and went out into the woods.  He lodged the rifle in a tree and shot and killed himself.  He knew that his wife’s family would be able to keep her safe if he was gone.  The whole story was recorded when my husbands Great Grandfather came of age and wanted to get his Cherokee Citizenship.  It is all handwritten from several different families, some who were relatives and some who personally knew the story.

As you develop your awareness in nature, you begin to see how we influence all life and how all life influences us.  A key and critical feature for us to know.

  – Tony Ten Fingers

So there came a time when both of us wanted to become more familiar with our heritage.  I always thought that the two of us falling in love with stories from opposite sides of the fence was like the circle being completed.  A time of making everything whole.

By awakening the Native American teachings you come to the realization that the earth is not something simply that you build upon and walk upon and drive upon and take for granted.  It is a living entity.  It has consciousness.

  – Edgar Cayce

I know that this photo is not of an Apache Indian, but it was the closest I could find that fit the prayer.  What my husband and I both discovered is the wisdom of our ancestors was so in tune with the earth.  Whenever one group of people would go to subjugate another, they would justify their wars with how the people were savages, heathens, and somehow a lessor species of mankind.  When you read the stories of Black Elk, and others.  When you read about what the white man did to the Indians in order to destroy them, the term savages takes on a whole new meaning.

When you are inspired to be and do your best, you find everything is right in your world.  Your influence is operating at its highest level and it is the time to influence others in gratitude.

  – Tony Ten Fingers

Just like all peoples, they had very wise men, and they had hot headed men of war.  Every story has my version, your version, and then another and another version to it.  What has to happen at some point in time, is that all become committed to peace.  History can’t be changed.  Those impacted by it are dead.  Those of us who are ancestors carry the history with us.  But that history doesn’t have to become a heavy weight that destroys us still to this day.  It isn’t what the wise men taught.  These are just a few of my favorite quotes, because they are ageless and you would have thought that they belonged to a spiritual master living today. Good wisdom never becomes dated and it is advice we all need to think about for our own lives.

The first peace, which is the most important, is that which comes within the souls of the people when they realize their relationship, their oneness, with the universe and all its powers, and when they realize that at the center of the universe dwells the Wakan-Tanka (the Great Spirit), and that this center is really everywhere, it is within each of us.  This is real peace, and the others are but reflections of this.

The second peace is that which is made between two individuals.

The third is that which is made between two nations.

But above all you should understand  that there can never be peace between nations until there is known that true peace, which as I have often said,. is within the souls of men.

  – Black Elk

Warriors are not what you think of as warriors.  The warrior is not someone who fights, because no one has the right to take another life.  The warrior, for us, is one who sacrifices himself for the good of others.  His task is to take care of the elderly, the defenseless, those who can not provide for themselves, and above all, the children, the future of humanity.

  – Sitting Bull

It was our belief that the love of possessions is a weakness to be overcome.  Its appeal is to the material part, and if allowed its way, it will in time disturb one’s spiritual balance.  Therefore, children must early learn the beauty of generosity. They are taught to give what they prize most, that they may taste the happiness of giving.

  – Ohiyesa (Charles Alexander Eastman)

The Road To Success Is Discovered By Trying One More Time

When the mind says to give up, hope whispers to try it one more time. I decided to blow a few wishes into the breeze today for

Difficult things take a long time, impossible things a little longer.

  – Unknown

The mind and the eye are an interesting thing to think about in regards to our dreams.  The eye sees so much more than the mind can allow in.  We all have what is known as a reticular activator which acts as a filter for our brains.  What the eyes sees gets filtered into things that form a picture in our mind or what we are seeing.

Think about certain things that happen in your life.  Two examples might be getting pregnant (you or your significant other) or buying a new car.  When we aren’t getting a new car or pregnant, we are not interested in those things.  Our reticular activator screens that information away from us – because it isn’t something we are paying attention to.

But the minute we are pregnant we start seeing pregnant women everywhere we go.  We didn’t see any yesterday and now today already we have seen five pregnant women.  Same thing with buying that new car.  Driving down the freeway in our new car, we are passing or being passed by people driving a car just like ours.  We go shopping and see two cars just like ours parked in the lot.  Where were they yesterday?  They were there, they were just being filtered out.

