Most of us are in what Joseph Campbell calls “Sleepy Land”. We get so bound up in the day to day details of living, that we fall asleep to our purpose.
The hero’s journey always begins with the call. One way or another, a guide must come to say, “Look, you’re in Sleepy Land. Wake. Come on a trip. There is a whole aspect of your consciousness, your being, that’s not been touched. So you’re at home here? Well, there’s not enough of you there, and so it starts.
– Joseph Campbell
Then one day it happens. We notice that we are missing something. We want more. We wake up to the fact that “more” is not more money. It is not a better job. It is not a bigger house. It is not a more luxurious car. It is elusive, and we may not know what “it” is. But we begin to figure out what “it” isn’t. It is our birthright,. It is what takes our life from “normal” to “greatness”.
Heroes take journeys, confront dragons, and discover the treasure of their true selves.
– Carol Pearson
Men like Steve Jobs and Richard Branson figured out what that was for them. And while they had all of the things that people think will make them happy, it was the “more” that actually brought them to greatness. The dragons we must confront are all the lies that we told ourselves. If I rise up in the ranks at work, I will be happy. If I make six or seven figures, then I will be happy. If only I had a sports car I would be so happy. What we must discover is what “it” is.
All journeys have secret destinations of which the traveler is unaware.
– Martin Buber
They may have started out after all of the material things, but they ended up with the “more”. There is a Billy Crystal movie from years ago. It was called City Slickers. Billy Crystal’s character meets up with this cowboy who asks him if he knows the secret of life. “One thing. Just one thing. You stick to that and the rest don’t mean shit.” Billy Crystals character asks him what that one thing is, and the cowboy replies, “that’s what you have to find out.” It isn’t things and stuff. It is something more. It is something that demands more of you than you think that you have to give. And if you find it, and follow it where it leads, you will lead a life you never thought would be possible.
A hero is someone who has given his or her life to something bigger than oneself.
– Joseph Campbell
This something else is transcendence. Transcendence happens when we “reclaim the visionary, the utopian, the dream of the better or happier world” – when everything that we touch becomes a prayer.
The genuine exploration of one’s self as an individual is the greatest contribution you can make toward humanity and all life. Ironically, inner self-reliance is what makes the whole of humanity stronger.
So how do we discover what it is? We have to walk out the door of the safe comfortable space we have created for ourselves. We have to walk down that path to the unknown. We have to enter the dark forest. You have to embark on the Hero’s journey. It is how you discover the vast resources that reside within you. A hero’s journey – finding the edge of your unknown forest, and entering into the heart of darkness.
What do you find there? You explore the caves of the past and you wake up to the dreams of the future. You let go of the life of existence, of “go to work, come home, eat dinner, watch TV, go to bed and repeat over and over again”. The journey is an individual one, and each persons journey is different. We have to go within and listen to what our own truth is. Some walks you have to take alone. Otherwise your truth, your inner voice gets drowned out by others.
The hero journey is inside of you; tear off the veils and open the mystery of your self.
– Joseph Campbell
Traveling down into the depths of the abyss we recover treasures of life. We recover the dreams we let die. Se see that the stories that we have told ourselves about past hurts are not entirely true. We become excavator’s and dig up the bones of the past. We let the past blow away like dust on the winds of healing. We see that most of the problems in our life have been mirrors being held up to us. Most of the time, we were too blind or too scared to acknowledge the truth. By exploring the darkness we become enlightened.
The fatal mistake is waiting for life’s circumstances to be right before we begin. Simply begin with your heart, look deeply into it and trust what you feel. Practice knowing and you will know.
– Hugh Prather
We become curious, our mind opens up to new ideas. Changes begin as we see new worlds to explore that have lain beneath the normalcy of our past life. We see possibilities instead of complications. We wonder. We release. We transform. We heal and become whole for the first time. We have to enter the forest and break away, to walk the hero’s path.
We realize that although we were damaged, we survived and that makes us dangerous. Because we now know how to not only survive, we know how to become whole again. We become both a mentor and a teacher for ourselves.
The wound is the place where the light enters you.
Being a mentor to oneself with love, light, grace, and compassion. Being a teacher to yourself with rage, darkness, fear, and judgment. We are both. Both are required for the heroes journey. Speaking love to overcome rage,. Speaking light to overcome darkness. Speaking grace to overcome fear. Speaking compassion to overcome judgment.
I guess that’s the thing about a hero’s journey. You might not start out a hero, and you might not even come back that way. But you change, which is the same as everything changing. The journey changes you, whether or not you know it, and whether or not you want it to.
– Kami Garcia
We all have those days. The days when nothing is seeming to go the way we planned. That day when every mistake you made in the past year, shows up on your desk within 5 minutes of your sitting down. Those days when you feel that the very idea of being able to control anything in your life, is life’s great joke on you.
Life has many ways of testing a person’s will, either by having nothing happen at all, or by having everything happen at once.
