Success is a journey, not a destination. The doing is often more important than the outcome – Arthur Ashe
Every year I go on several trips to seminars that are usually three – four days each. The year before Covid, they arrived all at once. One of them I was supposed to go on the previous year, but my body had other plans (back surgery) and so I was unable to attend. So, they transferred me to this event. The second one is part of the coaching plan I was on, and I wasn’t able to travel yet with the event the previous year (on restrictions from said back surgery) and the third event was an annual American Indian Retreat I do every year.
I go on these journey’s each year to recharge my batteries. To open my mind to new learning. To get away from the everyday life, so I can relax. To let in the divine the messages I am too busy to hear, when I am involved with a fulltime job at the bank as well as running my LemonadeMakers page. When I am out of my element, I see things I am missing at home. I meet new people since I go to most of these events by myself. I get to travel and see what in my life needs to change.
Your soul knows the geography of your destiny. Your soul alone has the map of your future, therefore you can trust this indirect, oblique side of yourself. If you do, it will take you where you need to go, but more important it will teach you a kindness of rhythm in your journey – John O’Donohue
So, no surprise, that with attending a four-day event (Thursday – Sunday) three weekends in a row in three different states, I woke up to some things in my life. I have always loved trees. It has always seemed to me that they talk to me. They are so relaxed and go with whatever mother nature sends their way.
They connect to other trees through the root systems and even send nutrients to other trees far away that need them. Some of the recent scientific studies show they actually create community and support each other. Every home we have purchased it was because of the trees on the property, not the houses that I fell in love with.
There is a great book to read to learn more about trees – it’s actually one of the years most recommended books. I heard about it on a pod cast.
So, imagine my surprise when I realized that lately trees haven’t been talking to me, water has.
When I was at my first event outside of Albuquerque, New Mexico at Tamaya, located on a Pueblo Indian Reservation, they had strong winds blowing. I had opened the door to my hotel room and was listening to the wind, rain and thunderstorm. When I closed my eyes and listened, I heard the sound not of the wind, but of strong waves breaking against the seashore.
When I flew into Phoenix for my next event, the winds were blowing, and I still heard the ocean in the air.
At Joshua Tree in California, I spoke to Chief Roberts and his wife Terri about how I was hearing the ocean everywhere I went. I knew water was calling but I didn’t know why.
One of our outdoor activities was to walk a labyrinth. As I walked it, I was looking down at the rocks that outlined the path. All different kinds of rocks, different minerals and crystals in them. All shapes. They spoke to me about water.
Even in my planning for where we are going to live when I retire, water has been showing up. First as I wanted to live in Northern Oregon or Southern Washington along the coast next to the ocean. Then my son sent me a property listing outside of Astoria Oregon on the John Day River for a houseboat. It was like water was saying, if you don’t want the ocean, how about living on the river? We chose the ocean and are building a new home west of Olympia, WA.
I felt like the mom in the kitchen making dinner with her three-year-old grabbing her pant leg, saying “mommy, mommy” over and over. And I kept saying, in a minute, I’m really busy right now. Water was not letting me get away. It just kept trying to get my attention.
Your journey in life is not set in stone, you can change direction – Steven Aitchison
As I traveled round and round the labyrinth I started thinking about when water had started talking to me. How had it been showing up in my life? That winter was been the wettest winter since we have been living in California – the amount of water was comparable to all the water we have gotten the last 10 years or so combined. My patio kept getting flooded over and over again.
Then I thought about how we just redid the logo and website and Facebook page design, and it has the ocean with breaking waves on it, whereas before it was the trees in the forest. Then I thought about the webinar video I created and again it was about “Catching the Perfect Wave”. Even down to my remodeling of the bathroom I had to replace all of the drainage pipes as they used cast iron when the house was built, and they were all damaged with rust and corrosion.
In a recent deep meditation class, I asked my intuition what I needed to know. I am very visual, and it showed me this vision in which I had already given birth and was now expelling the afterbirth. Childbirth has a lot to do with water – LOL.
When I looked up the meaning behind this, it validated my thoughts that I am in the middle of a big life transition. I have been told for the past 6 months that I am probably going to be laid off from work. I begn liquidating other properties we owned, paying off debt and getting everything ready for the possibility.
I think that this is why water is showing up for me, “Big changes are coming”. Everyone I was talking to at all three events were experiencing big changes in their lives. They were all in the midst of some transition in their lives.
I am taking a leap of faith in my own transition that it is time for me to devote full time to LemonadeMakers.
This is a big risk as it means I have to find a way to spend more time with LemonadeMakers. It is a big risk, because I have no idea where this journey will take me. I just know that water says I have to go.
No one knows what changes, big or small, lie ahead.
One thing is certain, our journey’s not over.
Enjoy each and every step.
So, my question for you is this – what is trying to get your attention? What are you ignoring because you are so busy doing, that you are forgetting to take the time to listen?
Realize that you are probably in the midst of a transition yourself. Be brave. Go someplace. Even if it is to simply take a walk in the woods and get away from the everyday part of your life. Ask yourself “what do I need to know for the next part of my journey?”
“Consult not your fears, but your hopes and dreams. Think not about your frustrations, but about your unfulfilled potential. Concern yourself not with what you have tried and failed in, but with what is still possible to do” – Pope John XXIII
Everyone has dreams. How many times have you said the words, “I thought of that idea, but didn’t know how to accomplish it” – or “that could have been me being rich and famous, I thought of that idea years ago”? I believe that the universe downloads great ideas to many, because most of us will never chase the dream into a reality.