Someday everything will all make perfect sense.  So for now, laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears, and keep reminding yourself that everything happens for a reason.

  – Unknown

I bring this up because we tend to make judgments about how things are working out by what we see with our physical eyes and mind.  But they can’t be 100% reliable because of our filtering system.  So sometimes this is why the heart and mind are in disagreement.  The heart isn’t being filtered by what the eyes see.  It sees from a totally different perspective.  It knows the blueprint of our dreams.  It looks only for ways to bring those dreams into reality.  So it makes plans, not on filtered information, but on information imprinted on our heart by God.

The minute you think of giving up, think of the reason why you held on for so long.

  – Unknown

I think that a lot of what becomes that one dream that drives us is because of our own life experience.  If we were lonely children, we tend to want to make sure that other children are never lonely.  That could mean that we are teachers, or in some way child advocates.  Maybe we entered the field of being a therapist.  Maybe we adopted children or work as a foster parent.  In some way, our career, our bent in how we live life would grow in such a way that we could help children not be lonely.  Whatever “damage” we feel in our lives, comes out in a compassionate way of helping others never having to suffer the way that we have.

I’m a damaged person, but I have hope and a will to not give up.

  – Juliana Hatfield

Hope is what keeps us going.  Our hope keeps us strong.  There are hills and valleys on every journey.  We have to travel through swamps and deserts.  Hope helps us motivate towards our goal.  When the rains come, the winds blow and the lightning strikes, we may have to take cover and rest until the storm passes, but that doesn’t mean that we are quitting.  We never give up our hope no matter how hard the situation is right now.

A strong person is not the one who doesn’t cry.  A strong person is the one who cries and sheds tears for a moment, then gets up and fights again.

  – Unknown

Sometimes that hope is just a thread, but as long as we act like it is a strong rope we can keep hope alive.  In watching a series called “Home Fires” there is a scene where the parents get that telegram stating that their son has been lost at sea during a battle in WWII.  The wife gets it and because she can’t bear to read it, she hides it in the kitchen.  If she doesn’t see the words, they won’t be true.  The husband finds it and is devastated, and confronts her.  He opens it and reads it and she looks at him with hope in her eyes.  It didn’t say he was dead – it said lost at sea.

Never give up until you’ve given out all your very best.  It’s better to fail trying than wondering what could have happened if you tried . . .

  –  Unknown

 There is a part of us that says, there is no way her son is still alive.  There is another part of us that clings to hope.  That clings to all of the miracle stories we have heard when someone survives something they shouldn’t have survived.  What you have to determine in your heart, is what kind of person do you want to be?  The person that hopes and prays for a miracle, or the person who has no hope.

Keep the faith.  The most amazing things in life tend to happen right at the moment you’re about to give up hope.

  – Unknown

In the past few months we have seen a lot of turmoil in our world.  There may be days when the news stories make you sad, disappointed, heartbroken or even scarred with what seems to be so much hatred being played out in the papers, TV and online.  Remember our reticular activator when everything seems so depressing.  What do we have our filters programed to see?

Blessed are they who see beautiful things in humble places where other people see nothing.

  – Camille Pissarro

The kindness that is happening in front of us; that we can find it we look for it online, and in the news.  Or do we have it programmed to find signs of racial hatred, unrest, violence.  The saying is that our life is directed by what we pay attention to.  So we need to make sure that those filters are showing us mankind’s wonderful qualities – they are there.  They just aren’t what sells papers or gets the ratings.  I think that one of the greatest things we could shift in our world is that – the ratings came from stories that reflects the wonderful things that happen around the world on a daily basis.  That we didn’t sensationalize the less than 1% and ignore the 99%.