– Paulo Coelho
If we could see what was being hidden in each of our lives, I think that we would be more loving to each other. There is a video that was done, where little thought bubbles come up as the camera goes down the halls and elevators in a hospital. Someone is saying goodbye to their dying father. One man was just told the tumor was benign, while another was told he has cancer. An elderly woman with oxygen has been waiting for a heart transplant for 69 days. An exhausted nurse is at the end of a 12 hour shift. “
Could a greater miracle take place, than for us to look through each other’s eyes for an instant?
– Henry David Thoreau
Those are the days when we need someone to hug us and say, “You are Good Enough. You are Capable of Handling this. You are Important. You are more than Worthy. You are LOVED. You are NOT ALONE.” These are the days that we need all of the light and love that the world can send us. What we have to remember, is that at this very moment, someone in the world is either sending us that love, or is in need of us to send that love.
May love and light always find you, and loneliness and unhappiness always be a stranger.
– Angie K.K.
It is when we are living our life from the place of passion and purpose, that we shine the brightest. Knowing that our deepest dreams can be reached. It is when we take that deep breath, and just let the emotions flow out of us, that we can reset ourselves. It is hard to be loving and empathetic when we are in survival mode. We need to give ourselves the oxygen mask, reset out emotions and then help others. Find that spark inside of us ourselves, and let it shine first for us. Then shine it for others to help them find theirs.
You have to find what sparks a light in you, so that you in your own way can illuminate the world.
Today driving into work, I was playing a CD with healing sounds. A friend of mine knew that I have been having some health issues, and thought it might help. So I purchased it and have been playing it all week. I realized that every area in my life right now is undergoing some issues. Work layoffs coming again; working on finding answers for my health issues; one of my grandsons is having a very hard time with injustice in his life, and I have been feeling a little stressed out about how everything is in a negative place right now. But writing these posts and finding the “good news” articles and videos is what keeps my feet walking down my path of transformation. It is keeping me sane. It is why I write, and why I want to share what I find with all of the other LemonadeMakers out there.
Remember . . . the entrance to the sanctuary is within you.
Then you add in everything negative happening with politics, the injustices on both sides of the police and Black Lives Matter; the terrorists attacks; the workplace and school shootings, countries at war within their own borders, or threatening to make war on other countries – it can all feel overwhelming. None of these problems have easy solutions. I think that we are all being called by the Divine to wake up. To be the love and light that the world needs to heal. We all need to heal in some way. The best way I know how to show my own love and light is right here on this page. Encourage myself and others, by shining the light on the good that happens in our world everyday. To put my hand out to each of you, and together as we join hand in hand, to shine out our love and light.
Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you with leaving happier.
– Mother Teresa
This is the year, that I become the warrior woman that I didn’t think I could be.
This is the year, that every morning begins with a cup of the grandest vision I can imagine.
This is the year that I find the gold inside of me, and don’t try to dilute it.
This is the year that instead of allowing that critical voice inside my head to stop me, I will dust off my stiletto kick ass heals and crush it.
This is the year, that I let the wild and crazy girl go free.
This is the year that no one (not even me), can put out the burning desire that rages deep inside of me.
This is the year that “I am already everything I need”, becomes more than just a saying.
This is the year, that my “will” is stronger than fears resistance.
This is the year that I will forgive myself freely, and love myself relentlessly.
This is the year that my life is a living, breathing, screaming, invitation to believe in better things, not only for myself, but for the whole world.
This is the year that God is bringing new seasons of growth into my life.
This is the year that new doors of opportunity will up-level my life to a glorious future beyond my wildest dreams.
This is the year that the way I live my life, respects and enhances the freedom of others.
This is the year that I will always speak the truth, even if no one wants to hear, or will listen to it.
This is the year that I shine like a beacon through whatever dark nights come.
This is the year that I dance with change and transformation instead of fighting it.
This is the year that passion and purpose become that favorite dress that I wear for all occasions.
This year when I feel the start of something new, I am going to pay attention and follow the directions.
We all stand at the threshold of a great adventure every day. It can be a scary place, because we all have our individual self doubts. We have to unlearn the programming that says it is selfish to put ourselves first. It is not selfish to love ourselves, to take care of ourselves, and make our own happiness a priority. As they say on every airplane takeoff, in case of emergency, put your own oxygen mask on first, then you can help others.
Every soul is beautiful and precious; is worthy of dignity and respect, and deserving of peace, joy, and love.
– Bryant McGill
You cannot change what is going on around you, until you start changing what is going on inside of you. We need to put on that oxygen mask, so we can take stock of what inside of us is not working. We need to let go of what is not ours to fix, put up with, or allow to continue happening.
We are all born with a purpose and a passion. It is up to you to seek out that purpose and find your passion.
– Billy Cox
We are fragile human beings who can be destroyed by another’s words or actions. If we are not being treated with love and respect, we need to see what value we have assigned to ourselves. The people that we surround ourselves with are a reflection of how we view ourselves. We need to get off the “reduced last chance sale rack”, and get inside the fancy glass case where the precious jewels are displayed.
You are determining the future you every day. Will the decisions you make today lead you closer to the person you want to be tomorrow?
