When I look at this picture, I see a little boy with big dreams. But when he looks out over the city in the moonlight, I think that he is overwhelmed by the vastness of the city. The moon is large and full and seems to be almost overpowering.
When you have these big dreams, it is easy to look out and see that we are just a small insignificant thing that will probably have little or no impact on the world. That is when doubt starts creeping in. Then it is joined in by those parts of us that try to protect us from harm, as well as friends and family that are trying to protect us.
The voices yammer inside our head that we will look foolish. We will be laughed at as failures. Who do we think we are? Do we really think so much of ourselves that we alone have the answer to even one of life’s problems? If this idea we had was valid they whisper, then someone would have done it a long time ago.
I know that our parents want to protect us and sometimes in trying to do that they crush our dreams. Teachers may have told us that we were not smart enough or talented enough and so we give up on our dreams, and because we think that they must know – they are older and know more than we do, we follow the advice and give up.
We may have bosses that belittled our idea once when we shared it, so we closed up like a clam shell, never to speak out an idea again.
Many times our ideas scare our friends into thinking that we will outgrow them and leave them behind, so they tell us to not even try – they tell us it is too hard, you don’t have the money, influence or power to make a difference. Don’t speak up or you might get ostracized.
The voices inside/outside of us come from many directions at once and so we freeze and do nothing. I think that one of my favorite men who talked about dreams was Martin Luther King Jr. When he started I can’t imagine that he knew what a difference he was going to make in our world. He must have been overwhelmed many times by the enormity of what he wanted to do. He inspired many to stand beside him, and his legacy goes on today as we remember him and his work every year.
“Dream big and dare to fail.” Norman Vaughan Failures are not a thing to be avoided. Some big companies like Google get this and encourage failure. Failures are great teaching tools and even create shortcuts to success. Release the fear of failure, the habit of being a perfectionist. Those things are the true obstacles. “It’s the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life interesting.” Paulo Coelho
Dreams take on lives of their own when they are divinely inspired. They grow inside of us and spread out to everyone, to inspire them to join with us and help grow the dream. The dream didn’t start with us, and it will not end with us. We are like a runner in a relay baton race, getting passed the baton to continue onto the next person who will be inspired to continue running with the dream. The dream can’t be stopped, because it has a life of it’s own.
Our dreams live on, still free, still inspiring others to take up the baton in the race and be brave. Martin Luther King Jr.’s dream still lives on. He wasn’t the first person to take that baton up, and he wasn’t the last one.
Whatever dream lives inside of you, take up the baton and join in the divinely inspired race. And when it is time to pass on the baton, know that your dream will live on through those that you were able to inspire to take up the baton and continue the race.
In the world, in this moment, many are being overcome with fears. Fears of a virus that may become a pandemic. Fears of losing your elderly loved ones to this flu. Fears can be based on past experience, of knowledge of something that has happened in the past. This past fear is then projected into the immediate future of a danger that is seeking you.
Instead, Take a deep breath. Just be aware and conscious of just this single moment. This moment of inhalation or exhalation of your breath. When you just concentrate on your breathing, you see how to live outside of this kind of fear.
In this moment, you are alive, breathing. Your eyes are taking in what is around you. Your ears are hearing sounds both from near and far, You feel the softness of the material of the clothes you are wearing. Maybe the way the tag on the collar of your shirt irritates your skin. You think to yourself that you have to remember to use the scissors and cut that tag off.
If you have been outside, you might feel the rain drenched softness of the ground under your feet. The soft dirt clings to the bottom of shoes as you sink into it with each step. You smell the scent of rosemary as you walk along the path, its heady scent drifting on the breeze. The falling water almost drowns out the call of the sea gulls, as they ride the air currents high above you. You are awake and aware of the wonder of life itself.
If are in a state of fear, you won’t be aware of any of the sounds or smells of nature around you. So your choice in this moment is are you to be overcome with fear, or filled with wonder?
Think of those advertisements you might see for going to Disneyland or Disneyworld. They are filled with the young children who can’t sleep because tomorrow is the special day when they enter the world of magic. Their faces are the epitome of excitement and wonder. When was the last time, that look was on your face? The last time when you dropped the heavy burden of fears, and beheld the magic of life? This photo reflects the majesty of our world, the beauty of creation and it is how you behold the wonder of life.
Remember the movie “Dune”? The line around fear has stayed with me, Frank Herbert was a master with this thought around fear.
“I must not fear. Fear is the mind killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain” – Frank Herbert
Fear is something that you can’t run away from. Running away only puts more distance between you and the solution to your fear. The only way to deal with fear, is to face the illusions that it brings. You can only be fearless, when you learn to recognize the illusions from what is true and real.
“Fear is not in the habit of speaking truth; when perfect sincerity is expected, perfect freedom must be allowed; nor has anyone who is apt to be angry when he hears the truth, any cause to wonder that he does not hear it” – Tacitus
Isn’t that something to wonder about? This concept that you create fears for the most part out of your own illusions, that truth is something to think deeply about. Illusions usually come from thinking that there isn’t enough of something that you want. Not enough money, not enough jobs, not enough food, not enough of . . , what would happen to your fears if you could sincerely and honestly allow a moment of perfect freedom into your world? If you could truly believe that there is more than enough, and it is just waiting for you to step out of the illusion to get it?