Music Flows From Heaven To Heal The Heart And Sooth The Mind


“There is something very wonderful about music.  Words are wonderful enough; but music is even more wonderful.  It speaks not to our thoughts as words do; it speaks through our hearts and spirits, to the very core and root of our souls.  Music soothes us, stirs us up, it puts noble feelings in us, it can make us cringe; and it can melt us to tears;. and yet we have not idea how.  It is a language by itself, just as perfect in its ways as speech, as words, just as blessed”  – Charles Kingsley

When I write poetry I hear music in my head.  It can be a current song, or just snippets of songs that kind of meld together, but I hear music.  It’s like the words in each line have to conform in some way to the music in my head.  One of my “some day I’m going to do” things is to learn to play the piano.  I really want to understand the music from the heart and soul level.  I think I could be a song writer as poems seem to be a step away from lyrics. But it is one of those dreams that always plays second fiddle to whatever is currently creating the passion in my life.

Commit To Your Dreams!

I invite you to join us on April 4th for a purposeful gathering. Our intention is to create moments of life-changing conversation on how to make 2020 the year of achievement.

Chances are that what you’re struggling with, others are too. What life questions you have been asking yourself, others are asking themselves too. Get clear on what you want and how to obtain it. If your 2020 dreams and goals are already stalling, get recharged and refocused. Learn how to pivot to success. Join us for a gathering that no one will forget.

“Music touches us emotionally, where words alone can’t”  – Johnny Depp

I love movie soundtracks from my favorite movies.  Star Wars, Lord of the Rings, Star Trek – epic movies that you can watch over and over again.  The soundtracks for each of the series have some of the same themes within them from movie to movie, and they have some new music.  Lord of the Rings for example has a specific melody for when the hobbits are involved.  When I listen to the soundtracks I remember the scenes they are attached to.  Battle scenes, scenes when a beloved character is killed, scenes with love, joy, sorrow, and death.  Without even knowing a movie you can listen to the soundtrack and you know what emotion is happening on the movie.

“I love music.  For me, music is morning coffee.  It’s mood medicine.  It’s pure magic.  A good song is like a good meal – I just want to inhale it and then a share bite with someone else”  – Hoda Kotb

One of my nephews got married in Bullhead City, AZ on New Years Eve. We stayed in Laughlin, NV and then went to St George to see my Aunt. We came home Saturday the 2nd, leaving around 1:00 PM and driving back to LA was a nightmare. I foolishly thought that leaving on Saturday we would be able to escape the crawling traffic on Sunday. The six hour drive took nine hours and would have probably been more if I hadn’t cut off at Highway 58 and cut across to I-5 that way and then down to 118 and home.

“Sometimes music is the only thing that takes your mind off everything else”  – Unknown

I share this because when you are in solid bumper to bumper traffic people seem to lose any manners that they might have had. People were driving on the shoulders, driving alongside the road on the desert, they were cutting people off, honking horns and of course the hand gestures. Every once in awhile I would have to take a deep centering breath because I could feel the frustration, anger, anxiety coming into my car from the people surrounding us. Music has a way of soothing the soul when you are in these types of tense feeling situations.

“Dear Music, thanks for  always clearing my head, healing my heart, and lifting my spirits”  – Lori Deschene

The other quote I loved and considered for this post was from an unknown author, “music speaks what cannot be expressed, soothes the mind and gives it a rest, heals the heart and makes it whole, flows from heaven to the soul.” I went with Plato because of “wings to the mind” and “flight to the imagination”. I love the visuals I get with the words, wings and flight.

The beats in a song are like the heart beating. A steady comforting sound. You hear the beating of your moms heart at conception. If you put your ears against your lovers chest you will hear the beating of their heart. It is life pumping through your body and soul until the last heartbeat echo’s off in the distance, and you return to your heavenly father.

There is also a rhythm to music and to beating of the heart. There is even a genre of music called “soul music”. It is a mixture of gospel and rhythm and blues music. It draws your body to move with the music. You might start dancing or clapping your hands, you just have to participate with your body.

“Music unwraps the heart, sings out the prayer. dances the spirit, and opens the soul”  – Mary Davis

When words fail you, music can still transport you up the vibrational scale from the depths of despair back into the nirvana of the soul, where beauty, joy and happiness live. It fills in the emptiness that you feel in your soul and like a string draws the soul up towards the light.