When you are a dream chaser you realize that the person who you are, has just been constructed out of the myths you have told yourself since you were a child. That this person who was created out of ideas, beliefs and images – is not really who you are.
Those myths don’t define you, and they are not who you are deep inside your soul. The dream is your soul’s way of clearing out all of the things that no longer serve you. It draws out of the center of our soul, who we really are.
“Walk with the dreamers, the believers, the courageous, the cheerful, the planners, the doers, the successful people with their heads in the clouds and their feet on the ground” – Wilfred Peterson
When you decide to become a dream chaser, it changes your life forever. This is because this decision means that you have decided to become someone different than you have been. You realize that in order to bring your dream into reality, you have to become who the dream is calling you to be.
You need to serenade your dreams. Ranging from a simple love ballad to the romantic symphony. Music that reflects the intensity of your love of the dream you are chasing. You bleed the words of your soul’s poetry onto the page of your dreams. You spill out your heart’s desires, creating a flood of emotions. You float across the dance floor of your dreams, stamping your feet with the intensity of the Paso Doble. You paint out your dreams in swirls across the canvas, blending in the colors of your life as you paint it into existence. As the conductor of the orchestra, with the baton leading the intensity of the music, you create a tapestry of tones and colors across the mind.
“Dreams are valuable commodities. They propel us forward. They give us energy” – John C. Maxwell
All of this art creates the souls wishes from deep inside of you, out onto the world stage. The distance between your dream and reality is bridged by action. Small steps become long distances, when you just keep walking.
Remember the joy of the babies first step? You would hold out your hands and walk backwards one step, to encourage them to take another step. The next thing you know they are running across the room, the yard, and the world. Small steps become long distances, when you just keep walking towards the souls wishes.
What is most needed at this moment, is for all of us to let lose our passions and come alive. Come alive and go out and do what you see needs to be done. Don’t wait for someone else to solve your problems, or your neighborhoods problems or the world’s problems. Come alive and do something. Join an organization to help others; get involved in volunteering, in politics, in raising your hand and saying, “I can do that”.
Refuse to let the fears and nightmares of other people’s lives distort your dreams. Don’t apologize for having dreams. Don’t stop chasing them because others don’t want you to try to bring them into reality.
Once you’ve started chasing your dreams, your spirit won’t let you stop because your dreams excite your spirit. You develop a deep hunger that can’t be satisfied in any other way. It is your road, your dreams, your life.
Don’t follow your dreams; chase them . . . – Kunal Patel
Dreams are all about transforming. When you listen to your soul’s voice, you see your dreams play out in your imagination. Your imagination is the illustrator to the book that your soul has written out on your heart. It is up to you to read the blueprint designs and go out into the world and build them into reality.
Negative people are like termites. If you let them into your dreams, they will destroy what you are building. Don’t let them get in even a first bite. You are far too smart, to let the negativity of your own mind or that of others stand in your way.
Remember that God put that dream into your heart. He whispers to your soul what the next step is to bring it into reality. You just need to listen, believe and go out and do what you can do. God will make sure the right doors open, but you have to step through them.
What are your dreams, visions, your life purpose? Are you on track to bring them into reality and complete them? Have you allowed distractions to sidetrack you? Are you unclear on what your life purpose is or how to bring it into reality?
Shel Silverstein is one of my favorite poets. My kids all read his poems when they were little. This is one of his poems that I wanted to share, because it is now part of my life with my dad.
The Little Boy and Old Man
“Said the little boy, Sometimes I drop my spoon. Said the little old man, I do that too.
The little boy whispered, I wet my pants. I do too, laughed the old man.
Said the little boy, I often cry. The old man nodded, So do I.
But worst of all, said the boy, it seems Grown-ups don’t pay attention to me. And he felt the warmth of a wrinkled old hand. I know what you mean, said the little old man.”
Recently I crossed over from being a daughter to being a parent for my father. Some changes in your life, tear your heart into tiny pieces. 22 years ago, my mom went on to her next adventure. She passed away at 56 yrs old from cancer. I stayed with her and took care of her the last three months of her life. My aunt and my mom’s best friend stayed with me as she needed around the clock care. With them by my side, while I had hard moments, it wasn’t traumatic. I miss her so much with each new family event. My kids graduating high school. college, marriages, and of course grandchildren and now great grandchildren. She missed it all.
It was a family understanding that when my dad retired from work that he would move in with us. And because he had poor heart health, having a triple bypass, he actually retired a little early with disability and came to live with us. At first he had a motorhome that he lived in, so he could keep his independence. We had a motorhome pad, with electricity hook ups and everything. Then came the day he had to move inside, because his health was deteriorating.
Then we purchased a hospital bed because he was having problems breathing at night, with a lot of coughing and this would allow him to raise it up enough that he could comfortably sleep. Then more ups and downs. He acquired a walker because he couldn’t walk more than a few steps before he was out of breath. Then back and forth to hospitals, ER’s, tests and more tests. Changes of medication when they damaged his kidneys. Changes of medications to help his heart failures.