“The components of anxiety, stress, fear and anger do not exist independently of you in the world. They simply do not exist in the physical world, even though we talk about them as it they do” – Wayne Dyer
I couldn’t find the person who wrote the “Reality of Fear”, but I loved it. It captures the illusion of fear, in that it convinces you that the lie is truth. You are scared of the dark it says, when really what you’re scared of is what you have projected into that darkness. You can’t see in that darkness, the possibilities of what might be there. A thief will rob you. A killer will murder you. Your mind freezes us with “what if’s”. And the “what if’s” are made up in your mind. The monster under the bed is actually the fears in your mind, manifesting the illusion into something appearing real.
Reality of Fear
You’re are not scared of the dark . . . you’re scared of what’s in it
You’re not afraid of heights . . . you’re afraid of falling
You’re not afraid of the people around you . . . you’re afraid of rejection
You’re not afraid of love . . . you’re afraid of not being loved
You’re not afraid to let go . . . you’re afraid to accept the reality that its gone
You’re not afraid to try again . . . you’re just afraid of getting hurt for the same reason
What if you took all of those fears and said this instead?
I will breathe,
I will think of solutions.
I will not let my worry control me.
I will not let my stress level break me.
I will simply breathe.
And it will be okay.
Because I don’t quit.
– Shayne McLendon
Dear Beautiful you,
You must not be afraid to start a new chapter . . . , Yes, new beginnings can be scary, endings can be difficult, but your life is meant to be lived and your story is still unfolding . . . , So go ahead and turn the page . . . , Your next chapter is waiting.
– Heather Stillufsen
Our stories are in a continuous unfolding. In fact, our lives are unfolding exactly as they should be.
Fear, to a great extent is born of a story we tell ourselves, and so I chose to tell myself a different story.
– Cheryl Strayed
There is always a new stretch of road ahead of us. It is up to us to continue the journey. Sometimes we pull off into rest stops. We need a break, to rest and take care of our bodies. We need to give ourselves times to breathe, to love, to reflect, to be present to what is. It is important not to get so bound up in what we are seeking, that we forget to give ourselves and those around us, a love of life itself.
Loving your life is about trusting your instinct, taking chances, and learning through experiences. It’s a long time journey through the confusion. Live consciously in the moment and enjoy your life as it unfolds.
– The Coach (RaiseYourMind.com)
We might pull off an exit that promises us a good meal and needed fuel for our vehicle. We might even take the scenic root. I think of the scenic route as being the opportunity to see where life is taking us. To see awakening opportunities around every new corner. Nothing is worse that passing the door of opportunity, only to realize that it really was “a once in a lifetime” experience.
I live north of Los Angeles and most of my siblings live up the coast in Monterey/Santa Cruz area. The fastest way to drive up and see them is to take the I-5 up to Pacheco Pass and cross over to the coast there. The drive once over the LA mountains is not very pretty. It is miles of flat land, with some areas that are farmed, but mostly just dry dirt. There is also a town where the cows are waiting to be slaughtered and you can smell it for miles and miles – it makes you want to swear off ever eating meat again. So unless I am under real time constraints I go up the 101, which runs along the coast through wine country. It is a beautiful drive. It takes a little longer, but the drive is so much nicer.
So if you were driving up the 101 through wine country, you might want to pull off and visit some wineries, watch the waves roll in from the Pacific Ocean, or take in a tourist attraction. The unfolding of your life is what you make of what happens for you. I firmly believe that life happens for me, not to me. It isn’t solid, cast in concrete. It is rather like sand, that can be molded into whatever strikes my fancy. It changes. If I don’t like the way it is looking, I can make a minor change or clear off the table and start over.
We never know where we will be at the end of our journey. We do, however, know where we are today; and from here we can mine our hope and love to set the course forward. Our attitude shifts our sails and ultimately determines not only our final destination, but more importantly, the voyage and experiences along the way.
But at some point no matter where or why you pulled off the road, you will want to get back onto the road again, because you have a destination you want to reach. No one lives at an “I-5 Rest Stop”, as the destination of their life journey. We don’t stop for fuel, and stay at the Shell Station for the rest of our lives. And while it might seem like a good idea, we don’t live at the winery, unless we are the owners or workers of the winery.
Life is not a destination; it’s a journey. It’s not a series of goals; it’s a series of steps, of events unfolding as you make your way. Life is not all about accomplishment; it’s all about doing, participating, progressing, growing, learning.
– Mike Hernacki
You trust in your higher power for guidance. You trust that wherever you are in your journey, it is where you are supposed to be. Every one of life’s lemons that you have received, had a learning contained within. It might be something that becomes evident to you, while you are within the experience. Conversely, It might take years to reveal itself.
You are here to enable the divine purpose of the universe to unfold. That is how important you are!
– Eckhart Tolle
A green walnut is really hard to crack – it takes intense force to open it, and if you are successful, the insides are not good to eat. But if you wait until it has matured, (turned brown) you can open it with a simple tap, and eat the tasty nut meat that is inside. Our experiences are sometimes like that walnut, you need to wait until it is ready to be opened in order to receive its gift.
If you find yourself driving down a dirt road of dusty flat land feeling totally disenchanted, you are the only person who can turn in a new direction. Allow grace to lead you back into being in love with life. Don’t resist. Surrender to what is, not what you are pushing to make it be. Trust in the divine to lead you back to your true destination. Trust the journey. Trust yourself to live your true life, not the shadow of one. It always, always, always come back to self love and self trust.
So trust the process of your life unfolding, and know with certainty, through the peaks and valleys of your journey, that your soul rests safe and secure in the arms of God.