– Brenna Smith
How many times for example has someone said, “Where to you want to go to dinner?” and your answer was that you didn’t know or didn’t care. You do know what you feel like eating, but somehow, you always say, “it doesn’t matter, what you do want?” The scriptures say something like, he who is faithful in little things, is faithful in bigger things. What it is talking about is the principle of patterns. What you do in the big things has been formed by the habits of what you do in the little things. The habit of always putting others before you, started in the smaller things, like what do you want for dinner.
Be authentic! Don’t lower your dreams to fit it with others. If people can’t celebrate your dreams, they are probably not your friends.
– Phineas Kinuthia
We may be afraid that no one will listen to us, so why speak. We may be terrified that they will laugh at our dreams and say they are unattainable. We fear being judged as unworthy, not enough. We don’t want to be all alone and so we abdicate our life away, so that we will be accepted and fit in. This is the story that we tell ourselves so that we don’t have to change.
Instead we can start making choices that feed us, energize us. We can choose to be unstoppable. To be bigger than any worries that are buzzing around us. Those buzzing worries are just scenario’s that no longer serve to build us up. Release what is no longer serving you. Open the window shooing the fly to go buzz its way outside.
Sometimes the hardest thing to do, is also the right thing to do.
The universe is always speaking to us . . . sending us little messages, causing coincidences and serendipities, reminding us to stop, to look around, to believe in something else, something more.
– Nancy Thayer
You are more than you have shown yourself to be so far. You are more than you have been willing to see. You are stronger than you know. Trust your intuition and live a courageous life.
Respect your efforts, respect yourself. Self respect leads to self discipline. When you have both firmly under your belt, that’s real power.
– Clint Eastwood
Today is the day to get up and walk down your sacred path. Choose to dwell in divine possibility. Awaken to the divine guidance that has been sending you messages. Believe in the divine plan, that you are more capable than you ever dreamed. Remember that you will never had to sacrifice your dignity for your destiny. If it feels like that is the choice, then your intuition is telling you to pass that choice by.
Be not the slave of your own past – plunge into the sublime seas, dive deep, and swim far, so you shall come back with self-respect, with new power, with an advanced experience, that shall explain and overlook the old.
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
The world needs more poets like Maya Angelou. Her writings are so inspirational.
“Nothing can dim the light which shines from within” – Maya Angelou
When you shine your light, it means that you are expressing your souls purpose in being here. You are living congruently with your souls purpose and your light shines out. Don’t you just love being around people, when they are being their authentic selves? That is true charisma and magnetism. Maya Angelou was such a soul. Desmond Tutu is another such soul.
“Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness” – Desmond Tutu
When you listen to the news each morning or evening, it is hard to see the light through all of the darkness. So much of the news is about the darkness in your community, with only the occasional story that reflects the everyday heroes among us.
“If you light a lamp for someone else, it will also brighten your path” – Buddhist Proverb
Then you all have those times when the darkness of the world has settled into your own living rooms. You lose a loved one in death; you lose your job; your family falls apart and that special person that promised to love you forever, leaves you. It could be that due to addictions, your spouse or child has turned into someone that you don’t recognize. Despite everything you try, you can’t reach them. So much darkness can spill across your threshold, like the floods during a storm, safety seems to be an unreachable, forgotten place. You may feel that no matter how many candles you light, the darkness has taken over and you can’t see your way out of it. The pain has spread from your hearts and buried your soul.
“You have to find what sparks a light in you so that you in your own way can illuminate the world” – Oprah Winfrey
This is the time when you might believe that everything is finished. That life is over for you. That it is no longer worth living. And that is when a new beginning happens. I love the analogy of photos and darkrooms. The negative is developed in the dark. Then when the chemicals have worked their magic the photo can be seen. Out of the darkness comes a beautiful picture. Something new has been created.
“If you can’t be the light, be the match. You may not be the candle to illuminate the room, but your spark can be the source of it’s light” – Unknown
For most of you, if you look backwards in your lives, you find that the most personal growth was created by the darkness that entered your life. If you can remember that, when you are going through the “dark night of the soul”, then you know that even if life is giving you bushels of lemons at the moment, something beautiful is about to be born. It is at this time that you need to remember these words:
“Give light, and the darkness will disappear of itself” – Desiderius Erasmus
In the words of another wise soul, Martin Luther King Jr start where you are.
“If you can’t fly, then run. If you can’t run, then walk. If you can’t walk, then crawl. But whatever you do, you have to keep moving forward” – Martin Luther King Jr.
You have to keep moving forward into the light. You have to find some way to keep the light of your heart alive. Martin Luther King Jr. told us that only light can drive out the darkness, and only love can drive out the hate. Your heart has both the light and the love you need contained within it, if you don’t barricade yourself from it.
“Some days you will be the light for others, and some days you will need some light from them,… As long as there is light, there is hope, and there is a way” – Jennifer Gayle
So when darkness seems to be the only thing you can see, look more closely. LemonadeMakers are all around you. We all have our heart lights shining out into the darkness, helping others to see their way out.
“Strong people don’t put others down, . . . they lift them up” – Michael P Watson
You all have your own stories of the darkness that visited with you. LemonadeMakers know your story, because we have been in your shoes. We will help you back into the light, and you in turn will help someone else. That is what the light of love is all about.