My dad has a phobia around hospitals. An intense fear. He refuses to go, wanting to stabilize himself with drugs at home. So that is very trying as it usually means intense discussions with both me and his cardiac specialists. The drugs have started causing kidney damage and they have to dial back the dosage. I feel horrible that he becomes defeated. He sits in his chair and watches TV all day and I know he has feelings of depression and being defeated by his body. Sometimes I feel like the worst daughter in the world, as I crossed over into being his parent. I am his advocate when he doesn’t or just can’t understand what is happening and why.
There is a moral task of caregiving, and that involves just being there, being with that person and being committed. When there is nothing that can be done, we have to be able to say, “Look, I’m with your in this experience. Right through to the end of it.
Dr. Arthur Kleinman.
Why do I do this? About 52 years ago, my dad married my mom. She had six little girls, all eighteen months apart with a set of twins. My dad has a lot of faults, like all of us. But he also has some amazing qualities. One is that when they got married, we were his daughters. Not his step-daughters. His daughters. Not once in 50 years has the word “step” exited his mouth. I think that many who read this will not understand how important that is to a child. For me, putting the word “step” before me, makes me less than his own child. I know how lucky we were that we were never step children. When my mom died, 22 years ago, we were still his daughters. No words can express this kind of love. Believe me, if you met some of my sisters, you would understand how amazing it is, that he still calls them his daughters – lol.
Of all the lessons I’ve learned through my years of caregiving, the most important is to keep the love connection going. Just tell them that you love them again and again and again. You will never say it too much, ever.
It is scary to cross this transition from daughter to parent. It was different from my mom, as I never felt I became her parent, I remained in caregiving mode. It is scary to see that in the near future, he will go on to his next great adventure, leaving all of us behind him. We are both scared right now. What happens when we let our fears get ahold of our mouths? We shout, we get angry, we say hurtful things. But it is just us being scared. Caregiving is hard, but it is also so rewarding. I can remember when I was taking care of my mom, that some of my sisters were absent because it was too hard to watch the lung cancer take away her ability to care for herself. I learned what the true meaning of words like grace, dignity, love, sacrifice really were deep under the surface of the meanings we usually give them. I am again reminded of it now everyday.
To care for those who once cared for us is one of the highest honors.
I wanted to share my story because I know that many of you are doing the same as I am. Day by day watching a loved one fade away. Sometimes with a fight and sometimes with a whimper. It is hard to watch, and harder to experience it happening to oneself. I wanted to say how while all of our experiences are different because of the people involved and other circumstances, I know how hard this is. I know how fulfilling it is one moment and utterly draining the next. But this is still a gift. A gift of grace, love, and all the other virtues.
Caregiving often calls us to lean into love we didn’t know was even possible.
You are not alone, even when it feels like it. If you feel overwhelmed, please join a caregiver group, whether online or up front and personal. It helps to share what is going on and they can help you with getting assistance when it is needed. Believe me, it is hard to find help when you don’t even know where to start and what is available. Even the strongest person can have the weakest day of their life and having access to someone who knows and understands what is happening is priceless.
Remember the power of your angels. Remember to be guided by love and take strength in the good memories, when those you care for are having a bad day and giving you waking nightmares. And remember the grace of how those things we can’t change, can change us.
When we are in a state of severe loss, of pain and grief and a darkness of the soul – that is when life is at its hardest to bear.
But if we just take a deep breath, followed by more deep breaths we can walk into the middle of the chaos. It’s messy in the middle, but in the middle we have the space to start working through the story of our loss. And as we walk through the story, we eventually reach the end.
The end is the place of new beginnings. Our life has been forever changed by our tragedy. We must remember in this space of pain, grief, and loss that the new beginning will be waiting for us.
The sun will shine. The stars will shine brightly. New people will come into our lives. We can see the light at the end of the tunnel, if we only will open once again to breathe in the love.
It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for, and if you dream of meeting your heart’s destiny – Oriah Mountain Dreamer
Orian Mountain Dreamer is one of my favorite writers. I invite you to read her books, they are small but mighty. The Invitation is what this quote is from. The poem is a wonderful deep dive into important questions that probe who we are and why.
Your words have power. When you hide how you feel, what you think, you are trying to live your life using someone else’s light. You can’t find your way home that way.
May you always be guided by the light that shines forth from within you – solitaryview
Life is always about the meaning that you give to it. If you take a lamp as the analogy, your soul is the light inside the lamp. The things that happen to you are the glass that surrounds the light. That glass doesn’t matter, it is the heart and soul – the light that matters.
You tell yourself stories about the events in your life, to give some meaning to what is happening to you. Some of you are writing horror stories, or stories that leave you drained from your fears and worries.
Others are writing stories about the gifts they have received as they travel through life. The gifts from the wonderful things that have happened to you, as well as the tragic things.
The best way to count your blessings is to look at life through a variety of lenses. To bring things into and out of focus. To look into the depths of your soul to see what the storms dredged up for you to look at. When you sift through it all, you can let go of everything that doesn’t serve you. You can realize the lessons you have been taught. You can keep growing into who you came here to be.
There is a big difference between making something happen and forcing something to happen. Forcing something to happen isn’t natural. It is like forcing yourself into something that doesn’t fit.
Have you ever laid on the bed to force your stomach to be flat so you can get your jeans buttoned and zipped up? Or forced your foot into a shoe that you loved, but doesn’t really fit? You might be able to get the jeans fastened, but it hurts your stomach when you try to sit. You might be able to walk in those shoes for a little while, but eventually you have to take off the shoes because they hurt your feet so badly. The vanity of false beliefs leaving you with blisters isn’t a good way to live.