– Dan Millman
The hardest thing is to really know yourself. You are kind of like one of those hidden drawers in a roll top desk. There are a lot of things to see on the desk, which is how you show up in the world. It hides all of the physical aspects of the desk. Then when you start looking at the desk itself, and open the roll top there is another layer of things to get distracted by. All of the obvious nooks and crannies and drawers.
If you really examine the desk inch by inch you discover that something seems to be a little off. Being curious you start pushing and pulling on the wood of the desk. Inch by inch your fingers keep looking for the hidden lever, until the hidden drawer suddenly pops open. You’ve found the real you. It takes concentration, patience and the ability to be curious instead of judgmental.
“Knowing others is wisdom. Knowing yourself is enlightenment” – Lao Tzu
So what does this really mean? Taking this even a step further, is accepting what you discover about yourself.
“When you know yourself, you are empowered. When you accept yourself, you are invincible” – Tina Lifford
For me, it is how as children you are taught what being successful is. You are taught to get good grades. You are taught to go for higher education for a particular type of job. Medical fields, teaching fields, computer science fields and so on. You are taught to excel in school and then go to work and excel in your chosen profession. In school I was lucky enough to have an amazing teacher who taught me to take concepts apart to truly understand what they meant. To use the How, What, Why kinds of questions to explore what it really means.
“Know who you are. Know what you want. Know what you deserve. And don’t settle for less” – Tony Gaskins
What you should do first is really understand yourself. Know what your passions are in life. What lights you up and makes you happy? Having a healthy self esteem, that really knows what your values and talents are. Most importantly, what your personal genius is. Once you have identified those, you know who you are at your core being. What makes you happy. How you can best serve others.
Then it is up to you to go out and find the profession that meets all of the criteria. Instead you have been so busy being educated, that you missed the importance of self knowledge in the equation. Instead, you have navigated or simply stumbled into a profession that is not a true calling. It’s a paycheck.
How did you choose that profession? Maybe on the advice of a favorite teacher. Maybe you were steered by your parents into what they felt was a financially rewarding career. Maybe it was for the glamour of the profession. In Hollywood many careers are based on dreams of being a Emmy awarded singer, or winning an Oscar. If it is truly your “dream job”, would you do it even if they didn’t pay you?
What did you really know about this profession before you entered it? What illusions did you have about what your profession would give back to you? How did your passion and purpose play into this profession? What about your personal genius? That thing you do that is so easy for you, that you don’t understand why everyone can’t do it? Does it fulfill your divine destiny? Clarity is powerful. Pay attention to day dreams, where your mind wanders is an important clue to what you are really seeking in life.
“Are we living our dream? Or are we living somebody else’s dream?” – Arianne Huffington
Truly knowing who you are requires a toughness of the soul. Knowing yourself in all of the ways that matter, means that you:
“You have to love yourself, because no amount of love from others is sufficient to full the yearning that your soul requires from you” – Dobinsky
The world needs you to know yourself, be yourself, love yourself and trust yourself. It is the only way to get from who you are, to who you want to be. It is the only way to figure our what you need to shift, change, release and transform to get to where you want to be. Knowing yourself isn’t easy. It is usually messy, not pretty.
It is about accepting the parts of yourself that even you are hiding from. It is stripping away the stories that you tell, that whitewash your less than stellar qualities. It is about taking down the illusions, removing the cloaks of invisibility and loving what remains. Own the place of your soul. Stand tall and take inventory. Then shift and change and transform into the best version of you. It isn’t easy, but it is priceless.
“Here’s the truth: people who get what they want tend to be the ones to make the effort to know what they want” – Martha Beck
Your personal circumstances don’t determine where you can go, they merely determine where you start.
– Nido Qubein
I think that most of us could agree that when we look out into our world today that it would be great to re-imagine the world in a better place. Many in the world are not happy with our current political situation in the world. In some places in the world, we have wars creating the worst refugee crisis ever. We have terrorist who believe that blowing up the world of others, is a way to re-imagine the world. It can be scary, it can make us angry, and it can make us depressed.
What we need is more people who specialize in the impossible.
– Theodore Roethke
On a personal level, we have personal life changes affecting us. We may have lost our job or career. Or we may have suffered the loss of a relationship or loved one through death or divorce. We may be going through a life threatening medical diagnosis. The stress of raising children, the stress of a taking care of a parent who is slowly exiting this life. So many things that we could want to re-imagine onto a blank piece of paper to make our life easier.
It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.
– Henry David Thoreau
I believe that we can all be visionaries. Visionaries see possibilities, what could be. They make new roads, armed with nothing but their own vision. Remember the “Back To The Future” movies. When Doc Brown said, “Roads? Where we are going we don’t need roads.” I think that all of us can make changes in our lives that begin with sitting down with this blank piece of paper. We can all start re-imagining our life. But in order to do that, we need to let go of what is no longer serving us. We need to wash off the dust that is on our souls.
If you create a vision for your life, doors will open.
You may hate your job. Sunday night you might not sleep well, because you know that Monday you have to go back to work. Your stomach may be tied up in knots. You may get a Monday morning migraine, every Monday morning. But the thought of looking for a different job is scary. What if you end up in a worse working situation? What if you change jobs only to be laid off from the new job?
Don’t be afraid to fail – be afraid not to try.
That happened to me years ago. I was working for GMAC in their mortgage division in Southern California. There was a smaller mortgage company where the owner was calling me all of the time to come work for him. One day I decided to say yes, because it offered me an opportunity to get a promotion. I went to work for him and as a side project I updated and revamped his existing broker guideline manual. At the same time that I finished this (about six months) the interest rates spiked up, the values of properties went down, and California had a mini meltdown in the mortgage industry. I was laid off. And no one was hiring.