In 2013, in Oregon, teenage sisters Hanna (age 16) & Haylee (age 14) lifted a tractor to save their father pinned underneath.
In 2015, in St. John’s, Newfoundland, Nick Williams lifted a four-wheel-drive vehicle to save a young boy pinned beneath its tire.
In 2015, in Vienna, Virginia, Charlotte Heffelmire was able to momentarily use incredible strength to free her dad from a GMC pick-up truck.
“The only thing limiting us in life is our belief that there are limits” – unknown
What do these three things have in common? They are what you call miracles, extreme feats of strength. Adrenaline on overload. What they demonstrate is that the rules, boundaries and limitations don’t exist. Why? Because you can blast through them, when you don’t stop to think about it. These examples show people who did something their logical mind’s would have told them was impossible. But because someone they loved was in danger, they did the impossible.
“I don’t think people should have boundaries put on them, by themselves or society or another gender, because it is our birthright to experience life in whatever way we feel best suits us” – Hilary Swank
There was a commercial at Super Bowl XLIX for Always #LikeAGirl. In the video an adult female show them what it’s like to run like a girl, then a young female teen, and preteen female and last a little girl. The older girls ran in an unreal way that was weak and ineffective. The younger girls ran as fast as they could. The commercial highlighted the fact that most women when they hit puberty, take in limitations to what they can do and be.
“Our beliefs are just thoughts with emotions tied to them that we’ve taught ourselves to believe are true” – JV Crum III
As teenagers, in order to fit in, you started holding back on what you were capable of. 75-80% of your negative thinking patterns come from negative beliefs that you have made up about yourself. When I started school, I was four years old, turning five in November. I entered first grade, because my school didn’t have a kindergarten. So I was very small and always 1-2 years younger than everyone else in my grade. I was chosen last for any sport activity. I formed the belief that I wasn’t good at sports. Because of this belief, I never tried. To this day, I am not active in any sports. This is just a belief, and only my reality as long as I let it be.
“Beliefs have the power to create ad the power to destroy. Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that disempowers them or one that can literally save their lives” – Tony Robbins
Ernestine Shepard, is a body builder. She believes that age is nothing but a number. Because of that belief she is doing some amazing things. When she was 56 years old she decided to become a body builder. In 2010 she entered the Guinness Book of World Records as the oldest female body builder. At 83 years old she is still going strong. “I am out running/walking at 3:30 a.m. in the morning with a group of people, seven days a week,” Ernestine told the Miami Times. “I eat very healthy and eat five meals a day every day. My gym schedule consists of going five days a week and doing a variation of 100 sit-ups per day.”
She has been on Oprah and recognized throughout the world for what she is doing. She teaches an Energy Fitness Class at a gym. She has a video created by Prevention Magazine. She is an excellent example of how it is never to late to take a negative belief about yourself, and break through any self imposed limitation with a new positive belief.
“Don’t limit yourself. Many people limit themselves to what they think they can do. You can go as far as your mind lets you. What you believe, remember, you can achieve” – Mary Kay Ash
All of us continue to allow limitations to rule our lives as adults. Some limiting beliefs are conscious and some unconscious. You need to realize that it is all just an illusion, a false belief of your imagination. At one time there was a saying that if God meant for man to fly, he would have been given wings. The Wright Brothers refused to allow that limiting belief keep them from their dreams.
Your beliefs challenge you to get creative. You can choose to rise up and create what is needed to be successful. Failures come when instead of rising up, your mind creates road blocks. Your mind comes up with all of the perfectly good reasons why it can’t possibly work. Why you are “not enough” of something to make it happen. This path of limited thinking leads to failure.
“You can have anything you want, if you are willing to give up the belief that you can’t have it” – Robert Anthony
People with boundary problems have distorted attitudes about who is responsible for failures in their life.
The excuses list could go on and on. The truth is that you have built boundaries all around your excuses and painted yourself into the proverbial corner. The corner is limiting, but it feels safe. You lack the courage to step over the line and actually risk pursuing something you want. You are just plain afraid of any change in your life. It happens to everyone all the time.
“Boundaries are for those who are too afraid to take the leap” – quoted from @Business Beware
If you accept a limiting belief, it will become your truth. What walls have you built over the door of opportunity that you are ready to blast into bits? What limiting belief are you ready to let go of?
Share with us your limiting belief that you are letting go of. Your share will help all of us to do the same.
Join us for our monthly Zoom call and lets talk about what can be done to get out of the corner and take the risks that opportunity put in front of us. Let’s open that door and see what happens.
Years ago, when I was young, I had opinions on what would I do, if “such and such” happened in my life. I think that when most of us hear of an experience that someone has, we think “well if that happened to me, this is what I would do”. You might not agree with the decision that another has made, when your imagined senario happened to them. The lemons that life gives you are not supposed to paralyze you. They are not supposed to make you bitter. They are not supposed to make you give up on life. They are to help you dig down deep and discover what you are capable of.