And I know how broken you are, how heavy you feel, but still, you have to find the light in you. You have to hold on to it with care and never let it go, even if it drags you to the end of the world – r.m. drake
Making something happen is really all about taking small steps to bring into reality what you are dreaming of. It is catching the light of your soul and holding it up into the darkness, so that you can see where to go.
It is taking the voice or dancing lessons because you want to be in theater. It is taking leaps of faith when you don’t know how to do something. It is going for the brass ring as the merry go round flies around and around. It is learning a foreign language for a trip of a lifetime to a foreign land.
It is taking big, medium and small actions, not just dreaming about it. You don’t just sit there doing nothing to make it happen.
Have you ever gone somewhere new and experienced Deja vu? That feeling that what is happening at this moment, has happened before?
Have you ever learned something new, and it was just so natural and easy that you didn’t even need instructions to do it?
For me, it feels like something that I have dreamed about, is now happening in real life. That my mind already knows and sees the connections, like it was programmed into being. I think that when this happens, you need to pay attention. That you are in that moment, doing something that is important, even if your mind doesn’t understand it.
The Words I Speak Are All in Languages I Do Not Speak
And yet, when you get here, you are not given instructions. There are no diagrams about how you are meant to live each day or directions on how to assemble some semblance of happiness. You are not even told what colors to paint your feelings or given a purpose and a reason for your life. You have to make all of it up. You have to make all of it up yourself – Iain S. Thomas, from “I Wrote This for You”
No matter if you are in the first month or the last month of the year, take the time to reflect on what the year so far has been for you. To see the places where life has been a blessing. To see the places where you let your dreams fall by the wayside. Pick them back up. Dust them off. Find within them the things that you are looking for. Go beyond your means to make them come true for you. Draw down deep within the story of them and bring it into reality. Transform the pain and regrets of this year and past years into the blessings and joy of a new year.
The journey of life teaches you that growth happens when the dream is bigger and brighter than you ever thought it could be.
In the pursuit of your dream, you will illuminate your heart, capture your mind, and free your soul from the small box that you held it in.
You will discover that there are hidden maps within your soul. That there are clues and invitations to walk through doors that will open your mind up to things you never dreamed could be true. But you can only make those kinds of discoveries when you listen to your heart.
That is my wish for all of you today. That you listen to your heart; that you hear the whisper of your soul and find the dream that is so big, that you too can grow beyond who you are today and enrich the universe.
Over every mountain there is a path, although it may not be seen from the valley – Theodore Roethke
Everything you see in your life at this moment, is the result of choices you have made. The door in the photo is clearly open, but you can’t really see the steps through it or what lies beyond it. Some of the choices you have made in life, lead you in directions that you didn’t even know were there.
Sometimes behind the waterfall, there is a path into a valley that no one has discovered.
Sometimes we fall through a hole in the ground and discover a buried city.
Sometimes we have a flat tire on a desert road, with no spare tire to change it – and we find a dusty path that leads to a hidden cache of gold.
There is always a choice of following a paved road with lots of signs or walking down a dirt path. To stay safe on the paved road or taking on the risk of the unknown dirt path and seeing for yourself the genius of the universal design for your life.
Or never trying to see what is behind the waterfall in the first place (it is dangerous and you might fall down and hurt yourself); to immediately climb out of that hole you fell into without exploring it (it’s probably full of spiders, snakes, and rats) and ignoring the possibilities of discovery all around you; to stay beside that car on the hot desert road and wait for someone to rescue you (so much more sensible than striking out on your own).
So, stop being so worried about the million and one things that can go wrong. Start instead dreaming about, and getting excited about, what is around the next corner.
Whatever you chose to be the next destination, you should always aim just a little higher. If you are aiming for the lower mountain, you won’t know if you could have climbed the higher one instead.
Don’t put off the higher mountain as your goal, thinking that you need to be realistic, that you need to go in small definable steps. As the saying goes, “Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you’ll land on the stars”. Don’t be afraid to get lost. Even landing among the stars, changes you, your world, and maybe even the whole world.
No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path – Buddha
Friends, loved ones, mentors, teachers – they can all set you on what they think is the right path. Sometimes they are right, sometimes they are wrong, and sometimes they are “almost” right.
It is up to you to decide what the correct life path is for us, at this point in your life. No matter what path you take in life, no matter where you go or end up, you take a little bit of everyone you know with you.
Have you heard those voices in your head? Your parents, your favorite aunt or uncle, your grandparents, those special friends from school – those voices that make insane comments about what is taking place in front of you?
Mine are these comedian’s talking commentary during a boring office meeting (picture the old men in the balcony from “The Muppets”). My son Sam’s voice comes into play during movies, when they are doing anything military or medical, telling me they are doing it wrong.
I believe that you have at least three careers in your life, and that they can be completely different.
Once I have mastered something, I get bored. When I get bored, I know it is time to start exploring something new to learn, to have a new destination.
I am still walking my life path, the path of learning more about the world, about me, and what new sights are on the horizon. There are times that the path can be a little blurry, because I haven’t yet discovered where the path is taking me. So, I keep walking and I get curious. I know that when the path gets crystal clear, I have a new destination and new life experiences coming into focus.
You drown not by falling into a river, but by staying submerged in it – Paulo Coelho
This doesn’t mean that I am just sitting on the path waiting for it to define itself. When I sit, it is like stepping off the deep end of the river and just sinking to the bottom.