Martin Luther called music, “the art of the prophets” and said “it is one of the most magnificent and delightful presents God has given us.” Music transcends generations of men. It lives on long after the composer has left the earthly realm. It doesn’t require to be translated like words into one’s own language but exists in all languages.

“Music washes away from the soul the dust of everyday life”  – Berthold Auerbach

It has even been said that “music is the prayer that the heart sings.” I know that there have been many times in my life that music was my only escape from the problems I was experiencing. It allowed me to regroup, put myself back together emotionally and go back into life feeling like things would be ok.

“Music was my refuge.  I could crawl into the space between the notes and curl my back to loneliness”  – Maya Angelou

Years ago when my children were young, I would put on Vivaldi’s Four Seasons and clean my house. It made the housework go so much faster and not seem like such a chore. So whatever is going on with your life, just know that there is some music to go along with it, or to transport you away from it. You can go into deep meditation or get your party started and rock out your soul!

Commit To Your Dreams!

I invite you to join us on April 4th for a purposeful gathering. Our intention is to create moments of life-changing conversation on how to make 2020 the year of achievement.

Chances are that what you’re struggling with, others are too. What life questions you have been asking yourself, others are asking themselves too. Get clear on what you want and how to obtain it. If your 2020 dreams and goals are already stalling, get recharged and refocused. Learn how to pivot to success. Join us for a gathering that no one will forget.

Take Every Chance, Drop Every Fear.

In the universe there are things that are known, and things that are unknown. In between there are doors.

Today I close the door to my past, open the door to my future, take a deep breath and step through to a new life.

  – Unknown

We actually do this every single morning.  We may not realize it most mornings.  It is only special mornings that we truly see what is happening.  The first day to a new job.  Our wedding day.  The day a divorce is final.  The day we bury someone we love.  They are all days when we truly see the door to the past shutting behind us.  And although we may only have a glimpse through this door to the future, we know that everything will be forever changed.

Your teacher can open the door, but you must enter by yourself.

  – Chinese Proverb

If we are lucky we have teachers, mentors or coaches throughout our lives.  We have them as children and if we continue to all of secondary education we have them as adults.  But there comes a time when we leave school behind us.  I am mostly self taught.  I dropped out of high school to get married.  My parents never encouraged us to go to college.  They felt that it would take us away from God.  What I did have in my favor was I was smart and I loved learning.  Since I started reading I would read several books a week.  I would alternate between books that took me to a fantasy world where I could solve the murder; or have an adventure in space; or fight the barbarians in medieval times.  And then I would read a book that would teach me something I didn’t know.  I’ve been that way my whole life.

While some wait for the doors of opportunity to open, some kick the doors down.

  – Unknown

I knew my lack of an education was perceived as a liability, so I had to kick open doors to get them to let me show them what I could do.  I also equipped myself by taking a lot of classes online and through adult education that educated me on what I needed to advance in my career.  I started out as a bookkeepers assistant and move up through accounting and then I switched over to mortgage financing.  My career was always a series of doors opening, and I would step through advancing up the ladder.  My original goal in school was to be an administrative assistant to someone important.  I went much further than that, I became someone important who had the administrative assistant. 

I discovered I had a knack for knowing what to look for in loan applications.  I could see the missing pieces in the story it told.  I could see the incongruences.  It was almost like a spot shined on them.  I got to where I could almost tell when I picked up a file that there was fraud involved or not.  I have always seen patterns and their breaks.  It is one of my gifts.

Your life is a result of the choices you make . . .  If you don’t like your life it is time to start making better choices

  – Michelle Pennel

Then after the death of my mother my whole world fell apart.  All of her lies came spilling out of the closet and I found myself in a broken world where I didn’t trust anyone, not even God.  It took me years to close the doors to the past.  Years to see that the doors to the future contained wonderful things.  Years of reading books, getting certified in Herbal Medicine, getting certified as a Reiki Practitioner, and then getting certified as a Aroma therapist.  I was looking at a second career in these fields when my nephew was murdered.  Another couple of years went by.  This time I wasn’t mad at the whole world, and I wasn’t even mad at the killer.  I was saddened by our loss, saddened that this world had lost such a special young man, who only wanted to help others have a better life.