“Who I am and what I am capable of doing has always managed to surprise me” – Jodi Picoult
When life does hand you lemons (your imagined scenario), and you are the one trying to make lemonade out of it, many times you come to a totally different decision. There are many reasons for this. Each of life’s lemons come to you wrapped up in a different series of circumstances. You could look at multiple experiences of someone losing a loved one to violence, and you would find that each instance was handled in a different way. This is because although the label may be the same “man killed by random shooting”, the circumstances in each case tell their own unique story.
“You can’t judge my choices without understanding my reasons” – Unknown
In 1995 Tariq a pizza delivery man was shot and killed by a 14 year old gang member. Initially Azim, Tariq’s father could barely function. But he came to understand that the 14 yr old boy named Tony who killed his son, was also a victim. He felt called to forgive Tony, and became friends with Tony’s grandfather and guardian. He started a foundation to help kids stop killing other kids. He began talking with kids in schools about the realities of that lifestyle and the importance of making right choices.
“From the onset, I saw victims on both ends of the gun. I will mourn Tariq’s death for the rest of my life. Now, however, my grief has been transformed into a powerful commitment to change. Change is urgently needed in a society where children kill children” – Azim, Tariq’s Father
He made lemonade out of his lemons. This foundation (http://tkf.org/) has grown into an organization of 13 full time staff members and 30 volunteers that mentor over 20,000 students each year. In the article I read, in 13 years they had touched eight million kids (the foundation is now over 24 years old). But I would bet that if you had asked him if this is the road he would take if someone killed his son, this is not the answer he would have given. His unknown road that he journeyed on revealed what kind of man he truly was. This is forgiveness in action.
“If we all did the things we are capable of, we would astound ourselves” – Thomas A. Edison
You are on a road, a journey to discover who you really are. What you are capable of becoming.
“No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path” – Buddha
Azim saved himself by walking the path of true forgiveness. He wanted to not only prevent other innocents from being killed, he wanted to save those other victims – “kids” becoming killers themselves. His difficult road has lead to a beautiful destination – saving others.
What I have learned in life, is to hope that I can emulate the grace I see in others lives, as they grapple with life’s lemons. That until I find myself in that same hard place, I don’t really know what my decision will be. I do know that there is no turning back. So each decision needs to be made in prayer and meditation, with that understanding. The challenge is not just discovering who I am, but loving what I find.
“Find out who you are and be that person. That’s what your soul was put on this earth to be. Find that truth, live that truth and everything else will come” – Ellen DeGeneres
What can you learn from the lemons in your own life?
Who you? A person of deep strength who keeps walking the path, knowing that new wonders are going to be revealed right around the next bend.
“I have always grown from my problems and challenges, from the things that don’t work out, that’s when I’ve really learned” – Carol Burnett
Our feelings and emotions can at times be overwhelming. I remember when my mom passed away, that in the evenings I would get deluged with emotions of missing her, being mad at her for dying, hurting so much that I just crawled into a ball and cried until I couldn’t breathe. There are times in your life, when your whole body is crying in such deep pain, that it takes everything you have just to take another breath. It feels as though your soul is on fire. It is hard to remember that feelings are just visitors, and we can let them visit, and then let them go back out the door they came in.
An entire sea of water can’t sink a ship, unless it gets inside the ship. Similarly, the negativity of the world can’t put you down, unless you allow it to get inside of you.
– Goi Nasu
Like a person surfing the waves, we can learn to ride these overwhelming emotions. We may crash and fall off our board, but we can choose to get right back on and ride the next wave. To me riding the wave is allowing the emotion to flow right through us, just as the wave reaches the shore and dissipates into nothing.
Life is like riding a wave. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.
– Eric Carlson
Sometimes your heart needs more time to accept what your mind already knows. I think the reason that grief or anger can get us stuck in these emotions, is because we don’t allow the emotions to flow through. They can get caught in a rip tide inside of us. We fight releasing them until we are exhausted. Sometime we struggle and we battle ourselves, denying how we are really feeling. Other time we wallow in these emotions, holding them to our hearts and refusing to let them flow. Either way they will keep pushing us to the shore and then dragging us back out to sea, until we are so exhausted, that the rough surf literally beats us into the sand.
Allowing the emotions to pass through helps us to heal from the hurt. We recover much faster, and we can begin choosing good memories to dwell on. We can progress into appreciation for the time that we had with what we have lost. The truth is that we haven’t really lost anything. People and things come into our lives, serve their purpose or reason for being there, and then move on to the next thing. The important thing is that we had them in our lives for the time they were with us.
When we have a bad memory come up, we can just ride the wave to the shore, and then consciously allow it to fade into foam and dissipate. It doesn’t have to drag us back out again. We can release the hold we have on it, and let the feeling fade away. As the last bubble of the foam pops, then it is time to let it go. Then we can consciously decide that we want to raise our vibrations up into higher levels. We can raise the vibration out from the sadness, grief, or anger. We can start attracting good feelings into our space. We always have a choice, even when we think that we don’t.
When stress and bad days hit, we are designed to reach out for the help we need. But our natural tendency is to withdraw instead. We shut down, hole up, limit ourselves to our own little worlds.
– Holley Gerth.