If I sit, the world tries to define me. To make me fit someone else’s mold, to do the things that they want me to do and be. Then I lose myself, sitting submerged and wondering why I can’t breathe.
I have to take the time, the effort and the work to define the path, so that each step brings the focus sharper and more defined. I have to swim back up to the surface of the river and determine which shoreline I want to step onto.
Sometimes when you are walking down the path, everything goes wrong. A forest fire races through the valley and destroys all of the vegetation. The river overflows its banks and takes out the bridge you were walking across. A 40-car pile-up in the fog totals your car.
You had expectations of where the path should be taking you, and so you were actually sleep walking down the side path. Because of your expectations, that path might have led you to the correct destination, but without the right experiences.
Have you ever seen someone famous implode right after they achieved critical acclaim for their talents? Hollywood, Politics, Musicians – we’ve all seen them reach a pinnacle of success, then drugs, alcohol, sexual exploitation – and down they tumble into scandal.
Not until we are lost do we begin to find ourselves – Henry David Thoreau
This is due to them not having strong enough roots to support their growth. Somewhere along the path to finding themselves, they didn’t get lost. They missed valuable life experiences that would have grounded their roots. That would have forced them to grow deeper and discover more about who they were.
Because they didn’t have these valuable experiences, they allowed others even with the best intentions, to rescue them from falling on their face. They covered things up. They didn’t let them experience the results of bad choices when they were small failures. So, they just kept being rescued and didn’t learn the life skills of what failure really means.
What you will discover from failure is that sometimes it is the best thing that ever happened to you.
You see new ways to do something, which would never have happened if everything went according to plan. You discover wonderful character traits that were only exposed because you felt you had no other choice than to force yourself to up your game.
My favorite movie scene is from “Facing the Giants” in the death crawl scene. The player goes all of the way down the entire length of the football field, thinking that he is only trying to make it to the 50-yard line. He couldn’t see where he was, and he was crawling with another player on his back.
At first the coach is only trying to get him to the 50-yard line, then he realizes the player has more in him than either of them knew. You are like that player, capable of so much more. It is the difficult parts of life that open up the possibilities of your tasting some of that greatness you have buried deep inside.
So, remember “to keep the mind even” – not letting doubts or over-confidence tilt us.
The world is full of magic things, patiently waiting for our senses to grow sharper – W.B. Yeats
Each day is a new adventure in walking your chosen life path. Each day you can walk it in wonder, looking to see what is going to cross your path today.
You can be curious. You can slow down and actually see what is on your right side, your left side, and directly in front of you. Don’t miss the flowers that you’ve never seen in that color or shape before. Look for the squirrels, bunnies, little lizards laying on the warm rock and enjoying the heat of the day. Rest when you are tired. Walk in the moonlight or lay back and count the stars.
This is your life path, your journey. The world is full of friends, lovers, and new brothers and sisters waiting to get to know you. The destinations are fun to get to, to master some aspect of your life. But really, life is lived on the path, during the step-by-step walking, dancing, singing, along the road to the newest destination. So don’t forget to enjoy it.
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Everyone has the perfect gift to give the world – and if each of us is freed up to give the gift that is uniquely ours to give, the world will be in total harmony – Buckminster Fuller
The journey we are all on, individually, has interesting intersections. Places where we have almost identical experiences. Places where we are on the same page at the same time. Wherever we are traveling on the map, someone has been there before us, and someone is just behind us.
We are driven by a hunger to express who we really are, and at the same time, we are like, “wait, wait, I’m not ready”. Our choices reflect our greatest dreams and our deepest fears and insecurities.
Do you remember when you went to a playground or maybe it was at school recess – the first time that you climbed up the ladder of the slide and looked way down to the bottom? It seemed so far below us and really scary.
Maybe you went right back down that ladder too scared to go down the slide.
Or maybe you went down the slide but remained in total control by gripping the sides of the slide so that you just eased yourself down to the bottom very, very slowly.
Or maybe you threw caution to the winds and went down the slide screaming at the top of your lungs and ran as fast as you could to climb back up the ladder and this time to try it backwards.
We as human beings have this amazing capacity to be reborn at breakfast every day and say, “This is a new day. Who will I be?” – Jack Kornfield
When you move forward, is it from consulting your own inner guidance, or from following the advice of others? You awaken and become conscious of your purpose in life when you stop looking outside for the answers that can only be found inside of us.
Sit in silence and listen to the soft voice of your heart. To the guidance of your soul. This divine guidance comes to us through the voice of intuition. When we start to live our life from this authentic place, our soul becomes visible.
The more you trust intuition, the more empowered you become, the stronger you become, and the happier you become – Gisele Bundchen
Do you move forward without design with “a leap of faith”, like racing down that slide in childhood. Or do you continue to walk down well-worn and well-known paths based on your need to control everything in your life? Like gripping the sides of that slide to control your slide to the bottom.
Do you get vulnerable and put yourself out there, or do you draw back into your quiet safe corner where you can’t be seen or heard? We mistakenly think that when we keep safe, that we are avoiding being hurt.
The truth is when we are not taking that leap of faith, we are suffering a far greater pain. We suffer in life, from not living our purpose. We suffer the regrets of not living a fully lived life. That leap of faith is the road to the happiness. The road to living a life well lived. Of stepping up into transforming not only ourselves, but the world we live in.