Deep within your soul is a door that opens into a world of wonder.  Open the door and let the magic in.

  – Unknown

This time I was trying to figure out what was beyond the door to my future that had opened to me.  I knew from experience that it would require hard work, because every door requires something new and different from you.  Expanding your comfort zone.  Learning that you have so much more potential than you have ever given yourself credit for.  I knew that I would self create most of the obstacles I would find along the way, because I have seen myself do it in the past when I had a huge door open before me  But this door was different.  It wasn’t a small round hobbit sized door.  No this door was like the door to the giants house in Jack and the Beanstalk.  When I looked through this door I could barely figure out the table and chairs let alone what else it might contain.  This door was truly scary.

Follow your bliss . . . , and the universe will open doors where there were only walls.

  – Connie Hanks

I knew that LemonadeMakers was part of going through this door.  I knew that everything in my life that I had learned, experienced, literally everything I have acquired would be necessary if I walked through this door.  I had a ragged life as a child, I have had some horrible experiences as an adult.  I knew that courage would be required to use and share all of it without exception.  So I wanted to make sure before I walked through, that I wasn’t going to turn tail and run away from this opportunity.  I truly feel that Carl’s death opened this door.  I wanted to make sure that the courage and conviction that LemonadeMakers needed from me, was going to be there.  That I wasn’t going to fail it and dishonor Carl in some way.

Most people will go their whole lives and never understand this feeling.

  – Unknown

So I started writing.  Something that Kami had kept me from all of my life.  She had me convinced I didn’t know what I was doing.  That I would only embarrass myself.  I was a high school drop out – that is one of her favorite weapons, that I don’t have a college degree.  I would like to introduce Kami to all of you. She is my personal saboteur.  She knows all of my weaknesses and knows just where to put the holes in the road I am traveling on.  She has blown up train tracks and bridges.  She has created massive road blocks.  Sometimes it took me years to figure out the reasons why I had my foot on the gas and brakes at the same time.

Strive for progress, not perfection.

  – Unknown

When I look back on the very first things I did, it was more share a quote and a couple of sentences.  But I kept expanding what I was doing.  Then I learned how to work a couple of software programs to create the quotes with the photos.  I created a Facebook page.  My writing kept improving.  I discovered a new gift in finding the perfect photos and quotes to go together.  People started liking things.  They started commenting, then sharing.  Some people told me that my grammar and punctuation wasn’t all that great.  But I kept preserving.  I proofread over and over, but some mistakes still come through.  I learned to believe that it was ok if everything wouldn’t pass an English teachers red pen.  It was my thoughts I was trying to share, and I think that is what is most important.

Don’t just dream of success; create a plan and act upon it!  Your momentum creates the door upon which opportunity knocks.

  – Dr. Steve Maraboli

Myself and some of your fellow LemonadeMakers are about to go through this door.  I am hoping that many of you who have been following us for awhile will join us.  It is a huge door of opportunity.  The kind of doorway that just keeps growing wider and wider and will open wide enough for all of you.  In a week or two we will announce our first webinar for this year.  When you open doors, you will find all of your fears waiting for you – but you will also find the keys to the treasures of your heart and soul.  I can promise that it will lead you to somewhere you didn’t even know existed.  The real you!  


It is a free webinar series.  If you have been encouraged by any of my posts – If you have been moved to make a change or transform something in your life, I hope that you will attend.  We have some great groundbreaking thoughts and ideas.  Some new and deeper ways that you will be able to work with us directly in your own growth.  And some ways that you can raise your hand and walk through the door with us to help Women’s Shelters all over the United States.

This will be a  door that no one can shut on you – only you can shut this door.  I hope you will walk through this door with us, because we have some transformations to get done!

It’s Not The Mountain We Conquer, It’s Ourselves

_The biggest adventure you can ever take is to live the life of your dreams._ Oprah Winfrey

Without new experiences, something inside of us sleeps.  The sleeper must awaken.