It is important when the bad days hit, to reach out to someone we love and let them help us.
Allow yourself to really feel, your feelings. It’s okay to bare your soul, breakdown or cry because through that breakdown comes your breakthrough.
– Rashida Rowe.
Letting those who love us help us, is practicing self care. It is reflecting back to those who love us, how much we love and trust them to be with us in our hour of need. And sometimes when those that we love say they are okay, we need to hold them tight and look them in the eyes and tell them that we know that they are not okay. And that in itself is okay, because we are going to keep holding them tight until they can breathe on their own again.
Taking a few deep belly breaths, placing our hands on our heart, and consciously reaching for something that will help us raise our awareness into something positive. I always think of the laughing baby when the dad tears the paper video or cute kittens and puppies, or a favorite song like Pharrell Williams “Happy” song. Music has the wonderful ability to speak to us, to express what is in our hearts, that we can’t express in words. As the “Happy” songs says, “happiness is the truth”.
Women who run with wolves have discovered something about themselves, that allows them to leave behind the fear that is expressed because of going outside the comfort zone. They see beauty in being able to walk alone or with the pack. Because they are unafraid they are called names. Labels like defiant, incorrigible, impossible, wild and untamed by society. They wear these labels with pride.
“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, and how you can still come out of it” – Maya Angelou
When we live with fear, we are always “Finding-Excuses-And-Reason
“We are all filled with longing for the wild. There are few culturally sanctioned antidotes for this yearning. We were taught to feel shame for such a desire. We grew our hair long and used it to hide our feelings. But the shadow of the Wild Woman still lurks beneath us during our days and nights. No matter where we are, the shadow that trots behind us is definitely four footed” – Clarissa Pinkola Estes
For women who run with wolves, we have discovered S.E.L.F. which stands for Sacred-Empowered-Liberated-Self Care
She sees herself as a Sacred being
She sees herself as an Empowered being
She sees herself as a Liberated being
She sees herself as a Fearless being.
She runs with a vast community of souls, who hold and support her. She knows as a sacred being she is never, ever, truly alone. She is honored as a wisdom keeper, an empowered being that has grounded herself into the earth. Her roots run deep into the earth and support the work she does in the world.
She knows that she is a liberated woman who came to this earth to free those who have become shackled to the stories of not being good enough, pretty enough, or worthwhile. Her purpose is to remind others of their own sacred agreements they came here to fulfill. Of the love we have for each other. To free them from their self made chains and fulfill their own purpose in being here.
She is fearless because for her the word fear is a word of high integrity, because for her it means Face-Everything-And-Rejoice. She knows that she can be grateful for each fear that is faced down and transformed into something wonderful. She is rejoicing because she is working with others out in the world to build a bridge to shift our world from the challenges we see happening today, into a place of unity, love and trust.
If you can change your definition of the word fear, you can change your world. To fearless women, I am honored to be your sister.
Below is a copy of my poem which expresses these thoughts.
The wolf howls at the moon, not out of loneliness,
As he knows he is one with the universe.
He howls out of gratitude to be a member of the pack.
He remembers those he has traveled with in past lives,
He sees those he is traveling with again.
He rejoices in his vast community of souls, knowing that he is truly never alone.
The great spirit has honored the wolf with a voice that sings out in the darkness.
He honors the great spirit by singing to us,
“Do not be afraid, for you are not alone”
“I am here, and I remember you even if you have forgotten”.
Like the wolf I sing out to you, through my words on a page I say,
“I remember you, for we have traveled together before.”
I honor you that you have come again to do the great work before us.
Call out together with me as we gather our relatives that have forgotten their purpose.
Call to their minds our sacred agreement to meet at this time and place.
Whisper to them of the great love we have for each other and their hearts will remember.
Gather around as we build the bridge of knowledge and understanding.
This bridge will unite all peoples together in love
This bridge is shifting our world into a new age of unity, love and trust.
We are one,
One love, I love us
One trust, I trust us,
I honor our sacred agreements, I am here.
Come join us on March 7th for our next monthly free webinar on how to live your life with 20/20 focus. How to face the fears that are keeping you locked out of your destiny. How to unlock your cages and use those divine gifts with purpose to not only shift and change your world, but the entire world. Come and renew yourself. Find your voice and howl at the moon!
We crash. We burn, and we get back up stronger, more resilient, and more determined than ever before. We are not victims, we are victorious.
– Garrett Paknis
With each step we add something to our life or, we release something out of our life. That is how change and transformation works. It is taking that step. That step towards our dreams. We don’t look behind us and waste our energy in feeding our fears. We just keep taking another step. Each thing that we release out of our life is something that no longer brings us joy. It no longer serves us. It might be that it is something that we have outgrown. Or it may be made up of disappointments. Something that feels like a failure or setback. We take out the lesson we needed and we release the rest. It is all the parts of the illusion that we are burning away. Those so called losses do not define who you are in reality. Only in fears illusion do they hold any power.
There is no illusion greater than fear.