Think of people who became “obsessed” with something – Jane Goodell, Mother Teresa. Gandhi, Martin Luther King, all come to my mind. All people that when you hear their name, you think of the “thing” or purpose that gave meaning to their life. Their message comes through loud and clear. You associate their name with the message.
It isn’t only their life that was changed by their following their passion. Their life purpose actually changed the world. They have literally become a living archetype, a soul on fire.
In a world where everyone wears a mask, it’s a privilege to see a soul – Unknown
Watching a candle flame is watching the transformation of fire. It dies down and flames up over and over again. It is constantly changing – it changes directions, it changes height, it changes width – in any one second it is not the same as it was the previous second. It reacts to the slightest breeze in the room.
When we awaken, there is a fire that starts burning within our soul. We awaken to our true nature, as everything that doesn’t belong gets burned away. We start to get glimpses of what our truth is. We see the masks of conditioned behaviors and patterns that need to be removed, as they don’t serve us. Like a mirror we see reflected back to us what is holding us back. We see that the walls that our patterns built to protect us, are in fact keeping us from living to our full potential. When we see life from our soul’s perspective, we see that there are no obstacles, only guidance.
Don’t let life’s challenges harden your heart, let them empower your mind, renew your spirit and strengthen your soul – Babz
Transformation gives you the chance to rewrite the story of who you are and who you are capable of being. There are many things in our life that we give negative meanings to. But what if you gave pain the definition that it shows you that which is not right for you? This would be a positive thing to know – what doesn’t belong to me or my life. It is hard to leave something or someone behind you, to let them or it go. It is hard until you decide to do it. Then it becomes easy. It isn’t the leaving that is hard, it is the decision.
Envy is another word that has a bad rap. What if envy simply shows you things which you may wish to empower in your own life? That would be a great thing to know – things I want in my life and can empower myself to obtain. In our lives we have the habit of settling. We settle with that 10 lbs of weight that we can’t seem to lose. We settle with our job, thinking what we have is better than nothing. We settle, settle, settle, because the reality is that we don’t know what we really, really want.
I am always stuck. I am always stuck between giving people everything because I am dying to create meaningful relationships, and giving them nothing at all because then if they leave, at least I’ll be left whole.
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“In order to save myself, I must destroy first the me I was told to be” – The Dreamer
You were born a dreamer. All you have to do is watch any small child. You can see their dreams, their imaginations running wild. They create whole worlds with blankets and pillows, some Legos and Hot Wheels, Dinosaurs and some plastic green Army Men. Whatever they can get their hands on. If you give them a few tools they will cut and saw out some boards and hammer together a space ship, then put on their capes to go out to save the world from alien invaders. The horrible thing that happens to you as you grow up, is that you let go of your dreams. You became a realist and make your possibilities into a small safe comfort zones.
“There are only two kinds of people in this world. The realists and the dreamers. The realists know where they are going and the dreamers have already been there” – Robert Orben
You need to destroy your comfort zone and remember that you are a dreamer and you have unlimited potential. Your dreams were designed to custom fit your personality. If you let them, they will continue grow and expand as you do. They will follow you all of your days, growing greater and grander as you do. When Walt Disney was laying in the hospital dying, he had his newest dreams taped up on the ceiling so that he could look up at them and continue to plan their realities. As long as you continue to learn, to grow and expand, so will your dreams. Dreams are your future realities, waiting in the wings to come out on the stage of life.
“The dreamers of the day are dangerous people. For they dream their dreams with wide open eyes, and make them come true” – D.H. Lawrence
I am always amazed when I read an old science fiction book or look at some of the drawings of someone like Leonardo Da Vinci. He created on paper the bicycle, the helicopter, and an airplane. What powerful dreamers they were. At the time, they were writing about a future they could only see in their minds eye. They made up inventions that had us deep within the oceans, that had us exploring the galaxy, that had us beaming a person from the land mass of a planet, up through space and into the interior of a space ship.
“Great dreams of great dreamers are always transcended” – A.P.J. Abdul Kalam
Over time, inventors have been catching those concepts or thoughts, and they have been bringing them into reality. They invented deep sea diving suits, and submarines and special mini subs that could go even deeper. You have the ability to see the ocean floor from satellites deep in space. They took us to the moon and back. Now we go back and forth on a regular basis to a space station. I saw a news piece about how someone is building personal small helicopters that will fly themselves and be used in the near future to take us to work. While this isn’t the flying car that turns into a brief case we saw on the George Jetson cartoons, it is getting closer to a reality.
“All successful people, men and women, are big dreamers. They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision” – Brian Tracy
When you are a dreamer that puts action steps into your dreams, you discover a number of things. You discover what hard work really looks and feels like. You discover the real cost of sacrificing everything to make the dream into reality. You discover that the price isn’t as large as fear told you it would be. You discover that every time you fall down, every time it doesn’t work out like you thought it would, that every single failure, is just a way to show you a new viewpoint into what you are bringing into the worlds reality. You discover that failures are just stepping stones to greatness.
“Do not let the fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark in the hopeless swamps of the not-quite, the not-yet, and the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish in lonely frustration for the life you deserved and have never been able to reach. The world you desire can be won. It exists . . it is real . . . it is possible . . . it’s yours” – Ayn Rand
Every night you tossed and turned trying to figure out the right way, and all of the struggles you have or will go through, are in the end are the price tag of the ever expanding new you. Each and every price tag that you pay for .. . every single failure, is what is leading you to the mastery of the idea, and the fulfillment of the concept. The steps of the completion of the dream, becomes a part of the never ending journey to which we all sign up for. You gain a true understanding of the words, “it is not the destination that matters, but who we are becoming along the way”.