In order to carry a positive action we must develop here a positive vision.
– Dalai Lama
I thought that I had made the worst job decision ever. We ended up having to relocate up to the Seattle area where I had connections in order to find a new job. We didn’t have sufficient savings to weather all of this and I hurt our credit. We relocated our children who were all in school in the middle of the year. So many little crisis’s created because of one decision. But I started with the blank piece of paper.
You’ve got to think about big things while you’re doing small things, so that all the small things go in the right direction.
– Alvin Toffler
I re-imagined my world and created something even better. I found a new job, with a higher promotion and a higher income. We fixed our credit, we bought a new home. Our children adapted, they made new friends and ran around with all of the cousins that lived in the area. What I learned in creating that manual for that old employer is what got me the wonderful new job. It was a tool that I needed for my toolbox to continue my career growth, and I don’t think that I would have been hired for that position without it.
Your purpose explains what you are doing with your life. Your vision explains how you are living your purpose. Your goals enable you to realize your vision.
– Bob Proctor
So what does that experience tell me about what is happening in our world today? It gives me hope. Because I think that many of the long standing structures and governments in our world today – the systems that we have had in place for so long, need a transformation. They are no longer working and need to be released. We need a transformation into something better. But just like what happens to us personally, the world hasn’t been listening and making the changes in an easy way. So instead we appear to be having the breakdown to breakthrough. What we need is more of us to step into being visionaries. To re-imagine what each of these systems could be. To look at all of the structures and say, “what else is possible?”
Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside awakens.
– Carl Jung
The signpost on this photo has 4 blank boards. If you sat down right now with a blank piece of paper and wrote on it four things in your life that you are not happy with, what would they be? What would you release and how would you release it?
All tears are a releasing of resistance. Every time. No exceptions.
Are you in resistance with releasing what no longer serves you? Most of us are, even when it is painful to hold on. It is what we know. Letting go without knowing what comes next, is more fearful than holding on to the thing that creates pain in our life. While I believe wholeheartedly that the journey matters more than the destination, we need a destination or all we do is wander.
The only thing worse than being blind is having eyesight but no vision.
– Helen Keller
So create four new destinations for your life. Write down what you would change if I gave you a magic wand that you could wave and make your life different. Some things may be personal for your own life. Things you want to attract, a significant other, a new dream job, a child of your own. Some things may be more universal, like ending wars or terrorism, or medical care for all, or ending poverty or global hunger.
Create the highest, grandest vision possible for your life. Because you become what you believe.
Your soul is calling to you. Your dreams are calling to you. Your destiny is trying to unfold. Take out that blank piece of paper and put something on those four blank signposts. Start your journey to a new destination. I can attest to the fact that your life will never be the same. I took up the pen and started writing these blogs as part of my journey to a new destination. You can’t imagine how much my life has changed. The journey hasn’t been smooth, but it has been wonderful just the same.
Sight is what you eyes produce. Vision is what your heart produces. Never let what you see effect your vision.
– Shandren Reddy
Visionaries don’t just believe in impossible things, they believe those impossible things must be done. To take yourself from where you are, to someplace you have never been.
You need to associate with people that inspire you, people that challenge you to rise higher, people that make you better. Don’t waste your valuable time with people that are not adding to your growth. Your destiny is too important.
– Joel Osteen
That is the importance of community. It is why I write these blogs and share the news stories that I share. You all challenge me to be a better person. Thank you for showing up and sharing your stories and your encouragement. So let’s all go raise hell, and change the world!
The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it. It’s our fear of the dark that casts our joy into the shadows.”
– Brene Brown
Anytime we feel like life is giving us too much to handle, that we can’t take one more thing, that is the time to step outside of the drama and trauma. To ask ourselves a very vital question. “What is this experience awakening within me?” We would not be going through this experience unless the divine knew it would open us up. It is up to us to figure out what we are being opened up to. Even the shadows have wisdom to share with us.
Run my dear from anything that may not strengthen your precious budding wings. Run like hell my dear, from anyone likely to put a sharp knife into the sacred tender vision of your beautiful heart.
When we come up against our secret deepest fears. This fear that is invading our body and flaying us alive. That is when it is vital that we have the courage to be willing to fall. It is in the surrender to failing, when our heart is torn and beaten, that is how we find out how far we can rise up. It is in the “let go and let God” , in the surrender to the divine will or destiny. That is when everything changes. Until then we are in a fight inside of us.
The greatest shackles we bear in this life are those forged by our own fears.
– Richard Paul Evens, “The Looking Glass”.
Facing our fears is like walking through a crowded room with all of these shadows of people. They seem to have substance, reality. They are talking, but their whispers fade away as you try to listen. They appear to be making perfect arguments, and logical deductions. Yet they are simply shadows, and they disappear as you put one foot in front of the other and simply walk through them.
Courage is more exhilarating than fear, and in the long run it is easier. We do not have to become heroes over night. Just a step at a time, meeting each thing that comes up, seeing it is not as dreadful as it appeared, discovering we have the strength to stare it down.
– Eleanor Roosevelt
They have no substance, because they are based on projections of what “might” happen. When you take the time to face them and shine a light upon them, they fade away. The truth is that your worrying about what might happen, can’t change or alter what tomorrow brings. What it does, is to make your today heart breaking. It isn’t failure that we should be afraid of. It is doing nothing and having nothing change in our lives that is truly heart breaking.
She was born wild and curious. A cage is no place for someone like that. “I play with the fire of my own truth” she told me, “I will burn for the things I love.”