– Lao Tzu
When we don’t release the illusions we can become frustrated with our life. Frustration is like damming up the river. It tries to keep flowing, but it gets stopped by the dam. At some point the water rises up to the top of the dam. Then it starts to trickle over. It isn’t yet free flowing. We start to realize that the dam is the problem. It is at this point of recognition, that we can at last redirect the energy of the river, to burn away the illusion of the dam, and begin to flow freely again to the sea. When your passion and your purpose are greater than your fears and excuses, you will find a way.
Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving; we get stronger and more resilient.
– Dr Steve Maraboli
When we can at last see through the illusion of fear, we begin to get bold enough to use our voice to speak our truth. We can be brave enough to listen to the voice of our heart, to our intuition, our souls voice. And we can be strong enough to finally live our life’s purpose with full out passion. We are willing to be vulnerable enough, to be split open and let all our insides spill out onto the table. We are strong enough to be who we really are. To fully expose the parts of us that we had hidden away from fear of being seen. The phrase “do not be afraid” is written in the bible 365 times. A daily reminder to be fearless. So start everyday with this reminder to be fearless, breathing in the faith of walking with courage and fulfilling your divine purpose..
Fear is always triggered by creativity, because creativity asks you to enter into realms of uncertain outcome, and fear hates uncertain outcome. This is nothing to be ashamed of, it is, however, something to be dealt with.
– Elizabeth Gilbert
It is not letting our dreams be deferred to “Someday Isle”. Someday I will have the time; someday I will have the money; someday when the kids are grown and through college. Instead we trace our stories to their roots. We liberate our soul to fulfill our dreams. It isn’t about “what happened to me” (see my pain and feel sorry for me), it is what we choose to do with life’s experiences. It is about look at who I have become, what I “chose” to become. What treasure we found within the experience, the hidden gem. It is about how it has exposed the better me that was hiding inside of it.
The strongest oak of the forest is not the one that is protected from the storm and hidden from the sun. It’s the one that stands in the open where it is compelled to struggle for its existence against the winds and the rains and scorching sun.
– Napoleon Hill
It is pausing as you inhale the breath. To pause listening to the question in the space of the pause. To hearing the answer with the exhalation of the breath. There in that space, is the creative spirit. It is waiting to take you by the hand. To walk the road of fulfillment of the dream. There in that space is the taste of possibilities. It is how that creativity bubbles to the top when we take the time to just breathe and listen.
We get a glimpse in that space of where we are heading. It invites us to plunge into the river and flow to the sea. To learn to dance down life’s road. Be curious, make great discoveries. Observe how the unknown can become joyful.
What’s life without a little risk?
– J.K. Rowling
Life is about taking risks. Every choice is in reality a risk. A risk of achieving something great and wonderful; a risk of failure; a risk of not doing or doing the right thing. The great secret of the phrase, “taking a risk”, is that no matter what happens, we get something wonderful. If we take a risk and it turns out just like we wanted, we are happy. If we take a risk, and it doesn’t turn out well, we still have something wonderful from the experience, we have knowledge, experience, and the combination of those two things is wisdom. We can then look at what we tried to do, remove a piece, tinker with it, add something new and try again. The only way to truly fail, is to do nothing, to risk nothing.
And then there is the most dangerous risk of all – the risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later.
– Randy Komisar
Being wise beyond our fears, means recognizing that the true directions of the heart, require no words. There is simply a knowing inside. It just feels better, when we go in the direction of the heart. When you make the decision based on the hearts guidance, you feel the weight of the decision slide off your shoulders. There is no second guessing.
To live your greatest life, you must first become a leader within yourself. Take charge of your life. Begin attracting and manifesting all that you desire in life.
– Sonia Ricotti
When you say the words out loud, that only your soul has dared to whisper to the heart, that is when miracles happen. The declaration, both verbal and written gives notice to the divine that you are listening. Listen to your dreams. That is when you open to the unexpected, and miracles happen. When your mind and heart is too filled with the worlds noise, your dreams may be the only way that your souls whisper can be heard by the heart.
Let your heart be your guide on all things, but you have to listen closely because it speaks so softly.
– John St. Augustine
Each whisper of the soul to your heart speaks of the next leg of your journey. There are times on your journey when experience and reason tell you not to follow that path. Your mind sees the risks and wants to play it safe. But you have to give it a try. I’ve always loved the play on words – when you find yourself “now here” instead of “no where” is that moment of just being. That moment of space of being fully conscious, because you have to be fully conscious to hear the whispers of your heart.
Sometimes, you find yourself in the middle of nowhere, and sometimes, in the middle of nowhere, you find yourself.
When you don’t listen to the whispers of the soul to your heart, sooner or later, that whisper turns into a scream. When the whisper has turned to screaming in desperation, it is usually a sign that your life is about to shift into some sort of test. This comes about because instead of listening to your own heart, you are playing it safe. Playing it safe, is being a diamond in the ruff. A raw diamond looks a lot like common quartz, it is cloudy looking.. But cut it perfectly and shine it up, and everyone knows it is a diamond. We all have these exceptional qualities and potential. But we are afraid to stand out from the crowd, and so we hide ourselves, even from ourselves. Everybody wants to be a diamond, but very few are willing to get cut.