“Yes, I am a dreamer. For a dreamer is one who can find his way by moonlight, and his punishment is that he sees the dawn before the rest of the world” – Oscar Wilde
In order to save myself, I must destroy first the me I was told to be – The Dreamer
When you were this girls age, you had dreams about who you wanted to be when you grew up. You may already have been singing, or dancing, or wanting to be a doctor or lawyer. Between this and that statement they let you know that you should choose a less challenging career than a doctor or lawyer, because you really aren’t that smart.
Or it could be more subtle where you are being directed by your parents into the career that they want for you. That career your mom or dad wanted; or everyone in your family has this career (our family is all in the legal or medical field); or the one you want won’t be able to support you – all valid reasons by their way of thinking.
Along the way you learn to hide who you are. You learn that others will judge you or belittle you. So, you put on masks to conform to what friends and family expect – who they want you to dress like, look like, act like. You hide your dreams so that no one can destroy them any further.
You learn not to trust your heart to be in others hands. You give up on what is possible and settle for what is conforming to the needs and desires of others. You forget who you are and what you are here for. You no longer take part in the dance of life, but instead settle back against the wall and watch those with more courage or talent dance it in front of you.
Ten years from now, make sure you can say that you chose your life, you didn’t settle for it – Unknown
There is only one way to truly know who you are deep down inside. You have to get in touch with your own soul. You need to be by yourself, and sit with yourself, and just listen.
Looking back at your life, find the places where you were really happy. Find the things that are so easy for you to do, that others find hard or impossible. Trace back all of the threads that have your name engraved upon them. Start picking out and removing all of the threads that are not you. Look for the gold and silver pieces and toss out the dross.
Now look for the patterns that are left. The amazing thing is that it usually takes you back to this age. The age when you acted out who you really were, before society broke you like a young colt and told you who to be. The threads of genius that are all you, can now be taken up and made into whatever pattern you want. It is never too late to be who you were meant to be.
Sometimes when you make this journey deep into our soul, you discover that your life has to be completely shaken up.
A close friend of mine relocated from Los Angeles to Italy and she loves it. The best thing to do is to remove what doesn’t belong and then figure out how to rearrange what does. It is an individual journey that defines who you are in a totally new way. You discover your truth by looking for it down deep within and then integrating it into your life. You are on a life adventure. This journey is for you alone. Embrace it and life it fully.
The spiritual journey is individual, highly personal. It can’t be organized or regulated. It isn’t true that everyone should follow one path. Listen to your own truth – Ram Dass
There are some that will say that living your life purpose, is being selfish. That you are ignoring the wishes of others. But actually, the reverse is true.
Each one of us was given as part of our life journey a divine destiny. You were born into the place and the family that would give you the tools to accomplish this purpose. Some of those life lessons come through adversity, some come as part of the journey of rediscovering who you are really meant to be.
If you don’t take the risks, make the changes and transform your life, then your destiny will not be fulfilled. And you will not be living the life that God sent you here to live.
So, it is actually selfish to not live up to your full potential. To not find out who you are supposed to be. To not utilize your power to its full capability. To not live out loud and up front your God given destiny.
“Happiness is not something readymade. It comes from your own actions” – Dalai Lama
As an adult you might look at all the clean laundry on this bed and sigh, thinking that it all needed to be folded or hung up and put away.
But my two grandsons didn’t see a pile of work to do, they saw fun. The smiles on their faces make my heart burst with joy. Can you remember being this age and thinking that everything in and around your house was just waiting for you to figure out a way to have fun with it?
As an adult you need to get back that lens of seeing things as something ready made to make you happy.
“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do, are in harmony” – Mahatma Gandhi
One of the things that I love about watching small children, is their ability to just be themselves. They aren’t hiding who they are behind a mask, no fake smiles, no hidden agendas. If something does happen that makes them sad or mad, their emotions flow straight through them. The don’t pout in the corner waiting for someone to coax them back into a good mood. They have their moments when a tantrum hits them, then they immediately get distracted and two minutes later they are on the bed rolling in clean clothes and laughing about nothing.
They don’t have baggage that they carry around with them, that slows down their emotions. They don’t find themselves trapped in an endless loop of replaying a bad experience over and over again. They don’t let their emotions send them into an endless spiral of judgment and negativity. They don’t spend their days getting triggered by something unimportant. They don’t let a single thing cause them to spend the rest of the day in a bad mood.
“The best thing that you can do to this world is to be joyous. Being joyful, is the greatest offering you can make to the world” – Jaggi Vasadev
Have you ever been in a terrific mood, driving down the freeway as you go to work? Then someone cuts you off. You might mutter under your breath. Or maybe you yell at the driver shaking you head or hands. Or maybe you drive right up on their bumper to let them know how angry you are.
A few weeks ago, two drivers were going down the freeway, and I don’t know what started the argument, but they were taking turns cutting each other off, then they pulled their cars over and one man got out with a baseball bat. Fortunately, there was a highway patrol behind them, and he was able to stop it from escalating even further.
Why do people let someone else’s actions destroy their own good mood? Why do they feel the need to somehow get back at them for their either unthinking or aggressive driving habits?
“Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy” – Unknown
It isn’t easy to let things go as fast as they happen to you. But if you remember these two rascals and a load of clothes just out of the dryer, maybe, just maybe, you can be like a child. Feel the emotion, and let it flow out of you. Take back your self respect and don’t allow anyone to push you down the rabbit hole of negative emotions. Just walk away. Dance down the sidewalk. Laugh.
Self-Awareness allows you the space to check in within you and choose happiness. To choose not to worry. To choose the “easy button” in all aspects of living your life in joy and happiness.
When you choose to live your life from the place of gratitude it helps you to shift your energy, to bring in more of what you want in your life. As you walk down your chosen path, the journey of life brings you many things. Not all of them are meant to stay. Everything in your life currently is serving some sort of purpose. Part of the journey is figuring out why it is in your life.
What it is supposed to be teaching you, and once you know and implement that knowledge, then it is time to let it go. What an interesting thing it is to recognize that in every moment you have choices laid before you. You can choose anger and frustration, or you can let the negative emotion roll in a wave over you and past you to the shore. Watch as it draws all of the negativity back out to sea.
“We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same” – Carol Castenada
Sometimes happiness is a feeling. Sometimes it’s a decision. Don’t let stupid things break your happiness. If you really look at life, while you will have tragedy happen in your life, most of your unhappiness from day to day is your being triggered by something stupid.
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“Today I am discovering who I am. Today I am becoming my person, worthy of developing all of me. Today I am beginning to know that I am okay the way I am” – Ruth Fishel
Discovering who you are requires that you go on a journey. You can’t become who you are trying to become by remaining where you are, or what you are. This journey begins with curiosity. Asking the hard questions of ourselves. Where am I going? What am I learning from what I read, what I listen to, what I am watching on TV? What do those I associate with have me thinking about? Are the answers to these questions what I want my life to be about? It isn’t chance that helps me to become what I am seeking. It is making transformational life changes that does that.
“If we are always arriving and departing, it is also true that we are eternally anchored. One’s destination is never a place, but rather a new way of looking at things” – Henry Miller
When you start out on this journey of self discovery, you think that if you can just learn enough, take in enough knowledge that you will develop the wisdom to become the person you want to be. It is the natural first step, and you may get lost in this first step.
There is this gap. You keep stuffing it with creative ideas, and plans, and dreams – but it doesn’t seem like you are creating anything that truly bridges that gap.
I love the word GAP – because it is Gods Area of Preparation. That is why it doesn’t seem like the bridge is ever getting completed. The gap will be bridged when divine timing and actions have been completed. Don’t give up. Keeping fighting to reach the other side of the gap.
“I love the person I’ve become, because I fought to become her” – Kaci Diane
I remember the true story of an Olympic Athlete. She went to a sports camp as a child and demonstrated some talent with volleyball. The coach told her that if she worked hard, it would give her a scholarship to college. So she worked hard and when it came time, she wrote to the colleges with a good volleyball program and asked them to come see her play. She got her teachers to write letters about her and was successful in getting a full ride to college.
Her senior year in college she was watching the Olympic Games and decided to chase the dream of being in the Olympics. So again, she wrote letters to come see her play and got her professors to write letters and was successful in getting into the tryouts. She spent a week in tryouts and worked hard, and even though she felt the other players were better she made it to the team. The team lived and worked in Southern California for 4 years to the next Olympic Games.
During that time she realized that if she was going to be on the team that played in the games, she needed to tear her game down and rebuild it. Now think about this – she was good enough to get a full ride into college. In college she was All American. She tried out and was accepted on the Olympic Team. Obviously she was talented and skilled. But she knew that she could be more, so she fought to be more.
“I always did something I was a little not ready to do. I think that’s how you grow. When there’s that moment of “wow, I’m not really sure I can do this” and you push through those moments, that’s when you have a breakthrough” – Marissa Meyer
So when we are having a bad day, week, month or year – that is something to remember. Sometimes we need to tear ourselves back down to the foundations of who we are, and rebuild.
Take all of the lessons that we have learned in this life, all of the crazy experiences, hurts, blessings in disguise and know that none of it was a mistake. Find positive ways to be in the world. Make a difference, no matter how small it feels. We can be the change we want to see in our world.
“Do not confuse the word “belief” with the word “wish”. The two are not the same . . . the element of faith is the only sure power by which a wish may be translated into a belief, and a belief into a reality” – Napoleon Hill
It can be really scary, to keep going when you are in the part of change that you have to move mountains. You see the pain, the heartache, the mistakes that you are making along the way. You judge yourself, and cower in fear. You wish it would all just go away and leave you lying in the middle of the floor, just a shapeless puddle of confusion and fears.
Instead, get up. Shake off the confusion, face the fear and walk in in the power of who you really are. Remember that it isn’t what happens to you that defines you. It isn’t the mistakes you made along the way that defines you. What defines you is who you chose to become in spite of all of it. At the end of the journey, the only one who is responsible for who you become is you. You are a work in progress. Each day is a new day. A new pattern of thoughts. A new wave of emotions, A new belief that you can become whatever you wish to become.
“You’ll learn as you get older, that rules are made to be broken. Be bold enough to live life on your own terms, and never ever apologize for it. Go against the grain, refuse to conform, take the road less traveled instead of the well-beaten path. Laugh in the face of adversity, and leap before you look. Dance as though everybody is watching. March to the beat of your own drummer. And stubbornly refuse to fit it” – Mandy Hale