– min hollow
There is a Swedish Proverb that says, “Worry often gives a small thing a big shadow”. Worry stops you from making the right choices. It stops you from being the brilliant, funny, entertaining “light up my life” person that you are meant to be. It bleeds away your courage to get up and take action. It drains you, instead of fueling your passion to get stuff done.
Ask yourself if you’re certain – do you really want it? When you’re certain, desire will transform you into a racehorse, explosive at the gate. When you’re certain, details and obstacles will noticeably shrink, and crumble away. Excuses will die, ecstatic determination will strengthen your drive, and the sheer power of intent will rattle your lands and skies. Are you truly certain? Then call it out. Claim it as yours. Do what you need to do each and every day, to let it know you’re ready, you can see it, and that you’re on your way. Now is the time. Your dream patiently awaits.
– Victoria Erickson
When you are courageous you spark the souls of others and ignite the bravery in them. That is why we love to read the stories of those who conquer their fears. It lights up the coals inside of us that are in danger of going out. It re-ignites us to push forward once more.
Don’t tell a girl with fire in her veins and hurricane bones what she should and shouldn’t do. In the blink of an eye, she will shatter that ridiculous cage you attempt to build around her beautiful bohemian spirit.
– Melody Lee
The moon calls to the tides, beckoning them to reach the shore and gently kiss the sand. To release what no longer serves, and by making space for something new that is coming in on the tides. When I am moving towards my own passion and purpose in life, my purpose in life moves towards me. Courage is the foundation on which fears can be met.
You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.
– Eleanor Roosevelt
This foundation helps us to take the risk of leaping forward, even though we don’t know where we will land. It is the foundation that helps us to be compassionate with ourselves when we have the rough landing that breaks us into pieces. It gives us the strength to put ourselves back together again, and venture forth one more time.
What matters most is how well you walk through the fire.
– Charles Bukowski
We must dare to live a life that is more than just a daily existence. To understand that sometimes in order for something new to come into existence, fire is required to crack the old hard shell of our life. We can then see the potential of who, and what we are. We can see what we can accomplish, only if we keep trying.
Becoming fearless isn’t the point. That’s impossible. It’s learning how to control your fear, and how to be free from it.
– Veronica Roth, Divergent
We all have these wonderful talents, these personal geniuses that are just waiting for us to have the courage to follow them down the trail of mastery. It is in risking the fire, stepping across the threshold into the unknown, that is when you discover your true voice.
Faith is the strength by which a shattered world, shall emerge into the light.
– Helen Keller
Bad things happen. We lose a loved one to a disease, suicide, an accident, or a murder. We get a divorce, and question if we have ever really been loved. We lose our job and our identify in one fell swoop. We loose a dream that meant everything to us. While none of these things define who we really are, it also does not define who we will become. It can still knock us down.
Bad things happen turning the world upside down, bringing us to our knees. We doubt that we will ever recover, that we will ever be truly happy again. That our laughter will ever escape in unbridled joy again.
Bad things make us feel that we will never be healed of the pain. That it will follow us around coloring the world a bleak gray. Bad things can do all of these things. It might not seem like we have any choices left to us, but it isn’t true. A bad thing happened that took someone or something from us that we loved, but It doesn’t have to take your life too.
If you don’t let it out, the grief becomes a scream trapped inside your soul, a constant cry in the dark, a sob you can never release. So scream, shout, cry, the way the sky does with thunder and lightning and rain . . . for it knows it is being cleansed, it knows that it’s storm is the only way to release the pain.
– Nikita Gill
I remember how people would come over to say goodbye when my mom was ill, and then again after my nephews murder. They didn’t really know what to say. Sometimes they meant well with cures and remedies, or advice such as “just snap out of it”. “
A thousand times we die in one life. We crumble, break and tear apart until the layers of illusion are burned away and all that is left, is the truth of who and what we really are.
– Teal Scott
Sometimes even with good intentions, what they say breaks off another piece of your spirit, as though it wasn’t already damaged enough. You may be damaged, but your will is fighting back. You are not broken.
Grief has a way of making everything that was once black and white seem like a million shades of grey. And grief upon grief upon grief, has a way of making you question if colors exist at all.
Healing begins with a choice. It will take as long as it takes. This is one thing that we should not rush through. It has been eight years since my nephew was murdered, and my sister still has bad days. We have the support of others who have suffered a similar loss. They understand what we are going through. Let these loved ones comfort you, knowing that it brings up for them additional healing from their old losses. Isn’t it funny how helping someone else to heal, can in turn help us to heal?
Listen to your own voice, you own soul, too many people listen to the noise of the world, instead of themselves.
– Leon Brown
During difficult times, turn to those who will breathe belief back into your soul. The belief that this too shall pass, and the gray world we are living in, will gradually shift back into living color. The belief that one by one we can pick up the shattered pieces of who we thought we were, and put our identity back together again.
Grief is a matter of the heart and soul. Grieve your loss, allow it in, and spend time with it. Suffering is the optional part. Love never dies, and spirit knows no loss. Keep in mind that a broken heart, is an open heart.
– Louse Hay
Spend time with those special “brothers or sisters” who will help you gather up the pieces of you that were thrown to the ground. Who will just sit with you, with a glass of wine in blessed silence and companionship. Who know how to let the silence between you, lap in and out like the waves caress the shoreline. Sharing memories, pain and laughter will be evoked. It all blends into releasing some of the darkness that is so difficult to deal with alone.
This is what a real teacher does: she opens the gates of our minds to the possibilities of the soul.