Take risks in your life. If you win, you can lead. If you lose, you can guide.
– Swami Vivekananda
It is so easy to become focused on others instead of ourselves. We get pushed and pulled in all directions by our work, our friends and our families. When those that we are surrounded by see us listening to our heart, they get scared. Changes that you make in your life, will impact theirs. They are afraid of many things, but primarily that you may out grown them. That you will leave them behind.
The only difference between fear and excitement is your attitude about it.
Don’t let their fears break your soul. They may try to expose your shadows, your imperfections, the things that lurk inside of you with feelings of shame or guilt. They are just trying to stop you from listening to the heart. God has put into our hearts, an intuitive guidance system to guide us to what we need, the next step on our path. Follow that guidance. When you do, you will know it because your heart will be at peace. Even the most painful and difficult decisions are correct, if the heart is at peace with it.
Take charge of your choices. Choose to look up, when life presses you down. Choose to smile, when life frowns at you. Choose victory, over defeat.
Be wise beyond your fears ,and keep heading towards your glorious destiny. If the dream keeps reappearing in your thoughts, go for it. That is destiny calling you and it is always worth the price of admission.
What if,…. all the answers are deep within my soul, calling to me – but I am not listening?
What if,… there are no mistakes, and every experience that we have is to our benefit? What would happen to the stories that you tell yourself and others about your life, if you reframed them to your benefit? What would happen if you had never been a victim, but was instead an adventurer who was experiencing all that life has to offer? How would a reframe, shift and change your life? What if,… it was all “good”?
Adversity has the effect of eliciting talents, which in prosperous circumstances would have lain dormant.
– Horace Mann
The first thing I thought, was well some pretty bad things have happened – how can I just reframe it, to “it’s all good”? I can do it if I can construct a framework that reflects a pattern that strings each thing together, like a string of pearls. Each experience can be examined like an individual pearl. Remember how a pearl is created? It is an object that irritates the mussels, so that they begin putting a covering over the irritation, which becomes a pearl. Mussels do this as part of their defense mechanism. So what kind of covering can you put over every “bad” experience that turns it into a pearl? How freeing is it to think, that we have the ability to cover over any bad experience and make it into something priceless?
Tragedy is a tool for the living to gain wisdom, not a guide by which to live.
– Robert Kennedy
Sometimes we become so enamored with the tragedy, that we drag it around with us everywhere we go. We stand up and testify to how life has done us wrong, and just look at what has happened to us. We proudly present our wounds as though they are medals of honor. What if instead…, tragedy was a tool of destiny to liberate us from the falsehood of fate, which lets fear determine our choices.
There are treasures in pain.,,, An oyster who was not injured will never produce pearls, because the pearl is a healed wound.
– From the Facebook page of “Mulheres de alma curada
What if, … each of us has a divine blueprint written down in our soul, and now is the time to wake up and start creating the life we are meant to be living?
There is a force within which gives you life, seek that. In your body lies a priceless gem, seek that. O wandering soul, if you were to find the greatest treasure, don’t look outside. Look inside, and seek that.
What if every experience has a purpose and they are all part of the plan? Can you see a way that every pearl that you have on your long rope of pearls, is required and necessary to who you are becoming?
Most people don’t show up in their own lives. We are taught at a young age not to express opinions different than the norm. We are taught that to stick out and be different will just cause us pain and difficulties. So like the turtle, we withdraw into our shell of protection and don’t venture out. What if, … we stopped. What if,… we took off that shell or mask, and stood up as who we truly are?
What if,… the reason the world seems to be so crazy right now, is that we are not showing up as who we truly are?
So, how do we figure that out? Who are we really deep down inside?
In order to experience the truth of things, you must have a clear mind, be brutally honest with yourself, and make innocence and vulnerability continually accessible, because your perception is always changing and there will always be more to learn and understand and experience.
– Amy Larson
One of the most important discoveries I made on my journey with LemonadeMakers is that the vision I saw initially grows and expands as I do. I think that if you could see what it is really possible for you to become, you would not believe it. You would not even set out on the journey, because it would seem too impossible for you to become that person. That is why we are given small visions, that keep growing and expanding. Each time we catch up to the vision, it steps out of range, so that we have to work and grow and expand ourselves again and again.
Imagine that it is possible to discover who we really are? What our purpose is? To rekindle out passion into a bright steady flame that lights our way. To understand what transforming your life really means? To let go of all of the thoughts, judgments and stories that no longer serve us. As we listen and try to connect to who we are, we get lost. We hear the criticisms, judgments loud and clear, but we miss the compliments in our inner dialogs.
I understood myself only after I destroyed myself. And only in the process of fixing myself, did I know who I really was.
– Sade Andria Zabala
Would you be interested in discovering what you are truly capable of? Would you take the path less traveled? Would you have enough courage to undertake a journey that you know would be filled with mistakes, disappointments, as well as being a mind blowing adventure?
Would you be willing to admit that you are in fact a divine creation; an amazing world leader – that just hasn’t fully shown up yet? Would you be willing to take that first step in discovering just how much you are truly capable of being and doing?
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