  – Frank Herbert

It is kind of funny that when we at a certain stage of our journey on life’s path, we have a pat answer for what the life of your dreams is.  We would have the house in that certain neighborhood.  The beach house.  Or maybe we are a big dreamer and we wanted to own an island.  We would have that certain kind of convertible sports car.  The decked out pickup truck.  Maybe we would want a farm with race horses.  What ever the list has on it, it would all be summed up with material possessions.

Sometimes the dreams that come true are the dreams you never even knew you had.

  – Unknown

Then something happens.  It could be the loss of everything from a flood.  It could be that our soul partner in life dies from cancer.  It could be our son or daughter is killed by a drunk driver.  Something dreadful happens and we realize that all of those “things” are not us living the life of our dreams. 

Be that strong girl that everyone knew would make it through the worst, be that fearless girl, the one who would dare to do anything, be that independent girl who didn’t need a man; be that girl who never backed down.

  – Taylor Swift

My own story comes from the murder of my nephew.  What the wake up call did for me was to realize that the life of my dreams was to contribute in some way.  I thought I would make a small change with creating LemonadeMakers.  That might contribute towards helping society shift away from the hatred and violence.  To shift away from living in fear.  To transform their lives in helping them to wake up to the truth of their own lives.

The magic recipe for living out your boldest dreams:  A pinch of delusion, a dash of audacity and a shot of courage.

  – Kirsty Spraggon

My own recipe would be to say that there really is no big secret on how to live the life of your dreams.  You just need to breathe.  Let go.  And know that this one single moment in time, is the only thing promised.  So I thought up my own magical dream bold recipe::

Dream Ingredients are like the eggs, oil and milk in a recipe that help to bind the ingredients together. Put Imagination; Inspiration; faith In a bowl and mix well.

Active Action Ingredients are like the yeast, or baking powder that cause the mixture to rise and grow outside the comfort zone.  Put Self confidence; Implementation; Determination; Action; Perseverance; Patience into another bowl and mix well.

Magical ingredients are what create the taste and flavor that is special only to you.  Put all of your time, talents, gifts, your personal genius and your inspired passion into a bowl and mix well.

Now mix all of the ingredients together whipping with clarity where needed.  Taste and add additional seasoning as needed – shots of courage – a dash of daring – a pinch of adventure – a spoonful of risk – several spoonful’s of laughter – if it doesn’t add zest to the recipe it doesn’t belong in the recipe. 

Put the mixture into the “never stop believing” pan.

Bake until the impossible has become the reality.  Share your “Never Stop Believing Dreams” with everyone you meet.  Taste their dreams. Share your best secret ingredients.  Experiment with theirs.

 The two hardest tests on the spiritual road are the patience to wait for the right moment and the courage not to be disappointed with what we encounter.

  – Paulo Coelho

If you are a baker you know that timing is critical.  Solid even heating is important.  And sometimes even with the best ingredients, a soufflé falls flat.  Sometimes you realize halfway through the baking cycle, that you forgot some important ingredient.  Sometimes life just happens.  Just because the recipe didn’t work out as planned doesn’t mean that your dreams have forever fallen apart.  You can always bake a new cake or soufflé.  Your dream doesn’t need rescuing.  You just need to try again.  You can always bake a new reality.

Between your dreams and your reality, there is no distance.  There is no time.  Wake up to your dreams.  Live them as the reality that they are.

  – Unknown

What that meant for me personally was to wake up myself and realize that I wasn’t really living the life of my dreams.  I was just working to pay for stuff.  I realized that I could help others to wake up too.  To imagine a new story for all of us.  While the story is different for each of us, it begins the same.  Discover and uncover who you really are at the soul level.  It is a journey to remember who I was, before the world told me who I had to be.  To let that person come out and create your new story.  For me it has meant stepping out of my comfort zone again and again.  Following the vision, I am as surprised at who I have become.  I am amazed at who I am still becoming. 

So – follow your instincts.  Be curious.  Dream Big!  Love what you do.  Love learning.  Keep an OPEN HEART and a STRONG SPIRIT.  And Most of All – HAVE FUN!





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