– Vironika Tugaleva
Don’t question your right to have a bright future, to live a life of happiness. Just know that the light will shine in your life again. Happiness, laughter, and hope will enter back into your heart and soul. It will not hurt forever. New possibilities are just waiting for your space to open up, to let the winds of change blow away the dust and cobwebs.
Once you realize that the road is the goal, that you are always on the road, not to reach a goal, but to enjoy its beauty and its wisdom, life ceases to be a task, and becomes natural and simple, in itself an ecstasy . . .
– Sri Nisaragadatta Maharaj
This is all a part of life’s journey. New people enter our lives, others leave our lives. And the journey continues ever onward.
May your eye go to the sun, to the wind your soul…, you are all the colors in one at full brightness.
– From All The Bright Places
Sometimes it feels like the bad guys are winning. Like there is no justice. That we have been abandoned by our friends, our family, and by God. It seems like we are burning alive and everyone just stares at us. You can see them talking to each other about the tragedy. No hero is showing up to save the day. That moment of tribulation, of complete annihilation of who we are, is a turning point. All of us go through it at some point in our lives. Some of us visit this place more than once.
I survived because the fire inside me burned brighter than the fire around me.
– Joshua Graham
I always think of the old show, “The Six Million Dollar Man”, Steven Austin. The line in the show, “we can rebuild him, better than before”. Sometimes we have to die to who we currently are, in order to be reborn as the person that we are meant to be. We can rise again. God did not abandon us.
If you’re not okay, that’s okay. It will happen sometimes. But you have to tell yourself that things will be better tomorrow. Even if they’re not better tomorrow, keep telling yourself they will be. Because eventually, tomorrow will be better.
– Sam Miller
What we discover in life and in relationships, is that we are not really in control of anything. Things will happen that we don’t want to happen. When my mom kicked our 1st stepfather out, my siblings and I were devastated. We loved him at that moment more than her. He was the one that really stepped in and took care of us. He was crying, we were crying, and my mom was standing at the door with a new stepfather asking “our dad” to leave. We had to accept that he wasn’t going to be in our lives any longer. We had to let him go, because to continue to cry and beg our mother to bring him back only created trouble for us.
She’s been through hell and came out an angel. You didn’t break her, darling. You don’t own that kind of power.
– BMM Poetry
Then there are the things that we don’t want to know, but have to learn. One of my best friends in high school had an alcoholic stepmother. Sometimes she would pass out in the bathroom and we would have to drag her into the bedroom and on to the bed. We should never have had to experience that, but we had to learn how to clean up after her or she would be horribly mean to my best friend.
Everyone can rise above their circumstances and achieve success if they are dedicated to and passionate about what they do.
– Nelson Mandela
This was a man who certainly had experience to speak from. He grew up in apartheid Africa, becoming a lawyer and speaking out against the injustices in his country. He was arrested for treason and sentenced to life in prison. He served 27 years in prison and was released in 1990. He negotiated an end to apartheid and became the first black democratically elected president of his country. He didn’t come out of prison preaching violence as a way to end the injustices of racism. He helped to create a new constitution, and emphasized reconciliation. He received a Nobel Peace Prize for his work.
There comes a time in your life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who make you laugh. Forget the bad, and focus on the good. Love the people who treat you right, pray for the ones who don’t. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is a part of life, getting back up is living.
– Jose N. Harris
Deep within you is the power to rise above any situation or struggle. Within you is the power to transform the brokenness that you are feeling into a strong foundation. Do not lose who and what you are. Move forward, not building a fortress or wall of protection, but instead building a firm foundation of a new life.
Three things you cannot recover in life: the word after its said, the moment after its missed and time after its gone. So choose your words wisely, embrace every moment you have with those you love, and never waste time arguing over things that will not matter in the last 5 minutes of your life.
The sun will continue to rise up every morning, and sunset will continue every evening.
The light may feel like it goes out, but it continues on it’s journey.
Feel the burning rage wash through you,
Watch the smoke of injustice as it incinerates your life.
Feel the winds of change, watch the storm surge roll away taking all of your beliefs with it.
Feel the death of a reputation, of knowing the taste of ashes as everything you have worked for blows away.
Now at the end of everything that you knew, that you thought was yours.
Now is when you stand at the crossroads, and choose.
Do you stay in this smoke and desolation of a past life?
Do you stand up, shake it off, and walk down a new path?
Forgiveness is the gift that we can give ourselves, because the haters can only hate by first hating themselves.
A person may break your heart and damage your pride, but never ever give them the power to break your spirit.
I Rise Up
The drum beats echo in the night,
calling my heart to wake up,
Whirlwinds suck up the ashes of my abandoned dreams,
I rise up,
Sparks catch the ashes and burst into flames,
igniting my souls dream to wake up,
Surging through the blood,
inflaming the passions of my heart, I rise up.
Dreams are the warriors of my soul,
stirring me to action, I wake up,
Like the Phoenix rising from the ashes ,
I rise up,
Dreams arise from the ashes remade,
even as I slide back into slumber, I wake up,
Rising from the ashes,
I again take flight, I rise up.
My heart rhythm matches the beats of the drum,
echoing in the heart of darkness, I wake up,
The roots imprisoning my feet stir at my souls fire,
heat rises up through my body, I rise up,
My soul breaks free of the restraints put upon it,
to slumber and sleep, I wake up
My soul rising up to take flight to the heavens,
chasing after the sun, I rise up
An eternal flame, a comet, I blaze across the heavens,
I have woke up,
The comet tail blazes across the sky,
it flares as I rise up,
Fully awake to my souls purpose,
once again I battle to fulfill it,
to wake the sleepers up,
For they too were conquered,
reduced to ashes they feel asleep, but now awakening,
WE RISE UP!
You remember what God’s destiny is for you when you are little. You have these hopes and dreams of what you will be when you grow up. Then you start school and like most of us, you lost sight of the those dreams. They got buried and forgotten. Like tumbleweeds you were blown away by the dust devils across the fields, your dreams broken and unseen.
Then something happens that knocks the wind out of you. Everything that you thought was important in your life, is shown to be fools gold. You stumbled and fell down. You grieved your loss in sackcloth and ashes. And because you are really lucky, you are remembered or are remembering what you are here to do.
So grab your pillows and shake last nights dreams loose from the feathers that you bound them up in. RISE UP. Those abandoned dreams are not truly cold and dead. They lay buried in the dream caverns, waiting for you to bring them back to life. To blow upon them the breath of life, igniting them once again into a steady flame.
“We always have the potential to rise. Rise out of our slump. Rise out of our negative thoughts. Rise out of our comfort zone. Rise out of our complaints, GET UP AND RISE…, Rising is a choice that’s one powerful thought away” – Kris Carr
What will defines you, is the RISE UP part. Everyone will fall down. You fall asleep because the going was so hard. You told yourself that you deserved to take it easy just for a little while. And so you fell asleep. It is part of the human experience. There is a spark of divinity in you still, and it is in the RISE UP part. It is how to become the person you were meant to be. The importance of this, is that the world is waiting for you and your gifts. It needs you to RISE UP, one more time and reenter the ring of life and fight the battle you were sent to fight. Something happens, these small occurrences, these coincidences. They start these sparks, that shine brightly . They will draw you in, they will stoke up those hidden fires. You will wake up.
“Coincidences are glimpses in to the creative mind of the universe” – Deepak Chopra
Each time you are reborn like the phoenix, you are just a little bit wiser from life’s experiences. You are stronger because even though you got knocked down, you got back up one more time. As long as you don’t quit, the “fat lady hasn’t sang”. It isn’t over, and you can still be a winner, fulfilling your destiny. Breathe your dreams to life, by taking one small step. Listen to the whispers of your soul. Enter the cave of your dreams and release them from their shackles of limitations, because in truth you have no limits.
“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek” – Joseph Campbell
So if you are feeling a little sore, like a semi truck ran over you, backed up, and ran over you again, remember – remember you are like the Phoenix and can rise up from the ashes. Remember that the spark is always buried in the ashes, and just needs you to blow on it to re-ignite the flames. The dream doesn’t really die. It doesn’t expire. Look inside and awaken. Undergo a radical transformation and like the Phoenix RISE UP. Listen to your heart and RISE UP. RISE UP and follow your soul to the stars and beyond.
Remember that when life throws you to the wolves, you can come back leading the pack!
Come join us on March 7th for our next monthly free webinar on how to live your life with 20/20 focus. How to face the fears that are keeping you locked out of your destiny. How to unlock your cages and use those divine gifts with purpose to not only shift and change your world, but the entire world. Come and renew yourself. Find your voice and RISE UP!
Every great dream begins with a dreamer. You have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.
– Harriet Tubman
Harriet Tubman certainly walked her talk. She escaped slavery going to the North. But she didn’t stay there. Instead she made 13 missions to rescue other slaves using the Underground Railroad. She rescued over 70 families. When the Civil War broke out she worked as a scout and spy. One of the raids that she was part of saved 700 slaves. She is such a great example of not letting anyone break her soul. She not only stood firm for her beliefs, but helped hundreds escape slavery.
You must find the place inside of yourself where nothing is impossible.
– Deepak Chopra
Harriet had dreams and trusted her intuition. There are stories of how she would lead the slaves down different paths, because her dreams told her the normal way was not safe, and she was right every time. We all have had hard times come upon us. Times when we felt hopeless and helpless, that we could not take another step. Days when we felt that the whole world was against us. Time of loss, of betrayal. A death in the family, a divorce, a loss of income and status.
People are like stained glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.
– Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
It is in these times that we have the choice of our greatest pain, becoming our greatest source of strength. In that moment of surrender, we find the spark to go on.
When you look at a person, any person, remember that everyone has a story. Everyone has gone through something that changed them.
Derek Rydell tells a story of how he was diving in a coral reef in his book “Emergence”. Not paying attention, he found himself trapped in a coral bed of fire coral. Fire coral is poisonous. Try as he might, he couldn’t see the way out. He talks about the conversation in his head. First he was pleading with God to save his life. It was lets make a deal. Then his imagination was running wild on being found dead from the poison of the coral. What his friends and relatives would say at his funeral and so on. Finally, exhausted and seeing the sand sharks swimming towards him in the coral he accepted that he was going to die. At this moment of complete surrender, no longer fighting, a huge wave came through the coral and swept him up on the only piece of coral that was safe. He was able to stand and see the only pathway safely out of the coral, and return to shore.
This was his moment of waking up. This was his moment of divine consciousness coming both from within and into him. It was his “Kairos” moment. The definition of Kairos is: the perfect, delicate, crucial moment, that fleeting rightness of time and place that creates the opportunity for action, words, or movement. In that space of complete surrender, something inside of him finally released who and what he came to earth to be. He realized his purpose, his divine mission in life. When Derek stood up on the one safe place, he was standing in God’s time. He was outside of time. For that one moment he was completely in the present moment. He wasn’t seeing his death in the future. He wasn’t full of regrets for things he did or didn’t do in his past. He was in a “Kairos moment”, a time when God takes action moment. Kairos takes you through time because you are standing outside of linear time.
Now it took time to integrate everything that came to him at that moment, but it was the moment that transformed him completely. He had to seize that moment, in order to save his life. Difficult times that challenge you are not meant to destroy you. They are meant to wake you up to your life’s purpose. It is up to us to accept it or deny it. Those who accept it, find strength in overcoming the trial. They have a clear purpose. It doesn’t mean that they find an easy life. It means that they realize why they are here, and they start learning how to accomplish it.
The most important thing in your life is not what you do; it’s who you become. That’s what you will take into eternity. You are unceasing spiritual beings with an eternal destiny on God’s great universe.
– Dallas Willard
Those who refuse to accept their destiny, choose to remain asleep in life. They become bitter, negative souls, hopeless against life’s challenges. Like the butterfly whose chrysalis gets opened from an outside source, their wings are weak and not capable of flight. It is the struggle to break out of the chrysalis that gives the butterfly wings the strength to take flight.
Do not be discouraged by the distance you still have to travel. Instead, appreciate how many “life miles” you have already covered. Your struggles have changed you into a stronger and better person. Don’t let anyone dissuade you from blooming into the person you are meant to be. Keep walking.
Discover the path that you are meant to walk. Celebrate the miles you have come and keep going. Believe in yourself, and see yourself as the wonderful inspiring person you really are becoming.
Needless to say, he helped her park her car and called a taxi for her. It is a funny story, but there is a life lesson for us in this story.
Adventures are how we grow and realize the hidden strengths that are inside each of us. Each day we have the opportunity to start a new adventure. We can go on this adventure solo, or we can have partners that join us. It can be a business adventure or a personal journey to explore who we are now and who we can grow into. The choice of destination can be a fixed point, or it can be left open for divine guidance to take us to where the most growth can happen. The trust in the first case is that we did our homework and prepared for everything possible, and are ready for the impossible to show up. In the latter case, the trust is that whatever the divine throws at us to stimulate the growth is something that we can not only handle, but conquer and be victorious over.
One’s destination is never a place, but a new way of seeing things.
– Henry Miller
Martha Beck in her book, “Finding Your Way in a Wild New World” speaks about leaps of faith. She says that the term for a collective (like herd of cows) for leopards is a “leap”. A leopard will leap up into the branches of a tree with an antelope carcass in its mouth that outweighs it. Each time the leopard leaps, it is an act of faith that it will make it up onto a branch 10 feet above it. If the leopard doesn’t make it, it could mean it’s death, as it would most likely land on its back with the weight of the antelope on top of it. Put yourself in that space and ask yourself – have you have truly ever taken such a leap of faith?
Everyone needs someone who will call and say, “get dressed, we’re going on an adventure”.
She goes on to say that each time we face an unknown, with creativity instead of grasping at known quantities, we leap. Each time we dare to think that our art (I insert here whatever your personal genius is) can sustain us financially we leap. She reflects that each time we surrender to the way things want to happen (not under our control), we leap. When was the last time that you truly surrendered to the divine guidance? That you truly followed the saying , “let go and let God”? It is the acknowledgement that we don’t have the answers. That we want to continue the adventure. That we are letting go of expectations. That we are letting go of our own brains “ideas” of how things should be. That we are letting go of the safety nets. That we are stepping out onto the tightrope,and one step at a time we are walking across,. That we are trusting our inner guidance to be the balance we need to get to the other side – whatever and wherever that is.
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What we discover when we leap, is what we are really made of. Do we shrink back at the challenges or opportunities that present themselves to us? Do we pass by the aid of angelic guides, because we think that what we see isn’t the answer we were looking for? That one is too easy, this one is too hard? Then when we find what we think is the perfect one, we get scared off by a family of bears?
The greatest challenge in life is discovering who you are. The second greatest is being happy with what you find.
Today I took a leap. trusting in the magic of my soul. Today was the day that I took a deep breath, let go of certainty, trusted my heart, and leaped into “seeing what happens next.”
Faith is not belief without proof, but trust without reservation.
– D Elton Trueblood
So today we traded in all of our fears for faith and trust without reservation in divine guidance. Those who are curious have the best adventures, just ask Alice about her adventures in Wonderland. In traveling, we think that we are losing ourselves. Leaving behind the world that we know with all of its limitations and obligations. Instead, when we travel we find ourselves. We rediscover who we are and what is important. We open ourselves to the infinite stream of possibilities and wonder. Adventure fills your soul.
Only those who will risk going to far can possibly find out how far they can go.
– T.S. Eliot
I think of Dorothy and The Wizard of Oz. She learned so much about herself with her adventures. She had her companions with her, just as I do today. I don’t know the “how” part of this decision. But I listened to my heart, which said that it is the right decision. Dorothy didn’t know the “how” of getting home, but she listened to Glenda and set out on the journey.
It is good to have an end to journey towards, but it is the journey that matters in the end.
– Ursula K. LeGuin
Glenda the Good Witch tells her at the end, “you had the power to go home from the very beginning”, so Dorothy of course asks, “why didn’t you tell me?” Because Glenda said, “you would not have believed it. You had to learn it by yourself.”
Go confidently in the direction of your dreams, live the life you have always imagined.
– Henry David Thoreau
The same is true for me, and you. Adventures is how we learn what are powers are, and what we are capable of creating together.
Faith is the daring of the soul to go further than it can see.
– (from Godfruits.com)
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